Ep96: New Years Sex Resolutions

the best and the worst. You know, y'all had to relive the therapy moment. But welcome to yeah, another episode of horrible decisions. This is your girl, Mandy b a k A. All of it, including booty bandit you already know um. And I'm sitting across from my co host. Hi, my name is Wheezy. Um. I'm not a booty bandit only when asked and pushed it into an asshole, do it. Um. I am excited to be back like the Sniper. It

actually seems like we're dropping something on time. But yeah, this is our first time back into the studio for is this off balance, just like I feel crooked. Bro, you know, all of this is just a mess everything. I feel like every other podcast that comes in here, just like no, they have different ship. Every every podcast does different ship. Right, Yeah, that's what it is. So would be sucking up our little flat changing the table. Oh my man, talking we acause not how to start here.

Let's go ahead, and I guess I'm going to start Okay, Okay, So I love talking about that. It's kind of my job. Okay, So yesterday, like this is so embarrassing, but I have to tell it. I thought I had gone your comedy of it. I'm not evenna lie to you. I didn't know how it happened, and I was having a panic attack because when I went to the bathroom it didn't hurt when I paid, but like, I just was feeling

a sensation that wasn't normal. So I went to the place that we went to, which is a walking Dino. And this is not an ad, by the way, but I learned so much in there that I need to tell you all about. And I had an amazing experience. So I've been to this guy know several times. If you ever listened to our first episode. Dr Sarah's her name, got Mandy's condom out and she got mine out when I the Hampton's guy. It is on two hundred West fifty seventh Street. I just found out it's the first

walking gyno in the country. Um. But I've only seen women in there, women doctors. Um, it's amazing. Um. I think I saw a trans girl in there too, and I was like, okay, schure. Um. So yeah, I go in there. I'm super embarrassed and I'm like, oh my god, let me pee. So I opened my legs and I'm

telling her what's going on. She's like, well, it doesn't really sound like an STD system because symsdom because I guess like normally an STD like you feel like you have to pee but you can't pee, So like mine was more like U t I ish, which thought that wasn't U T I. That's what a U t I feels like, is when you feel like you have to be but you can't pee. So maybe the fact that you were peeing is why she said it wasn't as t D symptoms. I don't know, but she just act

feel like it wasn't. But here's what happened that I really appreciate it. I had doctor Melanie who was different, and I told her. She wanted to give me a culture and I was like, look, I've done pelvic floor therapy before. I've talked about on the podcast where I had a really hard time having sex. I've had vaginitis.

It's like pain during sex, and um. They basically stuck this thing inside of me that put vibrations up through my cervix all through my vagina to help loosen me up so that I wouldn't be so tight and gripping and hurting myself. So she did something that nobody's ever done before. Normally I have to take xanics and stuff for paps me rs, I get really bad anxiety, Like I'm really nervous about things entering me. I know how weird thats because I thought you really liked things in well.

I don't really use my fingers inside of me. I don't use tampons, which people think is crazy, Like it really scares me. Excuse a shift on me, bro, I don't know what it is, like I want to use tampons, but I'm terrified. So anyway, she hands me the swab and she's like, I'm gonna leave and you can do it yourself. I don't want you to be in here uncomfortable. She's like, that's a terrible feeling. But I feel like you can do it better than me, and maybe it's

gonna freak you out if I do it. So here, stick it as far as you can get a discharge on there so I can test it. No doctor has ever done that. She left the room. She gave me a few minutes, and I did it myself. He told you how far you had to put it up? You yeah, and like like she's like, just get it up and scrape um. Anyway, So the whole fucking day and night I was like, oh my god, bitch, who I got this STD from? Which one of these things? I got a text and got my results today? Did you funk

a lot of things in Mexico? Now? I didn't have sex um, but got my urine results back and my culture back. Bitch is negative. I'm just happy. That's a way to side the new year. It really is the negative touches. The next day I got the results. I really wanted to pub this place just because like, they take you for you and got insurance, bitch, they got

a plan if you ain't got insurance payment plan. I saw it on the bathroom wall, and I'm like really grateful for that doctor for letting me do that, because honestly, I was having a panic attack. That's good. I was shaking on the table, like I was looking up and like, oh, wow, where's the xanex? Oh what am I gonna do? Should have a shot. I was freaking out. UM, so you guys go and check them out. Mandy and I have both been there, and it's dooke. Yeah, it was. It

was cool there. I just um got new insurance. Well not just got but I have new insurance now. So I have to go through and change my primary and all this ship and make sure they I don't think I want to keep my same primary. I actually want to change up primaries and get maybe one in the city. I feel like I'm talking about your partner, no my primary daughter. UM. And so yeah, I will say my job, which has calmed down much more than when I first started.

UM gave us like two weeks off for vacations. So I fucking partied my life away. I want to shout out to UM got us unknown. She was at the Kwanza Crawl, UM and I saw just quite a lot of bit of people shout out to Dustin. He took me to the movies on Christmas because we were both lonely. Um. And then yeah, y'all, I was lonely as a fuck, so bitch, felon bait came over. Dude, I'm not gonna like. I don't think away for two dogs two weeks, and

then I got lone. I got a little lonely, and I was like, Ship seven wasn't in town, so I was like, what the funk am I gonna do? So, bitchall hit up goddamn felling bay. That nigger came over and fucking seconds, bitch, no, he came over and laid it on me like he never had before. But bitch, he had to give you great as not only that, he listened to the episode, so he was like, oh, so I'm broke and got a shrimp dick. I said, I didn't say it was shrimp. I said it was medium,

not shrimp. Bitch. He made a hit to where I was like literally thinking so much like damn its sides like not a matter like I was. I was so confused the whole time, bitch. And then this is how you know, he put it on me and this is when the funk I dried the funk up there. He asked me for breakfast the next morning. I said, no, the fun just because you laid it over he did, so you wanted to keep sleeping, witch, I wasn't gonna wake up just to cook for him, Okay, like that

would be honest. You can do. You can order it like not you you thought I was gonna him. You can order food. House isn't walking distance. You got to go to your kitchen. I feel like you don't need to ask me to cook for you, like order some food like well, he wanted the whole, you know. And this is this is just because you I mean, but you're lucky to fun. It's my problem. Like I feel like because he spent eight years in jail, he loves

home cooked meals. And I'd be like, you know what this is that jail syndrome, like nigga don't want to eat nothing like he want a home cooked me And I'm like, he did spend eight years in jail, like maybe so, bitch he came. But I'm like, I'm holding

myself from telling this story, bitch, but I don't. I gave him soup and a can when he came over, because he was hungry when he got there, and bitch all I had with soup, so I gave him chicken and dumbonds and bitch I seasoned it and I put it on said it was because oh, everybody sees in their soups. Oh well listen everybody, and got pink Himalayan sea salt. That has to be grind. You literally talked about making a hot dog soup, so let's not. It

wasn't hot dog soup. It was Haitian spaghetti. Get your ass to hetty date. When you get back to dating more black men, she's gonna be funny. Then niggas don't want the niggas. I I bet you that I'm making hot dogs spaghetti. Damn you. I hate it anyway, anyways, he put it, he put it on me. I was shocked by I don't want him, so going into the new year, I don't. I don't want him, like that was my thing. I was like out of me, but I was like, you're not boyfriend material. What happened? So? Okay,

so Scissors is coming in town tomorrow. Okay, We're going to Paris together for my birthday. So that's fancy as it like just fucking skyrocketed. And I'm so can I ask you this? Because this was my problem with dating women? What can I be with her? Who the fun pays? Bitch? So did you pay your old flight and she paid her? Are you flying hut out? Is she flying you out when you get there? Are you? Because then the next case, aren't you all just friend? So how does this work?

