You've Got Decisions: Getting the Ick

If you would like to have us answer your questions. If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, friend, or a terrible throatful guess what you've got decisions? All right, we are back at it again, giving y'all hoes some advice, okay, or non hoes like me. Maybe you're a non hole like me, But this week we are talking about getting the ick. So we're gonna start real quick with this letter and get deep into it. Vibe. Hey, ladies, I've been listening to your show on and off since high

I'm not gonna lie. The sensitive skin tea would have been I'm like, okay, I ought to believe that some.

Set of feel okay. I had to address this twice. It wasn't until I pointed out that I had a bit that I had been avoiding sex with him that he finally started showering more often. Trust me, I definitely see an improvement, but I'm not gonna hold y'all. I already got the ick, and I hate it. I love everything else about him, but his lack of hygiene has really turned me off. I'm trying to accept that he's

Does Guy number one stink? She didn't mention him sinking.

She said that, well, he doesn't shower, and it's made her not want to even happen. I feel like she didn't say it, but I feel like there's something there. But there's something there that's turning her off. And it might be the smell or just the clo I don't want to lick you in your ass if you don't go on two days without showering, like she doesn't give me lick me ask? I mean well, it doesn't necessarily.

You guys are gross. There's always a little something where you got to check them on it. But showering feels like the thing they should be able to figure out. Like I feel like a guy may not change their sheets enough. You gotta remind him that. Like men just be a little lazy, but shower, especially when you're coming to see me or we're seeing each other. I feel like that's a common courtesy.

To be clean. For sure.

I feel like you might have to sensitive skins. He led with I'm a man, which means he just don't like doing it. Gunplay just had a video come out said that he ain't showering three d's because he an't want to.

You saw that. That's crazy. They put that on the shade so crazy. That is insane. I mean, I guess between the two you then okay, I mean clearly, for me, girl, just keep dating. I don't think you like none of these niggas, and I don't think you have to settle with either of them. That would be my answer in terms of you asking what you should do with who you should date, I just think you should keep dating.

Not just says college educated, but what kind of degree is it? He's the Nigel boy is selling them bit because if it's communications hone. I'm at a Nigerian nigga who told me after four dates he did have read he worked in it. And I was like, did you always want to do that or like? He literally was like, I mean I didn't want to do it, but I'm now I'm so good at it. He was like, it just you know, the degree fell in my life.

What are some icks in dating previous men that have got you to like not even want to continue dating them? Like, and you too, boy, have been some previous X Like for me, I'll start. I really don't like a condescending man. So someone who is overly confident thinking he know everything he's saying, but I know he wrong, and he's not willing to change his because he just dead ass wrong.

I feel like when men do that, they just have too many people in their ulster at the moment. I actually think there's no other excuse in that.

Like, right, it's just if you could ask to come over, you could take me out to oysters, like to me then, But that's what I'm saying. You're over promising and under delivering. You're constantly saying you're gonna do something and you're not doing it. I don't think it necessarily even has to be a roster thing, because if you're constantly wanting to see me and come over and do these things, nigga,

I've actually heard the same thing that girl heard. I remember telling a dude like, you should wash your hair, and he was like, yeah, ruins the locks, nigga.

You don't care that that and and stink breath, those are my icks. You could be fine as fuck. You gotta whisper in my ear and that shit is hot and sank. I don't want you anymore. So those stank hare. A lot of the scammer dudes have sank breath because of the venears. You got to learn how to use them. Stank care are for real, sank uh sank breath. Also, the golds they use, I mean if you, oh yeah, certain jewelry in your mouth, so stank care, sank breath,

I'm trying to think of someone that came to mind. Oh, I feel like I've met a lot of men that try to.

Tell me they're better than they are.

Like, for example, a first date thing, they'll just start telling me about all these book or some shit or some great habits they have, and then you start dating them and you.

Never fucking see it. I don't give a fuck.

If you read ten books on the first day, Like yeah, just like be a casual person, right, we all read once in a blue Maybe you're an avid reader. I'm right in the middle. I'm moderate, right, maybe a book a month. And I just find that, like, I love when men are who are people. Even women too are who they are from the jump yep. That really has been an itck for me. For men and women too, it's so annoying, like, oh my god, I work out here, I don't eat car especially men that tell me they

Oh?

Occasionally, so then don't say you.

Don't drink, right, you don't drink often, say you like to drink a certain settings, Like that's fine.

Is there a way that someone can give you the ick and you can get past it? Or does an itch normally mean it's time to go? Like this girl literally said she has the inch to where she wasn't even sexually attracted to this man anymore. Do you think there's a way that you can address an inch and get past it? Or do you think that once someone gives you an ick it's over for that person? And well if you two, do you think once you get the ick as a man like by a woman?

