¶ Welcome to Dad Life 2045
All right , dads , imagine this . Let's skip ahead 20 years . The year is 2045 . Your fridge who knows your macros ? It's ordering your groceries for you . Your car it drives itself . Your kid has an AI tutor . You don't even have to involve yourself . Ai is raising your kids . Sounds pretty good , right ? Nope , not at all . So today we're gonna jump into that .
How do we lead our families in the future ? How do we raise our kids to lead their kids , or are we going to let AI run the show ? Stick around , we'll get to it . All right , brother , quarter one , we're going to jump right into it . We're going to talk about 20 years from now . We're in 2045 .
We're going to talk about the AI , artificial intelligence , dad life , what's coming ? So have you ever wondered what a normal Tuesday would look like in the future , with AI running everything ? Jay ?
Hmm , I'm a tad bit older .
You are .
So I have not jumped on the AI train . You're not on the AI train , I am not . I'm not saying I'm anti-AI , but I'm not for it . That's a mouthful Anti-AI .
Yeah , but think about it right I ?
understand its purposes , I understand where it can be positive and I understand where it can be beneficial to the human race . However , we always take it too far . Fair facts . I'm not talking like terminator , like crazy , like and end of days I robot type of stuff . I'm talking just like you lose touch with everything .
You've lost your ability to speak to somebody .
You've lost your ability to do things on your own that your dad taught you so obviously you're not for a world where the house is actually smarter than you are no , not at all that's not in your repertoire it's not in my repertoire .
I don't . I don't believe in conceding uh my basic duties for convenience , because I don't think the outcome would benefit us as a family .
Well , since old man Jay doesn't seem to care about AI , we asked believe it or not AI what the future would look like in 2045 .
Gee , gee , let me guess what it said .
So let's just break down what new normals would look like 20 years from now . So , daily routines we're talking AI home hubs , and what that means is you wake up and everything does itself , from the temperature to cooking your breakfast . Jetsons Picking out your clothes the Jetsons , that's a fair fact .
Smart mirrors , which calculates your body weight and tells you what you need to do , water retention All these things . Which , by the do water retention ? All these things ?
Which , by the way , the Jetsons , dates me .
Does it , though ? I don't . I mean I don't know . Jay never really reveals his age here . He does look good for his age , but I'm just saying Parenting by algorithm .
Now here's a good one .
So AI tutors right where you never actually have to spend any time . And let's face it , I mean , if you're like me Bama born , bama raised I am college educated , but I'm not going to sit here and tell you that I'm going to even begin to understand middle school homework . It's actually harder than probably what I had in college .
So you don't have to deal with that now , bro . I've recently had to do fractions with my son and I've had to google it and I had to say tell me the old way of doing fractions , not the new way , because it's how they're doing it now .
It's just like I don't even understand why you do things that they do to get to where they're at .
I'm like this is way more complicated but here's where I I went down a rabbit hole and I kind of understand the methodology of it now . So it's so they can prepare them for the future of algebra calculus . So they know on both sides of the equations they have to equal out , whereas before we're just solving to make the problem Okay .
However , for old people trying to do improper fractions and mixed fractions with their 10 year old stuff , so AI , you know it's .
What about digital babysitters ? Have you seen the movie , Is it ? It's not Megan , but it's the . It's the one where Megan Fox is a drone , which , by the way , if I've got an AI babysitter that looks like Megan Fox , I may be convinced . This is terrible , but digital babysitters , that seems appealing .
No , who's programming it ?
Let's move on . Okay , errands in logistics , self-driving cars we're not far from that now . Drone deliveries that's happening . Yep , chorebots we have RoboVac , which is pretty good , but expansive .
That would make life a lot more difficult , I will say I have my Pumba , that is my pool Roomba .
Oh , okay , I didn't know where you're going with that that makes cleaning the pool a lot easier .
I didn't know where you're going with that . That makes cleaning the pool a lot easier .
So maybe I'm teetering , it's transitioning , I'm not transitioning Family time , so VR vacations were much more affordable .
You never have to leave there it is or hang on . What said ?
he's pulling out of his nose .
That's Total Recall , right , yeah , it's totally , because the brain sensor that tracks everything he does yeah , he had to get that thing to go all the way up and I remember that as a kid . Looking at that I was like , oh my god , that's craziness .
But we have ADHD . It's the special effects in Total Recall that bring me back so terrible , but I love it . It's so good .
Moving on .
Here's a fact Holograms . So we have Teams and Zoom now , but now you hologram into your environment .
That's true , I heard not too long ago they did a couple concerts with hologram , like Zupac Hologram , michael Jackson .
AI-curated game nights and adventures . I mean all things that seem like that's not . They're distracting you from what you need to be doing . So the question all right . So we talked about what's coming down the pipeline . This is just scratching the surface , but most of these things are already here in their
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infancy . And if you keep up with AI at all , you know how quickly it is evolving . Old man Jay not keeping up with it so he doesn't know , but it is evolving at the speed of light almost . But here we are , so kind of revealed the future for you .
