Ep26: Decisions with Jade and X.D

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a little it's very light cy p time. Um, so we're gonna introduce at least one of them, and then when the other one comes in, she can do okay, so who else do we have in the studio right now. Do you want to introduce yourself? Oh? Sure, it's x d um a k A the Chuck d of Homosexuality, a k A homo without a pause, A gay z a k A factific a k A Hoisha a k A because Nickel, we all got pain. Did you say gazzy? He said gay? See? He said how Isha? That was great?

I think you got still that name. You gotta could be You could be me, y'all. Our other guests actually just came in right on time, so we I know, we just gonna throw you in time. We are told you in the mix. Girl. Um, do you want to introduce yourself to our listeners? Oh, I'm not as fancy as ext It's Jade a k Jada al jadesk ak A Griselda Negra a k A your mom. So if you guys don't know, these are the wonderful host of the Jada Next Show. Um, they also have a podcast.

They're a little bit more lit. If y'all hate Wayne our episodes, they dropped bout two or three or four or five a week. God damn kid, when you started getting grown, I'm like, oh, she's married. So they don't live together. How many do they? How do they do this? We pretty much lived together used to anyway. Your husband, yeah, for what husband is actually right here? Yeah. I'm always like imagining people that are married and happy with ugly husbands.

I'd be like, that's why they're happy, like whatever, Like something's got to be wrong. Listen, people eat, people will d M me and be like, listen, girl, I love your shows. I think they're great all of that. Your family is beautiful, but check it. Your husband is fine. I'm like, that's chocolate. You know, you've got to feel good, I think because like I know my nig is fine. I know what kind of girl? Everything whatever? I just

never mind, never mind, just saw the screen. So I do want to say, Um, I was talking to her about your show. Um, nigga Peace Theater is my motherfucking shit. Um. I don't know if you guys, um listen to the JA the next show. Um. But basically what they do is they do something really cool and I mean it's kind of um or get too for you guys. I've never heard it from a podcast. So what they do

they have? Like these thirty minutes segments where x D actually started, Um, he wrote two chapters I believe, to start with, and then Jade finished them with two more chapters. So basically, weekly you're listening to a story that neither of them knows what's coming next. This one, we're the next one. Because if you, guys can just give a summary of your last one, I would love our listeners to listen to him because I was, I was at my desk, like, no, he did it. It was really good.

So can you give like a summary of what so, Nicko, Peace Theater is exactly how you described it. It's it's a story that Jade and I have written and we don't know how it's going to well, we soon will know how it's going to end. But it's a story about Trevor and Bianca Um and it's a story of their their wacky love tales. Um. Trevor is a doctor at Columbia, fictitiously and his wife is a transwomen prostitute dominatrix, dominatrix, and he knows that she's a prostitute. Yeah, and it's

okay with her being a sex worker. And they don't have sex, and they don't they've never had sex at all. And then it answer Twine. Yeah. I don't want to give any spoilers, but the story takes a lot of twists and turns and I've created these characters in my mind and I'm listening to it. You guys read it very well. Um, it's just something that I get different. It's you know, not pop. We started this right after our first live show in l A. So I guess

since excuse me, well, we stopped for a minute. And because we're releasing a book and comes out September three, wait with Trevor and Bianca finish finished the story. That's why we stopped. Yeah, so everybody will be able to purchase the ending of the book. That no, that is awesome. So yeah, if you guys haven't yet, um, Jaden x D. You guys are on iTunes and SoundCloud look up theater. Oh not SoundCloud, Remember we were trying to look them up.

I'm subscribed and you have a new podcast, yes, Getting Grown. Getting Grown is on the Loudspeakers Network. Um we are. We talk about all things adulting and how to do so while we're trying to figure it out at the same time. I'm surprised how much I enjoy it because I'm like when it has kids over here talking about I mean, how did I get a kid? No, like, it's funny like podcast honestly, like so Dubrid for tending.

She's like, you've got to listen to this, and no shape, I'm just saying what she described at first, that's like mental health. I'm like, I'm good. And I was really really surprised how much I enjoyed it. Even listening to the story about your kid was like so fun to listen to the birthday party ship because I'm because that's so like I'm just gonna give I'm just gonna give

it to you like that. And then kid is too gave a great part about it because and so we tried to make that different about this sex podcast because so we both work in corporate America. People bleep it, but um, I already tell how many works huge company, and so like we cross passed again. We had been friends five years ago. I didn't talk for five years.

