We’re doing something we’ve never done on the podcast before! We know that real sisterhood is medicine. The vulnerability, the intimacy, the no-BS reflections — this is the stuff that heals, expands, and empowers like nothing else. The Inner Circle is a paid membership for women that have been working with us for years: graduates of our Pleasure Mastery Program, retreats, or leadership programs. And each month, we do a real-time Q&A with the biggest things they’re facing. And we realized som...
Feb 01, 2023•53 min•Season 2Ep. 69
Today we’re diving deep with the sexy, playful Shaft Uddin! At Desire on Fire, we always say that healing one area of your life never stays in that one area. That’s why when you work on expanding your desire, pleasure, and connection in your sex life, you find yourself with more of all of that in the rest of your life, too. You begin to see powerful shifts in your romantic relationships, your work, your finances, and your sense of self-love. It’s all connected! For Shaft Uddin, that’s the ultima...
Jan 25, 2023•1 hr 4 min•Season 2Ep. 68
We’re back after a 2-month hiatus from podcasting, blogging, promo-ing, and social media … and we’re feeling GREAT. A lot has changed in those two months. Like a LOT. For one, we (Aimee, Ellie, Rob, and Bear) left LA and are now all living together in Austin, TX. And that’s just the tip of the massive change iceberg. Throughout the last several months, we’ve been slowly passing through what feels like a major portal. It’s been an initiation into what it really means to tune into and trust desire...
Jan 11, 2023•40 min•Season 2Ep. 67
If you’re an ambitious woman like our guest today (and like both Aimee and Ellie), you might know how easy it is to confuse your work with your worth . It’s so easy to get caught up in hustle and the masculine energy of go go go that we forget ourselves — our bodies, our desires, our wellbeing. The feminine path isn’t just about appreciating our amazing bodies (though that’s definitely part of it) and reconnecting with our desire and pleasure (also a huge component). It’s about how surrender is ...
Nov 16, 2022•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 66
Have you ever wished there was a 5 Love Languages … but for sex? You know: a way to know what nourishes you in the bedroom, what turns you on (and off), what turns your partner on (and off), what would lead to the most fulfilling, most satisfying sex you could possibly have. That’s what the Erotic Blueprints deliever! When you know your erotic blueprint, you finally have a language to understand and communicate how you relate to eroticism. You’ll be better able to communicate what you need. And ...
Nov 09, 2022•45 min•Season 2Ep. 65
Are you hiding your true personal style “in the closet”? What are you denying your true style desires — because you feel like they’re too much, or not enough, or that your body isn’t “right” enough yet to wear what you want to wear? Celebrity stylist Elissa Williams (and stylist for Aimee and Ellie at the Desire on Fire Experience!) believes fashion is way more than just clothes and trends. It’s a tool for self-expression, empowerment, and manifestation in our lives. It’s a way we communicate ou...
Nov 02, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 64
We know many of you have been following Aimee’s unconventional adventures with Alex over the last three months. From the Tantra retreat that was their first date to the 10 days in Australia that was their second, nothing about Aimee and Alex’s experience has been ordinary. Their chemistry was palpable right off the bat, their connection felt real, and they definitely shared important things in common: personal growth work, embodied practices, coaching, and embracing a spirit of adventure and cur...
Oct 26, 2022•56 min•Season 2Ep. 63
In our culture, we tend to think of “success” as linear, and we measure it by “more” — more money, more stuff, bigger numbers, more followers, more work. But when we look at the natural world, we don’t see linearity anywhere . It’s ALL seasons and cycles. Rest + work. Growing + birthing. Sowing + harvest. So … why do we insist on running our lives by a measurement that is SO out of sync with our bodies, our souls, and literally all of nature and reality? And why are we surprised that we’re stres...
Oct 19, 2022•57 min•Season 2Ep. 62
If you met Danielle, you’d see an absolutely gorgeous, vivacious woman. And if you spent any amount of time talking to her, you’d immediately notice her depth, her curiosity, and her natural healing energy. But like so many of us, she’s spent a lifetime dealing with the shadow of body insecurity — picking up on societal messages, mirroring her own mother’s struggles, being steeped in beauty and dance culture. It wasn’t until she started diving into her work with Desire on Fire that she began to ...
Oct 12, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 61
One of the foundational values of the work we do, and the work we love guiding other women through, is radical honesty. And both of us have realized recently that we need to reconnect with this value when it comes to our struggles trying to “make it happen” with the upcoming Desire on Fire Live event at the end of October. Because here’s the deal: it’s been a hard, challenging, stressful year of planning. And we weren’t expecting that. In fact, we were expecting it to be smooth sailing. And we h...
