¶ Musical Journey of Mr. Raghav
Welcome to Detangle , where we untangle the complexities of life one conversation at a time . I'm your host , dr Kinjal Goel , a psychologist and a writer . Today we have with us Mr Raghav Satcher , somebody I have recently discovered and , oh my God , am I bowled over . He has been the cultural ambassador for India . As a musician many times .
He plays more instruments than I can count on my fingertips . There is so much I can say about him , but I don't think I can do justice . Let me just welcome him . Welcome , mr Raghav . I'm so glad you're on Detangled with me today .
Thank you so much , Kinjalji . What a pleasure to be with you . Thank you so much .
So , Mr Raghav , tell me something about yourself . How would you introduce yourself to my audience in two lines ?
I think the one thing that I can say is music is in my DNA and that's what , basically . I'm eating , drinking , sleeping , pretty much everything is music for me .
Lovely , so let's get started . Tell us about your journey . Were you always so tuned into music as a child , or were you following different dreams when you were younger ?
No , I've always been into music . It was something that kind of came very naturally to me . I was just four years old when I saw my father play harmonica to my mother , and we don't come from a musical background as such . My father is a retired director general of police . He's also a sena medal ex army officer . He took early retirement and joined IPS .
So he was playing the harmonica and I he was playing the song called to my mother and I took it from him and I played it back to him . Oh wow , at that age .
And so harmonica is a very good instrument in case you , you know , ever want to kind of find out if there is anybody who's inclined towards music from pitch perspective , from rhythm perspective , because it's all in your mouth so you can't actually teach this instrument to anyone . It's a self-taught instrument , it has to be .
So this is a great instrument to kind of pick up or , you know , you hand over these instruments to kids and stuff to see whether they are inclined or not and they kind of try and make sense of the instrument . So I started like that .
And then at that time there was this program called Chitra Har that used to come , so I would hear any song that would play on Chitra Har , I would be able to play it back . So that basically got my parents really excited and they thought that you know , this is a very interesting talent . And then I tried my hands on various different instruments .
And as I tried my hands on different instruments , they also very naturally started playing and I didn't have to kind of make too much effort to understand an instrument or you know , before I could execute playing it . And it's still the same , whenever I travel internationally or anything , I just have a tendency of picking up instruments very quickly .
So that's , I think , have a tendency of picking up instruments very quickly . So that's , I think , definitely a God gift . And that's how it all began .
Wow . So what I'm hearing right now is when you say music is in your DNA . There is also something else in your DNA which makes you successful , and that is discipline from a life and service that you get from your father . I'm sure there's a lot of discipline in your field as well . Absolutely so . I am a very big fan . You get from your father .
I'm sure there's a lot of discipline in your field as well , absolutely so . Um , I am a very big fan of order . I love being uh , you know , I love and I'm very proud that I'm very , very punctual .
I'm very particular about my timing and I think that all has come because of the upbringing as well , because of army , because of that police kind of strict uh you know weightage towards valuing time and everybody's time . That has really really helped me and also it was reiterated when I did my bachelor's of music in australia .
Um , of course , internationally everybody takes time very , very seriously . In our industry , largely , time is kind of unfortunately not given too much value and that is something that is . That is something that you know kind of should change and I hope it changes . But I mean , I have been in the industry for a while .
People who want to be punctual are punctual . People who don't want to be punctual , they can kind of manage by not being punctual . Also , and it's kind of , you know , it's not frowned upon internationally . You can't get away without being punctual and being and value everybody's time equally , no matter what position you're at .
So I think discipline is the key aspect of what I do and that's the reason I'm able to do multiple things , because if I didn't have that discipline then I would be wasting my time on a lot of other . You know , basically just trying to get things in order .
True . So time management is one skill that you have mastered , along with the others , because it helps you keep you know everything sane around you , along with the others , because it helps you keep you know everything sane around you .
Yes , absolutely , and gives me time to spend with my family equally , and the work-life balance is maintained , and there are so many things that kind of fall in line just by just pure time management .
I completely agree . But how many hours a day do you spend sharpening all these skills that you have ?
But how many hours a day do you spend sharpening all these skills that you have ?