Y'all have beef. We did have asking on the show, like you guys make it because it sounds like about to break up a lot, maybe text me one day I was like, you know what, I don't want to do this without you so call me when you're ready and actually making me sound like the bigger person because I was ready to risk it all and just wap

my ass away you. Anyway, when I ran into Mandy right, she was like just doing amazing things that I had moved to New York for a great job, and I noticed we both still had this like oh ship in us, And I was like, wouldn't it be great? It's the screen. We could talk about changing it. I maybe keep it. Yeah, well the way our jobs are set up, but I may be taking on a new role. And so they're like, the podcast is great, but the banana by your mouth,

I'll have to listen. Then I say, I came to HR no no, yeah, yeah, I came to HR the day I was gonna make it, and I'm like, listen, I want to start a podcast. I read up on our guidelines. I just want to know how I can do this. Is this okay? And they're like yeah, I'm like because it's about sex. She's like yeah, that's fine. I'm like it right, it's about HR. I said, there's bananas. I said, we're going to call it and she's like, well, well, what is it? Curs? Right? There and said it's horror

in there. She's like, well, as long as you separated from this company. I mean, they don't bleep that word out on TV, so I think it's fine. Yeah, I sure didn't, because they did on Real Housewives of New Jersey when it was So. What we like to do, um, and how we like to start our show is we like to have kinks on our show. And these kinks, UM, sometimes we know them, sometimes we don't, but we find the actual terminology of these things. Um. And she has a great one, and maybe you guys can try to

guess if you guys know what it is. She's going to read the definite. Do you have the definition to the kink for me? Um? I've been taking pictures of dudes on the subway with like with their ankles out, and I'm like, why am I sell into this? It's called partialism, and it's when you have arousal to a body part that's other than a reproductive organ. Do you do you have one a kink? Or is there something that attract you to a person other than a reproductive organ?

So the name of the next oh yeah that chest. Yeah, I'm not really into rests, you know, I think feet you like, you know, this is not where you're ready for. Have you ever been sucking dick and someone put a toe in your ass? What you know what? You don't answer that? Don't answer that? Wait why look look at them? No that has that has No, that has never happened, that has been asked me. Yeah, they're like you've been talking about these people? Yeah, so you put them in

your mouth? Yeah, like when I would. Yeah, I'm something new every day. Friends don't said you don't fetish, not like that, not everybody. Yeah, I got to really know. Has there ever been something with sent with me? I'm curious? Um sent Maybe I think it's because I guess. Another fetish I guess I have is like musk smell from like okay, but I feel like but like feet, but feet smell is different than like musky. Like my friend Binny sprays the paramount to be like basic coming out

the night. Yeah, and they do he do? He carrying his little bottle of pharamony? Want to him sometimes? Do you do you have a fetish for anything other than you better be listening over their husband? Oh he what white? Does the husband know? What is it? What's she like about you, that's not a reproductive organ. Can a bear does the beer? I want to ride? So I just yeah, I like it just because I know that means they're smell you. How long you guys been together? Six years now?

Have you always had a beard? Have you been fucked more since you've had the beer? Yeah? I always get some and that's why. So what about you? You said you have a thing for ankles when I've be seen him with the joggers on and the ankle like a skinny ankle or you like a thick ankle. Yeah, what is it? I don't know, dude, I'd be like this nigg gut ankle. Mine is super super weird. I have

a thing for Adams apples, then attraction. If the nigga has a huge atoms apple, like, I'll literally play with it like it's a little click like it's okay if we're laying down, like you don't like Adams apples, I prefer you not me. So out there I love big Adams apples. I only really see it, like really pronounced

Adams apples on like white boys. Yeah, really, you know what, they'd be mixed because I always got black all my kind of thing they'by black and soft and else, like I had a black and white really six six one. He keeps super skinny, like honestly, my friend was like, oh my god, you like super little. No, um what do they do now? What are you doing the league? No? No, he used to. He used to be with um so monkey like he did clothes and stuff. Okay, who's black,

half black, half Asian would do he didn't. Yeah, he listens to the sole election. Y'all know him so well. Dresses like a tree, a lot of browns. But he does that look now where he does the fitted and then the long shorts. Well actually has his hair grown dyed blonde Japan. Maybe I can get one of Maybe I can get a black girl. I lived in Singapore and there's no blazings over there in real life, like they're all here. First of all, I'll bring your fucking

energy from not that that attitude. I was gonna say, you could dance on like he's gonna be able to dance with you. But like all the Asians are on a B D do everything. Well, yeah, because he said Asians are from the future. Do you see how they dressed like at why three ship? Yeah, from a budget in my trip for why three? Yeah? Oh okay, so I have you ever? Um, it's funny because I made it just for you've been luckily we had j come on and I feel like all the questions fit. The

