In this episode I do something a little different on the show. I reached out to my friends Mike and Kyle from the wildly popular Gayish Podcast, and asked them to come on the show so I could ask them, "What If You Became Disabled Tomorrow?" We talk about how their views on sex might change, what they'd be afraid of and so much more. Download Gayish here: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/gayish-podcast/id1223826362 Follow Gayish here: https://twitter.com/gayishpodcast Be sure to support our ...
Apr 16, 2019•1 hr 29 min•Ep. 134
In this episode, I sit down with actor Anthony Michael Lopez. We chat everything from acting with a disability, and how he prepared for his roles in Mapplethorpe and Broad City, to chatting about sex and disability as a gay amputee. Believe me, the title of this episode is more than appropriate. I loved this episode so much, and I hope you do too. Follow Anthony at @flittergaggot on Twitter and insta. Be sure to support our sponsors: Oleb Books, who have launched a Personal Essay Contest for dis...
Apr 09, 2019•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 133
In this episode, I explore how to go on a romantic getaway with your disabled lover. We talk about how there are no images of disabled couples on blogs about romantic getaways... We explore why maybe surprising your disabled lover with an impromptu unplanned getaway is a bad idea, and we talk about how some of the blogs' romantic getaway spots completely miss the mark on accessibility. We also look at a few things you can do to still have that sexy, disabled vacation. Enjoy! Be sure to support o...
Apr 02, 2019•37 min•Ep. 132
In this episode, I sit down with the creator of the Girl Boner brand, August McLaughlin. We have a chat about how ADHD has an effect on your sex life, how sometimes things can be really intense because of it, and a whole lot more. Enjoy! You can follow August's work at www.augustmclaughlin.com . You can find all her socials there as well. Be sure to support our new sponsor: Oleb Books, who have launched a Personal Essay Contest for disabled parents. Details here: www.olebbooks.com/contests Also,...
Mar 26, 2019•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 131
In this very special bonus episode, I sit down with playwright and artist Nicholas Linnehan. We talk about his experience being gay and disabled, and turning that into art projects like his upcoming short film, "Catfish", and his play "Identity" which closes in New York this weekend! We also talk about how Nicholas is looking for more than just a hook up, and so much more. You can get tickets for the show here: https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4052890...
Mar 21, 2019•52 min
In this episode, I chat with Roo Bernascone, a self-professed "cripple punk". We have a really important chat about disability, fatness and scoliosis, and how his fatness is linked inextricably to care and disability. We also talk sex, transmasc identities, polyamory and disability. We flirt with each other too. Enjoy! You can follow Roo on twitter: @roo_b_arts Be sure to support our new sponsor: Oleb Books, who have launched a Personal Essay Contest for disabled parents. Details here: www.olebb...
Mar 19, 2019•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 130
In this minisode, I get an e-mail from Crystal, a self-appointed "disabled homo" from Washington, who talks about how listening to episode 125 with her ex-partner helped her understand an access internalized ableism. If you want to write in for a minisode, e-mail me at disabilityafterdark@gmail.com
Mar 18, 2019•11 min
In episode 129, I sit down with the cohost of the kink and BDSM podcast "Off The Cuffs", Minimus Maximus, or just "Max" for short. He reveals how his autism and Asperger's has an effect on his masculinity. We chat about how ASD plays into kink scenes, how order in BDSM calms his Aspie brain; we chat about his bisexuality and how different partners handle his Asperger's. he tells me about some thoughts on Asperger's portrayals in pop culture, and we both prove that the weird kid is almost always ...
Mar 12, 2019•1 hr 31 min•Ep. 129
In this episode, I sit down with ER nurse Ryann Kress as she shares her experiences working in a busy hospital and living with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. We talk about how her disability affects her job as a nurse, and I ask her what you learn about sex and disability in nursing school... shocker, not much. Ryann also shares some jaw dropping sex stories about her experiences with EDS, blowjobs, polyquads and so much more. You don't wanna miss this one. Enjoy! Be sure to support our new sponsor: Ol...
Mar 05, 2019•1 hr 12 min•Ep. 128
In this episode, I sit down with guest Noor Pervez, as we talk about autism, physical disability, sex, disability and religion. Noor shares his experiences of dating while trans and disabled and so much more. Enjoy! Be sure to support our new sponsor: Oleb Books, who have launched a Personal Essay Contest for disabled parents. Details here: www.olebbooks.com/contests Support Disability After Dark by pledging to the patreon. www.patreon.com/cripplecontent...
