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Ep64: The Friend Zone feat Assante

May 29, 20181 hr 22 min
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We have 1/3 of "The Friend Zone" podcast this week to discuss being in the Friend zone. Can friends have sex with each other? How do you exit the friendzone? Does sex complicate things? Assante and the duo dig into where they draw the lines with friends and the bedroom. The conversation also goes from sexual piercings to pubic hair and Assante shares one crazy fetish......with socks?!? Follow Assante on IG/Twitter @heyassante NEW YORK CITY! We have a live show on Friday, JUNE 22nd! Don't miss out on this! Get your tickets now here https://web.ovationtix.com/trs/pr/993116 Today's episode was brought to you by SheOrgasms and Spunk Lube Follow SheOrgasms @blogMelaninmilk Looking for a new lube? Check out @spunklube on social media and visit spunklube.com Email us your questions,inquiries and hoe-mail to [email protected]

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and you guys got I hate her so much. Um. She Orgasms also sponsored the live show in Atlanta, So if you were a v I P guest, then you got those beautiful capsules that are for sure to help you orgasm and come and all that good stuff. I haven't taken mind yet because I haven't had um. You know.

I kind of want to wait until I can wear like lingerie and get all super freaky because I feel like I want to funk a lot already, So I want to wait till I know I have a long time to just like I vaguely inside of me and an animal is that what you call it? Anyways, guys, welcome to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions. This your girl, Mandy Bee. I'm wheezy, and we are sitting here with a wonderful motherfucking guest. Um, we're just gonna slightly introduce

you because everybody already knows yourself. I haven't asked you to come on this podcast for a long time, and I realized until we got a little bit, until we got Loudspeaker. Now you all of a sudden abandon So let's get into that. First of all, get into the world. This is a san say hey scent. That's why I got my social media social media early to thank you for joining Loudspeakers Network. I don't even really know what

then that means for you. We're there with you because I have a podcast on last because they were called the friend Zone for people that are listening that don't know what the who am um? And I actually was working with y'all before y'all got signed. Not alright, was I with y'all before y'all got side. I was one of the people that Toldmorrow before way back in the day. And then he was like, yeah, I just got this new podcast blah blah, what do you think about them?

I was like, oh, I love them. I told you about that. Y'all got some sign on bonus or something. I want me to party. I'm just letting y'all know. He need that check. I ain't friend that you were. You were the only nice. Me and Mandy went to the loud Speaker Christmas party. Christmarrow invited us and a king and I was like, damn, like, who were gonna

know that? But we both the same time should be there, so we both said that, and then a shockingly we ended up having with Chrystmas and I was lusting over fran and her. God damn that don't listen. So if you guys follow my staff and this is finally an episode that we posted on time so we could live in real time. So I went to a party on Saturday. Missed the sante because he came and see pee time,

but I was there early. Shout out to Jade of all jades um from Jada Nextee and getting grown and me and my friend were looking at friends as friend had a hat on, so I ain't see all the hair. Saturday, she had these black cancel So me and my friends just like, goddamn, you think it's like you know we had. Do you think it's real concent because but friends waisted so small and we were just looking. Jay came down to get friends. I said, oh ship, that's freend. Now

the lusted over that. As for folk, beautiful, amazing woman. Let me tell you, my hand was so blown up because some people were treating us like, oh, they mentioned you guys on the friend zone, and then Frand was like, oh, yeah, I know who's doing your party with you. She's cute, said I got jealous because I was like, I was on that first know what I did before we get in shi the show, I wanted, I'll put some cast cocoa.

Whatever she wants. Well, listen, I'll keep eating her pussy even if she farts, so let her know I don't care. That was, by the way, for those of you who maybe haven't heard bad past episodes, episodes about to turn it off, I haven't listened, all right, and that's why I stopped the friends. Listeners, Stay on, it gets good. This is how it goes down. On Horrible Decisions, you know,

very sex positive podcast. So I actually wanted to talk about that real quick with you since we since we got you on, a lot of people have been hitting us up. Um. And this is just for the people who are listening because they see podcasts connect what advice or you've been doing podcasts for a long time, we're just now getting lit. We have a lot of people that hit us up asking us about advice on how

to start their podcast. Bitch. How so you're like a vent and had the Friends Wow, y'all asking me questions calendars listen, I'm gonna tell you something. We are terrible questions. Everybody that comes like, damn, let him talk. So we're probably gonna ask you something and then tell you the answer saying I'm bad with time to answer your question.

I'm just really bad with that's the weed. All I know is since the beginning of the Friends on podcast, or even before that, what I realized about people that want to podcast, which is why I knew the two of you would have such a great podcast, a great show, which is why I'm saying, you know, being sut to last Speaker's network, whatever that means. People y'all are people that want to genuinely do a show like y'll have something that you want to talk about, something that you'll

believe in sex positivity. And let me just say this before I continue. I don't think I would be here on this podcast show with y'all have the curse to do this ship without Dubbs, because Dubs was one of the original people on YouTube them sucking sex positive videos, which never was talking about how just it was not cool to now I'm not cool at all. I had a man at the time when I do you know how I'm at. I was a fan of her. We were both a fan of her line, so I was

a crazy fan of her on YouTube. Would talk for a year. She was coming to Florida for graduation and fam and I was like, Yo, come to Orlando and meet me. She came to my house. My extent time was like, why is this bitch coming to the house. I was like, I don't know. I just felt so connected to her. We sat in his bed, my iur bed. I lived there five hours talking talking about the things

she's been through sexually, me emotional abuse. Like we were just breaking down and like just connected from there and He would say things to me like I don't know why you first, like he liked her, but I was like no, no, no, but you can't be like are you kidding me? Like you want me to think that you're not in the club shaking your ass like this bitch gonna be shaking as she shaking ass. And I'm just like I don't know what to say. Bro. We went on a cruise together. Yeah that was crazy. Three

before I was scared to take Molly. Oh yeah. We we snuck liquor in shampoo bottles. We cleaned out shampoo bottles and put like and one of them was still had kind of a little soap in it. But we didn't give a funk. We was all some of us were under a We couldn't we couldn't get the risk bed. Not only some of us, all of us were. I was only twenty, who was was doub was the only one who was who was legal. All of us were under age, but we were like ago, you know, we

were twenty. So it was so much we like snug liquor in there and they were sneaking Molly. This is where I was like, oh no, no, Molly came back. They got me to do Molly when we got back to Orlando and I was working in a parking lot down the street because I would like doing Molly. But No, Dove is amazing. She has a lot going on now and so I'm glad that you were able to open up through her. Then she is a podcast by the

way to y'all. It's called Youngish. Her and her son talk and teach each other and it is so cute and so amazing. So if you and your kid want to have a podcast to listen to, it's called a Youngish. You could like playing in the center way to school. It's a doke podcast. So basically, though, what you said is you knew we had something to say. Do you think that that's kind of important because I think a lot of people now who are starting podcast just want

to talk and just want to do a podcast. You think they need to have a purpose, so it's going to make you a podcast successful. I think, um, we all can have a podcast. Anybody can do it. It's kind of like the new thing to have on social media the way I look at it, like everybody at one point had, uh, you know, my Space page. Whoever had the hottest page at the time, which is hot? It matters, you know, on a small scale, who had, like you know, who was in Who's Top eight, But

on a larger scale, who had the hottest page? With such a big issue, like if you had a hot page, clearly you did something you askuld have just been a high school, middle school student doing ship and you have a hot ass page and a damn celebrity. We was popping once and we was in high school. It was just it's like, so then think about the podcast. You could be from bumble fuck nowhere. But if your guys got some ship to talk about and a good ass show,

people are gonna listen. They're just gonna be like, damn, like they got something to say, whether it's something that speaks to your case, is sex positive? Sex positive? Sex positive? I'm glad you're gonna up your words like I do. I need to blank it up. I need a fine man to come up in here and hug up on me or something like. I'm just saying, you know, are you really go I am trembling a little bit, trembling a little bit that there's a fine man on deck.