I bought the ticket? Oh I knew you did beat you a try as whole. But now I feel like we're splitting it like we've we've split and only because we've vacation together since we've been sucking and ship like that, Like I mean, I'm sorry, I'm saying it wrong. Before we were having sex, we vacation a few times together, and like she comes to New York and often we've always split things. So I don't know this weekend, well, I guess it would have already passed. And I'm on

my fucking Instagram. I'm in love with you, ship, but I'm I'm gonna take her one night and then because she got a new job, So I don't know. I'm assuming we split. So you're the man on the relationship. I assume no. I know you made money and ship, but zeem, that's how I worked with you, don't. I don't. I want to liked you and played a little bit more out on a good book the parents home. Bitch. Let me tell you, I got these flights for four hundred bucks round trip, NonStop. But that's not bad. But

she did Norwegian, so she's gonna just that weekend. Yeah, that a lot of time together. It's four to five days or whatever. Bro, I've known her for how long

we dated before? I three guys? Really cool right now is because we've been friends for this amount of time and then the last part the next person I've dated, I wanted to be not a friend of mine, but like I wanted more core friendship there, like there to be a stronger feeling than Let me ask you this question, because I feel like you do want to end up with a man. But I feel like a lot of the girls that you do become intimate with, they're still friends.

Most of them. We're not gonna talk about love a girl, but most of them are still your friends. After How are you going? So? How are you going to explain this? Because I know a lot of men get jealous knowing that I've been intimate with a lot of my friends. So Scissors is open more than she was, and we dated to threesomes. We've been like betting guys. I sent her Beard Bay, she sent me a dude. We're like really discussing it and we're into this. I'm starting to realize.

I had this conversation with a close co worker, my work husband, and he was like, could you end up with a woman? And I was like, I want to know that. I was like, now I'm starting to think, not in a pan sexual way, but I think I could end up with anyone as long as I could have threesomes. Because when I'm with men, I miss women often. I want to fun girls all the time. Being with her, I want to like have a threesome with her, but I don't miss Dick. I canna tell you that I'm

not thinking about Dick like crazy. I'm not going not could you be with a trans person? I don't know. I haven't ever been with a non binary person, but I don't know. I will say I'm starting to watch that more important lately, so it's like, oh, I love trans women, trans women in porn be kind of hot, but but I don't really know if I have what it takes to to be with enough partner to be honest.

But that's a lot of if you were into the threesome realm to where you could still get like, do you feel like you're that sexual compatibility has to be there in that sense to where you have to be able to have threesomes that has That's so like, I really ultimately want to try. That's really what I want. I would love for us to have a point. Let's not get there yet, Bitch, damn you skipping. You're skipping the guy that you know, Like, shout out to the people, bitch,

I'm in Mexico. I fucking ran into two people that knew who we were, and then that was crazy. This girl is just staring at me, and I'm like, oh, she's looking at me because she's black. I got braids. You got braids on the beach, and as a bunch of Mexican didn't look a little blacker bitch with the braids, I will say, I'm yeah, I don't know if that. So she was looking at me and I'm on the beach, and I'm like, maybe she just wants to hang. Maybe

she want to hil at you. So then she walks over and she's like, are you And before it came out her mouth, I was like, no fucking way, dude. I was on a very remote beach in Mexico at this moment, and I'm like, no, I'm not gonna lie. I didn't know that many people went there until I was on my timeline and a lot of motherfucker's was in Mexico. Bitch, well Back and Mouse both hit me up. They're like, yo, niggas in Mexico, link up with homies,

blah blah blah. Then I'm at another fucking bar and cancoon on the street and this black gay dude is dancing and I'm like, okay, you better word, but glad where y'all from. His man is looking at me and I'm like, oh, don't worry, I ain't pushing up on him. He's like, nah, you look a little familiar, and I was like the fuck, no way, bitch, let me tell you something. I My head was so blown up after that, Mandy. I was just like, everybody blown up more than what

it is already. Shit, I didn't already feel like I'm I feel you know what it is. I feel like I'm a good person, So that just makes me feel like I'm better. I ain't gonna hold you with all of the travels we do, bitch. I was in Kansas City. Everyone's like, oh my god, do y'a bring in live show here? Y'all bring Kansas City? But how much does how much to bring you all to Kansas City? And

so I'm talking to management. Do you know that y'all gotta understand, like just because we'll be traveling like me and we're travelers, like I don't know if he was getting that when you was in Denver, but I'm like, y'all calm down, like people are just asking were considered to show? Like Sam, Yeah, And it's crazy because that's these smaller cities like when I go to Atlanta and Miami.

I get it. But by the way, for those of you all that of wrote me, I'm sure you've seen the same, like, oh, can we do a podcast while

we're in that city? Mandy and I are leaving work, bitch to fucking get to a place for really a day to just be there for y'all one day, Like I I literally just had to talk with my with my job today, like because I'm entering another busy season and I'm like, listen, like if I have to come in at eight during the weeks, that I have to leave on Friday's early to catch fights, And I told them, like I have I'm going on tour, like I told them, like it's now being to where I'm being communicative with

my team that this is what I do. I have another job right now. I'm matching my salary with what we're doing here. So I'm just like, y'all god to understand. So here's where I am with work. I had a real saw your god damn Patreon post. So my HR and my director knows what I do only because I can't. I don't want to get fired. Yeah, my team, no, but I don't tell anybody else' My direct boss doesn't know. People in in the office when I was doing those, they just be seeing me with a bag and I

just may'd be like, where are you going. I'd be like to see my Like I don't feel like it's anyone's business. The company I was in before, I've been with them six years and they were way more liberal, So like they can google me and listen to the show and be like, A, how you're funny? These people I don't know. Um, plus I know like a lot of them voted for Trump. Oh, speaking of that bitch. When I was in Mexico, let me tell you something.

Mexicans are so fucking woke Manica. I went to this thing called a sinote, which is basically like this cave where water is like in I don't know, you go in there. Their ancestors revitalized in there. I jumped in there with my clothes and felt free. I even opened my pussy up. I was like, put someone that energy

in there. Anyway. This guy was like, listen, like we um, we don't necessarily have to be religious people to know that, you know, we're all here is like we're we're human, not on some all lives matter ship, but like it's been really hard with American tourism to just live and work through this and not feel angry. He's like so

I'm sure. Yeah, He's like they want to put that fucking wall up, but we still want to go there, and and we've been such good people and like Americans love our culture, but like want us out and I love Tacosh. Don't bit give me some brow. How do you cultural appropriation? Sh When I went to motherfucker Vietnam, I said, I need the cone hat. I need to wear it. Give you a cold hat. I don't know whatever it's called. Bit you know, you know what, I

don't know what you're trying to be funny. That's that little dumb shit. Huh right, No I do. I do sauce the red sauce um Mexican foods lit. And he's like, you know, we've had to learn how to let go and be good people just to you so that you can go back and tell people that that we are good people. We can't tell that to Trump. Trump ain't listener, but I feel him because he's just like, imagine if everybody, imagine if it was black people, just the African nation,

and they're like, what can I do? Am I gonna hate all y'all? Like when you come to African, AM gonna show you love so you can tell them like we're not fucking crazy. And now you're in some outback ship. And I loved it. Um to Loom. Whereas the city, it was a city I went to bitch. It was like the hamp Is, though the drinks actually went back up to fifteen dollars. I was like, oh no, I go back and go to Mexico. Mexico, but that's what I like being in Thailand. Bitch. I was popping bottles

in Thailand. Sixty dollars in the CLI, give me three bottles right here we each other the best pace I've ever been in my life. Europe. Want to get on a trip for twenty nineteen. As we talked about these New Year's resolutions, I would one thousand percent suggest Thailand. It's super cheap. Once you get out there, you could have a motherfuckering villa for like a hundred and twenty dollars a night. There was nothing better. I loved it. Had a pool of my villa. Bitch. I walked outside.

There was a motherfucker pools up standing downstairs, and we had chefs cooking at breakfast on twenty a night, hope, and we split that three ways. Ask about me, how did you get I'll get massages every day for two hours? Did I tell you? I got at my third massage of the day right now. I was doing this thing with my back and ladies like, what's wrong? How many mass She was like, you can't keep doing that? I'm not gonna lie. I'm mad I didn't get a happy

end any one out there. I was searching, but they only really give them to men I don't know about. I do want to ask real quick before we transition, your top three places you've ever been? In my top three top three places I've ever been, I would one thousand percent say South Africa. I thought it was one of the most beautiful places I've been, with a lot of history. I enjoyed the museums more than anything there.

