Ep35: P*ssy Is All You Get feat BK Chat

it's a whole little different shout out to Cardi. Well, let's go ahead and get into an intro and then we gonna go ahead and talk about the strong. Welcome to you another episode of Horrible Decisions. This is the

girl ANYB. And I'm Wheezy's motherfucking late. Y'all know we've been talking about these late motherfucker's and she's late, you know Jesus, so she will be joining us in the studio any motherfucking second now, um, and we have our lovely guests in the d You want to go ahead and let our listeners know y'all names, what y'all rep and what platform you guys are ladies? First, baby, I'm Alyssa. Um, we're coming from black Chat and oistly okay, originally a

show from London. Um, it's like at the base show. So it's our online YouTube show and we give a topic and girls and boys just go at it back and forth. So now the ship we like and my name my name Fleet. You know, some people like to call me about my government code. Yo. I want you to know he ain't either. Well he's saying here, trying to sound off and ship he ain't ship, y'all. Hey, listen, I'm not perfect, but you know it all comes from a good place. Man, But I'm trying not to make

some horrible decisions. They're not they're not bad decisions, you know, they're not bad. Always lead to something good sometimes always always. So we were talking about I want to again shout

out CARDIV. She made the number one on Billboard, and I saw one of the topics on y'all shows, you guys, UM debated strippers and if they were wife a bull and if you could look at them a certain way and just kind of the stigma behind women whose trip and she talks about apparently how she was a stripper, how she came from being a stripper to now you know a number one recording on its artist. Absolutely, So what are you guys thoughts on women in this strip

club and women who choose that profession. Are they looked at any specific way? What was the the opinion you had on that. I personally don't think there's nothing wrong with somebody who's a stripper. I said on the show that if my life came to it financially, if my life came down to it financially, I wouldn't mind being a stripper. What does that mean? You wouldn't mind being

a stripper? So, like, if I need the money under certain circumstances, and like's gonna make a clap, right, Like my mom's not helping me, I don't nobody's giving me any type of money. I would, I would consider it. I don't think there's nothing wrong with But yeah, I don't think there's nothing wrong because you're still real hesitant when you even talk about it. It's not like, yeah, I'm gonna go to nursing school and me in our end, Like you're still kind of hesitantly. I mean, I'll be

a stripper if I have to write. Even how you talk about it, you still kind of have you know, kind of a backdround to what it means. So is it because of how other people would look at you? Or what's the hesitant in your voice as to why you may not want to be it? No, I don't care how people look at me. That doesn't bother me. I think, um, the backside of it, like they're they're like worried about their safe at all times, like being disrespected. Um, I don't want a man to feel like, because I'm

a stripper, you can degrade me, like disrespect me. But I feel like that's part of the culture. Unfortunately, it is part of the strip. And we got a man in here. Like, do you feel like men look at females in the trip differently? I think men look as at hors. Definitely, if you out here, put out here putting miledge on your COUCHI and man gonna look at you some type of way. You know what I'm saying? Okay?

And is that only if you out here? I got sleeping with the same crew, Because if a man goes on to a girl's Instagram or meets a girl in the street, he don't know what miledge is on her pussy. Oh you know, the streets always be talking, always gonna come out some holes, and nobody knows any nigga that sees as shure he would like listen, I know Hosy are married right now. I ain't gonna hold you. They've

been practiced for a long time. You know what I'm saying, God with the right nigger, Like, goddamn you that juices for real. You know what I'm saying. So like that's a that's a whole different hole. You know what I'm saying, category of things. But Nick is always gonna talk the streets, always talk. You're gonna hear it happen. What's her name? Um On girls, Kanye West? And you know what I'm saying, Like,

it's always somebody's different situation. She's already famous, so it's gone whether you are in a bigger position or niggas is petty, man, Come on this. We live in an era full of petty niggas right now. If you're out here smashing the team and smashing anybody, nigga's gonna let niggas know. Oh you baha, Okay, all right, we was with her last week. Okay, we hope you're uncovering that, especially if you were good niggas gonna try to look out for you. If he was a whole nigga, they're

gonna let you ride out. Fine, So here's my thing. At any point, does a man sit here and just be like, nigga, mind your business like? So? Do you not sit here and as a man be like? Okay? She put everybody like, when do you When do you guys just sit here and not give a funk about what all these other men think they want to be. We're not knocking that you could be. You could choose not if you bring it up in his face, you can.

If a nigga brings up to your face, that means he got love for you and he's just trying to make sure that you're not You don't you don't go in the wrong direction. He's just trying to make sure you're making the right decisions for your life. You know what I'm saying. But but you know, if the nigga don't tell you, that means you don't like you. Go ahead? Do you think like I listen, if I see my bro hanging around with somebody that got extra miledge on

this ship, I'm like your family. I don't know how long if he's extra knowledge. If he's happy, well he makes so happy because you know, people do change, you know what I'm saying. So, but as females, we're supposed to accept that the nigga have been through man, we got We're not supposed to care about your We we was here first. Wait what we was here? Even here at the same time. I know what you're talking about. Confused, I'm being a little bit sexist, but you know what

I'm saying, completely double standing. Just say hold on, hold up, just saying your Instagram names. So everybody who watches this ship could come at your dumbass, but they say coming at me. Can you say some dumbashi? No, no, niggas, I keep it at buck fifty. Niggas was definitely here first, and we definitely do live because it's written like the book where scripture says Adam was created first and then and then some niggas was here first, exactly first, right.

