Ep173: 3lationship Goals Feat a Throuple

My name's Wheezy and I'm joined by my co host. Y'all already know, bitch, this is your motherfucking girl, Mandy be a k A pit saying a k a full corun aka that bitch because I am still that bitch. Just know that y'all see me in the swimsuits on the ground. I know y'all see me because it's okay. I'm getting in the motherfucker's winning suits. Okay. And so we also have other papers here we would love to talk. I just had to say that. I just had to

say that real quick too before we start. I do because someone I had to go off in the comments real quick, just so y'all know I'm on every week talking about Peggy Niggers and sucking dick, and I've mentioned that I've sucked dick at one point in my life for money. So don't think for any any chance that I'm going to be an example for any of you. Host where they said it was in Miami. It's coronavirus. Y'all know. I was telling y'all holes to stay in

the motherfucking house. They was like, damn, you're not setting a good example. I am not an example. I have not pushed a human being out of this pussy and until then, I didn't sign up to be an example setter for any of you hoss that I don't know ship in your drink today, I'm drinking water. I ain't even drinking no mother with the polar Spring. So I'm excited for this episode. You guys, Vandy and I have

tried to meet with this truffle before. I think you guys were gonna fly out in April, before you know, COVID happened. So we're so excited that they're here with us. So what I'm gonna do because we're gonna hear a few voices in it might be difficult. Let's go, let's go youngest to oldest. Why you got to bring the are okay? So no, let's go with who's had sex the most times in one night to the lowest. Okay, look it's the one at the bottom of the screen.

She looking like you'll all right, so tell us when you guys go in order. Um, what's your name is and your sexual orientation? Alright, Well, my name is Sheila. I don't have a whole bunch of a ks yet, but I'm Shay, that's about it. And then sexual orientation, um, bisexual and polyamorous. Okay, so we don't know who the young is next. My bad, my bad, my back. I'm James, I'm I'm Scraat and ship Um, I got you just put a C in this. You put it in there

for Memphis, so I got. I got a little a little bit of accent still, but that's my a k a about her call me Memphis, So that's okay. Cool. Hey, And I'm Shanta a k a um and I'm bisexual t Shae in Memphis boy your boy? What episode where about? So I know you're all curious what are these three doing on the podcast. Mandy and I actually have a thing where we hate having more than two other mics opposite us. But I had to for these three because

they all ain't gonna lie. I'm dying deep down inside, cringing. But we're gonna get through this, and we're gonna work on We're gonna do it. So we're gonna start with our Vanilla Ship this week before we dive into a bunch of questions. I almost feel like I have to rush this because we're also pressed to figure out more about you three. But Vanilla Ship is our segment where

we talk about sex in the news every week. And this article comes from Time Out magazine and it's headline saying New York City launches a free condom delivery service. This is from the Department of Health. It's a door to door new home delivery service of safer sex products and an HIV um self test kits. Now, I don't know how many people are being born in New York that they had to give y'all niggas free ubers to condoms.

But there's so many risks, and every year the Health Department gives about thirty million male condoms out, some internal condoms, lubricant um so over thirty five hundred nonprofit organizations. But now they are going to be delivering it to your door, a full array of condoms, including the legend excel don't fit. Okay here um the Art Condom NYC. I don't know what comes on the Art condom. I don't know if

there's a boskiat version or what. What I do know is, uh, it comes in the mail as well, discreetly packaged envelopes. You can only get two products at a time. And you said it's the art condom, right, serious Art Condom NYC. So like the sleeves where you could put like fake tattoos on your arm, I could get like some tattoo dingling like party did I would be cool, and some Von Dutch dick or something like that. I mean it's

I mean, it's it's written fancy and fancy levels like graffiti. Um. So let me give you guys the phone number by the way, Okay, because this phone number that I'm gonna give you is also going to tell you where to get the HIV kits. So this is the NYC Sexual Health Clinic. Put put this Uh, in your notes. Get ready three four seven, three nine, six seven, nine five nine, Monday through Friday, nine to three thirty on the line.

And this is a clinic hotline where you can get advice on how to get free ship, how to get the free condoms, um stuff about anti viral therapy if you already have HIV STD questions because y'all been popping that pussy during quarantine, just like Mandy's been popping the pussy on the boat being a naughty really really bu I wouldn't even popping no pussy, don't know, I got I got a toy friend. Now, that's what we called it.

I got a toy friend now, so excuse me. You know what you're talking about before, but out here, but it's a very burning man crowd, and you can't pop it out here like that man. Before we get to another segment to something that again, with everything going on, I know a lot of people's timelines are kind of back to normal, but that doesn't mean that we are not still fighting a fight. For those of you who have not been able to make it out to protesting, For those of you who do not have money, UM

to maybe donate something else that you can do. Of course, I am bringing awareness to different petitions that you can sign. It's literally with the click of a button, you literally sign your first name, your last name in your email address. UM. The petition that you guys can sign this week that will be in the description of this episode is again on change dot org and it is to reopen the

case involving the death of tom La Horsford. For those of you who are not familiar with this case, this is the mother of five who was found dead after having a sleepover with UM a lot of white women. UM. Apparently this happened in fourth in forsythe county UM which is in which is in Georgia, so not to be confused with North Carolina Forstykes County. But basically everyone involved had some sort of UM relation to the politicians, the sheriff in the city and they pretty much ruled it

a suicide that she jumped off of the second floor balcony. UM. So what this petition does is looks it's it reopens the case to look further into investigation on what was the real cause of death to tom La Horsford. I also want to UM say r I P two toy and solos, that is, the activists who was found murdered.

