In this episode, Elle and Vee were inspired to chat about the alternative dating apps and websites that have worked for them in the lifestyle, including: Feeld: what’s so special about this dating app? Is it harder for men on dating apps? (2:08) Exploring desires: What kinds of people do you find on Feeld? Can you find a third, other couples, or a dom on Feeld? (8:10) How quickly should you move from the app to real life? (12:15) Safety and dating: what does Vee do to keep herself safe when dati...
May 25, 2023•51 min•Season 1Ep. 21
In this episode, Elle and Vee catch up on Elle’s trip to Florida with the Joy Fam, while Vee was at a monogamous friend’s wedding… which prompts the girls to go deep on weddings, divorce, and what it means to be settled. Elle’s sexual mishap with The Builder in Tampa, and how she moved forward from her Hedonism trigger. (1:51) Integrating lessons from podcast episodes: was Elle able to enjoy herself on marijuana? How was Vee able to work through her FOMO (fear of missing out)? How important it i...
May 18, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 20
In this episode, Elle and Vee discuss what turns them on based on Dr. Emily Morse’s (@sexwithemily) article, “These Are the 5 Arousal Styles, Which One Are You?” The girls also go super deep and share the tools they use to work through FOMO (fear of missing out) when they miss out on activities with friends, plus they share some listener responses! Dr. Emily: Arousal Styles. What’s the difference between desire and arousal? What’s your sexual arousal type? How to get aroused when you’re stressed...
May 11, 2023•54 min•Season 1Ep. 19
This week, Elle and Vee chat with their friend “Mommy” about the importance of female friendships in CNM (consensual non-monogamy), including: The importance of female friendships, and the differences between lifestyle and monogamous friendships. (1:22) How does being sexual affect your friendships - female and male? (13:01) Friends you’ve had from childhood vs friends you make in adulthood. (18:30) What do you think when you think women in the lifestyle? (20:51) “Girls’ girls” vs “guys’ girls”....
May 04, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Elle and Vee continue their conversation with Chet about how to approach women in the lifetsyle, including: Body Language: how can you figure out if someone is into you based on nonverbal signals? The importance of verbal communication. Should you ask for consent before touching someone (even non-sexually)? (1:46) Organic Connections: Chemistry, and how does an initial “no” turn into a “yes”? (12:02) Single vs partnered men: as a man, is it easier to play when a women is involved in the interact...
Apr 27, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 17
This week, Elle and Vee talk with Chet, whose journey into the non-monogamous lifestyle is unique in that he was raised in the Church of Latter Day Saints (aka he was Mormon). He talks about everything from his upbringing to the challenges of approaching women. This is part one of two, because their conversation was too juicy to cut off! From Mormonism to non-monogamy: How Chet and his wife found the lifestyle after being raised in the Mormon church. How he overcame the guilt and shame he was ta...
Apr 20, 2023•47 min•Season 1Ep. 16
In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Julia Lange, the brains behind Hedonism Swing Breakers, and the daughter of Harry Lange, the owner of Hedonism II in Jamaica! Then, they answer all your questions submitted on social media about Hedo. How did Hedonism II and Hedonism Swing Breakers come about? How did it become a family business? How nudity levels the playing field. (1:34) How can ethical non-monogamy (ENM) enrich your relationship? (8:52) All about HSB (Hedonism Swing Breakers) - How many...
Apr 10, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 15
In this episode, Elle and Vee record both during and after their week at Hedonism II Resort in Negril, Jamaica for the theme week Hedonism Swing Breakers. First, they set intentions and afterwards, they reflect on their experience - all the highlights, learning moments and dirty details, including: Hedonism: What is it like being nude in public, and how does it affect your interactions? How do you know what a couple’s boundaries and interests are? Theme nights and entertainment. (00:24) Setting ...
Apr 06, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Season 1Ep. 14
After some thought-provoking conversations with monogamous (non-lifestyle) friends, Vee and Elle discuss what the word "vanilla" actually means to them, and pose the same question to a few of their CNM (consensually non-monogamous) friends at Hedonism II in Jamaica. What does “vanilla” mean to Elle and Vee as people in the lifestyle? (2:07) What is “spicy vanilla”? (7:24) Are we meant to be monogamous? (11:49) Using "vanilla" to describe career choices. (13:58) Offending monogamous friends with ...
Mar 30, 2023•41 min•Season 1Ep. 13
This week, Elle and Vee chat with M and their friend The Builder, who are known as the "DP Duo" in their friend group. The girls ask them all the dirty details about double penetration, as well as go deep on The Builder's journey with his wife in the lifestyle. What does DP (double penetration) feel like for the guy? (1:12) How did The Builder get into the lifestyle, how has an open relationship affected his relationship to himself and to his wife? (5:32) Sex with strangers vs. friends: the conn...
Mar 22, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Season 1Ep. 12
In this episode, Elle and Vee have one of their most important conversations to date: all things vaginal health. Elle is a medical professional - a nutritional therapist and wellness coach with a Doctor of Pharmacy degree, so Vee uses this opportunity to pick her brain about how to prevent the most common of vaginal issues, including: Chronic yeast infections and BV (bacterial vaginosis): natural solutions, vaginal PH balance and probiotics. What specific probiotic strains should we look for whe...