I will, you know, take what kind of studio right? I'm a horrible decisions. I'm thinking about Mom, wait for somebody pop outlet when y'all get your TV show and you'll have your couches. In fact, look, I'm right here with y'all. I want to be the resident gay. I want to come on whenever I want to do the whole night with you. You can resident game. They could do everything, the whole night hunt. Why not? You know why people are gonna be disappointed the K black K

episode episode show. So I'm glad all of those right, It ain't just you know, it's a holiday weekend, like we really in here on a holiday. This is what we decided. We should have been asking you a question and tips for men. But I feel like, just in honor of the friends. Plus I don't want to scare you off. You're not. There's nothing you can do or say to scare me off. Okay, you have a personal look I r first one. Have you ever swapped semen? That's nice that I wanted to do. Was it fun?

So for me as a male, I think it's more fun. And this is gonna sound really stupid or funked up, but I just think it's really hot when you're semen swapping and you have beard and when getting stuck in now you know what, I don't know. I'm not gonna I am a running faust, I will say. I will say that's the pluses that I get, even from like writing a face. I don't really care for you like that, But when I could see myself on their face, I'd be like, I just me to clean his beard off.

And I think I was about to grab the sheet and he was like, no, I don't know what I was watching. But the other day I heard somebody refer to it as the flavor saver, and I was like, oh wait, let me put it on my phone. Okay, Well, and this is a question that we haven't asked in a long time, but everyone knows this to be the show. Would you rather lick asks or suck toes o? This is gonna be easy for me as we're all just waiting, like,

I just don't see toad. You know, I'm not a foot person, even though I've met some people with some very very nice fee Can I be honest with you so and y'all don't judge. We're not gonna turn this into a conversation with Fello Bay. The other day Fella Bay and so were laid down. We was laid out. We were laying out, shut up watching Black Panther because I finally watched it, because it's you can run it now from phone nine nine. But I did go to jail.

Basically what okay, it doesn't matter. Anyways, were laying down and I was actually playing foots to his feet were so smooth. It came to my mind like if I could probably do something with the false I do want to say one thing to you because you said, y'all don't come from me. You said two episodes ago that you loved play with seven feet. I do, and now this is I don't know that is called feet like I like when you want to get foot sucked. No, like we laid down and I just like to rub.

They both have really nice I'm gonna tell you what she needs. I don't want to get foot fucked. I don't not want their toes in my puss. You're not ready. It could be an asshole. I don't want to get your second day. Well, she would like him to play footsie, So you're gonna play footsie. That doesn't mean I want them to put their toes in my fucking holes. I don't want to toes over the stuff like a foot job.

Would you do that for them if they wanted. But I'm one of those that whatever my partner once, i'll try, I'll do like I didn't want to piss on a nigga, and I still piss on him because he wanted me to pick You know this, lose you, because I don't lose man to be like, oh say small, I'm here. I feel like I can do like a hole. Confessional confessional. Let's well, since we're talking, we can make that YO segment. Go ahead, confessionals. Okay, well, since we're talking about, what's

this sloody thing to do for? Oh no, we're going to work that. Put a pin in that one. Put it in your phone over making flavor savor right on the favor. I have been not recently, but I've met a man um a white man. No no, no, no no, no, we're not going that far. I mean we're going pretty far, but not that far because you know I don't really do that me neither. So that's why I was about to exit the commo. But I shared some dicks with you. He gets I'm saying I've shared some photos. Yeah, when

you said, I was like, not flavor saving beards. We ain't gonna get through this. I'm y'all was worried. This is gonna be vanilla some ship. That's a section that we haven't vanilla ship coming up? What's it? We already we're talking about man. Go ahead, white man. But man has an obsession with me and the socks that I wear because I wear like cartoons and ship. Now you trying to be funny. You wanted this to be the white thing. You wanted us to be the wps. You

picked it out on purpose. Now finish finished. So he likes the socks you wear? Oh wait, why are he going on the phone? You don't put you I don't have Does he put your socks on his dick? Does he put on? So when I'm wearing the socks and the slides, he likes when I like with stuff with with my socks with my feet. But they have to be the cartoon socks. I don't want to because the part is the part is this white man see me walking down the street and got me and so they

didn't look and then we didn't talk. Okay, you can't say this part, this part I'm just saying this part that I'm about to show you guys, it ain't gonna below up. This is so funny. You know, I don't do ship like this, so this is funny that I'm doing this with y'all. I'm happy to be here. Oh you know what, you can tell them in your hotel. Yes, this is his name? What is his name? Don't don't

say that. Don't say that out because you know what if this man follows me or he finds me on social media and he's like, damn this this man is talking about at my ship we're talking about mind you real quick. Not only do you want to help her out? I don't know if it was the last episode of the episode before. We have maybe twelve comments. Six of them are like I was just waiting out, just like god, damn,

we can you send my bio? I know people maybe waiting for a nipple to pop out of every goddamn second, since we're talking about nipples way back in the day, do you remember when I think he first moved to New York and and we went to shop for pasties with you, I was like, who is this? I just thought of something. Why did he have black feet in the Why did he Yeah, it's a picture of what he likes. So he likes blackfeet and socks. Yeah, I learned it was a fetish for being black. Well, I

absolutely am. At the same time, I get to kick this white man's penis around, like we actually talked about that at the live show, like where and it was a long word that I don't want to sit here and try to mess up and say once again, but yeah, that's crazy that he so he wants you to jack and then kick it. I don't have to jack. Does he have to come? Does he like to come? So

here's here's here's the paint it, I've seen it. You just told me you were scared of it, Like if I don't feel nice, I didn't touch it or anything. I said, you can't ask you. He asked me how much you would cost to take my sox off? Like I'm not taking my socks? Why are you doing that? And it made him even like harder, and I was like, I'm not why are you doing this? What am I doing? Why? Why are you not like it? Why are you not getting money? Because make your socks off, that's what I want,

Because then it becomes a whole another thing. You're there, it's a whole another aspect at this point, because it turns him on a lot that I will not let him take my socks off, like when like one time he has to take my sock off and I kicked him in the face by that look. It was pre come everywhere, prea come everywhere on your socks almost actually I throw these socks away by the word ship for you know, you can't um and I'm walking away. This

is that's when you I ain't. One time it was I just allowed she did because you know I was over here. You know, thank you. We know the etiquette on the mike. You however, do you here? Bro? I got this anyway, so clearly we don't. We don't. Wait wait wait, so I just need more go ahead? Why are you getting off on it? I'm not? Oh okay, So so I was about to say so. So the only reason I went over the first time because at

first I was like, what the funk? Like this is boring as fun, But then I also am annoyed when people will hit you up or you hit them up, and it becomes this game of like when are we gonna see each other? So I was like, yeah, this man, it's about what the fun is going on? And when I found out he was weird of the first time, I was like, this, Nick, it's weird. But his place is nice. And y'all know real quick we live in

New York. So when you got a nice place, it's like, oh, honestly, you could just mean like, damn, you gotta wash on dryer sed to me, bro oh my god. Central AC. Don't get me started. If he hasn't what he does, I do not me neither. I got it in my window. I pay way too much. Now if you get when you get the central A C that's that's that's not centracy. No, that's not centracy. That's so we all got it. Damn nobody. Yes, and it's white. Man was not he was not, but

coin how old is he? I don't guess, maybe thirties, late thirties early he and he really wants to hang out with And I'm like, no, I like, you don't really, you don't know anything attractive. Oh yeah, let's see. I don't have I don't have pictures. I don't let him take videos and stuff for me. He was like, can I take video and I'm like not because you know, people like to do you famous. It's okay, I'm helping

get and I don't need my my consulting fee. You know what you should have him paid for like Carson. So no, that's not what he's done. He paid for your petty. We're gonna go back to the last part off the record, but that's not what he pays for. He paid for my week the first time. Like, you know, I don't think that it's cool. I don't believe you doing for weed. I think you're getting it in your way. I promise you that we are not getting I don't mean like literally, I mean imperiotily. I mean how do

you figuratively? What is that like? Because because I'm here, if you I'm here, So I want to know why we're figuratively getting it in I know that's right. Why are you figurative? He's saying, no, thank you? You know what's crazy. You know what's crazy. She's she for for whatever reason, when things don't make sense in her mind, she just thank you, lying because she come at me all the time. Because I don't you say she does. Don't believe nobody about you're not having Yeah, That's what

I'm talking about. So the fact that she's sitting here, You're sitting saying all this like you be seeing him. It's like, but just believe you are not getting Christmas gifts for good, dick, and I'm talking about how good it feels against you. It was just a gift around Christmas time. So thank you Blue. Anyways, we're gonna get right along. We can talk more about the foot stuff later. We're gonna do that. There's a lot of talk about.