They actually did UM find her murderer as well. So I just wanted to r I p to toy in all right, now I can get back an older story and it's crazy because it's just resurfacing and the picture of that night, if you guys have ever seen it, there's a picture of her with those women that night. Yeah, it's really insane. But like again, so on top of the police brutality, again, I think a lot of the instances regarding black women have been kind of swept under

the rug. Um. Literally only one of the people involved in the Brianna Taylor case has been fired, so no arrest, no charges. Literally only only one of the officers were fired. So UM also still fighting for justice for Brianna Taylor. So we're gonna get to the horrid derv and hopefully our throuble will have some insight on another piece of advice. But everybody writes in every other fucking week on how to have a threesome in three fucking years, I don't

know how much advice we've given. I don't know if I'm just the token bitch to have threesomes on this show, Mandy's having them, but y'all legit be coming up to me and meet and Greef like, so will you fuck me in my nigga? And I'm like, wow, there's another girl right here, you you fan. So they're gonna keep asking you with me and greet to join them, and then I'm not the one it anymore. So anyway, here's

my advice, UM, for the threesomes. This is very simple advice. UM. This is for not assuming a throuple obviously, but just people that are starting out. Super basic but serious, because I feel like every time we get an email about something, this would have helped you in the beginning. Make sure that everyone is excited about having it. I don't know why.

For the love god, men are almost coercing their girlfriends into fucking women that they don't want to fuck one and two making them feel guilty about it, like, oh, you know see, I can't never do shoot with you either. You want you don't want me to cheat? You know what I'm saying, It's okay, I'm You're just gonna have me do this. That is gaslighting is disgusting. Why don't you talk instead of make me feel bad about it, like, do you understand that it's literally the definition of coercion.

How are you gonna, like, what if women did this to you? Oh wow, you ain't gonna stuck a dick with me, nigga? How you feel We're right? Guys have given people any advice when it comes to three SOMs there? Maybe when people are asking your advice, who's what's the first piece that you go to? Hit on those waitresses? I mean, hit on the waitresses. You're you're out, there's people all around you. Hit on the you know, just

the people that you talked to. You might be in a bar and hit it off with somebody, um, and just get out of your comfort zone. I think for James that was a lot easier for me. I don't really hit on women a lot, so that was kind of out of my comfort zone. But once I kind of stepped out of that and decided, you know, I was going to shoot my shot, then I would say it works or you know again, James in the mix of that, and I think I'm gonna lie. I actually

like that piece of advice. I don't think that. I think people automatically think they have to go to a strip club to find someone who would join them, and instead you could easily just start off by, yeah, flirting with your waitresses or your bartenders or and I would say, um, yeah, Sheyla, I think you said that you're a little bit more shy,

and then James um would do the flirting. But I'll say, as someone who was in that space as a waitress, as a bartender, when the woman flirts with you, that's when you know you kind of have more of the go. Um. I think if the guy starts flirting, you don't know if it's just on some uncomfortable ship. If he describes so. As a woman, as you know, in that position, you

don't really want to flirt back. So I would say for women in the situation, if you've already talked about it with your partner and you do go the route of flirting with the waitress and stuff like that, I would say, Sheyla or or any any woman listening, you be the first to flirt. Guys don't do it because we we all know, we all know in trouble, right, That's right. That's what I be telling her too, because

she she left shy. Once I say something, Once I say something, she all up and she with the ship, But you gotta say something first. You gotta say something. That's if I do I feel you though, sayla because like my nigga literally has said, like, I'm not doing ship if you don't talk, I'm not We're not getting in a fight about this whatever. But if he just says one little thing, because sometimes I'll give it him like okay, maybe her right, you know, and then it

kind of starts off like that. But have you found that people are ever like when it's just been two of you, whether it be you and Shante or you and shape. Have you noticed that sometimes people are looking at you and may have you ever felt like someone wanted to invite? Can you tell me about a time like that? I mean you can sometimes you can tell you.

They always ask questions, they hint, like they'll comment on the woman, like oh, she's so she's so pretty, she's so beautiful, and then that's first to me, right obviously, like oh she would just way too long. You just said birtiful accent, but I didn't gonna hold you New

yorkful a little bit. He said birdiful. It is screen, But yeah, I mean it comes and goes and ship because I've been out here for about ten Levin, you're so coming, sir, we hear exactly what you're Do you have any advice to give someone looking to start or have or introduce a threesome in their relationship or with their partner. Well, I'm not a be. Prior to being in this type of relationship, I was limited on how

many throesomes I didn't had. I'm not the one I want to ask because, like what she was saying, like with with them too, they would hit on like waitresses and things like that. I just asked my best friend like, hey, you know you wanna Okay, so you mean you uh yeah, so so I guess let me ask ask you then. Um. In terms of bringing in your friends, I think a lot of people assume that bringing in your friends into that environment ruins the relationship or the friendship or you

feel some type of way. Have you experienced that with bringing your friends into the bedroom with you? Um? I did feel some type of way. I'm not gonna get into any details, but yeah I do. I did feel some type of way. But we were so cool afterwards, okay. And I'd say for for us like we or for me, We've had three sims of friends. I feel like I've gone through all my friends, but it doesn't affect the relationship.

And my friends know like how I am. So we might be fucking in front of them just to like be like, come on, come over here, you know, but they all know me letting them know you could go to the lobby or you could stay in the room. No, but I mean again, it was which one of us is gonna suck the perfect time going when they get to our shows. Let me know, we've been trying to give James a little surprised. So let's get right into the horrible decision. Um, I couldn't hear what you said.

What did you say? They said they've been trying to give me afford in the same house as y'all. I ain't even gonna hold it. Let's it, let's she recorded on a wei or just sketch. No, y'all got favorite. Y'all gave her the like jankie WiFi the funk. I just came in from work, so my station was already made up for me. Come on, stay okay, I want to call this my girlfriend, girlfriend and I and the only reason I'm going to give this a little bit of mask possession is because for the most part, we

have had more women dominate the conversation about threesomes. And I'm kind of interested in obviously bouncing back and forth, but you do seem like the more dominant figure in these two in this situation, I could tell and I'm curious to know how you guys met. Let's start with that, how you met, and then everybody kind of jumping about what they were thinking of each other. She me and

