Episode four ninety one, How marketers use the same tactics as cults with doctor Marrah Einstein.
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Welcome to the Frugal Friends podcast. My name is Jen, my name is Jill, and today we are bringing you an episode that we are so excited for. This is the most excited I have been about recording an episode in a very long time, and I'm.
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Whenever we have an opportunity to bring on a guest, particularly in kind of a unique niche very interesting area, bringing a fresh perspective but with knowledge and resources and tools that will actually really help us and making good spending decisions, then yeah, of course we're going to be super excited. And that's exactly what doctor Marra is doing today.
We've already recorded the interview, so we're now talking about the intro with the level of excitement that we know we should have because it's such a good conversation.
Yeah, and you might recognize her. You might already know her if you watch the documentary. By now, The Shopping Conspiracy on Netflix. It's a documentary about over consumption marketing and its impact on society in the planet. So if you haven't watched it, I highly recommend it go check
it out. But it does leave something to be desired at the end and in terms of what honestly it could have talked a lot more about the deceptive marketing, but also action steps on how to act upon what you're feeling now after watching it, which is what we always try to do on this show. But first, before we talk to doctor Mara, this episode is brought to
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Yeah, and hopefully you feel more and more equipped to be able to navigate these very murky waters, to be able to make those good decisions for yourself. Because even if we believe in a brand or a product that we personally talk about, it still doesn't mean that it's for everybody. And so you need to feel really confident about making those spending decisions that work for you. And this conversation with doctor Mahra is just one more thing that we can provide.
To be able to help you feel really confident in that.
Yeah.
Beyond the Netflix documentary by now, doctor Mara Einstein is an internationally recognized expert on deceptive marketing tactics. She's the author of eight books, including her latest Hoodwinked, How marketers use the same tactics I as cults, and she's after working for a decade in corporate marketing, now she has a PhD and she's in academia talking about deceptive marketing so you're gonna love this interview.
I'm so excited for you to hear it.
Let's do it, Doctor Merra, Welcome to the Frugal Friends podcast.
We are excited to have you here.
I'm so excited for this conversation. I can't wait to dig in.
This is exactly up our alley. We talk about this topic a bit in the book, but you've got so much more expertise to bring to the table.
So can we just.
Dive right in with all of the juicy goodness that we want to explore today. What do you see as the parallels between the tactics of cults and some common marketing practices.
When people talk people who work in marketing, they talk about something called the marketing funnel. And the way that the marketing funnel works is that at the top of the funnel there is very wide open, right, and that's where awareness happens.
So it's like.
Everyone in the world is out there. Marketers want to bring all of their you know, their information to people find out who will like their product, so they scream and yell about it as much as possible. So that's a very basic part of marketing. That's awareness. The second part is called consideration. So now you've heard about all of these products out in the world, and then you decide this one's for me, this one's not for me,
and so on. The third step of the process is what's actually known as conversion.
It's when you buy. When you buy.
Something, you are known as a convert. And then the last part is loyalty. And loyalty we now call marketing evangelists. So within a social media space, what has made people not just loyalists but marketing evangelists is the ability to be able to then talk about the product to you know, thousands, if not millions of people, depending upon what the size of your following is. So colts do the exact same thing that marketers do. They want to grab people in
the awareness space. Right, we're going to tell you who we are. But little catch here they use a bit of deception. Right, they don't tell you exactly who they are when they're bringing you into awareness. So a great example for this is x con, which is used to be called the Hari Krishna's Right, they used to be on the corners in New York City with the orange robes and the ponytails and the whole things. Now they
don't look like that anymore. But what they do is they invite college students and others to have a free dinner and who doesn't like a free tour or a free meditation class or a free yoga class. And then they start to bring them into the group. Right, This increases their awareness, It increases them knowing about quote unquote knowing what this organization is about. And then they bring them into community. This is a key part of this and this is what happens in terms of the consideration
set step. Is what brands and cults do is create community around people. So this is something you This is a good like bell thing for your listeners to think about. Is somebody trying to make me a part of a group before I know anything about them? Are they trying to tell me how wonderful I am before they know
anything about me? And cults and brands both use this because if what companies started to do in the early two thousands, right as a social media spaces started to grow, is they created brand communities and these were around things like Natella, of all things. And actually Natella happened because of the brand, not because of the company. You know, people who are fans of Nadella love Natella, and they created World Natella Day. It wasn't the brand, it was
the fans that did it. And so if fans do it, that's cool. It's when brands start to do it and just start to get you to integrate with them and form a community. Because what forming a community does, whether it's a brand or it's a cult, makes it harder to leave because it's not about you leaving just this brand or this group. It's about leaving all the people you made connections with, and that becomes much harder to leave.
