REPLAY: Ep 303: Subs, Dommes & Switches (Ft. Daddy Heff & Glamazon Tyomi)

Guess what decision we're about to make. Horrible decision.

All right, guys, welcome to another episode of Poor Blad.

This is y'all. I'm a girl, Maydy Baka is dawny aka all of it, y'all, I'm weezy.

If you're watching us on the YouTube, ill like YouTube were taking?

What is that old?

People think to say you watched us on the YouTube? A bitch, I feel old. It's a Friday night. I was reading a book before I came in here, bitch. Oh, I definitely had to fix my lipstick before coming in here. But imagination, oh wait, I was gonna say, this table ship is like really giving me seven year ago vibes?

Yeah, it's four years man to upgrade it. Yeah, we started. We were like, I remember I.

Was there, Yes, but we guys, if you are listening, we are currently in Vegas because, as you guys know, we are nominated hopefully winners by the time this drops, but we are nominated for or an Avan Award. So we came out here and we got me working. So she was like, well, let's record a podcast out there because I don't want anyways, So we're now recording podcasts in Vegas, and we are joined by some great people which I'm super excited to finally have on the pod. Well,

Too, I did. We crushed it, and y'all help me start on my tour and I still don't ride Dick.

And then we are joined as well by someone who I just met recently, and I'm super glad that you're out here.

At the same time, we have Daddy he Hello, Hello, Hello.

Now I have to ask you because I know even when we when we met each other, you said daddy does have to be mentioned, like yes, I have to call you daddy the whole the whole episode or what.

The rebellious one? Right?

You don't want me to call you, do you? If your name is Weezy, I call you. I can call you we.

Maybe if you got your mama name weasel or something. Oh no, but like let me ask. If someone doesn't do you not respond?

That's correct? So, because here's here's the thing, right is that say, for example, if you give someone your name, like say say you say your name is Taquana just for the night. If they call you Kwana, you'd be like, I don't know who Kuanta is.

You feel disrespected?

Now?

What about women that have a daddy?

Why? I doesn't because here's the thing. You calling me daddy doesn't mean that you're calling me daddy how right?

Father?

Yeah?

I feel like daddy though is much like a cirt, like it's something that's it's like it's given me giving up power.

Right.

So if I already have someone that's my dom, now I don't. I'm just trying to play devil.

If I have a dom, right, and then you say call me dad and I'm like, I can't it is it like you just.

But no, here's the thing you said, what's your name? I said, my name is Daddy heth right. So if you are say you are a felm dom right, and your filmdom name is Mama Wesey right now, if I'm like, I don't want to call nobody else mama, But it's not. It's not about what you feel. It's about it's about respects. Respect is If your name is Mama Weasey, I'm going to call you Mama wese because that's how you introduce yourself to me right, hold.

For God God as a wold of God Father has it's the whole different dude.

Wait, there is a God damn Father. Here's the thing right.

See when when I have people who who mess with my shadow right and would like to come in and tease a little bit, so they got this from I have this pastor outfit right right?

No excuse me, It's okay, it's.

It's a priest.

It's a priest and not pastor. No, no, no, I ain't gonna hold you.

You might want to stay pastor because priests be out here dealing with the little boys. You want to say, beyond call thought you was a pastor because we had that white suit when you lined up all them booties.

That see, like I was telling someone that's so skeasy too. Definitely, that's wow.

It'd be the children from Well then, real quick, what has you out here? Uh? In Vegas for a v N?

Well, this is something I've been wanting to manifest for for a long time. So I was just like, I got the time and I met I met the place in my in my life and my career as far as my business, where if I want if there's a trip I need to go to. I'm going to go to and I've always wanted to come to to a man. So SIS was like, you're coming to a VN bro.

Okay, and you do have a yes with you for the people listening again watching.

So this this is the fantabulous, delicious, gorgeous, sexy as a motherfucker the naked unicorns.

I wish you would have brought your unicorn in here, though, like, what do you mean? No, that's her horn.

But she has a unicorn like a little buddy that she carries, so like, I'm an unicorn collector. That's how we actually connect it because she's a little.

Animate sh is.

This is porn weekend, bitch, you better get all in the sex realm yard.

Okay, let's give it actually then, well.

Real quick, this is something new then we used to back in the day have something called the kink of the week. What is now We've been talking about unicorns in the essence of a woman joining in on a couple and that's.

So not just splain to them. I call myself the unicorn because I'm a newist. I like being naked. And also I was told that my pussy is magical. So I'm a unicorn. This is me and stuffy form. This is my personality. I'm walking around with my personality in the stuffy form. Wait, so you both collect unicorns. I collect unicorns because I'm a little, so I do age play. My little is like three four years old. So I've

I did not know you was a little. You don't know that I know you know what it is.

