Ep87: Trans Women, Queerness, and Erections Feat Dustin Ross and Jaemy Paris

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welcome to another episode of Horrible Decisions. This is your girl, Mandy b a k A full corpos ak a man dizzle niz that bitch ak the Booty bandit aka the Booty Warrior. Um. I am here in the flesh with some beautiful motherfucking guests. Um Again. As y'all know, we've had just some conflicting schedules lately, but y'all gonna get this next month to um solo episodes with myself and two solo episodes with Wheezy with some super super super dope guests. I guess we can go ahead and have

our guests introduced themselves today. UM, we'll start ladies first, So let's go ahead and let the listeners know who you are. Well, I'm Jamie Paris. What's that bit? Just and that about sums it up. So there you I don't have the ak okay Jamie or Paris or j J. You know that's it. And she is sitting next to the lovely go ahead? Is Dustin? You know that's really It's not Harris, It just kind of is what it is. You know what I'm saying. I'm so excited to have

both of you as my guest today. That is Dustin from the Friends. Don't fuck you you want to be humbling ship stop that, Um, but I'm excited to have you. Got you on. If you guys were in Atlanta, Anna, you may have met Dustin and I at the Black East Atlanta love Letter promo run at Georgia State University. UM, I'm now with you. UM I wanna again shout out everyone who was there. You met quite a bit of people. Um.

A lot of people love your jokes. While everyone covered their ears when I spoke because I was saying some ship. You know, they wanted too. They probably not looking at as yet. Um. But we had a great conversation about love, sex and relationship alongside Black. If you haven't yet, please pick up his album. It is amazing as well as he is a fucking amazing And so we're gonna go ahead and start off this show. Um. And I like to you know, kind of education, sean kind of open

up conversation. I always like starting the conversation, um. And so the Vanilla Ship for this episode, I wanted to speak on Kaylani, who I love and who just announced her pregnancy and I'm so happy because I absolutely love her music. UM. And what's crazy is it was a normal fucking I'm pregnant picture and it started this whole

last conversation around who the father is. Y'all know she dated with you know, Kyrie Irving, and although I was hoping he was the father because I think he's a beautiful black man, Um, she actually ended up getting pregnant with one of her best friends. This may not seem like she did. She is pregnant. They didn't end up. They actually, you know, so this seems very normal. Y'all are like, so what the fun? She pregnant? Who cares?

It's the best friend is nothing serious. But the conversation surrounding it is that she recently came out as a queer woman, and so they were like, wait, queers can have children, and wait is a queer lesbian? And wait? Then it also came out that her best friend, her partner, her baby daddy um is also queer slash possibly bisexual. So now the converse possibly bisexual alleged. Right, I don't want to, you know, just put a title on him.

But this conversation came about because me and my friends were talking like, wait, so bisexual dudes still have sex with women and still can produce babies. And then you have a woman identifying as queer, and they're like, wait, queers can get pregnant? People just stupid people stupid like you don't stop reproducing because you have sex with the

same Hello, Hello, Hello, which one I don't know? And so I wanted to have this question, this you know, conversation, because I'm not gonna lie I was one of those that I know of the lgbt Q. I know Q is queer, but then it's like, what is queer? Because I thought I was questioning. Really, that's why I until five seconds ago. Really I thought it was like, let's gay. What is the else? Lesbian, leian, gay, bisexual? Trender and

question shinning. Well that's a that's a newer definition. Initially when the queue was added, their did represent queer, and now it is questioning, really, question, so I want to say. She went on to Twitter to respond and said, imagine thinking queer means lesbian and either means unable to have babies. In April, the singer opened up about her sexuality on Twitter.

Because I keep getting asked I'm queer, she began in a series of tweets, not by not straight, I'm attracted to women, men, really attracted to queer men, non binary people, intersects people, trans people, little polypan sexual poppy, Hello, good morning. Does that answer your question? And when I was reading her being queer and seeing all the things she was saying, I do identify as bisexual, but I have questions recently because I know I wouldn't be in a relationship with

a woman. I just be wanting to fun, that's it, And I think they'be no one that's not to me, Like, no, I'm wanted to go to the movies. I wich, I don't want to take you to the movies. I don't want to date you. I just want to funk. And so I've been questioning, am I really? Bo? Jamie is like who are you? But when I read that, I was like, am I queer? Am I to where? Okay? Because I'm now accepting that queer to me made it seem like she accepted her partners also being as openly

fluid as herself. I don't know, do you? How would you guys do the questioning or the queer, Like how do you identify those? Like those people? I not just ask them what they want to be called. I guess it's a title thing. Huh are you asking what does queer means? Yeah? Like I guess everything she said to the sense or where is anything that's not like heterosexual

or sister gender? Right? So it's like it's like that it's it's an overall term and that is what all the way he means just with a C means that you are the gender you are assigned, you identify as the gender you are assigned as birth. So if you are born a woman, you identify as a woman. Oh that's it, that's just the opposite. Talking so much about hetero assistsment on on Twitter, then people are stupid because they are make sense ignorant. Part of y'all don't understand

anything else. Well, I'm not gonna say that. You want to make sure the same thing that you would apply to conversations you would have with your home girls about niggas. That's a lot of the same talk you see about quote unquote hetero assist. Man, you know what I'm saying. Okay, yeah, you breaking it's just like the websters. Yeah. He came over the table ever so gently. Yeah, you know you got you got to get you and your point of you know, goddamn Okay, all right, trying to tell you

we're gonna learn on blood and ass outfits. So I didn't even realize what it was gonna be like on camera, I'm wearing yellow. I don't even know what this means. Waits just look, I just like yellow. I don't I'm just cheese today. So we are going to get now into our kink of the week. This is one where if you've come to our live shows, this is one that was really hard to say. So it's probably I'm not probably saying it right, So just um, but it's

gonemum arnemum, tophilia. You say it because I just want you all to know. I never know how to read um this top word. Please read it for the listeners, please. Okay, so hold on, have hesitation because your motherfucker's ain't gonna get me. So on one second, try it. Guy named a metaphilia. Oh look, not the slamdown of the phone that you can't say to you know, metaphilia. Oh I said it, like aphila. Metaphilia, God damn man, metaphilia. Yeah, you turned into a round. Okay, look it kind of

sounds like gynecologists. There you go to maybe, no, no, it wasn't. So this actually refers to a sexual preference for male assigned people who look like, act like or our women, including cross dressed men and trans women. Don't point at me. Yeah, right. So I wanted to bring this in because it deals with the heterosis attraction to

transgender women. Furthermore, got guyna me metophilia. Okay, So I wanted to bring this up because furthermore into reading it, it says that there are a sis people whose primary sexual attraction is to trans people. I've seen this described as trans oriented or trans attracted, and many such people

self identify as trans admirers. Unfortunately, a great many admirers demonstrate misogyny and trans transmisogyny when these badly behaved admirers actively seek out trans partners and conflict their disrespectful nonsense on us all and then it goes in so they're

called chasers essentially. So I brought this up because, Um, this specific kink is something in which I feel like I'm dealing with, um, certain hetero CIS men who identifies hetero cis in my phone, but have this attraction to trans women and they're not open or even accepting of it. This is a kink. You are normal. Trans people are normal.

