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Yes.
Okay, and I don't want the guys to tune out, because I do believe we're gonna share some principles. That is, it doesn't matter what your gender is. I believe there's principles from God's word that transcends gender and we can pull out the principles.
But if you are a man and you're listening to this, it's because there is a woman in your life that you love Come on, wife, mother, aunt, daughter that you can grab principles to share with them, or even share this episode with them, and I think it'll be a crazy blessing.
I personally love to hear messages and just things talking about a man in general, because I have a son and I have a husband and I have a brother and I have a lot of men that are important in my life, and when I can understand what a man goes through in their life and their point of view and their perspective, it just blesses me and I feel like I'm
able to be a blessing and to communicate better. So this is for everyone.
I never thought about that. I think that's really important. When you said that, I had this thought, man. Maybe it's almost more important for men to listen to sermons about women than even women. You know how we go to women's conferences.
We should have a women's conference for men Meaning so that men could get to know what drives a woman and what a woman needs. And maybe women should go to men's conference to learn more about men, because it almost feels like it's this well, I need this and you don't understand my needs, but how much have we done to really learn each?
other To understand each other, yeah.
¶ The Proverbs 31 Woman
So, with that being said, this podcast is for everybody. The big grace, god. But we're gonna actually come right out of the Bible and then we're gonna kind of break this down, because there is this woman, also known as the virtuous woman.
The virtuous woman.
Some people would say the virtuous wife. But I would just say you know it goes for all women in general. This is what you can aspire to, be found in Proverbs, chapter 31. And we're actually gonna read this out of the Bible now. If you've you're not a Bible person, you've never read the Bible before.
I'm telling you, if you're a woman, you wanna look at the Proverbs, chapter 31, verse 10, woman. And this is what it says. Listen to this, guys. It says she garges herself with strength and strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good and her lamp does not go out by night.
She stretches out her hand to the disc staff and her hand holds the spindle. She extends her hand to the poor. Yes, she reaches out her hand to the needy. She's not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed with scarlet. She makes tapestry for herself. She's not afraid of snow. She makes tapestry for herself.
Her clothing is fine linen and purple. Her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes linen garments and sells them and supplies sashes for the merchants. Strength and honor are her clothing. She shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom.
She watches over the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and call her blessed. Her husband also, and he praises her. Many daughters have done well, but you excel them all. Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised, proverbs 31.
Proverbs 31.
And so our goal of the podcast today is to raise up more Proverbs 31 woman. I'm glad that I'm speaking right now to a Proverbs 31 one woman, because that's what you are. But what sticks out to you from Proverbs 31? Chapter 10 through 30, I believe. What's this all?
I mean, there's so many things that stick out, but in general, the Proverbs 31 woman is a woman to me who is just handling her business. She is actually not a like. This woman doesn't have a name. She wasn't actually a real person. Like her name is Susan or Sarah. She was just a woman, a description of a woman. So a mother was sharing with her son.
This is the kind of woman you want to marry.
Okay, stop right there. So, you said a woman was sharing with her son, so this is the writers sharing with her son.
Yeah, the writer is a king and he is writing down what his mother told him about the woman that he should marry. And so it's not this kind of because. Some people now, I was never this woman, but some people, some women, especially today read this Proverbs 31 scripture, and they feel so condemned.
They feel like, oh my gosh, I can't live up to this, I'm never gonna be able to be a mom and a wife and a business woman and do all of these things that she does, and they feel so condemned. But really, this is talking about a woman who's simply handling her business. She does whatever she needs to do.
So if you are a single woman, you are handling your business. If you're a single mom, you're handling your business. You are as a wife, as a business woman. You're just taking care of and doing whatever you need to do.
Yeah, what sticks out to you? I mean because there's so much. I mean there's 10 verses of just no 20 verses. I don't know how many verses we just read. There's a whole lot of verses of revelation in here, and. But what is your favorite stuff?
My favorite thing is basically
¶ Perspectives on the Proverbs 31 Woman
okay. So when I first got saved and you know, I didn't have a lot of examples of a virtuous woman, of a woman of God, of a holy woman, like what does that mean, what does that look like?
