Should firstborns always date lastborns? Are lastborn-lastborn relationships doomed? Or does it even matter? We’re finding out in this week’s episode, using research from around the web plus listener experiences (and our own!). Plus, a listener calls in with a PSA about gift card scams. In Updates, Ali & Erica both swung for the fences on Dating App Sunday and parse through the results. One of us already has a first date scheduled that we’ll be debriefing live at our show in NYC on January 2...
Jan 15, 2024•58 min•Ep. 152
Ali & Erica are answering your questions in a Hot Topics episode this week! First, a listener has a crush on a friend of a friend…does he like her back? Second, a listener wonders how to know if she’s experiencing the slow burn or just a lack of attraction. Lastly, a listener runs into an ex while on a date. Should she reach out? In Updates, Erica goes on a date (maybe??) and has a prediction for the future. We chat about our new years’ resolutions and debate a rising trend: AI girlfriends. ...
Jan 08, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 151
Ali & Erica are reviewing the first dating book Ali ever read (15 years ago!!) this week - Have Him At Hello by Rachel Greenwald. The author interviewed 1,000 men about why they didn’t want second dates and we’re debating how her findings apply to modern dating. Ali & Erica both identify (mostly) with The Boss Lady…how about you? In Updates, Ali & Erica both receive “Merry Christmas” texts from men past and Ali gets the ick on Hinge. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 36....
Jan 01, 2024•2 hr 30 min•Ep. 150
What is masculinity, anyway? How can you identify someone with healthy masculinity? How about someone who wants to equitably divide the mental load of a relationship? Rachel Sievers, M.S. - retired psychotherapist and host of The Answer To Everything Podcast - is here to help. In Updates, Erica gets set up from an unexpected place and Ali goes on a surprise first date. We also debate a potential scam that Ali discovered at a singles mixer! Where to find Rachel: On Instagram @ rachelsieversms , o...
Dec 25, 2023•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 149
Bela Gandhi, dating coach and founder of Smart Dating Academy, joins us this week to answer your questions! Tune in to find out why she insists her clients do video dates before IRL dates, one of the steps in her tried and true method to help her clients find partnership, particularly later in life or after divorce. In Updates, Ali may have discovered a Bumble hack and a listener may have discovered a Hinge hack! Plus, tickets for our upcoming live shows on 1/20 in NYC and 3/21 in DC are on sale...
Dec 18, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 148
How did 2023 go for us? We’re breaking it down this week. How many first dates did we go on? What lessons did we learn? And did we succeed at “more kissing, less crying”?? Plus, we’re sharing what you, the listeners, learned this year. In updates, Ali is feeling meh about seeing Billy Joel again and the ladies announce their next NYC live show on Saturday, January 20th! Snag your ticket at the links in our bios or at findingmrheight.com/live . Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 20. I...
Dec 11, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 147
In honor of our recently-launched mother/daughter trip to Portugal, Ali & Erica have invited their moms on the show! We’re answering your questions: everything from who our moms think we should date to their best tips for lasting relationships. Get a glimpse into our relationships before the trip and learn more about the itinerary at the links in either of our IG bios. We’re staying in the heart of Lisbon and then journeying down the Algarve coast in October 2024! But first, Ali has been swi...
Dec 04, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 146
It’s that time of year where we all agonize over what to get the men in our lives, whether they’re partners, brothers, sons, or friends. So Ali & Erica sat down with Sebastian Conelli & Robbie Nunes, co-hosts of the Loud About Nothing podcast, to talk gifts. The four of us reveal the best (and worst) gifts we’ve ever gotten plus brainstorm ideas for you to use yourself! But first, Ali hosts Billy Joel to cook together on their third date. Meanwhile, Erica deletes her apps and promptly ha...
Nov 27, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 145
Are you too picky? Ali & Erica aim to find out this week as we dive into a book that regularly makes the rounds on social media: "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough" by Lori Gottlieb. We discuss things that used to be dealbreakers but aren’t any more, whether women need to “settle” more, and how we each navigate our preferences in dating. But first, Erica goes on a decidedly okay coffee date while Ali frolics through a museum with Billy Joel. Timestamps: Topic talk ...
Nov 20, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 144
Are you waiting for marriage? Or just curious what dating is like for someone who is? Comedian (and Erica’s former roommate - literally, ROOMmate) Paul Schissler joins us to chat about his journey doing just that. We answer listener questions ranging from when to divulge to people you’re dating to how to ensure you’re on the same page with what post-marriage intimacy might look like. But first, Erica waves goodbye to The Folly and Ali waves hello to Billy Joel on a first date (and updates on Spe...
