An intersectional healing podcast for survivors of sexual assault and any/all abuse. When survivors share, they share strength. "Finding OK" helps people navigate this difficult healing process. The focus is on recovery, self-care, empowerment, and healing. You are not alone.
This episode takes a look at the negativity we can direct at ourselves, the false beliefs about ourselves that our abusers can leave behind, and how important it is to take notice and root those beliefs out. Y'all better stop talking trash about yourselves. I mean it! New Webpage! https://www.podpage.com/finding-ok/ Support the show
My sister Chie and I discuss most survivor's worst case senario heading into jury duty: being interviewed for a sexual assault case. We share our own experiences with this process and share advice for preparing for and handling this should it happen to you. Tw/Cw: sexual assault, trauma, PTSD, Anxiety, abuse, the court system, mention of medical marijuana, mention of Eating Disorders, CPS, and stalking. Diamonds by Climbing PoeTree - heads up, this song might be triggering and make you cry. It's...
Annie Margis talks about her new book, The Ugliest Word . Annie is a survivor of childhood incest and her work is helping to break the silence and challenge the taboo. Annie and I talk about her passions and pursuits, how writing can help you heal, and the importance of connecting with other survivors. Annie's website. Please check out the Fact Sheet! It's an amazing resource! https://www.theugliestword.com/ An amazing E-Zine for survivors. This issue has a wonderful article about Annie where yo...
How can you tell if returning to your place of trauma will be beneficial? I discuss my own experiences with returning to my place, and share a list of actions you can take to make your return a healing and helpful one. Tw/Cw: Mention of sexual assault, abusive relationships, trauma, PTSD, dissociation, and panic attacks. Support the show
DeSha speaks very openly about her experiences with abortion. Now the mother of a wonderful child DeSha opens up about the difficult decisions she made on her path to parenthood while in a covertly abusive relationship and struggling with health issues. TW/CW: Abortion, descriptions of procedures, abusive relationships, trauma, sex, addiction, and substances. Support the show
DeSha shares more of her personal story in this episode. She talks about her relationship with a covert abuser, shares red flags, and reflects on the past with compassion and wisdom from a place of healing and growth. TW/CW: Developmental trauma, PTSD, abuse, abusive relationship, depression, chronic illness, suicide, addiction, substances, childbirth, pregnancy, abortion, Postpartum Depression, weight loss. Support the show...
DeSha shares how EMDR therapy has changed her life, what sessions are like, and offers advice for anyone interested in trying it for themselves. We also talk about some seldom discussed somatic symptoms of PTSD and trauma that can leave people doubting themselves and feeling alone. DeSha is an editorial & lifestyle photographer, and a loving partner and mother. Support the show
In this special episode you can adjust your volume, lay down, close your eyes, and join me for a guided healing journey through a beautiful moonlit forest. A circle of ancient trees is waiting to bear witness as the moon graces you with a healing gift of light. Get those tingles! Support the show
Dauntless is a nonbinary/trans photographer, parent of two, singer, gamer, runner, survivor of 47 brain surgeries, and all around bamf. Join us as we talk and laugh about some incredibly intense photography work we did together in art college called "Voice of the Survivors". TW/CW: Sexual assault, rape, stalking, molestation, abuse, abuse from an authority figure, coersion, substances, and reproductive rights. Support the show...
Welcome to Season 2 ! In this episode I revisit the Healing Affirmations that started the podcast in Season 1 and I introduce some new ones. I'm so grateful for all of you! Support the show
I talk a bit about what's behind the name of the podcast, and then walk you through a simple grounding and centering exercise that you can add to your self-care tool kit. Support the show
I had an amazing talk with Eliot, the creator of the Social Permaculture course, "Real Human Better". I learned more about what she's working on and what it has to offer people post-trauma. She also shares some of the personal work she's been doing, and explains the importance of approaching it from a place of curiosity instead of judgement and shame. TW/CW: Sexual assault, rape, discussions of physical altercations, substance use, violence, critique of religious institutions, systems, coloniali...
I talk about some of the ways activism can help shift the lens of our trauma and help us heal and feel more empowered. I share my experiences attending Take Back the Night marches, the way they helped transform the way I thought of anger, and the important way they helped me feel connection with other survivors. Tw/Cw: Sexual assault, use of the word rape, PTSD, and brief mention of stalking, molestation, and abuse. Take Back the Night Foundation https://takebackthenight.org/ http://www.emmasulk...
This is the beautiful daily gratitude practice that Lily Sage so generously shared with us during her Quarantine Support Episode. I wanted to make it more easily available for those who want to listen to it again for inspiration and comfort. Thank you again Lily for sharing something so personal and powerful. Land Acknowledgement: Lily is speaking to you from Cochiti Pueblo, where the language of Keres is spoken. Haudenosaunee Thanksgiving Day Address https://americanindian.si.edu/environment/pd...
