What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Part of being an empowered and powerful woman is looking for what we can do to create a space for men to feel safe. Lisa explains how the labels we put on men as constantly being emotionally unavailable actually give our power away. We have a tremendous capacity and a gift for being able to draw out the best in men. How do we create that safe space for a man? If you tell him to be honest, you must be ready for what his true honest answers are. Yelling at him aft...
Jul 12, 2022•22 min•Ep. 97
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Our core values are what make up the matrix of our being. They are deeper than just thoughts or opinions, and our core values typically don’t change with the wind. It takes effort, but it is possible to navigate to the goodness of the person and see that both people are usually trying to do what they think is good for the world. Yes, it is very, very difficult for two people who have diverging core values to be in an intimate relationship. Lisa and Benjamin talk...
Jul 07, 2022•32 min•Ep. 96
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What is a boundary, and how do you know what your boundaries are? What to do when someone keeps testing or not respecting your boundary. Boundaries are not a one size fits all thing, and we have to learn how to communicate what ours are in a relationship. Men don’t like being told what to do (especially from women) so how do you tell him your boundary in a firm but loving manner? Don’t forget! Boundaries can change over time. What should you do when you want to ...
Jul 05, 2022•36 min•Ep. 95
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Annette talks about what held her back from originally signing up with Lisa, and why she decided to go all in. What made working with Lisa and Benjamin different for Annette compared to all the other self growth programs she has done? The characteristics and qualities we expect from a man, we have to embody first. What made sharing within the group of other strong, badass women so powerful for Annette? Annette talks about how she opened up her heart and forgave ...
Jun 30, 2022•19 min•Ep. 94
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Laurie watched Lunch with Lisa for a few months - what made her decide to take action and sign up for coaching, and what are the ways it paid off? Laurie’s training as a therapist allowed her to be fully aware and conscious through the process, making her a quick and agile learner. How did Laurie’s profile stand out to Jim and what set her apart from other women? Jim talks about the year-long break he took from dating to work on himself, and how it mirrors the i...
Jun 28, 2022•42 min•Ep. 93
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Find out the two different types of exclusive relationships: monogamous and progressive dating. How working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you focus on getting into a progressive relationship and find a partner who is ready to get Emotionally Naked with you. What are the consequences of being in a monogamous relationship for someone with an anxious attachment style? How can you tell if the person you're dating is ready for forward movement, or if they’re just m...
Jun 23, 2022•42 min•Ep. 92
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What is your “frenemy” voice, and how is it holding you back? How to silence your inner critic and turn down that critical, judgemental voice. It takes time to integrate new behaviors that align yourself with your joy, but ooh boy, is it worth it! When we're hard on ourselves, we also tend to be hard on others. Men can pick up on if we are radiating joy and happiness, and can also sense when we feel insecure and need constant reassurance. What does it look like ...
Jun 21, 2022•19 min•Ep. 91
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What does it look like from the male perspective when you’re constantly seeking reassurance? The more he feels like he’s walking on eggshells around you, the less he feels like he is the man who can truly make you happy and that is the kiss of death for any relationship. Men resent feeling manipulated or controlled by a woman. The more you need reassurance, the more he will feel like he’s doing something bad or wrong, even when he’s not. How to seek out healthy ...
Jun 16, 2022•32 min•Ep. 90
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Embracing our sexuality and sensuality at any age is beautiful and powerful. Who is Dawn Cartwright, and why does Lisa love her so much? Dawn talks about Tantra, and how it can be a way to explore our own sensuality with ourselves and our partner(s). What does it really look and feel like for a woman to be in her body? Lisa shares how she starts to notice when she’s living too much in her head and disconnected from the rest of her body. Men and women want the sa...
Jun 14, 2022•46 min•Ep. 89
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Ghosting happens, even to the best of us. However, it’s important to remember that you are still in control of your reactions and how you handle it. Even though getting ghosted can feel super disappointing, a lot of men disappear because they are afraid the relationship is moving too fast and they don’t want to anger or upset a woman by telling her that he doesn’t see it moving forward. Why do men sit on 3+ hour dates that seem to be wonderful, never to call aga...
