It’s the social media sequel! This time around, Ali & Roark talk about how to navigate social media pitfalls while in a relationship and after a break-up. For example, how to handle a partner who refuses to post photos of you. When (if ever) to delete photos of your now ex. And whether you should block your ex. Before addressing these questions, and many more, Ali talks about BEING IN FRANCE (yes, we all are very jealous) and Roark talks about balancing her new job with her relationship. Tim...
Oct 04, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 33
This week, Ali & Roark tackle how social media affects early dating. Is it weird if someone doesn’t have social media? How do you handle someone asking for your social media handle before you’ve gone on even one date? And once you’re ready, do you need to discuss posting your new partner on the grid? First, Ali gives an update on the Aussie and shares about the latest potential matchmaker date while Roark complains about how tired she is. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at arou...
Sep 27, 2021•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 32
It’s another Grab Bag week where Ali & Roark take your questions submitted to @findingmrheight on Instagram. This round, topics include: how to move forward after a break up, dating in a new city, and setting boundaries in a new relationship. Before they answer questions, Roark discusses communicating her needs within her relationship and Ali fends off TikTok trolls regarding a text interaction with The Aussie. Timestamps: Weird or Nah and Topic Talk begin at around 27:30 If you'd like t...
Sep 20, 2021•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 31
It is another jam-packed episode this week where Ali & Roark dissect how to build the most right-swipeable (yes, that is a word now) dating app profile. They go over Ali's philosophy for which photos to use and debate the merits of various prompts on Hinge and Bumble. Listen to this episode with your profile open and see if you can upgrade yours! But first, Ali reveals a big decision regarding a current dating prospect and Roark discusses how she did in fact have to deal with Trivia. Tim...
Sep 13, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 30
This week, Ali & Roark are thrilled to welcome Jonah Feingold (@jonahfeingold) back on the pod! They had the pleasure of watching Dating & New York – Jonah’s debut movie as writer and director – and then getting to chat with him about it. Jonah shares about his creative process, tells an incredible casting story, and discusses rom-com tropes. Before bringing Jonah on, Roark has a big personal update to share with the listeners and Ali continues on her matchmaker dates. Additionally, they...
Sep 06, 2021•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 29
Hey Listener, big question for you… Did you know this is Ali & Roark’s tried-and-true Bumble conversation opener? Filled with practical advice, this episode is all about how to get messages going and grab someone’s interest on the apps. As usual, Ali & Roark both share their personal updates – including Ali’s first matchmaker date. Also, they both open the archives to share some OG phone-throwing moments. Topic Talk begins at approximately 22:25 Don’t forget to join The Search Party at o...
Aug 30, 2021•54 min•Ep. 28
Ali & Roark have a big one for you this week! First and foremost, they have launched a Patreon (cue the confetti)! If you want to become a Patron and have access to exclusive, additional podcast content as well as a private Discord channel head to this link: www.patreon.com/findingmrheight. Thank you in advance for your support!! In this week's episode, not only do Ali & Roark have some exciting personal updates (which even required an emergency recording session to update the update...
Aug 23, 2021•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 27
Ali & Roark think you’ll enjoy this podcast only if you’re smart, cool, and can hold a conversation. Did that statement make alarm bells go off? It should, because it’s an example of negging! (And to be clear, we would never say that for real, we love you all!) This week’s topic is negging: the back-handed compliment aka an insult that unfortunately permeates dating. But first, Ali & Roark start the episode with their updates – including an epic phone-throwing moment on Roark’s part. Nex...
Aug 16, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 26
Have you ever asked yourself: do they like me? If so, it may because you’re receiving mixed signals. Ali & Roark are here to discuss what it feels like when someone you’re dating is running hot and cold. They answer listener questions about the confusion of having a strong in-person connection but lukewarm texting; and what it’s like to date someone who behaves like you’re in a relationship but tells you they don’t want one. But first, Ali & Roark give their own personal updates as well ...
Aug 09, 2021•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 25
This week, Ali welcomes on Ilana Dunn of Seeing Other People (@seeingotherpeople) to co-host while Roark takes the bar. Ali has about a million personal updates this week ranging from ghosts to phone throwing moments. Then, Ali & Ilana get into how friendships impact dating relationships. For example: how to handle friends who don’t like your new person, and how to handle it when you don’t like your friend’s new person. Topic Talk begins at approximately 25:00 If you want to send in a "w...
