What You'll Hear In This Episode: Janet had already done a lot of inner work, behavioral change, and meditation, but Lisa and Benjamin's course was different. How did Janet overcome the initial resistance to signing up and investing in the course? How working with Lisa and Benjamin helped Janet unravel her early relationships and let go of the stories she was telling herself. Janet built more trust in men for the first time and learned to be a safe space for the men in her life. How Janet's rela...
Jan 24, 2023•54 min•Ep. 127
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What was happening in Lisa’s love life when she decided to work with Lisa and Benjamin? Lisa talks about what stood out about Lisa and Benjamin’s message from the beginning and what was the deciding factor to invest in herself and commit to the program. If you are a busy woman with a demanding job, you aren’t alone. Instead of letting these things be obstacles, Lisa overcame them and finally felt understood. Time moves fast, and if you don’t take action, you may...
Jan 17, 2023•39 min•Ep. 126
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Cassie’s definition of an avoidant man, and how it differs from an emotionally unavailable man. The level of intensity is different for every man as to what they can or can’t handle, and what things trigger that withdrawal. How women can become addicted to how kind and nice he is in person, that they accept inconsistency when apart. You’ll be waiting for the last piece forever, unless the man takes some time to do some real work on himself. How working with Lisa...
Dec 29, 2022•51 min•Ep. 125
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Everyone gets rejected, even McSteamy. Being a “masculine man” is not about being impervious to emotions. Men are just as terrified of rejection as women are. How being afraid of rejection often keeps a man from approaching a woman, and what you can do to welcome the right type of man to court you. What Benjamin really thought of Lisa’s joke to him about “making the first cut” when they first met! When a guy gets rejected, he feels like he has failed. Most men a...
Dec 22, 2022•24 min•Ep. 124
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are the signs that the man you are involved with or just met may have a porn addiction? How is porn addiction different from other addictions? Why people can’t “just stop” their addiction, especially one to porn. Why men tend to have porn addictions, how it affects their rewards system and dopamine levels, and how it disrupts their whole life. How a man’s porn addiction isn’t about your flaws or shortcomings in any way, and how to seek treatment for yoursel...
Dec 15, 2022•38 min•Ep. 123
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: The natural progression that occurs when a man is into you, instead of things feeling chaotic and frenetic. When a man really likes you, things will feel more relaxed and open than secretive and mysterious. How throughout their courtship, Benjamin always made sure Lisa felt safe, listened to, and really seen. When you are the Guardian of someone’s Soul, you are looking for ways to make their journey easier. How a man will make physical and emotional space for yo...
Dec 08, 2022•29 min•Ep. 122
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: A few of the tell tale signs that you may have a fear of commitment. Almost half of all Americans don’t have a significant other, possibly even more in recent years. But what if I commit and get let down AGAIN? What about the notion that as soon as you commit, you’ll lose your independence? How being in a good relationship with a man that is respectful and your equal can actually help your finances, not drain them. How the company you keep can have a big impact ...
Dec 01, 2022•21 min•Ep. 121
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does it look like to be someone’s back up girl? But if I bring up what I need, won’t that make me sound desperate or pushy? How staying as someone’s option is a sign of low self-esteem. Do men actually know what’s happening when they put a woman on the backburner? Sometimes women confuse drama with love. Why you should never go beyond six months before saying what you want. How to spot the signs of a non-committal relationship. How to listen to your gut ins...
Nov 24, 2022•45 min•Ep. 120
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why do we hold on to relationships and people, even if they weren’t that great? Can you really let go of a relationship that you’ve invested so much in? What about the fear that you’ll never find someone like that again? A few of the many ways holding on tight to an old relationship costs you. How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you press the reset button and get REAL clarity on what you are looking for and how to embody the best version of yourself quic...
Nov 17, 2022•22 min•Ep. 119
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does it mean to be ambivalent? Why do many women make everything else besides finding a partner a priority, when in actuality they deeply crave finding a partner. What’s so good about having a partner to go through life with anyway? How judging men and being closed off to connections with good men is really a sign you’re ambivalent. How being afraid to receive can be a sign of ambivalence. The most extraordinary journey is to actually go out and consciously...