We're probably way off here , but if AI handled your daily , daily grind , what would you do with your uh , free time ? oh , that's a hard one um does ai do my yard work I think we live in a world where ai is going to do your yard work , chore bots ar is not , ai is not going to be able to weed , eat and get the right line there .
There's no way .
Or are we ?
talking Augusta , because a Roomba can't pick up most of the dirt In 2025 . It gets caught under a chair , fooled , completely trapped . So I , and even my pool Roomba , when I go to pick it out , sometimes it dumps everything that it picked up . So there's failures . There's definitely failures .
So I don't think the AI weed eater is going to be able to pass my HOA requirements .
The AI HOA . Karens , we've devolved a little bit , but I'm are we gonna bring back jaco hoa karens .
I'm looking for two beers right now , but , uh , honestly , I think in my free time I'd , because it's always a project . It doesn't matter as a dad , there is a project that's waiting on you . So , um , the problem is , if your ai is doing all your projects too , what do you do so ? You spend the time with your children , right . You develop them .
Or you spend the time with your wife , right ? Well in theory is ai doing that too though that's the problem too far too far , so move on to the next question .
So now we know . No , you didn't answer it well , I think the whole thing to think here about is the concept of more time . Right , we , we've got the time that we've got Right , and so , yes , I am a user of AI now and it frees up a lot of time , but what am I actually doing with that time ?
In our minds , I think we have these grand ideas that we I probably waste the time that I have , or it's just unproductive time . I do more it . It allows me to actually do more work , and then you're at a pace that you can't keep up at .
You can't continue to work that way .
Right , or you've mentally exhausted yourself and your adrenal glands are shut down , and so now you're just distracting yourself with video games or social media . So you're not really investing that time back into people that really need it .
Facts . I believe you've proven my point , all right .
We'll end the episode right now . All right , thanks for coming out everybody , but we talked about AI tutoring and we talked about ai into your kids . You actually even mentioned ai with your wife . But would you trust ai with your kids like now again ?
Not ai today , but now a more evolved ai that is programmed correctly , with non-bias towards anything well , I'm not saying it's not biased . I mean , I think anything's on the table because you've got to assume that there's going to be certain regulators with AI .
So can I program in Like this is how I want .
I think you're going to have some options , but do you trust it ? One and then two you're probably going to have to have some type of wearable , because the AI that's interacting with you is probably going to want to know your biometrics .
Yeah .
How you're feeling your heart rate . All these things Because in the future , I'm assuming AI is going to . I can see into the future , but I'm assuming it's going to adapt and that's the whole grand gesture here it's tailor made exactly , but it continues , it's it's going to tailor made things specific to like your child's learning habits .
So if they're at a certain area or that picks up that they're not learning proficiently in this , it's probably gonna give you more focus there , that's in good news theory .
That's probably what and that's actually gonna sell you on and , honestly , that's probably a good thing , because I wasn't meant to be a teacher . If I was a teacher , like , those are special people . I'm not one of them . I don't have the patience for it , I don't . So it's tough , especially with the new way of everything .
You should see him coach a little aggressive .
See you next year , buckhorn , get ready . I'm just not a teacher and maybe that does help . Maybe that does get that bridge across that I can't explain to them , maybe it does .
Yeah , they're going to sell it on the good things .
There's your problem , though , and we'll talk about the bad things in the next quarter .
But at face value if you trust it . Old man , jay's out , he's done . But if you trust it , I think there is benefit Because , let's be honest , ai , in terms of just facts and figures , it's going to outperform , oh , any human , any human , especially me , on teaching them math or proper English , and it's going to be more intuitive .
So I'm not saying I trust the technology , but I do think in terms of the learning interaction , it's probably going to be a pretty and I agree It'll pick up to like where their strengths and weaknesses are and focus more on their weaknesses , which is a good thing , yeah . However , it depends on what programs .
There we go . We'll pick up with that in quarter two . So the other part of this is we talked about the smart home , but how much smarter do we actually want , everything that we involve ourselves in ? To actually be .
I don't need my refrigerator telling me you already had two beers tonight .
You don't need your fridge keeping tabs on the macros .
So you know you already had dessert . I don't know if you need another dessert .
The last thing you need is your refrigerator , judging you .
Yeah , I already have a wife that does that .
He said it not me .
Erase that .
Edit button on this thing . Post , fix that in post . But I mean that's just the tip of the iceberg . I mean you got to think your mattress is going to be smart .
so they already have , I don't need I don't need judgment in the bedroom . More judgment in the bedroom if it becomes a mess and I think , I think that's where , that's where you're worried about it , because you're . Yeah , ain't seen you in a while . Nobody likes you .