Oct 05, 2022•32 min•Season 2Ep. 60
In her early 20s, Elena Rossi spent 7 years dealing with chronic vaginal pain, yeast infections, and UTIs. She saw 22 doctors, tried all kinds of meds and creams — and nothing was working. The pain was actually getting worse . In all her visits to doctors of all kinds, all the questions were about her body. No one ever asked her about her relationship, or the quality of sex with her then-boyfriend, or if she felt safe or loved. No one ever asked, How is your heart? It took her p*ssy literally cl...
Sep 28, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 59
If you’re a Projector (or you have Projectors in your life and you want to understand/support them better) — then today’s episode is for you! In this conversation, Ellie connects with Christen Hillmer, a coach and healer who is part of Desire on Fire community. She’s a recent graduate of our Apprenticeship Program— and she also happens to be a Projector. Here’s why this conversation is so important right now: Projectors only make up about 20% of the population, but are essential in facilitating ...
Sep 21, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 58
Is it possible to truly, genuinely, passionately love your body … AND also want to change it? Does desiring change mean you don’t fully accept your body? In a cultural movement that’s all about cultivating self-love, it can actually feel weird and shameful to want to change our bodies — whether it’s by losing weight, gaining weight, working out, cosmetic procedures, or plastic surgery. The result can be a kind of forced silence around the deep longings we might have, and a resistance to facing t...
Sep 14, 2022•53 min•Season 2Ep. 57
In early 2020, Jamie King was a rising star — an overnight sensation in the biz marketing world, landing 6-figure months like it was nothing and living in the limelight. She was also falling apart — stretched way too thin, trying to be everything to everyone, traveling all the time, doing constant hustle + grind when what she really desired was to be home with her kids. So for her, the lockdown was a godsend. It forced her to slow down. Take stock. Get back to the basics. Ask herself what she re...
Sep 07, 2022•53 min•Season 2Ep. 56
Waiting for Bear’s arrival involved months of preparation for Ellie and her husband Rob. They had a plan for a natural birth at home, including hiring a midwife and doula, taking special birthing classes, and creating a birthing plan (complete with playlists!). Then … the birth happened. And Bear, it seems, definitely had some different ideas about how and when he wanted to arrive in this world. We talk a lot about surrender in this work — that sacred way we know we can trust what the Universe i...
Aug 31, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 55
Our culture often tells one story about how relationships are “supposed” to look. It can be hard for us to feel into possibilities beyond the traditional cultural understanding of monogamy. Non-monogamy is often portrayed as selfish, or as one partner caving to the wishes of the other — like the trope of the woman who begrudgingly agrees to a threesome so her man won’t leave her. So it’s understandable that many couples reject exploring outside-the-box desires, because it can feel uncomfortable ...
Aug 24, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 54
Almost no experience is so universal and so painful to women as shame about our bodies. And for millions of women, the shame about our vulvas is one of the deepest wounds we feel. Many of us have a moment where we felt that something was wrong or broken about our pussies: we didn’t look like the images we saw porn we internalized disparaging comments from boys or men around us growing up we felt pressured to alter the appearance of our pussies (shaving, waxing, obsessive cleaning, even surgery) ...
Aug 17, 2022•1 hr 16 min•Season 2Ep. 53
To hear Maci Shelden talk today, you might never imagine where she was in her early 20s: playing the part, hanging out and drinking with high school and college friends, always bending over backwards for everyone, trying so hard to get it right and be a good girl. Underneath it all, she felt lonely and disconnected, like she was always pretending or putting on a show. She knew there had to be more to life than just going through the motions. And she was right! Maci has been with us at Desire on ...
Aug 10, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 2Ep. 52
If you’re ready to seriously up your money-manifesting mojo, then you are going to LOVE today’s episode with the incomparable and magnetic Gina Swire! Gina is an internationally acclaimed self-love expert celebrated for her humorous and transformative speaking style and wildly popular self-love courses. And she understands — and powerfully embodies — a truth that we hold dear at Desire on Fire: at the heart of living your desires is knowing that you’re worthy to receive every good thing you want...
Aug 03, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 51
Things at Desire on Fire have been in HUGE flux this year. Have you felt it, too?! Ellie had her baby and took maternity leave. Aimee stepped into full-time management of the company while Ellie was away. Two new roles for both of them, both large and demanding in their own ways. They’ve also been feeling into something new in this time: there are areas of day-to-day management of the company that neither one of them wants to lean into. In fact, these tasks now feel draining, exhausting, and ful...