Yeah, I've seen this a lot in the body positivity movement, where it has shifted from like being okay with yourself and loving yourself in whatever shape or however you are, to being this marketing tactic where people say like, oh, you're beautiful, you just need this, you know one product that I have. This one's skincare product, and then we
create communities around skincare. And I see it even more so like this is just in general marketing, but even more so in MLMs like which are somehow making a resurgence.
I am flabbergasted, but yeah, I you don't think about it until you hear like doctor Mary you saying like this stuff.
Well, I talk a lot about MLMs in Hoodwinked, just long sections. I spent two years researching MLMs and talking with people who are part of MLMs, who left MLMs, talking with regulators, talking with researchers. So I spent all lot of time digging into that. And one of the things that I did was I asked a cult expert and people who had been in MLMs, if you were going to do a vent diagram between an MLM and
a cult, what would it look like. And they all said it would look like a circle, because they absolutely are the same thing. Because what happens is Okay, so we're talking about the marketing funnel, so that's from the perspective of the marketer, but you're looking at it specifically in terms of cults. Let's parallel this. So the first
step in the product process is recruiting vulnerable people. And so you know, if you're talking about a cult, one of the places they love to recruit people whose college campus is in September, because you have a group of very young people who haven't established social ties who're trying to find people to connect with and so that's like talk about a rich space where you can find your market audience. That's really key for them. If you want to think about it in terms of consumers, I prefer
to call us people. Don't talk about yourself as a consumer. That's probably the first thing to think about. And you'll notice in all of my books I try to avoid the word consumer as much as possible, because if we think of ourselves as consumers, that's putting the idea into our head that that's who we are, and it's not who we are.
Yeah, the language around what you're describing is so important, and I opening to recognize that a lot of the language used within cults and marketing, even on the back end, is similar. Do you think in all of your research and studies and understanding of this that there is an awareness of this from a marketing perspective? Like how insidious do you think marketers from the marketer's perspective are from
people from a marketer's perspective? Like are they aware like we are kind of functioning like we're taking the playbook from the cults?
Yes, because when I interviewed marketers, so so, just to give people a little bit of background, so I have an MBA and a PhD. So I expected to work in this business forever. And I worked as a marketer for a decade and then I switched and became a critic. And so when I go to interview people who are in the industry, I say to them, I'm not doing
this to attack you. I'm doing this to help to I know, I'm in this privileged position to be able to understand what you do on a day to day basis, but also to take a bird's eye view to see what is going on more globally in terms of a marketing perspective. And because of that, they're willing they're willing to talk to me. So like I talked to corporate marketers from MLMs. We can talk about that late. They didn't talk on the.
Record, but they didn't talk. They did talk to me.
But I so when I interviewed them for Food Prinked, I didn't tell them the subtitle of the book, which is how marketers use the same tactics as cults, because I didn't want to frame the conversation. I wanted them to just tell me what their ideas were. And so then at the end of the interview, I would tell them what the name of the book was and they
all went, yeah, yeah, that's exactly what we do. And for some it was it was yes, it's exactly what we do, and for some it was like yeah, yeah, it is what we do.
Yike.
So some got it and some were like yeah.
I guess so now that you say it that way, wow.
Wow, because what's happening right, So, so going back to this idea of getting people when they're vulnerable, I mean, advertising has done that since the beginning of time.
That's not new. And so you know.
So to your point, Jen, what you were talking about in terms of health and wellness, Right, you're not pretty enough, you're not fit enough, you're not thin enough.
Right, use our products.
So this problem solution advertising has always been the most successful kind of advertising out there, and it plays on our psychology.
And so what used to exist is this.