So here's where we get into kind of this. I wanted to speak on this because if you guys have not noticed, if you're watching on YouTube, Jamie is beautiful first off, beautiful as fun and she is in a little sweaty. Does anybody have a napp? Bitch? Because you're dressed like you got the rocket walk wrong because it was it was I don't want to. I don't want to have to. The tador touts out, hello, we can. We got a water bottom gets some water for you, and we get some napkins for you because I'm a

little greasy bit. Yes, but our lovely Jamie Paris is a trans woman, a beautiful one who openly identifies. Is this so like um, if you guys listen to the trans man episode, he was not as fully open as to who he was when he first met people. He was very private about this. Love. We had a trans man on the on our show before um, and so

we had that conversation. And I wanted to bring this up again because of the uncomfortablelity that these heterossessment have admitting this and then seeing the excitement when literally I'm open to it, high the excitement of of that. So I wanted to talk to you. I went to Fairy Tales looking for you. Oh my god, really you weren't there. I'm always late, but I took an ex who is one of these guys I'm talking about, just to show him how comfortable I was. And I had been following you,

so I was like asking for Jamie. Then bitch was like, she ain't here yet, so I was like, okay, she's never coming, um, But they said that that's the clients hele in there often. So I wanted to maybe have you speak on your feelings when men open up to you, about this being a key for them and not that they're actually open with themselves, that this is what they like.

Just charge them all like that's it, that's it. I mean, guys usually they kind of just tell you and they I mean, first of all, I work at a club. I hosted a transparting, right, so they don't have to tell me what they're into. I know where you're here, you know what I mean, you're in the library. Are you looking for a movie? So here we are, we're the books. So like, I kind of get it. But a lot of times guys do come in with their girlfriends. Just usually the guy who brings the girl. I brought

him to open him up, So that's that's different. But I feel like whatever, like you know how the homegirl is just talking about Peggy and stuff. It's kind of like that. But you know, we don't have to bring the toy. I'm just I had to buy mine. I had to ask him like, well, is this isn't okay? Well, I guess you can't say is this bigger? Small enough for you? It is what it is, what you're coming with. He got to get outside. Yeah, yeah, that's pick it out.

So that was exciting for me. You know, I didn't just get to But now I feel like my dick big. So when I talk about my dick in my closet, just know it's a big one. It's large. Um, so you meet me now. But speaking of strap on, o't my way here? You know? Who try to cut me off on the highway? Young ma, young man bitch. I just saw her the Halloween party and I told all that she was on the same outfit swea to god she had on the same outfit up and I was like, oh, ship,

I thought she was. And I was nervous because she in a popping studio, y'all. I was. I was nervous, and I'm like, is she gonna pull out the strap? And then I told about which one? You know, so I didn't really know how to feel. But I was just like, oh, this is kind of cool. Like I'm late, but I have a story to tell, you know, And I'll tell you that's awesome. Young and may got a

big strap. I feel that she better. She can dress her ass off, because this is like really seriously, this is like the fourth time that we had a bit stow my little moment, and so that is like just fashion goals and you're so happy, so so happy. Oh so the girlfriends normally approach you. I guess I'll ask this before we get into just even a deeper conversation.

Are you into men and women or men specifically? I'm yeah, I'm more into guys, like I feel like girls and more just like, you know, we could make god for each other up, but I don't want to take it to the movies. No, like you're kind of not you specifically, but like a girl. I guess we call me to because you know whatever, girl. But no, no, no, no, no, already saw An, I'm thank you. Um. But yeah, like, um, I just feel like the girls. I don't know, I

don't know. So you're just watching the girls. So when they're in the club and they're coming to you, it's mostly for the guy though. Yeah, they're usually kind of like, well, my boyfriends into this or whatever, and it's like, well,

all right, like do you want to lap dance? So whatever, Like there's of course girls they're you know, debble and dabble and well area area, so yeah, but they're usually like kind of just I guess the girls are just so interested in it because they're trying to figure out what the guy's position. And it's crazy because then that leads to the conversation, now you know, why are they Yeah, yeah, and it's kind of like I guess because they right,

I don't listen, it's an open look. Dustin was like, y'all not gonna listen, not even I just think it's so dumb, because what the fun never mind, go ahead, like, Okay, people are attracted. There's men that are attracted to trans women. That's just what the funk it is. That's what they're attracted to. You know what I'm saying. There's there's trans women. You just sit here and said that you would you know, you find some women attractive, you know what I'm saying.

It's just what the funk it is. And it's just so frustrating to me that it leads to a bigger conversation because it's bigger, right, a bigger conversation, like what the funk. If the nigga was gay, he would tell you, baby, I want to guy the conversation and not even gay bisexual because he's still sucking you. So there goes the time. It just comes with like the whole being trans and thinking about the genitals, and they're like, well, if this is what they were born with, then it becomes them.

But it's like, well, what do you call somebody that likes hermaphrodite? It's like, is that the same thing? Where we haven't even used on the show, they still say hermaphrodite? Am I going to get s? Yeah? Allegedly? I'm sorry. What is a hermaphrodite when you have a penis and a vagina or something that looks like both at the same time, so like the literal total package. Yeah, you got both so you could have a baby. And no,

that's the thing. A lot of hermaphrodites are sterile because they have both right, so they're like they have the physical deformities, whereas trans people it's our brain, so like intersex or hermaphrodites, they have like maybe an extended clearterists and like external ovaries, but not really like a full form penis. Maybe they still could be penetrated, maybe they can't be penetrated, but it's like it's a physical deformity.

