hi :) the two of us graduated in the past few months, and no one prepared us for how lost and lazy we'd become. as south asian kids, college has always been the driving factor for our self worth, but what happens when your academic career finally comes to an end? in this episode, we talk bout how we thought post grad life was going to be all easy breezy beautiful covergirl, what post grad life actually ended up bein for us, and our advice to those of you who are soon going to be entering the sam...
Oct 28, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 61
hey!! we haven't done an advice session in months so here's our 4th edition :) we ask yall what kinda stuff you would like advice with on our instagram (@difficultish), and here are some of our favorites! if you wanna hear us talk about how to start a side hustle, how to manage working with white men, how to overcome jealousy, or how to become more social, listen to us rn!!!! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lab...
Oct 21, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 60
hello from paris and colombia! we are currently in our solo travel era and we have a lot to say on this topic!! first off, why was it difficult to put aside the child of immigrants guilt and book a ticket while also finally putting yourself first? how did we go about this conversation with our south asian parents? and then the juicy part of the conversation begins.... what we learned, the benefits of solo traveling, how to get over loneliness and anxiety, and MOST importantly, safety tips in a f...
Oct 14, 2022•50 min•Season 2Ep. 59
we talk all things anxiety in this episode. starting from what makes us anxious and what the signs are to why it's difficult for us to speak to immigrant parents about it. we also give you some of our tips at the end on how to feel better when you're anxious. we hope you can resonate! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ mashnun's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mashnunmunir/ Advertising Inquiries...
Oct 07, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 58
in this episode, Mohuya sits down with Maesha (@maeshaeva) who is a powerhouse Bangladeshi woman who is a Columbia alum, works at a Big Four firm, has her own marketing agency called The Eva Collective, and does five millions other things when she's ONLY. 23. we sit down and talk about how to network starting in high school, resume building, how to get into fields that you don't have direct "experience" in, productivity tips, and SO MANY older sister advice. you will feel so motivated after this...
Sep 30, 2022•45 min•Season 2Ep. 57
hey everyone! in todays episode, we are going to talk about all of the life lessons we've learned over the past few years and what advice we could've told our younger selves. a lot of the things we talk about are rooted in culture and we really hope you enjoy! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ mashnun's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mashnunmunir/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/b...
Sep 23, 2022•41 min•Season 2Ep. 56
hi :) this was my first solo episode on the pod cause mou's microphone was being silly. this was a lot harder than i expected lol so it's a bit all over the place. i wasn't too sure what direction i wanted to go, cus you all gave me so many different topics of discussion, but some that I chose were how i go about falling back in love with not only my culture, but culture in general, some of the realizations i have on my own life as i get older, as well as a bit of an art/writing update and where...
Sep 16, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 55
this is a good last episode in our lil dating series! in this episode, we talk about why dating is discouraged in south asian society and the difficulties behind interracial relationships. we talk about the immaturity that comes with dating early, war trauma and forgetting your roots in interracial relationships, and the *HORROR!* of mixed babies. at the end of the day, there's a lot that we don't understand about our parents, but we're just two besties trying our best to bridge the gap in this ...
Sep 10, 2022•52 min•Season 2Ep. 54
in this episode, we talk about the struggle that south asian kids go through to pursue the arts, but more specifically, the social media realm. social media is still on the rise and a lot of south asian parents get upset when you post "private" matters into the void and then you have to make a separate account to hide it from them and then a random cousin snitches on you?? anyways, we ramble in this episode about the difficulties of posting on social media in a south asian household, the workloa...
Sep 02, 2022•47 min•Season 2Ep. 53
we asked y'all to give us your best south asian hot takes that no one else agrees with and honestly, you should've kept some of these to yourself. we go from "women should be pressured into marriage" to "jalebis actually taste disgusting" and we got some opinions to say back to y'all. we hope you like this fun lil episode! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ mashnun's instagram: https://www.instagram....