It's interesting to meet women that can be alpha in other spaces.

And we're gonna get into that because because you're such a dom I'm surprised that you can.

Tell on me.

Made my mother get on her knee would have been a little wow. And so I didn't always know that I was. So she just helped my mama ride dick a yoga ball. That's exactly yeah. And I didn't know if she could get down, but she got down. I was happy about that.

Okay, And real quick, before we give the mic back to daddy, have how long have you been unicorning like in this way? And is there a confusion as well when you explain that your unicorn.

Yeah, people always assume that it's the lifestyle term. When I say that I'm a unicorn, I was like, no, it's le naked unicorn.

That's my corn star name. And it's just because your pussy's magical.

Yes, okay, I mean I'm magical in itself, but she has her own what are her powers?

Got to ask the people who.

Daddy have hold on? Take the mic back. I need to know what is the powers like down there?

Hold on?

In the famous words of Dave Chappelle, one.

Here for now.

But here's the thing. Legend has it? Legend? I've heard the legend of that magical pussy. Okay, I heard It's like a land of paradise, and make believe, bitch.

I ain't gonna hold y'all. I'm about to come in with it with a unicorn horn on my mother head for the rest of the year. But I don't watch its powerful too. So I'm a unicornt. I do have a question. What's everybody's dynamic in the room. Why are the three of y'all all together here today?

Okay? So me and this guy, we have a long history. His name in my phone can I say it?

No?

No, his name in my phone is the original name that I met him under. So when I first started my blog back in twenty eleven, he found me and he used to have a radio show on blog talk radio what was it every Wednesday, every Wednesday night, and so I would come on right I would come on and do the sex position of the week because on my block when I started Dick Gleam on one dot com, every Monday, I would do a sex position of the week.

Wow.

So we had an amazing conversation and like like on the air, I experienced. I talked about the time when I experienced having a prostate orgasm and getting my pro state milk. I talked about my process on my radio show, and I would have like certain things about about men's mental health and stuff like that, but most of it was about nasty, nasty, freaky that.

Oh yeah, gone, we'll go back to unicorn.

So all right, So here's the thing. A lot of men have issues with the process as they get older because it gets it gets swollen, right, and when it gets swollen get you get estrogen and testosterone in there and the toxins, and then that's how they get prostate cancer, the polyts in their prostate. So what happens is when someone actually goes in and stimulates the pro the prostate, it massages it and deflects it.

This is when Vinny said he made somebody squirt from there.

But also this is what I'll be telling y'all s So basically, if we just out here fingering niggas bootth holes, we could keep them from getting pro Yes, whoa not.

Just the prost you gotta here?

Okay, but wait, fucking somebody in the ass can cure cancer?

No no, no, no, no, no, I won't cure cancer. However, what.

That actual prostate massage? Yes, it's given cure as long as search we've recently found on horrible decisions from daddy half as you know.

I want to ask you though, because with blackness, specifically, they don't want their bootle hole being touched whatsoever. So was it a was it a woman that said it's not gonna hurt? Was it a doctor? Was it you going to the doctor and enjoying it the first time? So how did you do it?

So here's the thing. Yes, when I was a freshman in college. Now, I was already at an advanced stage, right far as I eat pussy the first time when I was fifteen, Right, so I've been eating pussy. But however, you know, we were in it. We were in a sexual situation and she said, don't get mad, but I'm gonna lick your buddy. I was like, now no, I'm like, I'm like eighteen. I was like, okay, let's see what happens. Oh my god. And I didn't really understood. I didn't

Let me lick you up, let me lick.

You down, Come on down, turn around, all around. If y'all know that, let me nikky girl like your lover.

Shit. I want to know, was this the age that you got melt?

No, see, I'm giving you the genesis.

You got into your hole? Yeah right, because I don't I don't like that was just tongued. When did you When did you graduate to the fingers?

Oh? You know, maybe a few years later? Like okay, I had, I had, I had a partner and she stuck the tip of her finger in my ass.

I'm just like, okay, don't stop now. Can I ask you a question? As a dom? Sure, that to me is a very submissive thing to do normally, Like even I talk about pegging all the time. I always feel like the dom and a lot of times the men become my bitch.

Yeah.

So because your ass is your manhood a lot of times, especially with black men, how is a dom?

Do you even do you switch?

Do you consider that being submissive or do you find a way psychologically to still feel like you're a dominant in that position?