I I don't know about all of that. I don't know about all of that, but this is what I know. You know what I'm saying. A man was made first, and then after that came a woman. You know what I'm saying. So obviously we're gonna live in a double standard world, or I believe an equal opportunity. I believe equal opportunity, but I was living on a line of double standards. You can't talk about equal opportunity, not less. I was raised by a single parent, you know what

I'm saying. My mom was a single parent, So if she didn't have equal opportunity, I don't think she will be in a position to you know, raise or provide forward financially because my pops. You know what I'm saying. It's like rolling stone. So I definitely do believe it, but it's always that meant. But I'm just saying, like, we just live in a double standard, you know what I'm saying, because we created differently for different purposes. You know what I'm saying. That's that's how I look at it.

That's just my perspective, you know. So I ain't gonna real quick, real quick, how I just think of him. So I'm in school right now, and I love the classes where I get to write an answer because I feel like I could write myself in circles to where the professor may think I know what I'm talking about. That's you, alright, that's what you just did. You just did a whole bunch of talking to where we think we feel you, but we don't know. But it's cool.

It's cool because that's what you know. But it's cool though, because like we always gona not gonna see all the eyes of Venus versus Mars things really that we have, you know, right, So we're gonna go ahead and get into the homemail for this episode, and then we're gonna

get into the kink and hopefully were these year right now? Yes, Um, if you guys want to go ahead and send us homemail, you can send us um your letters, your questions at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com, or send us some d M because y'all love d M s and this one is out of our d M s, so it says, Hi, guys, I have a question. My old best friend as a guy, and I was so in love with him from middle

school to college. Anyways, we hooked up a few times, but it was always on some friendship I guess, friends with benefits I don't know. Fast forward to present. He is getting married in two months and he came over last week for my monthly kick back. Yeah. Wait, let me finish let me finish. He told me that it should have been me that he is married, but he said I didn't want his ask, but I do well I did before his fiance asked me to be in

their wedding, right trifling. I absolutely know that we can't be together because he's pretty much a married man now. But how can I be more flirty? Because I thought I was giving him signs that I wanted him, but I guess they weren't strong enough. Guys tell me all the time, I am too shy. I just want them

to come to me first. Help love you guys, by the way, I'm not gonna say your name that definitely don't know it wasn't damn you like the second guess that be thinking about like no, it made me um, But I feel like this is kind of a question.

I guess we can get it to her and then more so talk about how you're friends with guys or girls that you may have feelings for, and how you let it be known without just staying in a friend zone the whole time for her, right, she's now gonna be a part of the wedding, so I think her trying to come up with ways to flirt with him more. I don't know. I don't understand how that's going to help, because I feel like she just needs to she needs to tell him to cancel that wedding, Like, just cancel

the whole ship. You're gonna make him get married to this girl that he's not happy with, and then you're gonna look a hypocrite because he attended the wedding. But it was the side check the whole time, right, So I feel like she should like, I mean, to me, if he's wedding, I don't know how true it is, of course, but he said you're the one I should be marrying. That's the movie type ship. Like to me if he said this, like maybe you should go and

walk down the aisle. No, you shouldn't get married, and he's settling like a part of him is just like, well, I didn't get you, but this girl likes why not? Just like that? I feel like niggas lie to niggas, nigga, but you know why, niggas be I'm listening because you're the truth never works for us. The truth never works. Listen, I'll be trying to be the truth. I tell I'm telling you all the truth right now. You know what

I'm saying, So I'll be trying the best. Um. But it's just just the way you know the planet in the university. You think it's possible that this her best friend is just saying that to make her feel better. Man, it sounds like a sticky situation. Man. I feel like if they because it could be some feelings. If you can't come up, you can't come up and say, yo,

you're the one I should be married. When you don't put it down payment now and ago, you don't walk down the hour dress on her, everything you can't do I mean, I mean, I would have nothing if he did that, if he really loved this girl that he's talking about. Like listen, man, you you will, you will go to the moon to come right back for But you know what I'm saying, But that's just sticky, crazy situation.

Somebody needs to write a book because she needs that needs to be sold, man, not to be told that should be sold. She should just either talk to him like say, yo, you don't go through with this, or she just needs to get the funk out the wedding, like just say I can't do this. I agree, I don't think she should be a part of it. At this point, I feel I feel sorry for because they sorry for the wife he's married. Niggas is dirty out here, man.

And if they have her in the wedding, like let's say she's like something important like maide of honor, like a bridesman, like imagine they look at her as like a future godmother for like the child or something like yeah, man, my godmother and my stepmother, like right, right right. And the weirdest thing about it is like we're living in a time where a lot of us black men, you know, a lot of you already called it, but right now, like you know, ever since we had Kobe, we have Melo,

we have it's a lot of niggs out here. This is getting caught slipping, making us look bad. But I ain't gonna hold you. I was I was dating. I was dating the Iranian chick, and the whole time we were daming, she was just skeptical, like thinking I was after the whole Kobe situation, she thought I was going

to cheat on har someh. So she had like a very like insecure issue about you know, black men being cheated, you know what I'm saying, And I kind of hurt my heart, because you know, I ain't really the type to be doing all of that. You know, I don't believe you. I don't know why. It's kind of hard. It's kind of hard, but it's definitely the truth. I bet you if I lied, you definitely believe me. But Yeahsion, I hope you make a hard decision this morning. Well, y'all,

guess who just came in studio? Finally people in here? Yeah, no's yourself. You're late. We're just now about to segue into the kink of the week. Dude, I'm so fucked up. She's so hungover. Guys, it's not even allow to you. I did a lot of drinking and other things, horrible decisions things I want to make you fun if I didn't throw up goddamn place. I've been watching you guys this morning like that was my homework. It was in between me leaning over to the trash can and then

having your yeah, girl, okay, catch me up. So we just went through the you know what, I need to play this voice out. I'm so you know, I've been trying to really make this relationship. You see how she just coming and just this dick got this voice. I just can't wait for you to hear this, because this is how bullshit it is. Wait. Was in an open relationship and like, I haven't been doing as much as I should be on the other side with other man, I've been kind of nervous to do it and feeling guilty.

