since both of us moved out of our south asian homes on our own, we're always asked questions on how we went about the process. we've given this topic attention twice already but we're always happy to speak on moving out some more since we recognize how much we all think about it. in this episode, we went deeper into the guilt we feel with leaving our parents back at home, how we go about our finances, and the little steps we took along the way to make the process of moving out of our south asian...
Mar 11, 2022•57 min•Season 1Ep. 31
with over 900k+ followers on social media, shihan chowdhury (@chilipeppercooks) is a bangladeshi cinematographer, home cook, and entrepreneur, and we’re grateful to have him as our second guest on the pod! in our 90 minute convo with him, we learned how he went from working at a fast food restaurant at 14 to becoming one of the most prolific figures in our online bangladeshi community, about his work ethic with him being a child of immigrants, and an immigrant himself, his incorporation of bangl...
Mar 04, 2022•1 hr 24 min•Season 1Ep. 30
a lot of people have an identity crisis because they don't know who they are without their parents. south asian families usually teach children to be dependent on them and attach their beings to helping them. in this episode, we talk about some of the reasons on why we're feeling like this, how it's affecting our mental health, and what we're doing to try to get out of it. we hope u enjoy and don't forget to give us a rating and share with your friends!! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://w...
Mar 04, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 29
in this episode, we talk about our journey towards becoming closer to our Islamic faith and religion. although we're fairly happy with where we are today, and where we see ourselves going, we don't hesitate to speak on the difficulties and frustrations we've had throughout the process. with faith and religion being forced upon us throughout our upbringings, we grew resentment and often rebelled against what we were told were morally correct, and we know this is something so many of you will rela...
Feb 18, 2022•59 min•Season 1Ep. 28
advice sesh numba 3! in our highly favorited advice sesh series, we ask our listeners through our instagram (@difficultish) about things they're seeking advice on, and we answer the best we can as the extremely non-professional experts we are! some of our topics of discussion this ep include: learning how to embrace our culture rather than just being conscious about it, finding the balance with faith, living in a toxic home and trying to make it enjoyable, and quite a few more! tap in now keep t...
Feb 11, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 27
our very first guest on the pod! robin dey is a bangladeshi musician from southside jamaica, with roots in an extensive lineage full of musicians, one being the infamous manna dey. after his recent tour with anik khan performing in cities like los angeles, nyc, and london, we sat down to talk about the weight behind our family's traditions and values, the process of pursuing careers that aren't necessarily aligned with community standards, grinding and hustling, and how overpriced shisha lounges...
Feb 04, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Season 1Ep. 26
it has been ingrained in us that we have to continuously work and if we take a break, we're considered lazy or we don't deserve it. south asian culture makes us feel like you have to work until you can pay back your parents' sacrifices and guilty if you want to rest. in this episode, we talk about how we unlearned that self care is bad and how we implement our small acts of self care in our daily routines. we hope u enjoy! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ m...
Jan 21, 2022•45 min•Season 1Ep. 25
it often feels like you are living a secret life when you are interacting with your parents, especially if they're south asian. they don't know your true identity whether it comes to your sexuality, hobbies or interests, your clothing preferences, and so many other things. in this episode, we talk about how hard it is to live a secret life with our families and our own experiences with the topic. keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://...
Jan 14, 2022•42 min•Season 1Ep. 24
a lot of people's goals for 2022 revolve around social media. growing this many followers on this platform, growing this many followers on that platform, and it got us thinking about how serious this social media thing will be this year. and with that, comes all of the downsides of trying to grow your social media in the brown community, and how a lot of these side effects are so ingrained without even noticing it. hitting on fake love, family gossip, people pushing their riches, and living a do...
Jan 07, 2022•45 min•Season 1Ep. 23
in this episode, we wanted to highlight some of the failures we've had and all of the goals we couldn't reach this year. priorities changed and we had to alter our perspectives when we realized that we wouldn't be able to reach a goal. we give you our tips on making really great new years resolutions and steps on how you can make them easier to reach. this is our last episode of the year and we are so grateful for all of you. love you so much and see ya next year! keep tabs on us: our instagram:...