Well, at that point in time when I'm when I'm opening myself up, so his thing his the disclaimer by me saying this, I'm not saying that I a number one have been pegged number two like to be paid. Okay, so remember that, so disclaimer, okay, disclaimer all right. So however, I do know at that moment when I do decide to be I have to trust someone right, and I could be vulnerable with him and I and I know

Okay, wait go background blog talk radio.

Y'all met you were doing sex positions and then and we just became friends and we just send like this everything.

We went down the rabbit hole then, yeah, we did.

I just want to know if you guys don't have sex.

We've never no. So this is like my brother. It's funny because like that's my.

Girls be saying. But girls say that, but like homeboys.

People get confused because they see us like kiss on the lips when we greet each other.

But that's just how we greet each other.

But like we are like a brother and sister, just a lot kinkier and open with our ship, Like we be naked around each other and everything.

It's just what it is. But we're not blood. But blood wouldn't make us any closer, you know.

Like we've literally grown up in this industry together. So anything that I had an opportunity to be a part of, I always brought him in.

So then industry wise, you're both here for AVAN, but you do Exodica a lot.

Now I work for Exotica.

We got nominated and found out because the fan DMed me and said wow, truly I hit weezy. She's like, well, you know we nominated. I said, girl, I just got a DM and a fan said, we're nominated. I think I told Adam twenty two they were nominate, Like literally literally, we're not aware, and so we were like, well, we have nobody at ABN.

No one even reached out to us and let us know that we were nominated. I'm not surprised.

They just put you out on the fly.

We pretty much were just on the one T can promote us.

How many horror podcasts just put them all in right, all of them crazy is and we did go down the list we are were whenever this drops, one of only two black pods even recognized.

Yes, so shocking, which I'm not gonna lie. Went to the convention today.

I went to the convention today and was able to really like walk around I random people that I knew, like I actually read well, No, I read wrong.

I'm not gonna lie.

I did not run into many black people, but I did running run into King Nazir, who has been on the pod before.

I also run into Adam and and.

Uh and Uh, Lenna Lenna and then my friends. Then I knew that we're already working there, but there were not many black people, not many black porn stars either, And I was like, okay, I see, okay, interesting, But I do want to ask you then, because you also have been in attendance the difference between the conventions and what someone may be able to expect at a porn or sex convention.

So I work for Exotica as the resident sex expert in the sumer are coordinated for the show, and I have since twenty seventeen, but even prior to that time, Oh yeah, I've been yeah, my peoples, but prior to that, like actually working for them. I did every Chicago Exotica since twenty twelve. Wow, yes, I'm like you like ten years in the game basically, basically, I mean twelve years in general.

In the game. Maybe like just take the keys right now, you can give me the keys.

So there's a strict difference between Exotica and av AVN is like the industry show, like the big industry show. So a lot of the big production companies are out, the big stars who do at the contract work with like Browsers and Bang Bros. And in like a game exactly all in there signing, right, and so it's like the professional show. And then there's the award show where you know it means something to be nominated for an an award because you're recognized by the adult industry. Right.

But over the last few years, ABN has an organization has pretty much plummeted. And I'm saying it's publicly because everybody knows that it's a true So I'm okay with saying how did it happen? But I'm not with that information. So it's not it does it have anything to do with the only fans and a lot.

Of there used to be way more people that worked for the organization and be due to internal stuff. Now there's not as much staff and so you could see, like, and everyone was saying it when they came onto the floor that the organization was not the same, that it just seemed like it was a shell of what it used to be.

I do wonder if it has anything to do with And we've talked about this on the pot too, especially with only fans now porn Hub, all of just the umbrellas of porn has something as well to do with tech now, and there have been a lot of tech layoffs over the last couple of years. And the vanilla shit that I even wanted to bring up is that now in the state of Louisiana, you have to show ID or how to verify your age now to even go on to pornhub dot com or any adult site.

Oh yeah, hol on the South, the Bible belt is wildly.

So I never heard it.

But don't tell you why I like this, Oh you do?

Like?

Hold on, let me read it before first. I'm gonna read it because okay, so y'all can understand. So it is now saying that many may be familiar with the common pop up message that implores people to verify that they're eighteen years or order before accessing a porn site. However, in Louisiana, people have to have to begin providing legitimate proof that they're a legal adult before visiting adult websites.

In order to even.

Only Fans is also like a register but for me to pay to watch. So here's my two reasons why I like this. And even though I do think it's insane that I have to log in to watch porn.

But I know that in most cases when people are uploading porn or watching like child or anything, we always find out after the fact, right right. And they've said a lot of times that when you have people that get arrested for aggressive sex or violence against women, there's a trend in their porn, and so I do. There's always a trend in their porn, like they're watching certain type of porn. Now, I do love flucaqua. However, I mix it up with lesbian You know what I'm sayes that give X murderer no.