first one is have you ever slept with a woman? Oh? Yeah, you slept with a woman? How many one? And you never went back? Yeah? No? Oh, I said with the guy. Well, I had oral with a man with a boy first, and then then I was like, oh my god, this is really crazy. And I was like oh, because then you know, I was like, okay, maybe I needn't you know, try a girl, because you know, you have all your older cousins like no, no, no, you can and so

and then I'll never forget these words. My cousin was just like, whatever you do, don't go white, go light what And that meant what get a life girl, don't get a white girl. So it's common right, like don't go, don't go like I have one goal star game friend and all of them only one woman that I think

you had just super feeding. It just wasn't for me, like you know some people are in the yeah, because it was like general friction, you know what I mean, Like if you so, we've only had one gay man prior and then he was one of my best friends. And he talked about connections. Yes, he talked about connections with women and how he's like sometimes he talked about scale fuck. He said, some days, some moments, I've had connections with women that make me think it's sexual. You

experienced that, and is that what happened that time? Uh? No, I think I think it was more of like I'm doing this at a peer pressure kind of thing, So it just wasn't something I was like really really into. No, what, don't be diverting the question to him. We're coming to you here. Have you been with a girl? Have you been with a girl? You have children? I'm don't be

honest with you. I totally feel like you have only because I've just been like all the famis would go for you, bro, because you're like girly but like up tats. And then those nine girl came up to me at Afro Punk a week because we did a meet and greet. Awesome and look at the lifeles one more time, just a meet and greeting. I'm sure you guys have heard

of that. We just got a seventy first review. Y'all about to do that, You're about to do so this drug came up and he's there because he's everywhere with me and um, and she's like, you know, I know you're married and I know you straight, but I just wanted to I got the biggest crush. She was hot. No, I mean no, stop. I can't say I wasn't looking at her like that. Okay, she was a pretty girl though she had these two locks. They were nice. No. I was like, sounds like to me. Now that's me

to my next question. Now I'm in an open relationship and um, yeah, and that's what we're going to add. Have you been on dates? And like we only like so far we've been doing dates the same night. Have you guys been Are you in an open relationship or have you tried an open relationship prior to your husband or No, I'm the closest thing I've got into open relationship is we're not in a relationship. What about three suns?

Are you open to that? You know, maybe once upon a time, but no, not now I'm not because my whole thing is, like my view has changed in the person who I'm with, this who I'm with and just even the thought of one and to share them with somebody else, I'm like, I don't. I don't want to do that, like you know this is I no, Like

I don't want to share that with anybody else. Exce do you ever like talk like fantasized about it or like like if you see it on or like start have you talked about your in sex or we've talked about it period? Definitely like come up in conversation. Um, and I think my views have changed as I've had a child and involved a little bit. Look, I'm bringing getting girl. Why Honestly, that's what we wanted you here and and both of you are totally different from us, absolutely,

you know. So because she wanted to open relationships, I'm trying to be on some swinging ships. So listen, judgment got friends, We have friends who swing. It's just it's just not for me. It's just not for me. No, I don't want to. Are you attracted? I mean, see, I'm attracted to women, so I feel like I'm giving something. I think women are beautiful. I can definitely appreciate a woman, like I think women are beautiful. But see, thinking a woman is beautiful and wanting to eat their pussy or

two different things. A bit, just a little bit dealing with a lot of talestly lately. Um, he's in Europe in the summers and so he's coming home soon. I'm like, are we still do? I think so? But I'm not gonna lie to you. There are women that I'm seeing that I don't want to let go, like at all, and so I feel like if I have that, I can't be like, okay, the cool if I felt girls, but you don't. That's the best thing to say is that's something that you would be into. Exty is an

open relationship. I've been in an open relationship before. Um, it worked until it didn't. Why didn't it? Well, I have a question about that because we're both our relationship that we talked about is open relationships are female and male? How common are open relationships with gays? Like, because I feel like more right, like, are you guys more? Um? They just gouss as we all know, niggas lie. So they say that they want this traditional type of thing

like I don't want to. But what I've noticed in like the very few gay married couples that I know about, like maybe five or six. All of them are in open relationships. Interesting, now, the nonmonogamy, I wonder if it's just like and I and I asked because I almost like, is this is this? How? Then? Is this the key to success and ship? Like? Whether fucking And there's this great podcast I'm called Death, Sex and Money. I don't know if you guys ever listened to Death Sex and Money.