And a lot of my perception was like, you know, I would go to church and I would hear the preacher preach and you know all of this stuff, and I would be like, okay, not like consciously think it, but feel like, but that's good for you Because you're holy and you have on your robe and you know what I mean, like, but for me, Did they have on a robe for
real? Well, this is when I was first going to church. Okay, this is way back then yeah, this is when I was searching for God. I was like, who in the world had a?
robe on. Yeah, we went when I was in college.
You remember the church we went to in college. They would wear a robe. The pastor would wear a robe and God bless. I mean, there's nothing wrong with the robe.
Yeah, we're gonna bring robes back.
Go ahead, there's nothing wrong with the robe, I know people still wear robes. But I'm just saying my perspective was but you're holy, okay, you don't know me, you don't know where I come from, you don't know what I've done, and because of that it kind of like separated me from the scripture.
And so when I we joined, we got married right after kind of a little bit after I got saved, and that began my journey with the Lord.
So we got married while we were in college, we graduated college and then we moved to Washington DC where we found a church and when we were in this church, the pastor's wife, who was also a pastor, she would talk about the Proverbs 31 women.
I remember going every Saturday, like every first Saturday of the month, we would go to a women's meeting and we would talk about the Proverbs 31 woman.
And so the way that she opened it up to me, to my fresh ears, and described it to me, it was never with condemnation, it was never something that I had to live up to, but it was always with something that was like refreshing and a privilege, like oh, wow, I can be holy and live a holy life because God made me holy, not because of what I've done or
anything like that, but this is just who I am, and so, anyway, I think it was presented to me in that kind of way, and so when I read the Proverbs 31 woman, I feel inspired, I feel encouraged, I feel like it's something to aspire to, be, okay, I don't know.
Also, with the Proverbs 31 woman, I see like I'm 47 years old right now and I see a woman of like all ages in there. I see like when I was younger, maybe first got married, I see when I first had babies and I was a young mother, I see that woman in there.
I also see the older woman in there, the woman who has already gone through menopause, because toward the end of the passage it says like this woman, she will be praised, like her husband is known at the gates and she deserves to be rewarded for the fruit of her hands, and it's just like her children rise up and call her blessed.
It's like this is a woman on the other side of life and I just think it's something that's beautiful and peaceable and inspiring.
Why would anybody feel like this is condemning though I don't know if I get that. Like I've never thought that when I read Proverbs 31. I don't know.
I'm the kind of person that I feel like we all need a model Me too, we all need a bar that's at somewhere, and just because there's something that might be beyond where I currently am, I'm not downtrodden, but I'm not depressed or I'm not like oh, that's not me, I could never measure up to this. Is that a popular mindset?
I think that it has grown to be more popular. And I only I know it because I have, like I said, I've always felt so great about the Proverbs 31, woman. But I've talked to a lot of women and not everyone feels like
¶ Principles of the Proverbs 31 Woman
that. People feel like, oh my gosh. You mean, you know, when it says that she wakes up before the sun and makes food for her house. Well, I don't like to cook, you know. Well, you know.
But I look at it more like. I look at it more like, but I feel like what's in God's word? What is the principles that?
you can take from it Exactly.
And if you can take steps towards that. You don't have to be perfect, but your life is gonna be better.
Exactly.
So let's say that I was that woman and I read that and I don't cook. What if I decided you know what? I'm gonna take cooking classes? I might not be Martha Stewart, but I'm gonna be better than what I currently am. Right now I've been giving my family microwave dinners and we've been eating Chick-fil-A Monday, wednesday, friday.
But now I'm gonna try to step towards something. So to me, when I read the Bible, I don't know. I'm just concerned with people that are challenged. When they're challenged with something where they could be better, they actually dump on themselves and feel worse and they back out instead of move towards.
So when I read something and I know that I'm not there, especially in the Bible, I'm saying, oh, that's what I could be. So if God ever shows me where somebody else is, he's no respecter of person. He's given me a limit to where I could get to. So I'm not discouraged. I'm actually encouraged to say man, I could be a Proverbs 31 woman.