Sort of propagandistic idea of advertising, which is you just throw the message out there, you say it over and over and over and over again, and people will start to believe it. And this is what existed in the nineteen fifties when mass media and mass marketing first began
to come onto the scene. So what you had at that time was something called the unique selling proposition or the USP, and that's what companies would say over and over and over again, so melts in your mouth, not in your hand, right, so that people would begin to
believe it. But what happened in the nineteen sixties and going into the seventies and beyond one what you had is the introduction of psychologists and psychiatrists into advertising and marketing, so they could begin to think of the psychology of how to sell and understanding from a communication standpoint. Right, So I teach media studies and marketing and advertising from a communications standpoint. We also begin to understand that not everybody accepts the information and is the same way as
everybody else. They used to talk about it as the hypodermic need all of communication. You just take a big need on you send all the information out into the marketplace, and everybody's going to believe it. Well, nobody believes that and understands that that's the way that communication works anymore. What they do is try to figure out what your vulnerabilities are and then find the ways to tap into your vulnerabilities and talk to those.
Yes, okay, so can you give examples of industries or brands how they will tap into those insecurities.
Wow, how do they not.
Maybe some of the ways people like would it think about? But you're like, let me give.
You an extreme example. A good extreme example is for profit colleges. So the way that for profit so nonprofit colleges are probably what people normally think of when they think of colleges. Harvard is a nonprofit college. But we'll lead and still put that's to the side for just a second. But when you're thinking of for private colleges like the University of Phoenix, like Trump University, these are specifically working to get people in the door because they
want to take advantage of the federal loan system. They don't really care whether or not you get an education. They just want your money or the government's money, and then you have to pay the government back. So what they do is they look for what are known as your pain point. What is that thing that's going to hurt you so much that it's going to get you
off your duff and actually pay for this. So it could be something like, you know, you want to do this for your kid, right, you don't want your kid to go through what you went through, right, you want to be able to have that job, you want to be able to make more money, right, And so they push on all of those things until they get you to purchase. The way that cults do this. For a previous book, I spent a couple of years researching the
Kabala Center. What's something like the Kabala Center does is they you take an introductory class with them, and part of the introductory class is you get a free session with the teacher. Well, it's not really a free session, so you think you're going in there all and I said, oh great, I get a session with the teacher.
This is cool.
No, it's the hardest sales pitch you have ever seen in your entire life. And it's you and the teacher. So you want to talk about a power position. That person's got power over you, they have information over you, and then they try to sell you on all of the things that they have. Most people, and the worst thing that they do, and a lot of cults do this is if you really cared, if you really cared about your sense of spirituality, you would find a way
to pay for this. Put it on your credit card, borrow it from your parents, you know, do whatever it is you need to do, but you need to find a way of pains money. And it's like and if you're in enough pain, right, remember going back to vulnerability, if you're in enough pain, you will do it because you think what this person is selling is going to eliminate that pain for you.
Yeah, and you don't even have to be in pain when you walk in the door. They'll create it for you, like I think of time shares not. I mean, if you really care about your family and their vag cations, you'll do this. It'll force you to take a vacation every year.
And yeah, oh my gosh, yeah exactly. Yeah, yeah, So I'm curious to hear from you.
You've described a little bit of the vulnerability and kind of how that draws us into maybe making purchases that we otherwise wouldn't have or beginning to belong to a cult. And I think so many of us, you know, we can watch some of these documentaries and imagine, oh, but I would never And yet, as you're describing, we are susceptible to these same strategies within marketing and are purchasing and consumption. Why do you think we're so unaware of this.
How is it so clouded from our site that we are just engaging in this and we don't even know.
Yeah, what's interesting to me is and what's hard for me and the work that I do, is that every thinks they understand marketing, right. Everybody thinks they know how it all works. But if they begin to, for instance, following me on TikTok, they're like, oh, I didn't know about that geofencing. What's geofencing?
Right?
So all of these things that are going on that they don't understand. And as you begin to pull the threads, then people people start opening up their eyes. There's also something known as the third person effect. And the third person effect is this idea that, oh, advertising and marketing affects everybody else, but it doesn't impact me.
But it does.
And so to be aware part of and to get to the other part of your question, you know, the issue with it right now is that we are engaging with the vast majority of our advertising on social media, not just on social media, but on our phone, and the technology is designed in such a way to keep one to keep us connec for as long as possible, and to make us as anxious as possible, and that anxiety creates vulnerability, right, it all becomes part of this circle.