And every episode is either about death, sex or money. And there was an episode and there was an episode about with Dan Savage, who's like this gay right, and he talks about this concept being monogamoush yeah, and it's just like, you know, you committed to this person that It goes back to my video was saying about connections, like you have this connection with somebody you don't ever want to let go because, like, let's face it, like

we're all like pretty much fucking lonely. And when you find somebody to spend the rest of your like lonely ass life with and who you don't mind waking up to with your ugly ass face every morning, you kind of just don't want to give that shut up and so okay, So if they you know, funk somebody else Okay, Now if you now, if you bring some ship home that I didn't ask for you to bring home, then we have a problem. Are you embarrassing me out in

the street? And that's what happened in my dynamic where they had brought something home, thank god, and it didn't happen to me, all right, but you know, and also embarrassing me out in the streets to decent. I have a question about the relationships you've seen. So I'm trying to figure out how this open relationship will work, and I like, what ip going on? Right? So? Uh? He went on a day recently, it was a week and I'm like, hey, what are you gonna do? He was

in another city. He's like, there's the two girls. I know they want to go out with me? What do you think sends me? The girls brunett and a blonde And I'm like, she's cute and uh he sent me the Instagram and one of them was a doctor and it fucked my head up. I don't know why, right so bad? I was like, I don't know. He didn't even end up going and a bitch was so happy, But I felt guilty about feeling Why do I feel

so threatened about a doctor. Right? Is it that I thought everybody else was just sex and somebody that could be have a little more intellect would steal you away? I mean to say that Bartender couldn't have done that. What did it funk with in my head? So my question is the the open relationships you know about their successful? Are they just sex? Are they dating to? How do they work? Uh? It depends. Well, my dynamic was different because it was open and then it turned into a

legit polyamous relationship. Three of us in this relationship together, and so I didn't I at first I had those same feelings like, well, maybe this is more than sex and they're into them because of what they have that I can't provide um and this, that and the thing. But I eventually got over that because I realized that if we're going to be in this together, then that we can't have this power thing. Yeah, because that's what it essentially is power, Like, like what do they have

over me? How can I control the situation? If this if this woman had a it was a doctor, you know, like, oh, she has more power and more control over the situation than I do, And I don't like that. That's what it sounds like to me and fuck her like she's about it, like you know what I mean? Like and you realize that you are you've been here for the

long haul, and they're into you. And if if that person wasn't really that into you, then he wouldn't consult you on Actually, yeah, exactly what you said one of my senses to one of my games. And Christopher, who's like my very level headed one because Steven, he's the type to be like hell Shane that Keith, and he was like, you know what, I don't know why your tripping, Like who did he send the bitch to? Who did you say? Can approve? Like he went to you to

seek up all right? And that felt great and so I'm like, you know what, I needed to hear it that way. Then I felt super guilty. I really did. But you can't feel guilty for your feelings, like that's how you feel. So ultimately, whatever comes up, that's a natural reaction. It's that it's at that point where you

have to check it. And and I think that UM and I had and I have to consult with double a lot because do you know date's couples And she tells me all the time, Like you are asking for something with just sex and that's going to be very hard. How can he not go out to a bar with this girl or go out and like the sex is gonna have to come from that. Do you want him to just stick his dick in a bit? You know,

he's a smarter person that he wants some conversation. I think that I'm just kind of learning to deal with it. But the reason I want to is because I don't want to stop seeing the people that I want to stop seeing it, right, And that's what it's like, Molly or insecure. You know, everybody really got on her for not wanting to be with the bisexual dude, but that's her preference, you know what I'm saying, Like you can't

fault somebody. He had everything else right and because he had experiments it in the past, not only that too. I feel like a lot of people, yeah, a lot of people who date to put so much emphasis on what they feel like people on the outside would think. And of course we talked to our friends and want this advice. We had to buy a couple on They were amazing. Yeah, the dude was Jude was by and theclocular enough she unloaded. We didn't even know she was like,

you know, um, I was divorced. I am divorced. My husband left me for a man. We were like, her husband left her for a man and then ended up with a with a bisexual guy. So that was just awesome. Um. So something else that we like to do on this show is we get home mail. I know, y'all, get y'all listen, y'all, they have bitches call in and leave messages. Y'all areing. Hi, I'm just like, hear someone that sounds

like thereships and you could have Jade. He actually we have homemale and I actually thought this would be good because you guys seem really level headed John and had you're married, you didn't had open relationships. So the first thought that we're going to read is actually a guy who wants to have his whole phase, if that makes sense. Um, So he wrote us in. We's going to read the letter and if you guys could give him some advice or what y'all think lead. Yeah, it's really good. Hey, ladies,