Jun 07, 2022•30 min•Ep. 87
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Is respect really that important to a man? Why? Women crave love and being cherished, while men crave being respected and admired. What if he’s not the perfect male specimen? How can I compliment his looks? Society makes it seem like men don’t need admiration or praise when it couldn’t be further from the truth. What happens when a man doesn’t feel respected in a relationship? If you mirror back to him that he’s protecting you and that you feel safe, that will r...
Jun 02, 2022•29 min•Ep. 86
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why is emotional availability so important in finding the Guardian of Your Soul? What does it look like when a man is emotionally available? He ghosted you and/or pulled way back! Does that mean he is emotionally unavailable? Learn how to quickly pick up on if he is emotionally available, and recognize the red flags when he’s not. What if you’re not the one who is emotionally available in a relationship? Why a man who seems super interested at first may actually...
May 26, 2022•23 min•Ep. 84
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Wait - you mean women just don’t get to sit back and let a man do all the work in dating? There’s a difference between giving a man space and allowing a man to open up. Why is being accessible so important to a man, and what does that look like? A date isn’t about how to get a man to like you. It’s about each person opening up, connecting, and seeing if there is a connection of romance or even friendship that is worth your time. If a man isn’t asking you rapid f...
May 24, 2022•42 min•Ep. 83
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How did Lisa’s upbringing shape her opinion of herself and the world around her? Lisa talks about the inner work she did on herself to be ready for the type of man that Benjamin is. Yes, if you are feeling insecure and co-dependent, there is hope and help for you. How do you know if working with a love coach is right for you? Lisa opens up about a marriage where she lost time, money, and her own self esteem, and the steps she took to find herself and rise up to ...
May 19, 2022•47 min•Ep. 82
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Being sexual is a state of mind, while sensuality is a state of being. How can you become more sensual just by embracing your senses? While we can turn the sexual mind on and off, our sensuality is always there. You don’t have to have a “perfect” body or looks to be sensual. Men need a woman to remind them of their own sensuality, and help them embrace it. How did Lisa learn to embrace her sensuality and learn to become emotionally naked with men? Sensual doesn’...
May 17, 2022•34 min•Ep. 81
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: We are often disappointed when the people we are dating don’t meet our expectations, but we have to surrender to the process and realize we are not entitled to have them follow our unwritten rules. Lisa sees many parallels with the 12 Step Program and the dating process. What does it mean to surrender to the process? Knowing that we can’t control every aspect or outcome, incompatibility does not equal failure, and resistance is counterintuitive. Trusting the pro...
May 12, 2022•51 min•Ep. 80
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Benjamin came up with the phrase “guardian of the soul’ when co-writing Handbook for the Heart , which Lisa coincidentally read before meeting Benjamin! When you are the guardian of someone’s soul, you love them through their whole journey, even if that means you don’t always end up together. You give them nourishment, encouragement, and support. Lisa and Benjamin share how they each feel loved and nurtured in a way that their soul calls for. A Guardian of Your ...
May 10, 2022•39 min•Ep. 79
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Tara describes her breakthrough call with Lisa and what made her ultimately commit to the course. Tara had never had a serious relationship before and was wondering if she would be alone forever. The pandemic gave her a break to pause and ponder why she was choosing to stay single. What did Roy first think of Tara’s profile (written by Benjamin!), and how did it draw him in? Tara and Roy talk about their relationship dynamic and how they communicate with one ano...
May 05, 2022•43 min•Ep. 78
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are ways our anger pushes men away and turns them cold and distant? What are better ways to show you are disappointed and let down? When a man is scared of getting in trouble or being shamed, he will either do something out of obligation, or he just won’t do it. What causes good men to seek comfort in an external relationship, and what does it have to do with anger? Managing your anger does not mean suppressing it, pushing it away, or denying your feelings....
May 03, 2022•39 min•Ep. 77
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What exactly are bioidentical hormones? Dr. Prudence shares examples of clients who got back their life (and libido!) from getting their hormones checked and taking action. Dr. Prudence sees women whose hormones start changing, as early as their mid-30s. What are some symptoms of perimenopause and menopause? Dr. Prudence describes how birth control affects our hormones. Lisa talks about her decision to take bioidentical hormones and how they have helped her out ...