Nov 13, 2023•1 hr 22 min•Ep. 143
Have you ever thought that your city is the worst for dating? Turns out most of our listeners do…so Ali & Erica are putting that to the test this week. We’re “traveling” to different cities in our dating apps and reporting back on our findings - plus sharing feedback from the listeners! Did we skip your city? Let us know at findingmrheight.com/podcast . In Updates, Erica is unsure how to proceed with The Folly and Ali finally has her second date with Speed Racer…which was planned in quite th...
Nov 06, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 142
We’re back with the second installment of our fertility series, interviewing a very special guest - Erica’s doctor at Spring Fertility, Dr. Peter Klatsky! We start out by busting a few fertility myths and then get into questions from our listeners! Dr. Klatsky advises us on selecting a fertility provider, pulls back the curtain on egg freezing statistics, and so much more. In Updates, Erica has a second date with The Folly…but does she want to go on a third? Ali gets a date with Speed Racer on t...
Oct 30, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 141
Ali & Erica are taking listener questions (and bring back Weird or Nah!) in this week’s Hot Topics episode. First, we debate a listener’s screenshot dilemma and discuss setting boundaries in early dating. Then, we discuss how (or if) to tell a friend you think she’s settling. And finally, a listener writes in for advice on working with her ex who is dating someone new. In Updates, Ali has a very loud first date and Erica debuts a new nickname with The Folly. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at ...
Oct 23, 2023•1 hr 24 min•Ep. 140
Are you supervising your brain? Do you even know how? Kara Loewentheil , J.D., Master Certified Coach, and host of the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast is here to help. On this week’s episode, we explore topics of anxiety, particularly in the bedroom, and how to navigate through them. Kara explains how she worked to re-train her thoughts and we dive into how socialization impacts how we think. In Updates, Erica tries to plan a first date - but will she get any help?? Meanwhile, Ali closes the door on T...
Oct 16, 2023•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 139
Are you skeptical about life coaches? Rachelle Indra, who literally is one herself, was too! Ali & Erica are truly enthralled by her insights this week, so much so that we actually had to FORCE ourselves to end the interview. In particular, we dive deep into moving through heartbreak & healing going into a new relationship. We also touch on balancing self compassion with accountability and how to avoid toxic positivity - while remaining positive. In Updates, Ali reports back from her fir...
Oct 09, 2023•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 138
What do men wish women knew about them?? Well, we asked them for you (and pulled even more insights from around the internet). We hear about things like: avoiding subtlety/hints, how men don’t want to keep chasing you, and gosh darnit it’s nice to be the little spoon sometimes! But first, The Drummer’s performance does not live up to Erica’s expectations but she has another IRL experience to balance things out. Ali awaits her 2nd date with The Stout and has a new Bumble man on the horizon. Times...
Oct 02, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 137
Have you wondered what the transition is like from single and dating to being in a relationship? Author and lifestyle blogger Mariann Yip is telling Ali & Erica all about how she went from publishing a book about her NYC dating life to starting a family…all within a year! We chat about first dates, feeling lonely in parenthood, and letting go of what you thought your timeline would be. In Updates, we’ve got two new nicknames in play! Erica gets approached by The Drummer in the wild…but does ...
Sep 25, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 136
Ali & Erica are taking rapid fire listener questions this week in the latest Grab Bag episode! Topics range from defining “exclusive” vs “official,” determining if someone is ready to date, setting boundaries with advice from friends, to ending a date. In updates, Ali is crushing her IRL activities challenge (but hasn’t forgotten about the apps!) and Erica dips her toe back into the NYC dating app waters. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 21. If you'd like to hear our person...
Sep 18, 2023•53 min•Ep. 135
Jared Freid is fresh off his hilarious Netflix special, 37 & Single, and answering your listener questions! What’s the right way to set two people up? Are there certain dating app answers he hates seeing? And many more, followed by what might be our new favorite game: Pick The Ick. In Updates, Erica hears back from The Accountant and embarks on an NYC dating challenge. Meanwhile, Ali is feeling optimistic about her IRL dating prospects and has a date on the calendar. Where to find Jared: On ...
Sep 11, 2023•2 hr 41 min•Ep. 134
We’re talking finances this week, with Ashley Feinstein Gertsley, CFP and founder of The Fiscal Femme. Are you wondering where/how to start investing? And if you’re even ready to do that? Or maybe you’re trying to create and stick to a spending plan. Ali & Erica learn some things too as we dive into all things money. But first, Erica has an update on The Accountant and Ali is back from camp with some new girlfriends and a plan to do more IRL events. Did she complete Erica’s challenge? Find o...
