If you’ve ever felt like no matter how much self-work you do, you still end up in the same patterns—this episode is for you. Ellie and Aimee are back in the studio, fresh from their Sacred Union weekend, reflecting on one of the biggest revelations of their work: awareness alone is not enough. You can read all the books, listen to all the podcasts, and even go to therapy—but without the right community, deep transformation remains just out of reach. In this conversation, they share their persona...
Feb 14, 2025•59 min•Season 2Ep. 99
What does it really mean to embody the Queen? In this episode, we’re diving into the Queen archetype—not as a title you achieve, but as a way of being. We explore the shift from immature feminine psychology to mature feminine embodiment, and why so many women unknowingly stay stuck in patterns of control, resentment, and unmet desires. If you’ve ever found yourself trying to fix, manage, or lead a man, or wondering why relationships feel exhausting rather than deeply nourishing—this conversation...
Feb 06, 2025•33 min•Season 2Ep. 98
Join us in this intimate conversation with Audrey and Hunter as they share their transformative love story, sparked by the practices and community of Desire on Fire. From Hunter’s experience in “The Forge" men’s session to the life-changing blindfold exercise at our February, 2024 retreat, this episode explores the power of truth-telling, the challenges of authentic connection, and the profound growth that comes from sacred union. Whether you're seeking love, deeper intimacy, or personal evoluti...
Dec 31, 2024•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 97
This week we sat down with Ellie’s husband Rob, who candidly shared his perspective on the pitfalls of social media and marketing (this is NOT your typical conversation about these topics!). We discussed our responsibility as facilitators of transformational work and how we can share our work with integrity. Whether you’re in the coaching industry or not, we think you’ll get a lot from this conversation and examining if your use of social media is serving you or not. Join us IN-PERSON for Sacred...
Dec 05, 2024•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 96
Aimee and Ellie sit down to catch up and share the shifts they’re experiencing as they come out of their sabbatical/maternity leave! Aimee shares why she hit “pause” on her dating life, and Ellie shares her recent initiations as a new mom of two. Sign up to join us IN-PERSON for Sacred Union: our 3-day immersion for women & men, taking place January 17-19, 2025 in Austin, TX: www.SacredUnion.live Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.com/page/NEWSLETTER Explore our websit...
Nov 14, 2024•53 min•Season 2Ep. 95
On this week’s podcast episode, Ellie, Rob and Aimee dive into a conversation that invites us to take a deeper look into everyday relationship dynamics. From sharing hard-earned wisdom from our own journeys, to dissecting the patterns we see playing out in the popular show "Nobody Wants This," to questionable dynamics we’ve observed on social media… we leave no stone unturned! Our conversation digs into potential societal shifts, where evolving gender roles require a delicate balance. What’s req...
Oct 10, 2024•57 min•Season 2Ep. 94
It’s the end of an era. One year ago, we had no idea this was coming. And today, it seems like the most obvious thing in the world. The chapter of Desire on Fire is coming to an end. And with this death, comes an exciting and powerful re-birth. We have been going through such an intense metamorphosis over the last year, both personally and professionally. While Ellie’s been gestating a baby, we’ve been gestating this re-brand, re-birth. Though our women’s work isn’t going anywhere, it became cle...
Jul 31, 2024•50 min•Season 2Ep. 93
Hey, beautiful souls! This week’s episode feels vulnerable, yet important, to share with all of you. I, Aimee, am letting you in on the intimate journey I’ve been on that’s led me to decide to have a cosmetic surgery procedure. I’m revealing my fears, feelings, and perspective-changes along the way, that led me to finally gifting myself something I’ve wanted for nearly a decade! In this solo podcast, I share how my views on beauty, radiance, vanity and self-love have transformed and evolved over...
Jul 24, 2024•49 min•Season 2Ep. 92
Hi Desire on Fire fam! Ellie here. This week’s episode is all about celebrating new beginnings, because we're diving deep into something you may have seen us share online and wondered about: the beautiful world of baby blessing ceremonies. This episode is inspired by the baby blessing Aimee recently hosted for me, as I enter the 3rd trimester and move closer to birthing my baby girl into the world. I want every mama to receive this kind of love and support, so I wanted to share what actually goe...
Jun 25, 2024•55 min•Season 2Ep. 91
The last 8 months have been a season of massive transformation for Ellie and her inner circle, and in this week’s solo episode, she dives deep into sharing the juicy revelations she’s been having since her second pregnancy began last fall. She shares some of the BTS of her pregnancy journey– including the wild details of the conception, and how this baby girl is calling her forward into her fierce feminine– a reclamation like no other. Sign up for our mailing list: https://desireonfire.kartra.co...
