As we head into the topic of marriage communication, Christa takes us on a journey of nonverbal communication research and why the tiny nuances in microexpressions matter more than you may have ever realized. We talk about mitigating communication, good encoding, acoustic manipulations, and so mix more as we refine the very best of the 3 C’s of nonverbal communication styles in life and marriage together here! Sign up for our new Tuesday Newsletter Deeper Dive Subscription Here! Get $5 Off the B...
Nov 28, 2022•28 min•Season 4Ep. 52
Are you feeling alone in your grief or even just stuck this season? Join Christa for a therapeutic journey of discovering ways of processing grief, learning to lament and move ahead, and honoring the story within. Show Links: Dr. Mekel Harris, PhD >> Free Mindful Grief Journaling Prompts Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Nov 23, 2022•19 min
The dangers of a complacent marriage are many, ranging from stagnancy to infidelity, the latter of which makes trauma imminent. During the holidays, as couples get busier, marriage often gets put on the back burner and the allure is gone. However, "do no harm" can hurt just as much as an overt issue, and in this episode, we address both the makings of an affair as well as the makings of a magnetic monogamous relationship! Join Christa for an episode on affair prevention and the discovery of your...
Nov 21, 2022•29 min•Season 4Ep. 51
How can you best shine together this holiday? This episode is not only a safeguard against stress and struggle over the holiday maritally, but it's an important shortie episode for you to remember the best ways to show up for your partner so you truly get your glow on together! Listen to tips for each type so you can remember the tips with all the various pivots across type, wing, arrow, and more that you each take all through the holidays for your very best together! Use the code "FESTIVEFIVE" ...
Nov 16, 2022•19 min
We're digging into the nuances of how each of the nine Enneagram type communicates in terms of their communication style strengths and stressors in marriage. We've brought communications expert and Instagram influencer Steph Barron Hall, Enneagram 3 of @NineTypesCo for this special final piece of her two-part episode with us! As you listen, you can truly intentionally cross the bridge of clear communication together, meeting one another on the journey, and finding your way to the brightest glow ...
Nov 14, 2022•52 min•Season 4Ep. 50
Types Two, Seven, and Nine stay as positive as possible and as such there are some extremely important reminders as you learn to walk through your love life with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Two, Seven, and Nine to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost! Show Links: Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs on all of the types right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to c...
Nov 09, 2022•14 min
We all need good tools for marriage communication as we try to stay warm together this holiday season ahead. Christa is joined for this important 2 part communication conversation by none other than Steph Barron Hall of the popular Nine Types Co. Instagram account. Here in part 1, you're getting 3 tips for communication for all couples surrounding family culture, narrative, and listening. We also get to learn how Steph, a 3, intentionally avoids burnout and is learning to stay strong as an indiv...
Nov 07, 2022•53 min•Season 4Ep. 59
Types Four, Six, and Eight are quite passionate and as such there are some extremely important lessons to find - and keep - love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types Four, Six, and Eight to give you a straightforward and simple shortie relational boost! Show Links: Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs on all of the types right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagra...
Nov 02, 2022•14 min
Dr. Jerome helps us to understand how we develop provocative differences in marriage over time, differences that can cause conflict but that are essentially important for brain health or neuroplasticity. In this fascinating interview on brain and body health in marriage, we look at both our top Enneagram proficiency areas as well as those in which we have a lower aptitude - we need both to level us out. Dr. Jerome also helps us to take small steps to learn to practice pacing with one another bet...
Oct 31, 2022•51 min•Season 4Ep. 58
Types One, Three, and Five are quite logical and as such there are some extremely important straightforward ways to finding love with them! In this mini-episode, we're talking about incorporating healthy love initiation and responses with Enneagram Types One, Three, and Five to give you a practical and simple shortie relational boost! Show Links: Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs on all of the types right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram &...
Oct 26, 2022•16 min
You bring your internal narratives to everything you do, and as such, the stories and scripts inside of you not only matter but affect your life more than you may realize. Today's podcast gives you a chance to recognize your inner narratives and offers steps to help you become more grounded as you incorporate an inner Enneagram coaching technique that you can use as you prepare to enter the ups and downs of the holiday season. Before we walk through this exercise together, Christa and Jenn also ...
Oct 24, 2022•50 min•Season 4Ep. 57
Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 1, 4, and 7, create patterns of idealistic expectations that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 1, 4, and 7, and the ways they can bypass the realities and deep connections of marriage, in favor of seeking impossible ideals. Check the last two Wednesday for the other six types in marriage! Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs on types...
Oct 19, 2022•13 min
Sometimes we do all the right steps and we still don't get the desired results with family and friends around us. Dr. Alison Cook joins us with some profound answers as she invites you to say a healthy "yes" to others even as you set boundaries for yourself. Join Christa and Alison as they discuss not only riveting points from Dr. Cook's book about boundaries in general, but also how to approach in-laws from each and every direction, whatever generation you're currently a part of. This is becaus...
Oct 17, 2022•41 min•Season 4Ep. 54
Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 3, 6, and 9, create patterns of comforting behavior that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 3, 6, and 9, and the ways they can bypass deep connection in favor of comfort. Stay tuned for the other types! Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs on types 3, 6, 9, and all the types right here! Show Links: Our membership is open only until No...
Oct 12, 2022•16 min
In-law issues and extended family are enormous contributors to marital discord. Because of the exorbitant stress, one of the best ways to look both inward and outward at this complex dynamic is with an Enneagram 9 therapist and we're doing that on today's episode. Hailey Brown, LCMHC has not only been a counselor for the past decade but is also an Enneagram and Marriage certified coach. We get to not only hear about Hailey's 9-5 marriage story (two withdrawing types, a rare treat on this pod!) a...