Yeah?

What couldn't your little women do that make you? Oh? I have a list too, if you want me to share, So.

I immediately I think about a story where I was dating this girl. An ex girlfriend of mine had a little brother. He looked at me like a big brother.

Right.

I had been broken up with this girl for years, maybe like three years later, her little brother h hissed me up, like, hey, I'm going through something. I need to talk to you. I'm in a new relationship though, so this is my ex girlfriend's little brother and I'm telling the girl that I'm with now like hey, like he needs to talk to me. I was always a bigger brother in his life. I want to go do it.

Unnecessary oh an unnecessary controlling. I get that. I get that this.

Yeah, you an't need to be going over there and have a Sunday dinner. But absolutely we make connections with people that all the time.

Now, this comes from BuzzFeed for the women listening, I did want to provide you a list. This is from men in which they say these are the things that they get X from women. So and let me know you agree or not. Okay, So this is what men get the x FL can I guess, Well, there's a list, let me get if you agree. Well, I don't know the whole list is no, I want to see if they come up. I don't know, double backing on the text.

Let's see if text something about cleaniness and texting is going to come up, and I think it's going to be something with you said on the text, like just like over over over texting like hello, and I think there's going to be something about money and expectations.

Let's see. Well, the number one is is no reciprocation of efforts, so pretty much you know them constantly having to text first, them constantly setting up the dates, and you not really showing them the same interests. This one is big rude and demeaning attitudes like aggressively rude or demeaning. I know, like one of the things for me is and that will give me an itck. If we are at a restaurant, absolutely and you treat the bartender or server like shit, absolutely, that is an inch that I

Like, for example, there could be someone that can call my phone and says they just got in a fight, and I'm be like, oh my god, girl, what bitch? Right, There's another person that'd be like, oh my god, those number ones.

Yeah.

I do feel like that drama like finds you because you enjoy it. It's something that just keeps you going. And I think sometimes unfortunately, I believe it's a social media thing. I believe it's a Twitter spirit thing.

All of it.

The camaraderie of hating things has brought out that negative attitude. People just wake up angry after looking at something or and then they push it onto you or they enjoy debating all the time, and that's not a way I like to connect.

Ye same. I think this one's interesting because when we think of dating, we think of in person. However, a lot of people on dating apps and this guy said that an ick for him prior to even getting on a date with a woman is when their dating profile is a list of qualities they want in a man doesn't say anything about what they're like or what they bring.

To a because I've seen it on the back end, you must be a non smoker.

I don't like this. I don't like that, and fifty fifty fucked off. And then this is an interesting one. This is an ick from another user. He said, women who think they need to cut down every other female they see. It's repulsing to bring up what a woman is wearing, to bring up their TACKI hair or what they're saying. Just to constantly put down other women is also an ick. And I want to share one more

Sure you know, because at first it might come off like, oh, like she's just that cool, you know what I mean to somebody who don't got the wisdom, But then you eventually learn. To me, I'm surprised a woman having bad money happens is not on there, because that's that's gonna be.

An ick for me in what way?

If you if you like constantly putting yourself in a position where you need money for me, like always because it's like, oh the shopping always come first or whatever, Like you're always doing big on the bill, and it's like and now you have nothing.

Left for yourself, like you still got shit to do. Bill spread response financial response ability as an adult. But absolutely turn me off from a man as well, like Nigga, wasn't you just out with your homeboys? What you mean you can't pay your phone?

To be honest, I think excessive spending period like when you date men with money, like women dating men with money like sometimes they be it just feels ridiculous. Yeah, and you're like, is this a show? Off for you?

Is it for me? Like? What is it with girls?

I can completely understand because we start our shopping addiction early.

You know what I'm saying.

Now Amazon has taken it to a new place where I could my addiction is a clique that just says by now not even add the car now.

She brought up our our whorehive member brought up that she expressed her ick with this guy and he did start to change. Is there is there a like have you guys brought up an ick with someone and got past it? Or that they changed and you didn't like them, or was it too late?

Actually, every I've ever brought up they never fixed it. And that's ah, they never fixed it.

I think, Yeah, I'm kind of think wed thing that I got fixed.

I did think this one was. Oh my ex boyfriend was old. Day was really not considerate of He grew up Jehovah's witness of birthdays or holidays, which is ironic because we talked about that a few weeks ago. But the holiday part was fine, but the birthday part wasn't because I feel like he couldn't figure out a way to acknowledge big moments because it really wasn't the holiday thing. It was like, oh, you don't know how to celebrate.

I mean, I feel like that leans more into the compromises and sacrifices than the icks. No, no, no.