But that for you know, that's easy to understan for people to understand, because it's like you see someone in a wheelchair, you know, the disabled. When you hear the conversation of trans people to what do you mean your brain doesn't match your body? So well, look at this penis and vagina hybrid. It's like that's but in here, you know, And that's just what it that's just what it comes down. So but it's like, what do you why do you? Why do you have to have like

a name for what you like? Like women just straight, if you're like the same sex, you're gay? Why does it have to be all these like extra all these names and identifying chase or ship? That's the ship I'm talking about. And that's why people that's why it's so problematic and something that people decide to be secretive about or you know, be careful with the information because people

respond to it a certain way. Is kind of sucked up of course, you know, you almost vilify a person for having a physical attraction, because that's really what it is. It's a physical attraction, you know what I'm saying, just like you have a physical attraction to anybody, right, So I just it's just frustrating. I think it's frustrating. But even this whole idea, maybe not in public right now. Maybe, I mean thing, somebody just got arrested for jerking off

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get back into this ship. All right. We're going to our whole decision, and the whole decision is going to move further into Miss Jamie Buddy and how you know, I kind of like that you might have to go ahead when you start making money off that. So I wanted to talk to you further on this conversation um of you dating, you being a powerful trans woman, which you may get from society, the backlash. You're very opinionated. You were featured on Viceland. Oh no, you weren't on Viceland.

Well you posted something from Vice. It was your friend shout out up real quick, my friend that I don't know your name. Hold on, that's fine. There you go there, you know Instagram friend, we all got those, we all got those. Well on her page. There was just everything about empowerment of trans women. You speak your piece, I see you in bed. She has very cute bad videos, by the way, talking her ship about y'all niggas acting up because y'all act up with everybody apparently. Okay, I'm

glad we're on the same thing like that. So there we go. Let's bring that. But I want to bring up you dating you being empowering, the stigmas, and I want to go ahead and help our audience know how fucking dope you are. First off, y'all can look at her if you guys are on one of our YouTube viewers. She's fucking beautiful. I want to see here and kind of debug some of the myths, the stereotips, and kind of how you feel about how you're treating in today's

day and age. So I guess let's start that. At what point were you comfortable with being you and expressing you for you? Goddamnit, I was like fourteen seven now, so I was like fourteen and um like from my earliest memory, I knew I was a girl. So there was there was like, oh, I know what my favorite color is? I know, like whatever, I know that I'm a girl. So there was never like a question. It was more so a conflict with like me feeling how I felt, and people telling me, oh no, you you're

supposed to like trucks. You're not supposed to like barbies. Oh no, you can't wear So it was like, but this is what I feel like, you know. So once I was like fourteen, what happened was I used to buy my hormones on the internet and like me, you were still on me. I was born. I had to dialogue hormone but my mother, my mother was not at work, so when I was on the computer, I wasn't worried about how trying to use the phone, so it worked out for me. So everything worked out. And she had

the little sprint silver flip phone. How that ship how we all had to flip So, um, I had like a whole bunch of hormones and she found them. She called my doctor and um, they basically told, like, you know, if she doesn't monitor these things, that could cause cancer or something. So yogur calls cancer. By the way, you'll play yoga her day. It's I'm just gross. It's milk. So like how if you eat it, maybe you got what you deserves. It's like like y yo play Dannon ill.

Even lactate is gross. The lactose doesn't want to it's the milk itself crushed up some almonds at some water called today. So by the time you could start being like mommy, daddy, no, I don't want this during school clothes shopping. I want a dress, my life, my whole life. Um, everybody, you know when you were in you're very feminine. Growing up, people automatically he's going to grow to be gay or whatever. And I never felt like I was gay because I was I'm a woman who likes men. So that was

just like you don't know we're talking about. But you know, once I was fourteen, Um, I discovered the incident. I discovered green Dot prepaid credit cards, and I was able to green yeah, because I was able to just put money on it myself and I didn't have to go to my mom. So whatever. So she found my my statue of hormones, called the doctor. Doctor advised her to get me to endo chronologists. And so she's the one who like forced me to go to doctors to make

sure I was doing it the right way. And she was like every well you want to be a girl out. So we're gonna take all your boy clothes and we're gonna play some of a girl clothes because you're not gonna borrow my stuff. So I was like, okay, she was, so you didn't have the issue of her not I didn't have that, Like I don't have that traditional dad like my family, my friends. I was homeless, like that

was that's not my story. I feel bad if that happens, but I was fortunate enough that that didn't happen to me. Um and I I think it's because I had a gay uncle, UM growing up, and he passed away when I was in fourth grade. Um, and everybody loved him. So I guess they didn't want to be like hypocrites and we're like not accepting of me when they were accepting of him. So I feel like that's kind of

where it came from. And it's like a lot of lesbians and my family, like both my cousins a game actually like your family very open your ethnicity, Okay, okay, but I'm racially ambiguous. There was I could play again. I could be black. You give me the right wig and the lighting. Maybe I could be white. I don't know. I don't know. No, bro, I'm not I'm not doing it. I am not at the age. So you're now wearing women's clothes. Well done, Well fourteen, Well we're not going

We're going back to fourteen. Now you're getting into now what high school? At this point, they're probably the most high schoolers are the most not like we just really think we know everything and don't know ship. So what was high school? High school for you? First of all, everybody loves me because I'm an amazing person. I can already say like everybody ever yea, everybody gets that I'm already sweat and because what um, so, everybody like gravitates

towards me. I'm funny, I'm obnoxious, and you know, I make you want to be my friend. So I never had any bad experiences in school because, like people would make fun of me, I would make them laugh. So, like humor was always my defense mechanism, so I never had to deal with problems. Um. In high school, I was actually in a new school, so it was just freshman. There was like a hundred students in the whole I went to Evans High School in Orlando, and there was

a ninth grade center, so they separated ninth grades. They separated ninth graders from the tenth, eleventh, and twelfth graders. That was a whole another campus. Florida, we have land. I know you may not experience that in New York City. Maybe I grew up in Michigan, Okay, because like Green Green Pass. Yeah, but we pull the ninth graders right. But it wasn't an entire building. It was a New Yorkers. This is New York so a lot of times we

share buildings in schools. Didn't write school. They all just freshman freshman year. Ninth grade on my my school, we were held at the pl on Webster that's in the Bronx, which the police whatever there you go there, you know, exact shot a movie at the Webster Presents. They threw a toaster out the window, as I said, And from that day on, the police was like there every day. But I wasn't scared and ship. It was just like what y'all doing? You know? It was like funny but yeah,

projects and New York connections. Here here we go. We was in Webster, So our ninth grade, we was just all at the pl Um. Then when we I guess when my grade was moving to the tenth grade. That's when now we had tenth graders, so there was no other grade. It was just freshman. So now when we were sophomore and now we allowed freshman to come in, so it was just you know whatever. Anyway, I was cool with everybody. Everybody fun with me, so I thought, okay,

well I'm a transition. I remember telling um. The first person I told my sister Evie, well, my sister from another misstaf okay. At school, we were sitting on the swings and I was like, oh, I'm gonna transition whatever whatever. She just looks and she was You're not gonna kill me, are you. I'm like no, I just I'm gonna kill