So I came. My name was his wife Win last night, talked to him for twenty minutes. I swear to god, he calls me. My phone was on silent. This is the message he left me at five. He was thinking about you. Oh you get the name out. Damn. I'm like locked out of my friend department. Um, if I can crash on the couch like a hallway or something, that'd be great. And this is this is what yourway. No no no, no, no, because no time time out, time out time. He was keeping a reil. He was trying

to let you know. No, no, no, he really was locked out. And he didn't want you to think what if he didn't meet me thirty minutes before? No no, no, but but but but he didn't want He didn't want you to think he was trying to get some math. That was him trying to get happy. Heard I was so that means he was like oh she's gonna say, yeah, listen, that's exactly why I don't give the pussy out. That's what it was. I'm too expensive, I'd like to eat too much steak, like I just I can't. And so

I'm absolutely fine when not fucking it. It's gonna be when it was like he condor wanted to sleep in your heart, it's the hallway. Is that not fucking trash? Like I know, I think he knew, like you're not leaving, like you're not gonna let nobody stay in your hallway, like you're gonna feel kind come over here. And they had a car anyway, I changed his name of Connor bum. He just would have got blocked. That's what happened. Okay, Well I'm glad you're dating. Because so the next kink

has to do with like a perfect I guess. So we're going to discuss this because I think it's a good topic. So this week is, you know, we don't never know how to say these ships. Anna's temophilia, Anna stage and no bitch alright, So Anna steam affilia is an attraction too smaller, too taller, or shorter partners. And I wanted to discuss this because height limits, so I normally won't talk to a guy like most of the

things on my phone are like six we plus. My last one who I really liked was seven ft two and lawyer Bay is six seven is like something love, So this is what I'm gonna do. Bend down so this is also right, no shape, but I have like a Napoleon complex, and I feel like you're afraid that. Okay, no, bitch, I do have. No I feel way bigger, like I'm only five one, but my nigga, I feel like I'm six four, So I like not only that, like a bitch,

not small. So when I'll be with these tall me because they be using words like maybe you're so tiny, you're so small, and I'd be like, what were do you you think to describe me? They'd be picking me up like it could pick you up to know they cannot can ones that are like juice in the most because they're so like what they like. But the limit might not be the same. You know, you know it might not feel this only you won't hit the ceiling if I sit like they're gonna die. No, I feel

like I'm squishing them. I want to because you can wear your heels can be as tall as you, as tall as and hat having to adjust my heels. Some guy like you got you have just no not but like you know, I'm like up, but you don't got to do it. I think it's mass sexy to have a Well, let me ask you. You're a man, do you like women shorter than you were, taller than you were? Kidding data that she makes happy? You know we're gonna forget. I'm more about I'm really more about vibes, and I

don't know about the height or nothing. It's more about the vibration because she's down there, so she's gonna get quicker to his dick, Like I see that. That's what I do know. I ain't even had to get on the knee, right. I remember that dick second story. He told my mom that. I remember she looked at she like, hey, Dad,

where is it your mom here doing? Do you have a hy perfect You definitely have my high perfect minds a little more emotional than that, But I don't want to get deep because I feel like we're having fun. Do you want me to go so emotional? Guys, I'm just okay, I'm a emo ho, but I'm telling you what. I was in, um, like an emotionally abusive relationship, and I feel like it's because he was short. And his mother told me that she thinks that he used to talk to me like that because he had to feel

like the bigger man. Um. I mean that was actually I feel like that does. I mean, I was in and it almost pissed me off. I was in tears in front of his mom and she's like, you know what, it's because because he's short, baby, damn, that's yeah. And she said that she really believed that in her heart because they got to make up a hight like yeah. I mean even when they're now in public, it's like, nigga, okay, we got it. I don't know. I mean, you know, he would tell me about the shoes I needed to

wear a ship like that. He was very like all about image. And so now I think it's mass sexy if you have a bigger, tall woman, Daniel, I'm okay, that's normal. Yeah, but updated women go a little thicker and some because you're not that short if you're you're dating and check, but they be updated, like two taller women and they were older too as well. So it was just I just like the fact that you know, I'm a little dude going do you like to be

submissive to submissive? Go ahead? Well, I'm serious and nobody who from my button? Don't trying. I don't mean like you're sitting there with like a lesha on, but I mean, like, do you like when women take control? No? No, that that should get annoyed? You know. I feel like every time like sometimes they because these particular women I'm talking about, because they were older and taller, you know, they always wanted to, like, you know, take the lead and tell

me what to do. I'm like, listen, I know you're older than be a girl, but ship, you went with it. That coconut water good. I'm so sorry, dude, I really apologize. And these are expensive to I want to hear and grab mandies coconut and just finished like they're so used to in this neighborhood where at where all the warehouses and parties are ship like people throwing up. These dudes are just watching me at that tattoo shop and I'm like like hacking bits and like you right, So do

you want to segue into the horrible decision? Did you guys do homail? Yep? Kind of what happened? Dude? What is the horrible decision? I thought we would talk about this. Yeah, she's it feels like just a body today. Do you know what? Though we never have like four people on the mic, it's just something we really don't prefer to do. So I just feel really okay because you guys are already doing this. We don't have to anybody like you

do panels like whatever. I'm chilling right. So I guess what we wanted to talk about today for the horrible decision had to do with infidelity. Um, so I want to know have either of you cheated or been cheated on? And if so, did you choose to stay with your partner? And then we'll segue into the open relationship, etcetera, etcetera. But that's the question to both of you. I've cheated before. Oh yeah, and I got cheated on same guy. Yeah, we did it to each other with each other right now.