love the show. You guys are hilarious. Cool to hear someone have honest, open conversations about text. I'm twenty two. Some would say good looking. I'd say I'm a solid vibe. But I'll take the compliment I recently right right, You're not gonna be in your hole. If I recently got into a relationship with a woman who I can see a long lasting future like marriage, kids, and the whole nine, obviously done the line. Lately, the sex isn't doing it for me. Don't get me wrong, I have very passionate

sex all over the place, but it bores me. She's just not the most enthusiastic partner I've had. She kind of lays there and when she is active, it's about getting herself off. I don't mind, but like, damn love this girl. I've already fucked up by cheating on her once, which I came out and admitted even though she would never found out. That was in parentheses, and don't want a future further jeopardized relationship. But recently I feel like I've been missing out on my whole phase by meeting her.

I felt like I was just about to hit my phope phase prime and I didn't gotten to the point where I was confident, reckless enough to take down anyone. I don't want to cheat on her again. But I also don't want to miss out on that experience. I brought up the idea of a threesomes. She wasn't having it, and I completely understand I sucked up her trust and confidence within infidelity. How do I deal with this? Do I just suck it up and deal with it or talk it out with her? Or do my thing in secret?

How How old is he think? To the side. So here's the thing. I didn't read that he asked for a threesome to me, if you're doing that just to get out of the pussy, No, my threesomes bring me connected closer together. Yeah it shouldn't be to just um get in another pussy. Yeah, not at all like it. That's manipulation. Yeah it is. It is to a point. Well, she clearly said she wasn't into it. He's also a board, um with the sex. I feel like this is something

to where eventually he possibly may end up cheating again. Um, so it's not all that happy. He's not all that I think. And it's like men they're like this girl is good, but he is there more. You know what it is? It really sounds like, um, maybe I'm reading in too much into this, but it sounds like he had he was raised well, and he's in this idea of like oh like no, no, no, hear me out like Laurence insecure likes he's this person with good intentions, like, oh,

I want to marry this person. I feel like I need to have like this traditional marriage kids, all the good stuff you did come. However, he is in his early twenties, right, and you think you would Nick, Like, what the Here's the thing, my one of my college professors told me a long time ago that before the age of five, that's when you don't focus on love, just like fuck and get all the money you can get. That's yeah, all the money and all the nuts you can get it. I think we have. I think do

we were we class together? Because but like that is that is like the amazing advice because after after you can focus on love and family and ship like that. But before, and I talked about this with Jade, like, you know, when you make these these huge life decisions before, before your development of your prefrontal quartex prefrontal, it doesn't developed until you're twenty five years old, and so everything

you do before then is nol void. Yeah, so basically you got glasses and you sound like they're going to give up on us. But it's true though, think about think about all the things that it's it's physiological evidence science because yeah, but help helps you, No, hear me out. So like before before, this whole idea of like the prefrontal cortex, that's where your logic comes in, right, So everything else is developed in this and um something I can't remember the name, but it's on the side of

your brain. And that's also where the chemical work fear is produced. So everything that you do is based out of emotion. Before thinking about like once you went post twenty five year over twenty five, you've all know like, damn, what the fun was I thinking? I was engaged. I was engaged ato to somebody else. The best thing that ever happened to me was not marrying that name. Damn. I wondered why I was so like like, well, no, I slowed down on my casual sex um within the

last year. Don't But it's because I am seeking more of some sort of something outside of a sexual connection. And it was something that I've talked to my friends with because I ain't gonna lie a bit had of rotting door. At one point it was fine, I'm real shallow, you good looking, I'm gonna come drop that dick off

and you could leave. But literally within the last year though, like I've really been seeking an emotional connection or an intellectual connection, some other connection besides sexy six um almost twenty seven, so I feel like I'm almost thirty, which is almost forty, which is I'm almost getting no but right a bit about to get author rightists and I'm masturbated every night, So this is like getting serious. I need someone to help Betty. But no, but seriously, like

what you guys are saying. And so for the advice for this young fellow, are y'all telling him for the next three years be a ho and then get back into this relationship, because that's what it's sounding like they're wasting each other's time. Even I don't know how much you've listened to us, but you would know that we do not do with the lies, like keeping it a secret all that it's so and it's it just makes things worse, like it makes things on a whole another

level works. I think it's gonna be hurtful to leave her, and that's what you're Donelle Jones. You gotta Donelle Jones, hern do you want to where I want to be? Like, all you gotta do is hit be like, sing it my baby, I'll be singing. You'll be singing on the singing for our show, you know, because you're dy has listening. They're about to come from me, because that with love, I mean that with love, They're about to come from

me singing. So we're just gonna monologue it. Okay, say when you love someone, you just don't treat them bad. How do I feel so sad now that I want? Oh you say o hear me sing me the message? That's how he shi went real big with that s because that's how he's saying I was man constipated. I definitely agree. I think, like, be honest with her, let her know like it's not working out right now. I'm young.