my my old self. And then um, I told like my friends in high school, I was like, I think I'm gonna just drop out because I really don't feel like dealing with people like picking on me and talking ship because at that age I used to like to fight because I was a very angry individual. So I was like, I don't want to deal with that. So all my friends, the girls and the guys, because I was done with the popular kids. There was like listen,

ivery anybody works at you they getting sucked up. So I was like, okay, So I just transition and I came to school and everything was good, like that's the only issue that I had was the bathroom situation, Like that's relatively in the media. Yeah, I'm in high school. So when we moved to UM, I think we moved to some of public schools like elementary, middle school and

then us. Yeah, so there was a bathroom by the gym that we actually had to share, and U I would go to the girls bathroom because it was like, well, that's why if I go to the boys bathroom there, like Jamie, what are you doing in here? So it was like okay, whatever, So I would just go to the girls bathroom UM. And their their reasoning was, oh, you know, if a little girl walks in there, she could say you try to touch her or they would know I was That was what they were concerned about. Bill.

That's so as because because people are men are apparently just like dec insatiable, like sexual animals, that we will turn into women to rape your children because we're we're just we need it. So it's like that's that's that's it. That's why I'm here today. I'm So that's that's my pert never the kids of SpongeBob and I'm like, hey, who lives in the fine Sea? You know, that's that's where it is. That's what it is. It's like, I'm just here for your children, Like, fuck my identity, I

want the kids. I'm willing to do this. That's it. I'm cutting up my body, I'm getting surgery. I'm out here dipping and doing it for your babies in the makeup chair, like your babies, let's start that. I'm spending all this money on the Lacey unit for your baby.

That's the fact that that literally is the mentality. That's why they have an issue with which but you know what, you know what kills me and the media they always want to depict it as a man dressing up as a woman to go into women's bathroom, and why they never say women dressing up like in the rape of husbands. I guess that's not a problem, you know what I mean when most of like the big wigs are men. So it's like, oh, yeah, it's stupid, that's what it is.

It's like that that literally is the conversation. Then this was coming from no, this was coming from my gym teacher. She was the only real person who had an issue with that. She's the one who brought it to the principle. Yes, my teacher, My gym teacher looked just like Richard Simmons, but she was a woman, and everybody thought she was a lesbian. And it's like you got a lot of nerve homegirls to be upon out me. I do want to ask you, other people in the LGBTQ community, do

you sense that divide in that absolutely? Because I mean the way a lot of people see it as like once gays got the right to marry over, it's like, oh, that's it the battle though, and it's not. You know, We've always been a very kind of like small subculture within the LGBT community, like people like um Marcy Bowers. I mean, I'm sorry, not Marcia uh, Marsha, UM's Johnson her and Sylvia Rivera like these are these are the people who were involved in like that. Go ahead, let's

let's get it. Marsha, I know it's Marsha p Okay Rivera with the Stonewall riots and all that. Okay, So it's always been trans women of color who kind of like are like the the voices of the community, and we kind of like fight for the community, but the community doesn't really fight for us. Like even like back when they had gate clubs and stuff like that, like

they would still kick women out trans women. You know, if you ever saw the show Posed, they actually covered that where they showed trans women going into a gay bar and the gay guys was like, oh, well, yeah, you can't be here because you're justsed as women. And actually I think in the seventies or something, there was a law like if you were dressed like a woman and you didn't have like at least three articles of mail clothing on, it was again they would arrest you,

like it was against the law in New York. You know. So it's like so we we we are still kind of getting our rights, Like right now, they don't even want us to have whatever says on our I D you know, they wanted to be like, oh, no, you're a born a man, you're a man to be with a pussy, like that's what you are now regards that's

what they want to do. So let me ask you this, because you identify as a trans woman, what differentiates between a trans woman, a dry queen, and a cross dress A cross dresser is somebody who a lot of times does it for sexual kinks. Um. Uh, we've had a cross dresser on. It could be any it could be a male or female. They just like wearing the clothes. Like I guess young and may could be a cross

dresser maybe whereas men's clothes. I don't know, maybe, but you know, like that's that's kind I've always kind of seen. Know I'm saying, I'm really because a lot of times young cross dress he could be That's what could be a cross dresser too, because if you're wearing clothes that are assigned to the opposite gender, you are cross dressing. So when you are a woman who's like butch or whatever the correct term is, and you want to wear

men's clothing, you are cross dressing. So you may not be you may not call yourself across dressing, but you are in fact cross cross dressing. Um. And then a drag drag queen is somebody who does it for entertainment purposes, So they get dressed up, they perform their lip sync a song if they know the words, and then right water think for you, this isn't you putting on an Actors no, no, no, no, no no. This is just like you know, you look in the mirror, you know

you Puerto Rican, you know you got black here. You know you're a woman. Like that's it. So I just one of those things that you just know about yourself. It's not like I'm going to become a woman to take your kids and your husband like I just both and I just want to I just want to get them nice little deals from Fashion Nova. I feel nice, Like that's all I want to put the check. We're waiting use my coaching paris a person off. You're welcome.

So you brought up which I actually liked, and I didn't even and you know how I was going to segue into this, but you brought up butch and didn't know if that was the right terminology when it comes to transgender man or woman? What is okay to ask you, like, as far as your identity the words? Because I went to fairy Tales and the night was called trainy Thursdays. But some people have a pen that word. The word

is on a flyer. There's beautiful trans women coming. Clearly this is okay in the community, Like, what is the goddamn word? So where I don't. I didn't even transperson trans what the fund? Can I say? You can't just call me by my name like that? Like I can't. I can't speak for everybody. I feel like it's not what they call you, it's what you respond to. And if somebody asks if you're a training and you say yes,

then you're a trainy. If somebody says, hey, are you a trainee, say no, I'm a trans woman, you correct them, then that's it. You know. The word training is kind of like trainy thursdays like fag of Fridays. It's like, you know what I mean, It's like a word like maybe it's not like politically correct, but it doesn't offend everybody. I guess it depends on the term. Like when I was of fourteen fifteen, hanging on the village, that was just a word like oh, yeah, I'm a training like

people will call themselves that, you know. So I didn't grow up with it thinking, oh, that's like a disrespectful word, like I know, fagg it was a bad word, but I never thought training was a bad word. And then like I'm like twenty two, twenty three and hearing people say, oh, well, we shouldn't say tranny because it's derogatory, and it's like, well,