But so if you're like starting to watch really violent ship, maybe you need to be the kids.

But I'm curious how this like so for in the in the state of Louisiana, specifically Twitter, I watched so much I was gonna.

Say, what about there's no way that they're gonna be able to like but itself is the number one youth site, right, and it's the number one site for what's the word when not revenge porn? But like someone didn't give consent. Oh it's consensual, non consent, thank you?

No no, no, no, not that like like a nose fucked me and took a cell phone video of it and uploaded and uploaded. Oh that's revenge.

Yeah yeah, I'm actually talking about actual scenes of lisensual.

What are what are y'all's thoughts on?

Because by the way, when I lived over in in Singapore. When I studied abroad, you had to get a VPN just even access. So a lot of other count of Asian countries you have stipulate just to watch.

Netflix. So scene that we just went through.

The reversal of even Row versus Wade and now this is happening, yes down there on the Bible Go. What are y'all thoughts on Louisiana even doing like that? Do you think more states follow?

And how does that affect the space?

So on one hand, I do appreciate that there has to be another level of verification because you can just say yes, I'm eighteen, and then you're in the site right, which doesn't have any true weight to it. So somebody could be fourteen logging on to peign hub just because they click.

I show you the click. But also is that the kid's fault? Where's your daddy? But that work? No? But like that's the whole point.

That's why it makes it good because parents can't watch their children twenty four to seven, right, and then with technology you have a broader access. So I think it is good that it puts restrictions on there because people get the misconception from watching porn. They think that that's how it's supposed to be when it's not real. My porn is real, by the way. My issue though, is like y'all doing with that extra information though that's somebody's

Only a few companies, which I did notice there was an agency room even at the convention. So even like when when I was doing the emails to get us the tickets and stuff, a lot of the response was, oh, well, that's normally done through agents. That's normally the agency handle all of that, and but your was, well, it's.

Me and her, which is weird because if you're nominated, it's just be an easy thing.

And it didn't help to say, well we're nominated. We were like tickets for the award show. But yeah, like a lot of the girls are. And it's weird because that's I would love to have an agent on here to describe the difference between agency and pimping.

Because there's a lot it's a lot of that it's a lot. I ain't gonna hold you. I saw a lot of people. Okay, so.

It's like.

Pimp.

I'm like, damn, I wish I could have just asked one of them to come on the pot to it is pimp sitting baby and there and there you could tell like they.

Just remember we almost had a pimp on the show and then we found out he was beating somebody.

Oh yeah, well that's what they do.

It's just crazy or not. I was gonna say that for agencies. I learned a little bit about the business of sex agency. So right now, in today's culture, the volume of money that people are making is from crowdfundings, yes, right, which is a fami, fans are whatever. So what happens is, let's just say you're the baddest bitch that can square a million miles an hour, Well, how are we to find you if you're just a normal person in the world.

They got agents for everything. Yeah, for everything.

People like people have no limits to what they like?

Do you have limits?

Daddy? Up? I wait?

Now how does she say this?

What what I said?

Because you got softer when you do well, you said, it's not like they call me daddy. No.

But okay, so you know it's a It's about voice inflection, right. It can be yeah yah yeah, or you could be like hello, ladies, So it's the vibration of the lower tone.

You gonna make all these bitchess pusses. What at work period? They gotta go to a bandroom? Go back to the unicorn joke. Now, I did want to ask.

Both of you guys for a whore dirve. So our hoo dirve section is sex tips, and I want to start with you, Daddy have I would love for you to give a tip or a man who is maybe just being.

Introduced to being a dom in his relationship. What tips would you have for for beginner doms?

Make sure that whoever your partner is, that y'all have a trusting relationship because if they don't trust you, then they don't think that you can keep them safe or protect them. Right, So it's about trust. So like your partner can't submit to you. If you want someone to submit, you can be like you're gonna submit.

No, what does what is keeping someone safe and protected look like?

Just because I'm not going to the to the to the corner club, would that be getting shot up all the time and stuff like that? Like I don't walk around with a bulletproof vest? What does protection and safety look like from a partner? And I think because that's an issue I'm having even in my relationship.

Well, I like I need somebody.

I'm gonna let niked unicorn ancidents.

Okay, yes, there we go. How does thatd have keep you safe?

Well, we met in twenty twenty through my dom Madam Cartney, and we went to where Madame Carmen like a New York medical No not New York, madimal car with a see.

We went to what was there space? We went to in Atlanta. I'm familiar with the laws. Okay, so we went. They do a lot of gay parties there. Now I had a horrible experience at the loss. I'm not used to.