My ich was that he literally would not okay, like Mandy I would write him, oh my god, we just did this awesome, Like another friend would be sending me flowers for something. My birthday would come around like things were just not adding up, Like he didn't know how to be excited for me, and I couldn't understand what it was, which was why when he surprised me at our show the thing that was twenty nineteen, that was a big deal because I thought he was going on vacation.

When they're insecure. They don't know that they don't want to give your flowers all the time. I you know, I just read this thing.

It may have been on Twitter where a woman got a three hundred thousand dollars job offer.

Yeah, no it was three times. No, it wasn't three hundred thousand, it was three three times his money. So yeah, just got a got a salary three times her man's salary. And they were engaged. He gave yeah, they were about to get married, and he was like, that would make me insecure in this relationship. I don't want to be with a woman who makes three times more than me, and gave her the ultimatum, either you take the job or we don't get married. And she called off the

I would I really think you broke up with somebody because you realize that wasn't for you, Like because someone's going to threaten her and say, oh you.

Chose work over, Yeah, get the fuck out of here. That would be anck And I'm glad that she chose to leave that mom. And you know what's crazy.

You think about getting married and it's like it becomes so we you know what I'm saying, like we this we that like someone making three times more in your household.

And you don't look at it as a WI when y'all are to get married.

I don't know if we discussed this, but I saw a video recently where a woman said, if someone makes drastically more like double or triple, they should be taking on more of the bills. And honestly, I kind of agree. I don't believe that for regular datings situations, but in a marriage, like I don't know, let's just say you're I hate bringing your name up, but it's only when I could think of Nicki Minaj because her husband, I don't know what he does, but like maybe he managed

What the fuck like, let me get the job. You got that insecure? Oh you could have rode their way before we get out of here. I did want to go over the list of it's that women share that they have about guys. Let's do it, and these are there, which is crazy. Mine was lying over mundane things instead of being direct for the sake of not being confrontational men men who can't do anything for themselves. A lot of times this is mama boys, but she's She's saying

If I've dated somebody that's rude to fucking animals, people like duh. But I'm saying like that was an interesting one. I mean the littering was interesting because I don't think, oh, I'm not gonna lie. I've seen men do that.

I hate it. I've seen people do that same, So you know, bring that up when I see that all like casual, because I'm that that wouldn't be if you have a pizza in your hand.

We live in New York, so this is what I see a lot. You have a pizza in your hand and you dropped that plate. I'll be telling people right in their face. And I live in the Lower East Side, where people love to get fucking flushed. I'd be like, you ain't see that. Josh Cat over there every time. I'm man hates when I do that.

I want to say a lot of these aligned with the same someone being super negative, getting annoyed or agitated and not telling me why, lack of communication, and yet again on both lists are being rude to wait staff for any service jobs that seems to be an itch and a red flag across the board.

You always wonder, too, how someone can do it when we all know it's fucked up. And the only thing I can boil it down to is pride and ego.

I feel like, or literally, people.

Know they're not supposed to do that, but they feel very powerful because they feel like if they're being served, there's just like I feel like that's.

What it is. Yeah, but it makes you a ship personal. Yes, I'm saying, where does it like?

We all know this is something that someone wouldn't like, and I'm trying to think where does it come from.

I'm just I never have that kind of demeanor, but I've seen it. I've seen it.

When I'm out at random bars and people get too drunk and they get like ridiculous. Also they're not getting checked.

And here's the.

Thing, men and women, when you're on a date with someone that's doing something you don't like to someone else when another person is involved.

I'm bringing it up, why'd you talk to her like that? Exactly?

Why did you say this like you have to? Yeah, it's an embarrassing embarrassment for me for you to be speaking to a waitress. I'm a woman and I'm fucking what the fuck?

Yeah?

No, you know when the last time that happened to me was an Uber driver got into Uber with this dude. He was asking the dude to cauld He changed the music and the guy was like, Okay, wait till I stop, and I can do the bluetooth.

So why you can't stop right now? Because he not? And actually I don't want to hear the music. Can you turn up one ouse seven point three? That's all I want to hear. Whatever you got on now? Hell now I do? What is the what? Yeah? Like Nigga, Obviously that's the one. I think that's the main one. That's the main one. And that is when you're right. I don't think you get overseeing someone be disrespectful to someone else. Because I listened to jab be by now

Also, like knowing that you are taking some sort of pleasure because people like to show off when they talk down to someone.

Yeah, and I don't like that, because who are you shown up for that, especially if we're addressing that. Most people do not like that because that's not the way. Do you think that's for me? That's crazy you say that's for me.

You know what, I will say this to anyone listening the most. I've met some of the most beautiful women that are the most insecure. I've got homegirls with helloplastic surgery that still hate themselves. Not homegirls. But you know, bitches, I just know right. I will tell you that quiet

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