Nov 10, 2022•32 min•Ep. 118
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Love doesn’t have to be an either/or experience. In fact, good relationships should help you in every aspect of your life including career and spirituality. Isn’t a relationship all about compromise? The FIREWORKS myth, and why it’s okay if you don’t feel crazy sparks on the first date (or even the third!). A few listener questions and statements including one woman who is restructuring her love life, and another wondering where all the emotionally available men...
Nov 03, 2022•40 min•Ep. 117
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Wei talks about his journey coming out of a marriage and seeking therapy to get clarity and support on his parenting. This led him to feel ready to get out there and take the next step. The best relationships don’t always start out as huge fireworks. They build from a foundation of friendship over time. Leanne talks about how Wei makes her feel heard and taken care of. He is so thoughtful and truly looks out for her in a protective yet gentle way. What was it li...
Oct 27, 2022•41 min•Ep. 116
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How first date fashion can get in the way of making a connection with a man. What you or your girlfriends may think is cool and sexy may be overwhelming for a man, especially at first. What does a man think when he sees a woman that is overdressed? When a woman is dressed like a movie character or Halloween costume, men don’t see the real “her”, but instead an image or facade. How to embrace dressing with comfort and ease, but still look classic and classy. Okay...
Oct 20, 2022•41 min•Ep. 115
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: First, let’s define anxiety. What if you don’t really feel anxious in general, but just when it comes to dating and relationships? How anxiety can show up in everything from our thoughts, body feelings, or unprocessed emotions. The real cost of not dealing with your anxiety. Why do powerful and successful women still struggle with so much dating our self confidence? If the brain’s job is to protect you, why does it flood us with fear and anxiety? Lisa wouldn’t h...
Oct 13, 2022•32 min•Ep. 114
- Why it’s essential to learn about attachment theory. - What does it look like when someone is either anxiously attached or avoidant? - Why do women tend to be more anxious in relationships? - How do you know which one you are, and can you be a mix of them? - What are protest behaviors? - How Lisa observed a love bomber and got herself out of it with a clear conscience. - What is Lisa’s “One Conversation Rule” for seeing if the person you are dating is equipped to handle the tough conversations...
Oct 06, 2022•50 min•Ep. 113
- How to get into a positive mindset even before you arrive on the date. - Dating can feel like an adventure, it doesn’t always have to feel like you’re on a treadmill! - Do you really need a dating coach? How can it help get you out of your rut? - What does Lisa mean by taking the “feminine lead”? - Why are you repeating patterns or stuck in the past when you feel ready to move forward in love? - Sometimes moving forward can also look like stopping to take a break and reassess. - How to encoura...
Sep 29, 2022•45 min•Ep. 112
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: - How to create vulnerability in the context of trust and safety, without sharing every detail of your life. - Some specific examples of what you could share on a date that is vulnerable and will help a man feel closer to you while still leaving some room for subtlety. - Instead of interviewing your date, we learn to receive and reciprocate. - The art of playfulness takes away anxiety and brings a lighter mood to both you and your date. - Humor creates an instan...
Sep 22, 2022•38 min•Ep. 111
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does over-strategizing look like? How does it show up in ways you may not have thought about or noticed? Dating feels so stressful! How can I have fun and actually enjoy myself? How to make your texting more friendly and less urgent and needy. The less you strategize, the better you can weed out the avoidants and only put energy into those who match your interest and values. What does it feel like to a man when women over-strategize? Why is dating multiple ...
Sep 15, 2022•36 min•Ep. 110
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Is your version of how your man “should be” holding you back from meeting a really great guy? Why you should broaden your view of what a successful, spiritual, and wealthy man looks like. Benjamin is Lisa’s greatest teacher and the man who walks the talk the most of any man she’s ever met, but she had to do the inner work on herself to fully be ready for someone like him to show up. How does the 12 week Emotionally Naked Dating Program help women come up with th...
Sep 08, 2022•33 min•Ep. 109
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How does an avoidant man’s behavior shift from the beginning of dates to when things get a little more comfortable? What makes an avoidant man want to get in a relationship in the first place? Women rationalize this behavior more when he’s “nice”. These nice avoidants seem to have every piece except for the consistent interest and commitment, keeping a woman sticking around and hoping he will change. In the Emotionally Naked Dating course, you’ll hearn how to as...