But it's not him. It's not him, it's not him. That's my daddy. He doesn't do daddy. Now wait, wait this boyfriend, No, this is not the boyfriend I'm talking about. Wait, but you thought have one, you know? Yeah, that's my boyfriend a previous relationship where I cheated and was cheated on because listen, I was like, because we're still fucking yeah, no, I'm still sucking him. But that's my boyfriend. You cheated on him? No? I never cheated on him and cheated

with him. No, okay, you your last boyfriend. Yeah, let's get back to the last boyfriend. So you both cheated on each other? Was it revenge cheating? Did you do it and get caught? Like? How did that happen? I? Whenever I did, I didn't get caught. Women, No, I told I would tell him like my conscience will kill me, so I would tell him, but he would always get called.

And how did he get called? Facebook? Because I stopped your Facebook and I stopped your hold a social media So I find a little ship like she like too many pictures see Mattern's bits right right, you should play like you should be like officers and lawyers. Dude, I want to be an FBI agent for Halloween, but Loki, it's like honestly my everyday living. So yeah, I'm gonna

be a nun because that's my day. Screen shots when the nikkel tells me, like he'd be like, oh, yeah, I'm over here in babe blah blah click, okay, so Saturday and not listen. In an open relationship, the bare minimum you can do is be honest. So I need to catch if you're gonna lie, because then I know you really aren't ship. You feel me? So what made you cheat on him? Like? Was it that you knew he cheated on you? Or were you seeking something else? I think I knew that he was going to cheat,

so I was like, I'll do it first. What I just knew that he wasn't ship, Like, I was like, I'll do it first, but you're not. You did it to save your heart right, so I had it. I was like I featured to it. So he was like, see that's an actual kind of cheating, Like that's smart, that's smart smart He's like to cheat to save their heartbreak? Why why would you even wasn't shipped? I just I couldn't help that I had feelings for him? Did it wasn't hard to cheat? Like? Did you have to really

like go out by something? Like I'm saying because cheating normally is like accidental, but like you have to put effort into it to do it, Like when you're a woman. You go out in the nigga fine and want to fight y'all fucking it's not Yeah, I didn't like the cheating you did. Are you didn't like you? Like I didn't have sex with somebody else. I just like, messed with somebody else? What's messed? I guess right? High school relationship when white guys tell me the word like, oh,

you know we just hooked up. What do that mean? You messed? Like? No, not like that, but like we did, I'm gonna tell you. I'm gonna tell you what mess means. All right, So they made out and he probably put his fingers somewhere it was supposed to be inappropriate. That don't count to me. That don't count fingering, But that's still cheating. Like your man do that? You don't know? You're not gonna be like, that's not The girl gives him my hands automatically think that why think? Are you crazy?

I'm gonna sit here and be like, was she in high school? What then? Are you doing getting a hand job? Ahead? No? No finger and hand job? Yeah? So this is a boyfriend in high school? Yeah, okay, high school ship. This doesn't count. What are we talking about that I'm turning to Okay, yeah, yeah, it doesn't count. Say you're talking

about finger popping and chips. Why you're saying we messed around because like growing as man is sitting there kissing her finger and that I do that because giving guys like anything, you what I have, just like make up and be like I'm not giving you ship like not not it would be like that. Sometimes it depends in like the situation and the time and how tired you My situation, I was tired, so I was like, just give you some roll over? Up because of the cheating

or did you guys break up for another reason? Um, I grew, I just blew out of the relationship just like I want something. So right now you're in a relationship where you don't feel like you have to cheat. Everything secure? Yeah that together, Um they have no reunions, no, no anniversaries going on. How long you have been together? A week on his fingers? Is that eight months? Yeah? That's it to cheat on each other. Yet, so before before we actually got into relationship, we were just friends

for nine months and we didn't do like anything. You never want to him, No, you didn't want to him. He's good looking. It was hard, but he didn't. I don't know. We just didn't like it just never happened. I was never He's light skinned with a beard, and you trust him now? How yeah? I trust him. He doesn't look like the truck's worthy type. He he has dimpal so you're probably crazy crazy mean, I get it. Okay, So actually, real quick, this is not this is I'm weazy,

she literally has. So can we get the video someone? I want to play the audio from this video because now that we're talking about her boyfriend, I want to discuss. Sorry, this is not about cheating, but it could be about cheating, because I feel like this is a good reason for someone to cheat with your motherfucking mindset. So we're gonna play this motherfucking video real quick, and I want you to listen because you ain't hurt a bit because you

ain't do your research. She said she watched it this morning. Okay, well I'm going to play it. So the infidelity conversation so different, So litt listen. I'm gonna play it for you guys. Nothing nothing I said there and I got what I want. Wait, do you cook if you want? That's all? He is pissed. Bro, this is great. I'm just saying this. You're like, oh, it's my my magical pussy like your pussy. You know, everyone pussy is. Pussy is special, irish rare. Every other chick is walking around

with Did you already play this listening? No, I haven't come here for a second. I'm serious, come here. I'm just motioning your boyfriend to come here. How long did you do that? Um that that video was like July we recorded them. Okay, so you guys are together. Yes, when you watched it, how do you feel nothing? Get nothing about it? It didn't make you feel like ship when you watched it, because I'm not here to do anything for me? What if he said that about you?