So you know , this used to be a very conscious effort while I was studying , when I did my bachelor's in music , and when I was studying in school and stuff , I had a lot more time at hand and , of course , the only thing I had to do at that time was to practice and I would do hours and hours and hours and hours of practicing and I was very determined
and very dedicated towards that . Of course , as life passes and you know , you have other responsibilities that take over . You have kids , you have meetings , you have so many other things that are happening . Time gets limited . So you have so many other things that are happening . Time gets limited .
So your practicing of instruments , of like the way I used to , where I would sit down and practice scales , I would sit down and practice breathing techniques All of that , of course , has no room . Unfortunately , I don't have the time only to do that .
But the good thing is that because I've , you know , put myself so deeply into music and there is so much content that I have to keep creating , so you're practicing . So , basically , whether I'm taking out time to practice or whether I'm just executing .
I am playing the instrument very often , and all instruments very often , and this it's working kind of in a cyclic way for me , which is good , because I have to create content , to create content , I have to play and to play , and you know , so on and so forth .
So it , this is a like a good cycle that's being created , which is which is giving me the opportunity to keep playing my instruments far more than what I would usually right ?
do you also believe in the 10 000 hour rule that once you get there , once you've practiced for a certain amount of time , you will get better ?
absolutely so . See this , this basically goes . I do teach as well . I have a school of music as as well .
So , um , this is a very , very clear-cut , uh fact of life that if you start , if you put in effort and time into one particular skill and you continuously keep doing that relentlessly , consistently , you are going to get better at it , and at a very good pace , because the learning curve keeps changing .
You might start off slow and then suddenly midway you might pick up uh , you know very well . Or it might be the other way around , that you know you've , I mean generally picked up very . Or it might be the other way around that you know you've , I mean generally picked up very quickly and it might slow down in the middle somewhere .
So it has a way of kind of balancing itself out . But any form of art , with discipline and consistency , if you're after it at it , you are going to excel in it , for sure .
Fantastic , mr Agab , you've also aced the social media game . That's how I found you . I mean , once I started listening to you I couldn't stop . I was listening to you on loop , but was this something that you learned , or did it come naturally to you to put yourself out there on social media to , you know , kind of garner an audience there ?
Actually , it's been a very difficult task to do this and when I came into the industry it was 2003 .
¶ Artist's Journey and Discipline
At that time , of course , no social media existed . We were known because I was MTV Artist of the Month or Channel V or one of these things was going on . So at that time you know when we are any which ways catering to an urban audience here .
But if , like a , like a security guard , is able to recognize you a rickshaw knows what , who you are , then you would kind of see the feel that , okay , I am penetrating into the masses , which happened when I had initially come into the scene with all of these channels which were very generous at that time towards music and musicians , and we would get a lot
of weightage on these channels and that is how we would make our bread and butter , because that fame would give us concerts and so on and so forth . Of course , all all of that is long gone and social media came into the scene and I tried to make it on social media for the longest time and nothing happened .
Really , I've been I mean , of course , as everybody has been . I've been on social media since the inception of social media with Facebook and Instagram stuff . So I have been on Instagram since 2012 . And I actually started seeing some results in 2022 .
Wow , that's 10 years .
Yeah , so an entire decade I kept trying my level best to understand what people want , how to get them to understand what I'm doing , you know , so on and so forth , but it did not kind of strike a chord at all Not that it was pathetic , but it was not where we are at today .
The maximum that I reached , before things started moving in a very quick progression , was 160,000 followers , which were also people who might have kind of followed me , you know , for years and stuff like that , and eventually landed themselves on social media and then found me , the diehard , diehard core fans that have been there for years .
And then , of course , I understood what exactly the audience wanted and they wanted and how to execute this and how to give it to them what they want .
So I generally function in such a manner that I personally do not like waiting for somebody else to do a job for me , and that has been that impatience , I would say has been a very key motivator for me to kind of go and pick up things on my own . So , to give you an idea , I was essentially only a musical person .
I would only play multiple instruments , so that was something that came very naturally to me , and instruments are like an extension of me . I can kind of feel them , I can breathe them . They work like an extension of me . So then , when I had to create music , when I did I had to compose music .
I had to wait for a composer to come and compose music , which I didn't like , so I started composing on my own .
