Ep172: Sacral Massages and Flip Flop F-cking feat DJ Damage

The Stallion is what it's gonna be, okay, although although and I'm not really gonna bring them up on the pot. But whoever I'm talking to right now is not into pegging, and I am very okay with it. Um. Anyways, guys, you guys hear another boy just got the prayer hands from damn um. For those of you who here, we do.

We are joined with some tesaserone on this episode. We have DJ Damage, who is a host in one third of Hollywood Unlocked alongside Jason Lee and Melissa Ford, and he's done just a whole bunch of revolt if you guys are interested in being a media personality. He also holds webinars and classes and courses on how you guys can kind of be like us. So go ahead and say, Hi, damage, Hey, what's up y'all? Look, I really appreciate being on the podcast to um let's get into it legendary media group. Well,

can I ask you? Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, I've been djur swell. What's like your go to song that you have to like put all right now? Yeah? When people need to get hypers fuck. I mean it's so many in the West Coast. You can always do um still dre overall. You already know what it is. The anthem is back that asst It's never a time. Did you give up Kanye? That? That's an easy question. Did I give up Kanye when you, like we all started working with Niga, But did you give him up as a DJ? Yeah?

I kind of gave up. Good shout out of you. One of my closest home girls and this bitch played Kanye the other day on her I G Live and I was excuse me. I thought we had a consensual I like the go I like the gospel of music too, But now I had to give up Kanye. I was about to say, how do you really play him now? Like his stuff doesn't really hit, doesn't want his music is, but we just don't funk with that niggas sus So

I'm curious. But I thought that we funk with him again because he donated to like the George Floyd Fund, he got to donate a little bit more. Don what two millions? Yeah, put put a few more zeros on there, and I got you or something? You know is why do they never happy? I don't know. I will say this. I don't like that people were like talking shit about Kanye that day. I just choose not to acknowledge him. I think what Kanye did is detrimental to people view

black people. And that's why I can't funk with Kanye. Like I am the person that I sold the purse to go see Kanye when I was twenty, Like that's how much I stand Kanye. So that was a good concert, wasn't it? It It was worth it? Bro See? Look at first of all, I'm a Beyonce stand and I can actually genuinely say his concerts have been better than anything I've ever seen to Beyonce, and I only say that because Beyonce is such a performer that when you watch Beyonce,

it's so much going on. You're watching dancing, you're watching lights, you're watching a bunch of ship. Kanye doesn't need anything, and you're like shaking up. You know what I'm saying. It's weird. Okay, dope, it's so weird because, like I mean, I don't know. I guess, did y'all see the conspiracy theory going around that he did the whole Maga thing on purpose? So did y'all see the conspiracy? But no, No, he did it to do what breaking down. He did to help people get out of jail, to help free

black people out of jail. And now he's using his platform like he pretty much did it to get a black voice in a place where he knew there wouldn't be black. That's not true. Stop saying it's a fact. He's like, damn, how do I back up to this one? So now he try to doctor Omar Hotep his way back into our lives and be like what I did was act like I was for the white man, when really he I was for y'all the whole time. But Emira theory, I like this conspiracy. I'm going with that.

Kanye is back again. I like that because they ain't even gonna hold y'all. Some of the most comfortable sneakers I have a wall, but I'm still I'm too because they comfortable. I just but I wear when I gotta do something, I'm wearing them sneakers. But he technically is it money that I gave him? If I ain't never but I never got the registration from Adidas? Yes, getting the resale ship. Yes, it is the black man. You supported the black man, the resell black man. Okay, shut up, man,

let's cabout something else. I'm done with this. Yeah, don't well, We're gonna catch up something guys that I want to make sure um again. Um. Last week we kind of or actually two weeks ago, we did a compilation. This has been kind of hard to kind of just get back in the rhythm of things. As you guys know, we love talking sucking deak um. But it's kind of okay. Well, you know, I say, do you not like stand now? Now? You see how you flip that around. It's gotta be clear, y'all.