But it was just odd to me. And first of all, I really wanted to go because I just need to smoke somewhere. I don't like to smoke in my house, so it was like, you know, yeah, come over, smokes. I was older, and then he bought the leave. I was like, dude, this is good. And then he told me he was into and I was like, damn, this is weird. And then I was coming. You didn't know what he was into from that, well, I knew this after the first time I met him. I made him

in personal yes, and then afterward. Look at this was before that talking too much. Anyway, We've been a g I did have another Where have you ever had sex with a girl. That was my question, Yes, many many, many many moons ago you have just one woman? Or yes, did you know? Yes? Were you Did you know you were gay when you did it? Or did you do

it to figure it out? Like it was definitely we were definitely like that boyfriend and girlfriend and new that we were not boyfriend and girlfriend and said that when we were like, yeah, we should really see what they deal and see like what's up, like just like not even for like for each other, but not for each other. Like we were just like, all right, we're about to go off to college soon. So and for me, I was like I already know I'm gay, so like if you just want to and she was like all right,

well cool, yeah, let's do that. And so then she was like what am like, I see what Dick is about, but I'm not doing that. I was like, thank you, Like I just yeah, she was a dyke. We were, That's what we were cool with each other. And this isn't like my high school girlfriend at the same school. This is a girl that I knew outside of my school. I want to her problem and everything, because she was like, I need a day. I can't be doing all this gay ship people going now I'm like whatever, So like

we became cool. We worked on the same like plaza and everything. And then the night that we I was like, this is gonna be a good like for me. It wasn't. Damn I got to go have sex with the girl. For me. I was like, We're about to go have a good ass time, Like I think this is a cool as a girl. She's gonna figure out whether she liked this it or not. So I went the whole night. I mean yeah, yeah, I did the whole thing. So that's what she was like, Okay, like dick is nice,

but no, thank you. Now when you find yourself like attracted, because you know, there's a Kinsley skill and sometimes we all have moments, right, what do they normally look like? Women like the women that you're attracted to? Do they

normally are they more? But don't even have a type of man like if you find you fine and if you can turn me on and like emotionally even I was about to say, if you can turn me on mentally like emotionally yeah, so anybody, anybody, it don't matter what you look like, I thought, the dick out whatever who wants I mean pretty much if I feel like we are like vibrating at the same frequency. I got you to worry about what you then cool, I'm willing

to try whatever. To me, it's mostly gay, mostly manent unless you that point one percent woman and you just like, hey, nigga, I'm here for you. And I'm like, okay, girl, like, let's see what's up, right. But I can with that, We're gonna go ahead and get into the kink at a week now. It's not And so this actually, well, yeah, this isn't, um anything crazy. I thought it would be cool. We actually had so when email us asking if we were going to talk about this, So I thought it

was cool. Um, the kink of the week for this week is actually sexual piercings. Um. So that has to do with piercing your nipples, your clitter, is the hood of your your penis, all of that. So, UM, I found this thing about the history of the history of it. It says, though it might seem surprising to most, genital piercings and sexual piercings have been part of the human

experience for some time. This is especially true in the island tribes of Southeast Asia and in India, who have been piercing their genitals as a rite of passage or to improve sexual pleasure pleasure for thousands of years. In fact, male genital piercings being done for the pleasure of female

partners is even mentioned in the Karma Sutra. So I wanted to know if Assante, have you ever had any type of sexual piercings, like piercings outside called Prince Albert when it has the beads, And I think that was zero, zero piercings, no tongue rings. You never had suck? What? Oh? No, no, no, no, yes, But but I have I had any piercings myself. No. Um, the only piercings outside of my ears that I've considered

getting is my nose pierce. And the only thing on your scale I think would be my nipples because I've had I've had my nipples pierce, And I wanted to talk about this too, because it actually did increase the sensitivity in them. It also just sucks because I'm not one who becomes aroused when guys lick my my nipples. I actually hated. I thought, well, when they were pierced, they are, they still are now, But now to the point when guys lick on them, I either have no

pleasure or be it hurts. I actually started getting pleasure after my influence. Oh yeah, are so sensitive and to me, I just don't like it. So I always thought that the licking of tits was like for the guys aroused, but I guess it was supposed to arouse me something else that I also found UM interesting. When I was reading this, I had a couple of guys who did not like my nipple piercings because they were like, what

the funk I want medal in my mouth for? So they talked about that, and then there was also um when I looked into it. I don't know if any of you women are looking to get um pierced down below, but apparently if you get the hood of your pussy pierced, it will keep your sensation down there. But of course, when you pierce your clip, you do risk um losing all sensation. So I don't even know if I would want to take that risk in piercing my clip, Like

I couldn't imagine not having sensation. And my go down on a girl that had a clip piercing, and I feel like I was more injured than her. Oh I love doing fucking the girl that i'd be eating out. She has her clip pier It looks so it's like and it's like glow in the dark. It's just like so cute. But the clip has a better shape or

like it's it's smaller enough for the clip piercing. I feel like with a dick, like dick looks huge even when I or have you seen so I watched gay porn, there's a piercing that they do put underneath the ball. I was just gonna say, I have seen that on the dude before. We probably saw the same video. This is a person skin, but like the goose there, he

had like a little ring ring there. He's real sensitive down there, so he liked he would like to play with And I was like, okay, but I feel like that to me would be something, especially say because so luckily the men who I prefer to deal with shave down there. But I do see a lot of men that have hair a lot down there. Would would the ring not get caught and maybe like the pupid hair or something? I want story I just heard. I'm not gonna say who told me, but I was asking someone

at some point in time. So I was like, Oh, when you suck me, do you like like shaved wax this that, like, how do you like it? Do you on a landing strip? Because I always been waxed and I'm like, maybe not everybody likes that. He's like, I don't really care if there's like a strip, but just on the actual pussy, like when it opens up, like I can't have any hair, it's like a thing for me,

it won't work. And he told me that he used to suck a girl that didn't shave, and that because he's uncircumcised, the hair would get It was one of the most painful things. And then when he would tell her that he couldn't deal with it, but the VICH used to like be like pissed or something like feminist hype ship, like no, Ni, I'm not about to shave for you, And he was like it wasn't even that.

I just didn't like want. I didn't even care. He's like, I just needed to Like it's crazy, but at least they at least he brought that conversation to her because I've been with guys before, and I'd be like, like, I've been with a guy before and I'm not gonna say who because I talked about it on the show. But when his hair grew, it would grow like up

his shaft. It would be that, Harry, And I'm like, Nick, I'm not even gonna suck your dick if I gotta like deal with the hair on the shaft to like that, k No, I need a bunch of hair, right, But so if you're dealing with someone who doesn't like all the hair, like, I'm okay with that. Yeah, you have to know about it. I've had like I remember specifically with lover Boy. He used to be like, listen, every time I'm about to come back to see you, and every time you come to see me, I'm just like

because I have to fucking grow mu shirt out. And I hate it because I like that, know, I just like put my hand down there and feeling hand. It's whatever, it's whatever. It doesn't deal with a lot of um what Well, honestly, honestly, truly my light skins. So here's my whole spectrum, right, dark skin is at the top of the list. Darcy and black Man would be my dream, but you know they just don't be feeling a kid like that. So under that is a Spanish Hispanic, so

there's like the mania. Okay, all right, then right under that comes, I don't want to put light skins under that. Give me paper bag brown niggas. That's what I like, Like I like a regular because to the color of this table. Yeah okay, yeah, so wait, I don't like nobody Latinos do what then be super wax, super super hairy? Do that some of the ones that they have all the eyebrows be like, what are you telling me? They

do be shaving a lot. It just seems like they maintain a lot about Like I mean, I'm just thinking about like something naturally, just naturally, like even with women with arms and stuff, I've seen you like you like gay niggas, they are good about you know, the their and all that. So if they don't want the hair, it's not there. But if there's hair there, it's usually not nothing bad. Like I haven't met anybody that has like a whole force black guys be so just like

not hairry. I love it, Like black guys really don't have hair like that. I don't really deal with that many men and maybe like real big as nigga and they still don't be even be having chest hair like that. I mean, yeah, I guess not. No, They've been like a lot of like naturally smooth niggas, like what nigga baby baby skin like like this is like a dolphin. How old are you getting, like thirty three or thirty

f like what? No hair? Maybe listening to friend you can't just look at because a friend like you can't just look at nobody's medicine cabinet no more. You gotta look in the free all the oils and everything, all of it. I just went to the African Festival in Brooklyn and the loaded up on my shape but mad oil and we see our new as you should don't do me. But I've been to Africa, thank you twice. I've been to the room mother Land, Hope, thank you. You