I saw this meme the other day . It was actually real when I was distracting myself with all the time .
Make a good use of your time because of AI , without me saving from .
AI and I think it was a skit . But the guy says , hey , he's driving a Tesla , a self-driving car . He says take me to somewhere I've never been and takes him to the gym . That's like , I love it . Wow , the judgment , the judgment here .
I think it's pretty good .
Yeah , well , that's . It's pretty funny . I got a good laugh at it , but we're going to move on to quarter two here . But here's the kicker . So when AI does the heavy lifting , are we still the ones leading our families , or are we just along for the ride ? So now we're going to talk about the dark side of AI in Q2 .
So we're going to take a break , get right back .
All right , welcome back to quarter two . So now we're going to talk about the hidden dangers of AI . Remember , it's 2045 , and is AI removing the father from fatherhood ? So we talked about what life's going to be like , all these grand things that make life seem really efficient , like kids or kids' kids , which is going to be in 2045 .
Yeah , we won't be there . They're going to be Well you've got a lot going on . Cte is going to get me , if we're honest . But so if convenience is king , right , convenience is king until it quietly takes your crown . What happens when tech starts doing the parenting for us ?
So I got a funny story here Go .
It has nothing to do with AI , but it's this whole quiet kind of thing working in the background that eventually takes over without you realizing , and then it's too late . So early in my professional career I had a great boss at the time , but we did things kind of old school right Like . Our methodology was very process oriented . It was very by the book .
It was a really great process . But just like we're having this conversation today , everybody's tempted by the new , everybody's tempted by the cutting edge . And how are we getting after new tech ? And we didn't really do that very well in the companies that you know , in the offerings that we did , we did the good things very well . That was our strategy .
People , people , yeah . And so our boss was like well , you know what ? We'll partner with this company that does the new things very well and we'll continue to do the things that we do very well . And it's a perfect marriage .
Analog .
Digital .
And so they go together so well .
So that seemed , at surface level , very good . So we would go to meetings , we'd present to the client . They would come in and then they would be very persuasive and tech savvy and they would close the show with oohs and ahs .
Yeah , they would , I quickly saw this out , nerd you , they would out , nerd us .
I quickly saw this was not going to play out well , yeah , well , yeah , and uh , it all came to a climax and uh , these guys were in the dc area and uh , they like to , they like to party , they like to wind and dine .
They had a lot of money and we went out on their 95 , 100 foot yachts good lord , each one of them had yachts and it all had to be bigger than the other . We were actually in annapolis and they took us out to an island where we got fat on crab cakes and they fed us beverage , or they gave us beverages , and we had the time of our life .
We went swimming . Yeah , we did everything it was like because you're people , people , this is the greatest day . Who wouldn't love to do business this way ? And we've got played cards we may have we may have uh taken some shots of apple juice in the back . You know something ?
good , had a great day had a great day .
We get back to port and they fire us on the spot , on the spot and and it was like , hey , we just wanted you guys to have the greatest time last day working with us , courteous of them right , because we're going to go with these other guys , not because of anything that you did , but these guys that you hired that actually do everything yeah , we don't need
to pay , both of you . And so the whole moral of that story , which is you let the , you let the enemy in the back . They're essentially going to take over , right , exactly ? And and you feel like things are going well , but it's too late . What's your use ? What's your use , right ? So here we are . We're setting the stage with .
Ai got a very similar thing . Right now we're looking at fatherhood and parenting . What happens when ai takes your crown ?
men are very responsible , like responsibility driven people , correct , right , so like this is the way I'm supposed to be . I'm supposed to be a provider . I'm supposed to also be disciplinary and I'm supposed to know how to work every audio video in the house . I'm supposed to know how to do all the yard work . I know how to fix a pool .
I know how to do plumbing . I know how to do everything that's your worth , that's as a man . You have to be able to provide those things . Now that AI takes over , what worth do you bring to the to the table ?
So we're going to call that the slow fade , right ? So you , initially , you're like man , I don't have the mental energy for it . Uh , long day at work , tired things I'd like to do I'm just going to let AI raise the kids tonight . Long day at work , tired things I'd like to do .
I'm just going to let AI raise the kids tonight , which is not much different than the iPad right , you're not wrong . So it's like I'm just going to let them give it a night , then it becomes two nights , then it becomes three nights . Now it's become every night . So you don't know what AI is Teaching your kids or disciplining them ?
It's already doing it with algorithms and YouTube Correct . It's already doing it . Now it's even more advanced and evolved . And now anything that old dad's going to say well , dad , you're not as smart as the computer facts , it's not true ?
well , I'll beat that computer no , physically , I believe I could win . You put a fraction in front of me . I want to have a struggle yeah , we're don't .
Don't make me out math it , because the math ain't gonna hang in .