I don't want to hurt you. I'm going to hurt you regardless of but I'd rather hurt you now and be truthful with you than be sneaking around, which is gonna hurt. And we have another letter, which is a little bit this was a little uh, this was a little more horrible decisions. This is a little bit more I wrote you about that. Yes, she wrote her back because that was actually rather funny. So just a little background story, Um, Mandy's fist on it. But so I've

been I've done golden showers before. U oh, yes, I believe you know she stuff in water right now. So this was episode four, I believe. Um, I discussed my first time doing a golden shower and a guy wanted it. Um. And in the same episode, UM, she was so drunk and all that she actually pissed in a bed with a guy and laid in it. Um in a treehouse. It was not It was the most interesting part of the story is the tree happened? Right? I'm trying to first,

I'm gonna say one word, Brooklyn. Was it drunk? Yes? So anyway after okay, so you were like in the cranes in the sky video background story got really funked up with this guy. He's like, you nobody should come back to my place. I just really feeling this moment. I have a huge artistic loft. I get there. It was two thousand square feet, was just as big as he said. But there were these like just like that, oh waue. I went to a party Manning that signed up on the ladder to you anyway ambient and I

don't know if you know what ambient is. Well, I love it. Shout out to Jewel my mom. She's like, honey, I'll bring you sound. So anyway, I had two ambient because I thought they were Zanex and then I was like, am I gonna die? Or what? He lays me down after I climbed my ass up there and like, dude,

I have to be really bad. And he's like, I'm like, please help me out, and he's like I took the amby into I'm like, okay, well how do I get I was like just be right here, broke up, and then four o'clock in the afternoon my pants were sticking to anyway, So the sub pissy hole is this topic that we got in our home mail and what does this one say, Dear Horrible Decision podcast. I met this guy in Plenty of Fish. He was cool. We hit

it off really well. The first time we hung out, we had sex and it was really good, so I knew it was going to be a sex thing. I got really drunk last week, went over his place. We sucked again, but I ended up passing out. He had family over, so I had to leave really early. I get up and I realized I was so drunk. I pe the bed. Tried to play it off like it was from the sex, but I don't know if he brought it because I left so quickly. I'm kind of embarrassed.

I haven't hit him up since should I just end it? The whole thing was really awkward. Thanks Kate, What has he hit you? That's what she assuming, No, but I wrote her back, I said, girl, hit him up. He's an adult. Ship happens. I don't know how long has been. If he hasn't hit you up, that's not an entirely good sign. But life's too short to not get what you once send a text about grabbing drinks? What do

you think? I think that they in the bed mattress, because if you ain't got protected, he's like this bitch. Pete in the bed left, never called like, you don't even say sorry, you're just looking up my mattress. You just piste all up in my bed, and I get a ship. I have Pete on my couch. I have like I have peed all over the place. And when I was pregnant, I pee on myself like since we've been together. But drunk, please, I peed on myself all

over the place. And I tried to be in somebody's yard anywhere in New York because they don't be trying to let you this somebody's else. You best on someone's mouth, I want real quick. The advice, the advice for our listener is going to be, um, keep it moving girls, some old day out there. Okay, So when next time you pee in a nigga's bed, say sorry, say sorry when you get into pete a lot. I need to know because we have never talked about pissing in someone's mouth.

So did they request that the grinder? No, no way, a guy you were messing with, No, he was know he was black. And it's so funny because I just redownloaded tender and because I've been like I've been really on a nigga batticle. Um yeah, but most frequently yeah, because she'd be like this diet, yeah whatever, be trying a whole bunch of diets. Listen, listen, listen, I'm trying next week. It's something new. You ain't finished the last one.

This nigga was a vegetarian. And then we got a real drunk one night can salehich face, I'm being personally attached right now. I just came to have her a good time. No, but he um. It was like I met on Jack, which is um the premier source for black gay entertainment. Do you have to pay for that? No, it's just it's just swipe. For those listening, salt Swipe is like a black Tinder, yes, but it's not. But

it's it's it's all location. Yeah, but it's literally. Jack is literally like, oh, you are like three ft away from me. Yeah. Niggas look at Jack when they're out, like some of my homeboys out who lives over here? The phone out and just start swiping and see who's in the area. That or weed, yeah, because gay weed is some serious business. Is white? I don't know what glitter girl? But anyway, can we make that a sound?