Sheila who you were talking to you? Um me and in school and high school ship on my my lad my senior year, I think she was I don't know what the funk she was, but we made in school, but um Me and chant Actually me and Chante actually worked together. So I was flirting with and ship because we was we was looking for a third but not looking for a third to be in our relationship because we was actually just tired of the random three sims and ship with motherfucker's just come in and out, in

and out, but ship. So I presented the presented it to Chante and I think she thought I was boyshit and she I was just you know, just talking. But they had them meet up because if she wasn't with it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I had had them meet first and ship, so so if they didn't mesh, then we we wouldn't eve waste our time with it, right yeah? Because so so can I ask um you, Shante? Look you know what I mean, Chante? Can I ask you you kind of what that first

interaction and what that first meeting was like? And did you guys at all like talk about becoming a couple. Was that even in the conversation when you guys hung out by yourselves, Um, that that seems like it was so long ago. Um, But no, we we hit it off perfectly. We we talked. We you know, it was like a little brunch setting, so it was like in a comfortable atmosphere. We chopped it up, um, and then

afterwards we went smoke. But it was did you you know, I'm curious to know did you feel like when you met um When you met Umila, did you feel like she was more like like it was a homegirl sister vibe or were you attracted her when you met her? What did you what was that initial feeling I was attracted to her. I was like, Okay, she's cute, all right,

I see um. No, but I thought she was cute, and I mean at first it's it's a little intimidating because you have a couple or a man telling you that him and his girl wants to somebody to join the relationship. So meeting her, I was just like, I don't know about this. I was a little nervous getting out of the car. But like I said, like our conversation, you know, everything flowed, everything was perfect, and she was pretty.

So yeah, what, um, how long have you guys been together before we met, before Shante came into the relationship. Me and James have been together for what I'm really bad at this stuff. I think like five or six years, Um, so about five I would say, how long did together? About almost two years? A year and a half or so. But and I definitely agree with what Santa said. We try not to I would say, we try not to

give the like the whole home homegirl vibe. Like I try not to give that because essentially my purpose is not to be a homegirl, like I want to fuck you. I want you to be my woman, and I want you to be in my name and everything too, so like I'm not there to be your friend. Um. But I would say, like in the In the beginning, when James first told me about Chante, like he said, we weren't really actively looking anymore. Um. The looking processes is

very dragging. Um. And we really open it up to each other for us to flirt with who we want to to try to establish or bring that the person into the relationship. Um. But once we agreed on you brought her to my attention. I agreed. I thought she was very beautiful woman, met up with her, and honestly, going in, I wasn't even sure if she was gonna be for real because we had so many flakes and so many yeah, I want to do this, and yeah and this and this and not, and it just didn't

work right right. So I'm curious to know. Do I wanna ask this question to Tay. Do people ever like assume that you're in a controlling a relationship or like you don't want this because some dude bound you at work and got you living with him and his girlfriend, and like, had that happened to you when you've told your friends, because I'm assuming that with them, maybe they've already had some conversation with the friends better, But what

about you? You are the quote unquote third. Right. So, um, I've had people asked me if I'm settling because you know, obviously field relationships in the past, and they're like, okay, well, like, is it because you can't find a man of your own to where you have to be with some a man and a woman that's already been established, um, And I have to explain it to them, like, no, that's perfectly, that's not it. Because if I wanted to get a dude, which is me and that dude, I have no problem

doing that. Um. It's just something that obviously was new and foreign to me. If I didn't like it, I would have left the relationship a long time ago. But obviously I liked it enough to stay. And it's like you build a relationship, but not only the man, but you build a relationship with the woman, and then you guys all build a relationship together. Um. So you like they say, you can knot get to you try it. I love that. Okay, I'm gonna take a quick break

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relationship with James. Correct. I really thought I was doing good, damn it. Um, So, I guess my question is because anytime we've heard of lou Will, we've heard of I mean, all these athletes that go about having two girlfriends. But what happens is people feel like they're the primary girlfriend and then there's a secondary There's one that's more in charge and one that's underneath. There's one that has kids and the other one doesn't have kids, so maybe she's

not as worthy. How do you not not damn, that's not a petty but how do you, guys, um, I guess, go about this relationship without feeling like there's a hierarchy in the relationship between the two of you. So number one, it was transparency, transparency from the beginning that there wasn't going to be a hierarchy between any of us. You know. Of course James is dominant so and he's the only

man in the relationship. But between me and Schanta, like, I don't even really like using the word third when it comes to her, because I see her as just as important and her needs and her ons are just as important as mine. I will say before you just you know, open it all up to to a woman in your relationship and to your man, and to you make sure she's for real, you know, and not her intentions are true. When Shante came into the relationship, she made it crisp and clear that she wasn't here to

steal nobody's man. Like she made sure we we really put on our time for me and hers relationship before even like her and James got to really get a solid solid relationship. We had that bond, and so did you ever have moments of jealousy because she was the new fresh like you? Of course? I feel like it's a myth that Polly people don't get jealous, but yeah, uh I get jealous. But I think what helps the jealousy is my reaction. Number One, you gotta put yourself

in check. Am I getting jealous because he kissed her on the cheek and didn't kiss me on the cheek? Or like, is it a serious thing that we all need to talk about, Like I'm not getting no dick? What's up? You know? But that'll be brought up quick. I actually like that you mentioned that, James. I want to ask you, as a man, do you feel the pressure if you dick one down, you gotta go dick the other one down? Or if you give one a kiss,

you gotta give the other kids. Is there any pressure for you as a man to feel like, Okay, I can't show favoritism or I don't want them to think there's any favoritism. Do you feel like if you give one something, you have to give the other something as well? Um as far as six, I say no, because we don't.

We're try not to keep count and it's just like whenever we're spending our one on one time together, if we're so, happened to funk in that time, Dan, we fun but in and we don't talk like Silo or Nita Chanta, and I asked me, oh, y'all funk with y'alls together, So we're not like keeping counting of it like that. But it do like if I kiss one on, like if I'm leaving the house and both on, I gotta kiss both of them though, because they look at me stupid, like come on, like stop playing with me?

Do you James? I want to ask you this um. There was a very popular show on Showtime some years ago called Polyamory, and it was the first time it might have been even been ten years ago the people really saw thruffles and even what do you call quad dripple whatever in relationships living together. And the guy made a joke and he was like, my friends be like, damn, you gotta going on and he's like, oh my god, like this ship is stressful as fun. I'm missing shampoo

raisers third too much. Do you think that there is a hype to you having at all? Do you feel like there is a lot of work in being with two women. It is. It is a lot of work. And yet um, it's a lot of hype around it because people see it and they'd be like, damn, I because we just had as somebody over recently, damn Like how you get two girlfriend? I want to I want to get like that. I'm like, there's a lot of work and a lot of a lot of paperwork going.