You know. I'm not gonna lie the watching Black Panther, I thought the accents were so terrible, but I know, like I mean, they didn't sound like my African daddies. So I was just really thinking. But I get it. There's different accents in Africa, like different countries that I

don't know what country they was from. I get it, what condam, Maybe that's why, but maybe they just make it it made up like I loved every time I could be Jordan's talking you know whose accident I didn't like, um Daniel or whatever from I hated it was so bad. It was so bad and right where he got that should have reshot this three times. He missed the whole accent.

There's like a couple of things with him in and I was kind of like, okay, to see what he was underground, talking to the talking to the childhood, and we're not go get right now. The accent was all I was talking about. The dude from Get Out Daniel, Yeah, his bad when he's um from British, from British. Yeah, they got all the different African diaspor over there, so he got you know, he probably got one of the

dials one of the things hearing a different. All I know is that went over there and I didn't had a couple of Africas on my phone and it ain't sound like none of that ship. I was just like, okay, I don't know what put the Africa these um anyways where your head and get into our whole decisions. So our horrible decision for this episode makes so much sense because we got a Santane mother fucking building, um, and we're gonna kind of dissect this. So the horrible decision

for this episode, it's called the friends zone. Um. And with the friends zone, we want to kind of just talk about everything. So first let me ask you real quick if you put somebody in the friend zone, and I'm gonna ask you too, wheezy, and then I'll put my answer maybe as we just talk, if someone is in the friend zone for you, or someone is a friend of the opposite or same sex for you, opposite

sex for you. Do you fuck your friends? Are we talking about like an isolated incident or like to be like, hey, like we're friends and we fun from time to time, Like do you funk your friends? Like people who you consider friends that are not Situationships is loosely used for people that I am not friends with that I sometimes see to me, they're not friends. That's what I say. You'll be saying, like home girls, Yeah, I sunk my

home girls. But most of those times it's either after the club we fucking we with like ballplayers and we just super lit and it's just wearning a mansion, let's just fuck, or I'm sucking to what I'm just saying, or I'm you know, before we go there. I just like the chemistry between women is so different, but then

it is between men. Women can and maybe maybe there are some gay bar relationships like that out, but I just think it would be so hot to have like a homeboy or two and were like we just hang out and we're not even like like trying to be together, and we were just like hanging out, and then maybe every now and then we'd be like like we here. We gotta like I don't have none of those, and not that I feel like those are like a normal

or something cool to have. It's probably not normal. Just play one or two of my set, But do I I think you do, or you used to back in the day, but we're not gonna believe but you would again. You could suck her again in a heart be not surprised any male friends like that. So that's what I was gonna do. You see her in the show? YEA so fine. So I was going to get into that. I don't believe that a female who is friends with

a male should suck him. I don't fuck my friend the guys who I consider friends, Like if you're just my homeboy, you just my homeboy, because as soon as we get to fucking, we're either a little bit more or you paying bills, or then the dynamic has changed. Is that because you you just are attracted to women, you just have no desire to be with them. So I've been with a woman before, and I would be I would, but I'm asking no, no, because it makes sense now. Right now it is more fun. Like I

was with a woman when I lived in Miami. She treated me better probably than any nigga. But I know, when I think of what I want long term, it's definitely a man. But I still would want a woman maybe on the side. Yes, I'd like to have fun with them. But when it comes to men, don't you telling me I should get like a home girl that just knows that I'm gay and we just like maybe fun everything. Oh sorry, I'm just like, look, I gotta

get my tubes tied something because I can. I'm just saying that's I don't think i'd have to worry about if I started having I can't do it as far as like men, because I feel like I don't know. For me, I just don't want to go back on my word. What I mean when I say like there's a friendship and we established that. I don't really like

breaking those barriers. I had a really good friend of mine tell me when he was drunk after five years that he's always thought about being with me, and it really that was actually my next question that I wanted

to get into. Um, have you had someone who was friends for a long time, maybe a couple of years, a couple of months, it was truly a friendship and then y'all did break that barrier and have sex and what happened after the fact, if it's happened, So yes, because there was somebody that I knew when I lived

in Atlanta. We were just friends, and then when I moved up here, we like hooked up on something like you know, like I've always been like he was like, I've always been interested in you, and I was like, I always thought you were cute too, So it was like, let's fun. When we did, it was changed, not only because since I left Atlanta we hadn't really stayed in contact like that anyway. We just seen each other around

on social media and sometimes bump into each other. So because it wasn't anything serious where we're like in the same city, you have to deal with the same ship. I guess we're kind of just the same. Like if I see him tomorrow, it's gonna be like the same as the last time I've seen him outside of the sex.

What about what about you? Has that happened with you and maybe a guy there's always been something where like they were very obviously lovers, I think, like or there's always been an attraction, like something like a friendship, Like I'm thinking of friends that I have right now, or to be Enoch, Christopher or even Alex, Like it's there's

a very obvious friendship line. So it's like I don't see how like there's been a different thing when I've ended up sucking a friend, Like I wouldn't even call him a friend, Like it was like I was hanging away, but I would be flirting a lot, or you could tell like this is now. I think what happened we was in Atlanta, Me Alex had room. Once I took

a ship. I knew that was it said, you're really gonna run the same bro Okay, so I get and I guess the as you said edge your situation, the same happened with me, Like it was a friend that I had for years, but because we weren't in the same city, I guess it really didn't change the die dynamic of it um. And so I guess I want to get into this because I don't know why people don't understand when they're in the friend zone, how do

you put somebody there? What are the things that like say you only do okay, but that means you would have sucked him already when I'm just saying, you don't put them in the friends before before you get the dick. And then when someone you know someone's starting to like you and you don't like them back, like, what do you do because clearly you just went all out of them, like I am curve gotty, I'd be hitting well, I'll be sitting there just like you know why this is

not the right for think people. I don't feel like I'll be so honest. I'll be honest too. I'm like or or they just know their friends because this is what I do with guys. The way to let go for the males listening, I want you all to listen in if you're with a if you're around a girl a lot and you really like her, if she brings up all her other niggas to you in confidence, like

then she's friend zoning de funk out of you. Like I had a friend and I knew he liked me, and I would bring up all my niggas in front of him, like, oh my god. I even would bring them over like yeah, so this is because I didn't want you to like me, Like okay, I'm but these

guys don't know. But at that point, you got to know that they don't know, and you got to have a conversation with me because that's just because then I want the guys that right, they're still gonna be like, no, you're just doing that because you just want to feel

imporant for me or something. But you know you like no, but you know what's crazy too, Like to me, it also brings a comfortability level to the guys that I'm dealing with to meet my homeboys, so that when that homeboys around, Oh you know, that's like you have to make sure you never have sucked a friend because niggas be like, okay, so is he that's the thing too, Like And when I was so, I was talking to a guy back in the day que we can keep

it whatever, nickames Que, and we were talking about really getting into a relationship with each other. But because he knew I had had sex with my home girls, he was just like, so, I'm just supposed to be okay with you still being around these home girls and I know you'll have had sex. What if y'all just have sex again? Like, and for him, he wasn't into the bisexuality that you're over there shaking your head, Alex, what

would you have the same issue? Like, So, if you're with a woman and you know she like may have had sex with quite a bit of her friends, would you feel some way when she's hanging out with those friends again without you? Yeah, no comment, no comment. I just I don't do that, Like I wouldn't be cool with her still being friends with girls, girl older than I get. I really feel like you could be friends with someone who had sex with though, I really do. But I'll say that, but being in a you can,

but being in a relationship. If I was in a relationship, I don't know if I would want my partner to still be friends with someone that I know. I'll tell you why. I think there's more attention with people that I haven't fucked than I have. Like if it's over. It's over, honestly, but the only way you're not going back is if it's bad. And to me, if I'm sucking a niked, I'm coming him that dick is good to where I know that bitch gonna want to suck again.

