Are you constantly judging yourself? Every decision you make, every word you say is always wrong in your eyes, unless you receive a positive response. This self-judgment keeps you from moving forward in your life, choices may feel like the last thing you can commit to in the long run—so you do what you’ve always done in the short term. Basically, you do the same thing—the proven thing every day and even if it is a new environment, you try to keep things the same. Under control. This shame and se...
Apr 14, 2020•19 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of introducing a new partner to your family, being rescued from your emotional state, and how to date so it’s not painful. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/p...
Apr 10, 2020•23 min
Just like our previous Attachment Issues episode, this episode is all about answering your insecure attachment questions. Whether it's to an ex, your work, or your family, insecure attachment issues can manifest themselves in many ways. They all stem back to a fear you have. You’re afraid of not being good enough, of being found out, of being left alone. When you’re insecurely attached, you’re letting these fears control your life. Now, you might be thinking that you’re working hard to change yo...
Apr 07, 2020•35 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of letting go of outcomes, communicating with exes, showing interest too quickly when dating. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to...
Apr 03, 2020•19 min
Are you always stepping in to be the “rescuer” of others? It seems the role you play to be recognized, loved or at least not abandoned. What about with your partner? You wait around for the right moment that you can jump in and be a hero, saving him or her looking like you have enough value to that person that they will be forever indebted. You think that taking care of everyone around you will gain you the validation and attention that you crave. But here’s the problem: That’s a very lonely pla...
Mar 31, 2020•25 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics looking for validation, self-protective habits from childhood, and staying in reality. Want to submit your question? Click here: http://bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like ...
Mar 27, 2020•20 min
This episode of the Journey of Attachment is going to be different. I made a post on Facebook in January asking you for all your questions on insecure attachment, and so today's episode is my response to your submissions. When you have insecure attachment issues, you listen and intellectualize. So if you've listened to my podcast before and you've identified yourself with what I talk about, you might have felt better about your issues for some time. But it always passes, right? So you go back to...
Mar 24, 2020•33 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of anxiety, the perspective of reality and dealing with the inner critic. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make ...
Mar 20, 2020•25 min
Many of us do not have any idea we try to control anything outside of us, we are always just trying to feel okay. Do you try to control the people around you? Your goal is to convince them that you’re a certain type of person because you’re afraid they’ll see the real you. The fear of not being okay, because you basically don’t think you are unless someone else does has you stuck trying to control their view of you. You control their behaviors because you’re afraid of the way they’d treat you if...
Mar 17, 2020•16 min
Earlier this month, I asked you on Facebook if you would be interested in me sharing what a coaching session with me is like. From the feedback that I got, I decided to do this one-time-only episode of live coaching. As you’ll hear, the person I’m coaching is someone that I work with already, so this is the perfect example of what actual coaching is and what my relationship with my clients is. We go back and forth on how life is developing in our daily life because that’s how we can make a chang...
Mar 13, 2020•28 min
Did you grow up with a narcissistic mom? Her behavior may have been unpredictable, and you never knew what was going to set her off. She might have been manipulative, always looking for your validation and sympathy. Whether she was a malignant narcissist or a covert narcissist, her actions shaped your current behavior and your relationship insecurity. Her criticism and inconsistency made you afraid of emotional intimacy. In many ways, she created your first codependent relationship. The good new...
Mar 10, 2020•31 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of making yourself suffer, fear, and being emotionally vulnerable. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure yo...
Mar 06, 2020•21 min
The hard truth about insecure attachment is that it doesn’t just affect your personal relationships. It affects every part of your life, including your career. Whether you’re struggling with boundaries at work or micromanaging your coworkers to feel validation, all your behaviors stem from fear. You’re afraid that your colleagues will see you as a failure, or they will criticize you. I’ve been in your shoes, and I let my insecurity affect my work life for a long time. Despite being promoted, man...
Mar 03, 2020•40 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of dream interpretation, feeling responsible for others, and setting boundaries with friends. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you ...
Feb 28, 2020•17 min
Do you know what impostor syndrome is? Perhaps you’re familiar with it in your professional life, it means the fear of being found out for being fake or phony. The you which you present isn’t really who you are or you feel others will not think it is who you are. For me, I always waited for people to find out I was a bad person, even though nothing about me is…it’s what I dreaded, personally and professionally. So, for those of you who have that feeling, guess what? It’s related to insecure atta...