Sep 01, 2022•43 min•Ep. 108
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Okay, so where can you really meet people out in the real world? How can you and your other single friends help set each other up? What about your friends already in a relationship? Working from home? Lisa provides some ideas to get you out of your home office and into a great setting to meet men. Before you give up on online dating, Lisa talks about some simple yet powerful ways to tune up your profile. The top 10% of men in looks are getting 80% of the reponse...
Aug 25, 2022•44 min•Ep. 107
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How do you even know if you’re settling? What does it look / feel like? Why do men settle, and how is it different from the reasons women settle? How settling sets us up for a feedback loop of losing self confidence and self-esteem. Why staying in a relationship hoping the other person will change is a dead end street! Benjamin and Lisa talk about a client who settled for more than 30 years and was finally able to see the light and leave. What does it mean to “m...
Aug 18, 2022•28 min•Ep. 106
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How having a roadmap can help lead you to answer the age old question, “where are all the good men at?!” Most people are like teenagers when it comes to dating. Why being accomplished, attractive, and available isn’t enough for finding love, based in respect and friendship. Lisa talks about how she gained the emotional maturity she needed in order to find the mature love she wanted. What is the cost of not having a roadmap to love? Why just learning information ...
Aug 11, 2022•25 min•Ep. 105
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why shame is one of the worst things a man can feel. Men want to be a woman’s hero, and when it’s mirrored back to them that it’s not happening, they feel like total failures. Why shame for men and fear for women can be such big driving emotions. From breathing to posture, how does a man shut down when asked to process? How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you get to more connection, compassion, and empathy in your relationship. Real life examples of coup...
Aug 04, 2022•28 min•Ep. 104
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why are men on the market so quickly after losing a partner? What is toxic masculinity and is it showing up in my relationships and dating? What do I do if I think the guy I’m seeing is using me as a crutch/rebound? But won’t he love me more if I’m there to help him deal with his trauma? Should I invest in a man straight off a divorce, going through a divorce, or someone who’s newly widowed? How can our dating profile and photos help attract men who are truly av...
Aug 02, 2022•39 min•Ep. 103
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Feeling chemistry is great, but that doesn’t mean it’s the foundation for a healthy relationship or partnership. Lisa and Benjamin both give examples of times they rushed into relationships and the lessons it taught them. If you are a woman of child bearing years that doesn’t want to waste your time, finding a top notch coach like Lisa and Benjamin will literally change your life. Why do men tend to rush into relationships, and how is that different from why wom...
Jul 28, 2022•43 min•Ep. 102
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Lisa talks about the difference in how she used to receive criticism, and the way she receives it today. How you can become more confident with your stronger qualities, and the things you struggle with as well. Nobody is perfect, and that should make you feel better about embracing who you are as an authentic, flawed, but beautiful human. Lisa talks about seeing the qualities from her father in herself, and the challenge to make an intentional effort to be her h...
Jul 26, 2022•23 min•Ep. 101
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does a Dating Coach say when guys ask them what line of work they’re in? How does Cassie’s job differ now then when she was in charge of a classroom as a teacher? Men are so afraid of being rejected and… so are women! Why it’s so important to stop making up stories about attractive people. They truly are just like everybody else. One response can either draw a man closer or push him away. What are the ways we shame a man that we may not even be conscious of...
Jul 21, 2022•37 min•Ep. 100
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: The most popular dating app is Tinder. But can you really find love on it? How do you determine which dating app is right for you? Some ways to make the most of your experience, no matter what app you are on. The importance of not telling yourself a story about one site being “good” and the others being “bad”. The app experience can be very different depending on what city or part of the country you live in. Some tips for staying safe and not getting catfished, ...
Jul 19, 2022•20 min•Ep. 99
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Rules are somewhat arbitrary and they often come from our head, rather than our soul. Rules can be separating and repel people. They can be black and white, while a boundary is about communicating what matters to you in a way that gives someone the choice to respect it. Lisa gives an example of how Benjamin asked Lisa (nicely!) if she could change her tone, and how that was an example of him setting his own boundary. Lisa and Benjamin give some real world exampl...
Jul 14, 2022•26 min•Ep. 98