So to me, I feel like it doesn't matter how old you are, it don't matter what you believe, how much sin you've committed. I think there are some things from the Proverbs 31 woman that you're like ooh, that's my goal, that's where I can get to, and the fact that it's in the Bible. There's gonna be a supernatural grace on me to help me get there.
But is that true?
I mean, it's true, what you said is true, but different people have different perspectives, different backgrounds and different ways that they view things. And I kinda agree with you. I kinda am like, look, I need to cook and take care of this family. You know what I mean. Like somebody's gotta do it. He's not doing it, I'm gonna take care of it.
I like being the virtuous woman and that's not to say that a man can't cook and do those things. I believe that there can be. Every family needs their own communication at the division of labor. I don't cook in this family. It doesn't mean that a man can't do all of the cooking or they can't be 50-50. So we don't wanna.
I think every couple and married person has to find their quotient, so to say. Like what they equal together, the culture of their family, what they want it to be.
And so the principle from this is that the Proverbs 31 woman she is handling her business, she is tending to the cares of her household. I can see that. So if I'm a Proverbs 31 woman and I'm going to take care of my household, say I don't like to cook and I just mess up everything. That is not how God blessed me and graced me.
Well, I'm gonna figure it out. I'm either gonna get somebody to come and cook for me that's still being a Proverbs 31. That's still me tending to the cares of my household and taking care of my family or I'm gonna learn how to make a sandwich. I'm gonna learn how to boil some eggs. I'm gonna have some cereal for breakfast.
I am going to make sure that my family is provided for. I don't like to go to the grocery store. I don't like to. I make sure that I get on my grocery app and they deliver my groceries to the door. That is nothing less of me.
Well, that's a Proverbs 31 move. Yeah, you're going to handle your business.
You don't have to cook it, just make sure that it's supplied.
We live in a day and time where people almost get upset at traditional gender roles and whatever. With all that, there are certain principles that, for real, every family has to figure out. I gotta figure out what my strengths and weaknesses are.
And we gotta figure out what your strengths and weaknesses are and we gotta kind of curtail our family based upon your strengths and my strengths. But the truth is is that there are some things that I'm weak in your weak end too as well.
That's when we gotta grow the dog on up and we gotta learn to do stuff that maybe we didn't have the skill to do before, we didn't have the patience to do before, and so when I see somebody that's ahead of me or something in scripture that says, oh my God, I don't do that, I'm actually encouraged to know, like, okay, if one of us have to do this for
our family to accomplish the vision and the goal that he set in a heart, well then someone has to step up. Is it gonna be you in this case, or is it gonna be me? And that's not about traditional gender roles. That's about us figuring out how to get the claders or the Johnson's or the Smith's or whoever's listening to this into the place of destiny.
And so I love the Proverbs 31 woman. I think it's super encouraging and I would encourage my daughters, I would encourage any woman that I love, to study Proverbs, chapter 31 and pull out the principles that she can rightly apply in this season as a goal. A lot of people, we need role models.
¶ Power of Mentorship & Proverbs 31
I'm big on mentorship. I think I've always thought about writing a book mentorship your shortcut to success, because I believe that people are looking for shortcuts to success. It's like should I try this scheme or this company or this idea, or if I do these 10 things, will there be a short? And what I've learned is that there's really no shortcuts to success.
You're gonna have to work hard, you're gonna have to believe God. There's no shortcuts to success. But if I had to give you one, that is, it would be mentorship, meaning that you can learn from somebody else's successes and you can learn from somebody else's failures, so that what took them 10 years might take you five.
Exactly.
It's not a shortcut, but it's called doing it not the hard way, but the easy way, doing it the smart way, yeah, the smart way, and so I guess, at the end of the day, it is a shortcut, you know, and it's called mentorship. So you know, people have all kinds of different role models.
You know somebody said, well, this artist, this singer is my role model and I look up to this person and that's cool and everything. Cause I believe, like, even from people who are good at writing songs or producing movies or running businesses, there are principles that we can learn from them.
But if I'm gonna model my life after anybody, it's gonna be a man or woman of God. No question about it that I've had men and women of God that I have gleaned from, that, I have learned from that have helped develop the God or the Christ on the inside of me.