Add up for me look at you with the dad joke we'll blame it on ct it .
It's not going to add up to me .
That's solid .
We'll blame it on CTE . That's solid Distraction . Nation Talked about it . We talked about what all we would do with the free time . But the reality is we're either going to work more , we're going to doom scroll , or we're going to do some mindless entertainment .
Video games Trying to get to the end of it Escapism .
By then , AI escapism is probably going to be a whole other world , light years ahead as to what it is now . Have you seen that new movie with Chris Pratt ? And was it Millie Bobby Brown ? What's her name ? The Stranger Things girl ?
I might be too old .
No , it was just Brandon , I can't remember . But anyways , they put on this like headset and then they go into this augmented reality and then that's where people spend all their time , and so on the , on the in in IRL in real life . In real life , they're just fat turds that are atrophying .
They're , but in their virtual metaverse , they're phenomenal stud life yeah , they all . Internet they've done virtual metaverse oh , they're phenomenal . Stud life yeah , they all have internet muscles . They've done this multiple times . We're getting to the crust of internet muscles . Can't wait till we don't even have to work out .
And then we're not even judged on what we look like the amount of effort in real life to look like that .
How much are you getting in Bitcoin to position yourself in your virtual avatar ? Anyways , we'll keep moving on here . Probably the biggest thing is the manipulation factor . Social media already is manipulating us in ways and generations that we can't even begin to imagine .
Deep fakes are . How many reels have you seen where somebody's saying something ? You think it's them ?
I'll tell you if they didn't put this was a parody , I would not know that it was . It looks real , it looks right and this is just in the infancy yeah , this is the beginning this and the algorithms they , it , it's . I don't know men , because we're geared to men .
If you haven't already figured it out , the algorithm waits towards I don't know things that are probably not good for you . Let's just put it that way , it's true . So , women in scandalous clothing , all the world of sin sin , like all you got to do is click on a one . You're going to get it 15 times over .
You click on anything that's good you're not going to get that doesn't go in your algorithm , they're just waiting on you to , for whatever reason . Everything in my for you is hair loss uh , member , doesn't work . Testosterone loss , liver , everything is just feeding into me and they're hitting everybody with that . God forbid you look for a garden shed or anything .
Fitness these days boom so again , we don't have to explain it . You guys are living it . You know your phone is listening to you . Your phone is listening to you right now . We're just I'm glad you're along .
We're saying things . We're what we're saying is going to go in your .
You probably won't even see this , because we're preventing you from actually engaging in this and we're making you critical think . However , that is going to be a huge problem . There used to be a day where you had to do your . I remember growing up my dad would say I'd ask him a question . He's like , well , go research it .
And I actually had to research it .
I had to go read books With a book .
And I guess somebody can say , if you're looking at it with an encyclopedia , you're just really relying on the information that they provide .
Exactly . So you may be limited on the information , yeah , and that may have been programmed in a way to where the author wanted you to think . So it's the same thing with AI it's programmed to make you think a certain way . Same with all my Britannica books . There's a legacy to them make you think a certain way , same with all my britannica books .
If it was in there , if I could remember how to spell it and I could get to the . The thing I mean , that was the limited amount of information you had on it I mean it's uh , we talk about critical thinking .
That's , I'll be honest with you , old school alabama brain here . I probably didn't develop critical thinking skills until my professional life . And I mean I just I took everything at face value poured deeply into it , invested into it . Naive , innocent , whatever .
It's not that I didn't , I didn't challenge it , I didn't question it , but I felt at least growing up I didn't have to . But now , especially if we're looking into 2045 , like you .
No , I feel like you got to think about it , Like why is this driving me ? Why ?
Yeah , because there's more information than there's ever been before . But now there's somebody guiding you the information . And even if they're sourcing the information , like that's straight up , if an AI isn't sourcing information , I don't trust it . If it sources it , at least I can check it out and then be like , hmm , that's true .
Otherwise there's somebody telling you yeah .
Yeah , but our kids I don't know . I don't know that . They know that they're going to take it at face value , because they've never known anything Scrolling Scroll . So I know , Jay , your thoughts on AI because you use it . Probably zero .
You're correct .
But you're probably using it more than you realize because , it's taken over what's probably the like scariest moment AI has impacted your family , or or is the scariest moment that you don't even realize AI is having an impact right now .
Mine's more of a just listening and then magically that ad comes up . I mean honestly , I haven't , I haven't had a buy or sorry , I haven't had a I really like impact my family more . It's just all of a sudden I get ads on stuff that I was talking about or something like that .
I think , um , if you don't use it , then really it doesn't impact you that much . I think you have to actually try , but obviously every social media platform and everything on your phone is using it , so it is reading you , it is giving you what it thinks it's been programmed to tell you you want .
So I mean , that's my biggest red flag of it is if I have a conversation about hair loss . Now , all of a sudden , everything in my feed is hair loss . Speaking of hair loss .
