Lisa and Benjamin delve deep into the nuances of comedy in courtship, from the pitfalls of misused humor to the magnetic allure of kindness-infused jests. They share their own adventures, where chuckles have built bridges and forged lasting bonds – and even recount an enchanting vacation episode that touched the heart of a stranger amidst a personal storm. In today's emotional dance, these love connoisseurs teach us how mirth and play are much more than mere acts of joy; they're threads that wea...
Mar 26, 2024•42 min•Ep. 183
Key Takeaways: 1. Establishing Friendship and Building Trust: Benjamin and I prioritized getting to know each other before rushing into anything, taking the time to build trust and a sense of safety within the relationship. 2. Nurturing Dreams and Personal Freedom: Supporting each other's individual journeys has been foundational to our relationship. This includes providing space, respecting personal ambitions, and not living someone else's dream. 3. Reflecting Masculinity and Femininity: Unders...
Mar 13, 2024•28 min•Ep. 182
In this episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' host Lisa Shield delves into the important topic of breaking down emotional walls in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey and the transformative experience of opening up to her husband, Benjamin, and how this vulnerability brought healing and deep connection to their relationship. She highlights the importance of being authentic and emotionally naked in relationships, providing valuable insights into recognizing emotional unavail...
Mar 05, 2024•24 min•Ep. 181
In today's episode of 'Finding the Guardian of Your Soul,' Lisa Shield explores the intricate balance between commitment and freedom that challenges many modern relationships. Decoding the behaviors of men who might seem to avoid commitment, Lisa clarifies that not all men who appear avoidant are averse to intimacy. With personal anecdotes and two decades of expertise, she delves into the diverse motivations that steer men away from long-term attachments—be it the pursuit of a career, valuing th...
Feb 27, 2024•36 min•Ep. 180
Lisa explains that both men and women find the dating process challenging and that men today may feel hesitant to approach women because of a fear of being rejected or because of the Me Too Movement. She offers a personal and detailed account of her experiences dealing with narcissistic individuals and provides professional insights drawing from her own struggles. Lisa shares how a willingness to face the worst parts of herself led her to a fulfilling and enduring 21-year marriage. To illustrate...
Feb 20, 2024•49 min•Ep. 185
This master class is a life-changing journey for anyone seeking to find true connection and emotional intimacy. Lisa unveils the art of constructing authentic, positive online dating profiles that stand out while stressing the value of steering clear of negativity. Her unique approach goes beyond surface-level tips; it's about transformative personal growth and the proactive pursuit of love. Listeners will gain wisdom on breaking free from past patterns, reinventing personal dating dynamics, and...
Feb 13, 2024•29 min•Ep. 189
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: - Challenges faced when dating as a widow - Balancing the program's time commitment with personal life - The value of investing in personal growth and dating success - Feelings of loneliness and lack of control in the dating process - Finding confidence and determination to pursue love again - Learning from past relationships through the program - Overcoming grief and reevaluating life priorities after loss - Embracing femininity and letting go of anxious attach...
Feb 06, 2024•57 min•Ep. 179
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: - The paradox of choice and fear of choosing the wrong partner - Waiting for perfection - Fear of losing freedom and concerns over reduced time for personal interests and social circles - Anxiety about committing to one partner and losing the excitement of multiple intimacies - The desire for mental and emotional space within a relationship - The impact of childhood and parental relationship models - How past relationship traumas can influence views on commitmen...
Jan 30, 2024•44 min•Ep. 181
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Brief background on Elena being a past client and Heath's personal growth journey - Heath's desire to positively impact someone's life - The notion of their relationship being easy and fulfilling - Mutual acknowledgment and appreciation of each other's effort - The age factor and defying common perceptions - Elena's perspective on how counseling helped her and their relationship - Heath's insight on not settling and clarity in relationship intentions - Elena's...
Jan 23, 2024•55 min•Ep. 176
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - How control can affect a man’s sense of personal freedom and push him away - The dynamic where women try to control the narrative - The devastating effects of holding mistakes over a man - Emphasizing the value of space and growth in partnerships - Benjamin’s account of a past relationship and the importance of aligning on key life choices - Lisa’s insights on honesty, awareness, and the toxicity of control - The significance of forgiveness and overcoming cont...