I'm not used to how things happened because we have Madame Carmen, she has kink Nick and our events are always always safe and protected. But anyway, this guy decided it was okay to grab my ass and right away that he helped correcting him.

He did not have my co.

We we actually we met because through my through my dom, we were Oh, I thought you guys met that night? Sorry, no, no, no, we went to the play party the night that we met.

Keeping keeping your partners safe and protected at a play party that absolutely makes sense, that is and if you got listened to a Patreon episode, I just had a mirror from both sides of the bed, and we talked about the etiquette of men in sex clubs. So I don't think it's talked about enough like that. First of all, we have a whole episode. Yeah, oh no, I got to get it real well. Tune into our Patreon, Patreon

You have been going off off on Twitter, onf phone. This has been dog period, just sit and people are just loving it.

But I wanted you to give a tip to the thick girls who have sex and also please also share the myth busting fact that thick girls can't take dick.

So I put out a sweet and I was like, rumor has it that thick girls can't take dick? Is this true?

Now? There were more people that came back and said, it's actually a myth. It depends on the person, and it depends on the amount of foreplay. And that's actually ding ding Dean the truth.

What do you think it stems from? Because like there's always no got anywhere it stems from.

So, because so I already have the answer, what I'm doing is just generating public discourse that people talk about it. Right, So, after I let the tweet go off for like twenty four to forty eight hours, I said, all right, I've had enough of this.

Let me tell you what I guess. Sure, Okay, I'm curious.

Yeah, I.

Can't understand why somebody would say that either. I've like the people say, oh, skinny girls take dick all the time.

I'm like, what is it? Stamina?

No, No, it's the perception that if you are in a larger body you need firmer or harder handling, and it's not true. And so you have more cushions, You have cushion with women that are thicker. Yes, they're being rougher with us because they assume that our bodies have to be treated that way because of what the outside looks like. But it's like it's still vagina, still push. It still has a bottom, aka the service.

So what are you doing?

And if we're not warmed up, just like skinny girls, we're not going to be able to receive the full dick we need for a play.

We need to be treated with safety.

Safety looks like whatever a person says they need to feel comfortable in a situation, and everybody has a different level of what that looks like. And literally men were saying that women were saying that thick girls was like, I don't know about job, but over here, I'm taking dick. I said, yeah, me too, And I personally go into my my situations with lovers like hey, let me guide you into how to open me up before you try to go to poundtown. You can't go to Poundtown out

So the myth is just And one.

Guy said it in the thread. He was like, I think the myths just comes from like one time there was a guy who just wanted to rush into it, and he assumed because he was rushing in that all thick chicks can't take dick because he didn't take the proper time to actually wark my body.

Right, No, it wasn't. It was most of all it was not.

But you know, they literally do feel like and I mean I've been thinking my whole guy exactly so I know. But yeah, they definitely come in I guess wanting to do.

They come in so hot and relax. It's like I ain't even warmed up yet exactly.

Like niggas get so excited because yeah, yeah, but I mean yes, I can attach to that too. It's like but but dog like right, you like all of that, but relax like and sometimes I think that they they think their erections are going to disappear, so as soon as an erection is there, it's like.

Times sometimes I disappear in my thighs. They may be between my thighs. I'll be like, so you're not the one for me? Is the the little cushion between my thigh and knee, Like.

Wait what you don't get the biggest between your thighs and been your leg And have guys like.

Her mind like they don't think it start fun, but it feels do they spit there first? How does it get what in I mean, my love, myneds be sweating sweat if he was not boy. But the guys, yes, the guy. You gotta think guys and they stay together. It's just like they'd be rubbing and get legs and they're not in.

But yeah, moistened. And now wait, you kept talking about being warmed up. Would love to know because I mean, yes, you did give us for Dirk, but what is your favorite way to get warmed up? I'm an intellectual, so I like stimulating conversations.

You know what I'm saying, well, not even read a book, but like I like to debate about ship like hip hop. You know you talk to me about like a right facts of hip hop and ship. But also like I like to be touched. So outside of like the mental simulation of my body, get back to the body in the boy knowing how to grip, knowing how to grip me up, knowing how to touch me. I don't like I enjoy touch, but from the right person. So if

A certain ways.

I need you to get all around like the thickness of my thighs, and then I like to be choked, you know, like play with my naked I got choked, yo, yo.

The best thing that happened to me so far yesterday. Yes, it was your brain went right back yo. Yeah, I got choked out on the couch.