Why is he going to bring that up ?
It was just a simple thing that people could relate to . It wasn't a personal attack well , I felt that way . Anyway , I think more seriously . I I believe like I'm more worried about my , my children and what they use , how they use it Eventually . How many college students or high school students don't use it to get through school ?
I don't want a chat GBT doctor , I don't , so there's nobody that can do the surgery that didn't use AI to get through school .
So interesting article . I don't know if you read it , but Bill Gates recently came out and you got to give the guy credit . Microsoft , whatever I mean , you know . Whatever , whatever your thoughts are on him .
However , he envisions a world which is not even in 2045 , maybe in the next 10 years , where AI has gotten so efficient and so involved that the need for work as we know it doesn't even exist , because we've rendered ourselves pretty much useless and based off of the profit that ai is able to produce . We live off now of shared profits from ai .
Exactly , and that's the world we live in . But to your point about doctors , right , I used to think that , like doctors , lawyers , all these professions were ai proof .
No , but those seem to be the ones that show me any go away according to bill gates it doesn't matter what it is , somebody will figure out a way to find the shortcut . I don't care .
I've worked with marines long enough and it the easiest way to get something done is to give it to a lance corporal , an e3 , because he will find , or she will find , the easiest way to do it with the minimal amount of work , bar none hands down , and you can take notes from it or you can try to fight it .
But hey , I need this done and just watch and they'll be efficient .
Well , that sounds like my kids Raising my kids . Well , we're going to move on to Q3 . But as we move on , if AI is taking over the basics , what's left that only dad can teach , right ? So how are we going to teach our kids , to teach their kids about skills that no AI machine can ever replace ? Talk about that next . So we're
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back in Q3 . This is what AI can't replace and why dads matter more than ever . So here's the good news Robots , artificial intelligence can't do everything . No , artificial intelligence can't do everything . Nope . So what can we do as dads right now to teach our kids when they raise their kids ? That is AI proof .
So what are you passing down here , jay ? Again , what I'll go with is an AI is meant to succeed , correct ?
you saying it , is it meant to succeed ?
it's meant to . However , the most of the lessons I've learned are either from my failure or from my father's failure . So if something is designed to succeed , then how do you learn a new lesson ?
That's a deep thought , explain it .
It is Like I have failed many times in my life , had to pick myself up and became stronger because of it . If I have an AI telling me what to do and I don't fail , pick myself up and I'm stronger because of it , am I the same person ? Am I as strong as I would have been ?
So you're saying if you never fail , you can never grow , learn , or if you never , let's put it this way If you don't have the ability to fail because AI is helping you . Even though it does fail , it doesn't acknowledge failure .
Well , it does , let's position it that way . But when you're transitioning from writing an essay to being a father , there is a certain amount of failure and eventually you get to a point where I I've made a mistake . I have to grow from this . There's not an ai that can teach you that .
There's a father and as far as I know , in my entire life , the only person in the world that wanted me to do better than him was my father . Everyone else had wanted the best for me , but they weren't a hundred percent Like I wanted you . I want you to do better than me .
A father wants his children to exceed everything he's ever done At least a good one , that is yeah . An AI can't do that .
Yeah , raise the bar . How can you make this generation yeah ?
I want , I want my kids to do so much better than I did . I want them to go . Yeah , he struggled , yeah , he did his best . But look where I'm at , yeah , and I and I'm gonna at it with fondness , not with any kind of negativity , like you did better than I did , unequivocally , unselfish .
Just love for their succession , their immense love for their succeeding in life , even further than I did . I think , I think that's how you succeed as a parent Right .
Right , and let's not underestimate the lessons that our children learn from our mistakes , whether we teach them or not . True Right , because there's a lot of things that I know you do , I know I do that Our parents did that . You're like I don't , I don . I know I do that Our parents did that You're like I don't . I don't want to do that .
Right , that's not how I want to do things Exactly .
So there's we'll call it unattended , unintentional lessons being taught , agreed , but then there's also those intentional lessons , which what you're getting to , which come from we'll call it lived experiences , which ai cannot , cannot do emotional , which is the reason that storytelling is so fascinating these days , because it takes people to another time , helps people kind
of like be in their shoes for a moment ai can't look at my children like their first heartbreak and explain to them why it hurts so much and then why you can grow from it and how it makes you stronger or how it defines who you are later on in life .
Like an ai can't do that because it can't feel you can program it to say things and mimic responses that a person would . But an AI can't read a person and deliver the emotional response that it needs to .
Yeah , the things my dad's always said he'd be like uh , probably screwed up here , probably screwed up here , probably screwed up here , probably screwed up here . But did you know that you were loved ? I was like yeah , every day . Every day .