Oct 10, 2022•54 min•Season 4Ep. 53
Some of us, particularly those who identify with Enneagram 2, 5, and 8, create patterns of rejecting behavior that potentially hinder their quality of life and their love match. Join Christa for a mini-episode on the Harmony groups as we discuss types 2, 5, and 8, and the ways they can reject nurturing and accidentally bring out something they fear most, rejection from the ones they love. Stay tuned for the other types! Learn even more in our deeper dive PDFs on types 2, 5, 8, and all the types ...
Oct 05, 2022•13 min
When we're considering how to glow or even relate with a spouse from a different family pattern than us, we are often called to not only marital or personal but spiritual work as we come across our unhealthy inner scripts. It's wonderful to get to process this topic and to do a spiritual exercise to the depths with Marilyn Vancil, 9, Spiritual Director, Author, and Enneagram teacher as she launches her new book, Beyond the Enneagram. Marilyn has not only been studying the Enneagram for over thir...
Oct 03, 2022•55 min•Season 4Ep. 53
In today's mini-episode with Christa, we share an extension of gratitude for the kindness and love shown in this time of Hurricane Ian crisis and our current positioning in the midst of it. Christa also mentions her dear friends Ryan and Anna Herzog and their teen daughter Lily on this episode who lost their home suddenly in Hurricane Ian last Thursday. If you'd like to donate to their GoFundMe page, here is the donation page! Anna, Ryan, and Lily's Go Fund Me If you'd like to otherwise help tho...
Oct 02, 2022•13 min
For many, a marriage or close relationship with addiction is the norm, and yet life with an addicted partner is not only not the ideal, but is often a source of chaos, negativity, emotional upheaval, and worse, sometimes for generations on end. Join Christa in this special episode with Dr. Deborah Russo, Psy.D, who has a specialty in working with couples and addictions. Dr. Russo shares clarified great hope and tips for those walking on this often lonely and misunderstood road. Show links: Dr. R...
Sep 28, 2022•25 min
As we talk about seasons of change, today we are focusing on how to walk through the shadows that often accompany us while remembering we are more than just our Enneagram patterns. Today we are joined by Seth Creekmore (Creek), Drew Moser (The Enneagram of Discernment), and Seth Abram (Abram) of the Fathoms Enneagram Podcast. Join Christa and the Fathoms podcast crew as we talk about about how to walk through our issues across seasons with grace, wellness, and intention. Fathoms links: Check out...
Sep 26, 2022•55 min•Season 4Ep. 50
Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Nine in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the type Nine? Find our guide right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right he...
Sep 21, 2022•11 min
When we begin relationships, we often have no idea how past trauma from the past will affect us in the future, nor do we often know how to address it early on. Today we get to learn how Evan and Tiffany Doyle (Enneagram 5-2 Pairing) walked through their relationship stages both early on and then later when trauma patterns settled in, as well as how they built trust together. We talk about releasing secrets, dealing with shame and shadows, and shifting systems together in the relationship. Tune i...
Sep 19, 2022•1 hr•Season 4Ep. 49
Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Eight in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the type Eight? Find our guide right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right ...
Sep 14, 2022•12 min
Today we not only brief you on the stages of marriage across seasons, but we share seasons of a friendship "glow" also so you can make sure your friendships are healthy and strong also! Join us for a chat about the essential lessons friendships can teach us across the Enneagram types, and across the miles as well. Christa is joined by her best friend Stacey Day, Enneagram 2, as we share about wisdom gathered through a friendship that has lasted from the dating years through sending kids off to c...
Sep 12, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 4Ep. 48
Join us for this simple series on each type as we share about the three subtypes of Seven in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the type Seven? Find our guide right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too right ...
Sep 07, 2022•12 min
As we roll into a new season this Labor Day episode, we aim to find rhythms and balance amidst work and family life, especially since the days are long but the years are short w/childrearing or nurturing others. Christa invites life and relationship coach Melissa Thompson of Reflections Counseling & Coaching to join us for this heart-warming episode you don’t want to miss. Melissa truly balances with grace and strength, offering you new tips for presence and thriving in all seasons of work, ...
Sep 05, 2022•49 min•Season 4Ep. 48
As Amazon Prime releases the new Lord of the Rings prequel, The Rings of Power, it's time for the merging of the worlds and a trek into Middle Earth for a special episode discussing JRR Tolkien's LOTR trilogy as well as having some fun Enneagram typing the fictional characters as well. For this epic journey, Christa is joined by Natalie Hooper of the The Lettering Wife, Enneagram 2, not only a huge LOTR fan in her own life and marriage (2-8 Glow), but she's also done gorgeous lettering and drawi...
Sep 01, 2022•45 min
Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Six in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the type Six? Find our guide right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us too...
Aug 31, 2022•14 min
Today's podcast offer both a personal and a collective experience for empowered healthy fitness lifestyle habits. Christa is joined by Sarah Thomas of Burn Fat and Feast, an Enneagram 1 (1-8 Glow). Sarah not only shares her hard journey from the college weigh-ins to truly empowered living with less of a focus on the scale. She has helped thousands to find their way back to abundant and strong eating rhythms. Instead of body shaming, we emerge from this month stronger for our marriages and famili...
Aug 29, 2022•45 min•Season 4Ep. 46
Join us for this simple series on each type, including as we share about the three subtypes of Five in marriage and family life! Want a deeper dive into the type Five? Find our guide right here! Head on over to enneagramandmarriage.com to check out all of our Enneagram & Marriage freebies and resources! Instagram: @enneagramandmarriage | @enneagrammarriagepod Facebook @enneagramandmarriage Love what you're learning on E + M? We would be honored if you'd leave a review so others can find us t...
Aug 24, 2022•13 min