Um involved too, you gotta like it's you gotta pay for two women dinners when we go out. You gotta you gotta get to know two different women. You gotta understand, like you, it's hard to please one woman, get to know one woman, and you gotta satisfy both women needs. And these two Sila and chante, they they receive love two different ways. So you gotta learn how to love each woman separately because women don't they at least them do. They don't receive it the same way. Are you guys

familiar with love languages? And if so, do you guys know which ones your love languages? We did a test like what a few weeks ago, things like months whatever, one of our shows. But um, so I would say right now, we're actually kind of doing the love language, the five Love Languages. So one week we did Words of Affirmation, and this was Shawnta's idea. You guys are doing different weeks, and and actually that is really loved

the Words of Affirmation week. I think that so far that's been the one that we've really stuck to it the most and made sure we did that every day. And then it just reminds you of why you love, why I love her, why I love him? Like what

I appreciate what you guys did. I think that any couple listening to this, or anyone in a relationship, I think taking those not even just taking the test, but going through the five love languages and getting taking a week out for each one and just to remind yourself the love that you guys do have for each other, but displaying it in different ways. I love that starting. I think I'm gonna do that with my toy friends.

The tests, and you know, I don't even remember what our results were from the test, but I remember when we were doing it week by week, which one was the one that I really felt the most. So doing it, doing the tests and then doing it weekly really does help. YO. Shout out to you James by the way, he was like, you know what they see a little differently. Now I want to ask let's start with let's go what you say. Do your friends and family know? And how did that

work out? So not everybody in my family knows. There's like a certain amount that know, um. And then there's a certain amount that have met both of them, not together. But did they think, um, no, what I don't live with them? Okay, yeah, so but they come over, um almost all the time. But my sister, I would say, my youngest sister, me and her really close. Um. She kind of she when it first, when she first found out, she was the one that was just like, are you settling?

She was kind of worried, like like what is my sister doing? Like I still want you to um, you know, have kids and things like that. So there was a lot of things that she thought I wouldn't be able to experience ends because I was with these two. Um. But yeah, but I told her that wasn't the case. Okay, James, how do you do? First of all, do any of you have children? I do? I have a daughter. You have a daughter? Okay, And even more interesting, man, I asked how old she is five, So five? Is this

is this something that you've introgued? Like have you introduced her to both of your your girlfriend? Yeah? Because my daughter was born like right out, like right before me and Sheila got together. So she's known Saila her entire life, her whole life. So and then and right now we um, she she see some she she see my bad a lot because she's over a lot, and um, she knows she knows her right now, it is just shelo best friend. Okay, I can. I can understand that'd be hard for a

five year older. Consist, it's really hard and it's difficult. I would appreciate anybody that understands that, because I know there's always somebody that's like, damn, well, why that's a lot? You know, how do you feel about having kids with both of your girlfriends? And and how do you guys have conversations about that? Um, we'll start with you, James, and then we'll go to the girls. Yeah. Um, it's a conversation we had. They both still want kids, and

I'm obviously we had that conversation. Obviously I agree to it, or both of them would have been gone already because they you know, because they know they firm on on what they want and like they're not gonna If I'm not willing to give it to them, then they're gonna be out. So I'm open to it and we we haven't crossed their line as of yet, but it's coming. Let me ask another question. People assume when they see a throuble or anything like this or a man with

two women polygamy, we think of TLC's sister wives. Do y'all feel like you're in that relationship or now sisters in sectionn't be in same sentence, can speak, So we're not sister wives. I just want to make that clear. So that does have some ancestry is doing. That's some WPS. I mean technically we out here calling Nigga's daddy, so it's just daddy is I guess my question you brought

up earlier that uh and this is to James. You brought up earlier that not only is paperwork involved kind of as as far as money is involved with um taking care of two meals when you go out, UM bills of course, UM whenever both of them decided to move in, waink Wa want to hear to update on that, But do you think that someone that does not have their money in order can successfully have two girlfriends or do you think it is something where you need to

be financially able to provide for two women in order to be in this type of relationship. I mean it can be eat it just it depends, I guess, because um, we they both have really good jobs and and they get paid good. But at the end of the day, there are two women. They're gonna look to you as

to man to provide because that's your job essentially. But come on, I feel like, but I feel like, um, you shouldn't even want them to to pay for everything and to provide for you because it's they can go into any any other relationship and have demand provide for just them shape I'm let know right now, but is about to be coming for the thing, but because he think he thinks he needs to provide for us. But I have a strong mindset that I'm a provide for myself,

so and she has the same strong mindset. So it depends on who you with if you know, I mean, you guys are gonna have you can all see. I feel like, I mean, I'm just speaking just I think Mandy would agree you'll have a prosperous relationship if you all think like that, Because I mean, I think what he's saying is great. But when you have two women that are also like that, y'all, vacations ain't gonna be

no bullshit, you know. And I feel like I feel like you can budget together too, if if you're in that type of relationship, if you if you went two women and y'all put your money together, you guys, can you know, take some things that I don't require to bawl out every time you go to dinner and like that? Right? Right, let's get some questions. Well, first off, well that's what I was about to ask. Actually, we was getting into the sex part because I was just talking with my

toy friend about this and I wanted to know. And this is the question for all of y'all, be cause we has also been in a throuble when we have this word and mindset of a throuble, Yes, we know that there's three people involved. But could a throuble consists of two men and a girl? And if so, would a throuble do the two people who are the same sex have to have sex together? Otherwise, as it calls

something else, let me know what a thrupple is. Oh, so, if it is two men and a woman and a woman, obviously they don't have to have sex unless the men are by um, you can't have two straight men each other, and then it would be a V. Right, it would be a V. So with that being said, it would be the man being in a relationship with both women, but the women not being in a relationship with each other, or for your example, the two men not being relationship