He's like well then , if I can , if you , if you say that , then I may have made a lot of mistakes , but I felt like that's going to be okay , we're going to be okay . Yeah , If you knew that you were loved , because that's again . Ai can't figure that out .
So , if your children don't know that they're loved or they don't know how to express love and emotion and emotion , then that's , that's something that you need to pour into right now , because that's something that AI can't , can't replace . It can describe the feel like all these things in a definition , but it can't do it Can't spark that feeling .
It can't spark that feeling it can't know when your child just needs a hug .
Yeah , it can't show up , right . It can't show up at a football game . It can't show up at an important school event . It can't show up to the important things .
And it's affecting nothing , nothing , just being there .
Being there , right , that sounds so simple , right .
And it is simple , but a lot of us aren't doing it . To be honest , not even AI talk . There's parents and dads need to show up , just show it , just be present .
Yeah , we feel like we have to do all these things . Gotta work . I can't take over . I've got to teach them all these lessons . I've got to structure them a workout plan . I got to structure them a nutrition plan . I got to structure them a academic plan . I got to blah , blah , blah .
Let me tell you first , off and foremost if you do that , you will fail as a father Marinovich project . You've seen it Watch ?
it if you haven't , because that's going to be your fate . But there is power in just the presence , the amount of times that it didn't want to have me interfere or help them with the project or do anything . My children just be there , no input . I want you to see what I've done , that's it .
So if we keep showing up , regardless of what an AI is going to teach us , because our kids are going to have events , but they're still going to need the fatherly presence . So if you just show up , you're winning the battle . Yep , you're winning the battle and You're winning the battle . And that had to be 2045 . That's now Today .
Today , and showing up allows the ability to have these conversations where you can teach some things .
Impart some knowledge , knowledge , lessons learned .
Ethics and rules and have them accept it ?
Yeah , because if you're not present , if you don't show up to the little things , then why should they listen to the big things you're trying to teach ?
Character . Ai is not going to have character , so you can't teach character I love it you can read what character is on the screen .
But I'm going to say here we are , in third quarter , you're shifting over to a little more anti-AI . You're going with the old guy . You're an old guy at heart . Well , you did just crest a boundary .
You got me in my feels , man .
Now you got me all my feels , man . Now you got me all nostalgic . Old school well , I mean bottom line . I really and truly believe that there's no substitute for presence of a father . There's none .
And I remember when I finally learned that my dad wasn't superman and he wasn't invulnerable and wasn't like he was , had feelings and and I remember that feeling , but it was a he's not superman . And then it was oh , I didn't realize how much he did for me . That was a cost to him emotionally , time , physically . Everything he did to
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sacrifice everything just to make me smile or make sure I had what I needed . That's gigantic .
And when you get to that point in your life to where you're like I never like , because you know , animosity happens when you're adolescent you go against your father , you go against your mother , and then you realize that they were doing everything in their power to make you a better person and you're like I didn't realize how much success I have because of their
sacrifice .
Yeah , and it's and as you grow older , it's immense and have adult problems then you're like I know what they were going through , right I understand what they were juggling as they were trying to do this .
So now I know why they yelled at me .
It clicks , it clicks and we talk about this presence . But presence creates opportunity , which creates just . I mean , if you're not spending time intentionally in getting outside and experience IRL , that's in real life .
All of that sparks creativity , it sparks imagination , it sparks just the ability to think outside what somebody's telling you to do , and the more you can just create those experiences , even if you're not . You don't have to teach them right Like this , this whole , like I've got to know everything to pass down that passes through by just showing up .
It does . Facts I mean your actions actually probably teach more lessons than what you speak , what you do your daily . Wake up , your daily , your work , you come home , you make time . You let's go to the football , let's go , let's . Let's do this . Let's family dinner , let's sit down together .
It's your actions , but and an AI can't do that um speak volumes as far as how important they are to your life and how you are impactful in theirs yeah , so let me ask you this .
Like we talked this , it seems easy , it seems like things that would just naturally or get nothing is easy but they don't right , because now we're not describing the whole other side , which is everything that's competing for your attention . So how can you be intentional ?
What is the strategy now that you can set in place for your kids that they can remember and say , hey , my dad was very intentional with me in these things and I want to be intentional in these things with my kids , so they can be intentional with their kids and pass it down the line .
I've evolved with my kids , children's interest , um , my older kids , at one point in time .
I mean every kid goes through their dinosaur , this and that phase , minecraft , and I have to pretend like I understand minecraft or care that they've spent hours creating this palace , an imaginary world , but uh , like my youngest , it was dinosaurs , then it was Pokemon , now currently it's NFL , trading cards and anything autographed and I have everything from when I
was a kid , but I didn't want to get back into this , I didn't care about it . But again , showing interest in their interest If he wants to play basketball , and he goes . Do you want to go outside and play basketball ? Go . If you want to throw the football , just go . We play ping pong .