And so in terms of the technology, one of the things is is that there's no stopping point, right, It's endless scroll, so that you know, if you watch a movie, you stop watching movie, it's done, you walk away and it's over. But there is no set point. So that's why you find yourself if you're on social media spaces just endlessly scrolling, because the longer that you stay on those spaces, the more likely you will engage with advertising
and the hope is that you will ultimately buy something. Now, remember going back to the funnel. The whole idea of the funnel is that you will go through this whole process. Now, in traditional media, it would take a lot of time to get from the awareness to part of the funnel to the marketing evangelist part of it.
You had to you know.
Maybe saw commercial or you saw a billboard or you saw a print ad, and this was happening over time, and then you said, okay, you know what I want this product, and so you get in your car or you walk down to your town and then you go buy it. And then you look at it and then you kind of go, you know what, maybe I don't want to spend one hundred and fifty dollars on a
pair of shoes. Maybe I really don't. The problem with the online space is that the funnel has been collapsed, so there's no time between the awareness space and the purchase face. There's almost no time from that to then tell people that go tell everybody else.
One of the things we've talked about on the podcast and even in my own mental health background, is that vulnerability without protection leads to exploitation. And I think this is what I'm hearing you describe here, and it's making me wonder. You know, if people exit cults, those who are kind of lucky enough to find themselves on the other side of it and begin a healing process, that's exactly what needs to happen, is a healing process, and
there is emotional, relational, psychological impact. Would you say the same then for marketing, Like, what is the exploitation that's happening? What is some of the emotional psychological impact of these marketing tactics that mimic cults.
One of the things I talk about is that economists say that we're living in an attention economy, meaning that you know, marketers want our attention for as long a period of time as possible so that we'll engage with the advertising. What I'm suggesting is that we live in an anxiety economy because it's not just enough to get our eyeballs, it's and they want to ramp up our emotions.
And so you can see this in social media spaces where the incentives for influencers is to ramp up our emotions, to get be enraged, is to do this sort of rage farming so that we get upset and then we share their content, and so that creates the cycle of anxiety, doom scrolling, anxiety purchase, right, because anxiety needs release, It needs to be released, and again the technology is created
and it's and it's all about the dopamine hit. And you talk about this, right, it's all about the dopamine hit. So how do you get away from from the need from the dopamine hit. One, You've got to start putting your phone down, find reasons not to walk around with your phone, and certainly with what's going on in our country right now, even more reasons not to walk around with your phone. Turn off your location don't let people know where you are. You don't, you know, unless you
need it really for safety purposes. You know, there's no reason for you to walk around with your phone twenty four to seven.
Take you know, I know.
It's hard for people to give up social media. Take a one day break, take a two day break, you know, say for the weekend. You know what, I'm not going to go on social media for the weekend, and for no other reason. It will shift you and it will enable you to see, oh, I don't need this stuff. I mean, I'm sort of going through this right now because of what happened with the TikTok band. So that's where I have my biggest following, and I also had
a bit of a following on Instagram and threads. But after what Zuckerberg did, I said, you know what, I can't be on those spaces anymore. So I've deactivated all my meta accounts and it's been an adjustment. But I'm also finding out that I don't need to be on as much as I was. I'm also thinking about you know, I'm old enough to remember where we engaged with news
twice a day. You got up in the morning, you had your newspaper was delivered to your house, You read the newspaper, you went about your day, you lived your life, and you came home at night and you either watched the six thirty news or the eleven o'clock news, and that was it. You don't need to know what's going on in the world twenty four hours a day.
Nobody does.
And it's it.
It's just it's just not good.
It's just not good for you, and it's not for you. You know what I always what I always say to people is if you are thinking of this thing as anything other than a shopping madel, you're thinking about it the wrong way. The guy who created Okaycupid said, this is a twenty four to seven marketing research piece of equipment and everybody should understand that. And not everybody does
understand this, and that was eight years ago. And I think more people have a better idea that their data is being collected and so on, But I don't think people have a full extent of how it is being used against them.
Yep, I like, I can't say anything more than that. That is, yeah, exactly. So aside from not walking away, like not walking around with your phone or just like putting the phone down more. What other advice would you give people to protect themselves from these tactics to protect their vulnerability.
There's no way for the FDC to be able to find out if somebody actually is sponsored or not sponsored. So just sort of assume, just go from the assumption that if somebody's trying to looks like they're trying to sell you something, they're probably getting paid for it. There's also because we because we know that they that we approach advertising with a very different mindset then we do
so called editorial content. If somebody is not being paid to say, to sell something, and it's an influencer that we know, then we come at it with a more relaxed attitude. But the second we see hashtag sponsored, then we go, oh, Okay, somebody's trying to sell me something, and you pay much more attention to it. Assume just go in assuming that somebody has an agenda, and somebody's trying to sell you something, if they're holding anything in their hand, just assume they're getting paid to do it.