Of course, Thailand, um so the parts of Thailand. I went to Pouquette three times, and I went to Bangkok twice. I would say Pouquette was where I did the island hopping. And then the third place, I'm honestly gonna say because the people were the nicest ever would be the Philippines, even those third world philip And they were so nice and they spoke the best English, bitch of all the because they've got customer service. Unlock my nigga. Well the Philippines,

was you Caano? I like got it? Okay, thank you so much for calling a t N tant that minimurecause out here saying that ever, give me get that men a mark because Amanda would have acted the motherfuck up bit you did, said the whole goddamn sh it like you don't yo, God damn mine up in here, bitch. I didn't even say it. Don't believe that one part.

Not believe the whole guys voice was good. Buck your boys, American Express two day all be Filipino right, would not be cussing about like I thought, just saying out and dress. So my top three, um Thailand. I actually preferred Bangkok to Pouquette, but I like more than like the city vibe, and I didn't go to Changmar. I kind of want to do that. Also, if you plan on visiting Thailand,

definitely go to an elephant sanctuary. I made the mistake of doing that but not really looking into it, and like I saw them like hit one of the elephants and sucked me up too. I went to Croatia for a rave Ultra Europe and that ship is like the Thailand, the Bangkoko fucking Europe. Everything was cheap, but they have like yahweek out there. It's all these fucking rich people spending no money and no black people. So that's for the twenty six white listeners who said there's no black people.

Know there's black people in there was Afrikans in c yet there wasn't a lot of black people. I was gonna say in suloom when I went to Mexico, by the way, but there was a ton of black people on Camcoon apply. Um. The third I liked Budapest a lot that was one of the like kind of Thailandy Europe places is mad cheep. Like we had an airbnb that was like three bedrooms. It reminded me of a w hotel. And it was like a hundred a night. Oh that's not bad. Yeah, Okay, So we're gonna go ahead,

hopefully y'all can get to any of those places. We're gonna go ahead and get into our vanilla ships. And although it airs ship tonight, UM I kind of wanted to do a preface of our thoughts on surviving R Kelly. If you guys do not know, there is a docuseries coming out on Lifetime and it's about motherfucking surviving R Kelly. So he's been in the talks a lot in the news lately regarding um Ship, specifically what hoarding women in his house. UM to say and so basically the new

documents series Surviving R. Kelly premier tonight. The series features interviews with women like Kitty Jones and Kelly's ex wife Andrea Kelly, who have spoken publicly about the singer's history of alleged abuse his wife. His ex wife is on

there too, yes, and so she's on their crying. I did see a recent interview with her, I want to say, it was on the reel and she was crying basically talking about how she has PTSD when she sees hummers because he choked her so bad in the back of a hummer she thought she was gonna lose her life.

So it's pretty I have a feeling like that about a gas station I ran to with my ex c and the ship is real, and so I wanted to bring it up because I wanted to know what your thoughts were, UM of the women coming forward in this sense, just because we do talk about UM. We have had sexual well, we have had sexual assault victims on here, and so a lot of people on Twitter and a lot of things that I've been seeing, They're like, why are these women not running to the courts or present charges.

Why do a document series on it, and so I kind of want to know what your thoughts were as far as maybe the therapeutic aspect or beneficial aspect of doing it this way instead of going in present charges. I get it right, because you have these rich people that like you're going to sue them, and like, kind of what do you get out of it? Sometimes that may not feel like enough, So you feel like something

like that happening is humiliating. Like when I was abused, I was humiliated, So what did I want to do? Kind of the same. And whether that's I didn't look at it that way necessarily good, maybe it's not. But I can understand wanting to do that because you get

to hurt that person back. Not saying it's right, but and so a lot of people price to pay for with these women, and so a lot of people are saying, um, and this is I'm honestly going to stay off of Twitter tonight because just so many of the opinions to me were disgusting, and of course there was a lot of victim blaming going on. UM. But I feel that it's quite funny that now out of nowhere people have such trust in our just a system and they have

faith that what will happen. No, that's what they're saying. They should go to jail, take it to take it to court. He can go to jail. But if a lot of people look at what r. Kelly has been through in the past. He went to jail when there was video fucking evidence of him pissing on a teenage girl. He married a fifteen year old o Leah. He called himself the pie Piper. He's come out of it. But

that's what I'm saying, So why can't they do? But well, no, the thing is he's been to jail, not to jail, but he's been to court already on charges of fucking an underage girl. So and with another thing, he was talking about trust to justice system. Sometimes if all I have is a story, there's nothing I can What am I gonna do proof they're gonna want? You're right? Like, what am I gonna say? This was your word against mine? Was the battle to that? The same way Bill Cosby

came down because all of the women came forward. If multiple women came forward for this document series, why didn't they just come together for a court case, Because then all of their stories against him, which kind of worked against Bill Cosby. I don't know why, you know. I'm not saying that it can't happen, but I could just

see the opportunity presenting itself. You get to tell women about this person that did something to you, and mainly, like, here's the thing, a lot of people still support R Kelly. I'm not gonna lie his his album was playing earlier on my phone. I said, I gotta delete that. Spotify took him off, right, Bich, I have Apple iTunes, I think, I mean too. I don't have use Spotify for that's it. I only have Spotify. Shout out Rory Mall. But yeah, so to me, it's gonna be interesting to see this.

I don't know if I can sit through. Apparently it's three nights, like two hours each, six hours of women crying, sharing their experiences with this man. I'm not gonna watch it, you said. I mean, I'm gonna watch at least one of the episodes because I would like to see their stories and and kind of get a grasp of it. But what you said, it probably makes a lot of sense.

I'll a sense of humiliation makes sense. If I had to pick one the person that hurt me, if I had to pick him going to jail for a year, or I had to pick him being humiliated or people knowing it would be one year. Bitch, he would get at least ten. I don't think he would get at least ten for hitting me and doing the ship heated to me. I don't think I was gonna say they like rape and how much do they get rape? And

like physical abuse and domestic violence? How much do those normally run for people that go to jail, Do they go to jail? Yeah, Chad Johnson at jail plan, But I'm saying did did did Chris Brown go to jail or just community service? Right? Yeah? We're The reason I mentioned my story not in this terms of rape was because you mentioned the X wife where he choked her in the hump. If I had to pick one, yeah, I would rather him be embarrassed. That makes a lot. Okay,

So that makes sense. I have could at least say I think I've forgiven him. I didn't for get, Like I've forgiven to the point where I can like he's apologized, I've been through therapy, he paid for some of it. I was able to let go and like, yeah, I don't get angry about it anymore. There are moments where I'm like, little things will happen, But if I had to pick one, even in this moment, you would do uh. You would tell the story and try to humiliate him

over when you're done with someone like that. Like one of my home girls broke up with a guy she's dating, and she's like, all these girls are writing me now and telling me how how terrible he was and how they're so happy for me. Now. When it happened to me, all these people you know, would write me and talk about how he wasn't ship. Girls told me how they were sucking him when he was with me. And I'm like,

why are you telling me now? Like why do y'all come to women once they're done and then tell oh, good for you because blah blah blah blah blah. If you really have viable information about a nigga being trash, do some new diligence and tell a bitch. I'm telling you right the funk now. You know what's crazy? I disagree because if I'm dating a trash as nigga, I don't need all y'all holes telling me he try Let me. Let me enjoy my trash until why why I tell

me after? Then just shut the funk up? Like if you're okay telling you after a stupid yeah, like that's what That's what happened. Maybe right, Okay. I probably wouldn't listen to someone that was like, you know, he'd be hitting bitches. Probably wouldn't. But you wouldn't listen if someone tried to warn you and say he'd be hitting bitches? What you would you would if someone says you take

that as a warning, that's a good point. I just I'm trying to imagine, in my highlight of in love with him, if someone saying, you know, he hit bitches, you're gonna say what a nigger that another woman is saying he hits women? Do you believe? Do I believe it? That's the thing this is, But this is the problem that I'm seeing on Twitter. Do you know how many people are saying do I believe what these women are saying? No? No, I was saying, like, like you think I'm saying in

my moment of love, they're not me today. In that moment I was twenty years old, what I really believed I want to talk about now? I don't How would you respond now? You're dating a man. Now you get and you get someone that hits like hits you up

with social media. I have a page whatever, and it's like maybe not even a private page, an open page to where she's letting you know, listen, I don't in the past, I've been hit too much where I don't know if I can say at all, Like I don't even know if I would ask, which is awful, but like I don't even think I could ask. I think i'd be like you wouldn't ask him, like I don't even know, Like I would obviously have him explain it. But then I'm just almost getting angry at the idea

of someone being like oh nah. But like with her, it was just like you know, I pushed, like yeah, that would drive mean us to just knowing that someone thought you were too aggressive is like fucking yeah, I would have a problem, would no, no, no. So I was talking about in that moment, I was young and dumb and in love, and in that moment, could I believed it if someone really wrote me, I don't know, I don't know. I was so brainwashed, you know what

