Using Your Strengths to Make the Shift with Dr. Brian Grossman Ep 153

It was called the Shift Live-a-thon , and I put this together for individuals who are thinking about making this shift from being an employee to a solopreneur , or those that are already looking , are already in the business of being self-employed and just looking some strategy tips to help to expand and grow their business .

And Brian's a unique individual in that when he first came to me , he was looking for help finding a full-time job as an employee and gradually and over time , he started hearing little bits of inspiration from me about becoming self-employed and he started to lean into that and now he's got his own programs that he's doing as well .

So I hope you find this talk inspirational . I hope you walk away with some new insights and I'd encourage you to check out the free resources he offers through his website as well . Go ahead and enjoy the episode . Brian is on today to talk about using your strengths to make the shift .

So , brian , before we get into your talk , why don't you take a moment and introduce yourself to our audience ?

I'm not going to analyze any of you today , but I'm going to give you an opportunity to analyze yourself for free and then schedule a call with me . So I have been a psychologist in 89 and absolutely positively want to send two messages to you . You're all doing awesome today . You may not know it , you may not feel it yet , but you're going to do awesome .

Next , my passion , as we've heard from so many other speakers , is absolutely how to help you get from better to best . How do you keep moving forward ? So with that , brenda , I'm going to just jump in to content and we'll go from there , and I can't thank you enough for allowing me this opportunity . So I want to help you get from better to best .

You can go to positiveintelligencecom , click on the saboteurs section and just take a quick free assessment .

So what am I here to talk to you all about is something that changed my life and really aligned with my passion is through 25 years of research at Stanford University , shirzad Shamim has proven that we all have these little voices in our head and I'm sure , as you're getting ready to make the shift from employee to entrepreneur , you have the judge who is telling

you right now you can't do this , stay the same . You might have the hyper-controller saboteur taking over , which is telling you don't make a move until everything is aligned perfectly . You may be the pleaser , which is you want to please all the people around you and not allowing yourself to take a step up .

So what I would love to share with all of you is a program that is six weeks , eight minutes a day for six weeks and 30 minutes of coaching with me . But before you even worry about signing up with that , take the saboteur assessment and let's schedule a quick call together to talk about whether this is a program for you . But what is it ?

It's mental fitness , your ability to handle life's challenges and curveballs such as the power going out . If my judge and hyper-controller saboteurs took over , I would have just walked away , but no , I just reconnected . Life will continually throw curveballs at you . They will throw hardballs at you . How do you get back up ?

How do you respond with what we call clear-headed thinking , sage thinking , can you respond to life's challenges with curiosity , innovation , empathy , clear-headed thinking . How do you stay calm ? How do you stay calm ?

But , most important out of all of that , I really want to share the mindset with you of how do you look at problems and issues that may keep repeating themselves , where you get stuck in a pothole , and respond to it with positive mental attitude . How do you respond to these challenges with a clear head ?

And so , when you're doing this solopreneur , or maybe with a group of people , and you're wanting to transition from an employee situation , I'll share with you in my family , my wife just retired from the same junior high school for 30 years as a school counselor .

Being an entrepreneur isn't in my wife's headspace , so it's taken a while to make the shift and get her on board .

And when you're making this journey alone , even though you may have friends and family and some support , three things creep in self-doubt , that lack of support on a consistent basis , and the belief or that negative thought that maybe you can't do it or won't work out . Remember , not every decision you make is going to turn out perfectly .

Remember , not every customer may be for you . You are not for everybody . So what's your audience ? And I'm here to share with you a way to tap into your amazing ability how to use your strengths to take the next step up .

So my wheelhouse is training leaders new leaders or experienced leaders and to help them take a step up and get out of that vice , in the middle of pleasing the boss and the team . But I also help individuals take a step up . How do you release these negative shackles and that self-doubt ?

And having gone through the program myself and I will share with you have I had some roadblocks . I've had some roadblocks . I overcame my own saboteurs . I had a weight loss journey where my doctor scared the heck out of me and now , for eight years , I've kept 187 pounds off . And I've done that through tapping into what my strengths are .

And I will share with you that in Brenda's coaching , she's taught me how to take a slice of social media pie . Yes , I do have her book and use her coaching often . And , simply put , are you tapping into what you do best ? Don't throw spaghetti against the wall .

Your program , your business , your strengths will tap into enough people to make you more than sustainable , more than financially free , but when you're trying to be everything to everybody , you're going to wear yourself out , physically and emotionally . So what would it be like to tap into ? Every outcome or circumstance can be turned into a gift or an opportunity .

That argument with your wife or spouse that may be coming up over and over that pothole that you keep falling into , the Are you running out of money before the end of the month ? Does that keep happening ?

Most importantly , I want to share with you the tool of how do you get rid of that self doubt , because I can promise you , when you eliminate that selfoubt , when you break free from these saboteurs , when you laugh at your judge , your energy goes up , your health is better , your relationships are better and having peace of mind to handle life curveballs over and

over is an energizing experience . You can wake up feeling amazing , energized and happy every morning . Or when life gets in the way and you wake up with oh , it's Monday , I'm a solopreneur , I've got to do 800 things . Then go to my job . How do you do that ? With a reboot and a positive attitude , and with that , please go to bitly B-I-T .

Dot L-Y forward . Slash better to best shift . Let's just schedule a chat . That's all I'm asking you to do . Let's see if my program is best for you , and with that I'll turn it over to Brenda and say thank you again . Let's use our strengths to be best .

I think we , as adult learners , learn best when we're sharing with others the things that we learn , so don't be shy about sharing your key takeaways in there and , brian , I'm going to keep this up on screen so that people can download this and get to your link . But also , are you open to connecting with individuals on LinkedIn ?

I admired the people that were doing this , but I would have never used my strengths to make the shift , and it was always like I admired it , but I was on the corporate path until one day I wasn't . I sat down for my annual performance review .

I was told that my position was being eliminated and it ended up , in retrospect , being one of the best things that ever happened to me , because it set me on the course for a new business , for working for myself . In that case , the circumstance of going through my position being eliminated did turn into an opportunity for me .

So that really resonated with me , and I'm sure there's others that might be watching right now . Maybe they have lost their job and it sounds funny when you say lost their job , I can lose it Like your position was , like you were told your job doesn't exist anymore .

You are still existing as a person , but the role that you filled for the company no longer exists . But there can be people that can take what they've gained , and that's the topic of your talk . Using your strengths , and you can powerfully make that shift . Brian , any thoughts on that ?

had to get out of the house a few hours a day . So I did food demo work at Sam's Club and then Brenda each week , without knowing it was throwing out little hints what can you do ? And I'm like how can I use my strengths ? So that's when I started building my business , because I could be at my mom's place .

And while my wife doesn't understand entrepreneur mindset , she was very supportive of me not being home and helping to take care of my mom and that allowed me to build my business . And that's what we mean by life's hard balls . You can take negative circumstances and turn them into an opportunity .

And when you have that mindset , you stay out of woe is me victim . You stay out of letting life roll over you . And Brenda can tell you in another private chat with her she can remember me wanting to come on her LinkedIn thing and rail at companies . Why didn't my resume get thin ? Why isn't this happening ?

And now I don't worry about any of that stuff anymore , it's just roll on . So I can help all of you tap into that . Be your best , take control . Let's eliminate those saboteurs . And I do want to thank you , brenda , sincerely . You've been a tremendous coach for me .

It's called the Human App and it's all about how to stay connected , that we have become really disconnected and mostly we are social people . Whether you're an introvert or extrovert , we need the connection of gatherings and communication skills , and I am working on that . So , thank you .