So but that's not true. Hold on, hold on, hold on, good dick, you're gonna want to We could say that, but a lot of people like see And this is the thing that kind of annoys me about good dick, good pussy. Think about when you used to suck somebody and it was bombed, and you like, yeah, I would maybe because I wouldn't like right, that's what you can be like. There can be a stage of sexual compatibility.

It's why people have good sex in the beginning and why sometimes it goes off, like people wonder how they have such good and bad sex when it's not there anymore. It's it's not always going to be good. Feelings can dissipate. And I'm only like trying to say this because I feel like there are a lot of people that probably are in relationships that want to keep friendships and they're fucking partners, Like, oh my god, you're gonna them again, are you gonna do this? Like, we gotta get that

out of our heads. I mean, I don't think they have charity and a picture, but you also talk about the levels of insecurity and jealousy that people have that they can't get rid of. And so I don't want my partner. I just talk about it. You're working with it, right, I don't want my partner regardless of the spectrum of well, maybe they don't have good sex anymore, that doesn't matter

to me as a human being. I do not, And I know that I would feel some type of way as anyone else probably listening if my partner was still out hanging out and being friends with someone I know he has sexual relations with. I'm not saying like you're going to dinner and hanging but like, I wouldn't be worried about them running into each other or like even like, right, she don't keep the same energy every other show. It's

a different energy college buddy. That was different. He never sucked her, Yeah, and that was more intimidating to you, because, yeah, because he never got that pussy money. I'm like, Okay, he said that you're just friends. No he was. I don't know, but I don't see what you're saying about because I'm just like you. It's not because you ain't

never had it. Never mind, I don't know I really believe that about that, because if you ain't never had it and it's still coming around later, you always gonna wonder what if and that's going. For example, he has an X that he was with for years that's coming into town right doesn't live here anymore. To me, that's a less big deal than hanging with some cupids that

you ain't never college. No, I just know. I'm gonna tell you right now, if I saw one of my exes worried about me seeing I'm not even gonna lie to you all the niggers that are in my phone. First off, y'all know I don't leave off bad terms with my exes, and I have had some great dick in my life. Now they add up to the dick I'm getting now. Probably they were talking about committed xs, like if you win someone for years and they come

in town, you can't catch what. I'm still friends with people who I've had sex with, And what I'm saying is if I'm in a relationship, what about your no, bro? Yeah, but she in a situation now. But I'm talking about But I'm just saying, you think that if you caught up with your ex months from now, y'all end up having sex that night, if they got drunk, there's a possibility. I'm gonna be honest with you. But look at his response. If I wanted to like this, so I don't want

my nigga. My nigga knows that he could probably get the pussy from this friend he fucked ten years ago if you wanted. I think there we put too much emphasis on being worried about it. Really, isn't it easiest to have sex with a partner that you've had sex with already? There? See, I'm gonna I love saying that I didn't even count it as a new body. It's

saying I haven't had this dick. Maybe for you, but due to me, that comes with way more than just fucking enough, because you're just catching up, Like, what's up? I know what this dick like, I know how to move it. I don't right now? I think about an exit. I've been waiting my last Latino d I was what was that two years? He's coming up to New York in two months there's no way I could even think if I wanted some other dick. That is too much, too much feeling is too much to think about. And

that's the part that's gonna worry you too. It depending on what X and what type of relationship they might have had, because if there is baggage, then you ain't got nothing to worry about, Like, all right, cool, I don't gotta worry about that. But then you might have to worry because with this nig come up here her all over again. Didn't remember why y'all used to fun? After you was just talking about all that, about how you wouldn't the next day like fun, what am I doing?

All right, so we'll get a coffee. We'll get a coffee. I don't think. I don't know. I think that there's multiple ways of getting caught up though, So I wanted to bring this into also talking about the friend zone. So you're dealing with a friend and they want to get somebody, um and my friend curve game, like, so do you do that? So I'll be honest with you. Yeah, that's the next episode is so So it's funny because I've talked about this before. I have four categories of

men um. So I have the body, which is what would be under. I have the bay, which is someone who I could potentially see myself being with. I have the Zaddy, which is the nigga that just paying my bills and I don't want him at all. He probably married or something. And then I have the friend, which I have a large array of friends and they know that they're friends and they're not being anything more. I don't really ask for anything. They know they are friends

as well. When we go out and we split the bill because all the other niggas is gonna pay for it, but I let them know because I take my food, they take theirs. We talk about our relationships, we talk about um they you know, it's just it's just really like there's nothing more there. So I have friends, super platonic. It won't be anything more. I talk about my relationships women, and that is that is that when you're doing that? Are those friends? Is that is that like practice ground?

Maybe sometimes like when you have people in that category. So when I have people, I'll be completely honest with you. I enjoy talking to people. I enjoy hearing all types of perspectives, lifestyles, situations, and I like to really gauge how people go through these situations. So me being friends with guys makes me realize how much so when i'm when I'm able to see how they treat other women. To me, it helps me gauge like where I am with my person or with who I'm talking to, or

who I want to be with. And to me, I enjoy learning from the male perspective. So those are just genuine friends, and like I think, it's the same way men are friends with female like with women, it's perspective. It's perspective. So to me, I mean, why are you laughing over there, Alex. You're not telling me you don't have female like no, no, no, no, no no, I'm talking about I have female friends. I'm just talking about the way you guys think. I wasn't privy to women thinking

the way you guys think. Really not. Every week being on here, like I'm learning a lot. Yeah, I like that, And that's why that's why I liked this show. And I feel like that's gonna be a lot of success with y'all because it's a whole another perspective of like I remember, I don't know if you watched Amber rows on she was on this show. The father state that ship was funny and said, that dude really be act like it's just a black dude. I'm assuming he's like

a Republican or some bullship. I don't really know what he is. He just ain't right. He just brother that ain't right. Every else is sitting on stage with this brother ain't right, just and it's like not, he's not on the same reality. Like he's like the way that you act is like that's how man would act. And that slutmaker he's like that. The men dudes like what, no anybody can sucking masturbate every everybody didn't see all

of it. I just heard him saying, if that sucking a bunch of people makes me a sluat, what does it make you having sex with a slutmaker? But it's funny because even even with what we're talking about like that, the whole conversation gets into, um, she smashed the homies or being with the homies, and how people call each other the nicknames little bro, little sis and all this bullshit. So and that's why I hate that. I didn't do I know you do. Don't call somebody a little bro

a little sister. I almost damn near call only my gay friends, my bros. Because I just feel like everything else is just like shut up, like you don't even believe me. But you know what's funny too. I'll be on the phone and I have to check my brother. Well, I type you should call you a straight male friends your sis? Okay, okay, But I also I don't know. I feel like y'all are woke enough to get this, but I mean sister is and like c I s like exactly, I just don't know. I can't believe we've

been here on the hour. Yes, well I will get into we're help us with our home. The first one is sucking dick problems and the second one problem, yes, just suck it. Well here, let's let let's start for the first. How much teath what this teeth thing is? But it's got to stop. No, we actually talked about that, some people like Teath. Well, I've got anyone asked to buy down on it before? Now? Oh hell no, too hard, Like I'm a concrete rock. You don't want to like

I did it on the Lave Show. I don't want to do it again, you know. But anyways, so it's sad. Hey, my loves. I feel like you both are my spirit animals. I love what you're doing and it inspires me so much. So I'm having an issue with dick sucking. It appears that my dick sucking skills aren't always a success With some men. They tell me I'm the best head they have ever gotten, and I can make them come multiple

times and squirm like little bitches. But with one other it takes him too long to come, and the second his dick takes a long time to react to it as well. I've been able to get I don't know, God damn y'all with these goddamn spelling errors. Anyways, it says, aren't my skills? She says she's never able to get him off with head because she's not able with head. Aren't like, aren't my skills supposed to be the same

across all men? I'm trying to get everyone off, so they are so they are stressed and pressed this funk when I'm not there. Maybe this is an ego thing, but what the funk? Ever? Please answer me? So basically, her question is, aren't her dick sucking skills supposed to be the same across all men? And do you feel like your dick sucking skills change depending on who you're with or the reaction to it or same thing. We got two men in the room, So what are y'all?