I mean. And I think that that's funny that you say this because This was my other point to even the women that are now coming forward to talk about r. Kelly, they were all so young when they met him, that our minds, as far as emotionally, sexually, intimately, what we feel as our connection with somebody at eighteen to twenty is completely different than even us at six. It's completely different. So a lot of people are like those women had the decision to move in with him, and they chose

the way you think. I can't even it almost makes me want to cry thinking about it. I won't, but I've said the words. I've said the words like, oh, he never punched me, so it's okay, Like he never closed his fist. That's what I would That's what I would say to a young therapist, Like we went a couple of therapy and the therapist saw how I was reacting to him and then saw me alone, was like, does he hit you? And I'm like, waiting for a second's answer, I'm like, yeah, he doesn't like like make

marks on me. He doesn't like punch me or make me bleed, and he's looking at me like bitch. You know. I feel like that's what these women are doing now though as adults now they're reflecting back on what the fuss was happening to them and they know that this is not right. It's not right. Bro therapy will make you really be I was like, well, I'm excited if you guys have on demand because by the time this

episode drop, all three series will be UM released. So I'm excited to maybe get your thoughts in the comment section on what you guys think of the docuseries. I will be checking it out. Um So, we're gonna go ahead and go into our kink of the week. As y'all know, every week we have a kink where we try to normalize ship and let y'all know that y'all maybe normal if this is you. Um So, the kink

for this week is for nylons. The nylon fetish commonly accompanies a foot fetish, and if y'all know, bitch, I'm trying to make money off my feet for nineteen you'ven seeing my little fee post bit you'll see my ship. My little fee posts don't make money on the bitch making niggas pay for my pedicure and ship get my cash app going like here my toes, y'all like these little white cocaine bitches and bitch, I'll put a crylic on my big toe, bitch, that should make my pedicure

like six. Never put because see, your toes is long. You got a little long, skinny toes, But my my big toe is like rounded off, while all my other toes are squared off, and I just hate how it looks. I look like I gotta go with a whole bunch of squares, so I want to square it off like the rest of my squares. Bitch. Um so, but you imagine it was sucking on them ships and he'd be

like this tastes like ha, shut the buck up. Anyways, Guys as far as nylon one with a nylon fetish may enjoy the look and feeling of toes, feet, and legs wrapped tightly in nylon stockings. They may want to smell the nylons or have them shoved in their mouth. I've seen that important. The latter use is a terrific way to shut someone up. If you're into b DSM, have the dominant partner tie you up to the bed and shove stuck stockings in your mouth, or use them

as a blindfold. For I know that's been taking forever Nilons can also be used if you don't mind the likelihood that you'll ruin them for where to tie one another up as a form of bondage. While bondage is a kink, using nylons for bondage is separate than having a nylon fetish in which the nylons themselves produced the sexual arousal. Rather than did I ever show you the

nylon over the face? You did with the guy just had a crazy I'll show you this guy I knew I had a crazy fetish for nylons, Like he was like, oh my god, where them? And I could take a rip of off you? And I wonder if this is similar to because I've had a lot of guys request like full body like fishnet stockings. I don't think they're Yeah, I saw this look, isn't that disgusting? This is a picture of hope. That's another that's another on it right, Yeah,

this is no, no, no, it's a girl. So the girl he was, he had put her put her stockings over her face, and he came on it. Jesus. He loved that ship. And I didn't know about his fetish until we had sex, and then he was like, oh, the next time. Well, that makes sense because when used to show me like your little black and white artistic news always had like fishnets are stockings are like? Which that's hot? Like that makes sense. I know he liked to come on it, and then once he started doing it,

I was like this, it is getting weird. Don't be saying, don't be kinsh man, Look how's she gonna kick? Don't eat king shame? Really, I don't like perry and blood. What's the problem say your face? Just because you are here eating bloody period and y'a't eat it? You it was there, you look around of it, and I don't. I'm as a person that's had a tampon where obviously I can't. Oh my god. So I don't mind if you wear one. I'm still gonna eat your blood. I

see it. If I don't shame, you're blody, your blood, poins, quarters pacils, no kind of sen and if it's no sense and I have no scent, I'm gonna eat that's disgusting. Like the clip, I'm not saying, I'm gonna eat the whole. I'm not looking pussy hole this bloody I'm looking click, it's just click. I'm disgusted. I'm sorry, I'm disgusted because what happens is I am a tampon wear. So I noticed because I try to play with my pussy, even

on like day two, even though I shouldn't. And when I play with my pussy with a tampon in when I really get wet from watching the porn, I still secrete past the tampon and my pussy gets wet so and then bitch, I'll be looking to still be under my nails sometimes, so it'd be coming out of that goddamn tampon. I don't care. Had no tampon, no bad my cocaine white nails. Blood under white nails is not cute because then I'm looking in this dirty and it's like,

what's that? What's that? Mandy? Is that? Uh? I painted my room? That is disgusting. So we finally made We finally made it to the horrible decision for the week. I know, y'all like, God, damn this episode long as bitch. Nope, y'all still hour. Nope, we're on time. Actually it's twenty nineteen, and y'allhos are not getting longer episodes. Just so you know, we're still sticking to the script here, bitch, I don't know. Wow,

people do two or three hours? Me neither? Like, if you cut me the Joe butt and Spotify check, obviously I'll sit here. But like we need double we need double Joe to sit and talk to you for two hours. Also, it's three people maybe that makes in Parks it's four. Then you got to say von to do the research. We didn't even gotta say von, bitch. We didn't hear googling while we're talking. This ship is a lot of work, which we can't do that ship. But Weezy Loki don't

like splitting percentages. We've been dealing with this ship right now, so let me make your laugh. Listen. She don't want to give nobody She got games she don't want. She don't want a thirty seven thirty seven something. Melt When I tell you fifty fifty, she like, bitch, worth, can we go over a hundred percent? Because I don't want

to give anyone else sitting maybe? And I had a conference call today with the deal we're working, and I like, I feel like me and you personally have been doing really good with like listening to each other and communicating. But once I know they wanted someone to live to our money. Bitch. I was like, oh no, oh no, but this is this is all bro. We'll have someone coming and say, yeah, so we're interested in taking fifteen percent, which is lower than here go. Weasy not, bitch, We're

gonna get thirteen and a half. Tell them go back thirteen and a half. What bitch is the jew and to Okay, it's true all right too. I really believe wholeheartedly that if someone comes to me, I don't have to I didn't write you. You know what I'm saying. If I didn't hit you up and ask you to help me, and you know that two years down the road you want to funk with horrible decisions. You want

to do this for us and ship like that. Take the dip on the two percent because we've been doing this whole ship without management, and I feel like we deserve that larger cut. Plus we already got to split the ship now, so I'm I'm big on piece of mind, and bitch, if we ain't got to do all the work that we've been doing, like for the last two years, and we can bring in more money, like here go your fifteen percent, niggas I'm cool on fifteen with new work but old work, and I hear you, but you

know what, Yeah, let's let's go ahead. We don't get into the horrible decision because now we're get in real business. E. It's just a saleswoman. Can't as someone who's been selling my whole career. You know, I never got a degree, like I've literally paid my way and worked my way up the ladder from selling. I can't be sold, bro, you can't sell me and be like, oh yeah, but we've got our pr didn't you anyway? Exactly? I know, let's get you one bedroom money. I was like, let's