Sep 04, 2023•2 hr 38 min•Ep. 133
If you knew you’d meet the person you’re going to marry in 5 years, would you still date? Would you rather win the lottery or find your soulmate? Ali & Erica debate some fun dating hypotheticals this week. Tune in for what Erica would say to a room full of people she’s slept with and why Ali would just break into song. In updates, Erica shoots her shot at the frame store and Ali is back from a whirlwind wedding in Poland. Text analyzer mentioned in the episode: www.textsfrommyex.com Timestam...
Aug 28, 2023•2 hr 30 min•Ep. 132
Ali & Erica are back with in-depth listener questions, otherwise known as Hot Topics! This week, we discuss: reaching back out to someone you rejected (or always wondering what if), managing emotions when someone you’re dating updates their app profile, & who should initiate a first date. In updates, Erica goes on a puzzling first date and successfully executes a DM slide after meeting a man in the wild. Meanwhile, Ali is live from Prague and chronicles her latest attempt to meet people ...
Aug 21, 2023•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 131
This bonus episode features an exclusive Patreon preview to stay on track with Ali and Erica’s dating updates. Ali recaps an awkward first date that never seems to end, while Erica finds herself in a scenario where she’s fighting her instincts. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight And, if you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone...
Aug 16, 2023•28 min
TRIGGER WARNING This episode centers around sexual assault. This week, we welcome on two incredible listeners to tell their stories. They each offer a deep perspective on both their experiences and their lives since - we can’t thank them enough for their vulnerability. If you’re out there resonating with this episode, please know you are not alone. There are no updates from Ali & Erica in this episode - stay tuned for a Patreon teaser later this week. If you’d like to connect with Caeli, she...
Aug 14, 2023•2 hr 31 min•Ep. 130
Do men really love bitches? What IS a bitch, anyway? And can we take anything away from a book that was written over 20 years ago?? Ali & Erica debate a list of “attraction principles” from the recently-resurged bestseller book, “Why Men Love Bitches” by Sherry Argov to find out. In Updates, Erica channels vacation energy with some IRL encounters and Ali prepares to channel Erica. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 29. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyon...
Aug 07, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 129
She’sssss backkkkkk!!!!! Ali & Erica welcome former FMH cohost Roark back onto the pod as our guest this week. With Ali fresh off a bachelorette party, the three dive into wedding etiquette (especially wedding guest etiquette). Can you ask for a plus one? When is it appropriate to leave a wedding? And for goodness sake, can we please stop trying to wear white?? But first, we’re catching up on Roark’s dating life, featuring a nickname OG listeners miiiiiight recognize. Where to find Roark: On...
Jul 31, 2023•2 hr 49 min•Ep. 128
Pamela Rae Schuller is more than one thing - she’s more than Tourette Syndrome, she’s more than her stint on Jewish Matchmaking, and she’s encouraging you to embrace your whole self, too. Together, we cover a wide range of topics, including dating with a disability, matchmaking, and achieving self-love. In Updates, Erica receives a voice memo from the Accountant (that she DOES reply to, for the record) and Ali has her first date since The Publicist. Where to find Pam: On Instagram @pamelacomedy ...
Jul 24, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 127
For those of you who don’t know us…we’re sharing do’s and don’ts on wedding speeches, from both our own experiences and yours! How long should they be? Are certain topics off limits? And can anything be worse than a 45-minute lecture on the Boy Scout motto?? But first, Ali & Erica both have first dates coming up! Ali’s is her first HingeX match and Erica’s is a blast…from Ali’s past. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 38. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before ever...
Jul 17, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 126
Things take a lighter turn this week, as Ali & Erica pull back the curtain on past embarrassing dating moments…and share yours! We crack up over everything from first date stomach issues to surprise queefs. In updates, Ali has a Tinder penpal (for now) and Erica enjoys some family time. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 39. If you'd like to hear our personal updates before everyone else as well as other exclusive content, join The Search Party on Patreon: www.patreon.com/fin...
Jul 10, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 125
Do you have updated information on your fertility? This week, we share our journeys discovering our own and Ali details her egg freezing process. We discuss seeking fertility testing, administering egg freezing shots by yourself, and navigating dating while going through any of this. In updates, Ali bites the bullet on HingeX and has the stats on her experience thus far. Erica completes a key part of her move to L.A. and shares some family news. Timestamps: Topic talk begins at around minute 55....
Jul 03, 2023•2 hr 47 min•Ep. 124