with each other, but the woman being the focal point. But the reason why it's a V. It's not that connected triangle because the two men and or two women aren't sexually aren't sexually triangle. Okay, so here's my question that everybody is not going to be surprised that I'm asking. So here we go. Are your period SYNCD up? And if no, my nigga, are you like bye? I gotta guess y'all knew she was gonna bring up the blood

love blood. They're almost I think she'll start before I do, and then I'll start on it when she's like on the tail end of hers, like when she's on day four or five, then I'll start mine. So he gets a break for him. He don't want them to be sinced because then there is no breaks. But I'm trying to hurry up and get them sinced because when you want your period and then then you gotta right right, you eat, you puss and you sucking dick. But you can't do too much else. But if I was, you

have a masker. No, I don't talk about the stuff. Okay, thank you? Wait, wait, didn't even makes us wait two days after our period before he'll suck us, because I know that's right. He said he don't. He said he don't want the red blood or the brownstand right now because he's only acting like that because he has another option. Nigga that don't have another option. We have to deal with a little bit of barbecue, okay, right, he has something also turned to he needs some They are tricked

me sometimes. Don't say like I'm two days off. I'll be like, no, I'm keeping up with this ship. Whause is it because you love to eat that? Yeah, I'll be trying to get down there and get it in. So that's what they say. So we's the asked who is the kinkiest of the three of you? See, I would say that because I like to try, like I'm trying to peg someone and James won't like it. Looks James, little man. If I want to do that, well you can't. So the even pegging, I mean you could still do

the act of a strap on with tay Tell. That's something that you would be into it. All. Yeah, I told her I would let her. She want to pay, but see, and that's the thing. I want to pay a nigga to like that. The thing I just like, all right, I know you're trying to help. I'm gonna get I'm gonna get ta. We're definitely gonna get there. But I'm trying to peck another nigga. So so let me ask you that, because um, James, you have two girlfriends, and you do have a girlfriend that does want to

try something sexually that you don't want to do. Is that something where you would allow either one of them to partake in something sexual with another manogamous? I meant to ask that. I mean, I already gave her to green light to do it with somebody else because it ain't gonna be me. I just want to know an advance though, you know, I mean, she can't just do it behind my back and know she's like that, but keep it a hunting. Just tell me, and because it's

definitely gonna be me. Ladies, what's wrong with James? Because he sounds great, right, he got six tones. He's petty, that's what's wrong. He's petty and petty petty. Does James have a big dick? Because we feel like we hear b d through the screen. I need to know, yes, he does. Look look at said it. She said what she was asking about? Yeah, yeah, the dick is there, James, I told you five. Okay, See that's enough. That's all

we need. It's the national average. I bless you with a big dig a cool attitude and money and make you six five. We will well, I beg to differ because that's what the whole manum athletes. My toy friend is tall and he got all that other qualities going on. UM So, I guess let me ask you um as well just before we I think you know, we're trying to get all these sex questions in two with you guys. Um So, you guys are in a threesome. You got

all the pussy you would want. James, has there ever been a conversation about y'all bringing in a fourth or maybe doing something at like a sex club, or just adding other people into the bedroom now that there's three of you. Yeah, that was supposed to bring a fourth for my birthday. But they ain't do that. They don't get they don't get a chance to do that. But uh, we we talked about it and ship. I mean, it's

bringing a fourth to the bed room. Not necessarily to our relationship though, because our relationship, I feel like two of them is enough. I'm good with just them too, But when it comes up, when it fucking oh yeah, we can bring a fourth, we can do that. Man, we supposed it. Where do you guys, Phoenix or Gilbert Arizona? So well, my my toy friend are talking about watching someone virtually, like well, having someone watch us virtually and

having like a virtual thing with each other's. Um. The sex clubs are starting to open here, but I ain't listen. I'm going to Miami, but I ain't that bowl to just be up in the sex club just yet. Um. So we are like trying to introduce voyeurhythm a little bit. Um. So, I mean I'm down to watch y'all, y'all can watch us you know go that way. But um, I was watching your face. How do you feel about other men being involved? If it's swapping or not swapping, how do

you feel about that? Um? Me and Sla, Me and Shila actually has done it before Chante was before Shante came into relationship. I guess we waste you missed all the fun, but you gotta catch up. You put tell them we need another exactly. So I guess we was quote unquote swingers. I guess we Me and Syla and I've been a swinger clubs and she liked that and funked around with other clubs and full swap, soft swap. We've done all this ship so we don't know that as a trio. How do you feel about it? Yeah,

I mean I'm weirded. Chant has limitations, so we had to ease into it for her. Let's talk about that, Shante, what are your what are your? Um? Well, going into it like swapping, I probably wouldn't be able to do that just I don't know. I just can't suck somebody I don't know, like just but then watching and I'll just feel uneasy. It was yeah, watching that, I mean I can watch, but I just don't touch me? Like,

can I all three of y'all? And I mean we can start, um, she, since you're the most open, we'll start with you, and then Tay and then James. I'm curious to know what opened you guys up to the idea of not being in an exclusive bonogamy relationship and instead pursuing a throuble and even James for you to say that y'all have swapped and been in the swinger lifestyle. How how was that introduced to you guys because horrible decisions.

I don't know if it was us, but I'm curious to know how these conversations start for people who may not listen to our show, or or if it came about, you know, in another way. Yeah, So I would say with me and James are openness started at the very beginning of our relationship. Um, I was more like by curious at that stage, I would say, So I was down to have the threesome and to do that, and from the threesomes, we're like, well, what else is there? You know, we you know, we don't fund all my

friends and stuff. What else is there to do? So that's when we got into the swinger The swinging um and the swapping even like you said, letting people watch us fuck watching other people fuck um. And it's throughout our entire relationship because we were even open for a little bit too, Like that's just been me and James like that. That's just been how our relationship has been.

And for me personally, it's opened me up because I'm more of a I'm a curious person and I don't feel like there's been other dudes that I've talked to about, you know, Polly three, someome things like that that wouldn't be okay with this type of relationship. They don't want me and love with someone else. But at the same time, I don't feel like for the rest of my life I should have to choose dick or pussy. And then at the same time, just with safety reasons, just not

having a whole bunch of randoms. You know, we got to the point where it was like, yeah, we got to know him when we stayed friends with a few of the people that we like, swapped with and things like that, but we wanted someone to chill with that night, to cuddle with and go on dates with and get

to really know and love. So that's where it came from for me, and then just to try to by the way all the love through the screens, from just the love language talk to even just how you all speak on I want to give a shout to shape real quick, because I think that a lot of women have mentioned this and don't exactly act like you are.