Feb 26, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 127
In this random minisode I talk about the viral success of my hashtag #DisabledPeopleAreHot; where it came from, why it is important, what I wanna do with it and more. Enjoy!
Feb 22, 2019•7 min
In this episode, I sit down with LA based comedienne Danielle Perez. We chat about devotees, the challenges of hunting for good d*ck in Los Angeles when you're a wheelchair user, internalized ableism, and Danielle talks about a new romantic comedy she is writing that will have a disabled lead actress! Enjoy! Be sure to support our new sponsor: Oleb Books, who have launched a Personal Essay Contest for disabled parents. Details here: www.olebbooks.com/contests Support Disability After Dark by ple...
Feb 19, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 126
In this episode, I share with you some GREAT sex I had recently, and discuss how ableism can be a constant bedfellow. I share my anger over not being able to jerk a lover off, or give him head in the way I want due to limited fine motor function. I explore how that anger made me feel in the moment, and consider what you can do if you have better gross motor functions than fine motor skills. Lastly, I look at exercises you might do to improve fine motor function so you can jerk cocks/lovers off a...
Feb 12, 2019•23 min•Ep. 125
In this episode, I sit down with freelance writer in sex and disability, Spencer Williams. We talk about his work as a Vice Columnist writing about the personal side of sex and disability. He also shares his experience being featured in a documentary about his work with sex surrogates and sex workers. We share in those experiences; talking about shame, fear and stigma... and it was nice to be in a space with another disabled man who has had these experiences, too. Enjoy! You can follow Spencer's...
Feb 05, 2019•12 min•Ep. 124
On this episode, I sit down with fan turned guest Roxie, who e-mailed me a few weeks ago saying that she listened to the show, and it was helping her get through her own internalized ableism as a woman with Cerebral Palsy raising two kids. We have a really important conversation that dives into things like financial abuse, emotional abuse, kinks, ableism, self-esteem, disability and so much more. This is an important one.
Jan 29, 2019•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 123
In this episode, I review the film Margarita with a Straw. It's a movie that came out in 2014 about an Indian woman with Cerebral Palsy who is experimenting her sexuality. I talk about how this film is ableist in so many ways, share some funny anecdotes about the film, and even highlight how my views on actors "cripping up" has changed. Enjoy!
Jan 22, 2019•52 min•Ep. 122
In this episode, I sit down with porn star Pierce Paris about his new scene with quadriplegic porn star, Kenneth Connin. We talk all about this new scene produced by Himeros.TV and the importance of having disabled porn stars like Kenneth. I ask him about what it was like working with a disabled star; some of the considerations, accessibility, whether disabled people give great head and so much more. To watch the scene, you can head over Himeros.TV . You can connect with Pierce on his twitter he...
Jan 19, 2019•52 min
In this episode, I take a look at typical first date foods, and consider how accessible or inaccessible they might be if you had to be fed by a partner. I explain why asking the question "Would you shove this in my mouth?" is both playful and important. I also give tips to non-disabled partners on how to help your disabled lover eat and more. Enjoy!
Jan 15, 2019•44 min•Ep. 121
As a special treat, I have decided to release the Patreon Bonus Chat with Charlie Garner from Episode 120. We talk about hospitals, doctors, medications, orgasms, disability and so, so much more. If you pledge $1 a month or more to www.patreon.com/cripplecontent you get these bonuses first! Hope you enjoy!
Jan 12, 2019•34 min
In this interview, I sit down with a DisabilityAfterDark fan turned guest from the UK, who wrote into me telling me how important the show is to her, and then proceeded to tell me of her deathly allergy to sperm, and how that affects her sex life. I knew I wanted her on the show. We talk about her sperm allergy and how that has affected her, IBS, fibromyalgia, sexual trauma and a whole lot more. This is a really important episode. Enjoy! Also, if you sign up for the Patreon, there is a bonus int...
Jan 08, 2019•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 145
In this episode, I sit down with Cameron Glover, host of a new podcast Sex Ed in Color, as she comes out to us as a QPOC living with chronic pain. I heard of her work when she shouted out this podcast on Twitter. I started following her, listening to her show, and I fell in love with her work immediately. We have such a great chat about disability, sexuality, chronic pain, POC, I come out as femme in this episode maybe, and so much more!! Enjoy! Follow Cameron's work at www.cameronglover.com . F...