Dec 31, 2021•43 min•Season 1Ep. 22
mashnun's first self-published poetry book titled 'headspun' is out on amazon! on today's episode, we learn more about one of our co-hosts and his writing journey, and how he's come to accept his vulnerability through poetry, a space that we don't see many south asian men entering. touching on topics such as low income community politics, faith, and family ties, we dive deeper into his upbringing and the message he's here to voice for how to have our south asian men rise, and become something gr...
Dec 24, 2021•52 min•Season 1Ep. 21
we moved out a couple of months ago, but now we're understanding how hard it is to actually do it as two south asian young adults. we feel guilty or we never learned how to be financially independent or how to set boundaries with our parents and this is what makes it so hard. in this episode, we want to highlight some of the downsides to make you aware of some of the cons while also giving you some advice to prevent it. we hope u enjoy! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/d...
Dec 17, 2021•41 min•Season 1Ep. 20
we are so used to racist and negative comments from "friends" and family and it's kinda sad that we had to become normalized to it from a young age. in this episode, we talk about the different comments we got because of our south asian culture and our religion and how much it affects us as adults now. keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ mashnun's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mashnunmunir/ Adv...
Dec 03, 2021•50 min•Season 1Ep. 19
our second advice session! with our first advice session was highly favorited, and with there being so many more topics of discussion in the south asian community, we had to come back around to talk up some more. listen to your two favorite very amateur south asian co-hosts speaks on topics like finances of moving out, multiple incomes, anxiety about the future, living life for yourself, and a few more gems that we're always excited to share! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram...
Nov 26, 2021•49 min•Season 1Ep. 18
everyone knows how hard it is to be independent if you live in a south asian household. although it is with the intention of love, they want to cook for you and essentially do everything for you where you feel like you don't have your own identity and freedom. as two bangladeshi young adults, we really had to learn how to find ourselves outside of our families. in this episode, we talk about how we gained independence from our parents, but most importantly, how we learned to get out of our comfo...
Nov 19, 2021•57 min•Season 1Ep. 17
growing up as a children of immigrants, we didn't earn much money. we had to take frugal alternatives when doing basic things in life. but now, we're able to buy the expensive berries or take longer showers and we are so grateful. keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ mashnun's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mashnunmunir/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: h...
Nov 12, 2021•34 min•Season 1Ep. 16
in this episode, we talk about how hard it is to make friends with other south asian people. although they have brought many benefits to us, they can also be very judgmental, have a superiority complex, talk badly behind your back, and so much more. from one of us being surrounded by no brown people and the other having mostly brown people in their community, i hope you can resonate with some part of our experiences! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya'...
Nov 05, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 15
we live in a time that pushes the idea that the journey towards success means less sleep, less self care, and no time to waste. and unfortunately, the two of us fall into this funnel more often than not. we have big dreams that we're trying to fulfill. we get caught in tunnel visioning towards our goals, and forget all of the other wonderful things that life has to offer overworking and burnout is real, as much as we like to push them aside and mask it as "hustling". we kind of made this episode...
Oct 29, 2021•45 min•Season 1Ep. 14
we both moved out! in today's episode, we talk about the reasons why we both moved out of our parents' homes and why it's been so difficult in a south asian society. we give you some of our best tips with how to do it and how living alone will help our mental health and creativity process. we are so excited to talk so much more on this topic, enjoy! keep tabs on us: our instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ mohuya's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ mashnun's instag...
Oct 22, 2021•50 min•Season 1Ep. 13
we asked our followers on instagram to send us anything and everything they're seeking advice towards, and here are our responses! some of the topics that we chose to discuss this episode include: navigating strict parents and prioritizing mental health, the guilt of spending/saving money in a south asian family, starting over alone in a new city, and so many more! we hope we're able to help some of you guys better digest the issues we're all going through, and explain there's always more to und...