Because part of the problem is too is with the more the smaller influencers, I mean the nanano influencers who have like five to ten thousand followers. A lot of them don't get paid. A lot of them are paid what they call in kind, I mean meaning they are given the product to test and then promote. That is still considered by the FTC to be paid. But a
lot of those nano influencers don't know that. So, particularly if you're following somebody that you have come to appreciate, just assume that that they're getting paid, and so enter into that conversation with that attitude. I would also say, you know, not all influencers are bad people. You know, There's there's some that legitimately have want to provide information, and there's some that are just out there to you know,
rack up their numbers as quickly as possible. And it's been really interesting to see, you know, since TikTok has come back up that you know, some of the rage stuff is really off, really off the charts, and I've had to put it down and put it away and block people. You know, you're the block button is your friend, and so if there's people that are, you know, block it, get rid of it, don't engage with it. And also just you know, particularly now, get involved with your local community.
Know who your neighbors are. Interact with your neighbors, can you help with them? I belong to my local civic association, and you know, I've gotten to meet wonderful people who are in their eighties and who have lived in my neighborhood for years and know the history and the stories. And you know, one woman was came from Germany. She's about to turn ninety and Nazi stole her doll and she stole it back from him and she lived to tell the tale.
Right this, right right?
So you don't You don't find that out by being on social media.
You find that out by going to talk to your neighbors.
Yeah, okay, there is one question I'd like to kind of get this. So you were in the Buy Now documentary. Is there anything that they did not use that you said that you wish they would have?
Oh gosh, yes, there was the whole second day of shooting that didn't make it into the documentary. And if you notice on the documentary, they high around me as a former marketing executive, and I think that was because of how they were framing the film as everybody being ex marketing executives, which is true, but they never talk
about me being a professor and a marketing critic. So the entire second day was me giving a lecture about greenwashing and how this whole idea of greenwashing and pink washing and so on, the idea of what I call purpose talk about as purpose washing, and that is when
companies connect a brand to a cause. And the reason why companies want to do this, particularly for millennials and gen z, is because there's been some of the other larger institutions in our society don't have the same impact on us in terms of identity creation as they used to do things like our religion, things like our jobs, things like our family. And so what happened in the nineteen nineties and into the two thousands is that the
market and brands came in to fill that void. So we're Starbucks or we're Duncan, right, right, So those become identifiers for who we are and if we're going to make these brands part of our identity, what people said to companies was, well, you better tell me what your values are. If I'm really going to connect with you,
you better tell me what your values are. And so a lot of companies began connecting their products to causes, and it could be anything from pink ribbons to greenwashing to you know, save the animals, to you know, the red campaign that Bona was behind. And most of these, quite frankly, are bs. They don't live up to the values that they present, and there's very few that do. What's been interesting to me to see is how many
people are talking about Ben and Jerry's right now. And that's one company that really does live up to the values that they talk about because they've been doing it one They've been doing it long. So this is what you want to look for to find out whether a company really cares about the cause they are connecting themselves to Have they been doing it for a long time? Did they do it for a year and then move
on then no, forget about it. Is it something that just increases their sales or are they actually doing something that's going to make a difference. So what I always talk about when I talk about purpose is the difference between purpose and impact. Purpose is a nice name. Impact is making a difference. And so again Ben and Jerry's becomes a great example for something like that. Mac Cosmetics, right they have the lipstick that comes out once a
year and all of the money, not the profits. Right, Look and see if they're saying profits, they're saying profits, are they saying all of it? All of the money from that lipstick goes for AIDS and HIV either education or assistance for people who suffer with that. So what you see with a lot of companies though, is that they say something like breast cancer is a great example.
The pink ribbon is not trademarked, so a company can just slap that pink ribbon onto a product and say, oh, I support breast cancer, and there could be absolutely nothing behind it.
Nothing.
Yeah, I feel the same thing in June where everything goes rainbow like that, the flag is not trademarked and everybody uses it.
It's a great example.