I was like, I remember this as I was fading to black, now as you were fitting to please before I got that much? Do you like to be choked until you're like I like to be challenged to the point to see like how far can I go before our pass out? But I only do that with partners that I trust, and this is a partner. It's no, absolutely not. I have to monitor it because a lot of guys like they think they know, but they really don't. So I have to train them in the moment and

Big hands and being choked.

I like big hands being choked, big big men big. Yes, you do you know I don't like a big I'm gonna be with you. If you give me a skinny nigga with a big dig I'll take that too. I had a threat about that shit too. I used to go, Bro, I gotta say the skinniest I told I said this maybe on Patreon. Bro. I had to work with Whisky recently and Mandy has been talking about him for a year. Bro, you seeing that, I'll tell you that nigga looks something me.

There was a d wonder who play is gay? This woman couldn't even concentrate, bro, that's how fine he was. I took a picture with Wiz I know Satday Night seen, and she was like, why y'all y'all go together?

Yeah?

I hit her because I don't even want to see nobody take pictures with him. I was acting like a pa Okay, I was the producer on.

Ain't seen it, I.

Just know it.

But I would love to be walking funny after that. Well, I wanted to make sure we got to a horrible decision. Is Daddy have I'm gonna ask you some questions. Of course, so we've gotten into I mean clearly you being milked and everything else, but I wanted to really get into to bring up the milk and party you and you, but especially with you being here. Tell me I thought that it was right because you identify as a switch. I want to confirm you are only a dom.

You are not a switch?

Correct? Well, I am mostly a dom, okay, but sometimes I will switch.

And then so with that, can you explain not only switching, but I want to talk about if there is a difference in roles and genders within being a dom or a sub, like what that looks like from a man's perspective, and if it changes across genders or not.

I know how we show up as submissives because we're women. I know me as a dome.

Everyone only assumes I'm a dom when I'm pegging a nigga, But there's other ways, even vocally, right, But I want to know, like if there is clear distinctions with the roles and genders between doms subs.

In my opinion, just I think it's sort of gender fluid, okay with with you know, dominant submissive is very it's a very beautiful, fragile space. So it's not like men are more dominant. Some some men, even though they appear dominant, are really very submissive, very right, But they don't they don't feel and they don't feel safe enough for trusting anyone enough who they can be submissive to.

Right and well, and I've said that I do feel like, well, a lot of women don't create that safe space. I say that to my homegirls a lot, because when I do experience the things I experienced actually may be like, damn girl, how you be finding all the same type of niggas. It's in the same type of shit. You don't like I don't find them. It's that they or I've allowed them the space for us to do these things.

So I was listening a horrible decision today and Mandy was saying how she pegged you ever been bad? Or you're like okay, So I thought it was really kinky because Mandy did would you be done to try that? Like when you're already putting something down.

Yep.

You gotta remember even if men are curious, they don't want to show up for you and they're not the dominant man. And mind you, we've said so many times.

I think someone said on the show the key to masculinity isn't in you asshole. But at the same time, when hearing a tone like that, I would I've got a nigga ask you had an divorce.

No, well, damn you almost the things you could be proud of us you never even know. When you hear that, you're like, oh.

Because because think about it this way, right, it's the same same way where if a woman squirts for the first time, that's the guy's first time experiencing people shame her, and she won't do it again because she associates squirting with shame with a partner. Right, So it's the same thing women. Right, Well, I'm assuming, but I'm really thinks I'm just speaking about myself. It's that once again, you

I feel like he is the pagan guy. And I feel like, I know you're talking about we had on the show. Maybe it is, Maybe it isn't. No, it's not having someone else. Some people want to some people, Yeah.

But that's what That's what I'm saying. So like you just have to establish those different roles in as far as dominant so like me personally, like I have to really trust you to the fact that I would just like bend over and allow you to just go to work on me spanking.

Now, I want to know, do you have to trust someone to dominate them, like to trust yourself.

But there's a level of trust. First of all, I trust myself, right, and when say, when Necker Unicorn trusts me, then I know at that point in time if she trusts me, that's all that matters. Because but I'm also trusting that she's not going to do anything crazy, especially if I'm doing having like knife play or something, have a knife.

After we got safety?

Go Wait a second, So nine play, how do you introduce that you're into that? Is there blood happening? To explain ninth place? And so this and y'all are if y'all are, y'all listen, these are black people. Uh here way the knife play, let's get into it because that's interesting.

All right.

So he's.

Like, yeah, so's the thing. Wow, I don't think they make knives, but.

All right, I was. I just thought the murders. Sorry wait, Swiss army.

Like or like well not like a big like a big chef's no what like like like Michael Myers like them kind of big knives like that or you can use you can real.

Not sex nice?