And I feel like and that's why we have this podcast this is kind of like a mentorship tool for people where you can tune in and maybe you don't know us personally, but you still know us, cause we're sitting down with you every single week sharing the good, bad and the ugly, like books or mentorship tools.
Like a person takes 30 years of their experiences and they put it in 250 pages, but people don't understand. Like you know, there's certain things like some people would pay $5,000 to go to some motivational speaker thing and then we have a conference that's $150 and they're not sure if they wanna come.
It's cause they don't understand the investment that's needed for mentorship. There's just something about being in the right room at the right time with the right people.
But anyway, back to Proverbs 31. So this is God's example of mentorship to us for women Like this woman that does not have a name but shares with us principles is a biblical mentor to women of our day, and I just think it's powerful. So we've been married for 24 years and I think that you exemplify this very well.
I believe that you are, without question, a Proverbs 31 woman, a virtuous woman. I believe you take care of your family well. You take care of your children very well. I believe that you take care of your husband very well. The part I'm working with you big on right now is taking care of yourself very well, and I think that's another podcast for another day.
I want that let us know, because I think there's a GTS that's really needed, which is. Grace the Self, and a lot of women don't understand self care because they're so busy taking care of the kids and everybody else's needs Absolutely. And that's the biggest area that I think that you could grow in.
And I think you know that's one of the things that blesses me the most about the Proverbs 31 woman is that she is doing all of those things, and so I equivale like, if I look at someone's Instagram or social media, you see all of the highlights.
This passage is the highlights of the Proverbs 31 woman's life, because, if she is married, she's had some arguments, she's had some things going on. If she's a mom, those kids have gotten on her last nerve. She has yelled at the kids. They've been fighting, they've been tearing up stuff and breaking stuff. She's going through life.
If she is a business woman, she has had some things. You know that she's got some clients that are, just, you know, crazy. She's got deadlines. There's so many things that are going on in her life. However, she still chooses to live her life in wisdom, to let kindness be the law of her tongue, that her husband, you know, is praised in the gates.
Her children still rise up and call her blessed, and so I think that you know when I'm looking at this. Sometimes you have to read what's not said. You have to read in between the lines, because a woman has, you know, women's issues Every 30 days. She had a cycle. You know, when she wasn't on cycle she had babies.
I mean, that was something else right there being hormonal and giving birth to babies and your nursing babies and you got other ones running around.
That's enough to like make you crazy, but she somehow manages to bring it back to God, bring it back to peace and be a virtuous woman and toward the end of her life, or you know, she's praised and I think that really inspires me. Like you said, grace to self and helping myself.
One thing about the Proverbs 31 woman is that she took a Sabbath because in her time the Sabbath would have been a law. It wasn't, you know, a choice.
So we know that every seven days she was taking a rest, she was enjoying her children and enjoying her husband and enjoying herself, and so I just kind of that's a new thing for me to apply to my life Like you know what I'm going to, you know, really take time to Sabbath, really take time to rest, because I want to be like the virtuous woman.
Okay, so here's a few points that sticks out to me. I'd love to hear your heart on what you get out of it. It says that her heart, the heart of her husband, safely trust in her. The heart of her husband safely trust in her. What's your perspective on that?
I think that to me it tells me that she has a relationship with her husband. It's not just high and by it's not just like oh I, you know, I do this for you or you do this for me.
We're not just roommates, but if his heart safely trust in her, they have daily communion, they have a relationship to where I can bring anything to you, wife, and I trust that you're going to keep my secrets. I trust that you're going to have my back. I trust that you're not going to bring me to shame.
Yeah, I definitely trust you. It also says that she seeks wool and flax and willingly works with her hands. What jumps out to you about that statement?
I mean I just see like she seeks. You know, she goes to Target, walmart, she gets on Amazon, she does what she has to do and she's willingly works with her hands. I mean she might not prefer to go out and pull the weeds, but if she's got to do it, she's going to go and do it.
Well, yeah, I mean you do a lot of stuff around the house. You know, once again not typical gender roles, but I mean, if something breaks in the house, you're probably fix it before me. Now I will be the person that will call the people that will fix it like.
Right now I'm working on the grass God help us in the grass I've ordered sod and then it all died and this is just a whole nother thing.