Then I like this impatience works impatience works ?
yeah , absolutely , and has worked wonders for me . Same thing happened for me to become a singer , so I had to wait for singers to come .
So if you see my second album , my second album was called 24 Carat and that basically had all my singer friends to come and sing , like Kailash Kher , kunal Ganjawala , sunidhi Chauhan , so many of other friends that have been there to come on and sing .
Now I was like dude , I can't keep doing waiting for them and everybody else is so busy , I'll start singing myself . That's how I became a singer .
I even became a female vocalist in the middle where there was a film that I was doing called One , two , three , and at about three o'clock in the morning the director said we want a female part in this and we are shooting at six in the morning . So I went into falsetto and I made a female part and it kind of went through .
By the time we were done with the shoot I thought I'll call sunidhi to come and change the parts . But they said that they liked what they had heard and who the singer is , and I said it's me . And they said , oh , my god . So that's so . These are just a few things that I kind that started happening .
I didn't want to wait for people to come and shoot my music videos , so I got into camera . I got into flying the drones , I got into understanding how cameras work , understanding what aperture is , what cinematic everything is .
So I put myself and I , instead of investing into people , people getting investing into hiring people to do the job , I invested into the equipment and bought a lot of equipment and I so on and so forth . So I became a website designer , I became a , I started coding to create an app for myself .
So generally , I have a tendency of not waiting for anything which has really helped me , I feel , overall , and I think that's something that's the driving force within me .
So I'm getting so many little masterclass tips from here . When you say that consistency is everything , in practice , consistency also helped you in social media , because you kept at it for a decade till something happened . Yes , patience usually is a virtue , but in your case , not having patience turned out better .
I also see this basic raw IQ , which you have just harnessed and put to use . You know , once you can read , write , understand , understand , comprehend . You've just not kept any limits , no boundaries . You've jumped in , tried everything , aced it and moved on .
How fantastic thank you so much . When you put it like that , it sounds very nice no , I see it like that .
I'm hearing it all at once , so that's what comes back to me , so it's a very personal journey for me as well when I started my podcast . I'm a psychologist by psychologist . By profession , I'm a writer . My education is completely different , but I didn't have the patience to get somebody to edit my audio , to record my audio , so I'm alone .
I'm the only team I have . Great .
That's how it should be .
Fantastic . So kindred spirits . So tell me , mr Raghav , I have this feeling that artists are very sensitive people . Most of the artists that I have met , they feel deeply , they express deeply and when you're facing a stressful time it definitely impacts your art .
But sometimes you have to deal with a low time , but you still have to put your best foot forward and perform for something that you've signed up .
So how do you mitigate this ? How do you deal with it ? See , I think compartmentalizing is very important , uh , and that is something that comes , that should come again , that is something that will come with discipline because , uh , you cannot let one emotion although I'm excessively emotional , I'm I can cry at a a drop of the hat .
I don't watch movies because I get very emotional and then I was like I don't want to keep crying and seeing , so I don't want to cry .
If I hear something has happened with somebody , I'll , again , I'm very , very easy to , kind of , you know , get into that situation where I start feeling very deeply , for anybody , for that matter , of course , people who are known to me , I feel far more goes without saying .
But having said that , compartmentalizing is very important because , if suppose there is a commitment that you've already taken and there is a situation that has happened which is not physically stopping you from , you know , completing that , what do you call it ?
Completing that job , whatever job has been taken , because that other person has his own life , has decided to have you perform for them , or done all the efforts , everything that you can think of , to make sure that that particular event for that particular person goes off flawlessly .
So that should be the only point of concern for an artist at that particular time , and this is , again , something that is easier said than done . But I feel that discipline is something that works very well in this form as well , because it you kind of shut off . You have to shut off yourself from everything else .
When you're on stage , when I'm performing , for example , when I'm doing these fashion shows and stuff , and I'm walking the ramp , I'm I'm interacting with the models , I'm playing the instruments , I'm singing , I have to be in pitch , I have to do so many things simultaneously that not a single thought besides what I'm doing at that time can enter my mind .
Because my mind , because the focus levels have to be at such great levels even for concerts , adrenaline kind of kind of helps you , uh , you know , achieve that by not letting anything else come come to mind .
