We all experience Death/Rebirth Cycles in our lives, periods of profound transformation and growth. These cycles are often painful and difficult. In this episode I share something that has helped me to better keep my balance and move more gracefully through these times in my own life. Finding OK has a Patreon! Join for access to exclusive posts, pics, clips, and even the occasional video episode! Listener contributions are what keep Finding OK alive <3 https://www.patreon.com/HecateFindingOK ...
Nov 17, 2021•11 min•Season 3Ep. 8
This is a personal and raw episode where I share the story of one of my assaults. Coercion isn't consent. Two Hundred "No's" and one "Yes" is still "No". If you have a similar story, you are not alone and it wasn't your fault. It was rape. Your trauma is valid. Episode Notes: Consent: https://www.rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent Guest Interview with BardicSway on Twitch for RAINN Fundraiser - LIMITED TIME ONLY This is me! Talking! with my FACE! Join Twitch to join me for livestreams! @Hecate_F...
Sep 02, 2021•58 min•Season 3Ep. 7
Join me for a beautiful talk with Sandra Cooze. Sandra is an intuitive mentor and coach, spiritual advisor, advanced soul realignment practitioner, jewelry designer, loving wife and mother, and the author of, “Journey to Your Self, How to Heal from Trauma, Written by Someone Who Did”. We discuss her book, her healing journey, her coaching practice, crystal healing, reiki, TIR trigger release, ancestral healing, and the Akashic records. I forgot to mention it in the episode but Finding OK is 2 ye...
Aug 11, 2021•2 hr 2 min•Season 3Ep. 6
Sage rejoins me for this episode as we laugh and cover some pretty intense subjects. We discuss post-trauma kink shaming, sex, sexuality, and physical responses. We are sexual beings and trauma can affect us all in very different ways! You are valid and however you get down is valid as long as you're not harming others without their consent! Episode Note: Bailey Sarian - who we mentioned in the episode https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtNdVINwfYFTQEEZgMiQ8FA Teeth (2008) - TW for movie and artic...
Jul 26, 2021•1 hr 37 min•Season 3Ep. 5
Letters for the Fire is an invitation for survivors to write a letter to their rapist or abuser and send it to me. It is one of the deepest honors of my life to hold this space. I want to find more ways to help facilitate healing, to help survivors find their strength, and to help them feel connected, seen, and held. Letters for the fire feels like a part of that and if it feels right for you I hope you’ll entrust me with your letter. Include instructions in the subject of your email - "Read in ...
Jul 07, 2021•8 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Cara Elizabeth is the creator of the Animal Pharmacy Deck. Cara is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and when she couldn't find the healing tools that worked for her she created her own. . Cara Elizabeth is an artist who resides in Brooklyn. She received her Bachelor's degree from Massachusetts College of Art and Design with a focus in Painting and her MFA in Experimental Animation from CalArts. She is a Baháʼí and grew up in a Baháʼí family, which fostered her search to independently investi...
Jun 23, 2021•1 hr 41 min•Season 3Ep. 3
NJ Lechnir joins me to discuss his book, "Addiction, Loss and Recovery: How to Deeply Understand the Mindset of Addictive Behavior and Win the Battle". NJ shares the difficulties of growing up with an alcoholic father, his struggles with anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts, and how he has transformed former areas of insecurity into strengths that he shares with others. NJ is the author of two self-published books titled, Addiction Loss and Recovery: How to Deeply Understand the Mindset of...
Jun 09, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Welcome to Season 3! In today's episode I thank everyone who has made Finding OK possible, I share what I got up to on my break, and let you know about some changes with the podcast moving forward. I'm back! Ramshackle Glory https://ramshackleglory.bandcamp.com/ Talk Shit With P - guest episodes https://open.spotify.com/episode/6RkdAR4VdWydlhdSU5yBEx https://open.spotify.com/episode/6RkdAR4VdWydlhdSU5yBEx BishPuddin666 on Twitch https://www.twitch.tv/bishpuddin666 Sway_ASMR on Twitch https://www...
May 26, 2021•26 min•Season 3Ep. 1
Jackie Roby shares her healing journey and the work she does in the world with healing and wellness travel. Jackie and I discuss the importance of asking for help, showing up authentically in personal and professional spaces, secret keeping and communication in families, healing from childhood sexual abuse, diversity, and anti-racism work. She shares how healing and wellness travel has transformed her life and helped her heal and release shame. Jackie is a speaker, podcaster, writer, solution st...
Mar 31, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 32
Santéresa shares her story of trauma and healing, her experience reporting rape and going through the justice system, and she discusses her beautiful book, "Releasing My Secret: A 30 Day Devotional to Support Your Healing Process". She talks about her work at the Rape Crisis Center and how she created Inspired By U to help people become their full and whole selves. She also shares the importance of faith in her life and her healing journey. Santéresa Wilson is the CEO of Inspired By U, LLC, she ...