Now the air condition has went down and I tried to get the air condition guy to come out and fix it, but he said it can't be fixed, it got to be replaced, and so that's a work in progress for me, but I see you out in the garden and we don't really have a big yard, but you're out there laying bricks coming in with dirt all in between your fingers.
I paved myself a little patio. She put a patio out there and kind of does all that. It's a little garden.
It also says that she is like the merchant ships. She brings her food from afar. Anything on that one stick out to you Again.
she can go out to the specialty grocery stores and I go to Trader Joe's and get my peaches from Guatemala. I just that's what I'm gonna do. I don't have to be all exotic and stuff like that, but I'm just gonna make sure that my household has what it needs. I like to go to the grocery store.
Last time I went to the grocery store I bought home some star fruit and it's just great. I haven't had it for the kids for a long time, but I take it home and slice it up because I want to bring home just specialty things for the family. Let us try something new. Here you go. Kids have some star fruit, right.
You know, I just I gotta say this In a world where, like, traditional gender roles are being questioned, I think it's also good, at the same time, to not throw the baby out with the bathwater, to know that there are some traditional things that are there and actually healthy.
For example, a woman who's like, well, I don't do anything with cooking, anything with food. I would really ask you maybe just to reconsider that position. I mean, I know that he can do it. But let me just say, from a man's perspective, I'm a very simple creature. You know, I always say that I just need sex in a sandwich.
You know, if I have sex and I have a sandwich, my life is pretty gonna be pretty good. I'm not saying without God, but what I'm saying is that I've made it just that simple.
If I can have a plate of food after a long day, it doesn't have to be a gourmet meal, but I just know that I'm gonna get fed and I can know that I have consistent sex with my wife. And that's a whole nother topic that we get into, because sex is not something that should just be enjoyable to me, it should be enjoyable to you as well.
I should want it, just like you should want it. I don't need you just to meet my needs. I'm going into sex to meet your needs and hopefully you're coming in to meet my needs, and through the physical form of sex. Of course, intimacy is the most important
¶ Importance of Women's Household Roles
thing. That's another podcast for another day but I just think there's something about a woman who might be listening, who has done nothing. You know the kids might get up hungry and it's like hungry, you go fix yourself some food. The dude come home and there's just nothing. The refrigerator's bare, and I understand if you're in a season where money is short.
But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about where she doesn't have a care for the food and I just think that's important, that that proverbs woman, she at least cared about her family being fed.
Yeah, and I think there's more. It's just like you're tending to the cares of your household. So as a woman, as a woman of God as that proverbs woman I am looking over. I feel like I am assigned by God to care for my house, you know.
And so, whether it's you take out the trash, you know well, I'm gonna oversee and make sure all of this is taken care of. And so I start off. Even in the environment of my home, I like music playing in my home. I have certain laws in our house that you know it. At a certain time we turn off the lights.
We're not gonna have the music blasted than a TV blasted, but we are preparing for the next day. I like there to be peace in my home. I want my children to always know that you know, certain things are gonna be a certain way.
I want my children to grow up and have been and have lived by a certain standard of life so that when they go and have their own families they can uphold that standard. They don't come down to anything less because they've been brought up to a standard.
Yeah, it's almost like you, as a woman has the authority to create a certain atmosphere.
Absolutely.
I think you do a great job at that.
Thank you. And I think it's something worth sharing. But what you said about you know, not like a woman being, you know, in charge of her household I guess those are my words, but yeah, I think that is very important.
I think that you know, if the kids are waking up, and the kids are hungry, and he's hungry and he don't know how to cook and he's not doing anything, I'm like, hey, that's on me, I'm going. I personally I wanna make sure that my man is taken care of.
I wanna make sure that my kids are taken care of. Now I'm going, like I said, I personally I like to cook and I like to do all of those things. But we're in a season right now like I need to get to work and I need to get the kids in school.
So, either, like I've taught my kids, you know how to make toast and bacon, and like I taught them how to do it at this point, and you know, I've also done things like, okay, I'll at least boil eggs and I leave them there on the counter, or I'll scrambled eggs and you know I leave it all there, I didn't have a problem.