So yeah, I went over. I went over to this inn wards house and he was like, Yo, come chill, let's watch a movie. Okay. So I'm like, all right, so you know what. They don't want to watch The Princess Diaries or something something they knew it. No, No, it was Star Trek and I actually liked that movie. It was Star Treking. I love that movie and so surprisingly, and so I was like, oh, he was trying to be up on me. I was like, there, go away. And so eventually I was like, okay, I know what

this is. So he was just like, you know, okay, let's go to the bedroom so we do what. I suck this all and so I finished, Yeah, I finished, because when I SVP for a party, I'm making my business to come right. So he was just like, yo, I can't finish without you doing something, almost like you know, I'm done. Like yeah. So he was just like, you're piss in the mouth and almost like, now let me ask you. Had you done a golden shod Before I was about to say so. When I told my story,

it was extremely hard for me to come. I mean, he had me drunk off rock, like he made I drink Pete. Yeah, you said come, well, that's what I meant past pe. You're in the same relief um. And so I literally he sat in the shower and I had to run to the toilet and physically feel like well mentally prepare myself to feel no because it sucks you up, like my piss ain't gonna come just on you. I had to like I did to take for you to piss in his mouth. Um, it's look a minute.

It took a minute because like even in general, like when I'm at home, I got to turn the faucet on, I can like actually go. So in my head, I'm thinking about it. Yes, I'm just like nik, what the fuck? So then eventually I'm like thinking of like waterfalls. I'm thinking like every song with water in it, and like yeah, and so eventually and so eventually when I did it and he was it wasn't even in the bathroom. He had a tarp. So this is like he pulled off

the tarp. Yeah, this to you on Jack, would you still going over there if he would have said this before you went over there, that he has whatever freaked you out of piss? Would you have went? Probably? Not that. I probably not, because that was I need you to

piss in my mouth for like who the like? And this is not me not being judgment judge at all, Like I'm the least judgmental person depending on I'm what you're into, Like if you're into like pedophilia, like no, I'm judging you, yeah, but you know like golden showers, Okay, that's fine. It's not like it's not like scat play, which is all? Which is all? So are you finding a lot of people into scat play? You know? By So here's the thing. I didn't know at the last

Black People meeting that we had that was on the menu. No, it's not, it's not so so it's right. Yeah. I was like, I must have left early. There must have been a body concert that I had to go to. But like at that Black People meeting, I was not present for that question because a lot of guys so I was listening to a podcast and I can't remember who it was that said it, but they were like, if a girl like wants to lick my ask, that's cool,

but I'm not going to kiss her. Did you kiss this guy or was it something where you were mad you kissed him after you realize he likes to get piste in his mouth, but it's something that psychologically would have kept you from um making out with him. It was a hook up, so I didn't had you seen him against right? No, well he became I had swiped because you know the general rule with tender for blacks as you just swipe right on all the blacks and

you sort it out later, so awesome. So yeah, yeah, it's just like damn, yeah you got to because he wasn't even you know, like because then I go back to look at my matches and not gonna swiped, right, What was I thinking all the time, all the time. It had to be because he was black in at Columbia. I'm telling you literally that a smart I ain't even s this little Malcolm X looks like I gotta show you on him because at first I was like, oh, I like Malcolm X. That is Malcolm X. He does

he looks like that's him? Bro, way can you not show him? Pitch? I feel like my friend him? Oh my god, you swiped him for real? It just said Lower East. I felt like my friend in Brooklyn pucks him. Okay, well I don't know that this is really and so is he tell your friend? He asked. It's like, SAYSSS the weekend. You know, we were going to talk about a whole another topic. But I've just been enjoying the homemail and all this casual ship so much so when

you guys do your podcast's exactly what we do. Oh you guys don't outline sent X one He's like, sound good. We don't ever stick to one because it'll really like we'll have an idea and then like all of a sudden, we'll spend thirty minutes talking about chicken. Yeah like that. Which actually the horrible decision discussion today was going to be social media sex, and we've essentially talked about social media. I did have one question. I wanted to know proper way to slip in d m s. What do you

