Across the personality spectrum, we each offer different giftings, and Type Threes offer us the reminder of holy Hope - the reminder that the race is not over even when it's hard or even if it feels like a marathon. Today we are given hope today afresh as we are joined by author, pastor, and founder of Sandals Church, Matthew Stephen Brown, Enneagram 3 with the refreshing reminders of faith in the midst of constantly scanning for negativity, especially in hard times. If you could use some encour...
May 06, 2024•36 min•Season 6Ep. 29
Many couples are frustrated by differing conflict styles and miss getting to resolution because of it. In this mini-episode, Christa assesses how to deal with conflict with someone who is positively-wired in the 2 (the Giver), 7 (the Enthusiast), or 9 (the Peacemaker) personality spaces. In this mini-episode Christa gives both general and type-specific tips for you to relate better with these types in your life and relationship! Come check it out! Spread the Enneagram & Marriage love! 🥳💕 L...
May 01, 2024•23 min•Season 6Ep. 25
How much emotional pain do couples have to endure before making the healthy changes that often feel so scary to initiate? This is a question many need to ask themselves since it's so vulnerable to break deep patterns of trauma together. Today Christa helps you to work through toxic relationship patterns with London-based psychotherapist and influencer Charisse Cooke as we talk about healing toxic bonding and trauma bonding. You CAN learn to find health and healing again or for the very first tim...
Apr 29, 2024•41 min•Season 6Ep. 27
On this special surprise mini-episode for Swiftie fans and for inquiring minds otherwise, Christa takes you on a journey of finding ways through pain to post-traumatic growth, analyzing through the lens of The Tortured Poet's Department Album (TTPD) from Taylor Swift. Join us for therapeutic lessons, fun, and a few meaningful takeaways for healthy ways to process grief, love, loss, and angst. In this episode we analyze Taylor's vulnerable path forward to healing, adding tips for post-relationshi...
Apr 24, 2024•20 min•Season 3Ep. 26
How do you go from busy and overloaded to present in marriage and family, especially when we know that "turning towards" behaviors are what make relationships succeed or fail long-term, especially when we differ SO much after a long span of time together in marriage? As we strive to connect in a truly frenetic world when we have so much to do along with all of these differences, today Christa is sharing a meaningful and uplifting conversation with you and top podcast expert on the massively succ...
Apr 22, 2024•33 min•Season 6Ep. 25
So many couples hold secrets from one another, but it's not healthy for either of you and you're not likely to tell one another the truth if you don't feel safe. Today we're joined by Laurie Gerber, Type 6 (6-2 pairing) who tells us how she worked from struggle to truth and freedom in her own marriage and gives you tangible tips to thrive from a place of truth. Questions we cover are: "How do you start becoming more truthful?" "How do you tell harder truths?" "How can you welcome truth from your...
Apr 17, 2024•31 min•Season 6Ep. 25
Whether at home or the office, your work life is an enormous part of the day and deserves rich contemplation and optimization. Today Christa invites you to a conversation to greatly benefit you by bringing joy into your work rhythms by discovering your own Enneagram intelligence, emotional, and instinctual work strengths and areas for growth. With the new assessment that today's guest, Marty Munger, CEO of WorkCoach.co and her team developed just for you, you'll be able to thrive with clarity an...
Apr 15, 2024•42 min•Season 6Ep. 24
Each of us needs to understand the other in conflict and yet our personalities get in the way. This listener-requested episode helps you to walk through conflict with those people with temperaments who do not show as much emotion and/or prefer to solve problems logically or linearly. You'll learn ways you can develop a healthier internal narrative as well as prevent and repair conflict, building understanding together, too! Make sure you get a copy of "The Enneagram in Marriage" also here to get...
Apr 10, 2024•24 min•Season 6Ep. 23
Troubleshooting your life and intimacy stresses also includes understanding the rhythms of your own unique sensory up and down regulating at work and in your marriage dance as well! If you want to truly ignite your love and work in the best ways possible, you’ll pay attention to these rhythms and honor each precious week across the month for what it really allows for versus forcing everything all at once. Yes, every week truly has a sacred gift of its own, whether rest, reflection, or revving yo...
Apr 08, 2024•48 min•Season 6Ep. 22
Often, couples are too uncomfortable to ask their pastor or marriage counselor about how to build their love life in marriage in the areas of not just building attraction and desire and also how to successfully approach sexual arousal and resolution, especially since statistically women experience about half the full sexual arousal as compared to men. Improving your sexual intimacy together in the bedroom takes not only guesswork but active research and tips that begin outside of the bedroom as ...