There hasn't been milk, though, for like the last you told me that yesterday.
You know it didn't get done. It wasn't just yesterday, it was the day before that. Oh, really, yeah, but you just told me yesterday. I've been very patient, I've been very patient.
Well, before it wasn't cereal, now it's no milk. So, I haven't had this been going on for about a week now, but-.
Look, I really didn't know that. I really didn't know, cause I've ordered other groceries and I have everything.
You've got, bread you've got lunch meat.
You've got eggs, but you've got everything.
You can't do anything with cereal with no milk, though. I've poured a bowl and the blueberries are still sitting in the bowl and they're sitting in the refrigerator for the last few days.
You see, and so now I am at the point where my husband is spoiled, my children, are spoiled rotten. Okay, they just expect, they think this stuff because for so long stuff is just there, the milk is just there, and then when it's not there, and for a few days on top of that, they're just like what is going?
on. No, I don't think that's been spoiled. What happened to the milk in my life? I don't think that's been spoiled. I think that that's just management. And you have a part to play and I have a part to play and we expect you to do your part and I'm gonna do my part. Now. The kids you can't depend on them for anything.
Well, what I was gonna say is I'm not gonna get upset with you or irritated by you talking about this milk, because I feel good. That just shows me that I've been doing my job.
Okay, I'll get you some milk. I'm sorry, Get me some milk, girl and at the same time I don't make too big of a deal ever. So I just made eggs every day, and so we just keep it rolling. But I thought you should, since you're bringing up food. So anyway, what about this one? It says strength and honor are her clothing.
I love that.
What does that mean to?
you. I think that she sees beyond the superficial. I think that this woman, she's having babies and she has PMS and menopause and she's going through life and she's gaining a little bit of weight here and losing a little bit of weight there.
It also says that she strengthens her arms and stuff, and so she's exercising and she's making sure she's taking care of her body. But strength and honor are her clothing.
That means that she cares more about what's on the inside than what she looks like on the outside, even though she knows she looks good Because she's taken care of herself and handling her business. She knows that she's beautiful, but she knows that that's not where her true value is. Her value lies within.
What about this one? She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.
I like that this scripture tells me that this woman, she's not so young. I think that you can be young and wise and stuff, but when I think about someone who opens their mouth with wisdom and kindness is the law of their tongue, I think about your more mature woman. I think I got there when I was maybe in my 30s.
I started to get there and I'm better now that I'm in my 40s and I want to get better and better and better.
Kindness sticks out to me on this one. Kindness is the law of her tongue. I think there's a lot of women who don't understand the power that they have in their mouth to tear down their husband or their family or to build them up. And there's something about kindness, the atmosphere of kindness, man.
My.
God, there's no atmosphere like that in a home. It's one of our core values, actually, that we teach our kids Kindness. Yeah.
And I think kindness is one of those things that here's how I deal with kindness and I've been getting better at it recently, I think, because I had to check myself.
Check yourself.
It is when you treat your family, your kids and your spouse the same way you would treat somebody who just came to your front door. So when I come to church or work or whatever, or the grocery store and somebody's like, I'm like, hi, how are you? And I'm patient with them, I'm kind with them, I talk to them, I smile and I put forth my best effort.
I think when it comes to kindness inside of our home, we do the same thing with our kids, like hey, babe, good morning, how are you?
Podcast for another day. It's almost like don't treat your. You're an adult, but you act like a 13 year old. That's what 13 year olds do. Like you pick them up from school. They get in the car how are you Good? And then for 30 minutes a whole ride home and say absolutely nothing, don't care about your life.
I ain't asking about your day, right, but if they saw their friends, oh hey, how you doing. Come on, let's take a picture together. You know what I'm saying, so don't act like a 13 year old, exactly. I'll give you one more. It says that charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised Anything.
Stick out to you on that one.
No well, yes, I think more of what I was just talking about is just that the true beauty lies within, and who you are isn't necessarily what you look like, but really who God's called you to be. You know, like your child of God or a daughter of God, the principles and the law of God that you follow. I think that is what I aspire to be, at least.
Yeah. So what I hear today is number one virtuous women need other virtuous women and I think that's an important principle for women who are listening.
