A new chapter. A new beginning. Season Two. A new theme: Almost always done, because we never will be. Never complete, because our wholeness isn't found outside of us. And on this episode, we cover how to find more of that wholeness. The only thing we should question -- is our limits. Confronting our comfort zones with the courageous act of taking ownership of our lives and lovingly accepting self-responsibility is the only way to create lasting, actionable transformation. This episode calls for...
Jan 28, 2024•46 min•Ep. 36
We are always changing. Whether we resist or allow. Change happens, with or without us - But always within us. It is necessary to let ourselves let go of what we no longer need, bid farewell to what doesn’t serve us any longer, and step into an unknown future with bravery and hope. To all who have been on their journey of Figuring Sh!t Out in 2023, with or without me — give yourself credit, let yourself rest, and let your shedding skin & growing pains remind you: That there is so much left f...
Dec 31, 2023•30 min•Ep. 35
Imagine the freedom of living unencumbered by the fear of others' opinions, feeling rooted, grounded, and connected to yourself, your truth, and your exploration of life - where your worthiness is not a question, but a statement. What would you do? How would you act? How would you move? As we end 2023, many of us are thinking about what we want to release and leave behind, and what we want to take with us and transform into in the New Year. Today's episode is a beacon and an ode to that- illumin...
Dec 24, 2023•44 min•Ep. 34
We've all been there: one thing goes wrong, then another, then another - and we feel like a slave to our conditions, a slave to our mind's negative thinking patterns, unable to wake ourselves up or shake ourselves out of the rut we're in, and sometimes, the rut we are falling further into. How do you get out of that place? The one that feels so dark, so sticky, so dreary. How do you go on and show up with presence for yourself, the people, the responsibilities in your life when your thoughts are...
Dec 17, 2023•42 min•Ep. 33
This episode was recorded back in September of this year, but I found it in my audio-files and as I listened to it, I couldn’t help but know that it was never published for a reason. It felt as though I spoke directly to myself in my current situation — in the space between this September & this December, I have found myself amid quite a bit of career confusion, not having any answers or knowing what to do, and how to move forward with the unknowing. And it’s a reminder that sometimes - we h...
Dec 11, 2023•52 min•Ep. 32
Are you brave enough to let yourself change? To let yourself be taken out of the box of ideas and beliefs you cling onto, and gain clarity of consciousness, and the simplicity of presence? This episode is a note on allowing yourself to evolve, to expand, and holding space for the liminal space between where you are now, and where you are going. To hold space for mystery, and find empowerment in letting old ideas, dreams, and beliefs that we no longer identify with, leave us as this year soon wil...
Dec 04, 2023•46 min•Ep. 31
We all have a sense of timeless urgency. Are we running out of time? Should we be somewhere else at this stage of our lives? What’s left to do? What’s next to accomplish? An urgency that we humanly attempt to fill with more material things, and more material dreams of material things. The importance of integrating gratitude into our daily routines is something that’s been talked about time & time again. Having a gratitude journal, finding more to be grateful for, we hear it all the time - Bu...
Nov 27, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 30
When our lives begin to brim with chaos, when we are facing deadlines and urgency and getting ready for life's momentous next moments, we often feel endlessly confused, as if there is an incessant thought-loop that never ceases to let us know that we will never have the answers. These are the moments when we need breath, perspective, and patience. Knowing that there is an older, wiser version of ourselves holding our hands as we rise and fall through this life, and in the panorama of our confusi...
Nov 19, 2023•24 min•Ep. 29
To create true change in our lives, to become the version of ourselves that we wish to be, to shift our mindset from one of lack and scarcity to one of of abundance - it starts with the little actions we take every single day. The minutes that compound into hours, the hours that compound into days, the days that compound to weeks, then months, then years. If nothing changes now, then nothing will change. And most often, it is not a radical shift -- we will not change overnight & we do not ne...
Nov 13, 2023•41 min•Ep. 28
GET YOUR GUIDED JOURNAL! <3 USE CODE: FSO10 FOR 10% OFF YOUR ORDER @ I NSIDE THEN OUT HERE : Watch our conversation live on my Youtube Channel! ABOUT THIS EPISODE: How many times have you talked yourself out of an idea because “it didn’t make sense?” because it “never has been done”? What is a calling if we have silenced it for so long, we no longer know what calls to us? What is intuition good for if we don’t learn how to use it? And how do you find your way home to yourself, believe in, tru...