get it too. I hate you. So we're gonna go ahead, guys, and we are going to get again Happy New Year. We're doing our New Year's sex resolution for this episode. You couldn't. I am very first one. I think they're great, so the first one yeah, but the second one really shocked. The second one is where I've been lately. So um, we're gonna start off. We're both gonna tell you guys our sexual our our New Year's sex resolutions. Wheezy and I both picked out two. And then, as you guys know,

if you interact with us on social media. We posted to our Instagram page and my personal page, UM some other sex resolutions, and we're gonna share some of yours this episode as well. So I guess we'll go back

and forth. I do want to do okay, So my first UM New Year's sex resolution is that I will stay current in my sexual health visits and urge my partners to do the same current UM current would be every three months UM or if I have unprotected sex, I will say maybe within four weeks of that, because it still does take time for symptoms to occur or for it to show. Like you're midtown working right and so like um and that place fifty seven. Yeah, there's

well and there's a lot of options. And bitch, I got good as benefits, bitch, so I just like, and let me tell you how good my benefits are real quick, bitch. I went. I had so I have signed us issues with my nose my ears. Y'all know I have ear issues. I'm tone deaf or whatever. But I had really bad

ship happening with my nose. So I went to the e n T and they prescribed me all of these sinus medications from my nose and bitch, I went in with my motherfucking here my prescription card, bitch, pay less than two dollars. Hope. I was like, that is almost like only MEDICAI got chieap ship like that good insurance? Well, now I know I got good insurance, hope. So I don't lie to you. I think about that. Today we were talking a I was like, do you know how

I have a fucking corporate card swipe? So don't you have to pay? Then? I do. I'll be working on uh. But um, so I really want to be more aware. So because last year I was going to the doctor so much because I was preparing for my surgery, they were testing me so fucking much because I was going to the doctor to make sure I was cool before surgery. After about my five month mark and getting all of my post surgery visits done, I will say I kind

of slipped with checking all myself. Um and even though I do wear condoms, bitch, I I swallow, so I probably should still be fucking getting checked up. I feel like condoms are not all the way, um, you know guaranteed. So I will say that that's mine. I added the partners thing in there because I don't think that as we have grown with this podcast and as we've been advocates of sex, I will say it's been less of a conversation. Oh they smoking so loud out there, Oh

you smell it. Yeah, it has been less in my personal life where I've been advocating for men to get tested. So I feel like that's something I want to change. Is to where I hopefully I got a boyfriend, but if I continue with multiple partners, I do want to urge them to get tested the same way I like.

Getting tested is so scary. Yesterday I was in the waiting room just looking at niggas like I've been thinking of who I gave hand jobs to, bitch, Like I feel like maybe it could have seek through my pores, like I've been thinking of everything I did. Basically, I was dreading the most, calling and texting whoever it was like, because I would have to tell the last few I don't know. I got tested in October, so that that's

still yet. I still that three and two and again it's the nerve working part to be like, yo, I got tested, I got this, you might need to get tested like that. Have very hard conversation and I really appreciate one from the Stockings guy and I didn't have anything. We hadn't had sex in five months. It was like, Hey, I know this is we but I just want to tell you in case you haven't been tested. Can I say something in regards to that. Though this was during

the time, um, and this is no shade. I want you to know, this isn't shade, goddamnit. But this was also the time when you were dealing with white men, and I feel like, unfortunately the stigma in the black community. Yeah, no, no, of course, But I'm just saying black men when it comes to results, and because a lot of black men were taken to doctors as younger, because we don't grow up with health benefits. We don't have that, so we don't talk about about I don't even think more than

it's the doctor, like even in the house. I think it's more about being communicative about sex. Yeah, like I agree, like that text I got, like, I don't know if I ever get I agreed, No, but yeah, they'll be like you good, I'm good, And that's where it's ups and that's not how it should be. So I want to be more of an advocate for getting more black men look not like I'm sucking all y'all, but to get at least the ones that I'm dealing with to take their health more seriously. I mean you, we got

to encourage our front was it's mental health. I'm not gone even and listen and I listen. I I love my um reality shows, as y'all know, Real Housewives of Atlanta is my ship. And Greg Nini's husband had colon cancer. And so I literally just saw an episode, it was last week's episode where he sat in front of his son's and was like, listen, I'm telling you now, go get tested. And so that's even a thing. I know a lot of black men don't want anything, but colon

cancer is very prevalent in the black community. UM, who was Jonathan Menna? Didn't he combat combat? Had it? Um? And I know Menta was very vocal of going to get tested right after. So outside of STDs guys, especially all of the men that listened to this show, I think that it's serious to take your health serious. I've been talking about my health and my family, so you know, I've been talking about my aunt with her cancer, very in cancer, and then my mom was telling me, my

mom is a lot older. Right, my mom had me at forty. She was like, yeah, like I couldn't have kids, like the way that my service was like like all these issues and like I got fucking pussy issues in my family, like you know, god forbid, I can't have kids. And I'm gonna sit here and be like, wow, I used all of those content, right, Um, so what is your New Years sex resolution? So? Oh yeah, since I'm interested in a tryad, I'm going to focus on making sure the sexual partners I have in my life are

compatible people and or be open to guest starring. Now, so I like to explain a triad for our listeners. So, a triad is a three way relationship. I don't consider myself Polly because Polly is you know what. I hate to say this, but Polly shipped to me, is very hippie like, and as much as I'm all about that, sometimes like I don't really like the way that it is. Like I've been to Polly parties and I can't wait to Kingdom come on because he's Polly, and I can't

wait for you guys to have that Conversayah. I mean I don't very well though, I don't do I don't want um. Polly to me is being more open about the partner's felling love. Iisha, my friend that came on for the episode with Astley the girl in the Wheelchair. She talked about how being Polly is being able to fall in love with another partner. Not my vibe that I want to do. That's why I'm definitely not And I feel like sharing that much love is like a lot of work and to me, that's not that much love.

I'll tell you is only but still be we know, don't do it as ill, so don't do it. Um. I definitely want to start, you know, having a tryad again, Like I really liked what I had with Collett and Nick and um it was dope. Um So, so I haven't really talked to Scissors about the tryad. I will this weekend. I'm talking about three sums. I'm warming that pussy up. Uh. The next thing I mentioned there was the guest starring I. As y'all probably have heard, I'm

like really not open to like guests starting. I love having my own threesomes with someone that I've already know and I'm very connected to because I really love a strong emotional bond during sex. So I like to have one of the people in that threesomb someone I know because I enjoy watching someone I care about get off. I'm starting to like really look at couples more than

I ever have, like in a very intense way. Like and when I was in Saltom in Mexico, I was looking at like every couple sitting down and like like making jokes about like I'm going to reach out to dub because I feel more into joining couples now, right, you know what this is? What is it? We're busy, it's fun, and so I just want to get off and I still want my pussy and I want my dick, and you're beautiful, let's do it. You know. They're like, so couples are so excited, Like I can only speak

for myself. Going on a couple of days, you treat someone to it right, like you're so excited to be around them. You're already with two people that are like really in love, are really happy to be with you, that have a good sexual chemistry. So you're just like, oh, done deal, Like these two I'm freaky. So they know I'm going to amp it up like to Actually, there's a couple now I can't say, because there's a whole lot that I can't say. So let's get off. Let's

get off the topic. I can't talk about me either, No my topic. You're a couple's famous. No, oh, possibly my couple not famous, but they're well known. If it ain't Will and Jada, who I don't give a fault. Well, like, I feel like I can't say, don't say, but I want to describe what they look like. I can't. You can't do that either. We're going to get the codes of horrible decisions right now. We got codes to live

by somebody. But you know, I'm looking at what you're saying, and you said that you want to make sure that they are compatible. How do you feel like? Get back um scissors and blue check? For example, I could see them being very compatible because they're both really lovely, kissy, touchy beard Bay and her. I'm not sure they both think each other is really good looking, and they both

said that to me. But I don't know. You've had sex with both of them, you don't know if it would be compatible right, not the way they both fuck. So I'm just like, now, there are certain people I have had sex with that make me think of like for her and blahlah blah. Actually, when I was sucking beard Bay recently, I was thinking about her, and I told him too during sex. I was like, I wish I was eating pussy right now, That's what I said.