I think that the reason that that was birthed in you 20 years ago is because you was around another Proverbs 31 virtuous woman, and then virtuous women were getting together and virtuous women give birth to other virtuous women.
Amen.
And so you know, don't do life alone. I think as a woman it's easy, because of your responsibilities, to kind of put your head down, but you need other women who you can aspire to become like. Absolutely and live your life.
¶ Living as a Proverbs 31 Woman
I'm also here today that this is not a checklist of things to do, but principles to live by. And so when you read Proverbs 31, don't look like like, oh my God, am I done this? Am I done this? Like, oh, this is just more things for me to do. No, these are principles that you get to live by.
This is not what you have to do, but what you get to live by if you so choose. And it's actually to bring value to you and to those that you love in your life. And I'll also hear today that it doesn't matter where you are, who you are, you can actually take steps towards being a Proverbs 31 woman.
And my hope is that when people hear you and they hear your story and they see where you come from and for those who are newer to our show, they don't, might not understand that you came from poverty and you've experienced racism and sexual abuse and verbal abuse and all these different things, but we see the beautiful woman that you are today, which is really
the handy work of God. People say how do you know God's real? I would say have you seen my wife? You know, and so that's the evidence, and I think that there's a lot of women who are listening to this, that your life is not perfect, but you are actually the evidence that God is real. How?
he's changed your life, and so anyone who's listening to this you can take a step towards this. It's not a checklist. It's principles that you get to live by, but it starts with you in your heart saying I want to be a Proverbs 31 woman. I want to be that virtuous woman. Okay, here's the principles that she lived by was the first three that I can perfect.
Maybe I should ask my husband and other those who around me what are the things that you see in me that I could take from this to apply to my life to make me take a step towards that? Maybe it's kindness, maybe it's management, maybe it's delegation, maybe it's how you treat your husband.
It talked about how everybody knew him in the city gates because of his wife I'm talking about. This woman had the. She had that thing, and I think that women have that. They have that off. They have that thing if they really use it for the good and not for the bad. And so you have a ministry called Pio woman.
And it's actually in another way to say a Proverbs 31 woman, in my opinion. It's another expression of the virtuous woman of God. Can you just tell me a little bit about Pio and what your heart behind it and what your vision is for women?
Yeah, absolutely so. Pio is short for pioneer. And I, a long time ago, when I was looking for a name for the women's ministry that I was to lead, I was having a talk with another woman who is a mentor.
I love her so much and I was just sharing with her what was going on in my life, where I was and getting advice, and she turned to me and she said, tabitha, you know what, you've been through things in your life and you've seen these things. But you know why you're having difficulties now. It's because you are a pioneer. You've not.
You haven't seen what it's like to be a mother. You haven't seen what it's like to be a wife. You haven't seen certain things in your life and you have to pioneer your way. And I was just like, and she just began to spoke, speak to me and pour into my life and build me up.
And that was, you know, just the beginning of Pio woman, the pioneer woman ministry. And so Pio woman is about me just believing that there's a pioneer on the inside of every woman, that a pioneer is a leader, it's someone who leads the way, it's someone who is maybe the first you know. So for me, I was the first in my family to go to college.
I was the first in my family to I don't know get married and have a godly marriage. The first to be in ministry and the first to do so many things, maybe own a home and you know just all of that kind of thing. All of that stuff, and sometimes you can feel hopeless in being in the first, like man, how am I gonna do this?
But you don't know me, you don't know where I come from. You don't know. You know the things that I've done. No, you can pioneer your way to where God says that you're supposed to be, and so I just believe that, you know, as a Pio woman, we have the ability, we have the strength, we have the power from God to be what he's called us to be. Amen.
So here at a live church in Orlando, Florida, in different parts of Florida, we have a Pio woman event twice a year and if you are a woman and that just bears witness with you, you want to be around other strong women, other virtuous women, other pioneering women.
I would encourage you to come in, hang out in Orlando, man, and we do these every August and also every February of every year. It's just the one night event where hundreds of women come from all around just to be empowered by the Holy Spirit. All right, hey, we're out of time for today, but thank you guys, so much for tuning in.
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