what do you want me to call you? Like, I'm sorry, you know, like me, I'm just I like the umbrella term trans, so I here transgender, transsexual, general, not conforming. Let's just you're just trans. And I think that makes it easier for people's trans because it's like all these names for what. I like to hear that from you, because I feel like it's the straight people that's that's There's gonna be some advocate out there that's gonna see

this aga. But like Jamie Partrish, it's problematic to the trans commar all the and it's gonna be like I'm sorry, like not the boy hello, she she already knows what type of person. I don't. Yeah, but loud and wrong. I love other girls and other girls are cond for the record, I love other girls and other girls are can. But you just go by what you want to be

called by me. I like, I don't get like unless you call me a he or a he she or something stupid like that he she is that you get punched in a throat because I'm only five four so I may not reach your face. But it's gonna connect. It's going to be a connect form. Okay, Okay, I've never we've never even mentioned he she I didn't even think that's like, that's like Noah's Yeah, I don't believe

you say to insult the trans woman trans man. That's where you go with those kind of statements, because it's kind of like I'm playing like you don't know what you are. It's like I nobody or it's also highlighting the fact that obviously this was something that was monumentally your life, your transition, and so reminding you of something that are using something that was so heavy in your life. They're using it against you, like they know obviously like

you're a trans woman. So if I insult you and call you a man, you know what I mean, it's just a direct insult for sure. That's what you're talking about. That okay, all right, So I wanted to gear this conversation to kind of our male listeners for advice. So, um, I'm done. I was going to try to hit on you, but you don't take me to the movies, so we're gonna turn this off. You said that first I used

it against you. You see what happened? You did con you can't take it what you want to go to corn No, But I wanted to get into the conversation of you said you only date men when you finally are whether it's in a relationship, whether you're dating someone you know that they're interested in you, but now maybe you get to where you're realizing they're keeping it a secret. Maybe they're experience, you know, experimenting. When I was a bigger girl, I felt fetish sized because of my size.

I just had an episode on Patreon check it out if you haven't yet, but I talked about how I felt fetish sized because of my weight. Um, and I know that trends. Women are often fetish fetish size and this is something that it's kept private from their families, their friends, and sometimes they're coping with it and don't know how to respond. What are that sucks to be them?

I've never dealt with that, and I love that. What are the conversations that you have, Like when a man says they're not comfortable but they really like you, that is the last conversation. One thing I will say for me, I did not go through arguing which bathroom to use, saving up money to get my tips done, and whatever else that got done, dealing with the arguments for my family having to correct my grandmother every fucking Thanksgiving, Like I'm not going through all of that so that you

could go home and be like that's not happening. I'm sorry, that don't work for me, So like this are these are conversations that like I don't know this before we get serious, like I'm not like no, and you keep like maybe like you eat your bookers, you could keep that a secret, Like I'm not a fucking secret. And if that's how you feel, then we're here from tens

to four. You can come get a lap dance with one of the Levely girls, like that's it, Like I'm not gonna date you, Like yeah, I'm gonna be a have you felt fetish sized where they've come to you not not to even be with you, but just to have sex with you? Um, yes? And what I do is I make it lucrative for me because it's like, hey, you just want one thing. I just want one thing, so and it's not true, So you know, Okay, that's it.

That's why I work at a bar where we could give lap dances and stuff like that, so that men who do have these like I want to just experience kind of It's like, okay, well we could get a lap dance and see the girls dancing on the bar or whatever. You be uncomfortable because I'm not gonna do Like a lot of times guys were like, hey, you want to cover and smoke, Like I'm not going to your house. First of all, let me just put this out there, not this conversation. Not no, no, no no,

that's the biggest thing. Like listen, when I smoke a blunt, I don't get horny and want to fuck. I want to smoke another blond and maybe another blond and then maybe I'm gonna take a nap after that. E Like you ever try sucking dick with a dry mouth. Don't work? So why are you trying to get me hot? And I'm gonna come and gotta it's been out because they

do it. Yeah, because well you guess what wrong, bit wrong bish, I'll smoke that whole ef and be gone, be gone, like starting my lifts outside one, I all down and ship no talk. I know that's right. That's how I am. I smoking and then to be eleven o'clock, twelve o'clock I just want to smoke. No, I'm good, I'm gonna go to sleep, or I have let someone come over. And because he knew he wasn't getting no pussy. But let me tell you how the trick real quick,

real quick. Because this nigga thought he was real slick. I told him, I don't really want to suck you, but you can come over. We can be friends. Like, if I'm in the mood to funk, I'll fun, but you can't just be calling my phone when you won't pussy and think I'm gonnaive you pussy. That's pretty much how I did it. So he was like, cool, I'll come over. We don't have to funk, but I'll come over. We could just smoke it out and we could chill.

This nigga came over literally for seventeen minutes, smoked the blunt. It was like, cool, all right, hit you up tomorrow. It made it seem like because he finally came over and we didn't funk in the seventeen minutes he was at my house. That then tomorrow we could go back to the regularly stantial because tomorrow it's another day. He was gonna be like, okay, this which want me to just come over and hang out, all right, let me show her not the thing too, Like, Yo, my thing

is this. I could smoke blunts, I could smoke. Oh, I could drink and smoke and watching effects in my own house. So now you want me to go to your house and rich you over to mine. So now I'm doing the same things I could have been doing by myself. And I gotta have a nigger in my face trying to suck me. Right, No, we can face time and then when the blood is done. So it's this conversation and that's it, snapchat me whatever. Right, But I'm not gonna have to get dressed and I'll hang

out with some of that. I don't really want to have sex left, even don't want to have sex with If that's how you're throwing it at me, I don't want it, right. I was about to say, it's more of the art of the deal. I'm saying, like any nigga that's hitting you up, like, oh, you just want to come smoke like that's like it's not like, hey, you want to pay Nintendo. I was like, funk, yeah, I want to play Nintendo. And then maybe my pants is off because that's it. That's it. But now for

something smoking no good for you? Feel stupid? Are you naked? Oh great? You know what I mean? Maybe his dick isn't as nice as you thought it was gonna look a lot? Did you? Did you photoshop those pictures? It seems like you want to be for that part of the experience. What you mean if you look down there and seeing something that you wouldn't expect him, you know what I mean? You want to be high? That might be a good kind adore the shot because I laugh,

giddy and laughing weird naked? Of course I'm gonna laugh. The first time you have sex is awkward anyway, So it's like, now you have a weird little dick, like, oh god, why am I here? Mom? Sex to your friend like, oh my god, my dog died? Im no no no. So moving into your adulthood, now, what has been something that has fully affected you negatively and that you are pushing with your loud voice because I'm not gonna lie. I love your videos. I love what you're saying.