Oct 15, 2021•49 min•Season 1Ep. 12
we had to put a lot of our dreams on pause because we had to responsibilities and expectations at home. we couldn't just leave because of money burdens, taking care of our parents, or maybe even because in south asian culture, the girl is expected to just stay at home. it's hard to be patient when you see your friends or family members moving forward and doing things that you've always wanted to do. in this episode, we discuss some of the dreams that we had to wait on due to the restrictions we ...
Oct 08, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 11
in south asian culture, it is really hard to express yourself through fashion because you're subject to negative comments from your parents or the community, your body becomes extremely sexualized, or you feel like you can't comfortably wear something because of your gender. one of us dealt with comments of being less masculine because of their experimentation with fashion while the other constantly heard comments about covering up when in the presence of male family members or visitors. in this...
Oct 01, 2021•42 min•Season 1Ep. 10
since elementary school, we've gotten our names pronounced because it's too "difficult" for people to pronounce. but the question is, why are people so willing to pronounce long european names while ethnic ones are mentioned as broken syllables? Keep tabs on us: Our Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/difficultish/ Mohuya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/labyrinthave/ Mashnun's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mashnunmunir/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy &...
Sep 24, 2021•45 min•Season 1Ep. 9
we heard a quote recently by the late nipsey hussle (rip) that goes, "the reasonable man adapts himself to the world. the unreasonable ones persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. therefore, all progress in the world depends on the unreasonable man." in the south asian community, any individual that's en route to pursuing a career outside of the traditional ones, the ones we're all aware of, they're pretty much given the side eye. the two of us are currently following a path into the a...
Sep 17, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 8
both of us have grown up working different fields, one working in coffee shops and clothing stores while the other working in a dentist office, a pharmacy, and schools. as adults now, we realize that these jobs determined our status, reputations, and our overall outlook on society. in this episode, we talk about why we felt like we had to get these jobs, the negative stereotypes that are associated with certain professions, and what we did to unlearn them. Keep tabs on us: Our Instagram: https:/...
Sep 10, 2021•52 min•Season 1Ep. 7
the both of us just came back from vacation, but the guilt we felt prevented us from completely enjoying ourselves. since it has always been our moms' dreams to come on luxurious vacations like ours, it felt wrong that we were there without them. it felt wrong that we were relaxing and reaping these benefits when they deserve it so much more. in this episode, we talk about the guilt that south asian children feel when they go on vacations, especially if their family wasn't able to afford many gr...
Sep 06, 2021•53 min•Season 1Ep. 6
the two of us are workaholics to the core. but where does this work ethic come from? probably something that all of us can relate to, from learning how our parents immigrated across the waters to a foreign land where they had to build their lives up, brick by brick. in this episode, we go in depth on the work backgrounds of our parents and how they influenced our work ethic, and what we think about the work-school balance in our community. in the words of A$AP Ferg, Rihanna, and many more moguls...
Aug 27, 2021•56 min•Season 1Ep. 5
growing up in a south asian household is probably the scariest, most exciting thing in the world. with the increase in age comes the beauty of expanding knowledge, but just as much the pressure of upholding certain traditions. the two of us are both turning 23 this month, and we've learned a thing or maybe two along the way on how to maneuver through life as young, maturing south asian representatives. listen to us speak about our lessons including humility, distance, forgiveness, and so many mo...
Aug 20, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 4
things like this can be difficult to talk about, not only with our parents, but even with ourselves. anxiety is a feeling everyone on the planet as felt, some stronger than other, but the anxiousness that comes within a south asian upbringing is in its own realm. in this episode, we start scratching the surface of what makes us feel anxious, hitting on points including misrepresentation and failure, the effect that our culture and identity plays its part, and things we find helpful for alleviati...
Aug 13, 2021•55 min•Season 1Ep. 3
on this episode, we speak upon our experiences through the education system, starting from children to graduate students. while one of us flourished throughout their academic career and the other one struggling to get by, both of us have brought ourselves to a comfortable place for our age, and have plenty of stories that expand beyond the typical things you'd hear about a brown kid in school. listen to us talk about our journeys, and hit topics including income disparity, culture familiarity, p...
Aug 06, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 2