Whatever you ask , I think I adjust whatever my day is and , granted , this , a lot has to do with being a little older and a little more mature and making yourself not the focal point .
When I was younger , I you know , working 12 hours a day and I come home and my young , my older kids , would need something I probably prioritize myself because I was immature myself , but as I've matured , I've realized that they're way more important than whatever I have going on in my life .
So , making your children the priority is probably the best thing you could do .
Yeah , and realizing that you're not number one , if like my kids and my son's evolution of their interests , right , with all the technology that we have today and all the exposure of all the information that they can go easily find . But they're the same evolution of the same interests that I had when I was a kid .
Same evolution of the same interests that I had when I was a kid same trucks , dinosaurs , skeletons . That evolves into sports , basketball . Same football , same baseball into girls , cars , like it . Just it's the same evolution , they just have more exposure to different content and and it's .
it's different and they can be exposed to a lot of things , but in a lot of ways it's kind of our human nature to the difference is from when we grew up , though .
There were no answers other than what your parents gave you or somebody's older brother . Now there are answers , and I think we've given ourselves too much information , because now there's also incorrect answers .
So it could be the most basic thing , and they look it up and there's three different videos that tell three different stories of that answer , Whereas we can regulate what is the truth and what's appropriate for their age or development timeframe , and the internet or AI is not going to do that , that's true , and there's a lot of .
There's a lot of power , and I'm not saying just do everything that makes you feel good , right , but there is a lot of power in what do you ? Which one do you ? You know , once you get path , ethically , moral , right and wrong , but then like which path do you most agree with and what do you most believe in and what most meets your morals ?
Right , I think . Now that gives them ability to critical think right . You just don't want them to free fall right and and and lead whatever there .
But if they're thinking through several options and then they're piecing the information and taking the best of all and putting together their own conclusions , and then us as fathers come in as lived experience , wisdom being the key ingredient that we pass on , yes , you can do those things , but let's consider these things and then help them make their decision .
I think that's a valuable piece .
I think it is . I think , um , there probably is a father out there that believes in AI and is a developer of AI and then can believes that he can make it to where it's the end , all be all .
Yeah for sure , but if he can figure out how to program it and itemize it for a person because you , you are you and you can't I couldn't program a ai to get into your psyche and tell you what you needed to hear , pick you up when you're down , teach you when you need to learn , and then also grasp and understand when you needed a little something extra .
You're an individual . That's the problem . Yeah , the AI is not an individual .
No .
It's a set of ones and zeros .
Well said . So let's move on here . Uh , so we talked about things that we can install . So how do we put this in action ? Not today or not 20 years from now , but starting today . So let's get tactical . So we're going to take a break . We'll go to q4 , all right . So q4 , we're going to recap , and then we're going to put together the
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future-proof dad action plan . So we've seen the future . It's coming fast . Some may say it's scary , some may welcome it , but here's the mission . Dads , let's not get replaced , let's get sharper , let's , like we said , when the father leads , the family wins . So talked about this . Tech is a tool . It's not a replacement . Can't use it as a babysitter .
We can't use it as an excuse to not be present . We can all agree that we need to show up . So we hear this all the time set boundaries for the tech and the AI . But , jay , what does that look like for you ?
It's a punishment Because when you take those things away , you set a certain time . Then they feel like you're taking away from them At the same time . We've all used it as a crutch . I need to get something done . I need to get dinner made . I have to work a little more . I need to get something done . I need to get dinner made .
I have to work a little more . I have to get this done here . Watch your iPad , so it turns into a punishment . When you can translate or like , set an end end state for the technology iPad , phone , video games , whatever and go . Now we're going to go outside and play football . We're going to play basketball , we're going to go on a walk , hike whatever .
Kids not athletic or whatever , it doesn't matter . You're not athletic , it doesn't matter . Go outside , see something , Do something . Go to a museum and read something there it's way different than seeing it on a screen . Something there it's way different than seeing on a screen .
Um , I fully believe that that a break needs to happen , because a lot of schools now are okay , I need you to complete this much and I ready , so you have this many hours and then we're going to do our test on this computer and then we're going to do this on it .
I , if you look at how our kids are being taught , a lot of it is transitioning to computer-based Algorithms , yeah , so when they come home and immediately get on , whether it is to do homework or for recreation , then it's computer and screen until bedtime .
So now , from breakfast to dinner we've seen a screen , whether it had been educational or not , and we have to . Unfortunately we're in the position where we force outside that's facts .
You know , complete random fact I read something the other day that in world war ii the grenade . The grenade was shaped like a baseball m79 because every kid knew how to throw a baseball m79 .
That's the reason why it was shaped that way .
Facts fragmentation , grenade how many kids know how to throw a baseball today ? Facts we don . We don't have to answer that question . You know the answer . That's a good point . You know what I'm saying . They developed that whole . Thing based on childhood . Right Now they're designing it off of a space bar . I don't know . A mouse click A video game controller .
