In this episode, we look at tips and tricks for a sexy, disabled sleepover, and how a lot of the tips in popular culture around sleepovers aren't accessible to disabled people. We look at things like phone etiquette, scent needs, bringing stuff in a discreet bag (how inaccessible is that when you have wheelchairs?) and so much more. Follow the show on Twitter at @disaftdarkpod and pledge to the show on Patreon at $1 month at www.patreon.com/cripplecontent...
Nov 09, 2018•43 min•Ep. 136
In this episode, find out why I have "Queer Cripple" tattooed on my chest, and how all my tattoos connect to my sexuality and my disability. Let me know if I should get a sexy pin up tat or not. I tell you the story of when I got a tattoo to impress a boy, and so much more. Enjoy!
Nov 02, 2018•44 min•Ep. 135
In this episode, I sit down with Sara Camps, an autistic queer person whose gender is cat lady. We talk about how autism affects her experience of intimacy. Sara talks about running a queer disability support group at a University, and suggests ways that University groups can engage with intersectional identities better. We talk about her relationship with her cishet husband, and so much more. Enjoy! You can follow Sara on Twitter here: @cheesepickles...
Oct 26, 2018•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 134
In this episode, I sit down with the hilarious Karolyn Gehrig, creator of the #HospitalGlam hashtag about sexuality, disability, and so much more. Our conversations touch on Karolyn's experience of EDS, her "How Much Blood is Too Much Blood", talking about the right to die and then getting her pussy eaten out with a date, and lots more. Follow Karolyn on Twitter here: @karolynprg Go to Karolyn's website here: http://www.karolyngehrig.com/...
Oct 19, 2018•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 133
In this episode we chat with relationship and sexual wellness coach Kat Nantz. We go into her experience of Charcot Marie Tooth Disease and how that plays into sexuality for her. We also chat about grieving disability, BDSM, Kink and Power with Disability, Parenting and Disability and so much more. You can follow Kat's work at www.katnantz.com
Oct 12, 2018•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 132
In this episode, I talk with Aspyn Bennett about the intersection of trans and Cerebral Palsy. We also chat about dating, disability and bisexuality and demisexuality. We discuss what it feels like to be fetishized as a disabled trans person and so much more. You can follow Aspyn on instagram at www.instagram.com/aspyn_bennett
Oct 05, 2018•1 hr•Ep. 131
In this episode, I talk about how I recently came due for a brand new wheelchair and all that entails. From there, I look at the fuckability of wheelchairs throughout history from wheelbarrows, bath chairs, the farffler and more. Enjoy!
Sep 28, 2018•39 min•Ep. 130
In this episode, I sit down with Go-Go Boy, Chef and Porn Performer Jay Austin as we talk about the possibility of doing a porn scene together, and how my disability might be incorporated into that. We talk about the logistics of having a disabled actor in gay porn, we reveal my gay porn stage name and so much more. Follow Jay Austin's work at www.jayaustin.xxx or on Twitter @jayxaustin
Sep 21, 2018•41 min•Ep. 129
I am SO EXCITED about this episode! On this one, I sit down with some of my all-time favorite podcasters, the gals of the wildly successful show, Wine and Crime. They come on to ask me questions about sex and disability; we share stories, laughs, and have a really funny, honest conversation. You can find Wine and Crime here , and follow them on Twitter @WineandCrimePod...
Sep 14, 2018•10 min•Ep. 128
In this episode, I look at popular seasonal sex tips from magazines like "Hot Summer Sex Tips" and look at whether or not these tips incorporate disability, or how ableist some of these tips in fact are, and how they don't work for disabled people. Enjoy!
Sep 07, 2018•43 min•Ep. 102
In this minisode I get a letter about healthcare professionals stuck in the binary, inaccessible sex toy shops with medieval front doors and a person who regained the ability to masturbate after losing dexterity all from an anonymous listener who loves the show. Then we hear from someone who wants advice on how they can express their sexuality. Enjoy. Minisodes are now every two weeks on Wednesday. Send in your letters to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com ....
Sep 05, 2018•20 min
In this episode, I take one of my favorite classic romantic comedies from the 90s, "You've Got Mail" and think about how that movie might look if the lead heroine (Meg Ryan) had a disability. How would the movie change? How would the narrative change? What would different scenes be like if accessibility had to be considered? All these things and more are explored in this episode. Enjoy!
Aug 31, 2018•50 min•Ep. 125
Holy fuck, it's episode 100 of DisabilityAfterDark. What???! For this episode, I caught up with one of my favorite all time guests, Amin Lakhani. He reached out to me saying that he had more stuff to talk about including depression, sex, and disability, building a brand, cumming in a glove and so much more. This is a really important interview and it was totally fitting as episode 100!
Aug 24, 2018•1 hr 42 min•Ep. 124
In this brand new minisode, we get 2 very different letters in the inbox. Korbyn asks how to cope with the onset of a new disability, and asks how to manage this with partners. Then, we get a letter from Anonymous who shares a story of some hot sex they had with a partner, and how dom/sub/puppy play may interplay with their autistic identity. I also ask YOU to submit stories about your childhood/teen years as a disabled person and offer other suggestions for the next minisode. You can submit to ...
Aug 22, 2018•27 min
In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and Pleasure Professional Eva Sweeney. She tells about her experiences working in the field of sex and disability through O School. Eva tells us hilarious stories about sex in her teens years; cum, dog hair and so much more. This was a really fun one. Follow Eva's work at crippingupsexwitheva.com Enjoy!
Aug 17, 2018•58 min•Ep. 122
This episode is a really fun, simple episode where I tell you all about some great sex I had recently. I wanted to share because we so rarely hear disabled people telling great sex stories. So often our sexual encounters as disabled people are bogged down with ableism, and I wanted to share a moment that was just some really good sex for this queer cripple. Enjoy!