Nov 05, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 27
We all have an intuition that is bravely, uniquely, and quietly our own. An unexplainable inner wisdom, a sixth sense that can hardly be articulated. Our acquaintanceship with our own intuition is deeply connected to how much we know and trust ourselves. To listen to it - we must have a certain solitude with the self, a practice of discernment with our mental activity to know what is intuition and what is fear. We must strengthen the muscle of listening to our inner wisdom, and understand the wa...
Oct 29, 2023•40 min•Ep. 26
This episode calls for redefining discipline in our external world and understanding when it's necessary to retreat in order to continue expanding. What can you give when your natural energy stores are depleted? Who are you when you have nothing left for yourself, because you've spent hours and days and weeks saying yes - against your natural knowing of what you need? What sacrifices do you make to be what you find "valuable" in the world, turning off the intuitive compass that calls you to rest...
Oct 23, 2023•35 min•Ep. 25
This episode serves as a guide to understanding your limiting beliefs, shattering those illusions, and how to identify and live in alignment with what you want and who you want to be. Last week, we covered letting go of the past. Now, we forge a new future. This requires one thing - an overlapping element from last week's episode and an underpinning of Figuring Sh!t Out: Honesty with the self. In order to deepen our relationship with ourselves and honor who we really are, we must face ourselves....
Oct 15, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 24
In this episode, I take you through my last few weeks of navigating life & what it has taught me about: Moving on. Moving forward. Facing an unknown future with a bit of fear but a lot of relief - in knowing what you are leaving behind. Saying goodbye to your pain and to the stories it wishes to perpetuate. We cannot avoid feeling what we wish not to face. They teach us the most valuable lessons. They bring us higher. We are only as wise as what we learn from our suffering. Give yourself the...
Oct 08, 2023•48 min•Ep. 23
"It is truly a great cosmic paradox that one of the best teachers in all of life turns out to be death. No person or situation could ever teach you as much as death has to teach you. While someone could tell you that you are not your body, death shows you. While someone could remind you of the insignificance of the things that you cling to, death takes them all away in a second. While people can teach you that men and women of all races are equal and that there is no difference between the rich ...
Sep 24, 2023•27 min•Ep. 22
This episode takes you through the critical aspects of inner child healing, from understanding the influence of our environment on the inner child, to releasing the pain of rejection and judgment. It's a deeply personal look into the struggles of independence, difficult relationships, and the desire for self-acceptance. This episode is part one of an embarkation on shadow-work, a series to guide you through Shadow-Work & Self-Discovery, the necessary uncovering of our unconscious selves that...
Sep 11, 2023•54 min•Ep. 21
What would happen if we could trust that the chaotic tower moments were our divinely lit turning points for our own evolution? How much faster would we grow to see the sun if we could know that it would always rise again, after even the darkest of days? How many blessings in disguise have you uncovered? How many bullets have you dodged? How many times have you looked back at yourself in shambles of the past, and wanted to whisper in your ear from your present-day self, “Just wait, you don’t know...
Sep 04, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 20
It starts with you. And it ends with you. Always and forever. With the image casted upon us from Storybooks & Fairytales of the Damsel in Distress & the Knight in Shining Armor, we often feel in the depths of our pain and confusion, that we are to wait to be rescued by an unknown savior on horseback to break us out of the dungeon of affliction and into freedom. But this is an illusion. For that Knight In Shining Armor, who frees you from all of the stagnant anguish - has always been + wi...
Aug 27, 2023•44 min•Ep. 19
The long, dreaded, and almost habitual cycle of Burn Out. Why? We desensitize our bodies and our brains to the overstimulus in this world of force and we are left physically exhausted, emotionally empty, and mentally overwhelmed. We blink our tired eyes awake and say yes when we know that we shouldn't. We strive, we push, we obtain - for what? For whom? How much is your worth based on how "good" you're doing? How much is your sense of self based on how much you can do or have gotten done? How mu...
Aug 07, 2023•51 min•Ep. 18
Imposter syndrome impacts the greatest legends, experts, actors, writers, "knowers" and "do-ers" of all time. And yet - the biggest premise of feeling like an imposter, is feeling like we are the only ones hidden in disguise, waiting to be found out. "I have written 11 books, but each time, I think, 'uh oh, they're going to find me out. I've run a game on everybody, and they're going to find me out." - Maya Angelou "The exaggerated esteem in which my life's work is held makes me very ill at ease...