I don't think that would work .
Actually .
It's not far off . I don't think that would work .
Actually , some of the targeting and shooting systems are based off of an Xbox controller . Yeah , that one submarine didn't do well , but Lessons learned . Some gun systems on aircraft are based off of controllers because they know that the vast majority of experience and the familiarity with video game controllers makes it easier for them to utilize it .
So you're not far off that's where we're at , but it's understanding to know the difference between irl and vr . Another one make critical thinking and conversations a habit . I think that's a very important one . It's just if we lose the ability to have a conversation with our kid , our children , then our kids will also lose that ability .
And it's not pressing and it's not digging deep , but there will be times where real life experiences will come through and storytelling will come through that will reveal life lessons that will be missed , that they cannot learn through . True , yeah .
So every day when we pick up our son , we ask him what was your highlight of the day and what was your low point of the day ? And every time it's like some , but he has to think and effectively communicate what his high point was and what his low point was .
And we do that every day for a reason is to get him used to uh communicating with people in a somewhat professional manner to his parents . But in addition , if we go out to eat , I refuse to order for him .
You have to order your own food if you want it and if you want it a certain way because every kid's picky then you have to be able to communicate that . And initially , when he was seven , we had to walk it through , but now that he's 10 , like , if you want it a certain way , order it . You have to learn how to interact with people .
You have to learn how to ask what you want . You have to learn how to be polite , professional , and I think those are huge , huge , huge again in the development of social skills . Uh , tell me about your high points , your low points . Ask a person what you want . You can't look at a screen , you can't pick it off . This , you can't touch screen it .
You have to ask and tell a person what you want that's good .
It's good how to communicate . I'll start lost skill . So , way back when , in the beginning of this podcast , we talked about the , the kind of experience of if you were going to create like a tech free , day right . We've actually got the book elimination of hurry . It's a good book . I recommend you read it .
But it takes about taking a break from the life that we know as today and getting back to a completely just for a moment in time moment of your week tech free , no notification , no feeling like you've got to respond to something or being distracted all day , and it forces you to actually create family time . Hard part is I read the book . I did it once .
That was like the greatest day that we've had as a family . My kids still bring it up . The problem is I've done it once .
That was like the greatest day that we've had , as a family and my kids still bring it up .
The problem is I've done it once .
Yeah .
I have not tried it ?
I think it would be , it's tough .
It's tough , it's really difficult , but it's rewarding .
And the the whole point I'm making is think about the times which are very rare these days when you've had that day where your day was just so filled with enjoyment of being present in the moment that you get to the end of the day and 12 hours has gone by and you didn't even need your phone , nor want your phone , and then you finally look at your phone
and you're like man , I didn't need this all day , right , but that's not our normal like the first thing we do when we get out of bed , regardless of whether we're trying to be disciplined or not is we'll grab our phone .
Well , that's my alarm .
It starts that way . First thing and then it goes to Instagram while you're taking a dump . And then it goes to it's like you know , it's like not the same people , but it's that it gets your hooks in you , man and and I'm not here to like preach on like you shouldn't do this .
I mean , we're all grown people do your own thing , but there is value in doing that . It's hard , it's just hard . It's more of a I think it's more of a moderation , yeah , knowing when to put it down and we lose that ability if we don't know , if we're always consumed , then we don't know what moderation is .
Exactly .
So it's taking a break to enjoy it . You can create your own schedule , maybe once every two years that you do it . But try it , I mean there is value in it .
I'll give it a shot .
At least remember the experiences where you didn't have to look at your phone , and how much you enjoyed it .
Well , I remember how much fun I had as a kid where you didn't have to look at your phone and how much you enjoyed it . Well , I remember how much fun I had as a kid , we had nothing . Right A blast , but then again we also broke a lot of stuff .
There's value in that , though , because now that leads to stories and life lessons , stories , facts , so I guess what we're challenging you guys here , too , is that think of things right , like if you just show up right , we can agree . Showing up is the battle right , that's something that AI can't ever replace .
But if you quit showing up and if you're not intentional , you could lose your family . I mean , I'm just being honest with you .
I mean it's more hard now than ever . You're less of an integral part of it . You're a passenger on the bus , you're no longer driving , yeah , and I , I think it's important to always be the one that the the good captain that's steering the ship in the right direction .
And I , I truly believe that if you're not present , if you don't take an active role , then later on in life you do the woulda , shoulda , coulda , wish I , woulda , and it's too late then .
We go back to the story . You lose the whole business because what felt easy at the time was the takeover , yep , and then it's too late to do anything about it . As it turns out , other people will work , Other people will come in and take over , artificial or not . So , hey , we've enjoyed the time today . Remember when the father leads , the family wins .
Until next time we're out Peace .