In this episode, I do another Seasonal Sex Tips and Disability as we start fall. This time I look at all the coupley/date type things we do in the Fall and examine whether or not they are accessible. Find out what would happen for me as a disabled person if we went camping in October, went horseback riding, tried to build a bonfire together, tried pumpkin carving and so much more. Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "a...
Oct 10, 2019•40 min•Ep. 160
In minisode 27, I asked you to send in your letters and e-mails that answered the question, "What Scares You About Being Disabled?" I share letters from listeners all about their fears around disability. Enjoy! Send in your minisode letters to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com.
Oct 06, 2019•27 min
In this episode, I sit down with bionic babe, essayist and editor Dayna Troisi. We talk about sex, disability and her experience being an upper limb amputee. She shares that she is a "slutty disabled person", we talk about why it's okay to be messy about disability and a whole lot more. Follow Dayna's work at www.daynatroisi.com . Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot tee shirt, a...
Oct 03, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 159
On this episode, I sit down with author and sex educator Kevin Patterson. We chat about his experiences being a partner to poly disabled people; how polyamory really works when navigating a disabled partners' needs, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! Follow Kevin's work on Twitter @PolyRoleModel. Buy his book "Love is Not Color Blind" Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot tee shirt, and...
Sep 26, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 158
In this episode, I sit down with sex educator and host of Sex Out Loud, Tristan Taormino as we talk about her experiences with chronic back pain and working in the sexuality space. She explains why she loves corsets, why she switched from high heels to flats, we talk about why first class flying is indeed an access issue and a whole lot more about sex, disability and everything in between. Enjoy! You can follow Tristan's work at www.tristantaormino.com or on Twitter www.twitter.com/TristanTaormi...
Sep 19, 2019•1 hr 21 min•Ep. 157
In this episode, I sit down with a researcher from Toronto's Holland Bloorview Children's Rehabilitation Hospital to talk about a new study that she enlisted me and others to help her on, looking at how to talk to disabled kids and their healthcare providers about sex, sexuality and sexual health promotion. A whole lot of questions and conversation arise from this, as we talk about how we can combat ableism in this area, what it's like to put on a study like this, why there aren't more research ...
Sep 12, 2019•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 156
Hey, hey! The minisodes are back! This is where you send in your stories about disability and I read them back to you. In this one, we hear from Sammy who tells us about their worst disabled traveler experience; Shawna tells us about the worst dating advice they have received as a disabled person, and Julia tells me how she lived through my worst sexual nightmare, and it was kind of awesome! You can submit your minisodes to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com and they will be read on the 6th of every ...
Sep 06, 2019•24 min
For the three year anniversary of this show, I am so excited to share my very first LIVE episode ever of Disability After Dark. I did a show at Toronto's iconic Masonic Temple with my friend porn star (and repeat guest), Jay Austin. This time around, I look in his eyeballs and ask him "What Would Happen If You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" We talk about how his day to day would change, could he still be a versatile bottom, and he even comes out as disabled himself. This was a really fun episode, an...
Sep 05, 2019•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 155
In this episode I sit down with Dr. Judith Glover from RMIT University who is one of the lead innovators and key members of the design team working with us on our Deliciously Disabled sex toy project. We talk about how she became involved and interested in sex toy design, how you create great sex toys, how sexuality and disability is a human right, and we explore what the future of sex tech and disability might look like. Enjoy! You can follow Judith's work by heading over to dashi.rmitidsites.n...
Aug 29, 2019•1 hr 42 min•Ep. 154
In this episode, I sit down with activist, instructor and altogether disabled badass, Hannah Soyer. We talk about her experiences being a wheelchair using instructor, physical cues and consent, her This Body is Worthy campaign and so much more. Enjoy! You can follow Hannah on Twitter @soyernotsawyer You can also follow and support Hannah's This Body is Worthy Campaign at www.thisbodyisworthy.com Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using...