What is the change that you would like to see in the people you're dating and how families respond to trans women and the process. What are the things that you genuinely want to change and don't understand why it's happening, how it's happened. I wish people would just stop trying to put people in boxes and trying to figure out what does this make you? What does this mean? You know, like, I don't mind if people ask me questions, because you

can't learn if you don't ask questions. So I'm never offended when people say if I say I'm trans, and they're like, well, what does that mean? That means he was born a man? It's like, now, I was I was born a baby, but um, I was born with a penis, which I guess makes me a male at birth. But this is what identify as and blah blah blah. But some people get so offended that they don't want

to have that conversation. And I feel like, as as trans people, anybody in the LGBT community, I feel like, don't be afraid to answer the same questions a thousand times, you know why, because it's annoying. But if you don't correct them, how they're going to know how to come at you. And a lot of times with all of this, if you like transforming as a man, it means you're gay.

And I feel like the reason and a lot of guys keep it a secret is because a lot of cister gender women put that on though, like, oh that's what you like, that's a man, you're a fagged let it out, but don't have a problem pegging their boyfriend or something. And it's like what you do and it's like and it's like, and that's another thing. A lot of times for some reason, men you can only be gay or straight, like women are like, oh my god,

I got drunk last night. I mean I we're a bad guy, and like it was great not let a guy be like yo me and Brandon. If you're like gay, you know, it's like a whole another thing. And it's like why can't men want to be like why you can't want to dip in and do it? My only women? Because it's it's we live in a male dominant society. What do men think it's sexy to women? Fucking if it was run by women, maybe they'll be gay porn

more popular than lesbian point. I don't know, because it does. Yeah, man, I can speak for that ship mostly the Hey coach. For straight women, they feel like if you like a trans woman you're getting because they take it as a personal like insult or or yeah, like an assault on their femininity. I guess you know what I'm saying, or they look at them is not being enough. So like that's where that ship comes from. And yeah, I do

want to speak on that specifically. I've gone on to other podcasts and said that, Um, a lot of the issue that we have is with us, even black women, specifically to the black community and the black man. That's all I can speak for. That's all I've ever had inside of me. Um. And UM. I mean there's been there's been mixed breeds in there, but all black, um. Nonetheless.

And so I will say that having these men put so much trust in me to open up the fear that so many of them have and sharing this with their wives, with their girlfriends, with the people they're dating with, the people they're having casual sex with, with their mothers, their sisters. They fear telling a woman this, and so a lot of people are confiding in me because I do come on this platform and I'm open with whoever the fun come my way. I'm trying to get to

behold my god damn self. Um. And I got I bought it. It's in the closet. I don't come equipped but hello. But I say to our to our lady listeners, to our women who are dating heterosis men, bisexual men, um, fuck the labels. We as women need to start being more accepting of men with their kinks, because I think that's where we get into where now we have this hate against sex workers because my man is coming to you. We're not being accepting of what these men like. So

now we have a whole d L community. We have that term because don't feel like the same way us women don't want to communicate our freaky kinks because now we're gonna be looked at as a whole or less than. We can't sit here and do the same thing to our men to where they feel like they can't open up to us because now we're judging them. Now we're going to the word exposed. That's what the fun they all say. Now we're in the fucking snap grab era and pictures and I get whole as videos what them

bent over with their fingers and their booties. So the amount of trust that they have with me, Oh, it's so safe. Aska saday ask A side. Um, I sent them all over to him. Let me stop, but Maddy f smell like Booty realized stop. But I want to. I just wanted to bring kind of this ps A to our women listeners that while we're sitting here trying to take this fight for women to move forward in our whole ways, our whole phase and everything the fun in between, we need to allow these men to do

the same. Yeah, they'd be sucking everything, that's the whole phase. But in terms of their kinks and what they like in bed specifically, are black men be a little bit more open to allow them to express that to you? Otherwise we ain't gonna go nowhere and we're gonna just have a whole deal community. Everything is just gonna keep being in the closet. We already have a whole deal community. It's our hair, It's already there. It's gonna keep growing.

And the thing is, it's like you can't keep trying to make somebody want to keep something a secret. Like it's like, just be honest with me, Just be honest with me. If you tell me just and then I'm honest with you, and you're like, wow, out of my house? What is that? But for right, right, right, you know, not with this is my sorry for two thousand four and I'm just trying to figure out what did I do wrong? No, you're right, You're right. That's fucked up,

you know, And it happens. It happens a lot. And it's like, if you want me like to accept you for your bullshit, accept me for my bulls. If you could tell me that she may not have one of your girlfriends in college, why is it bad that one of my homeboys like my dick. It's the same thing where were not, literally because kissing a second dick is very different, similar process. But I digress to I'm not gonna lie. I say it all the all the time

I taught the guys. Maybe the dicks wasn't as big as I liked, but that honesty is another type of turn on. So when you finally get that truck, what I mean, I mean the dick was it wasn't a person. You just open the discussion with may but if you want to come inside. But he was nice in the motherfucker I did. I was a little mad, but okay, he was a little mad. He aroused me. He aroused me in other ways because honestly, shut the funk up. Was it his oral scales? There were other things that, yeah,

but he opened those kinks to me. So yes, we were able to do other ship. Okay, So it wasn't all about me being aroused with penetration, even though I like big dicks. I was being aroused and a lot. I'm a size queen like that. I'm such a size queen. Before we get out, we're gonna go ahead and read one wholemail. This is we're gonna get off this conversation. We're gonna delve into kind of titles and another sense relationship titles. Um. And so that's the question that we

have today. Hey guys, I would oh wait, no, let's not do this. This is one sex with new people. We're not gonna do that one because I want to do the relationship with y'all one moment if I can motherfucking find it. No, I can't find it. Wait, we we just talked about size queens. We're gonna go into sized queens conversation because now I can't find it, and

I thought I saved it. So it says. So I began to work my way backwards from episode eighty one and now I'm at episode nine and felt compelled to chime on Mandy's comment about a waste of a good dick. This past summer, I finally decided to explore the wheezy white options and met a Jewish white guy. He was nerdy, red haired, and scrawny and reminded me of Mark Goldman from Family Guy. Oh what the fuck? Um? Although he was the absolute opposite of the type of men I'm

used to, which are black and Caribbean. I decided to try this guy out because he was weak and easy to dominate him and to buy me everything, but also had a monster cock. Yes, Mandy, I know, cock ill, but that's precisely what it was. It had to be at least ten inches with amazing thickness. Anger So girl, I was excited, especially since everywhere we went he was eager to show me how rock hard it would get

and how much he wanted me so now. So now he finally gets to have me, and it's half hard and he has two double handed to put it inside him. Really pissed, I didn't come, but I don't tell him that or show him my disappointment because I'm assuming it's nerves and was willing to have him try again. The second time and third time thereafter he would try again and nothing but his half heard dissatisfying mess of a

monster cock of shit. On this third and last time, it got to the point I couldn't take it anymore and burst into tears and finally told him he couldn't he could just go home. Why are you crying over the dick? Literally literally crying? Why don't you want to? He couldn't explain it, so I instantly felt it was me and my self esteem went to help. We're simply friends now and don't exchange it anything but text, but can't help but feel like it was all due to

his lack of attraction towards me. What do I do with this feeling? Don't cry? Love back to black? Um. I wanted to bring this up because when I write people, I did want to talk about this quickly because it actually fits something close to my friend right now. Listen, right, that's my friend right now. Is she's having casual sex, but she too is having an issue with a guys staying hard, getting hard um or coming too fast um. And these are all issues that know, they're all different.