Feb 25, 2020•34 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling like everything is against you, hidden anger and people pulling away. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to...
Feb 21, 2020•17 min
Are you stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop? No matter how much you “think” you want a relationship, you find excuses not to date or in a relationship, you look for problems with your partner. Oh wait! There’s more. You may find yourself dating, which you do trepidatiously, and voila there’s chemistry. You feel the pangs of anxiety and know you’ll be hooked by dinnertime. Whether you are the pursuer or the runner, each position for the anxious avoidant is all about emotional distance, even if on t...
Feb 18, 2020•41 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of apologies, breakups, and feeling empty. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley Sick of being inse...
Feb 14, 2020•20 min
In this episode of “Surviving to Thriving: Overcoming My Darkest Moment,” I talk with Mid-Life Coach, Jonathon Aslay. Listen in as he takes us on his journey after he lost his 19-year-old son in 2018. His grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation. Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?." Learn more about Jonath...
Feb 12, 2020•49 min
Are you always reading into what your significant other is doing--or not doing? Every ignored text, every forwarded call becomes a sign of the way they feel about you. When you take every action personally, you are giving them authority over your emotional state. To fight this helpless feeling, you may have turned to the silent treatment. Whether you’re ignoring them as a punishment or a way to make them miss you, it’s giving you a false sense of control. The key to a healthy relationship is not...
Feb 11, 2020•32 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your past questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of shame, attachment forming in childhood, and control of other people. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley Sick...
Feb 07, 2020•24 min
Almost half of my clients come to me engaged in two intimate relationships, and they are in pain. Shame and attachment for the person who feels stuck inside of each relationship means a roller coaster of emotions: guilt, anxiety, intimacy, freedom. This podcast is not about the person who is on the receiving end of their partner being unfaithful, it is for those who are drowning in their situation. For most people, the original intent when entering one relationship is not to find someone else to...
Feb 04, 2020•43 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of connection, having different sexual needs in a relationship, and distinguishing between being selfish and being true to you. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds ...
Jan 31, 2020•17 min
Are you living with secrets? Maybe you're hiding your shopping receipts from your husband, or maybe you're leaving out parts of your stories because you fear the repercussions. In some cases, you might not even be aware that you're withholding information from your significant other. All these secrets stem from one ultimate truth: you're afraid of change. You can't be 100% committed to someone if you're still hiding parts of your life. Keeping secrets may save you from ever having to change, but...
Jan 28, 2020•32 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of marriage, setting boundaries with your children, being honest with friends and fears. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracyc...
Jan 24, 2020•24 min
Do you spend a lot of time wishing your relationships were different? Maybe you’ve been holding back your real feelings because you’re afraid of how your partner will react. Or maybe you don’t think you have the time to date, especially when it seems like there aren’t any good men or women left. The truth is, these are all just excuses. Without even realizing it, you could be holding onto your victimhood out of fear, placing all of the blame onto other people. If you’re ready to have a happy, he...
Jan 21, 2020•37 min
In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of guilt, hot and cold relationships, and healing. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
Jan 17, 2020•21 min
Codependency can feel like an addiction. You surrender your own feelings to make another person happy, using them as a way to fulfill needs you should be fulfilling yourself. Maybe you can't even remember a time when a relationship didn’t feel like work. You're always sacrificing your own happiness to make someone else happy. But how did you get to this place? How does someone become codependent? Unfortunately, codependency is often a seed planted in childhood. It grows alongside you as you deve...
Jan 14, 2020•23 min
In this special series Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of when insecurities are triggered, asking for help and family relationships. Want to submit your question? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: https://www.patreon.com/tracycross...
Jan 10, 2020•17 min
Are you still stuck on a relationship that ended months, maybe even years ago? You’re still carrying this longing inside of you, always wondering what life would have been like if they had stayed. A part of you is still waiting for them to come back, to give you some kind of closure for the sacrifices you made. Looking back on your memories, you think you still love them. It may feel like love, but what you’re really feeling is attachment. To move past the emotional triggers that are still keepi...
Jan 07, 2020•30 min