Aug 22, 2019•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 153
In this episode, I sit down with TV writer Esme Mazzeo as we talk about her experience at her 10 year high school reunion, writing about disability on TV and how we can do better, what independence means for her and so much more. We go off an a ktrillion tangents, and it was amazing. Enjoy! Make sure you follow Esme on Twitter at: https://twitter.com/EsmeMazzeo Follow our sponsors for this episode at: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". B...
Aug 15, 2019•1 hr 39 min•Ep. 152
In the continuing series, "What If You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" I sit down with sex columnist and podcaster Dan Savage. We talk about his history of seeing gay disabled men at bars, how becoming disabled might change his life with his partner, how disability might change his working life and why he was a little scared to come on the show...and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow Dan Savage on social media at @fakedansavage & listen to The Savage Lovecast. Be sure to support our sponsor...
Aug 08, 2019•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 151
In Episode 150 (wow), I sit down with Mike Matlock (aka The Crippled Critic) to talk about disability in the gaming world, how good he is at using a joystick, his journey with polyamory and Spinal Muscular Atrophy and so much more. Enjoy! Be sure to follow our guest at: https://twitter.com/CrippCritic Follow our sponsors for this episode at: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot tee shirt, and support the movemen...
Aug 01, 2019•1 hr 17 min•Ep. 150
In this episode we explore what it's like to try and get to a date if you are disabled and you don't drive. What are the challenges of going "on foot", using disability transit, conventional transit, etc. We also talk about how the idea of independence and sex plays into having a car and how disabled people who can't drive are affected by this. Enjoy! Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeop...
Jul 25, 2019•57 min•Ep. 149
In this episode, we review the 2012 independent film "Morgan" all about a gay athlete who gets paralyzed and then falls in love with a non-disabled guy. We explore the ableist tropes in the film and the way sexuality and disability is portrayed... the film is super low budget and super not great. You can watch the full film here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FwkyuJLFeQE Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark...
Jul 18, 2019•45 min•Ep. 148
In this episode, I sit down with my new friend Leah Sauter who shares with us her experiences of being disabled and studying the holocaust in Haifa, Israel. She also shares with us her experience navigating dating and her relationship while living with anxiety, PCOS and a whole host of other disabilities and issues. We find out how she and her partner work with all this together, she tells us why she is an awkward turtle and so much more. Enjoy! You can follow Leah on instagram at @peculiarleah ...
Jul 11, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 147
In this episode I introduce you to my sister and co-founder of Deliciously Disabled, Heather Morrison. Together we started the brand in the hopes of creating the very first line of sex toys for disabled people. I talk with Heather about why this type of thing was important for her to be involved in, she highlights the specs of the project, our push to find funding, why access to self-pleasure is a human right and something people take for granted, and she even shares some funny awkward stories a...
Jul 04, 2019•55 min•Ep. 146
In this episode, I talk about how many disabled people don't get a second date, and from there we look at popular magazine suggestions about what to do on Date #2, and apply disability to them. Maybe on the 2nd date you can bring up ableism. Maybe on the 2nd date you can take your date on disability transit. Maybe on that second date you can wear comfy crip clothes, and be way more your disabled self on the date than you thought. All this and more on this episode. Enjoy! Get 15% off any purchase...
Jun 27, 2019•35 min•Ep. 145
In this episode, I look at the logistics of sex in a bathtub when you have a disability. We talk about how you and a partner can get you in the tub, the accessibility of sexy disabled bathtub time once in the tub, some of the problems you might encounter and more. Enjoy! Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot tee shirt, and support the movement here https://store.podcastjukebox.org...
Jun 22, 2019•35 min•Ep. 144
In this episode, I sit down with disabled married couple Kate & Aaron Wolovsky. They go by "The Disabled Duo." We have a fun chat about their disabled meet cute, their marrisge and sex life as a disabled couple and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow The Disabled Duo at @DisabledDuo on Twitter. Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot tee shirt, and support the movement here ...