Man, you are giving us such tangible tips on how to protect ourselves as well as the just awareness items where we can feel a little bit more equipped to make. We're still going to be buying, We're going still going to be spending money, and there's still going to be products that might actually help to solve a real problem or create a more efficient lifestyle.
But to be sure that we are.
Making those decisions and not manipulated into making those decisions.
There's nothing wrong with buying. If you need something, buy something that The issue is over consuming and over consuming. Look, if you want to be radical, you know, stop buying stuff you don't need. That is one of the most radical things you can do, because what it does is it makes it so you don't have to be working all the time to pay off all of that debt,
which is just crazy. Because what we have done with Silicon Valley has done beyond everything else, and I have all kinds of issues with them, is valorize the idea of a side hustle and the gig economy and the fact that everybody can be an entrepreneur.
No, you know what a.
Lot of people would like to go in work a nine to five and be able to make a salary with that one paycheck and be able to put a roof over their heads, pay for their meals, and be able to send their.
Kids to college. Well, we got sucker.
Punched over the last twenty years by a bunch of adolescent white dudes and the West Coast and all we'll stop there before I.
Say it stems back to the two income trap by Elizabeth Warren, and that is all that would be a whole nother eport so that we do not have time for. But basically, when we went to two incomes, it didn't it didn't help us, It didn't help women as much. It just made everything more expensive and we consume more products. So now we need more money to consume more products and to afford bigger houses. That's what it really did, right and under the guys though of equality, right, and.
The idea that anybody could be an influencer and that people could make money from this.
There are fifty.
Million influencers around the world and only two million of them make any kind of a living at it. So the odds, the odds are not in your favor.
Do you know what is in our favor and is not a trap? And you do believe brings about just such joy? Everybody benefits from my life.
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For all right, So for this week's lightning Round question, can you recall a recent ad or marketing tactic that felt cult like to you?
The one I've been talking about and I've actually been talking about for three years, but it's back.
Is he gets us? That he gets us campaign?
Oh my gosh.
Do you know?
Okay, so I'm wondering who's putting this out?
Where's who's big Jesus out here putting out as you know, you.
Know who's you know, who's behind it? The Coke Brothers, the Koch brothers, the Republican Party.
Yes, okay, you get that.
Yeah.
If people want to say I have I've done a ton of tiktoks on this but the short version of it is is that it is put out by a consortium of conservatives.
Uh.
There is an organization called barn Of Research and Connected, which is a conservative research organization which is connected to another company called.
Glue g l oo. Go check out Glue.
It's a data marketing firm for conservative Christians and very tied to the Republican Party. They are funded by the Koch Brothers. Also, the guy behind Hobby Lobby also gave a lot of money to this.
So I did hear that one? I did hear that Hobby Lobby was partially behind it.
Okay, so this is this was a three year so wait for it at the super Bowl. Even be sure it's going to be part of the super Bowl. It was a three year campaign. I think a billion dollars. Can you will see it shown during all the Super Bowls and all of the major sporting events. It's also connected to the Alpha course. If people know the Alpha Course.
WHOA, that's something that I haven't. Maybe I just wasn't paying enough attention to it. Where are they even trying to use a marketing term and aical term funnel people too?
Like?
It didn't seem to be connected to any particular church, like, do you have an idea of like what they're hoping the takeaway or action item is after seeing this ad.
The the Barnet Organization is a marketing company that works with churches, and so the hope is that these tools that are being created by Alpha are then used by these churches, and then these churches use them as a way to bring people into their spaces. I took one of the classes that Barnet gave in association with this campaign. It was I've been in a lot of evangelical rooms, but that one was particularly uncomfortable.
That's so sad because I'm usually I mean, at least I used to be impressed by Barna's like research.
It seemed to be more neutral than others.
Well, yeah, but they're now they are now fully connected to Glue, which maybe the documentary I would really recommend to people if they want to understand the connections between Republicans, churches, marketing data, all.
Of that sort of stuff.
So documentary called people you May Know, People you may Know.
And.
The guy who did it was one of the people who testified in front of the UK Parliament about Cambridge Analytica, and so he gets into talking to people about how the data related to that's being gobbled up by these companies are then being funneled to churches. Now, why a two hundred member church, you know, has the Republican party name list attached to it, I'll never know, But go watch the documentary at Highlight yea.
It is so interesting.