So again , having uh an emotional situation at that time , of course it's a it's a very difficult task to uh control and you might , uh , you know , burst out by while singing a song , while listening you might , something like that might happen .
But uh , that does not mean that , for whatever has happened , it doesn't mean that you can uh , or should take the other person's life or , uh , generosity , or whatever that person has done for you . Can't put that on stake . So that is compartmentalizing . So you do your job , you finish it off , do what you have to do .
After that , feel how you have to do after that . It's easier said than done . As I mentioned earlier , it's not that easy .
True . This also brings back memories of a conversation I had with Javed Atta Sahab on the same podcast , and I see the same thing when you're saying that you know somebody has paid for it , somebody has invested their time in it , somebody is expecting you to perform so when .
Javed Sahab said that always have the deepest respect for your readers and for your audience , which is what you have If you are respecting your host , if you're respecting , like you said , punctuality is basically respecting somebody else's time , correct ? So this deep respect takes you a longer way than momentary .
you know interaction with your own emotions , so this is beautiful absolutely personally speaking , when I listen to something very sad especially tunes it may or may not have lyrics it can move me very deeply . Does it happen to you ? If you are playing something intensely sad , you feel that impact just as much as your audience .
Absolutely , in fact , instruments . Because if you've seen the way the songs that I'm choosing and if whatever the songs are , you must , you should also try and see the instrument that I'm choosing with the song . Now the song can be played . I play 41 instruments . I can play that song 41 different ways .
Why would I choose that one particular instrument with that particular song ? That is where the sensibility , or the expression , like every instrument has a different expression completely and the beauty is that I have the control on how I want to express on every instrument . So how , for example , if I perform like a kalank track , it is such a beautiful melody .
But if I played that melody on a saxophone , it will have a different appeal altogether . As soon as I change that to a clarinet or a tenor recorder , it will totally have a different feel . Clarinet or a tenor recorder , it will totally have a different feel . So how to marry a melody with the instrument is another form of art . This is a song .
This will sound very good on a mandolin , for example . For example is played on the mandolin and I also did that reel on the mandolin . But if I actually play that on a flute , it will . The melody is not going to change , but just the vibe of the song will completely differ , and so so nothing against it .
But uh , you know , to choose the right instrument and to marry it with the song goes a long way toward to kind of emotionally , um , attach other people to that particular song . That's what happens .
So , and this is all happening very , on a very subconscious level , because I have chosen an instrument which I feel enhances the song more than what , uh , the song , the , you know , the , probably the vocals could , or more than more than what another instrument could , and that has subconsciously been done already .
And when you hear it , you like , and then you kind of get attached to it . Uh , more , you will get attached more to that song . To give you an idea , uh , now is such a beautiful song that I have performed it on various instruments .
Now , if I actually and in fact I should do that as I'm talking to you , this idea just struck me that , since I have done this song on some seven , eight different instruments , I should probably create a highlight of tu mele dil khile , highlight on different instruments and of course it's such an intense one , yeah , and it sounds completely different on a santur ,
different on a sax , different on a flute , different on a piccolo , different on a harmonica , and you can keep going on and on , and I have done this song over , I think , about seven , eight , ten instruments already .
So it just goes to show that how one same song sounds so different on different instruments so what we see as coming naturally to somebody is actually full of intent .
As a musician , you have so much intent , you have so much focus on what you're doing , how you're doing , when you're doing , you know what you're picking for it and what we see as an , as an audience , is the culminative effect , the cumulative effect , the whole , yes , joy of you know just the tune absolutely so .
Everything has been for
¶ Innovating Performance and Personal Growth
. From my social media perspective , I'm kind of trying to take care of each and every aspect that you know clothing as well as styling , as well as uh intros , outros , where to put-ins , where not to put , fade-outs , what kind of color correction should be there ? What kind of skin tone do we need to maintain ? Hair should be a particular way .
Accessories should be in such a way that it goes . For example , if I'm wearing I did a Kars tune on a Santur , kar's tune on a santur wearing a sleeveless ganji with a uh , you know , a skull kind of a necklace , so that that entire uh outlook with the santur has never been seen . Only , yeah , it's so .