Like I've even heard other troubles where they'll don't not speak down to the person that maybe became after they had met their initial partner, but they're just gonna be like, well, you know, well us. But like you were very clear in saying you didn't even like calling her your third which I didn't even mean to say disrespectfully, but you know what I'm saying, Like, I think you you put a lot of emphasis on making sure that she feels good about what you all have going on, and I

think it mainly should be coming from you. I think a lot of pressure is put on the man to like, oh, you're the one who's got two women, but it's like, nah, imagine how you must feel oay feeling like okay, well is she really comfortable? Because I knew him first, you know. And I think that women could learn a lot from what you're doing because we do put a lot of

pressure on the man. For example, Mandy and I both agreed, like, um, you know, if a dude comes up and says something first blah blah blah blah blah, like there is a lot to be said with the woman in that. And I think, I don't know if take it agree, but it does sound like you do a lot to make her feel up, which I've noticed from just an hour. I appreciate that, And I guess I have another question too, because what you said with your other partners, they don't

want you to love someone else. Um, James, how do you hold in your jealousy or insecurity? I think we we attached those characteristics to women a lot without thinking that men also get jealous or men have insecurities. How do you check yourself when maybe they're having fun, or they want to have a girl's night out, or they do want to just spend time alone. How do you check you check? You know, I don't they do it

for me? Um, right, But my I guess it comes from me most of the time, where it's like if if one of them and myself are arguing or something, they always tend to comfort each other and besides, like I'm like, damn, I want some little too, like I'm piste off, Like show me some little like she could be mad for a little bit, right right, right, that's

what they'd be saying. I'd be like, and we and we had that conversation and I addressed it, and that's what um we big on just communicating it and and we we've had the discussions about it, but they still do it. But and it's it's all good because it's expected. And but for the like nights out and she's like that, I encourage them to have they have their girls time and like build a relationship for our for our foundation can be strong. How do you feel about when people

may be asking for advice other men? What do you think it's different about you than men that have tried this before or maybe friends, you know, like, what do you think it is different about your quality that you have that makes this dynamic work. That's it. I don't feel like it's nothing too too too crazy, that just I'm open. And I was honest with Shaila from the beginning about what I wanted and what I was trying to experience, and she was open to it. She was

a little hesitant at first. Um, but like she said, she was always curious about curious about it. And I just feel like, I'm, um, I'm I'm open to them, and I'm I'm open to Shaila like loving Chante. I'm not a selfish type of nigger. So it's just you got you have to be a certain type of way. You have to throw your your pride to the side and realize it ain't about you most of the time, because the foundation is built really on the queens in

the relationship, and and that's just what it is. Said. Yeah, I was actually gonna say what you just said is you said you were honest, up front with what you wanted. I know, along the relationship, you guys grew more curious. But a lot of times we get letters that are written in or even when I'm talking to friends, they're like, man, but my partner would never do that. So I ain't even gonna ask. So the fact that you literally just

opened the conversation. I think so many people think they know their partner, especially in this kink space or when you want to try to introduce more people, they just be like, no, man, I know if I ask her for that, she's gonna think I'm cheating or she's gonna go crazy, and a lot of times you'd be surprised what your partner is actually open to doing if you just open the dialogue to to having that and seeing their comfortability levels. So I'm glad that you just said

I was honest. I said what I wanted. Sheila, you said, you're curious what more can we do? And I think those early conversations are what got y'all to you know, you're successful throuble now, So I appreciate you saying that I'm curious to know. Okay, two questions, Who is the best pussy you go with? Bullshit? I would say probably, Yeah. I think we've had this conversation before, like on our podcast.

So they both had me so well because before her, I never really experienced with a woman, So you know, but it's still like man, but you in it now and she hasn't been scared about it. You know. That's another thing. All all your friends that ate your pussy before this, they coming for you back, is gonna come to you now? Your friends no day, Okay, that's for James, ship don't like Okay, you don't have to which one of y'all like giving Dick the most because that's normally

the one who sucks it out of the two. Y'all stuck better Dick. I don't know. I think we're we both make him come right. And I've been sucking his dick for a minute now, so I know what to do if I want to make him come real quick. Because we didn't mention it in the beginning of the show,

but you mentioned your podcast. So the three of you guys share a podcast together, yes, often, and you guys often talk about like what for the people listening because because I know we missed that in the beginning, for the people listening who are curious to maybe hear more from you guys, what is your podcast about? And what is it named? It's three relationship goes and it's basically, you know, Surrounded about Surrounded a Polly polyamory um our life.

We have three segments, um, so we have the good bad reality. We have a good bad reality, you know, where we kind of just you know, give the good, the bad and reality. Obviously, we have the kinky cravings all about sex, and then we have the tips of the week, um, just a little factor questions. So it's dope. We like it. We've been doing it for almost a

year now. You guys will have to come to one of our live shows and be a guess, because we was gonna come to the one in Vegas, but you know all this year happen listen Vegas, Vegas opening, and so we wait closer. We probably want to lead y'all will fuck someone from the audience, right, yeah, no, for sure, jobs just make it seem like our audience has just given the puss. Alright, they just kiss me, that's it. Whenever y'all have one, though, we're definitely gonna come. No,

we have so let us know. I would really like, really, let's get into our home mail really quick before we all get out of here. Um to say the name of your podcast one more time? Is it three? What three relationship goals? So it's number three relationship goals. We're gonna put it in our in our description, y'all, se y'all can see it. But I mean, obviously we all want to tune in because this ship sounds good as fun. I want I want to know how to fight go

I don't know club no toxic love. We ain't going We ain't gonnahy I'm here, But anyway, here's a wail. I do like the homemail for this week. UM again, if you guys have a homemail, please send it into us. It's horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Um. This one actually kind of relays back to the episode with damage um on kind of just decision making in a relationship. I really like this. It says, Hello, Louisian Mandy. I'm a huge fan. I've been listening for about a year.