Apr 03, 2024•31 min•Season 6Ep. 21
Rest is the most underused, safe, and chemical-free alternative to relieve stress, and it's about way more than just sleep. Today we cover seven different kinds of rest you need with our esteemed guest author, researcher, and physician, Dr. Sandra Dalton-Smith, MD, Enneagram 3 (as featured on TedX, CNN, Fox, MSNBC), to tell us how we can and must get rest (and we even offer you a free test to find your rest deficits!). Join us for a vulnerable conversation where we reveal the types of rest Chris...
Apr 01, 2024•36 min•Season 6Ep. 20
As you aim for a healthy and loving sexual intimacy life in your marriage, in this second installment of the Igniting Your SX Instinct Series of the Enneagram and Marriage podcast, we're not only discussing what attracts us to one another and what builds our love and chemistry up, but also about what builds desire biologically, psychologically, and emotionally for a healthy love life together just for the two of you in your marriage! Watch on YouTube here! This week only, join the Enneagram &...
Mar 27, 2024•27 min•Season 6Ep. 19
Right now in our highly curated culture, individuals are desperately seeking authenticity, depth, and understanding together. This is because we all need connection as we process hard pieces of life and grief together if we want joy, love, and laughter to genuinely emerge from a healthy space. To tackle this huge topic with joy and depth both, Christa is joined by the highly authentic (and highly humorous) author and podcast host Molly Stillman (The Molly Stillman Show), author of the deeply per...
Mar 25, 2024•58 min•Season 6Ep. 18
Marriages are often broken down by unhealthy sexual intimacy triggers and practices and in your quest to get healthy intimately together in your sexual instincts, you need to address your connection from a foundation of goodness. In this new E + M Series, you'll learn to connect through intimacy that starts with foreplay both outside and inside of the bedroom. Here we begin to ignite your passion again by laying intimacy building blocks as you and your spouse to build a safe emotional landscape ...
Mar 20, 2024•15 min•Season 6Ep. 17
Though compassion and gentleness are wonderful traits, when these traits are paired with codependency, enabling, and a lack of healthy boundaries, vulnerable individuals, namely empaths, often repeat familiar trauma cycles by pairing with a mate who has high narcissism markers in relationships, sometimes even pathologically so. This high tolerance for unchecked inappropriate behaviors can lead to fawning or freezing when it's time to set boundaries, get help, or leave a dangerous relationship. I...
Mar 18, 2024•44 min•Season 6Ep. 18
In this just-for-fun E + M on Spring break episode, we ask you to kick back and enjoy a relaxed and endearing episode as we discuss the enemies-to-lovers trope of Jane Austen's Pride and Prejudice as well as what types we think the most romantic couple of all time are, Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet. Don’t miss this chance to explore the hilarious cast of characters we will discuss with love and fun here on this E + M meet-cute of literature and love! Watch on YouTube here! Learn more about your...
Mar 13, 2024•41 min•Season 6Ep. 18
Now that daylight savings time has come and you’re finding energy wherever you can, you'll also need rest so you can truly thrive together for the long haul. Here Christa helps each type set the tone for healthy and much-needed restful rhythms, which differ for individuals of each personality type both in life and in relationships. Listen and learn how to find healthy rest amidst the hard work for you and also your partner right here! Watch on YouiTube here! Get your Enneagram Glow pairing guide...
Mar 11, 2024•30 min•Season 6Ep. 17
As humans, we desire to use our energy well so we can tend to our families, and today we talk about putting this into place practically with joy. Since each type has a very particular way of over (or under) expending their energy, in this mini-episode, you're also getting a few brief tips for you type by type. Learn to use your energy to the very fullest for your relationships to thrive here! Watch on YouTube! Sign up to watch Apple Podcast Myers Briggs + Enneagram today also! https://podcasts.a...
Mar 06, 2024•23 min•Season 6Ep. 16
If you’re serving clients, patients, kids, families, students, or helping at work in a fast-paced environment, inviting in restful rhythms in life or marriage may feel audacious and impossible next to your never-ending to-do list. However, those who are natural givers often deeply struggle to thrive because of this tendency to serve until burnout. Here you're invited to lean into practices that will help you to give for the long haul as we chat with Holly Oxhandler, Ph.D., MSW, author (Soul of t...
Mar 04, 2024•38 min•Season 6Ep. 15
Although the Enneagram is a wonderful tool to assess our relationship depths, other personality assessments also offer us excellent insight for our relationship love styles. Here Christa introduces you to Myers Briggs (the MBTI) in this listener-requested mini episode to give you a brief tutorial on how you may grow in love and work life together using this robust system. Explore Introverting versus Extroversion (I/E), Sensing versus Intuition (S/I), Thinking versus Feeling (T/F), and Judging ve...