Mar 24, 2021•1 hr 24 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Eliot returns to the show to chat with me about various ways that the pandemic is affecting us. While chatting the other day we discovered each of us was putting the other up on a pedestal as a person who had been "productive" during the pandemic, and then devaluing our own accomplishments. We talk about video games, virtual community, social issues, mental health, productivity, neurodivergence, burnout, self-care, art school, sleep hygiene, and valuing yourself and your unique contributions. La...
Mar 17, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 30
Terri Kozlowski joins me to discuss her new book, "Raven Transcending Fear". Terri is a writer, educator, leader, artist, life coach, podcaster, blogger, and a proud Native American of the Athabaskan, Gwich'in Tribe - Raven Clan. Terri is a survivor of childhood sexual assault and trauma. She shares her healing journey, her reclamation of authentic self, her decision to be a survivor rather than a victim, her daily personal practice, and her decision to choose love over fear. Tw/Cw: Sexual assau...
Mar 10, 2021•1 hr 12 min•Season 2Ep. 29
Finding OK will be finishing Season 2 at the end of this month and I will be taking a break before returning with Season 3 in late May! There are lots of new and exciting things happening with the podcast and new ways you can connect with me! Finding OK is now the #1 Mental Health Podcast in Jamaica! Support the show
Mar 03, 2021•9 min•Season 2Ep. 28
Cailin returns to share new aspects of their healing journey! Cailin has started Equine Therapy and we also discuss the important role that Yoga plays in their life and healing. Join us for a conversation about somatic alternatives or additions to talk therapy. Support the show
Feb 24, 2021•1 hr 22 min•Season 2Ep. 27
Jacquelyn Weis is the author of, "Healing the Survivors - 8 Steps to Whole-Self Healing". She is a member of the Northwestern Band Shoshone Nation, a Certified Emotion Code Practitioner, Body Code Practitioner, T3 Therapist, Native Herbalist, Native Holistic Healer, mother, and wife. Jacquelyn shares how strong women, community support, cultural practices, and holistic healing modalities saved her life and helped her heal after her traumas. We discuss generational/ancestral trauma, the Missing a...
Feb 17, 2021•1 hr 20 min•Season 2Ep. 26
Lily Sage and I discuss the ways that our current punitive judicial system fails all of us, especially the marginalized and survivors of sexual assault, and we discuss Restorative Justice as a potential alternative. Lily and I continue our discussion about Restorative Justice, what it is, what it has to offer, how it challenges us, and some of the issues and obstacles to implementing some form of it in our society. Land Acknowledgement - Lily is joining us from O'gah'Pog'eh or White Shell Place,...
Feb 10, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 25
Lily Sage and I discuss the ways that our current punitive judicial system fails all of us, especially the marginalized and survivors of sexual assault, and we discuss Restorative Justice as a potential alternative. Lily discusses a paper she wrote before the Me Too movement and how many of the concepts and ideas that were groundbreaking a decade ago are now much more a part of our evolving social consciousness. She shares her personal introduction to Restorative Justice, what it is, what it has...
Feb 03, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 24
Janitta Nichols is a speaker, writer, and the author of, "The Secrets of My Mother - Breaking Free from Generational Curses and Trauma". Janitta is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and she shares her healing process. Janitta left her career as a police officer behind to speak her truth. She is breaking the cycle for her family with faith, love, courage, and forgiveness. Tw/Cw: Trauma, PTSD, abuse, childhood sexual abuse, substances and addiction, depression, suicide, religion, spirituality, ...
Jan 27, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 23
In this episode I share a personal story of freezing during an assault and talk about forgiving ourselves for moments we weren't able to respond as we might have wished. I share a little bit about traveling in India and some of the safety measures I have taken over the years during my time there. I also share a personal practice that is a part of my own healing journey. Gulabi Gang - These women give me life https://gulabigang.in/ Chappal Marungi - Movement to combat "Eve Teasing" or Cat calling...
Jan 21, 2021•29 min•Season 2Ep. 22
Lisa David Olson is a speaker, creative coach, podcaster, comedian, and the author of the book, "Laughs On Wry - An Improviser's Memoir". Lisa loves connecting with people through humor, laughing, pranking, being brave, hot yoga, coffee, and embarrassing her kids. She is always on the lookout for more of her favorite people: weirdos. Tw/Cw: Trauma, abuse, child abuse, PTSD, alcoholism, substances, death, weight, and the pandemic. Website http://www.lisadavidolson.com/ Laughs on Wry - An Improvis...