Aug 26, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 52
another HIGHLY requested episode about dating! in this one, we talk about our experiences with telling our parents about our partners, our tips to introduce the topic, and so much more. ENJOYYY thank you Muzz for providing statistics on women's empowerment in dating for this weeks episode :) keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ mashnun's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mashnunmunir/ Advertising In...
Aug 19, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 51
hello our lovely listeners!! this week, we talkin about some of "untraditional" things we did that were discouraged because it didn't fit our stereotypical gender roles. in the south asian community, it's not typical for men to practice skin care or for women to be tomboys. in this episode, we talk about our own experiences and try to dissect why parents have this mindset. hope u enjoy! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instag...
Aug 12, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 50
hello our lovely listeners this is the long awaited STORY OF US! y'all have been asking since day one about if we're siblings or how we met and this is the TELL ALL. we talk about how to find the right person, how we met, long distance tips, and more. hope u enjoy this very special episode :) thank you Muzz for providing statistics on women's empowerment in dating for this weeks episode :) keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.ins...
Aug 05, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 49
we've been called selfish countless times by family members when we tried putting ourselves first. in the south asian community, you're taught to sacrifice your mental wellbeing instead of being "selfish" with your happiness. in this episode, we talk about why the word "selfish" has a negative connotation, what we've been selfish with recently, and so much more. hope u enjoy! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lab...
Jul 29, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 48
this episodes a heavy one. since the recent passing of sania khan, women have been more vocal about the taboo nature of divorce and abusive relationships in the south asian community. mashnun has c*vid, so mohuya talks solo on why women are taught to stay with their toxic partners in this culture, signs of abusive relationships, the effects of bollywood movies, and her own personal experience with an emotionally abusive relationship. hope this episode helps even just one of you and more actions ...
Jul 22, 2022•56 min•Season 2Ep. 47
this episode on toxic masculinity in south asian households was HEAVILY requested and y'all went ham in our story replies. in this ep., we talk about how mashnun didn't have a traditional "toxic" male upbringing because of the heavy influence of women in his life and some of his tips on how to discipline these entitled sons. we have so many experiences with toxic masculinity and we talk about the imbalance of power between sons and daughters, their privilege, allyship between the brothers and si...
Jul 15, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 46
WE'RE BACK!!<3 we took the last month off to reflect on the progress of the pod and think bout how to make it even better for u guys. we're so so excited to have u guys a part of the next chapter with us and even more excited for u guys to see what we got in store! in this ep, we're reminiscing on a lot of the happier stories that have always stuck out to us throughout our lives. we realized that us and our parents as south asians spend a lot of time highlighting the bad/negative parts of our...
Jul 08, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 1
it is officially the end of the season after about a year of straight podcasting and we are so excited to answer your questions and give advice in our last ep. of season one! what do u do when you feel lonely? how to pursue your dreams in a south asian household?? are y'all dating? we give you the tea and our thoughts. hope y'all enjoy and see you for season 2 on july 1st! thank you for your support the past year :) keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's...
Jun 10, 2022•58 min•Season 1Ep. 44
a lot of us struggle to connect with our roots and be "brown" cus of the internalized racism we had towards ourselves. we never rly saw healthy forms of representation that made us feel seen. SO, in this episode, we dive deep into what caused us to drift away from our culture, but small things that we do now to keep us close to our culture, and the important of holding culture close in general. enjoy fam! <3 keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's inst...
Jun 03, 2022•55 min•Season 1Ep. 43
now that we're older, we understand the importance in participating in the little joys that used to make us happy as kids. we were never able to have our own identities outside of our south asian families and mashnun, who just came back from a solo colombia trip and mohuya, who just graduated with her masters, has a lot of new insight on how to live life and find yourselves. hope u enjoy! rate us if you love us keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's inst...
May 27, 2022•55 min•Season 1Ep. 42
we have @jananisings talking about her journey and mindset shift to success! we talk about how the arts and music were ingrained in her from a young age, how her culture drives her passion, her experience with getting a mega viral tiktok video that brought her to stardom, combining social media with passion, her degree in biomedical engineering, and SO. MUCH. MORE. this episode has to be your next listen because we really got some gems out of her 💖 make sure you listen to @jananisings new remix...