I want to care? What do you didn't care that? He pretty much said I do nothing for my female I got this, did she need money? And I got she need? Well that wasn't hold. So that's that's the part. That's the video that's going right roll on Twitter. Right, that's the only thing. But if you watched the whole entire show, I actually like I talk about like other

things that I do do for him. But it's just like I didn't like being asked the question of like housewife, Like they asked me, like do I cook for him? Why do I have to cook for him? Why don't Why don't I ever get asked does my boyfriend cooked for me? Do you live together? So wait, like raven together? Almost like probably another year, you will write, someone's least gonna be up man name. Let's let us rent. So

this sounds like they're splitting rent for sure. I just I'm really curious, Like, so what do you like are you with you both working unto five? Like we don't have a job, okay, so like you both work for the hours a week, so that's a lot of time. Are you ever gonna feel like if the house is dirty that you gotta blame her for that. We're gonna both be working. It depends on who has the time during the day to actually come home if we ever get to that point where were living together, who actually

had the time of day to um do the shorts first? Right, It's like I work from I work from seven to six, two jobs and I go to school from That's a lot. So you are you in school and work too? I just graduated, so you do a lot more out of the house. So like, are you gonna feel like you have more responsible now. The thing is, I'm not gonna lie right now. It makes sense. All he got time

for the diamond bussy. That's all she got. Like and at that time you get home as good Old Sam would be good as health time guys, Honey, turkey and cheese, sandwich, some chips on us soft. It's good. Yeah. But when we started our relationship, I've always said that, and I always tell guys that, like, I'm not I'm not about to be your housewife. I'm not to be in the house like cooking for you while you'll here cheating like

I see my wait, my mom was scorn brol. My mom was the thank you boyfriend, we're gonna we're gonna try to get your girlfriend. No, no, Look, so my mom was with my stepfather for years. My mom done had the house nice and clean for him every single day to come home from work. What ch your background? By the way, you I'm Dominican. So she had the house nice and clean. Friend where he came home, he didn't have to deal with the kids because they were

already in bed. Homework was done, the house was nice and clean, his food was nice and cooked. He didn't have to do ship, but come home she didn't work or nothing. So I guess it was just like that, like, Okay, you're bringing the money, I'll do I'll do the housewife stuff. She did all of that, raised all his kids and still got cheated on. So I just don't Okay, okay, you didn't. We I mean, you have a new man,

new relationship. We gotta stop harvoring them old feelings, right, And so he's at work and in school, so like really holding it down because eventually, like we want you to not work. Though, do you feel like, whether it's because maybe you're not married or something like that, that you shouldn't have to hold those household duties down. I mean, especially when you're a man is going to be that busy.

Let's say you do live together, but we're both that busy and like I really just graduated college, like what

he or something like, we're both that busy. I just feel like, unfortunately, and I'll sit here and say this because I feel like so many guys right now got bitch as tendencies, and it's because so many females aren't embracing the roles of women anymore either, and they out here I can like niggas and to me, I feel like as a woman yet and as a woman, there's certain things that we should do and our man should want us for. And I kind of wanted to ask

you this, but you're not on the mic anymore. But I wanted to know, like, besides pussy, what else are you offering that? What else can you bring as a female? What else? I mean besides the pussy? Do you do you want to say? I mean, I would like to know. Does I mean? I get it? It's a magical pussy, because let's be real, like, right, you're cute like bear tats? Why her? You know you? I'm sure you have a bunch of girls. So what made you want to wipe her?

Because we're single? No, but really, especially when after you hear you say all right, honestly, she was honest from the drum, from the minute that we started talking. She told me from the drump that she will not cooking me. This girl then told me she was never gonna love me, she would never have sex with me, she would never be with me because of the already, because of the

background I had. So but this is what I'm saying, Like, it's more It's more like when she had that conversation, I didn't get upset abody because she does cook well. People were making a seem like she was like, I have to obligate her to make me a me She's not obligated to make me a meal my mother. My mother raised me to never depend on the female. So I work harder than I make the money that could buy my own food if I want to make something, and I know how to cook, so I can cook

for her as well. It's equality. We can do things for each other. Okay, it's most people like she from the jump, from the minute we got together, she was honestly like, I'm not gonna cook. I don't cook. I don't know how to. I'm like holding something back that I don't know. Don't don't cute, They're very cute. No, No, But the thing is, I think I hate I hate being asked what do I have to bring to the table?

Let feel like a man is never I absolutely agree with you, especially as a self proclaimed feminist, but I also know that with longevity, right, Like, I've just seen relationships over and over time after time. Think about when you have a guy that wants to cheat on their girlfriend. What's the first thing they say, she doesn't do this. But if we go by that, that's bullshit because I can give him. I can give a guy the world, But I've said that about man when I've cheated. He's

not making me feel wanted. He's not doing these things or whatever, he's not taking me out on date. You can do all of that and they will still cheat, Like they're still gonna cheat that. But I don't they like, I don't think I'm like in my I don't start the relationship thinking if I cook this Nike is still might go out a bit. No, No, I just don't. That's just it's not like I don't like to do it for a man. I just I don't like to cook,

Like even before I got to relationship with him. My thing is I want to be so rich I can hire a chef one day, like that's never paid. My mentality like come home, Like I don't know, is there anything you enjoy about like taking care of whether it be laundry or like something like that you like doing for him or do you really have this like mentality like I'm not doing ship you're grown as man. Some women do, which is what it seems like you are.