Jun 15, 2019•2 hr 17 min•Ep. 143
In this episode, I invite the hosts of the Do You Queer What I Queer Podcast, Elliott and Thom to ask me questions about sex, disability and queerness they might have. Things take a pretty hilarious turn as they discover why taint-sucking is the most accessible sex act, I recount hilarious stories (again!), we talk ableist misconceptions and more! Enjoy! Follow the Do Queer What I Queer Pod here: iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/do-you-queer-what-i-queer/id1297564476?mt=2 Twitter: h...
Jun 08, 2019•1 hr 25 min•Ep. 142
In this bonus episode, I sit down with Associate Professor of English in Women's and Gender Studies at Williamette, Allison P. Hobgood. We interrogate how crip sexuality, disability and Shakespeare go together by looking at his play Measure by Measure. Through the play, we talk about how in Shakespearean times crip corporeality has always been there whether we realized it or not. This episode brought my love of history, disability and sexuality back together, and I had to share with you. Enjoy! ...
Jun 05, 2019•49 min
In this episode, I sit down with poet and professor Travis Lau as we talk about how his queerness and Asian background and upbringing both collided with his disability and mild scoliosis throughout his formative years and in gay spaces. Enjoy! You can follow Travis on Twitter @travisclau or on his website at www.travisclau.com Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot tee shirt, and s...
Jun 02, 2019•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 141
In this episode I talk about how I just got a brand new accessible bed, and how that has changed my sex life. I share how difficult sex was in my old bed, the struggles of finding an accessible luxury bed, I ponder why these beds are not marketed to sexy, disabled people, and finally, I tell you why sex in my new accessible bed is awesome. Enjoy! Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAre...
May 28, 2019•41 min•Ep. 140
I sit down with Thomas Dixon, creator of Me.mory as we talk about how his experience with traumatic brain injury affects his memory, and how his memory has played a role in his sex life and his relationships; how sex has been different since his injury (maybe even better) and so much more. Enjoy! You can support Thomas' work by going to his GoFundMe Page Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledP...
May 21, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 139
Since we haven't done an episode about Gimps on Grindr since WAAAAAAAAY back in Episode 5, I thought it was time to revisit some of the things guys have said to me on the app recently. You'll hear about the guy who gave me a rude awakening, the guy who asked me if I was "born in a tiny chair" and so much more. Enjoy Episode 138, all about ableist appholes! Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #Disable...
May 14, 2019•38 min•Ep. 138
In this very special bonus episode, I sit down with one of my podcast colleagues and someone who I totally admire, Jeremie Saunders. He is the one of the hosts of the wildly popular podcasts Sickboy " all about finding the funny in chronic illness and/or disability and " Turn Me On ", a podcast wherein he explores sexuality topics with his wife, Bryde. I talk to him today about his life with Cystic Fibrosis, and how living with a shortened life expectancy has had an impact on his sense of impuls...
May 14, 2019•1 hr 16 min
In this episode, I continue talking to non-disabled community members about what might happen if they became disabled tomorrow. This time, I sit down with LGBTQ&A Podcast host, Jeffrey Masters. He tells me how he thinks his sense of independence might be altered, and how car hook ups might be a tad different. I loved this one. Enjoy! Follow Jeffrey Masters here: [ @jeffmasters1 ]( www.twitter.com/jeffmasters1 ) Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are ...
May 07, 2019•47 min•Ep. 137
In this episode, I sit down with UK motivational speaker, Fern Lulham. We talk about her experiences navigating the dating world as a blind woman, some of the ways she tried to cope with the stigma of blindness, how disability affected her self-esteem and her sense self, fashion, her guide dog Nancy and so much more. Enjoy! You can follow Fern's work at www.fernlulham.com Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark"...
Apr 30, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 136
In this episode, I sit down with sex educator Anne Hodder-Ship as we explore her experiences with chronic constipation and how that has affected her sexuality, her sense of safety and so much more. You can follow Anne's work by heading over to www.annehodder.com Be sure to support our sponsors: Get 15% off any purchase at Come As You Are Co-op Sex Shop, by using coupon code "afterdark". Buy a #DisabledPeopleAreHot tee shirt, and support the movement here https://store.podcastjukebox.org/collecti...
Apr 23, 2019•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 135