This episodes explores Trauma Anniversaries; what they are, how they can affect us, and some ways to get through them. TW/CW: Brief mentions of the following: sexual assault, domestic violence, depression, anxiety, suicide, and suicidal thoughts. These are not dwelled on, but mentioned as a framework for discussion of coping with them. Support the show
Black Lives Matter. This episode is 8 minutes and 46 seconds of silence. That is the length of time the police officer had his knee on the back of George Floyd's neck. If you're white, I encourage you to listen to this episode and contemplate how long 8:46 actually is. This podcast supports the Black Lives Matter protesters across America and the world. End white supremacy. Defund the police. Below are some resources for funding the movement and for anti-racism self-education. Please donate if y...
Join me as I touch base with Cailin during quarantine. Cailin is a yoga enthusiast, dog lover, and a non-binary essential worker. They are a psychiatric technician at a residential drug and alcohol treatment center for women. Cailin shares what this time has been like for them and their clients, a bit about their past experiences with addiction and recovery, and their decision to return to therapy. TW/CW: Addiction, rehab, brief mention of psych wards, alcoholism, DUI, sexual assault, brief list...
Join me as I check in with my sister Chie to see how she's doing during quarantine. We talk about some of the ways this situation can be challenging for those who struggle with Eating Disorders, landlord nonsense and moving in the middle of this, grounding exercises to help with dissociative feelings and episodes, and how we're taking care of ourselves at the moment. TW/CW: Eating Disorders, weight gain, body image, PTSD, sexual assault, dissociative episodes, and chronic illness. Here are some ...
Join me as I check in with Lila during quarantine. Lila is an artist, hula hoop and lyra performer, currently unemployed waitress, happily married lesbian, and proud cat mom. Join us for a talk about medication misadventures, our feelings around productivity, and some good laughs. Lila talks about the challenges of quarantine, as well as the beautiful moments that she's creating for herself and her wife amid the chaos. Meditation apps list: Insight Timer - Hecate's pick https://play.google.com/s...
A quarantine support episode! Lily Sage and I check in with each other and discuss the unique challenges of quarantine to the soft fluttering of wind chimes in the background. Lily Sage is a Montessori school teacher focused on incorporating decolonization methods in the classroom, a wilderness guide and teacher, a Doula, Herbalist, Artist, Performer, and a sweetheart. Please join two old friends for a relaxed conversation about how we're staying sane in this very strange time. Land Acknowledgem...
I talk a bit about my experiences with self-defense training post-trauma. My sister Chie joins me partway through the episode to share her thoughts as well. TW/CW: Sexual assault, abuse, self-defense attack simulations and scenarios, and street harassment. Support the show
Chie and I talk about the flexibility of memory after trauma. We discuss what it's like dealing with repressed, altered, and recovered memories. Chie also shares a bit about her experiences with IFS and EMDR therapy. TW/CW: Repressed, altered, and recovered memories, emotional developmental trauma, emotional and verbal child abuse, and abusive teachers. Support the show
This bonus track is an excerpt from a conversation with Chie. We ended up talking about Star Trek Voyager for 20 min...it happens...join two nerds as we shoot the shit and discuss our love of Voyager's strong women, and how survivor issues intersect with some key episodes of Voyager. Be warned of spoilers! TW/CW: Discussion of Star Trek episodes involving PTSD, flashbacks, repressed and recovered memories, and accusations of assault being questioned and doubted. Support the show...
In part 2 of my interview with Chie we discuss eating disorders, the work she's doing in recovery, having healthy boundaries, having cis male partners, and her decision to leave the Shambhala Meditation Community following the reports of abuse there. TW/CW: Eating disorders, abusive teachers, cults, and abuse within religious/spiritual organizations. Support the show
My sister Chie and I talk about what was helpful and supportive after her assault. We discuss her decision to return to college after it happened, the effects of PTSD on her life, how it influenced her thesis work, and what helped her get through it. I share an incident with a PTSD trigger in a meditation workshop, and we discuss the importance of utilizing the Disability Department in school and communicating with professors. TW/CW: Sexual Assault, PTSD, abusive teachers, and a conversation abo...
A strategy for defeating negative, intrusive, and potentially triggering thought patterns. This includes personal experience with this practice, a brief explanation of Buddhist Wrathful Deities, and help brainstorming to get you started on finding something similar that works for you. TW/CW: Descriptions of imagined graphic violence (throat cutting), and discussion of triggering thought patterns. The article I quote in this episode: https://buddhaweekly.com/tantric-wrathful-deities-the-psycholog...
How your sense of smell is tied to memory and how this can affect PTSD symptoms. TW/CW: A non explicit personal experience of a PTSD flashback. Support the show