It brings up the fact that so many institutions that we may have once trusted and felt like we've known have been bought up, like not just in the religious space, but like in the you know, capitalism space, have been bought up by private equity or other places and are different than what we remember or have gained trust in in our youth right, And so they think that's another way that we can fall victim to some deceptive marketing.
I think I really want to leave people with in terms of what's going on right now, is the difference between media like when I was growing up is, yes, there were there were five companies that basically controlled the media landscape, but they weren't controlling what I was seeing on a day to day basis, and I was seeing the same thing that my neighbor was seeing. So we could have a conversation about it. That's not what's going
on now. We're all in our individual spaces and we aren't necessarily seeing the same thing.
The other thing is it's.
The ability of someone like Mark Zuckerberg to control what is going on in that platform is at a level that none of us can understand. And even from the time when I would talk to people who worked in advertising spaces and algorithms, they don't understand it. The people who work in it don't understand it. And so and if anybody tells you they do, they don't. They're lying, and particularly now with AI. So the best way that you can protect yourself is if you don't need to
be on those spaces, deactivate them. You don't have to delete, but deactivate. Because one of the things that we're saying a lot for instance now, and this I think helps explain this pretty well, is now that you know who is president, you may be following him on Facebook, whether you followed him or not, because the company can decide who gets to follow who.
So that's at a level of.
Deceptiveness I will call it that we have never seen before. And because he owns the company, there's no way to stop him. So I would say to you, those spaces
are no longer safe. If you want to connect with your groups and there's there's a group that's protecting your cat, or there's you know, your local quolting group or whatever you know, go on, but also make sure you log out every time, Log out every time off of every space, because it's not just that they're able to track you on the site, and any website that has the Facebook icon on it can also be used to track you.
Didn't they learn from when everyone got mad they put the YouTube album on everybody's iPhone?
Did they not.
Learn that we don't like that the iPod Wasn't it the iPod? You would open up the iPod and it automatically had YouTube stop.
Some people will never learn.
Yeah, what about for you?
Jen?
Okay, So for me, it was for paper towels and I can't remember which one, if it was BROWNI or something like that, but they were saying that it is more hygienic to use paper towels than rags. So you need to buy our paper towels if you get to care for if you want to care, if you want to protect your family, essentially, you need to use paper towels and not rags and then I'm there. I'm sitting there thinking like I'm not a doctor's office, like I'm
not a hospital. I can be clean without being sterile, but they're believing, they're making people believe that they need to be sterile, playing off that fear we have in this.
Like post COVID. Yeah, yeah, and I thought that.
Was so sick, like no pun intended.
Well, if it's if it's Brownie, it's owned by the Koch brothers too, so that's another reason to avoid them.
Wow, what isn't My husband and I recently over the holidays watched the Barbie Movie and that was an entire ad for many things, including Chevrolet.
I'm just like, we're just.
Watching an entertaining Chevrolet ad but also trying to get us to be a certain type of person.
Yeah, Barbie Movie was an interesting time, like it was in every commercial and was a large commercial itself. But it was such a good movie.
But I really liked it.
I was gobsmacked that nobody was talking about how much of an ad for Chevrolet. It was like they did all of the conversation about it that was not part of it.
But this was also eighteen months ago, eighteen months ago they did talk about that.
I don't remember it then either, but I don't know. They were just all talking about Ryan Gosling's role and ken.
He was kinough.
Oh, doctor Mara, thank you so much, and I know that we could talk more. But where can people find your book? Hoodwinked and more from you?
So Hoodwinked is available wherever books are sold, and the full title is Hoodwinked? How marketers use the same tactics as called because there's another book called hoodwink that came out.
A year ago, So don't don't go.
Yeah, but can I can I show it's Yes, it's a very very obvious kind of picture, you know, so.
Very very black. Yes, And you can find me.
Because my socials are so influx right now. My website is Doctormara Einstein dot com. That's d R M A R A e I N S T e I N dot com I doctor Maarah Einstein on all socials. If you do go look for me. And to answer the question that everybody wants to know, Yes, I am related to that guy.
That's amazing.
I know we didn't even make that into the night questions.
But do you wanna do you wanna's distant.
It's distant. It's distant, and it's through marriage. But my daughter got the blood.
So yeah, okay, perfect, it still counts.
It still counts, it lives on.
Thanks so much for being here, doctor Merra, Thank you so much.
This is great.
Yeah.