guys think about? Don't somebody wait, wait, but what I do know? I'm kidding, um, No, you can slide in. Don't don't be creepy, like what are they done with? They are the sliding And don't be creepy like that's my number one. Don't come in with the hay beautiful, and don't say don't say shipped to people that you can say generally on the timeline or on the news speed like you know what I mean. Someone slid into my d MS today. I'll share and I'll show you

the screenshot because I thought it was pretty awesome. He's slipt in my d MS today, was just like, hey, what's your quick pay? And then asked me how much my nails calls and sent me seventy dollars. Um. Yeah, is that why you're so fresh girl? Well? No, this is because last week another guy sent me on my Snapchat was like, what's her squarecash? What you look like? I don't know what? Well, the one on Instagram, I know, the one on Snapchat, I don't even know what he

looks like is amazing. Yeah, he just sent it to me today and then I'm mad because I gave him a wrong email, so I have to call Chase like I just got money sent over you know it from ma'am at Fine nine. I'm actually an avid d M slider and I mostly do it through I G stories. I'll be straight up, i'd be like you, handsome as fun I feel like I put the l O L today not so funny. I G story just like you. Gotta stop putting the l O L. Friends said, Okay, you have to be firm. You have tom and what

you say. So if you're flirting and you like, don't be afraid because the l O L is because you subconsciously don't want to be rejected. So don't put the hell o well behind say what you say and let it be there, just like you and That's how I feel. Period. His page is private. I'm a Brooklyn nigger, That's what it says. And he has emojis of a gun, a police car. You don't money. That sounds learning somebody you might know. It sounds like, you know, like us, a

credit card, a ghosts Well, it doesn't matter anybody. I don't give a word of money. No, don't give it. Wait, she's you might be he might. I might be listening to another podcast. Can't remember. The girl was getting a dude to like PayPal her money and like, yeah, like basically they claim that it's not real, like take it, but I don't know what they do. There's a she was liable, she got subpoenas, she got what subpoena else. It's not like I accepted five hundred dollars or a

stack he sent me to it. I know. What I'm saying is, what if he's some kind of hacker, it can flip that ship. Well he got my he got my bullshit account. He got the account, they got like two hundred dollars in it. He ain't even get my real one. They got my direct deposit and ship, so I got two accounts. I ain't worry about it. Yeah, he got my bullshit or mostly I do Square cash. Yeah, that is my account. I know. I got on the chase and they look like, bitch, what because you ain't

got no money in here. It's really just my throwaway account. Certain And I really only got it because m TD bank is not everywhere, So I literally just opened this account just so I did I could have it everywhere. Well hap, So we kind of with your gun and your credit card thing. My at is busy w T and I just want to like, can we all describe these nails? They are chipped, They are the robins egg blue, rubble slee sensible, sensible. Where can our listeners catch you guys?

Because I'm so mad that we have to wrap this up. We have to y'all gotta start sponsoring us a something so we could get you all some more um afford We can't afford this it in real life, so we got to cut off with I'm a time up, had damn.

So let's go ask me. I'm just like, um, where can they find you guys on your social media and let them know about your packs in the name of your book and tell them who y'all are, right, Um, you can find Jade at Jade of All Jades on everywhere, great name, especially on her own side of dab jays dot com. She's also a chef. UM, so if you're in New York area, UM, you can hire her. Um you can find me at Xavier Delo dot com. UM where I do right, I write and I speak everywhere,

and a whole bunch of other stuff. Um you can find us jaden next dot com, UM and Jada next everywhere. Um it's Facebook and the Jaded Next thing is where they can find a link to your podcast, as well as the book when it drops. Yes, the book comes out SEM the title you'll find out then. UM, yeah, the book will be a dollar. Y'all have a month to catch up. Like I said, Niga Peace Theater is amazing. I enjoyed it. I'm not gonna like I told her, she got to catch up. It's so good. It's really good.

The characters are great, and you guys did a great job with writing. And I'm excited to know about the ending. I love it like like and wanted to get off and listen to No, it's really good, she was talking about it. I'm god, I'm gona let me tell you, like, can they tell me? Yeah, it's really good. You'll be in from the first two. Well, it's really good. And you guys know you can always catch us on our

Instagram page at Horrible Underscore Decisions. Also continue to send us that homemail at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com, and y'all could catch me on just about every goddamn thing at full court pomp and where can they find a little you come back to Twitter. I just told her this last I just told you guys, I get too funked up to get on Twitter. It's fine because right now my tweets I text him snigs, I'd be like, you ain't ship and then right about seven and be like,

so sorry, we need to get tut. You guys can catch her on Instagram at w didn't you see me? And somehow that when I was anyway anyway, you guys, thank you, Bye bye,