Jun 19, 2024•26 min•Season 2Ep. 90
Hey Desire on Fire fam, Aimee here! In March I attended ISTA level 2 (a deep, shamanic, initiatory training) in Bali, and I’m finally ready to share with you about it. This training was intense, forcing me to face my protective mechanisms (especially with men), my fear of rejection, and my deep yearning to be loved, chosen, claimed and taken by a man. In this episode, I share about the messy, vulnerable, and at-times-humiliating journey I went on in this retreat, and the healing that came out of...
Jun 04, 2024•45 min•Season 2Ep. 89
Picking up where we left off in our last episode on polarity, Aimee and Ellie are diving deep into the trenches of their own journeys. We'll be sharing the nitty-gritty struggles (and the unexpected breakthroughs!) that comes from embracing your feminine energy. Forget the outdated housewife stereotype – this is about trading in the gotta-do-it-all hustle, shifting out of overwhelm and burnout, and creating hot, harmonious relationships with men. In this week’s episode we share how learning to a...
May 29, 2024•22 min•Season 2Ep. 88
The term “polarity” gets thrown around a lot… but have you ever wondered what it actually means, and why it matters?! In this episode, we break down our perspective and experience, and share examples of how our practice with empowered polarity is changing our relationships– and why we believe it’s the KEY to hot, harmonious relationships with men! Chapters: 03:40 An update about our living situation and how we’re creating more work/life balance. 09:31 The dynamics of masculine/feminine energies....
May 17, 2024•42 min•Season 2Ep. 87
We’ve been cooking up something new for you. A whole new frequency. A new transmission. A new level of reality. And it’s all been Spirit-guided. The fruits of a whole lotta inner-work labor over the last year— a total death & rebirth... Shedding deeper layers of programming than we ever have before – so that we can be more ourselves, more free, living in full integrity with our mission– and more of service to the women who walk this path alongside us. In this episode, we’re taking you behind...
Apr 26, 2024•52 min•Season 2Ep. 86
This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)! Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aware that Rob has also been a huge supporter of our work at Desire on Fire, consistently backing us in a myriad of ways to grow as leaders and serve ou...
Apr 12, 2024•1 hr 21 min•Season 2Ep. 85
Hey there, welcome back to the Desire on Fire podcast! Today's episode is a bit of a departure from our typical topics, but an important one! This week we’re diving into talking about money, abundance, and financial freedom, topics that go hand-in-hand with living a life led by your deepest desires, and expanding into a life of abundance and fulfillment. Ellie sat down with an amazing guest expert: Penelope Jane Smith. She's a true thought leader in the realm of financial freedom, empowering cou...
Mar 20, 2024•1 hr 1 min•Season 2Ep. 84
Dive into an episode where vulnerability meets transformation, and authenticity challenges the status quo. Aimee and Ellie, joined by Ellie's insightful husband, Rob, peel back the layers of their personal and professional journeys, revealing the raw, unedited truths that lie beneath the surface. They touch on moments of struggle and the deep, often uncomfortable shifts that have defined their paths. The concept of “coherence” becomes a beacon of hope and a guide towards authenticity. But what d...
Mar 06, 2024•40 min•Season 2Ep. 83
We are BACK with a very special episode series for you!! If you’ve been plugged into our community for the last six months or so, you’re probably aware that we’ve been going through a major metamorphosis over here at Desire on Fire. Releasing scarcity, fear and control so we can open to being held by and receiving from the masculine on a wholeee new level. And Ellie’s husband Rob has been a key player who has catalyzed and supported this deep transformation (while simultaneously undergoing his o...
Feb 21, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 82
To listen to Jordan Candlish now, you might never guess he was once an ambitious ladder-climber in the corporate accounting world. To the outside world, he was the picture of success: achievement, stability, recognition. But deep down, he knew that staying in that world and doing things the way everyone else did them was actually playing small and safe with his life. He knew he was meant for more. So he took the leap into his own healing and evolution, and it’s never been more clear to him that ...
Sep 27, 2023•42 min•Season 2Ep. 81
In today’s episode we sat down with our client and a college friend of Aimee’s, Makayla Davis. She’s in one of our all-time favorite photos taken at a Desire On Fire Live event. She’s crying, fully immersed in a private moment of reckoning, and she’s holding the hand of her good friend. It’s an image that perfectly encapsulates what we do and why we’re here: to help women thaw out, connect deeply with their aliveness in every area of life, and do it all together, held in a powerful container of ...