But is there anything you do? For example, I stay to do there's a lot of money, so when he I know he takes care of ship, and I'd like to clean his house. I do. Sometimes he'll come back and I liked him to know his house was clean. Whatever. That's something that I like to do. It makes me feel good. It's not because I feel like I have to. He doesn't ask me. I like to make the bed, like to fold his clothes if they were in the corner, or whatever, clean things up like. I like him knowing

that I can do that. Now I've done things like that for him. But there is there any things that you enjoy doing? Or do you feel bitter about it? Because he sounds now it sounds it sounds like you don't like doing these things. I mean, I don't know. I just enjoy him like I enjoy being with my man. I don't know, Like we stop putting pressure on relationship. I want to know this because we do have another guy in the building. Would you date a female with that?

And why? Because I'm not playing that. How do you I'm twenty nine years I'm huh different. Now I feel like we gotta play ball. Man, relationship is all about playing ball, and the house gotta get clean somehow somewhere. If we're going if we're gonna hire somebody to do that because we're both busy, then we're playing ball. That's that's the agreement we're gonna But I gotta make sure that my girl knows how to handle these things so that way that could be passing on to my daughter

or you know what I'm saying. She can't clean the house, She's gotta be able to. I've cleaned his house, like there's been times like babe, I'm gonna go play basketball. I'm just chilling his house. And I have cleaned his home before. And there's been times where I'm home and he's in my house and I wake up and he has breakfast ready for me. I just don't people are making it seem like I had, like these are things that I have to do, Like I just don't think

I have. Do you think there's anything for you in your relationship? When're looking for women, they do have to do? Not have to excuse me. I don't take that word back, like the pressure like right right, do you need? I just feel like apart from their emotional things because listen, man, it's like it's a million and ones like on that tape, there's just like a billion pussy's on the planet, all right, So so so being there's a lot and the fact

that women mature and get old a lot faster. My whole thing is, you don't want a younger female coming in the game with a little bit of like you know, juice and knows how to do these extra things. And then you know what I'm saying, costract the nigger, and you know what I'm saying, he and he looks at it like, oh ship, my girl, don't do that, My girl, don't do that. So it's easier for I'm to speaking

that I choose to do those things. And those the reason I know my nigga needs to wake up and comment like a little hole on my Instagram just like the other ones. Well you need to be thirsty for not only that, I wanted to bring a question to you because I'm thinking of myself while y'all are answering this, what do you expect from him? Before you answer that, I'll give you where this question comes from. To me, my man, I want to be I feel like a

man's job is to provide. So I'm not spilling bills. Sorry, bro, that's not me. We've discussied, we've we've had this discussion. So as a man and his job to be as a provider, I didn't grow up with that. I grew up in a single parent household as well, which is why since then every nigga fun has been rich because I'm not dealing with no broadcast nigga. And so I feel like, as a man, who I'm expecting to provide, to pay the bills, to take care of the house.

Guess that's why I clean the house. Right. As a female, I feel like, yeah, I'm gonna suck you. I'm gonna do all this. You're not gonna make me suck you. Fuck you clean the house, wash the dishes, do all this and then expect me to split the rent. So to me, as you've got magical because but so to me, I feel like if I'm expecting that from him, like listen, I feel like, you need to be the provider and

you need to take care of the household. The least I can do, not feeling an obligation, but the least I can do is make the house clean, make sure that the dishes washed the laungest. I am so proud of your daughter right now, let me tell you, because you really ain't ship, I am really mind saying that you don't talk like this privately with me. Well, you don't talk privately no more. I've never heard you say that. Me and crystill talk about it. We we debate this

so much. I've almost heard you talk more like her. No, I'm serious. I've heard you say like, he's gonna do this, this this for me. I've never heard you say, well, that's why I ain't having sex, because I'm in the right where I'm not dealing with the boys because they look good no more. I'm looking for a man, and this is as what I'm looking for in a man. It's him to be a provider. And because he's a provider, I know that I can clean house. I know that, and I know that I should do that because I

want to guy to provide. Which is why I'm asking you, what do you want from him? What are you expecting from him as a man? I just want him to always be honest with me. This is what you want to But I've never I've never said you're just enjoying it.

I've never I've never been there, even before being with I've never been the kind of girl where I want I don't want a guy to want to take care of me and then like possibly have that ship thrown in my face like I'm okay, Like I feel like I'm gonna have enough money to to provide for myself, like financially, be okay. I don't want a guy to ever throw that in my face, like I did this for you, like I don't. I don't know, Well, it's not necessarily for you. If you lived together, you did

this for us. It's for us, this for us or whatever you're like holding on the fort. I'm gonna be honest with you. I mean, like in eight months, and I trust me, I'm not doing this in a shitty way. But I know at twenty two, I don't know if I thought about things like that because I just enjoyed being in love now. And you know it's true. The cynicism like that I give off is because I don't have time to waste anymore. We're feeling like I can't, so I'm looking for different. I can't fall in love

like this anymore and not know about these things. Oh and and even when getting into a relationship, it's like, do I see myself man and this man that's five years later? Like it's crazy how like it changes. I don't know if it's because maybe just like this dude, right, I don't know if I make too much now, if I got too many bills going on. I don't know what it is in my life that like I can't just feel like all I need is honesty or not only that I talked about seven and all my friends

are like, why didn't you make him your boyfriend? Dada da da? And to me, I'm now, I literally graduated in December and I'm going into accounting of finance. And when I see tattoos on your neck, I'm like, oh my god, can I take him to my Christmas party for my company? How will they? How will my um co workers look at me? And stuff like that. But you can't think about stuff like that. But but as a grown ass woman, I do care. As a grown ass woman, I do care about what my husband looks like.