What are y'all thoughts on such a no share you girl? So like, come on, come on, I'll let you answers, because bitch, of course, everyone likes different ships. I'm gonna tell you what different. All right, we got some video. Most men, I feel like are the things that we're watching. Porn is like this thing right that Ever, a lot of guys don't like hands, right, so we're watching it import a lot with no hands. Hey, come on, sorry, why did't I just take a girl that Atlanta? Tell

you what to do? So what I'm saying, but go ahead, well we need to dick second tell us what to do song. I'm gonna you know, we got to do that for your comedy game show. Oh Jude six, y'all, we're gonna plug that and put all the So everybody is like always hearing about this thing, which is a great sensation. I get it, and a lot of dudes like that, but the thing is not everyone does. Actually, for the first time in my life, like Jeeves be telling me to like he'll tell me just like I'll

have my mouth on. He like, just take your tongue. And he likes me to do this super weird thing, which is why I girl, I hear you. He wants me to take my tongue and push his dick the other way because it makes the blood go like towards us, but it gets you super hard wipe in front of him. He'll tell me to do this white people, Okay, let's say the digital up here and then but like push up and like nick of you going crazy almost about

to come. I don't I don't know. I don't think so like the blood rush is like a different field. But I will say that this has to do with also, and I know we say it every guy damn show communication because loves I'd be dealing with his nuts and balls forever, dealing with his balls like so during head that's where he likes the attention. But I've had someone else who his balls were so sensitive he hated if

I even would lick them, so very sensitive. I can't have someone lick up and like hit the like the hood, like the inside. I will fucking go nuts. It's different structure, different folks, and like you said, it's communication right when you are giving head. When when you're even about to give head, you have to know how somebody is moving and how they squirming, and you can tell whether if they jump in whether they like it, or if they jump because they don't like some ship. So you just

need to be focused when you're doing it. I guess you can use the tips that you know have been working as as I'm speaking to the person that wrote in, I guess um you can use the tricks that you know have been working as like your starter baseline when you sucking dick, and then use that as a guideline. But it's not to go and work on every dick. So you've encountered one where it's not working. I guess you just gotta find some new tips. We did dick

some tips, like people were saying. My favorite one was hands. I think people like forget to use hands and like, you know, touch other places. Man, he was like, a lot of dudes don't like that. And the thing is we have to just like I like fingers inside of me during heads. Sometimes a lot of women don't like fingers because you don't know you felt the good fingers to where you could almost squirt and it just feels.

One thing that we all forget about is there can be like people would call sucking dick four play, There can be four play before you put your mouth on the dick. You can kiss thighs, you can lick around it. Like just licking is a big deal. People forget to lick and like also sucking dick, I haven't I watched

a lot of porn where girls don't suck. Is that they just put their mouth you have to literally, yeah, that shit is exhausted, Yes it is, which is why So another girl wrote in real quick and this is just a quick tip. A lot of girls feel like their mouths begin to hurt during sucking dick. So I wanted to let you guys know that if you guys are actually going through the sucking motion, you can actually give your mouth a rest from sucking by just licking

up the shaft or visiting the nuts. Because when you're visiting the nuts, it's more like like little licks, like like it's not sucking motion with the with the nuts. No, But I'm just saying like you can actually you're adjusting what there's another way to suck to So take them. You take a dick, and I'm not getting my side of the dick. You put your top my bottom of the place in the face and stick a finger up there. The hell are you doing decisions. The first gaze that

we had on here is a gay couple. They were talking about how they told their homegirl, like we told her to finger his ask and like that was the night she got pregnant because the side sucking. So you take the dick like a corn on the cob, corn on the cop. You can like put your teeth and like clench them the whole time and just take't do this is white people ship. The first person I ever saw it was because Prett styles really yep, she's black, and she had a teeth clenched and she went up

and down and like the nigga was going crazy. But you can suck from right here and you just go up and down. I think a lot of girls when they get the mindset of sucking dick, they do it to an extreme. So footeas is white people shipped to me. I would like to point that out. So it's funny you think I don't mean foot. We'd be laying down I just rub against their soft feet. Fuck you anyways, guys, I hate you know what's crazy? Real quick? I'd be

so mad at myself. I have a gag reflex when I brush my tongue in the morning, but I don't gag on dick. And I'm like, my gag, Why do I gag when I brush my teeth in the morning, but I don't gag with dick in My mouth are so big he doesn't know a breeze. You You could just go on Instagram like, no, oh damn, I know, bro, she's trying to talk with her mouth opens sucked. Oh,

they'd be big like baby legs. Like I like pain though, so like not only that, I feel like I have a lot of cushion for the pushing, so if it's little, you're probably not even getting past the ass. So I like them really big to where they're painful. Um and so you can take So that's the thing. I have had one where I could barely get past the head, and I was working with my ego, so like like

I could barely get past the head. So for that one specifically, I just used extra saliva and then definitely happens. I'll have to tell you um off air because Um, I don't. I don't want to bring up famous yet. Girl. I can't tell you like it's it's so like wait wait, it's so big. It's so big that that he was so he was injured at the time, and so I would have had to ride his dick and it was so big. I literally only gave him head because I was like, you know, I don't ride dick anyways, and

I was like to ride something that big. There was just getting on the bus. I was like, I'm just gonna make you come with head because I'm not going to get on that. I'll tell you off air. You girlfriends look like in a wheelchair. Oh no, they broke up.

Um but anyway, but anyways, um so, let me get to our next listener letter because and I specifically wanted to do this with Asante on the show because if you have not listened to The friend Zone, um they talk it's mental health, mental health wellness and one more come on, y'all stay it every show metal health mental wellness and where are we doing here? You go? Okay? So anyway, you know, but um so this one actually, this one hit a nerve with me. So I kind

of wanted to have this conversation. This is what we'll do to wrap up the show, so it's never gonna be over. I know, right, we never want we never want you to go. It's okay, you're now the resident gay. So um, this is the letter I want you guys to know if you have any issues with our show or issues with something me or we say, or I guess you guys really have no filter and write it

into us with whatever you think. You guys can always email us as you already do already do at horrible decisions at gmail dot com or d m u s. Of course your d ms are now getting lost because we kind of lit now. So um, we don't see everything as what I've been saying. We don't see it as much anymore. Guys. I didn't say I don't hello see it, and I'm not sure what I mean. I'm just say hoods hood. She was like, we're out of there at eleven. I'm not gonna be in there all night.

I was like, damn, hello, holo, holo, we're getting our bank account set up right, We're in Atlanta, and so Mandy's sitting there right and she's just like, I don't have time for this I don't have time, so right, So the dude, so the guys like, listen, y'all are showing the articles of whatever, and like, I need to

see a logo that's not Horrible Decisions whatever. So we're asking Alex to do it for us, because Alex in the hotel, so he send it to send it in the nigga sends in our logo with our business name, the company name with fucking banana's. You know. The guy goes, I, I can't do adult entertainment like in Atlanta Bay talking about seeing this is exactly why I can't do this. We're not time with this. We have a show. We've got to get ready with you. Mike check and he's like,

you guys actors like what. I was there for it anyway, but yeah, make sure you email us at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. So this one, UM, I want to read. I would like both of y'all's comments, but can I please read her after this real quick? Thank you very much? So um silence on the set. Um. So we got an email and it says this past month, I bit just listened to your show. I truly love what you are doing with the show as a kinky whore.

