Can I Cultivate Relationships While “Rebelling”?

Should your go to person for deconstruction and spiritual discussions be your partner? Can you cultivate a thriving relationship while one deconstructs and the other doesn’t? Is it possible for two people to be in different stages of deconstruction and be together? If the closest people in my life only hear my process as rebellion, how do I invite them in? How do you navigate conversations about church and parenting? How do you handle sexual ethic deconstruction changes while in a relationship? What is your perspective on how to navigate newfound independence within the boundaries of marriage? How do you communicate deconstruction/fluctuating beliefs when dating in the Bible belt? Can you have the same core values & beliefs and express them in different ways (i.e. church no church)?