Do I want someone who's sagging his pants because he's going to be a representation of me, I mean pants and he makes you happy? So what you want a man to be judgment because you're not perfect, even none of y'all both for you. We got somebody that I want to say something. We got someone else in the studio. Y'all go ahead and drop with you. She wanted to say something real bad up because I understand what is

coming from, Like you have to understand. It's nice to be able to be a woman and be able to cook for your man, clean free man, and do all the necessary responsibilities. I didn't grow up in a single parent household. I grew up with both my parents, my mom and my dad, and I've seen my mom literally be Melyssa where she told my father there was a point in time where my mother was in school full time and my father was doing all the women duties in the household, and they were maddening in love with

each other. Still, my father has never cheated on my mother, not one moment in their relationship. And I feel like one thing that we get misconstrued, especially in our generation, is we have to uphold a certain image before we can obtain a certain type of love, and we keep forgetting that it's not only the characteristics that you have, but a lot of emotions also. How are you guys. Emotionally, it's nice to have a man that presents himself properly.

It's nice to have a man that's rich. It's nice to have a man that has that proper nice to fiver works in the bank or as a lawyer. But then after that, what else is? You know what? I don't want to cut you off, but you just made me think of something. Why we're talking like this and why you are expecting something different? When you just asked what does she expect to him? She said one thing that was honestly, we are expecting way more things, and

that's why we're willing to give more. So you aren't going to give all this ship because you ain't ask him for much, you know what I mean? So like that is just the difference and what we're looking for you want to have. You got to jump out his seat real quickly, finished, and then he got something you don't know what? You know what I'm saying. I'm sitting here, you and I are working for huge fucking companies, man, and like I can't do that either. I just can't.

It's not right for my lifestyle right now or whatever. I can't. So I completely understand why I need a man to have these things. I don't need you to be a lawyer. I'm dating an entrepreneur, but I need you to be able to carry yourself out. I had to text on the other day by one, right, I mean, but no, but like what she's saying, she dude, she's talking about as a rapper, and like righteous you can I know, but you know, I mean, we're looking for

something different. That's what we're offering as much as we are willing to. But but but then again, you guys did not decide who you got fall in love with, right, because it's emotional. It's an emotional attraction thing, you know what I mean. So you know, you're saying that you're not going rock with a dude because he got tattoos on his neck and sagging his pants him in the bedroom. But are you going out of that? But what I mean that there's like women that okay, like so I

ain't gonna knock you. I got some girls that i'd be like that. But but then again, you just you just don't know who eventually, like the motions are going to build up. No, yeah, that's what happened. Like I did not think I was gonna fall for him, and I was like, yeo, why is he so funking on everything? He's like and I take you on the I was like, leave me, I'm not going to take with you. And I kept rejecting him, rejected him, and I started to like I was like a fucking shout, I like him.

And then I was like no, I gotta stay away from and I try. I was like, yeah, we can't talk like I actually like you, so you need to like stay away and I'm just like in love and I'm like funk, like you really tried until I gave in, and it like I didn't know what that magic trick was because I might need a tip of two men talk to you know what? The thing he had to

wait nine months for this. Wait hold on nine moms he waited for and then we were talking for like less than a month, and it was like, I want to celebrate. Were just friends, look if it was a friendship. He didn't wait. No, no, so we started talking. We talked for nine months and then that's where we kind of build our friendship through there. So we were the first month it was like less than a month for something. He was like, um, I want to I've never been.

I've never celebrated my birthday and I was like, like, I'm mad, big on that's my birthday, Like, oh year, my birthday is just one day a year like. So he was like, I want to go to Miami for more. I said, alright, cool, seems like can I take you? I said yeah. I was like, if you take me to Miami, just no, I'm not sucking you, like, don't take don't fly me out because you think I'm gonna get pussy, because that's that's not the kind of girl. I am not sucking you. So no, he look, listen, heels.

I shouldn't have got on that flight. But he was like, I'm not expecting you to suck men like Miami. No, we did? Did you want? I wanted to and I did. I don't know. I just it's something like in my corshes that doesn't even like I have to feel comfortable with you in order to do it. Okay, no, no, no, no, this was no. This was the first month, Like I'm not I get it because like for me, I feel

the same way, like the whole flyout thing. It makes you feel like okay, now I gotta suck you like, no, right, so I won't get on a flight, but I'm not making someone someone whatever, like but the thing is like what kept like, I don't know what is it? I

just I'm just I don't know. I feel like like it's it's it's I just don't think I should have to give my pussy out that fast, like I don't know, I feel like but it was no, not no, no, no no. This was the first month, the first month that we started talking, he offered to take me to Miami, okay, And then after that that's when like, hold, I need to know you were like sleeping in the bed together, like we were sleeping. We were sleeping. One day, we got real drunk and went wet least um. Then we

headed over to the hotel room. We took some shots and I was like, yo, I'm going to sleep, and I went to sleep, and then I spelled asleep but like my thong, and he was just like, you're going to sleep in yourself childish because as someone who's not even giving a pussy, why are you sleeping in the bed with a dong? No, I was drunk as chopping kind to say this, and so this is the boy's ready to get it out. So coming from my like not my background, but like the type of guy I

was proughd to this. I've never been rejected from a female ever. And it's gonna sound like I'm being extremely conceived about it, but I've never been believe, I've never I've never I've never had to wait for pussy before. Ever. The simple fact that she made me wait those nine months it had me thinking like, if she made me wait, that means she never suck the man before. That means something about how must be special? That was one I'm twenty four. Wait now, had you've had a one night