That's why I say casual pay masters. Depends they're pay masters this car. This could go either way because if they're nothing too fast, she might you know, have that right, but if they're not even able to get there, then she might have Well that's what I'm saying. So there's these are three multiple like different problems that we as women sometimes attached to ourselves in sex when there could

be other issues involved. So for the for the guys that she was dealing with that couldn't stay hard in a condom, they were also married. So those guys I like to get them theF of the doubt. You just like raw pussy. So there's that issue. But then there's also the issue of a rectile dysfunction. There's the issue of the maybe he's a bottom. Well there you go to maybe he's not into that, or to me, I go back into the mental state that a lot of us don't look at darn sex. There's arousal levels. Maybe

he's so nervous he can't get hard. Maybe he's so drunk he can't get up. Maybe he went into the bathroom and you didn't know this, and he sniffed a line and that ship is just a gummy bear. Maybe he's still high, you know. Maybe so she had a hole in her sick. It might even be want to nobody laying up in the vile no dirty yet first

of all, don't wear white sox period. It might have been that maybe her baby Tonio wouldn't parlay started the way and maybe he just is like, you know what, you couldn't even make the effort to you know what. You know what, that's true because I had lads of the other day and I've been looking at this one patch of head that's grown back right, and I'm like, maybe a guy will not like this right. So it could be little things like things like this, but you know,

I don't look at it now. But I wanted to bring that up because so many of us we put the pressure on women to please these men. So as women to sit there, like she said, she burst into tears. First off, that's funny as fu um. It is sad. But to have the mentality that he's not getting hard because I'm not doing something. Sis. Listen, I've dealt with a similar situation with two different guys, and I'm gonna break it down to you, really down. And this is

my personal experience. So if I didn't cry, just for the record. Um. So there was this one guy. Um, none of the guys that I date I have anything in common really like some assure, some at tall whatever. Um. So there was this one guy that I was dating and I had a question for a long time. He was all fine, nice body. So the first time we had sex, it was great. It was you know, it was a Valentine's Day treat for him. Um, so yeah, it was. Yeah, it was great. You know, it didn't

last as long as I expect. It wasn't as long as I expect that. It was just a short story all around. But um, you know, we did have We did have sex. But he was good with his tongue, so I was like, oh, this is made for it. So it made up for so the four play was amazing, right, the dick was good, stood hard the first time whatever. Then like the second and third time we had sex, I felt like it wasn't as hard or it wouldn't stay hard, and I'm like is it me? Is it

the patch? Like is it me? And then I'm like, okay, well it can't be me because he keeps caught like I don't. I didn't hit him up because I I didn't really have fun that much, but you know, to keep my numbers down, I said, all right, you know, welcome back to the palace. Um. So the second and third time it didn't it wasn't as as hard, it didn't stay hard whatever. So I thought it was me And it's not me. It's it's obviously him. Um So I just did you talk to him about it? No?

I just stopped having sex with him because I'm like, I don't have time. I mean, we are still friends. Hey, baby, if you're watching this, we're still friends. But he just he's just not for me. But also I've heard maybe he's maybe what we did sexually it's not what he likes. Maybe maybe he's versatile, Maybe he likes somebody who's more assertive. Maybe, um, I don't know. I don't know, but um, I just was like, it can't be me, because if it was, if it was me that wasn't turning you on, you

wouldn't be calling me. You know, you're still calling it like and it's not like to this day. This was like four years ago. Still you know what I mean. And it's like, okay, well, it can't be me. Obviously he dick works, but maybe maybe he's just doing drugs and something right now. Whatever. Then the other nigga that I started with, he is like everything that I could ever have dreamt of, you know, one of those six for three. Why do I like you? Pete Davidson kind

of like what's wrong with you? But I love you? Kind of a thing like you look stupid, but I want you inside of me. You know? So whatever? Boy? Nonetheless, aren't they all allegedly? Um so, we we was dipping and doing it. But his thing was he would never come right, and it was like we would, but my thing was still like after like an hour or two hours, I'm like, all right, I gotta go. I'm off this like the caucus. So he like we would just be fucking.

But the thing is he was a heavy drinker. So he was like drinking and drinking and smoking mad cigarettes and he just wouldn't come. Then one day I sucked his dick and it was over like two seconds. But guess what, he wasn't drunk. It was the morning after we spent the night, woke up, you know, just yes, it was like okay, I got a fat Yes. I was like at first, I thought, oh it might be maybe maybe I'm a lucy goose and I don't even realize it, you know, But I was like, you talk

to me, guys. I could grip a pen right now, not a fucking pen in it right now. So with that being said, I want to bring right now we call that ship. About fifty two seconds late. You said a pen. You say, if you could grip a pen, you know thing? Can you hear me now? That a pen? Hello? Pen? Because if you can't grip, if you could grip a pen, you could grip anything. I mean, Jesus, he does your dick have to be? You know? But no, I'm just walking around. I wanted to bring this up because Dustin

got a dick. So we're gonna talk about your dick a little bit. If you don't mind. You thought you was gonna get out of here, escape free. No, now we're about to talk about Dustin's dick, y'all For all of you who really came for Dustin's dick. Hey, we're at the part of the show for Instagram page Dustin's Justin's. Yeah, we're gonna get one. We're gonna start one, damn. But I wanted to talk to you, um and talk about look and about the different ways that your feelings, your moods,

your state of mind, all of those things. Yes, yeah, so, um, I don't know. I think I only have sex when I'm in a when I'm horny and in a sexy mood. So for me, I don't have I've never been like about the funk, and my dick didn't get hard. If I was about the funk, I was excited to have sex. I think a lot of that. Some of that plays into it when people just put themselves in situations un necessarily sometimes to be so excited at the prospect that you know what I'm saying, you say yes to everything,

but maybe you shouldn't. Sorry to be tired, ship, Sorry to you know, not tonight the motherfucker. You know what I'm saying. Sorry you have tomorrow type ship, you know, But sometimes sex wakes you up when you're tired, you know what I'm saying. So if you are tired, sometimes it's good to have sex. I think everybody knows their body and their agency, so you know, you know, when you know, all systems are gone, and that's the thing, like people know their bodies, but you have to realize

they might not know it under certain drugs. They may not know it under certain alcoholic beverages. Do that stuff before you fuck, yeah, because you're drunk. You're so excited, but it's too excited, right, and then it affects other parts of the body. And the same for women. If maybe you know you're super horny, but maybe you realize you're not getting as wet as you thought you would be. I know I've judged myself like, oh, I almost really not not like this nigga, because my pussy wasn't as wet.