Love you guys. Here we go. So about a week or so after the riots started happening about George Floyd, everybody had their opinion on what's going on. For the most part, the people around me are pretty much on the same page with lots with a lot of these issues. But I'm a black man and my wife is Mexican. We have a daughter and a son together, and we pretty much have the same idea on how we want to raise our kids. So to teach our kids on how change comes about. We went to our local protests

and peacefully protested. Later that night, my wife was on the phone with her mother. She was explaining that we went to the protests and everything went great. My stepmother cuts her off mid sentence and starts regurgitating the Candice Owen's video on George Floyd. And she literally was saying the most nasty, most racist things I ever thought would come out of her mouth. Mind you, she always does say slick, racist things under her breath, but I choose

to ignore it because of respect for my wife. But this time I had enough, so I took the phone and started explaining to her mother what was going on, and she cut me off and didn't even want to listen. She explained to me that she doesn't care what's going on. She's not black, so why should she care? And I said okay, then hung up. So my wife and I made the conscious decision to not bring our children around her mother or her husband because of their social and

political views. She's not even taking in the fact that it's her crandkids that are both half black, and they might go through the same things that he thinks other people of color are are going to go through. Are we wrong for this? I don't want to keep my kids away from my grandmother, but with a toxic mind like that, I cannot have the kids around them. Are we wrong? Are we over exaggerating or are we already

doing the right thing. This happened almost two weeks ago, and I feel bad, but at the same time, I feel like doing what's right. I love that mail and I just want to say something. I want to quote the Dr Umar, a man of my life. He said, and I quote when you mixed chocolate milk and regular milk and half chocolate milk chocolate milk one and too. Just a side note, this is exactly why non black pocs do not need to be saying because I've said it. This is why God they just as racist, well not

not all of them. I when we're speaking, I don't want to say all, but I know that we had the conversation some of you guys may have heard with Brianda Um we put it in in a few episodes ago. But I have the conversations with my Latina friends that I don't want them to say the N word, but specifically because their parents are grandparents and the people that I know they were raised by don't have a good

view on black people or dark skin. I don't even want to say just black people, because there are Afro Latina's. They get the same treatment as as black people because of the color of their skin. Um, I'll say my advice, and then I would love to hear what you guys UM say. I say that racism is you're not born with it, you're taught it. And so to me, the influence of what your grandparents could have on your children, I would say that that's not conducive to what we

want our future to look like. Um. So I would say it's unfortunate. I think that there's a way to be around your your grandparents while they're with your kids. I wouldn't say leave them alone. I think it's also unfortunate to keep certain family members away from children. But they're also children, so they'll be fine. Um, they can go to the funeral. That was really bad to say, But anyway, I just I just honestly, I have no

no type of sympathy. I guess empathy, yes, but y'all know I'll be forgetting words and ship, but I have no empathy for this. Um. It's something that happened with with my white side of my family. Um Uh. A lot of my white side of my family didn't accept all of us for being black. I know as far as my mom dating, it was very she made sure to let anyone that she was dating that wasn't black.

Let it be known that her children were black, because she wasn't gonna stand for someone making us uncomfortable or making us feel less sand. So I think that it's important for you, as a black man, to not only educate your wife, but let her know your reasoning for not wanting your kids around. All right, Nick, and I feel the same way because um me personally, my daughter, UM,

my daughter mom is white, so um and men. Her and I just had a conversation recently because I was I mentioned it with everything going on, and we was like, she's turning five, so we're looking into schools and ship so we are the schools around her is like they're not very like diverse, so there's not that many like black students in the in the in the in the schools. So I was telling her, like, either school we she goes to, I'm gonna have to teach her black history.

And she she agreed, like and she and she agreed like I don't want to teach her to her. I feel more comfortable with you teaching it to her, which ultimately I was gonna say anyway. But and it's just like certain family members on her side too, I think feel the same way as like, oh he's the black guy, Like why are you dating the black guy? But right, But she she she has a tendency of like going off and on them too because she she um, she

loves her daughter obviously, and she really she don't. She don't play that ship when it comes to her, and that's one thing I command her on. She really big on like keeping them family members away from her with our commander. And you also just got to check them. And I think he tried to check the grandmother and she cut her off and wasn't listening. So I mean, you're weezy. Do you have anything to add to that? No, I mean I actually I find it super interesting. Oh shoot,

I think their WiFi might cut off, you see that. No, No, they're back okay cool? Oh wait maybe not? Yeah, no, I don't know. Okay, Well, I love what they said. I'm going to wrap this up for them really quickly. Um. Oh, you guys are back, okay, So I want you guys to do us a favor just just to wrap this up. I'm sure everybody really loved this episode, and um, honestly, it's something that we've been talking about for so long, like this is obviously a quote unquote much more real

throatle You know, mine was very brief. Uh, what happened to it? I never I ain't never listened to I ain't hear in the episodes about what happened to do it? You know what I mean? She kind of just left. We was wondering great. I talked about this on Patreon, but honestly, Scissors and I we are still great friends. Um, we broke up and that basically crumbled the triad, so

to speak. But you know, I think for a long time coming, maybe I saw this happening because her and I were friends for so long that that connection and that attraction to each other was never really leaving. But when we knew that some values weren't adding up or some things wouldn't match for like longevity, it didn't work. Um, And right now we're we're we're still great friends. And don't want to give a shout out to her because

she just started dating someone. She's got a boyfriend, and she said that the boyfriend was like, what the fund this bitch be calling you at midnight? Is still your ex? And she's like, okay, well this is one x that can't go. This is cast to be in my life and we are really good friends. Actually got a conversation on Twitter. Y'all know this is messy. I was like, if I got married, would I not be allowed to have her as a risemaid? And people were like, are

you kiddy? But that's how close he is to me, and um, I will say, like, that's why I wanted to ask you guys about how it felt when you met, because it's weird when you're super attracted to someone but you also click. And I can only describe it as to hetero people when you meet someone and you call them your best friend. Oh my god, he's like my