He was like, are you doing that? But that's a that's get I said, I wish I was fussy on my face and he was like, I guess that. I guess that's a sexy way to say I did. I just you know, I missed her. But also so yeah, I want to make sure that, like when I started meeting men here in New York, that I know if I'm working with them, because like I will really want to share the two like that she would work with them too. Um. Also, I really want her to move

to New York. So there's that, Oh Jesus, And I feel like you're gonna pay the bills for that whole I didn't say that. I told her about to pay the bills to have a bitch movement. I already told her how much she could spend and I'll stand the rest. See, she gonna spend seventy percent, bitch, I just need you to pay the utilities. I didn't sell like bitch paying for grocery that you're telling invol a thousand bucks, I'm assuming they're probably gonna pay the rest. You a trick trick.

I'm not a trick trick. It's just like a big transition. You better say this, goddamn John, because you ain't gonna have me working harder with here paying for bitches bills. So I just need to do to know that real quick. Um. Anyways, guys, so my second UM New Year's sex resolution is that I want to prioritize an emotional connection over a sexual connection. UM. And this is something that's that I've been working on

with myself actually for the last couple of months. I am in a place now where I do want a relationship. I want a partner. UM. I would be open, of course still to the swinging and the sex clubs and things of that nature, but I'm really focused on a partner UM. And I even had this conversation with my mom because my mom thought I had commitment issues or whatever the funk. She really thought I had something going on and I needed therapy for Like She's like, I

just don't understand. So this is this is the problem that I've had over the years, and I'm not even gonna lie to you. Um, I'll be completely honest. A lot of the relationships that I had even while I was in school, when I moved from Atlanta to Miami to New York, a lot of the men in my life were already in relationships, but I had financial gain

with them. They would help me with my bills, they would help me with classes if I needed, and I was very dependent on men for financial reasons to where I didn't want to get into a relationship with a man knowing that I was still receiving help from other men. I never wanted to go into a relationship cheating, and I never wanted to give myself to someone who couldn't make up for what other men were doing in my life. I'm now to the point I ain't even gonna hold you.

Bit so little ball player was in town. Bitch offered me five hundred dollars for the head and which I didn't even moved, because you know what, the first thought in my head was, I was like, wait, bitch, I make more than that for a sixty second at home, Like, oh I got seconds, bitch, I'm making more than five hundred dollars. So no, I don't want to suck your dick for no five hundred dollars. So in my mind,

I'm like, I'm making money now. Money isn't my driver to be intimate with a man or even deal with they asses. I want a genuine emotional connection to a man, and finances are now not an issue. I don't need to depend on a man for anything in my life. So oh, I'm loving it. Like I no longer have a roommate, and so I'm really about to just take on the bills of a two bedroom and I'm considering

maybe doing airbnb from time to time. But I even want to change the second room into an office, like I want to do a guest bedroom in the office. I'm making enough now, yeah, bitch, and I ain't moving bit I'm saying, what the funk man he's been? It's comfortable. Like, so I'm to the point now where you can also do something that's really economical. It's like renting your room from for like subletting, yeah, maybe two months at a time and then taking a break and living on my own.

I was thinking that doing it like the touring months. Yeah, um, but as far as me doing a self reflection on myself. I talk about vetting a lot on this show, and I feel like I seek such a sexual connection with men that that's a lot of my conversation and beginning to make sure they're open to the things that I want to do, as far as finger and a booty hole and let me be the booty band and that I praised to be. But I now know that I

want to genuinely like to be around a person. There's so many niggas I fuck and we funck great, and I love you while I'm sucking you, and then I'm ready for you to go. I don't want to be around you. I don't want you to be my boyfriend. Even what I just said with Fella Bay, I was frustrated that it's just like why do I why? I want to like your ass and I want you to be my nigga, Like I don't want to just keep having these great sexual chemistry with multiple band here. I

don't want that. Here's the other thing too, that I think maybe some of you are listening or whatever, Maybe you mean you rite when you start emotional connections first, bro, it's crazy, like the sexes is better The only reason I can attest to this is because I've had sex with people that I used to funk that I don't care about anywhere. I'm like, damn, this ain't good way just because like I cared so much, like that ship is really really good, and that's why I don't like

Fellon based. So I was shot when that nigger came back. I really didn't like that nigg even more than in and I told him as he can't made me come ever, I had to tell him. I said, yeah, but that was good. But I think he was trying to prove he ain't got a shrimp dick. I would suggest like more than you know. I know, like people think by the way that noise right there during during Ashley's episode,

they were like, somebody's phone keep going off. This is someone who is never going to make it, and they're playing is about to be not you know, I'm going to let them know that we're recording it and I don't do that. I absolutely I am going to have my let me speak to the manager voice. But anyway, so what is down? What is your last um New Year's sex resolution? So uh wow, they turn it down? That kick work. I want to work on having a tantric sex experience. I've been trying to find someone that

does tantric sex. So COLLECT told me about this experience she had with a couple where they I just said, I don't like hippie ship, but they basically went in this circle. They like one person looked at each other with like each eye and ship and they like focused on their breath and it was like super intense. And she said that the girl came without being touched on her pussy and like people that have tantric sex can

have orgasms like that. So I really want to do that. Um, I've heard about people giving tantric massages at sex clubs and stuff like that, and you know, Jeeves gave me that laby a massage, which fucking came like crazy, even though that's touching my vagina. But yeah, I really want to have an experience like that. UM, I'm thinking that I'm going to actually, uh, you can't really want to say it. You're gonna pay for it. As you've been wanting to pay for a sex, You're about to pay

for a girlfriend. Go ahead and pay for sex. I'm not paying for a girlfriend. But I did find this I'm not playing with you, so you may as well just wait till King Noir's in town. She didn't tell her yet, but he gives it Tan Trick massages. Oh and we might get a differ. We work with him, we might get a discount. I can't do that with someone like you, don't, bro. I love a girl on the show like y'all wasn't sucking y'all was no I know, but like by the series, I'm not opposed to like

fucking a guest. Don't care. You can let everybody know how to dick is because it looks beautiful on video. Bitch, you know what that is? His dick looks amazingly good. Option don't he live in Florida. He'll be up here next week. We haven't Maybe me and scissors, Oh maybe you could both of you that I didn't ask for asked for a Tan Trick experience, Bitch, I wouldn't pay for sex. I would pay for an experience. Trying to

get me called up home? I know, well, I want to share um some two thousand nineteen sex resolutions from Eavy on Whitney. She actually inspired this episode and I really love her. Three we could get her on right. She's a girl of a black girl. The dates the white guy married is she um, I don't know. I found in California, was on Twitter. But her three was I will give myself permission to want the sex that

I want. I love that because I feel like we don't allow ourselves to be these things that she doesn't live in New York. Yeah, I like Um. The other one is I will not say yes to sex. I don't want to have, bitch, which is why I ain't suck that dick for five hunt. All that resonated with me, bitch. And then the other which I didn't want to suck his dick. I said, I just had a lot of sex. Actually I'm good. Um. The other the last one says,

I will prioritize plus advocate for my pleasure. And I love that because I just have a lot of stuf and please other people. I went to that power and Pleasure and porn thing with Liz Goldwyn and um Erica Lust, who if y'all have heard me talk about her, does feminist porn. Erica Lust mentioned during the porn seminar that she focuses on the woman's face during orgasm and also puts the camera on men's faces so you can see them because we don't get to see men and porn

and ship like that. But basically saying, like most porn that we watch is not center around the female workasm at all. A matter of fact, nothing really happens shot when a woman doesn't come, it's just like, okay, it's kind of on you. But when men don't come, it's a failure. So that's a great resolution to have. I think. My friend Rashida said the same ship I do like that on our Instagram post. I do like that, So um,

Rachel Stewart arts shout out to you. She said that her sex resolution is to actually have some without attachment, learning how to be casual. So that's actually opposite from what I said. Someone else said the moment I stopped centering male orgasms in my sex life, it got better. So feel free to steal that one, y'all. Um. That was from oh MC sheet that's your friend, right, Yeah.