Jul 30, 2023•52 min•Ep. 17
Get real with yourself. Are you treating yourself the way that you want to be treated? How are you showing up for yourself? Truly, sit with what type of love that you want - think about how you want to be treated, with no limitations. Think about what type of life you want to create, with no limitations. For a moment, let yourself dream. And then, start treating yourself that way. Take care of yourself the way that you would your own child. Nurture yourself, nourish yourself, love yourself enoug...
Jul 23, 2023•38 min•Ep. 16
You can micromanage your life and your personhood all that you want, you can lose your voice screaming at the sky for the answers and reasons of why you were born - but you cannot micromanage your soul. Do you realize how much you are holding yourself back from your blessings by demanding they come in right here, right now? Do you realize how much you may be blocking answers and guidance by yearning for them with an acute desperation, eyes unknowingly closed to what is right in front of you? If ...
Jul 15, 2023•40 min•Ep. 15
Who are you, when no one’s watching? and when they are watching - what are you trying so hard for? Where are you lying to yourself? Craving to be understood, but fearful of being perceived? What an oxymoron. You crave to be understood, but fear being perceived - because you believe that people won’t understand you, won’t see you, won’t get you. And you let that matter. You let that move you. And then you’re standing on broken legs and wondering why it’s so hard to walk. Wondering why you can’t l...
Jul 09, 2023•52 min•Ep. 14
it's time to learn how to say no & not feel bad about it. in this episode, learn how to reclaim your power, time, space, and energy by learning how to protect your boundaries with grace & vigilance. sacrificing your boundaries in the name of love is not a noble, empathetic act. it is martyrdom. it is self-abandonment. and it is reinforcing the falsehood that you are not worthy of love as you are, unconditionally, without needing to overextend yourself in order to receive. where did we le...
Jun 25, 2023•38 min•Ep. 13
Inside of all of us, there is a voice. A quiet, guiding light handed to us from evolution and survival - through our primal selves to our modern selves, we have carried it through our bones. And with a culture that places more importance on logic, reason, reality, and physical evidence - we have become profoundly disconnected from it. This voice is our most powerful asset, it is our internal compass, our sixth sense, our key to freedom within ourselves to explore the outside world free of fear -...
Jun 18, 2023•52 min•Ep. 12
VIDEO PODCAST TO THIS EPISODE IS LIVE ON YOUTUBE <3 (Shortened Version of the Full Podcast on the Channel: 20 mins) Channel Name: @figuringshitout (Vanessa Fontana) Title: normalize confusion - you're not running out of time. wherever you are is okay. ---------------- Episode 11. our incessant need to understand and make sense of our lives is the malignant cessation of the flow of our lives. the enjoyment of our lives. do not get caught up in the tangled trap of strife born out of the conditi...
Jun 05, 2023•37 min•Ep. 11
This episode is a walk-through my journey of awakening and some of the precious lessons I’ve learned throughout it. Lessons not isolated to a journey of awakening, but lessons so intertwined with life, that we all seem to learn them at some point or another, in our own way. We are not separate and we never were. The light you see in others is too within you - and your access to it comes from a willingness to learn. To be open. In this episode, I talk about - Interconnectedness. My own journey. W...
May 28, 2023•43 min•Ep. 10
Covet your being and your breath for they have been with you since your birth into life. Center yourself back home. Step outside of your mind. Detach from, connect to. You are the witness. “If you want to be happy, you have to let go of the part of you that wants to create melodrama. This is the part that thinks there’s a reason not to be happy. You have to transcend the personal, and as you do, you will naturally awaken to the higher aspects of your being. In the end, enjoying life’s experience...
May 22, 2023•38 min•Ep. 9
Knowing that there will always be more to know, more to learn means that every moment in your life has the potential to be transformative. Our drifting awareness, our tendency to take the path of least resistance by being less than fully awake to the present moment, creates a void. The time-bound mind, which has been designed to be a useful servant, compensates by proclaiming itself master. ------- This episode is inspired by Eckhart Tolle. This episode is inspired by the Present Moment. This ep...
May 14, 2023•38 min•Ep. 8
Free yourself. Find a treasure in knowing that you have been at the rise and fall of every single one of your days, that you have surmounted all aspects of your pain, risen from it, and are in a continuous evolvement of being. You and only you. You weren't given a voice to not use it. Let go of the need to please, to listen to the inner-critic in your mind and satiate it by staying quiet. By looking to others for external validation. When you look to others for approval, you make yourself their ...
May 07, 2023•34 min•Ep. 7