And we had a conversation where sometimes depending on your cycle, your pussy might not get as wet, depending on your stress levels, your hormones. Like you know, I really would sometimes think if my pussy didn't get wet, maybe I really didn't like you like that. And so I want the women who think that with dicks, not Justin's dick, but the dicks that you're taking, whether in your mouth, your ass, all three holes. You know, ears matter, No, no one's sucking ears. You think that's a king, You

think dicks are fair. Not you earlier said here, I ain't even gonna go up to that, but you know, no, you missed so an upcoming guys. We justoke. She was saying a lot. You're right, you're right. I'm gonna say you're right. I don't like when I'm kissing a guy and they licked my ear. I'm not feel like that. It's so gross to me. You don't like it. That's the thing. Anything you do with your mouth, Like when you're kissing somebody, you shouldn't have a lot of spit. No,

that's nasty. But like licking ears that turns people along might be okay, I give you sucking dick. It should be sloppy down us to do with. Yeah, yeah, but like if you kiss them, like, I don't like people kiss somebody because I feel like you put when you put your tongue about and you hear that weird, Like it's like, oh god, what is that? I don't like? Am I gonna get an ear infection? I don't. I don't like it. I don't like it. That's not sexy

to me. And but I'm also a stupid a little bit because I'm never like, you know, I don't like it. I'm kind of just like whar And I'm just like, when did I get to this point in my life? And we well, we talked about that a lot to a communication. Since if you're nigga, like getting in your ear and you don't like this, you tell him like, I don't like that ship on behalf of the Nigger Council, on behalf of the Nigger Brethren. I'm speaking for us all.

Tell us if you don't like that ship that same just how vocal you are just now, Jamie Parris, you know what I'm saying, speak on it, like, speak up, said niggas ain't playing itself, you know what I'm saying. And because sex is supposed to be enjoyable for everybody involved. So if you don't like something, speak up. I don't like being bit. Don't be bribing my nipples and and sh like get the going. I don't like that. That hurts, you know what I'm saying. Don't do that ship Somebody

trying to slap me at one time? You call a little bit. But I don't like to guess. I don't like speaking. You don't like speaking? You know, I only like it when I asked for it, Like yeah, that's the only when I like it. When I just out of nowhere, then it's like, wait, I don't think I've really like, why just just slap me? So? And now we're fighting right right, the fucking fighting, a all of it in between. Well, I hope that you guys took

so much from this episode. I don't listen because it was a mouthful goddamn but I love so now you're going back to the bigger pause. Oh wait, you know what I was just thinking to hold on. Maybe his dick was so big it couldn't get fully hard. Na said he had been sporting it, showing her like when it was super hardy. I think it was. I'm wrong with her. I'm just gonna say it probably was. I could say when think now we ended with after it was her because I like guys bite their nails. That

turns me off. So maybe the way she was sucking his dick, he didn't enjoy it, and he didn't vocalize it. We're going to get down to that, Like it's not make it seem like you just heard. Maybe he wasn't communicative and what wasn't turning him on? She had a big old As Family re union t shirt. What did she have on with the white sop with the whole y'all really don't like shirt. Ship. If it's a cute T shirt, it got to be acute. Fact that it's a big T shirt don't make you sexy. Yeah, I

think it has. He even a guy's T shirt like your man T shirt, he might think it's sexy. But for him to just come home and it's like, oh who shirts that I just want to just be sitting around, like why are you wearing your grandmother's walk this shirt?

Like that's not sex. It's all faded and ship. So when they say you got your T shirt the panties on, he wanted to be his Shores T shirt and your panties that you pick the T shirt that he left on the floor where he took it off to that still kind of smelled like that little Jean Paul Goltier, that little Arrows so that you know Paco roband stiffs like lingering on it or if if you really got money, bond number nige, you know, like aba, That's what I'm

saying because Arrows is always on sale. But that is a good choice. That is a good choice, and sometimes you get the box that that comes of the free water ladies. You free game, right, free game, You're welcome talk to me nice. That's why we started charging ship. This needs to be charged. You good bit, I'm gonna need you come back. I'm a frugal bitch. Well, before we go ahead and sign out again, I appreciate both the offer coming on having this conversation. Hope you guys

enjoyed this episode. Where can our listeners find the two of you? We're gonna start once again, ladies. First, well, you could find me on Instagram and Snapchat. Is Jamie Paris spell j A E M y Paris p A r s. If you don't know how that swell Paris sucks to be you, um, and that is the same thing on my Snapchat, So like share, kind of follow, and if you guys are in New York City, you're feel free to hit me up or the Black Sicken couple, the Swinger couple that we had on They're the ones

who told me about fairy tales. I'm so excited to be in a city like New York City where this is an option. Um, you may need to research. If you're in smaller cities or smaller towns, this may not be you know, available for you. But in New York City, they're a place called fairy Tales, look it up. I'm not gonna give you all the address because follow me on finow me on Instagram, and y'all know where all the transgender parties are. Where we've got some hot chicks

and a lot of them got dicks. Oh so you're welcome, yes, absolutely? And where can they find you? My beautiful, lovely Dustin. Um so, now all my social media is look at Dustin. You know where the funk I'd be here at dust Look at Dustin, look at dust It started because that was my Instagram. I felt like, that's my name, Dustin. You look at pictures of me on there, So it made sense. Yeah, started. Not only that, do you have

any more tour dates coming up? Where? Ye? So I will be in Orlando November seventeen, seven, dog right here getting the check brain. I will be in November. I can say it though. So November seventeen you can catch me on tour with McDonald's at the Florida Blue Classic. I think is it Florida Blue Class? That Classic Fami versus. Yeah, you're going out there for the clay. You're gonna be it's so ratcheous. Oh my Alabama. This was meant to be because McDonald's red and yellow. Hello, I'm loving that

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