And on top of that , if you're doing a theme which is so beautiful , which is a the kar's theme , but never been played on the santur before , because everybody just tries it on the guitar I've done it on the guitar multiple times , but just taking it into a different realm , because now you're not only . This is our TV .
You know , this is what MTV used to be . This is the MTV Channel V for us now . And the beauty is you don't have to wait for a programmer to come and slot you in .
You are the programmer , you slot yourself in , you decide what you want to perform , you decide how you want to look , you decide when you want it to be on air , and you do that and then let the magic happen . And in case you have a marketing team under you , you want to market it , you do that as well .
So you basically , in today's day and age , do not need anyone , uh , and then you cross-populate it , uh , on facebook , on on youtube shots and stuff . So this is all data analysis .
Largely , that is leading me to do things that I'm doing off late and then , of course , give audience more than what they had expected by getting phenomenal artists like Rekha Bharadwaj , ma'am Sunidhi , sukhvinderji Shahan all of them who've been iconic in their entire field and then change that and twist it with instrumentation .
So there is a lot of thought , as you might understand , that has gone into kind of sculpting this entire niche .
It looks so effortless , but there is so much effort behind looking so effortless . I mean , when you describe the necklace that you're wearing in a curse tune , you know the angst of death which is in the movie and the beauty of the music which is playing . That movie was much ahead of its time .
Absolutely .
And what you are doing now is bringing us in sync with what happened then . It's just so stunning . I have goosebumps . So tell me what has been your personal toughest moment in this journey , mentally , physically , any moment which you were like you know , this is it . It's just too much no .
So these things do keep , uh , you know , happening , and this place or this industry or , um , generally arts is not for the weak-hearted . It's as simple as that , because that that is . That is one thing that I have to say , because you know it is you have to be okay with rejection to start with .
If you're a person who cannot take rejection , you're in the wrong field because you cannot . This is such a personal thing .
If you put 10 people together and you actually go into their playlist , you will be shocked to see what 10 people like and how deferred it is , no matter even if they are best friends 10 best friends but you go to the playlist and you will be shocked to see , but the rest of it is pretty different .
He likes something else , this guy likes something else , this girl likes something else . So , uh , it is a stupid effort to kind of think that it is never going to be the case . No matter what and how cool you are , how good you become , that is never going to be the case . So what you should try and aim for is majority .
How many ever people ki bhai chalo ? 60% ko pasand hai ? 80% ko pasand hai ? Wo mujhe apna strike rate high rakhna hai . That how many ever people can you know , appreciate and would appreciate something that I'm doing and keep trying and understanding ? The comments keep coming .
We keep learning from can't get deterred by these kind of negative things also that happen . So , uh , ups and downs are a very common feature in our profession . I came in with a bang .
When I came in within 2003 , I had a fabulous run , um , I got my first film , which was kabul express , which was with yashi uh , idea you , which is the biggest company that you could have dreamt of . But after that I've never , ever had the opportunity of working with them ever again , although it was a super hit track , music , everything .
But that's how life is , that is how it's kind of . Whenever you start thinking that I have arrived , it's never kind of . Life teaches you very beautifully that , calm down , you haven't and there is far more to go .
And so you know , with these things it's so easy to say now , but they take such a toll on you when you are younger , when you have entered the scene , when you have all this talent behind you , when you have the have entered the scene , when you have all this talent behind you , when you have the backing of the education that you have done and you are just
there to conquer everything that you can , and the pure energy at that time is very different than the energy now , because experience was not there and experience is something .
Live experience of actually physically going through all of these things yourself teaches you a lot more uh and just kind of tells you that you know if , if the , and you've seen the highs and the lows .
So if , when the highs were there , the lows came , the lows were there , the highs came , came back , so this up-down , up-down will keep happening for the rest of my life . So even where I am right now , highs , lows , will keep happening . So there's nothing that can be done about it .
It's just that you have to kind of detach yourself from excessive praise , detach yourself from excessive criticism and keep doing your job as a very numb uh thing and enjoy the . The good thing that I can say is that I have never worked a single day of my life .
That's the one thing I can tell you that I have never , ever worked in my life this is all enjoying it so much I'm loving it . I'm happiest being in the studio , creating music , entertaining people . I mean , imagine people have to get up in the morning . They are like you know , they are feeling sad that they have to leave home .