Right? No, I don't. I don't think there's the such thing as.

Candles question.

Like like the sex and I can be like play almost it could look it could look like I'm just really I.

Want to know how you introduce.

All right. So so here's the thing. So you have to ask, okay with saying the closed mouth, don't get fed, here's the thing you know you want that, well, let me let me explain this to you, all right. So when you go through the things of what's your hard limits and your soft limits, what are you open to? This is when negotiation, right, So like give it for example, like this riding crop here, like it's nice to leathery here,

So what you were just cutting some tomatoes and was like, can I stab you? Usually where he does his like his sessions, right, all of his tools are laid out, so a.

N okay, now this is so then you're asked.

Well, what's that about? So I remember my first time when knife play was with King New War. Okay, it was at Exotica at that because King No War and he's the mess of everything. Yes, yet absolutely do anything wrong?

No, no, I don't think.

But we negotiated this scene prior to going on stage at Exotica, like a week before.

He said I want to do knife play with you. Are you open to that?

Because he already had a list of like my soft Heart and Maybies right, knife flight was like a maybe. So I was like, well, what kind of knife you're using? He explained, I don't think it would matters, so he so I said okay, yes. Now the day of the performance, he said, hey, time my knife got taken from me at TSA, so I had to go buy another one. It's not my normal knife, but it's what it looks like.

Are you with it?

It had like a little knob on it, I was like, okay, I trust you. Yes, now he told me were a fish net like of body stocking. During the performance, the little knob kept getting stuck as he was dragging the knife across my body to cut off the stocking. I was shook out, froze, but I trusted him. So we're on stage, it's a performance. I gotta keep my face together and still be sexy.

And I'm like on a low seat, like I ain't trying to tap out. But Boker, you do it.

You know.

It's so for me.

I was like, whoa, it's everybody to experience.

I don't know if I will try it again anytime soon, but I do like when knife play is used with wax play, so the nice you're not and you're not cutting because you talked about the fish nuts. So nine play is clothes. You can cut clothes off, so you're not getting wax.

No blood, no no.

If if you're in the blood plate and your bottom is in the blood play, then there's then there's blood, right, But if you're not, basically the knife, you're just it's aation, so it's just grazing across the skin that you would feel the sensation of the edge of the knife on your skin, right and to the point where you could where you where you could where you could use the point of the knife.

Now, because we are black, black, white, you said.

We're not doing the blood because honestly, if someone told me knfe play, I probably wouldn't guess that there was no blood in it.

I thought that there was blood, and I didn't hear that. I didn't hear dash they once that for knife play instead, he'll use a credit card.

If they're blindfolded, like saying he would show them the knives, but to feel it, he would only use like that's he would do credit cards.

I mean, I guess it depends on how hard you want to go, because for a person who likes to play hard, nice play is like on the harder side of things.

Yeah it is.

Now, I'm personally not a blood play person. It's a lot with a lot of safety protocol that goes with that that I'm just not willing to do.

But also I like my skin, saying I only want I don't even want you, right, that's just bleed outside of it. I've only heard of one black person doing blood play, and it was Orlando.

Oh yeah, and it was I I met a dom, a Black dom at fat Con in twenty twenty sixteen who was straight needling it on the con floor and I was just like, god, damn, I never seen like the first time Si.

Yeah, like needles, Orlando, did she have you done that? It's pulling blood? That's not true. Yeah, that's a hard note.

I have a phobia of needles. Like so even when I go get tested, I'll be about to pass.

Out, bron when I get tested and they be saying stuff like, oh, do you have sex stuff?

Right, like for real life? Okay, Like so needles for me, no, but not a night for me because like I'm really I'm really a very sensual domb. So for me, like I'm all about it's all about sensation, taking the mind somewhere, blindfolding everywhere. So like whether the way I flog, the way I use all my impact, in the way I hands bang is very sensual, gotcha. So for me, like you know, I'm big, I'm a big look feeling right, So I was always a big, kung ful like person.

So that's why he Look, they worried about what's on TV. Now, Karate kids, got your ass, Karate can't look everything's just turned.

Sure example which example?

There we go?

Here we go?

What may I excuse me? May I personal sluct this is my personal slut? Oh yeah, all right, so here's the thing, right, So we're gonna talk about choking a little bit, right, so hold on you doing a demo.

It's an audio experience now. Now Black Effect pays us for the audio, but.

I want to show you what happens, right, So like I'm big into energy, right, it's all about the touch right as time we was talking about about the touch.

Okay, it's giving meditation all that, right.

Because we're working on this hard space to right, and then we could tap up here right to release some things, okay, yes, and then we can go in here like this, squeeze a little bit.