stand before? Right? No? I never had a one night stand you see if that's a different but she she haven't, but I have before. And the fact that she didn't do it to me when we are in a different state, You're making all dudes wait like this, are you quick? No, I've never d like, I don't. I don't say like nine months, I just wait what I feel like, I'm comfortable enough to you, you've never felt comfortable in a week? Hell no, really other for thirty five minutes. It seems

like much longer. You know. It's funny because like when I was listening to you talk like it's funny now how because you're like to blah blah blah and super open, but like no, no exactly. And that's what's crazy because my friends are watching and they're like, you're not even like this, and I'm like, well, if I if I came down to it, like I would strip if something happened in my life, I would. And then the girl asked me, what do you what do you do when

your man is hungry? Like that ship irritated the so out of me, Like, don't fucking ask what I'll do if he's hungry. Asked me what the funk he does when I'm hungry like that that ship? That ship bothered me, Like why he got to be hungry? I don't get know what that would have pissed me off to. And then people are like I need making airplane right, And then people are like on Twitter like so it's not about like um cooking for him, it's about keeping him nurtured.

So I don't need to be healthy. I don't need to, but you're gonna no. But people are making it like, oh man, priority comes first before mine, and it's like, no, if I've cooked for us right, and I'm like, ya,

I'm hungry. I'm gonna cook something. But it ain't like, oh, I see when they got on you, but from that reaction because I maybe maybe would have had the same But now hearing that you say, all you want from him is honesty, girl, I don't blame you said I really all you want is just the relationship you have. You're not thinking about anything else right now, so like there is nothing else to get, Like yeah, for what, that's a hope that, like long term, I think that

financially will be fine. Like we're both in college and he's going to get his PhD because I'm playing that ship. So he's gonna get his PhD. And what are your degrees? I have a degree in psychology and women's studdies. Nice. Well, I'm going to school for exercise science and coodnesiology to become a fitness trainer. I'm trying to open up my own gym teacher working bot event now. So it's good.

So I hope that finally, like finance, you're talking about him getting a PhD. I'm going I'm gonna get one too, Because I was going to say psychologies don't make sure you're not making no money. It's boy, we're going I have plan on going to That's one of those degrees that I try to steer people away from getting um. So, as long as you have like an end goal in what you want with that degree, I think that's that's

definitely great, but it's definitely you need more interesting. To me, it's the most attractive field me too, Like I love you, don't get out. Yeah, but like when you love it, like they said, when you love it, you'll find a way to make love. Don't pay the bills. No, but I want to go. I want to go ready far with it. I'm still like trying to figure out exactly what. At first, I went into college with the mindset that I wanted to become a psychiatrist and be able to

provide people medication. I realized I don't. I no longer have that passion, and I think that for me, I want to be able to do because I would love to dig into your script. No, yeah, me too. I want to be like take that ship. But like I just lost interest. So for me now, I feel like I want to provide reason. I want to provide psychological services to women who have been breaped. That's where my heart's right, that's like where I'm just like, so that's

where i'm That's where I'm good for you, girl. I like that. I like that too. Sorry, No, I was gonna say, like she specifies her psychology into a specific format, maybe like for a specific sports team or something. It's still beyond a bachelor's you have to do masters and then you have to at least get a PhD in psychology any sort of like real money of course, and I hate to differentiate between real money and fake money,

but there's a difference. And it's the thing, like there's a lot of people who major in psychology, so more people that major in it, the less money was right, The demand isn't the time because it's an oversaturated um you know, like talk space is super popular. Now you can make your own ship girl just a woman's hotline. And right now, ain't pays for the girl? Are you talking about? Pays for that? Hey to place? But let's right, but we gotta go ahead and this up. Guys. Thank

you guys so much for coming on. Where can our listeners find you? Guys, We're not gonna put the boyfriend's Instagram out there because that's just all bad just out here, like I could be your boyfriend's girlfriend. So where can they find you, guys? Where can they find b K chat or YouTube b K chat? Um, there's a New York one and a London one. If YouTube b K chat and we'll see you get to watch the shows. It's just a debate show about you know, when male

and female perspectives. And you can get to see different characters in New York, um, you know, discussing different you guys have an audience that watches it. Yeah, it's mainly right now, I think it's crazy. Man, they'be throwing the ship out of me now. I feel like right now that I think, correct me if I'm wrong. I think it's mainly like like an African audience, and I think that's why I'm We have a large African morning. And I was gonna say, I saw you were the most

vocal and then a girl name esterday. It was really driving me crazy. Well, I'm not gonna lie, I super. I was hoping we got to London house so over it, bro, and she was like, no, I got my body done. But you know I'm not gonna be a stripper. I mean but whatever, and then you had to come in there and be like, now he got upset because she was like, I got my body that He's like, how do you get your body done? And you don't twork? You're never gonna catch me working, girl, And you can

get your body done to work. Guys, if you guys want to hear more of these type of debates in conversations, I know we have a ton on the show, but you guys can follow them on YouTube and be K chat and you want to let them know something else. Yeah, So it's b K chat World on Instagram and then b K Chat on YouTube. There's two different type of

shows under that out right now. It's one for New York City, which are these guys, and then one for London, which is and I love them accents on about the show with the London, just the way they talk and they'll pronounces be like when I can talk to production because they need to be on at least the next one. So and you pushed ahead of you. But if that was crazy topic these bitches is hard. We know. Hey, thank you guys for listening to get another episode of Horrible Decision. Definitely by