They are , they are like in there . Oh my god , I'm going to be stuck in traffic . Oh my god , I'm going to have to go and report to my bosses . I have to finish this spreadsheet . I have to do this excel . All of that . I never have to think about all of that . I'm my own boss .
I am very , very disciplined and I function like that , along with my entire office functioning this way . People above me I'm happy to go according to their time . People at my level and below me have to function according to me and my time . So it's a very clear cut . You know ecosystem that I have made for myself .
Now , how good it is , how bad it is , I don't know . I think I'm enjoying myself and I think that is what people are able to see online as well .
And you've just brought the whole sense of Zen right into these two statements . You know , when you say that you can feel deeply as an artist and yet be detached , it says everything . I mean , this is the crux of what I think most artists have to go through sense of detachment and a deep feeling towards everything because you're so sensitive as an artist .
Lovely , so tell me , mr Aghav , you've been the cultural ambassador for India . You've been on so many celebrated shows . You've been on Karan Johar's show , you've been on Kapil Sharma's show Everywhere . I mean , I've seen you almost everywhere sometime or the other . Which has been your most memorable experience ?
I think the Commonwealth Games was a very interesting experience because there were so many people who were performing in front of over 100,000 people . That was amazing , in front of over 100,000 people . That was amazing . Then I was also the cultural ambassador for the World Economic Forum in Davos . That was very interesting as well . So I love doing these .
You know going and being what do you call it ? Showcased as an Indian in a Western setting purely because I'm playing Western instruments . At the end of the day , I'm playing all the instruments that were all invented besides the santur and a dhol and some four , five other instruments .
Everything that you have seen me do is all different instruments of different parts , different people , different countries , and it's all world music . So for me , saxophones , flutes , handpan there are so like handpan I just picked up recently , which is a switzerland . I play the bagpipes , which is scottish . I play the didgeridoo , which is Australian .
So I personally love getting newer instruments which are world instruments . So I don't consider myself to just be doing Indian music Abhi hota gaya that you're performing . Your large base of audience is Indian . That's why you're seeing what I'm doing and of course , those songs are phenomenal .
But I'm also continuously doing international content which happens on Sunday mornings , if you've seen , which is called Saxy Sundays , which is another tag that we go by on Sundays . Every Sunday morning at 12 o'clock you will see me do international content . Oh lovely I should remember that .
Yeah , and every Friday in the afternoon at 12 o'clock you'll see me do retro content . Oh lovely , I should remember that . Yeah , and every Friday in the afternoon at 12 o'clock you'll see me do retro content . So we call that retro Fridays . Now , slowly , I'm even branching out into regional .
So because we have a lot of requests coming from so many people for regional content , so we might bifurcate and , you know , kind of diversify into regional content as well .
So , having said that , my main point is this entire thing is a wholesome experience and when you perform these Western instruments in front of an international audience but representing India , that I really feel very proud about India , that I really feel very proud about and I feel I love doing these , these kind of cultural ambassador shows .
I've done a lot of them I've done . I've represented India and Japan and Germany , in the UK , in Malaysia , in Australia , in a lot of places , and I really enjoy doing these because , again , as I mentioned , I love , love order and I love discipline and the , the way that these events are executed .
They are with top-notch protocol and I have lived my entire life in protocol . So I , I understand this like uh , very well , and people kind of get very hassled with protocols .
How nice , it's so nice to bring those little pieces of your childhood and your personality and your talent and your skill and , just you know , mush it together and make it work .
Right .
Wonderful .
¶ Culture of Music Industry and Empathy
So if there is one thing , just one single thing , that you could change about the music industry or social media , what would you change ?
um , I think , to start with , if there's anything I would like to change about the music industry , I would like it to be more earnest and and more transparent and more welcoming towards newer talent or , you know , ego should not be a part of this entire exercise . I feel because , uh , that that kind of creates unnecessary unrest .
Now , no , two people are going to be the same , of course , and emotions of you know something that I might not feel bad about , you might feel bad about , but people at a higher position , level music labels , people sitting who are governing this , if that kind of , again , it boils everything , boils down to discipline , order , punctuality .