Sep 20, 2023•37 min•Season 2Ep. 80
We love to hear from our community, and we love to share stories and breakthroughs with you! This work all happens inside of real lives… and there’s no better way to understand its transformative power than hearing directly from the women who have been through our programs and events. Last year, Prudence Stein-Greene was a successful real estate agent in LA — an extremely high-stress and high-drive industry. At the time, she was struggling with a business decision, so when a friend invited Prude...
Sep 06, 2023•33 min•Season 2Ep. 79
Have you ever had a moment in your life when all your pain and accompanying coping mechanisms finally caught up with you? When you finally saw with total clarity that if you wanted to be able to have any kind of happiness in life, you’d have to face that pain and find healing? Our guest today is the relationship and intimacy coach Stefanos Sifandos — and he shares how that moment of getting “caught” forced him to reckon with a lifetime of abuse, fear, shame, and insecurity… and how that moment o...
Jul 05, 2023•45 min•Season 2Ep. 78
We’ve taken a break from our podcast lately — not because we don’t love it, but because we realized we just needed to pull back on some aspects of the business to make room for all the change that’s been swirling around us. So today we’re back, and we’re sharing a deep-dive conversation about what’s been going on in the business, in our relationships, and in our own personal growth as we navigate our transition to Austin together. As we let the conversation flow, here’s a theme that kept arising...
Jun 14, 2023•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 77
One of the things that consistently brings women into the Desire On Fire community is shame. Shame around sex for sure — wanting it, knowing what you want, asking out loud for what you want (often the most difficult and vulnerable part of our journey). But it’s not just about sexual shame. It’s also about shame around all kinds of desire — for any kind of pleasure, fun, abundance, agency, freedom, or satisfaction. Where does this shame come from? And how is it that even people who were raised ou...
May 31, 2023•56 min•Season 2Ep. 76
You know how we love to invite men onto our podcast, and today’s guest brings a ton of depth, insight, and honesty around the male perspective. Kevin Hermann is a highly skilled and experienced coach, specializing in business, leadership, and life coaching. He’s led over 25 in-person retreats (that’s a LOT of retreats!!). But so much more than all these credentials and accomplishments, what you get from Kevin is just the transparency he brings to this conversation. He shares openly about being n...
Mar 29, 2023•1 hr 7 min•Season 2Ep. 75
We’ve got another incredible Inner Circle Q&A call for you today! As so often happens, there is a common thread that winds its way through all these powerful shares today. Whether it’s being a caretaker for an ailing family member, dealing with old patterns in your family dynamics, navigating the fear and tenderness of a new relationship, or living in the tension of taking on bold new things… … today’s brave women are all dealing in some way or another with what it means to jump in bravely, ...
Mar 22, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 74
In her “before doing the work” life, this is what Tanai Milgram said about herself: My whole life, I was so proud that no guy ever hurt me, that I was always the one to run away or catch the asshole before he hurt me. She’d left a trail of dozens of broken hearts in her wake … but she felt more alone and angry than ever. Like a lot of girls, Tanai grew up with the conditioning that it wasn’t okay for her to express her full range of emotion. Being kind, sweet, and compliant was rewarded. But exp...
Mar 08, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Season 2Ep. 73
It’s not every day you hear about someone getting her start in the world of sexual education by opening up a sex shop with her mom — but if there’s one word to describe our guests today, it’s definitely “unconventional.” Amy Baldwin is a Certified Sexuality Educator with a degree in Psychology and a minor in Human Sexuality from San Francisco State University. In 2008, she opened Pure Pleasure Shop with her mother in Santa Cruz, CA. Their first employee was April Lampert… and the rest, as they s...
Mar 01, 2023•57 min•Season 2Ep. 72
Today we’re giving you another peek behind-the-scenes, into a call with some of our inner circle clients. And there must be something in the air, because this call definitely seemed to have a theme: navigating unknowns, holding tension in the in-between, and nurturing connection in our existing relationships as we’re changing. Here’s something that not a lot of people talk about in transformational work: it can be lonely at times. Yes, there are the highs. Moments of total magic and healing. Rea...
Feb 22, 2023•59 min•Season 2Ep. 71
If you’ve ever felt yourself buying into the cultural idea that sexiness, play, and pleasure fizzle after a certain age … then stop everything you’re doing and listen to this episode! Today we’re thrilled to have Tantra expert and international bestselling author Laurie Handlers on the show, and what an incredible conversation this is. Laurie is full of fire — you can feel it. It’s in her body, her voice, her stories. She oozes confidence and total Pleasure Queen energy. Also? She knows her shit...
Feb 08, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Season 2Ep. 70