I can relate to your stories. Matter of fact, you're butt looking b D s M show made me text my sir asking to look his ask. Surprisingly, he approved my small issue with the show. She said small, so let's not go aham and she has a ballad point at the end. She does not is the lack of diversity. Read me out. There aren't many dark skin female guests on your show. As the Haitian guest, she's she's referring to Jesse Will. I am not done catching up with

the podcast. Different Shades amongst the Black community matter. As a dark skinned woman, when I hear your story or your guest stories and make right right, you feel like I feel, hold on finish, hold on. No, this is as a dark as a dark skinned woman, when I hear your story or your guests stories, it makes me wonder if they're lights fair skin afforded these horrible opportunities.

I am sure you know the history and the stereotypes of dark skinned black women being seen as less than so it would be great to hear from a dark skin horn. Thanks. Let me get to this so real quick. We've had candy deep throat, We've had Alicia slash Miss Gooding. We've had Cutty, We've had Jesse Woo, We've had Cake x x X on our BBW episode. I mean she was brown. Let's not sit here and be colorless because this is the part that I think is black. So this is this is my issue with the letter. We

are now this is probably episode sixty four. Me and Weezy have done a ton of episodes with just us. We have had we have had gay males, we have had a white man, we've had a white woman, you know, but we've had a couple, we've had latinos, We've had

all shades of brown on this podcast. And what really irks me is all we talk about is black women, black empowerment, women empowerment, and so to get this letter asking for more black women like we haven't had, We've had at least over a handful of black women on this podcast. And what irks me is to sit here and now divide our black community, which I think we do so often by now saying well what about the darker skinned women when we sit here and speak for

black to be fair black panther. We watched lupetea. When is the last time you've seen someone that black. This is what But no, because I think there's a there's a ton of black women. But this is my problem. There is, there's a ton, There's Gabrielle Union, there's which to me, she would be considered a dark skinned woman. I don't know if you wouldn't consider her. Even if you go through the whole girlfriend's cast, there was only the light skinned one. You just went back to girlfriends.

We could go could go to black. I mean, I'm just saying there's representation, and there's a lot of different black skinned one so hear her. This is my no, this is my issue. All we talk about is the empowerment of black women dating as a black woman. We sit here as two biracial women identify only as black women. So even when we discuss our well, you deal with white guys, but when you always come at it as

being a black woman dating white guys. So the fact that she's even sitting here saying that our fair or light skin afforded us these I'm friends with beautiful black women who have done all the hop they get flown out, they get niggas pay, and they goddamn out here fucking winning. So to sit here and make it seem like we're only having these experiences because we're lighter skinned women. To me, I had a huge issue with that because I'm friends

with dark skinned women and unfortunately I don't like that they. Yes, I understand the history of it, but to say here and make yourself a victim like I'm dark skinned. We need more dark skinned representation when all we do is cape for black women and black empowerment. It irks me. We're all on episode sixty three and we didn't. We gotta fit in black gaye, we gotta fit in white gaze,

we gotta fit in couples. We have had such a broad and everyone talks about we've had We've had a Latino gay, We've had a dark skin We've had a black bisexual man that when I interviewed a white and Asian couple, they were white and Asian. More now we got to categorize all these fucking ships now consisting because of this an email which is like, I don't I feel like I'm at home depot with the color palette.

Like it's like every season is friends on you guys talk about a lot of points, and of course the read they talk about um colorism as well a lot within the black community. What I don't know, you were annoyed when I was reading it. What was your take on? So here's what I wanted to say. What I will say, Actually, she the person that wrote in, they just they wanted to see some representation. And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I don't here, but I will also

she was I think we've had it. But what I also will say is, you know no shape, but Google is free, and sometimes people write into your shows and they're asking things of you that you might have already done, and all you have to do is go back and see that agreed. So if you if she would have just nicely wrote in like to be fair, we haven't had video enough for her to know that my mom

was black enough or the candy deep throat. We didn't have it, but we put all of their ass name a name like she not if she's a listener and started watching, she probably wouldn't think if you've been an ask though, Like that's the thing. I feel like she should still be able to write it in the ask and request that and then from there you can be like her. So I do want you to know, Yeah, you have the foot fetish. If you want to go

back if you're a listener, can't. If you're if you're a dark skin and feel like we don't represent dark skinned women on the show. I would like you to go back to a couple of our episodes. We have the episode um with the foot fetish and pissing. That's with Miss Gooding. We have we have It's a It's a Business featuring Candy deep Throat. She was a um, dark skinned escort. We have Um Cutty who's brown. Passport Cutty. Just look at passport she's on there. Um Wheezi's mom,

God damn it, it's black. So listen to the episode with Wheezy's mom. Um do you That was eleven twelve. They was all right, so sis listen And then if you want to give props to the other shades of black women we've had, Imani. But I do want to

say this. You mentioned the Read and I was listening to the read maybe it was last week, and they were talking about Megan Marco, and this was something that kind of sucked me up because they really let me know that this is how people that are more brown than me, and you do see things and how things are depicted. Cristal said, we're not gonna make Megan black excellence. Blah blah blah. She said something about her being half black.

She mentioned that right, and I'm laughing to myself because look, this is to keep it a hunt. It. People really only fucking see how black someone is from how they either act or how it's looking. Obama was the same, ship the same, and they they didn't question them he was black. We all go back heard them saying like, oh he's a nigga, everybody else don't matter if he's half But now, but now it's half from Chicago too, so it's a little different. Like with Megan. Where's Megan from? Megan,

she's from Compton. She was hanging with Serena Williams. That's like her friends out the wedding time. I'm going to my friendship and it's sucking Megan market she's from Compton. Why we can't give her that same credit that we give. Go ahead, but ain't you Spanish? Here we go, muck mouse. You know what, I'm bad that Charlemagne had to check it. Nigga, you should have been the first one. No, he didn't. He was like the last he was the first one. But y'all know, y'all know Alex is still working on

his voice. That's why y'all can't hear him all the time. He's like, I'm yeah, but I just I just feel like when we're sitting here and we talked about it was funny when we talk about being a black ass podcast, and we talked about empowering black women and we speak from the black woman perspective, it just kind of irks me that then now we're segregating blacks by the shades of I don't discount and don't get me wrong, like me be and light skinned, I do not discount things

that black or darker skin even go through. Then I don't I get it. But I also still feel like I don't think we've ever tried not to because this is the thing. When me and Mandy are really talking about guests, we genuinely and I want you all to understand this, put a lot of effort into discussing who we want on hold group chat and you can talk speak on this, no, but we want to make sure that they're going to be draunchy enough, dirty enough, kinky enough.

Ship the white boy, right how did it's just black gay and who else better? That was where a Sante came up. We were like, we can't keep We had the light skin biracial I mean not biracial, bisexual man from the by couple episode. Then I had a white in the Asian couple, and then we've had We've had your for and that's a dark skin gay though. Yeah, so we've had everything. So I don't but were we are divers? Episode four? Here's what I will say though, so for people of a darker complexion or for for

actually all black people don't matter what color. As we moved forth further and further along in this age of social media, we have more conversations that start up, and I feel like there has always been that um conversation that wasn't had on social media that became like one that we have all the time now about color and so like now it's all the time about black people standing together and in the different shades, and then even how we're gonna work with our Afro Latina brothers and sisters.