Apr 28, 2022•52 min•Ep. 76
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Why would Lisa do away with the therapeutic model of dating? What does it mean to take 100% personal responsibility in your relationship? Taking personal responsibility does NOT mean enduring any type of abuse. Lisa and Benjamin talk about the ways they “process” without the long and draining hours of actual processing in their relationship, and how it makes things feel lighter, adding to their level of connection rather than adding blame or shame. What is the f...
Apr 26, 2022•23 min•Ep. 75
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: We want to be optimistic and tell ourselves that we are growth-minded, but if we don’t have the right tools, we will keep needing to learn the same lessons over and over. Putting in work is great, but it has to be the right kind of work that gets the results you are looking for. What happens when you’re stuck in a loop, thinking that whatever guy you’re with now, is the best one for you? What is “toxic positivity”? And what are some signs that you are positive i...
Apr 21, 2022•27 min•Ep. 74
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: How do we maintain our autonomy in a relationship? What does it look like to lose yourself and your identity in a relationship, and how do hormones and anxiety play a role? Lisa and Benjamin describe a few typical scenarios that occur when the intimate bond starts prematurely. Once we become sexually or chemically bonded, we can start to lose ourselves. In a relationship where you guard each other's souls, you are able to surrender completely. A good coach can h...
Apr 19, 2022•33 min•Ep. 73
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are some of the top excuses women give for not finding the right man? How do you know if YOU are emotionally and spiritually ready to call in The Guardian of YOUR Soul? We get back what we put out. Lisa talks about how to shine your light from the inside out and become a woman that attracts quality men. Why it may be time to throw that long list of things your dream man will have, or at least alter it. Lisa talks about her experience where she didn’t feel f...
Apr 14, 2022•41 min•Ep. 72
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: When we look at most relationships, we don’t see the kind of love that TV and the movies have told us we deserve. How does the fantasy of love leave people disappointed, when in actuality it’s the deep connection and friendship that is really what should be sought after? Working with Lisa and Benjamin can help you get out of the fantasy world and into the right steps that you need to attract the Guardian of Your Soul. Disney movies and romantic comedies show cou...
Apr 12, 2022•38 min•Ep. 71
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: What are the ways we self-sabotage our own success, whether it’s in a career, or finding and keeping a good man. How can you get past self-sabotage? Why do we even self-sabotage ourselves in the first place? We want these great love affairs and dream of the perfect man, but if you aren’t ready for it, you’ll push him away without even realizing it. Lisa talks about seeking support for her body image and eating issues, and how it brought her confidence and freedo...
Apr 07, 2022•29 min•Ep. 70
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: From The Four Agreements, not taking anything personally and not making assumptions are such powerful habits for dating. Why women find it so difficult to date multiple men at once in the early stages, and a reminder that you aren’t doing anything wrong if you haven’t had the exclusivity agreement yet. Do you need to tell all the guys you are dating that you are also seeing others? How to stay organized with the men you are dating and keep track of their details...
Apr 05, 2022•39 min•Ep. 69
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: When looking for a coach or mentor, be sure to choose someone who has something you want, who can model how they got there and they do it in a style that speaks to you. Lisa talks about a client who needed to realize that being in a relationship was going to add way more to her life than be a burden to her. What is the problem with the therapeutic model of relationships? Are you really doing the evolved work to bring in the Guardian of Your Soul, or are you wast...
Mar 31, 2022•30 min•Ep. 68
What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Instead of realizing that it is their pattern and their doing, avoidant men will often lead women to believe it’s their fault. The cycle of a man leaving when he feels claustrophobic then running back to their ex, then back and forth again, is maddening! What can you do about it? How this behavior can also be a way of self-sabotage and proving that there is no one to love or love them. What are some tools to further understand avoidant relationships? What’s unde...
Mar 29, 2022•33 min•Ep. 67
This week, Lisa welcomes Debbie, a shining example of what happens when you follow the steps in Lisa’s 12-week Emotionally Naked Dating coaching program and put in the work. You find the Guardian of Your Soul, like Debbie did in Marc! Debbie talks about what made her choose Lisa as a coach, and how she was successful in business, took care of her life and seemed to have it all, except a real, true, loving partner to share life with. Marc details what in Debbie’s profile drew him in right away an...
Mar 24, 2022•52 min•Ep. 66