Another one is from just the fucking Best. She said, I will have sex not to be in a romantic relationship, but because I deserve my body to be touched on. Human contact is so important. That's why I cannot have sex. It's like just too casual because like I came more intimacy by the way. I had a sexual experience with Jeeves recently. Yes, I said that name fell baby, and you know we no no, no, no, no, he just came back in town, so I wanted to say, I did not focus on his orgasm at all, and like

he came hard as book. So we're having sex or wait, we were having sex the second time. We already fucked. We were in bed and I was kind of tired and he now we use condoms, right because we're not each other's partners anymore primary or anything. So like I was tired of being sucked with a condom. I really didn't like that feeling. And he fox his dick is huge.

So I literally, after sucking his dick, just stopped, got on his face like backwards almost like sixty nine and like damn near suffocated that nia and wrote his face to like him. And he kept telling me like use his tongue. He just like opened his song like and just told me to get off on it until I came and he became just by me doing issue. It was crazy. I think that that men get so turned on when the women one. And I think the bigger part about that is, though, is women knowing how to

please themselves. That a big like women that don't really know how to get off didn't expect a man to do it. It's so ridiculous. I have some a friend in my life who is having trouble reaching orgasm and like she doesn't know how to get off on her own, and I'm just like, bro, you got you got. You

gotta know how to please yourself. And I've said that too, with masturbating and touching yourself and really knowing when what turns you on, because you have to be able to communicate that your partner, bury your dad, earning your body for women that have always been like that, that's it I want to shout out to with you bringing up head Um. The Black Martha Underscore says she wants to stop working with men that won't eat pussy. I know that's right, sist, even though y'all know I don't care

about that. Ship um you know, and probably one of the best ones. I love this from Jamaican Meet Crazy. In other words, we are not fake moaning or faking orgasms. Ladies, let that motherfucker know you didn't come, don't be skirt And I think that that's very that should be the mode. There is, by the way, way to say that you didn't get off. Oh, I tell him, I ain't come like just like I have you touched the dudes on a little nice like so I know you're you're in

your refractory period. Not refractory. Oh, but this is true factory period women once they come, it can heighten us to have even stronger orgasm with the second time. Men when they come have a refractory period if they need time before I can go back up and up again. I'm like, and I am open and willing of a participant to get a world sex from you. I'm just setting it out, speaking of um, the refractory period. I just sucked an old guy from the past. Um, that's

not old guys, No, he's um. He's not very much older than me. But I sucked him and made him get up three times, acted back to back to back. And I just wanted to say this, um because his stepdad listen to the show and so does his mama. And he ain't told y'all we'll be fucking. He just said we're friends because he don't know that. Y'all know he a freak, but he is. He lived in d C. That's all I'm gonna say. But step Daddy and Mama, y'all listen to the show. Hey, So does he know

I'm talking about him? Um? I want to make sure in his past he did. Now he's an accountant, tip tip, pintint. Anyways, guys, um, we're gonna hop into the wholemail. Bitch, I felt the type what my mama doesn't. Your mama needs to know you a freak nigga? Yes? Anyways, Oh my god, they listened to the show. Bitch about to come to the show in d C too, So we're gonna get into the homemail revery quick before we get out. So, hey, ladies, questions.

So I've recently started talking back to my ex. We haven't had sex yet, it's been two years since the last breakup, but we've been talking about it. Well. In the last two years, I've been introduced to some wild, nasty sex and I can't turn back now. How can I comfortably introduce these new things into the bedroom? To him? The sex has always been great between us. He has the skills, lenked and girth, but I'm ready to take to take turn damn all was doing good. I sounded great.

I'm ready to turn it up and not you added an extra word in there. Sis love you, ladies, and I'm excited about receiving your feedback. Sincerely, a nasty bit x O x o x O. So I like this question because I feel like when you stop working with a guy for a while, you get other sex partners and they turn your little ass out and then you gotta go back to the vanilla. So what, bitch gonna be honest? I like, so now for a second, and I literally was like, please let Mandy recap. Nope, not

gonna recap it. Hop, Okay, so other sexual partners then you go back. Fuck you. This is gonna be all my advice. Now get your old phone, bitch, because let me start. So I've passed mad question like that, I got this, give it, get you get your own phone. It's in the email. I will not recap because I did a great job that it wasn't even bad like you're reading like where he was super fast and nobody

can know what you're saying. I did a great because I skin reading with my mouth, bitch, I'm reading mothers and jail. Okay, what are we gonna do? Window? Um, So basically for that if you guys had good sex already, this is something that actually just recently happened to me. There was a guy that I was talking Yeah, yeah, it's easy, but you would have known if you listen. But there was a guy that I was talking about eight years ago. This was when I was like nineteen

and twenty. We recently rekindled and we talked about how great our sex was eight years ago, and I let him know, listen, the freak that you remember me for, that's why you back in my phone. I'm a little bit more of a freak now. And kind of I just opened up to him, like, so I've tried new things since we last years ago, and how like, what

has changed with you during this time? Seeing what experiences he's had, telling him the experiences I've had, and then after sharing those things and opening up about our sexual history for the last you know, eight years or two years in your case, then it was just like, would you be open to these things? Are these things that

you would try? So again, it's just a dialogue. It's asking him where his penis has been for the last two years and if he's tried anything different, and you just opening up about yours so ahead now that you skimmed down. I had to do that with scissors actually recently. So we hadn't sucked in maybe five years. And when we had sex, it was amazing, right, and I'm like, holy sh it, like what the funk? Like it was

good when like this. So the next day we're as some juice bar and like we're laughing about it, and like then it comes time to discuss, like, bitch, like that was fucking dope, like what you've been doing really, you know? And then that's when I learned, like she's been coming close to threesomes, but it hasn't happened, and we're being more open about, you know, the sex we've had with other women. I was open about, um, how I feel like a lot of women like penetration and

I can't offer that. I don't know how to do it. I feel like this is too much like spreading the fingers and all that. Like I really don't like fisting and fingering, so that hasn't worked for me. And we're like going back and forth with it, and I treated it like a new girl. Yeah, I think that that's how she should treat this X. You should treat him honestly like a new partner. If you've gone through all of these new freaky experiences over the last two years,

you're not the same person. He may not be unless he was giving that boring dick the whole time. I mean, I don't know. Something is don't grow as fast as maybe women were. I feel like we're more open to trying things, especially when we meet a man who's open to trying things. I even open to trying things more than it is normally. Men are the ones to teach. It seems like during sex, I hear that sound bad. That didn't fund bad. I do like younger guys because

they're open to it. Exploring. Had a Mandy moment. I was in the airport and this te Mandy moment. What then is this? So? What? Out? There was all these like tall as sniggers around like damn, what's going on? Yes? It was Cornell okay, and so none of them going to the league. Wow, they're alive and more white. Actually I believe it. I was looking around and I was like, who, So I'm at the Chick fil A line, I'm at the airport on a layover at Philly and I was

looking at it one of them. I was like, how do you? And he was like how do you? I was like, nick, I asked you first. He's like, I'm gonna be twenty in a month. I was like, oh, I mean you have to skip ahead to that's when you know they're young. They can't just tell you the age. I'm about to be twenty one, I'm about to be like about to be bitch. That was me, I'm about to be five years no. Uh So to shorten it up, yeah, I would definitely treat him as though he's a new partner.

When you have a new partner, how do you talk about sex and things like that if you don't be open to communicating. But make it a whole new thing, like where we left off. Jeeves like it's been months, but I was like, Yo, tell me where you've been. We've been fucking what's it been like? Tell me your new ship. I want to give you'all homework for those of you listening, Um, let's make twenty nineteen the year

of communicating homework one. What's the homework one? You ain't no matter if my homework you said, let's got them cut my homework assignment off. I got a homework and sigmon too. Remember homework assignment. It's on part, it's on brands with yours so specifically obviously more communicate. But if you've been with someone for five years or five weeks, I would ask them a fantasy that they've never told anyone and message it to us, tweeted to us, write

it on an Instagram comment. Let's like share what's the dirty ship that people think about? That's cute because I had a dream about getting pistol on the other night. Oh a lot of did dad. I could share with you my stories. I had a dream about, Oh you want to golden shower? I don't want it, but I wonder why I dreamt it. Maybe something was leaking from your silver. It was in Mexico and I we get out of here. We do want to let y'all know, bitch, we're going on tour. Y'all know we're going on tour.