There is so much that kind of backtracks to all of this , all of this , that , as soon , as you have all of these things in order , respect time um how do you call it ? feeling for another person ? Empathy , kindness ? Yeah , empathy , kindness .
Everything is so connected to these two things , uh discipline and punctuality that you will not even realize how deep-rooted these issues are and how difficult it is for so many people to kind of get around it . I feel very sad actually for people who have so much talent and so much , so many opportunities , but unfortunately they are not able to .
You know , get get up , get up on time , get going , and and that is what uh , eventually will hold you back because it kind of uh , I see , either you're disciplined or you're not disciplined . It's as simple as that .
You can't be midway , so , and and it then has degrees of discipline , of course that how disciplined can you actually get with each and everything ? And time management .
If there is one thing I have to put maximum amount of weightage to in this conversation , or anybody's conversation , is is time management , because it teaches you way too many things and all of this that I , we just said that you know , be be conscious of somebody else , be kind , kind to the other person .
Empathy of all of this is connected to time management , because if you're not respecting that person's time only and making the person wait or or whatever the situation may be . People generally also like just to show my weight around . Yeah , fashionably late , fashionably late , so that is something that doesn't .
It doesn't exist only internationally , it just does not exist . So here I saw you waiting .
I mean , it's an unsaid uh ego trip yeah , it's an unsaid soft power which people want to wield yeah , which doesn't mean I mean there is no reason .
There is absolutely no reason . I don't see an ounce worth of a reason to be doing that and instead , if there can be delay I'm not saying that you cannot be delayed , but again , if there is a delay there is , you know that you're getting delayed . It's not that the delay is going to happen at the time that you're going to reach .
You are delayed and you know you're delayed . All you that you're going to reach , you are delayed and you know you're delayed . All you need to do is inform the other person or request the other person or all of this .
See , now this becomes kindness , it's courtesy it's kindness that kind of attitude is something that I personally don't , uh , I don't appreciate it .
Also , and whoever has met me , worked with me singers know this very well , people who kind of kind of know me very well , they know this very well that if I have called him for dinner , he'll be here five minutes early . So they , you know they now operate along around it because I can't be late . I just can't .
Fantastic . I love this . I'm having so much fun just listening to this . So when I speak to my podcast guests , mr Raghav , I have a very personal question I ask all of them . It is my favorite favorite question in the podcast .
We all have a physical first aid box , right Some band-aids , painkillers for those little cuts and bruises when we need to take care of ourselves . But what if you were to have a mental first aid box , something you could just open after a bad emotional day and feel happy ? What would you put in your emotional first aid box ?
¶ Balancing Passion Through Discipline and Recreation
see the the best thing I can tell you about my work and my life is that , uh , I'm always at a meditative state , purely because people who ? So I am doing that constantly , and I'm not doing one . I'm doing 40 different , along with singing , along with composing , and everything is equally interesting for me .
So , for me , for me , if there is something that is troubling me , luckily it all kind of settles as soon as I have an instrument in my hand . But there are a lot of times that I don't feel like doing that , also because this is work . This is actually at the end of the day . I'm doing this all day , all day long , right ?
So there might be placed times when I don't want to do that . So the other thing that immediately takes my attention away is any kind of sport activity . So I was very again growing up in the army and police kind of a situation . We've had access to a lot of sporting equipment and that is very highly encouraged . So I was . I love swimming .
Swimming is a phenomenal form of meditation for me , because it's absolute quiet and it's orderly and you're doing laps after lap after lap . While I'm doing that , I'm doing my Hanuman Chalisa or I'm doing my other pujas that I want to do that and that kind of calms me down While I am in . I like to be optimized .
That is how I would like to put it , that I like . I like my time to be optimized .
Instead of sitting and watching something or going on Instagram and , you know , watching reels or doing something , unless it is something that is for my education I would rather spend my time in finishing off chores while I'm in the car or probably again doing a little bit of puja , so swimming being one of them .
The other thing that I love , absolutely love doing is playing golf .
I'm an ardent golfer and I have a set of friends who I play with every now and then , um , so that that is therapeutic for me , because you're out in the nature , you're in green grass , you're playing , you're playing with friends , sitting after that having a couple of beers , you're chilling out .