best friend. It can really be like that when you meet another woman and it's this weird almost like I don't want to use the word sisterhood, but like when you feel this closeness to a woman, that femininity and you're able to have sex together, it's just like unheard of. But yeah, and it's crazy because her and I almost jumped back into friendship too quick. We were like, okay, we can't, we can't, we can't, we can't, but now we're great. It feels good and I also think the

thing with my throatle that I will say distance. I don't think we've always all lived in a different city. I don't think that's realistic at all. The only good thing was you get to funk on Vaca and every time you see each other, right, I mean the anticipation. I'm sure it was a good funck. But I mean you're like, you're like waiting, right, and the other two are with each other and your FaceTime and the other

one like it's almost too much. But this is such a great example, and I think what he also makes it better is it shows a side of the man where you also hear him being dominant but respectful, because we don't put those two together when it comes to a man dating two women. I feel like ever we think like he got it going on and these girls are just along for the ride. But YouTube, I mean, you three all seem in love and I love I

love love. Yea, we were able to get y'all on here. Um, we are going to put not only their podcasts in the description of this, but you guys can. We'll tag you guys on Twitter, on Instagram. We'll get your individual I know we won't because I feel like people gonna try to hollest so we are one that we do together because together. So we'll make sure to put well, we'll make sure to um post handle so that you guys can we even through and maybe find a fourth um.

But I want to thank you guys so much for joining us. This was fun and you guys, specifically um Tay and and Sheyla, you let it be known that you guys really enjoy each other. You guys respect each other, and you don't feel like you're settling. I think a lot of women think that, oh, well, y'all are just doing this because y'all are settling, or whatever people may think of when two women decide to join in a

relationship like this. So I love how both of you respected each other and and definitely showed the bothy y'all love Big Dick James over there. I want to think again you guys for tuning in weezy. Do you have any drops or anything to let the people know, just so y'all know we got you know ship comes right. You can hear me on another podcast called for Facts Sake. If you guys thought I had a white voice, now wait to hear me. My friend Eddie every week we

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all the eddas, all of that ship. These are all kings and queens, and people make fun of us for the issha and this and that and ship, but little do you know your name is Regal And I really want to celebrate black names. And I'm trying to find a great guest to have on and yeah, it'll be dope. So check it out. You guys will love it. Um, and guys, If y'all are all caught up with all of our regular episodes on Horrible Decisions, there are over seventy more over on Patreon. For just as little as

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has been another episode of Horrible Decisions. Friend. I have a friend that when I'm sick, I call her bitch. When I'm breaking up with my nigga, I call her. If I think I want to kill someone, I'm going to call her bitch. If I need to do a scam on my AMEX, I'm calling that bitch because she knows that is Tammy. How Tammy, motherfucking guy advice for every goddamn thing. And you knew she was gonna raised a hand. I know because look every time we say,

if anyone wants to talk, raise your hand. Tammy Tammy was me in school. Me, I know the answer, me tap pick on me. You know what I mean? Tammy Tammy could do this show. Okay, let's get into the horrible decision. I don't want to talk too much about breath control because I know you're about to do a whole episode on it. But look at my Look how bad he is? He just biting my hand bra you see, body, Well, maybe you shouldn't have bought a cat. Crackhead. I love him.

I love my little crackhead Katy. Out out, crackhead Katie. Alright, crackhead Katy, alright, crackhead, not gonna sing a song about my crackhead cat. We're not gonna do that. Okay, Now, this is a very basic one, but I only picked it because it's actually happening to me, and I'm curious to know if you guys are experiencing this. So headline women are having a lot of bad sex during COVID. Okay, let me explain, not blaming my niggad. Just hear me

more sex and can you hear you right now? He's not home yet, but I'm gonna say it's not so this is why you're talking about having bad dick for the last four months. Can you do know his dick is great? But just hear me. My book is not working. Just let me get this out. So a team of researcher has got in touch with about sixty women who had already surveyed their sex lives in the six months, six or twelve months prior to COVID. Most of them

are having more sex weekly and worse sex. Many people have been in a withdrawal response, but others have an approach response. Sex can be a stress reliever or distraction. However, despite having more sex, women are coming less. Their quality of sex isn't getting as good, and they have a significant getting deterioration and sexual functioning like arousal lubrication and the ability to origas them. Bitch, I'm telling you for some reason, I don't know if it's because I'm working

too much, but it's like I can't come anymore. My pussy Just start working. All I do is masturbate all of the time. If this nigga is working and he can't suck me, I go masturbate, and then during sex it's like I can't It's like I can't concentrate or I'm sucking too much. It's like three times a day, bitch. So not my problem. Um, it ain't new dick, Bro,

I ain't never Honestly, I know how long it listens. Listen, however, let me tell y'all right, Yes, in the pictures seven years, like once a week for damn near almost seven years. Got it? Got it? Got it? This nigga I have seen every single day since we met. And it's not an exaggeration. It's yeah, but I've never somebody left every day for two months. When did you meet it, Mandy, Bro? Like two months ago? Okay, please raise your hand class

if two month dick is new dick. But no, no, wait wait wait for the raising your hand, because yes, it's new dick. But when is it when you meet somebody that you see them every day for two months straight? Ain't nobody doing that? Bro, this is the love of your life. We get it, but it's still new. Bro. That's fine that it's new, but in y'all. He four times, like every time we fuck that nigga nut and the dick stay hard and we go again. So it's four times every day for the last two months. Bro, I

think I fussed him more than seven already. That's what it feels like. Well that's what it is. But I'm comment I'm telling you, I'm coming you, ma'am have been abstinent, so your pussy is backed up. I mean I was asking it for like two months, bro. Now this menu is trying to tell what she ain't man as that long. I mean I was. I told him before you got in the room. I was. I lied to them one moment. No bit, you better not all fuck you up pussy anyway?

Has anybody I'm curious to know because I have been having honeymoon phase, you guys, that's it. I have been like fucking so much. And don't get me wrong, Nika stroke games lit, We've been making lit videos. I just I think my pussy broken and I need to bring it back to life. I broken pussy. We need somebody to sing the song. Who know? I mean, we know you know the song, but actually no, Emmy looked like she ready to sing broken pussy broken, pussy now, okay, all right,