Like it's just all about figuring out who we are in the world and where we are and how we respect each other. But I think because we start to have these conversations like this person right in this email, she's not saying anything wrong. It was just something that she was kind of annoying. How we got there, That's why I was just in there like oh, here we

go again. But it was really like not an unreasonable thing to be like, hey, like I'm dark skinned, I'm a whole, like we're a dark skin hos that and then you just be like hey, girl, like you ain't been listening along. Here go to dark skin holster you hear. Let's see we will do a light bright let's out hold each other. But as we talk about hole ship, we cannot for one moment act like niggas don't choose one over the other. And not that not that it's

all niggas. Everybody has their preference, but for the longest time we had to talk about these colorism issues in these music videos where it's all like light skin chicks, like we're the bad dark skin chicks, that we're the bad big girls that like where the girls at? Like I think when we move further along these things, we have to also remember like, Okay, this person is being kind of like late right now, but you know, let me catch them up, let me school them so we

can all be on the same page. I haven't responded to her, so maybe I'll just respond with the episodes that she can find. Um the dark skinned woman we've had, and like I said, even even coming up like with our guests, we literally just try to make it so diverse. I almost don't care what people look like any like, even if they can't we can't do video, like if it's someone that doesn't want to be on tape, like, we just want really good content. Yeah, but people of

color is always first. I've never really considered the shame one white one. We've had one white guy, one white girl. I don't think we need anymore. But but you so now I'm gonna think about it. I'm glad she run in because I am going to think about it, and I think it's some It's something to say that I'll

admit it's forgot about. Yeah. Absolutely, yeah, And that's why I also think, like, when you have niggas up here, you can even go through the propaty rolladex to see what type of bitches they be choosing to my mostly be light skin. Let me tell you something. I said

this on the podcast that I was featured on. The dude was saying, it's it's crazy how you're so pro black with white boys, because I don't know what we'll come back to that just because shout out to Chessile who just dropped a book and her husband's white, and people always do the like, oh my gosh, she's so pro black and she's got a white The same with

Childish Game and his white as with Jordan's. People don't get out and like, but this is what I said to him though, I said, listen, I've been with black men that have said to my face and it made me feel terrible like I was light enough or you pretty babies, like there's yeah, like I didn't be like oh no, no, no, I thought with black girls, but like they did they right where you at, like a

little bit mo and like that ship. Yeah love girls said that, and a lot of our guests had had some issues she said, girls like oh no, she said, I like, I like black girls as long as they're mixed with something else. It's pretty much what she said. Oh And everyone was like and yeah, and they were mad that you. They thought that you would have checked her if anyone but or even she said that, So, yeah,

there is a thing with preference. But I still think that there's a way to unfort and she why didn't check since I should have did it? That's your girlfriend, know what I'm saying. We were still saying your girlfriend. Though there's no way I'm going to check your girlfriend. They have checked her because you talk about proa. She was not my girlfriend. Let's stop for a second. It was a lesbian check that we interviewed. Now you see, but bitch was posting her all a social media guy.

Damn anything right, right, But we don't go ahead anyways, before we before we go out, before we before we go out, I do want to line up what we have coming up, guys. Um, So June second, I will be in Brooklyn at girl Mob Day. Come and see me out. I am actually a panelist and we're gonna be discussing sexual liberation and women empowerment. So if you guys are in Brooklyn, um, I'll be posting the flyer all of this week. It's girl Mob Day. This is

the second annual one. Um, It's gonna be nothing but women. There's gonna be a ton of like vendors there to give just good ship for us. It's not free. You guys can purchase tickets. I will be putting the link up for you guys to come purchase tickets. It'll be me and eight other panelists UM discussing everything from mental health, UM wealth and UM sexual liberation. So it's about three panel discussions. There's three three people each panel UM and it's just gonna be a really good time. So I

hope to see you guys out there. And then that's June twond which is this Saturday, and then June six. What we got going on in science at h E y A s s A n t E is my hey, asked Sante and you can find me on Instagram. You can find me on Twitter. I have a show coming up. It's a musical comedy game show called If I Were a Rapper. It is the second time that I'm doing this. I have asked Wheezy to join me and one of my co hosts from the Friends on podcast at look

at Dustin. He's one of those that makes me want to be a gay man. I didn't even go a loue to you. He's wanted like I follow a whole bunch. I would suck the sh out of Dustin. Damn, I thought to myself, this is probably the only opportunity that we will get to be demolished by Dustin. Maybe he did say he was gonna be He said it wasn't even gonna be a competition on the show. He was like, he laughed, like, by the way, what made you pick me? I just think you're fine. I feel like you know what?

But I am not your like I am. It's a you know what. So the show genre is basically just to have people get up and get out and do something. Like when you want to go out and do something, you can go to a club, you can go to a bar, you can come to this game show. And I think it's interesting to do something where people don't just have to sit the whole time, because you know, I'd be having a lot of the musical breaks during the whole thing, seeing the words, and get up and

be drinking. Yeah he had wine last time, y'all. It was only three dollars wine shop. Can you make sure pomp pet oh, yes, that is in stock this time. Yeah, because that ship right out by the time, I want to go get a personal drinking all. Because we're on the subject, my Homeboy has a wine shop in Harlem. It's black owned. It's called Pompet Wines. It's on it's Onnox Avenue backstore. It's on thirty first Street, So go up there and visit the store. Yeah, that's it's I

told you my Homeboys wine shot. That's awesome. It's black. They do wine tasting Thursday, Fridays and Saturday. So if you want to get free. But she don't go about street. So it's but anyways, if if we're gonna continue talking about things to do on the side, If you guys have not known yet, this is our first time actually even really truly mentioning this on the show. We got our live show June twenty two in New York City, and I ain't gonna lie to y'all. We don't know

are we promoting. We got thirty tickets left, so we're dropping this episode tomorrow. Y'all. Tickets probably gonna be sold out this week, So if you want to come, come also there. And I haven't been posting it because I know my friends gonna be late. Got mad I posted it. She's like he's posting the fly with my friends haven't all bought their tickets yet I said they're bad. Okay, they're bad. I just knew, right, it's not bad. It's like they waiting for a check. You know who's flying

here for the show, Carla Veronica. Okay, well shout out. We got our our home girls from Orlando coming up again. Um shot on thirty podcast. My motherfucking bitch, she coming back up here to turn the funk up. Um. But yeah, if you guys are in the New York City area, Um, this is June twenty two, it's a Friday night, come and check us out. Like I said, there's literally thirty tickets left. V I P is sold out, v I P with a T shirt is sold out, and early

bird is sold out. So y'all got two options. Get your life. Um, come and see us. It's gonna be a really good time. It's gonna be really fun. If you came to the first one, you already know how much fun we have. I'm excited to see you guys. Some girls. Because she said she's trying to Wax Wax did say he's coming to so pull up. If you guys want dick offering. Um, there's gonna be Alex's dick. Wax's dick and maybe a Sante's dick. So we're gonna

have dick offers available. We'd be having remember, oh, real quate, real quate before we go, we're about to go, you know, at talking talking about oh, I don't really know about you know, I'm trying to do double anal and maybe they was too big. He was like, that wasn't it.

But anyway, so something is on the front raise their hand, took them mic talking about this is just a pro ho tip you need to get water soluble lou like and gave the tip just like that, and I was I was alry the show, sorry to stop the show, sis, but I was just like because when he's asking us that me and her both haven't even done d P. So we're like, maybe it's just too wet like the louse, and you know, we try to sit here and act

like we know a little bit suction. And that was right in the front to it was right in the front real quick, because I don't think we we said it enough in the beginning of the show. I want to thank every single person who came out to the Atlanta Live show. It was about three d people. I wouldn't have imagined us to do that that size of a crowd. Did you who talks about her dad? Did you see that email? This girl sorry to get sappy at the end, but it was just like so sweet

to me. This girl said that she had like got on the house for the first time or whatever since her dad killed himself. She's like, I have never lied. It was like my first laugh and it felt so good. And I remember her because she was in the front and we were talking about cocky and I was just like, oh my god. But it just made me feel so good because you want to know that like people are there to learn ship and laugh with you and like feel good. It was. It was a feel good show.

Shout out again UM to the Best smone for for hosting making everyone laugh. Y'all had great aass pickup lines um that we were dying listening to backstage. Also shout out to the Plaza Theater Um for housing us. And once again shout out to shet Orgasms, Meling and Milk and Spunk Loop Spunklop. We got you with the spunk Loop. I'll give you the big bottle. We got a big one. I was gonna get away, but I'm gonna give it to you, um next time I see or I have

her bring it to the show on June six. So if you guys wanna again get out and have something fun to do, go out and see Wheezy Dustin and a Sante on June six, next Wednesday, and again I'll be in Brooklyn June two. Thank you guys so very much, UM for tuning in. Make sure you'all follow a Sante everywhere at hey. Asante will put it all of the description in the bio. Thank you again to all of our patrons. Thank you to everybody. Shout out Alex Media,

y'all go sliding his d MS. And this has been yet another episode of horrible decision name by Oh

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