We want to see all of you guys in person, in human form, come be horns with us. Um we are kicking off d C. We got two shows, y'all, four to six and eight to ten back to back. They sold out. I think for one of the shows we got like maybe less than tendive. You patron, you have access to tickets. But even though other than that, there it's pretty sold out. It's pretty quiet for d C. Y'all,

y'all came out strong. I'm excited to see y'all. Um, we are going to go ahead and be back in motherfucker a t L in um February, So February catch us in a t L. We are possibly changing the Miami dates, guys, so we hope none of y'all a bought tickets or flights yet for Miami on the six were possibly changing that date. Um. We also do have information coming up for a New York show. Fine to lead boom boom bam. We're really sorry. It's just that we we want to do one big show for New York.

So it means finding a large enough that. By the way, if y'all know a place, we don't like standing room. We feel like it really ruins an experience. We wear heels. We want you all to be cute at our standing ruins the experience, it does. Yeah, I just we're trying to find a place as accommodating enough for y'all to where we don't have to do like multiple showtimes to where we sold out fucking in two weeks the last one. So we definitely just wanna get a larger venue. So

we're we are doing New York. Um, we'll see you guys in Chicago. UM, that is March thirty. Guys, there is what maybe twenty tickets left for the second show and that and then that both of those are sold out. Patreon, We Patreon, we did save some four so if you guys want to come to a sold out city and you're not a Patreon yet, if you just go ahead and become a subscriber, we these handling that you guys

will also get v I P seating. UM, we'll save those extra tickets to add that to the v I P count UM, just so that they could sit up close. Because we appreciate you guys. Without you guys, we couldn't be doing this tour. I'm not even gonna hold y'all. The Patreon money that we receive is funding this tour and we appreciate you guys so much. UM. And then l A the l A stop is also coming up also y'all. Motherfucker's in Canada. Toronto. We like a third

slowed out, but it ain't going as fast. So if y'all really wants to come, because bitch'all cancel that home. We got like two weeks to call about that. Dude. I was like, Oh, if Canada don't show the funk up, we're probably not gonna come to Toronto. Come up, y'all gotta hurt you up. It's just not enough. So if um we can go ahead and get Toronto, tell you

right now, we can take that day making New York beach. Um. So March nine, we are in Toronto, were in the sixth Bitch, We're gonna have Drake com Drake Go Come, y'all, bitch, Drake Go Come. Speaking of l A. Mandy, I think said it's gonna be around May, so'll be then. Uh oh February March, I'm gonna be doing the Team podcast. They're really sweet girls. They hit me up. They're gonna have their first live show, um, like an anniversary like

to start their podcast. So if you guys live in New Haven, Connecticut, which I don't know, I've had some nigga that's the only thirty minute drive from the Bronx and alf so I think, oh, I'd be fucking Bridgeport niggas. Huh, what's the one that's like thirty minutes from the Bronx New Haven? Did you all the way down Louis Side? That's probably why take you about forty five minutes draw to my house. So yeah, that makes say, that makes sense. I'm gonna be out there and I think I'm just

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And for you guys who are all caught up with us and maybe want to become more intimate, not not intimate like six but wheezy um post a lot of all her personal feelings and lie um in life. We are considering vlogging more on there. And then there are what episodes of bonus and content and episodes tears that we have for five bucks, you get our bonus content, right, So two episodes a month. Very soon we only need

another seventy people. We're gonna be dropping three episodes a month, so after every episode on a Monday, we're gonna be starting that in February. You will then have a Patreon episode too. Then listen to We've got to be recording seven episodes a month. About to see each other too much? Jesus bucks. All right, we have merch that we sent you after four months. And also I am now doing

live calls with some of you too. Walk me through episodes where we fucked up, where we need improvement, where you want to see us do different things, and pretty much tell me what you want from horrible decisions. And I've made some outlines that I'm going to be reviewing with y'all and y'all tell me if you like them or not. So so look, y'all could be producers at the show. Hope pretty good. But yeah, we want to

thank all of you guys. Were excited to see you guys on tour, and we hope that you guys become patrons and continue supporting horrible decisions for twenty nineteen. As you guys know, this has been yet another episode of horrible decisions by Love for More. I mean we can take it upon ourselves before women to kind of before this, before we finalize this. You coming over. Are you spending the night? Oh? I asked, Actually, kidnapp, I say you're

staying with me, and people don't ask. I mean, do you know That's why a lot of women get upset when they go over to nigga and he'd be like, so, what's you got going on? So what you're doing there? Either way, if a nigga comes over to like, I'm not gonna lie. I don't want to be fucked, and then nigga right after you me you putting your tins back on the head out. No, I always make it very clear because I get up at like six, like gim and oh yeah, I do let to know. You

gotta leave when I leave. I don't mind somebody you're bullshit, I'm not leaving then I'm not really hosting you in my home. But thing now, this is what saying, This is what saved me a lot. Like now, like as I've got noted, like I asked myself outlook and like assess the situation, and I'm like, do I want to

spend time with this girl after I suck her? And that's what makes me say I will fu this girl now if I don't want to spend time when I after I her and I'm not going to have sex with her because the whole process afterwards, I'm not gonna lie. I don't when I come. But but for me, it's like I don't like the feeling, like as soon as I know, I don't like the feeling of being like will I do this or like yeah, That's that's why

I won't even think that good. Even if it's like I've had a really good sex and felt guilty after and been like, oh I am yeah, you never have That's one I feel bad. Like there's niggas that I sucked in. It was great, but then he starts talking and I'm like, damn, nigger, you just like I feel like like you that intellectuality man like niggas like stupid ship. But I've said this on the show. I'm very shallow.

I like good looking niggas, and so unfortunately there are like good looking guys that I've been with and it's just like once they start talking, it's like just don't talk. But that's it could be growing. So for me, that's a conversation. Yeah, the hot guys be dumb as fun. I don't know if you're smart, but them niggas be dumb as fucked tall as fine as just why why are you so fine? I'm not. But I also feel

like I look good. So it's a subjective thing. But you're an actor, this could be an act good point people. I love this. I flip it on them. So like people's jobs, like you know, like politicians, lawyers, whatever, whatever y'all do. Y'all lie to hide the truth. Actors lie to tell the truth. That's cute, whatever that whatever, yeah whatever. Now you're an audition like listening, you know what I'm

talking about? Na, they don't real quick? Uh. George asks if you could create a male clone version of this dumb ask question. I don't even know what would you, George? You dumb? Your clone? How do you envision it going down? My clone? Oh? I like light sea niggas, So my clone will have a big old dick, but a dark dick because most of my light skin niggas got like they did a little darker than their whole body. I like, yeah, that's kind of just the touch. It's just a touch,

like my strap on his dark skin. And I feel like it's okay because that's what happens. M So my clone, my clone is like, my clone will be six ft seven because I feel like that's like a perfect heist, Like you'll look too crazy crazy, but you look tall, like people still be like like the niggas that too tall can't do ship bro in real life, So like I can still some a bitch can still buy me shoes because my shoes might still be in the store. Like when you're too tall, you got a special order ship.

I would have a big dick. I think I would be very like I think I would let my hair grow. I might have dreads. I ain't gonna hold you because I like with here, just make it the same thing that she was over with in Orlando. She wants to create out of herself. That reason, lue check your contract. I went to okay, low key. You know we stayed riding. So why why why do you feel like why do you think people always asking you off y'allun around just because we're sexual I think the same reason I don't.

I disagree. I think it's our attention. I don't know, because you'll be arguing to like some couples, y'all gay as hell, we do it. We argue like I know, you'll suck around, eyes cannot roll good good, halleluj you're

no okay, hold on, all right? Do you guys have has there ever been guys that are like you have had similar taste for where you are both like I'll say, so, I'll sit here and say we've maybe had similar taste, but I will say for both of us, like, first off, and I was much bigger than I am now, so we've never been We've never looked the same. Niggas who would like me would think she was too small, and niggas who would want her would think I was too big.

So we've never even had a clash onto where we felt like guys would both like us were very difference now though here