Aug 10, 2018•47 min•Ep. 121
In this episode, I talk with chronically ill sex blogger Rachael Rose about her blog Hedonish.com . We talk about sexuality and chronic illness, brain fog and sex, why she once named her illness "Fred"; what brings Rachael pleasure as a chronically ill person, our "jewish-ness" is revealed and so, so much more. Be sure to follow Rachael's work at Web: www.hedonish.com Twitter: @hedonish...
Aug 03, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 120
In this episode, I talk about some of the current sex toys on the market for disabled people. I look at the ableist mess that is the "Intimate Rider" product and explore whether I think a Tenga Egg sleeve donated by Come As You Are would actually be accessible for someone like me by opening it live on the air. I also talk more about my new venture to create the first line of sex toys for and by physically disabled people.
Jul 27, 2018•47 min•Ep. 119
In this episode, I talk with a listener all the way from the UK, Morgan. We talk about their experiences with autism, sexuality, and queerness. They tell us about sex in a McDonald's, how autism affects their sex drive, autism in dom/sub/daddy relationships and a whole lot more. If you want to follow Morgan, you can do so here: www.twitter.com/kinkyautistic Enjoy!
Jul 20, 2018•41 min•Ep. 118
In this episode, I get an e-mail from an anonymous listener who talks about their journey with gender identity and also discusses a little bit about their dating history as an autistic non-binary person. They also mention the lack of representation of autistic people dating in the media. This was a nice, detailed glimpse into their world, and I was happy to read and discover that this podcast has been helpful to them. PLEASE WRITE IN FOR A MINISODE to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com ....
Jul 18, 2018•18 min
In this episode, I review 2018's Best Picture Winner "The Shape of Water". I talk a lot about the ableism in the film, and how the central character (played by a non-disabled actress... ugh) shouldn't necessarily fall in love with a fish man. I share some of my many issues with the film, as well as a few things I could relate to in love that I saw in this. I also share some reviews from disabled people who highlight just how ableist this romance between a deaf woman and a fish man actually is....
Jul 13, 2018•40 min•Ep. 116
This episode is all about my feelings about Pride when you are disabled. I share some of my experiences in Prides in 2018, and my issues with the organizational exclusion of disability by Pride orgs. I focus in on Pride Toronto and how we can do better. I also talk about some super ableist incidents that happened to disabled people during pride including Stonewall and Flaming Saddles Weho in LA. I also coin the term "bahcumbug" in this episode.
Jul 06, 2018•44 min•Ep. 115
Wow, it's our 20th disaftdark minisode! In this minisode, I get an e-mail from Jessica, who tells us all about their experiencing dating with a disability; whether they are gay or straight, and their comfortability in simply being alone and feeling complete. It was an awesomely long e-mail, but it resonated with me, and I hope you enjoy! Also, if you have a minisode idea that you want to share, please e-mail disabilityafterdark@gmail.com...
Jul 02, 2018•21 min
In this episode, I share with you that I love pop culture and celebrities along with sex and disability, so I combined these two loves. I talk about the celebs that I think wouldn't be super ableist (and some who might be a little ableist), and who I'd like to fuck. This one was so fun to do... Enjoy!
Jun 29, 2018•37 min•Ep. 113
In this minisode, I get a letter all about poop, sex, and disability. Larry asks me about polyamory and disability, and I let you all know about shitty sexual ableism that I have to deal with. Also, find out about a new venture I am working on. If you have a story/thought/anecdote/ableist experience you wanna share, be sure to send it in for a minisode to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com
Jun 27, 2018•23 min
In this episode, I talk about some of the times that I have been in photo shoots. I share 3 stories about what taking sexy photos as a disabled person is like. I talk about how disabled photography may be viewed by non-disabled people, sex and disability in photos, and more. Enjoy! I have added photos to the Facebook Group for this episode. Like us at Facebook.com/disabilityafterdark
Jun 22, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 111
In Minisode 18, I get an e-mail from Spencer who tells us all about his sexy adventures at a Green Day concert in the UK. I get a gentle reminder to watch how I word things, and I'm asked, "what's the difference between hyper-sexualization and asexualization of disabled people." Remember, if you have a story, an anecdote, thought, theory or anything to say on disability that you want included as a minisode, e-mail us at disabilityafterdark@gmail.com.
Jun 20, 2018•18 min
In episode 090, I talk with my friend (and new research assistant for the show), Rae. We talk about their upbringing in Ireland as both queer and disabled, working on their gender identity journey as a disabled person, religion, disability, and sex, flirting with low vision and so much more. This was a great interview and I hope you enjoy it! Remember, if you wanna contribute to a minisode, tell a story, be a guest, etc. e-mail disabilityafterdark@gmail.com Also, if you loved Rae and wanna follo...
Jun 15, 2018•17 min•Ep. 109
In Minisode 17, I hear from a listener whose partner had a stroke, and the impact that has had on him. I also get a letter from Alice who asks, "How do I work in a residential care setting and talk about sex?" If you have a story, question, an idea for a minisode be sure to send it to disabilityafterdark@gmail.com.
Jun 13, 2018•19 min
In this episode, I share with you some stories of things I have done to make boys like me, or stuff I did in the pursuit of peen - or both, and some of these things compromised my disability, health and safety. From flying by myself on airplane with a damaged wheelchair to meet a guy who paid no attention to me, to waiting 3 hours on a fall evening for a hook up who didn't show and also catching pneumonia, and lastly trying to get home from a hook up gone wrong, only to unintentionally flash peo...
Jun 08, 2018•41 min•Ep. 107