May 22, 2022•1 hr 33 min•Season 1Ep. 41
a highly requested ep! therapy is still so taboo and inaccessible in the south asian community. we wanted to open up the conversation to all of the benefits therapy has brought us and how important it is to find someone of the same background who understands us. listen to us yap away about how our parents struggled to take mental health seriously, our experiences with therapy, and so much more! thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode. take charge of your mental health and get 10% off...
May 13, 2022•56 min•Season 1Ep. 40
with the two of us graduating super soon (mohuya with her masters and mashnun with his bachelors), we decided to redo our very lackluster second episode on the pod where we talk bout our relationships with schooling and education, and how toxic the chase towards academic success has been throughout our lives. there's nothin we love more than seeing someone that looks like us find success in anything, whether its academically, financially, socially, etc, but that doesn't mean that every south asi...
May 06, 2022•52 min•Season 1Ep. 39
there are a ton of south asian parents who feel entitled to their children's lives and privacies, despite not having valid reasoning to even do so. we been subject to our parents going through our personal belongings, reading diaries, opening letters, not respecting our boundaries, and its been a tough journey getting them to realize that it aint okay. in this episode, we talk bout why we think our parents feel the need to impose themselves in our lives, our experiences with having a lack of bou...
Apr 29, 2022•58 min•Season 1Ep. 38
a lot of y'all and a lot more south asians were never taught about money from school or from our family, and have to constantly depend on their parents or husband for any financial assistance. though we are also fairly new to being financially independent, we talk about all the steps we took to provide for ourselves and create healthy spending habits. in this episode, we talkin all about our financial journeys, finding sustainable ways to feed our guilty pleasures, saving up, hustle mentality, a...
Apr 22, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 37
making friends when you're older is tough. finding your identity as a south asian person is already hard, but finding trustworthy friends as you grow is even harder. we've had our fair share of growing out friendships and feeling lonely thinking we won't find people like us. in this episode, we talk about our tips to making friends, why we outgrew old friendships, and all the TEA. keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.co...
Apr 15, 2022•57 min•Season 1Ep. 36
ramadan mubarak to all of our listeners <3 ramadan gets shrouded with the idea of fasting from food and water during the day, but the older we get the more we realize its so much more than that. its about reminiscing happy times, spending more time with your family, realizing life is still fine without your desires, finding purpose through faith and religion, and so much more. with both of us living alone, it gets tough enjoying it as much as we used to, but we're figuring it out together, an...
Apr 08, 2022•36 min•Season 1Ep. 35
model minority is the stereotype placed on the asian community that labels us as obedient and soft spoken individuals, and the two of us have come across quite a few people recently who've tried to take advantage of that. needless to say, in this ep, we essentially rant about recent experiences with ignorant (white) people, how it was tricky to always give them a proper response when they were serving injustice, and how we've obliged to learn from all our past actions. this was also a very funny...
Apr 01, 2022•48 min•Season 1Ep. 34
in this episode, we go more in depth on our experiences in the workplace and how it sucks being the only (or one of few) poc around. with mohuya working at an elementary school in new york city, and mashnun working in an office setting in downtown orlando, we got a whole lot to share about not being able to relate to anyone around us, not being fully recognized, or embraced. when a poc gets to a successful place in their lives, whether it's academically, or professionally, people are quick to no...
Mar 25, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 33
farhan yousaf (@fs.yousaf) is a best selling south asian author of 4 poetry books, a mens mental health advocate, a lover of breakfast pastries, and one of the realest individuals we've come across in the south asian community. we're thrilled to finally have him on as our 3rd guest on the pod!! recently releasing his newest collection of poetry titled 'serenity', farhan tells us his journey from living in a small rural community in jersey that wasn't accepting of his background, to becoming on t...
Mar 18, 2022•1 hr 30 min