Aug 02, 2021•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 24
Ali & Roark are back to answer as many of your questions as possible in another Grab Bag Episode! But first, both share personal updates and discover Roark has a lot in common with Ali's exes. They read a *chef's kiss* listener submitted Phone Throwing Moment, and this week's Weird or Nah triggers what will inevitably be a podcast mainstay: Ali's Anger. Then, in this lightning round they tackle: using a childhood photo on your dating profile, meeting the parents, when lack of...
Jul 26, 2021•59 min•Ep. 23
Have you ever been lovebombed? Would you like us to describe it to you? Well, Ali & Roark are here to do just that. Before Topic Talk, both Ali & Roark have dating updates to share this week! Then, they define lovebombing and talk about how tricky it can be to separate it from genuine affection and interest. Both share their own experiences being lovebombed and address how to set effective boundaries when you notice lovebombing behaviors. Topic Talk begins at approximately 23:30 If you w...
Jul 19, 2021•53 min•Ep. 22
I think we got a situation, here! Well, a situationship that is. Ali & Roark delve into the messy topic of relationships that aren’t quite relationships, but they’re also totally relationships. We said it was messy! As usual, Ali & Roark share their personal updates including Ali’s fun first date and Roark’s CRIME story. Then, they tell stories of their own experiences with situationships and answer listener questions about them like how you can avoid getting into one, and how to voice y...
Jul 12, 2021•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 21
Ali & Roark finally finish the first date trilogy and address after the first date. How do you tell if you’re into someone enough for a second date? Who should send the first text? Should the text say thank you or something else? How much texting between dates is appropriate? Who should set up date two? They address all these questions and more! If you want to send in a "weird or nah" suggestion, share your own phone throwing moment, ask a question, or have general feedback, you can ...
Jul 05, 2021•52 min•Ep. 20
Ali & Roark have wanted to do an episode focused on LGBTQIA+ dating for a while now, and Pride Month felt like the perfect time! As always, they start with their updates. Ali is *accidentally* perpetrating CRIME and has an all-time phone throwing moment and Roark ran into an ex at a coffee shop. Then, they have two amazing guest segments. First, Ariella Serur, @queerdatingcoach on Instagram, comes on the pod to have both an insightful and fun conversation. Ariella tells Ali & Roark all a...
Jun 28, 2021•2 hr 33 min•Ep. 19
Ali & Roark have an emotional discussion this week as they tackle grief in dating. As always, they start the episode with their own dating updates and delve into a canine-related “weird or nah.” The conversation about grief begins at around 25:30, and given that this can be a difficult topic, they both understand if this is an episode you’d prefer to skip. During “Topic Talk,” Ali opens up about her own personal journey since her dad’s death in 2018. She shares what it is like to talk to a n...
Jun 21, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 18
Ali & Roark thought discussing the first date would be two episodes, but turns out it is a trilogy! In Episode 14 they covered everything before the date and in an upcoming episode they will tackle after the first date. But first, in this episode, they answer a bunch of listener questions about going on the first date itself. Topics include: how to keep a conversation going and how to end a date before it becomes a marathon hang. Timestamp: Topic Talk begins at about 25:00 If you want to sen...
Jun 14, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 17
Ali & Roark could not be more excited to have Logan Ury on the podcast this week. Logan is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone. Basically, Logan gives Ali & Roark a coaching session as they talk through the three common dating tendencies that may be holding people back, how to keep your standards high while optimizing your search for the traits that really matter, and how to say "f*ck the spark" and find a life partner rather than a prom date....
Jun 07, 2021•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 16
Ali & Roark are together this week for a second grab bag episode. You read that right - Ali & Roark are literally together! They had a blast recording this one in-person in New York. Both girls went on first dates this week (some more promising than others), and Ali received an apology text from an ex from five years ago. After sharing their updates, they take a bunch of listener questions. On this episode Ali mentions her friend Brandon - the professional photographer who took our pictu...
May 31, 2021•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 15
Ali & Roark are back this week for part one of two episodes on a very important topic: the first date. In this episode, they discuss everything leading up to the date (part two will be about the date itself). They start off with updates - Ali had her first first date in a hot minute, and Roark had a non-dating related phone throwing moment. Then, they walk the listeners through how to get from in-app messaging onto a date, planning the date, and answer the question - is it ever too late to c...