Jan 16, 2024•56 min•Ep. 184
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Personal anecdotes to support holiday socializing as a means to find love - Advantages of seeking love through dating platforms during the holidays - Maintaining a positive self-talk and mindset while online dating - The importance of taking initiative in dating - The journey to self-appreciation and learning to value men - Practice and the necessity of cultivating skills for emotional connection at social events - The transformative experience of practicing e...
Jan 09, 2024•30 min•Ep. 182
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Impact of Lisa’s father's absence and behavior on personal relationships - Her realization about the impact of blaming parents for relationship struggles - Deciding to transform and not be defined by the past - Transitioning from blaming to taking responsibility for one’s own happiness - Lisa’s experience of rejection and fear originating from the father-daughter relationship - Her decision to seek and attract qualities in a partner that were lacking in the fa...
Jan 02, 2024•24 min•Ep. 177
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Caroline's past concern for approval and fear of abandonment - Her decision to take a dating course to improve her approach to relationships - Matt’s frustration with the non-committal nature of dating apps - Valuing communication and shared values in relationships - The two meeting through Tinder and developing a strong connection - Matt's appreciation for Caroline's directness and clarity - Caroline and Matt's decision to consider premarital counseling - Car...
Dec 26, 2023•53 min•Ep. 174
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - The role of receptivity in fostering healthy relationships between men and women - The connection between a woman's openness and bringing out the best in men - The story of Lisa’s initial reservations about her now-husband - The positive outcomes of being receptive to someone who didn't meet her list of standards - How continuous busyness and lack of time affect women's ability to be open to men - The fear of vulnerability and admitting a need for partnership ...
Dec 19, 2023•51 min•Ep. 175
What You'll Hear In This Episode: -Building a financially responsible partnership - Combining finances and removing barriers - Supporting partner during times of uncertainty and income loss - Success in dating doesn't require external qualities or wealth - Approaching relationships with spiritual principles - Foundation of kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, compassion, patience, and personal responsibility - Acknowledging past anxiety rooted in fear - Evaluating partner's principles, treatment of...
Dec 12, 2023•51 min•Ep. 171
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Jessica’s experience utilizing tools and knowledge from coaching to navigate dating experiences -Jessica’s experience with Lisa’s program as particularly helpful - Using OkCupid and Bumble for dating - Not taking things personally and avoiding overanalysis - Empowering women to ask for what they want - Jessica’s experience being a single mother and struggling during COVID - Her desire for a partner and modeling healthy relationships for her child - Tools and k...
Dec 05, 2023•47 min•Ep. 172
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Importance of making dating a priority - Toxic optimism and not acknowledging the challenges of conceiving after 35 - Understanding the timeline and planning accordingly - Settling and rushing the process - Relying on chemistry as the main indicator of compatibility - Rushing into relationships due to anxiety about starting a family - Neglecting personal growth and self-reflection - Recognizing past mistakes and learning from them - Seeking professional help t...
Nov 28, 2023•24 min•Ep. 173
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Partners feeling uncomfortable when not in control and sabotaging relationships - Self-reflection and confronting the darker side - Dating as an opportunity to work through these behaviors - Emotional availability vs. moving at a different pace - The significance of the spiritual component in relationships - Learning to give unconditional love to receive it - Finding a partner to respect, admire, and accept - Letting go of perfectionism and inner critic - Crea...
Nov 21, 2023•43 min•Ep. 167
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Zia discovering burlesque and being captivated by its freedom and openness - Struggling with embracing sensuality, sexuality, and femininity - Therapy, self-work, and self-love to deconstruct upbringing in a religion - Her journey defining success based on personal truth and self-acceptance - Societal expectations and the patriarchy's influence on women's self-worth - Stripping industry stigma and mistreatment, advocating for better protection and acceptance -...
Nov 14, 2023•45 min•Ep. 169
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Exploring the idea that men enjoy the chase in relationships - Examination of why nice men may not pursue women they perceive as difficult or complicated - Addressing the misconception that men are mind-readers and the importance of clear communication - Recognizing that men, like women, have different personalities and preferences - Discussion of a woman's miscommunication with a man and his slower approach - Acknowledging that some men may be introverted or ...