Jan 01, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 144
Surprise! In this Bonus Episode of "When I Was A Disabled Kid", I sit down with writer Wendy Lu to talk about her experiences as a disabled kid with a trach; what it was like having a nurse with you 24/7, trying to make friends and be independent and so, so much more about her disabled childhood. You can follow all of Wendy's work on Twitter at @wendyluwrites . You can also follow my work at @andrewgurza or @disaftdarkpod . You can support the show by pledging $1 a month or more by heading over ...
Dec 29, 2018•40 min
In this episode, I sit down with author, producer and soon to be TV personality, Ryan O'Connell. We talk about his experience of Cerebral Palsy and gay identity, and trying to bring that into the public sphere with his up and coming TV show, "Special". We also chat about wanting boys to ask us out on weekend dates as disabled guys, disability activism and queerness, his experience of sex work and so much more. You can follow Ryan's work by following him on Twitter at @ryanoconn Remember you can ...
Dec 25, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 143
This episode I sit down with my friend, sex worker and porn star, Raj. We have a chat about what it was like for him to have sex with a disabled lover - me. We talk about our experiences having sex together, and I ask him what that must have felt like for him; was he nervous? Was he scared he'd hurt me because I was disabled? Am I a good disabled lover? All this and more will be revealed in this episode. Enjoy!!!! You can contact Raj on Twitter at @iamrajxxx Remember you can support DisabilityAf...
Dec 21, 2018•10 min•Ep. 142
In this episode, I come out about my experiences working with sex workers as a queer disabled man. I share why I made the decision, some good and not-so-good experiences working with sex workers when disabled, and I offer tips and tricks to disabled clients on how to make the sessions about your agency and your pleasure. I share how sex work helped me gain self-confidence as a disabled man and so much more... Like what it was like telling my Mom. Enjoy! Remember you can support DisabilityAfterDa...
Dec 14, 2018•46 min•Ep. 141
I wanted to do something special today. You may have heard on the show that I'd be releasing When I Was A Disabled Ki episodes exclusively on Patreon. BUT - I wanted to gift you with the first episode of When I Was A Disabled Kid - as a thank you for supporting the show DisabilityAfterDark and Cripple Content Creations. This first episode is with my friend; author, disabled activist Carrie Wade. We talk about her childhood growing up with Cerebral Palsy, no snow, coming out as Queer and Disabled...
Dec 11, 2018•1 hr 10 min
In this episode, I talk with disabled, queer photographer, Robert Andy Coombs. We talk about how he became disabled and how he felt about that, his amazing photography work centering disabled, male sexuality and why he is a badass in the bedroom. This one is funny, raw, sexy, and I definitely spent half the episode flirting with Robert! Enjoy. Links to all of Robert's work can be found at his website: www.robertandycoombs.com . Remember you can support DisabilityAfterDark by following @andrewgur...
Dec 07, 2018•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 140
In this episode, I sit down with award winning author and journalist, Belo Cipriani as we talk about navigating the world as a blind gay man; everything from how he became blind to the accessibility of gay hook up culture is openly explored. Of course, we have some laughs too. Enjoy! You can follow Belo's work by heading over to his website: www.belocipriani.com.
Nov 30, 2018•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 139
In this episode, I talk with Jewish sex educator and behavior specialist, Galia Godel. She works as a sex educator around sexual health and intellectual disabilities. We talk about how to talk about sex and sexuality with intellectually disabled people. She shares some experiences working with intellectually disabled clients, we talk consent, intellectual disabilities and so much more. Follow Galia's work at @SexCerebral on Twitter . You can work with Galia and hire her by going to cerebral-sexu...
Nov 23, 2018•14 min•Ep. 138
In this episode, we sit down with writer, activist and disability badass, Ace Ratcliff. We talk about things dislocating during sex, revealing your identity as an ambulatory wheelchair user, and we talk to Ace about how their use of pronoun they/them is directly related to their disabled identity. You can follow Ace at @MortuaryReport on Twitter, or hit up their website at www.stayweirdbekind.com You can support DisabilityAfterDark for as little as $1 per month by going to Patreon.com/cripplecon...
Nov 16, 2018•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 137