May 24, 2021•45 min•Ep. 14
It's Ali & Roark's longest episode yet - and for good reason! They welcome on Ilana & Jonah, the duo behind the Seeing Other People podcast, to discuss everything surrounding being friends with an ex. The four swap stories of times they've attempted to remain friends with people they've dated. And they tackle several listener questions: such as the difference between being friends with someone after a couple dates versus a full-blown relationship, and how to set a boundar...
May 17, 2021•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 13
It is a Mother's Day extravaganza as Ali & Roark welcome their moms to the podcast! As always, Ali & Roark start the episode with their own updates. Roark has been chatting with "Hinge Standout Guy" and Ali has been having egg-freezing related phone throwing moments. Next, they bring on Trude & Christine! Ali's mom Trude and Roark's mom Christine share their dating stories, offer advice to their younger selves, and muse about the men they hope Ali & Roark will...
May 10, 2021•52 min•Ep. 12
This week, Ali & Roark are seeing red! Flags, that is. They start by defining a red flag: how is it different from a dealbreaker, and is a yellow flag even a thing? Then they go through how to spot common red flags in dating app profiles, in early messaging or texting, and once you've started dating. In the process, Roark reads Ali two listener emails. One wants to know how to recognize a red flag for what it is rather than thinking the issue will work itself out, whereas the other descr...
May 03, 2021•56 min•Ep. 11
Ali & Roark welcome their first guests to the podcast: their best guy friends Matt & Darcy! But first, Ali & Roark update listeners on their latest dating prospects and Roark discusses a potential hack to get around Hinge's "Roses" paywall. Then, they bring on Matt & Darcy! Ever wondered what it is like to have a close friend of your preferred dating gender? The four cover everything from how to tell a new partner about the friendship, how to navigate awkwardness, to ...
Apr 26, 2021•55 min•Ep. 10
Ali and Roark are switching it up and trying all the new things! But first, they have a rather long list of updates to share. Then, they introduce a segment where they ask, "is that weird or nah?" and answer as many questions as possible submitted by @findingmrheight Instagram followers. Topics range from middle-distance relationships to situationships to lessons we have learned from our dating past. Follow along @findingmrheight on Instagram to participate in the next "weird or nah&...
Apr 19, 2021•51 min•Ep. 9
As great philosophers once said, "If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends." The Spice Girls were right! Which is why Ali & Roark are talking all things surrounding meeting the friends. Whether you've decided to make the introduction or you've been asked to meet your new person's friends, Ali & Roark are here for you through the entire process. What does it mean to you to meet someone's friends? How do you make the invitation? And what happens after...
Apr 12, 2021•45 min•Ep. 8
Should you get back together with your ex? The bad news: Ali & Roark don’t know. The good news: what they DO know are some questions you can ask yourself when deciding if this is right for you. Using stories of their own and those of friends they discuss how there is no hard-and-fast rule, but there are healthy and unhealthy ways to make the decision. Have a question for Ali & Roark? Want to send in a screenshot for them to decode? General feedback? Find it all at www.findingmrheight.com...
Apr 05, 2021•46 min•Ep. 7
Ever feel like you're having a great back and forth with a match over text, but it just never seems to end with a date? Sounds like you're in a pen pal situation, and both Ali and Roark have been there, too! They read listener questions and discuss how to nudge a match into making a date without being "pushy." Also, they open up their own text archives and read through their experiences with pen pals. Want to find and use the pen pal text scripts in this episode? Have a question ...
Mar 29, 2021•43 min•Ep. 6
"If he wanted to, he would" - sound familiar? Spoiler alert: Ali & Roark do not approve this message. They debunk this dating myth and rewrite the common phrase to put the focus on communication and understanding your own needs. But first, Ali confesses she had yet another phone-throwing moment (reset the incident clock!) this week. And the girls analyze a perfect example of "if he wanted to, he would" in the Bravo show Summer House. Want to see the Summer House PowerPoint sl...
Mar 22, 2021•46 min•Ep. 5
Boo! Don't worry, this podcast isn't disappearing, but Ali and Roark are talking about men who did! Ghosting. One of the most common problems facing modern dating. First, Ali and Roark define what is and what isn't a ghost. Then, they share stories of times they were ghosted, and Ali reveals her tried-and-true "text script" for how to maturely confront a ghost. Finally, they admit that they, too, have been the ghosters. But Finding Mr. Height is a firmly anti-ghosting podcast...
Mar 15, 2021•46 min•Ep. 4