Nov 07, 2023•48 min•Ep. 166
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Fear of vulnerability and its impact on connection - The need to let your guard down and show your true self to attract emotionally available partners - Unrealistic expectations in searching for a partner - The tendency to look for stereotypes rather than real, authentic individuals - The drawbacks of finding a partner who fits stereotypes and lacks authenticity - The glorification of busyness and its impact on making time for a relationship - Overanalyzing an...
Oct 31, 2023•15 min•Ep. 165
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - About Aaron’s areas of expertise, including divorce, custody, child support, and pre- and postnuptial agreements - The importance of setting clear financial terms during engagement reduces marital issues - Fairer prenups lead to happier marriages - Discussing what couples want to achieve with the agreement instead of using the term "prenup" - Addressing the negative connotations and stereotypes associated with prenuptial agreements - Meeting legal requirements...
Oct 24, 2023•53 min•Ep. 168
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Fears of engulfment and abandonment - Concerns about compromising and sacrificing in a relationship - Influences from personal preferences, societal pressure, and family/friends' expectations - Exploring men's fears in relationships - Women's desire for traditional dynamics despite independence - Importance of being whole and complete before entering a relationship - Avoiding agendas and milestones in relationships - Potential mismatches and challenges in rela...
Oct 17, 2023•44 min•Ep. 170
What You'll Hear In This Episode: The concept of being "insulated" from one's body and its impact on connecting with others Embracing the senses and the enjoyment of being alive The importance of being present in one's senses Femininity and the power of sensual expression The importance of women exploring the world with all five senses Finding a partner who lives life fully in their senses Daily routine involving touch and physical contact A client story highlighting non-sexual emotional intimac...
Oct 10, 2023•57 min•Ep. 164
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Communication differences surrounding certain phrases, such as “I need time alone” and "we need to talk" - Clarifying the meaning of commitment with each partner - Asking specific questions to understand expectations and intentions - Regular communication and clarification to avoid misunderstandings - Importance of discussing expectations and desires for building a deeper connection - Addressing potential issues and clarifying intentions early on - Recognizing...
Oct 03, 2023•35 min•Ep. 163
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Dr. Fan's background, experiences, and achievements in the field of plastic surgery. - Factors to consider when deciding to undergo a procedure, such as personal concerns and desires - The importance of safety and understanding potential risks associated with surgery, especially for older individuals - Recovery process and common side effects of procedures - The significance of realistic expectations and maturity when considering cosmetic surgery, especially f...
Sep 26, 2023•51 min•Ep. 162
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - The symbiotic relationship between masculinity and femininity, and how they bring out the best in each other - The misconception that simply dressing up and waiting for the "right guy" is enough to feel feminine - Learning how to make a man's world bigger by supporting his dreams and aspirations - The tendency to build walls and become less open with age and negative experiences - The shifting of focus from masculine or feminine behavior to attractive behavior...
Sep 19, 2023•44 min•Ep. 160
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - The use of AI in online dating and its impact on profile verification and safety measures - The need for background checks and spotting inconsistencies in online profiles - The excitement and fear surrounding the use of AI in dating - Difficulty in distinguishing between AI-generated and human-created content - The prevalence and dangers of scammers using AI to create fake profiles - Possibility of AI relationship coaching and virtual chat rooms for communicat...
Sep 12, 2023•36 min•Ep. 158
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - About Lisa Y, a divorced mom and lawyer who is used to taking care of her kids and had rarely invested in herself before Lisa Shield’s program. - About her desire for change and not wanting to have regrets in the future - How she prioritized coaching calls in a commitment to invest time, finances, hopes and dreams into the program - How she met Steve, what she found in him, and what he found in her - Her moments of feeling discouraged but encouraged by Steve t...
Sep 05, 2023•36 min•Ep. 161
What You'll Hear In This Episode: - Discussion of attachment theory and its influence on partner choice - Highlighting the volatility and toxicity of relationships with anxious-avoidant attachments - Realization that chemical attraction isn't the best foundation for a relationship - Understanding the need to find different ways to connect with potential partners - Exploration of managing one's own anxiety and building secure attachments - Importance of taking time to get to know each other in bu...
Aug 29, 2023•30 min•Ep. 159