I so, I kept thinking about our friend Amanda Montel her book cult Ish. She doesn't dive very deeply into consumerism, but she does end the book by saying she makes a very strong stance that the cult of our time is consumerism. Whereas in the seventies it was all the you know, the hippie cults and religious cults, and still
we do have some of those today. But the really big cult that most of us are going to struggle with, uh is consumerism and it's brand loyalty, all the things that doctor Marra was talking about it just and her book I highly recommend it. Cultish is all about the language of cults, and hearing doctor Marra say all these words, thinking, yes, this is cult language that marketers are using, have been using, and are going to continue to use.
I'm really encouraged by this conversation and just my takeaways of the protective measures that we can put in place. I think so often when it comes to these really lofty ideas of things that are outside of our control and yet so oppressive to us on a day to
day basis, it can feel really deflating and overwhelming. But I think what I'm hearing from doctor Marhra and even in our conversations Jen, that there are things that we can be doing that lighten the load for us, that make us feel more equipped for these decisions that we're making, Like we don't have to just say, man, isn't it all just go into crap? Yeah, we can say I get to choose how much I engage with this marketing by how often I'm looking at my phone. I get
to put the parameters around that. I get to choose what I buy, where my dollars go, how I am making these decisions, and little by little, the more of us that can do that, the more power in those numbers it is. But also, even if nobody else made the same decisions that we did, we still have within our control the ability to find some degree of peace and calm and clarity and confidence even in the midst of the mess. With how much we choose to engage
in this and how equipped we can become. I think once you see it, you can't unsee it, you know, to kind of realize anything I'm looking at, I can look at through a marketing lens of what are they trying to sell me? What are they how are they trying to attach it to my identity? That makes the nose even easier if it's not something for me. Yeah, absolutely, Well, thank you all so much for listening.
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Okay Jen.
The other day, I was scrolling on my phone and I kid you not every single post, it had to have been twenty twenty five posts in a row. Every single one was an ad, like a very blatant ad where it wasn't even just some influencer trying to sell me something, which is still an ad, but just.
I'm just like, this isn't even this isn't even fun anymore.
It was very easy to then just like put my phone down and be like, all right, I'm doing something else because this is just ridiculous.
Yeah no, I've noticed they've been putting more ads in a row. It is so social media is a blessing and a curse, right because it has such helpful, fantastic short form content and it is lovely, we love memes, but it is also full of advertising, and so so much of the solution Ocean centers around getting off your phone. But I think there is a lot to be said about conscious consumption of social media. So that's my two cents.
What is the first ad as you scroll I'm opening up my phone? Mine is for a bank. I'm not even gonna mention the bank because they don't deserve your time, right.
No, unless they've paid me. And again, we can bring this to you for free because we get paid by certain brands.
Okay, a bank insurance.
You know what's laughable to me is when I get ads for something after I've made a purchase.
I'm seeing the run Run Disney just announced the oh.
No, an ad that's working on her.
It's it's native content. I knew they were making announcement for the Weinendeine theme today.
I knew it.
It was just the first thing that popped up. It's that's not even an ad, but.
Walt Disney World.
That's the second thing. Then the third is a Frugal Friends podcast post. It is a post of our latest episode that just came out. So now I know what that episode is because we record a month in advance and I have totally forgot. So yeah, it's great. I and then Lego Land, Florida is the next one because we used to have. Oh and then a brand that I was doing research on to see if they would want to sponsor the show.
See that's really.
Fun because some of my sponsors are so off the wall. Because I'm doing brand research and I'm definitely not. I mean, then I can see kind of what they do. I can scope it out early. Yeah, so it is interesting.
Yeah, how curated it it is to have like it's a high yield savings account, like a bank that offers a high old savings account, insurance, a mental health ad.
I mean, I'm got a TV show about these Universal studios.
They know I love Orlando.
That is an investing app. Tell me you work in finance? About telling me you work in finance. Yeah, so okay.
It's uh, you know a lot of a lot of different things. But I think my biggest thing is I want to stop scrolling so much. I want to be less of a consumer and more of a creator. I think that is my goal because I believe in social media. I believe in its power, and I also know that it is a cesspool as well. So there's there's confliction within me.
But you know what, we need to hold the tension. We can't only allow social media to be tem you halls right exactly, also need to be able to talk about what we're talking about.
I need to be the change I want to see in the world exactly, And so should you not you, Joel, the person listening to this, I'll be the change.
I'll change