Jul 27, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 2Ep. 50
A couple of weeks ago, I told you that I’d invited a guy I’d met once to join me for a 7-day tantra retreat for couples. I’d been wanting to go on another Tantra retreat for a while, and I felt so called to this retreat for couples, even though I’m not currently in a relationship. And then I felt pulled to invite Alex Waters, even though I barely knew him at all. I know, I know: on the surface, it doesn’t make sense. But I’ve learned something so important in these last few years: our true, soul...
Jul 20, 2022•1 hr 37 min•Season 2Ep. 49
My friend Kim Mellor is a total powerhouse. She’s a manifestation queen, a coach, a podcaster, a changer of lives. She was so used to harnessing her masculine side — the doer, the achiever, the get-er-done mentality. She had mastered mindset and business strategies for success. But she said she always felt like something was missing. There was a part of her that was hidden away. Suffocated, tamped down, numbed. Like a lot of Brits, she was shy about talking about sex and desire. But it was more ...
Jul 13, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 48
We’re often conditioned to see an intense “down” — time of loss, grief, anger, struggle, jealousy, betrayal, stuck-ness — as something we need to get past as quickly as possible so we can get back to having fun and experiencing pleasure. Our culture says that feeling “up” is good and feeling “down” is bad, which can lead us to compulsive behaviors that momentarily make us feel good — even when they’re not healthy for us long-term and actually pull us away from the things we say we want the most....
Jul 06, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 47
One of the biggest struggles of the personal/spiritual growth community right now is the tendency to trip into spiritual bypassing. The wounded parts of ourselves are too painful, so people default to nothing but “love and light!” Adrian Ellison is here to disrupt that unhealthy tendency. She’s a modern-day medicine woman out of Austin TX who understands that the Shadow is a critical part of our wholeness. When we deny it, it doesn’t go away. It runs the show. Only when we allow ourselves to see...
Jun 29, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 46
Staying emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually intimate is challenging enough for any of us, at any time in life. But add to that mix a newborn — with the sleep deprivation, body changes, constant outflow of energy and limited inflow, and the vulnerability of needing so many new things and making so many adjustments — and the dance of intimacy takes on many unexpected steps. So how do you keep the dance sexy? How do you stay sensual, playful, and open while navigating the challenges ...
Jun 22, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 45
This is Aimee, and I recently had an experience that was exciting, expanding, and full of surprises of all kinds — my first time having sex with another woman. This felt like a big deal for a number of reasons (which I share in this episode), so I invited my dear friend Kelley Bode back to the podcast to interview me and have a real, no-holds-barred convo about this encounter. In this episode, you’ll get it all: the draw I couldn’t deny, the ways I felt challenged, how I stayed true to myself, a...
Jun 15, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Season 2Ep. 44
The incomparable Cait Scudder joined us in March, in her 3rd trimester with her second baby — and she is ALIVE with wisdom, clarity, and the real power of a woman who knows who she is and who is willing to hold and share the fullness of her true self. In 2017, Cait was a scrappy solopreneur expat in Bali. She’d moved there to be with her now-husband Toby, trying to get a side hustle going, not quite sure where she belonged and seriously struggling with imposter syndrome. Five years later, she’s ...
Jun 08, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 43
If you’ve experienced the journey of pregnancy or have been curious about it, you’ve probably already noticed how fraught it can be. There are so many opinions, voices, and expectations out there about what to do, what not to do, what to eat, and how it all “should” be. What if there’s a way to step outside all those clamoring cultural voices and just tune inward? As you know, our very own Ellie just had her baby on May 23rd! In this unique Q&A (while she was still pregnant), Ellie offers he...
Jun 01, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 42
We love inviting aligned male energy into the Desire on Fire orbit! Bryan Reeves is a former US Air Force Captain — a man’s man in the eyes of the world who grew up with all the emotion-denying messages that young American boys and men grow up with. After a debilitating heartbreak in his late 20s, he finally decided to undertake the huge journey back to himself. He learned how to break free from the damaging social conditioning that was keeping him from experiencing real love and intimacy, and t...
May 25, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 41
You’ve heard us (Ellie and Aimee) talk a lot about the live Desire on Fire Experience — but what are the actual experiences of women who have attended? In this episode, we dive into a conversation with Jeanette, Caitlin, and Rachelle — three amazing past Desire on Fire Experience attendees. These women all came to The Experience from very different places. They were in varying seasons of life, had individual longings and struggles, and (as you’ll hear) all had distinct responses to specific mome...
May 18, 2022•1 hr 12 min•Season 2Ep. 40