Jan 13, 2021•1 hr 33 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Bailee Noella is the author of "bathtub in flames" and creator of Cyno Apparel, the streetwear line taking shame out of mental health conditions. Join me as I talk to her about her writing process and her healing process. Tw/Cw: Trauma, abuse, childhood sexual assault, OCD, PTSD, substances, the pandemic, racism and sexism in Medicine, and spirituality. bathtub in flames: https://www.amazon.com/bathtub-flames-Bailee-Noella-ebook/dp/B08Q8HJ8TD/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=bathtub+in+flames+ba...
Jan 06, 2021•1 hr 26 min•Season 2Ep. 20
The experience of awe is a rarely discussed but incredibly powerful part of growth and healing. In this episode I discuss the benefits of awe, I torture some metaphors, give you some ideas of how to seek out awe in your daily life, and share some of my most memorable experiences of awe that transformed my life or stuck with me over the years. Tw/Cw: Trauma, abuse, PTSD, spirituality, and a metaphor involving hypothermia Articles and research on awe: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/...
Dec 31, 2020•27 min•Season 2Ep. 19
Kim and I talk movies and have some laughs. In this episode we cover some more movies with strong women. I talk about a movie I hate and that you should never under any circumstances watch, and Kim introduces me to the movie trope, "Born Sexy Yesterday". Born Sexy Yesterday https://youtu.be/0thpEyEwi80 Support the show
Dec 16, 2020•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 18
In this episode Kim and I touch on some darker subject matter. I discuss my experiences with a human cadaver lab, responding as a bystander in a medical emergency, and using my words to escape an abuser. We also talk about how people respond to crisis and nerd it up briefly with Star Trek. Please pay attention to the content warnings, this episode is not for everyone! Tw/Cw: Death, human anatomy, blood, a story of a medical emergency, trauma, situations of trauma, molestation, stalking, and a si...
Dec 09, 2020•30 min•Season 2Ep. 17
In this episode I discuss the importance of creating and nurturing a rich inner life. I open up about how my own inner world as a child saved my life and use this example to help explain how mindful cultivation of inner landscapes of beauty and hope can be an essential and potentially lifesaving tool during times of prolonged stress and crisis. Tw/Cw: Child abuse, trauma, PTSD, stress, chronic illness, suicidal ideation, the pandemic, horror movie senarios used briefly in jest. Hierarchy of Need...
Dec 02, 2020•23 min•Season 2Ep. 16
Kim and I discuss some of our experiences with lucid dreaming and share some tips that might help you. I share my struggle with nightmares in the past and a revelation in therapy that gave me insight into a reoccurring theme. Tw/Cw: PTSD, trauma, substances, nightmares, death, decay, brief mention of psych ward Support the show
Nov 25, 2020•20 min•Season 2Ep. 15
Kim is an Audio Engineer, a talented musician, a pansexual trans woman, and the Queen of Memes. She loves black clothing, intense movies, video games, the NBA, and making her friends laugh. She loves her coffee sweet and her candy sour. Join us while we talk about some of the movies we love and the strong women in them that fascinate and inspire us. Tw/Cw: Substances, PTSD, trauma, abuse, domestic violence, and potential movie spoilers. Support the show...
Nov 18, 2020•1 hr 27 min•Season 2Ep. 14
In this episode I talk about why it's so important to find a way to release tension after prolonged periods of stress, and then I discuss our growing use of the word"toxic" to describe people and relationships and how it might be clouding our ability to identify and call out abuse. Tw/Cw: PTSD, abuse, and domestic violence. Article https://cerebral-sexuality.com/2018/07/31/toxic-relationships-vs-abusive-relationships/ Why Does He Do That - Book https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/224552.Why_Does...
Nov 11, 2020•17 min•Season 2Ep. 13
This is a support and self-care episode for the 2020 Election. For survivors this is a time of extreme anxiety, triggers, and symptom flare-ups. It is ok to not be ok! That said, lets talk self-care. At the end I share one of my favorite Buddhist mantras and lead you in some deep, healing breaths. Medicine Buddha Traditional https://www.google.com/search?q=tibetan+thangka+medicine+buddha&tbm=isch&ved=2ahUKEwjj-Yv4sersAhXLT98KHbHXBT0Q2-cCegQIABAA&oq=tibetan+thangka+medicine+buddha&...
Nov 05, 2020•14 min•Season 2Ep. 12
As the days grow shorter and the shadows lengthen many of us turn inward and sometimes struggle with some of the things we find in our own inner worlds. Eliot joins me in this special Samhain/Halloween episode to discuss shadow work and the dark parts of ourselves, meeting the challenges of this time of year, and to just have fun and shoot the shit about horror movies. Blessed Samhain, Happy Halloween, and Happy Dias de Los Muertos! Tw/Cw: Seasonal depression, anxiety, PTSD, suicide, death, spir...
Oct 29, 2020•2 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 11