Bleep out the titty you remember, mm hmmm, they're gonna hit us at work. M yellow. That was yellow, that's what she said. Yellow. Yellow means okay, yes, yellow down. But that was hot. Wait, you got very exciting. I was, although you were the thing to watch. I looked at you a few times and you were getting it's obvious.

And you know, it's nice to see that because I've definitely been in the presence of doms that think they have to keep that face one.

Just so hard.

And it's like as nice to see us to act ye it is yea, And sometimes that act kind of makes me not buy into it, right. It feels like just completely perform performative, and so I appreciate that.

And so like I'm a I'm an exhibition. It's like I like like even going to like like.

We know, resort. Oh, but y'all are talking, so you like to be watched?

Yeah?

Okay, well great because I'm going out tonight, told us and so and so you want to join us?

You know you don't be wanting to go. You're not coming to the play party. Wait, are you kidding? Show that we're paratyp you know how we're bothering?

We we we have right, that's right going people?

Is it like hotel room? Yeah, it's well, I mean yeah, I don't know either. I'm wait before we go, before we leave to uh just because you're here.

I did want to know.

I've recently shared a list of sex clubs and because we're in Vegas, have either of y'all been to the Green Door?

Is that what it is out here? I can't think about the one that I went to, but but the one that we went to, Madam was assaulted there. But yeah, I saw that on Twitter. Is that out here? But it was out here?

Okay, So it was the way that they handled it. I can't even think of the name of it. I'm going to find it. But the way that they handle her being assaulted did not please. She put it on Twitter, she read about it.

I wanted.

I know, like more people are trying to venture into these spaces, and I've been absolutely lucky, I know, to experience the play parties how I have, especially in New York, but I know it's different everywhere, and so definitely want to make sure that we continue to share the safe spaces to go to. Yes for us and especially especially for us, And then maybe if you guys can share, if you guys have groups, I know that there's groups as well for people to be vetted.

And joined to come to the type of parties. Yeah, we like we like some we just don't vetting.

Yeah, we just don't invite anybody everybody to come in, Like we got to see what you look like your social media and follow instructions.

That's the moment. That's the main thing.

It's like if there is a vetting form and we say feel out everything, and you'll feel out everything, but one thing, you're not coming because you're not following instructions. If you can't follow simple instructions, and how can we trust you to actually abide by consent? Yeah?

Right, So people don't understand that.

And like with me being a switch, right, being both dominant and submissive, Right, I'm dominant when I have to control things when I'm like on to host to care of people. And then in my personal life, like there's partners that I both dom and sub for. It depends on the dynamic of our relationship, right, and if I trust them with my safety, because I don't just switch for anybody, right, I'm not going to see that's the missive side of me unless I rushed you.

And so people are like, I know.

You were a kitt.

I didn't know you were a little I didn't know you were whatever. It's like, yeah, you wouldn't know that because you're not in that space. But you don't deserve to see me like that.

Well, y'all, we are sitting here with a father, a unicorn, and a kidd.

Yes, how many I bless you, my child, just like you the right.

To list my ass. My ass was read for like you made me lick a shoe bit damn you. I was at their rooms and you made people chance. Oh and you know I ain't pussy, so I'm gonna do it.

But now.

I didn't go words ship see you using wrong word.

Now, Mandy's so hard with this battle that she said, sorry, it hurts so bad. Well, y'all, we I'm just so glad we got to do this well in Vegas. Please please please let all of our listeners know where they can follow you, find you and if you have anything coming up, parties, a lessons, of classes.

All the things.

Yes, you can find me on I'm at real gleamozon Tyomi and on Twitter where we have public discourse about six At Glemazon, Tommy type it in because they have me shuttle band or something.

That's just how it is exactly.

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Are y'all all in Chicago or I'm in Chicago, he's in Charlotte. I wasn't taking now I'm here, so everybody from.

All over, but we are all in Vegas and guys, before we get out of here, y'all have heard us say it, we gonna say it again. We want our London teings. Y'all gotta come out and see us, all right, say Valentine's Day, we are in London.

Make sure you get your tickets. Let we are at the Clapham Gramm. We're so excited. We got a gang coming. Vinnie's coming, you'll get to meet him, and we are bringing our entire production to London. This is not going to be something that you maybe haven't seen on Instagram. This is just like our real show that we've been doing for years. So we're so excited to bring it to.

I'm ready to go across the water. We have been international, bitch. We did Toronto well.

In Mexico and Jamaicico, we did, We did, but it wasn't that was We didn't make I go on the pond. We did, but not a listen as someone who has multiple shows in London, flexed real.

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