Feb 28, 2024•18 min•Season 6Ep. 16
Often you want so desperately to relate well and with joy together, but when a relational rupture happens, we don't know how to repair it with healthy shifts and boundaries. Here we are joined by neuroscience expert and licensed marriage and family therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to help us sort out how to handle more difficult experiences together. Juliane takes us through the heavy lifting of relationships at their best - and their worst - with comfort, empowerment, and a head, heart, and body ...
Feb 26, 2024•41 min•Season 6Ep. 17
Humility is the absence of pride and conceit in a relationship, and unfortunately, the underbelly of an individualistic Western philosophy is often a lack of it. Yet, sometimes we believe that if we’re humble, our partner will take narcissistic advantage of us, and if they’re not healthy, that may well just happen. Tune into this must-listen mini episode for tools for both of you to truly find the essential virtue of humility as well as steps to get there right here healthily for each and every ...
Feb 21, 2024•18 min•Season 6Ep. 15
When you share the gifts you have, the whole world is improved, little by little. In contrast, when couples and individuals get caught up in the dark desire to get ahead for themselves despite what happens to others, those who are weaker, elderly, less affluent, less desirable or otherwise more culturally marginalized get forgotten and discarded. In this episode, Christa walks you through sharing your light, even through discouragement, through the lens of the magnificent WWII novel, "All the Li...
Feb 19, 2024•52 min•Season 6Ep. 14
What do women find attractive long-term? How do you show strength and softness as a man? How do you allow for femininity without becoming weak? Join us today for this special love episode as we give tips for all of this, and moreover, as we give your love just the boost it needs in this mini-must listen episode on ascending the peaks of your relationship together! Watch on YouTube here! Sign up for the FREE Enneasummit on Love & Relationships right here! Get the conference all-access pass he...
Feb 14, 2024•28 min•Season 6Ep. 13
So many times in marriage there are arguments that don't get resolved, underlying anger that doesn't get diffused, and tempers flying out of control, depending on your personality type. Today we are joined by world-renowned mediator and attorney Hesha Abrams who is an expert at not only helping you to find your power and self-control, but also in truly finding intimacy through actually resolving the conflicts at hand together in your marriage and other important relationships. Tune in here! So m...
Feb 12, 2024•45 min•Season 6Ep. 12
Music can speak to us in a way that words alone often cannot. In this week between the Grammys and the Superbowl, we're having fun sharing songs by Taylor Swift for each and every Enneagram type to enjoy in love, life, and times of lament, too. Watch on YouTube here! Enjoy this E + M curated Taylor Swift & the Enneagram Spotify Playlist here. There are 2 songs for each type, in order 1-9, per the episode here! Join the E + M Coaching Certification here! Use code MASTERCLASS for $500 off! htt...
Feb 07, 2024•20 min•Season 6Ep. 11
Parenting requires nuanced architecture and then releasing kids to learn for themselves bit by bit - and all of this as you're navigating mood changes that start becoming real even in the grade school years. To help us through this sensitive topic, we are gifted with parenting expert Nellie Harden of Family Life, Enneagram 2, who shares her relational and brain-based biological expertise, as well as what she's gained from parenting four teen daughters along with her husband. Recollect your own t...
Feb 05, 2024•1 hr
Emotional agility is a necessary skill for relationship-building, so that when we find ourselves dysregulated, we can self-soothe. We need this practice time and again considering all of the ways we lose our footing in life and relationships. Enjoy and save this episode so you have a special practice to help you find your way back to joy and peace time and again. This guided imagery and relaxation episode helps you move from stress to finding your steps again when you feel triggered. Watch on Yo...
Jan 31, 2024•18 min•Season 6Ep. 11
How do you balance work and life? How do you grow at work but also leave room for family? What do successful leaders wish you knew at the beginning of an entrepreneurship journey? Today Christa is joined by superstar Amy Wicks and they are not holding back as they share tips for those wanting to create a better work-life balance. Join the chat here and sign up for the Elevate and Activate conference also! Watch on YouTube here! Find Amy's website here! Sign up for the Equip + Activate Leadership...
Jan 29, 2024•41 min•Season 6Ep. 10
When you or your spouse are experiencing mood shifts, don’t forget that between ages 35-55, perimenopause may beat work. Today we talk with Bria Gadd aka “Bria the Period Whisperer” about her specialty of perimenopause as she helps to identify symptoms and also helps to support families through this often foggy period. Here we invite empowering conversation around shifting health rhythms and personal and couple’s empowerment as you remobilize for thriving and rest in perhaps new ways. Bria also ...
Jan 24, 2024•34 min•Season 6Ep. 9