Mar 15, 2023•53 min
This week Elle and Vee talk about how to apply the Five Love Languages to your sex life, including: What are the 5 Love Languages, and how important are they to know about your partners? (1:36) Words of Affirmation, and when to start foreplay. (9:34) Physical Touch, sensual massage and the benefits of sensory deprivation. (15:02) Quality Time, and how can you prevent the sexual rut in long term relationships and bring back new relationship energy (NRE)? (17:14) Acts of Service, and giving your p...
Mar 08, 2023•39 min•Season 1Ep. 10
In this episode, Elle and Vee record in the same room for the very first time! And they've saved a topic very close to their hearts: threesomes. For many, this is a first step into sexual exploration or opening up a relationship, so the girls reminisce about some fun threesomes, as well as compiled some of their tips and tricks for having a successful threesome, including: What are the different types of threesomes? Defining FMF, FFM, MFM... (2:05) MMF: is it GAY to have a threesome with another...
Mar 01, 2023•50 min
The girls chat with Bibi, Vee's friend in the lifestyle, about all things rejection, including: Open lifestyle and rejection: How do you reject or turn someone down in the moment at a sex party? How circumstances, headspace and how well you know the person comes into play: private play parties, organized play parties, lifestyle resorts, etc. (8:15) The do's and don'ts of rejection. Rejecting over text, ghosting, and being clear and respectful. (13:54) Vee gets rejected over text, and how to deal...
Feb 22, 2023•51 min•Season 1Ep. 8
The girls explore how weed affects their sex lives, inspired by a Vice article connecting marijuana use with more powerful orgasms. Including: Vee and Elle’s relationship with weed, the difference between edibles and smoking, and its effects on the body. (1:24) Social anxiety and weed: the girls share their experiences of the inability to connect in certain social situations and sex parties. (7:39) How weed affects sex and sexuality: how weed helps Elle get into her body, how her sexual behavior...
Feb 16, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Every November, around Thanksgiving, Elle and Vee's group of lifestyle friends (aka Joy Family) throw an annual Freaksgiving sex party weekend. After the 2022 edition, the girls debriefed their weekend, including: How to throw a great sex party! Valuing comfort: what’s on the checklist when setting up as a host? (2:42 ) The girls share their intentions, and what they learned from implementing them, including communicating your desires in the moment, and acting on your sexual feelings. (8:33 ) El...
Feb 08, 2023•37 min•Season 1Ep. 6
Guys Gone Deep is a regular series of Girls Gone Deep, in which Elle and Vee pick the brains of men in the lifestyle to get the male perspective. In this episode, the girls go deep with Elle’s husband, M, and nothing is off limits! Their conversation covers: How they got into ethical non-monogamy, learning from roadblocks, forgiving yourself, and how exploring new things with your partner builds a foundation of trust. (00:47) How the lifestyle has affected his relationship with himself and how i...
Feb 01, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 5
Vee tells Elle about her vacation with a lifestyle events company. They talk about resorts, takeovers, and what they’re like, including Temptations in Mexico and Hedonism in Jamaica. (00:38) The differences between vacations at traditional vanilla resorts, and how you meet more people on lifestyle vacations. (12:58) Setting intentions for a lifestyle vacation: Vee wanting to get more comfortable with women, channeling her inner Elle, and prioritizing play over partying. (16:20) Takeaways from pl...
Jan 25, 2023•43 min
Elle and Vee catch up in the beginning of a new year to fill each other in on their holidays and set some personal, professional, and sexual intentions for 2023. They cover everything including: Multiple orgasms: Elle reaches a new personal record, how the intensity of their orgasms change depending on substances, number of orgasms, and mental state. (00:44) New Years Intentions: the difference between resolutions and intentions. (12:22) Elle’s professional intentions to say yes to everything. (...
Jan 19, 2023•42 min•Season 1Ep. 3
Elle and Vee take another dive into non-monogamous relationships (consensual non-monogamy) and share nuggets they have learned, including answering the questions: How has practicing consensual non-monogamy allowed them to live their most authentic lives? (0:59) Is there anything they wish they could've told themselves when they first started out in the lifestyle? (12:33) What are some of the bumps and roadblocks that can arise in ENM relationships, dealing with jealousy and how Vee learned to wo...
Jan 18, 2023•46 min•Season 1Ep. 2
Elle and Vee have their weekly catchup on all things lifestyle and self-love, including: -The importance of checking in with themselves and honoring what they feel in any given moment or relationship. -What is ethical non-monogamy (aka consensual non-monogamy) and how they define it. (5:07) -How Elle and Vee discovered ENM, how they practice ENM in their partnerships, and their early experiences with it. (6:18) -What fears and uncomfortable feelings that can come up with the prospect of their pa...
Jan 18, 2023•39 min•Season 1Ep. 1