So all of these things are very it's very important to have balance . Work-life balance is so important that if it is missed , then you know , then it can . Things can get very lopsided very quickly . If I just keep doing music , music , music , I don't go , don't pay attention to my kids , I don't play golf , I don't go for swimming , I don't go to the gym .
I will completely get saturated very quickly . So it is very important both way . So my in my schedule I have a 6 , 6 , 30 getting up time every day . No matter what happens , I have that , those one and a half , two hours of with my kids to drop them to the bus or whatever with my dog , so that is a very wholesome time .
I have that two hours of dedicated workout , whether it's swimming , one , one and a half hours , whether it's gym . Then I have my entire day at the office and again by around 6 , 6.30 , 7 latest , I'm back home , take the kids to bed , spend , spend time with my wife and you start with the same process all over again the next day .
Of course , within this then you have travel , then you have everything , so emotionally , so many things that keep happening . You know somebody has pissed you off at work , something has happened in a you know family setting , somebody has done something to your kid , your child is not well , there are so many other things .
So as soon as that stress hits me because of the routine being so strict and particular , I'm already playing an instrument for a reel about 10 minutes down the line with that stress . That has already calmed me down to whatever extent it could . I'm back into stressing for that one particular thing , then I've entered a meeting .
So if I have again idle mind is a devil's workshop and if I had not compartmentalized everything but perfectly , everything perfectly , then that would have you know , it would have taken me deeper into stressing deeply . Not that I don't stress .
One of the worst things that I can tell you about myself is that I'm an overthinker and I take stress about every damn thing that you can think about .
Because if it's not orderly , you can't handle the chaos , and life is all about chaos eventually .
Yes . So when this happens now , of course , as I'm aging , I'm trying to kind of not , because I'm also a planner , I like to plan things . So what happens is I automatically start this is the situation , this will be its plan B automatically start that . This is the situation , this will be its plan B , this will be its plan C .
So imagine so much effort going into everything that if this didn't happen , then what to do ? It's like you're playing chess with every situation . If this move doesn't work , then what is my next move ? If this move doesn't work , then what is my next move ?
So that can consume a lot of your mental peace , but luckily , as I mentioned that I have to keep shifting things in my life , somebody else , but something else , will take my attention away and luckily , and thank god , it's an instrument or something creative , beautiful is there ?
before we come to a close and to our closing remarks , do you have any question for me as a psychologist ?
I would love to know that , since you are meeting so many , you know people who you are interviewing in so many brilliant minds . A few of them you've told me already uh , what is your take , or what is that one common thing that you're finding amongst all of these people that you've interviewed that makes them what they are ?
I think it's more of grit than anything else . It's that grit , it's that hard work which people put in . So we see these in biographies . We read a couple of stories , we know the rats to riches stories , but you'll be surprised at how many people did not have their professions when they were younger . They were in completely different fields .
But once they said , okay , we are going to do this and work hard at it , they all found success . And everybody has one thing to say that it did not come to them very easily . So nothing was served on a platter , nothing was inherent . But once they started working hard at it , it became their passion .
So they didn't discover their passion , they created it , which is one thing I find common to most guests which is so inspiring that we don't need to tell our children you know , look for your passion , find your passion . You can also create your passion .
Work hard towards something and see it bloom correct , which is wonderful oh , very well said , thank you well , mr raghav , I have never imagined or fathomed that I would have such a beautiful discussion with you , articulating every thought so intensely with me . My pleasure , so beautiful . I mean , your music is absolutely stunning . I would encourage my entire audience .
Please go to Mr Satcher's page . It is on Instagram at Raghav Satcher , correct ?
Yes .
Please find him , listen to him . There is so much depth in every instrument . We struggle to play one , if at all , and here we have an artist playing more than 40 instruments . It is nothing but deep , deep passion and hard work . Mr Raghav , I have enjoyed this conversation . I've enjoyed your discipline .
I can see your past , present , future all coming together so beautifully . Thank you so much . I know you've been so busy . You've been traveling , but you've taken the time out today being on my show . I'm just so honored .
My pleasure , my pleasure . Kinjaldi , thank you so much for lovely words and , yes , keep listening and there's much more coming up soon .
Well , we shall be waiting . Thank you so much .
All right .