Gonna work with Jason Lee, right, I gotta make sure I know what you're talking about. Okay, you're right, You're right, You're right. Um, guys, I want to give kind of attention to petitions. If if some of you, um, felt like you didn't do enough over the last couple of weeks because maybe you didn't want to protest, maybe you don't have the money to donate to any of the organizations that are making a difference. I want to let you guys know that you guys can go do change

dot org. UM. I am actually gonna put this link in the description of this episode. This this specific petition is for Levenna Johnson. UM. She's she's nineteen years old. She was found dead in her tent in Iraq back in two thousand five. She had a broken nose, black ey'm, loose teeth, and burns from a corrosive chemical on her genitals to cover evidence of rape, and a gunshot wound,

and the United States government ruled her death a suicide. So, guys, the petition right now is to find justice for Levenna Johnson and hopefully reopen her case. UM. And so again, that link will be in the description of this episode. So again, if you guys can't donate and you guys haven't been able to march. This is a way for you guys to make change, and so please go ahead

and sign the petition. They are seeking about fifty thousand signatures and as of right now it's about at thirty nine thousand, So go ahead and make a difference, just to let you guys know how petitions work. A lot of people like don't sign them or don't really understand them. But when you get to a hundred thousand assisted petition, um, I believe it's like something called we the People is

like what petitions really mean to the White House. And when you get a hundred thousand signatures within a month, they review it, they make sure it gets in front of appropriate policy experts, and then they issue an official response to you. Petitions don't necessarily mean they will reopen something, but it is very good for, you know, regenerating awareness to something that might have been dead and gone. Um,

much like writing I am you know you might. I might have brought it up on the last episode, but I'm just I'm at this point now where I'm like tired of the conversation where people don't understand and there are just so many white people in our history that I've gotten things they've wanted from writing, and I implore you to learn about how people sees and take over things. And the only thing we want to take over is our lives, which show the funk is I've had attitude.

I've lost friends this week, um, including blacks that are like showing off with their peaceful protests. That annoys the ship out of me. Stop capitalizing the peaceful this week. No one gives a fuck bitch like what, I'm too pussy to bang some ship up. That's just the truth. I'm too pussy to break a window down, but I understand why it needs to be done and why it is being done. So it's like stopped showing off that you did nothing other than protest, which mind you looters

of the minority, looters of the minority. I mean, so, I guess we as you guys know, we always agree to disagree. UM. I've attended some peaceful protests, and I'll be honest with you. UM. As far as seeing protests last this long, I've of course never seen it in my lifetime. There's been protests from the Trayvon Martin case, Eric Gardner. They were outside every day for the well specifically here in New York. UM, I've seen you know, Union Square maybe one or two days, and I'm not

gonna lie protest. That thing scared me. I was scared, UM. And so I mean going out and being a part of peaceful protests I think has not only changed my mind, but it's almost kind of chilling to be out with people were literally they're just there to be heard, hold their signs and let you know everyone around knows that they're in solidarity. UM. It's simple, but it makes you feel really good. I mean, I've appreciated it. So I mean, no,

that's what I'm saying. Before before this, I was actually shitless scared to to be a part of the protest, specifically in New York. UM. They they administered a curfew here, they were shutting down trains. And ironically, so the very first protest I went to UM and I actually want to shout out if I can, the UM the group in which I protested with UM, it is Justice Center and Albadio. UM. Of course I'm here in the Bronx UM and so it was a movement UM based by

that Justice League. But the very next day UM, the Bronx protests that happened. They zip tied and arrested everybody. Um, So it was very just. It was almost chilling because I went to the bronx Um one that was right by my house. This one was also right by my house that I would have went to had I not had other plans for that day, and so to know I could have been a part of a peaceful protest

that could have led to my arrest. It's still just kind of protesting risk at all times because people that I mean, I may have told this on this show before, but when I protested at Trayvon Martin at the time I lived in Orlando, UM, I got put in handcuffs for jaywalking and everybody was like, happens, because they can't arrest you for protesting. A crossed the street. He already told me to move and I was like sucking or whatever,

and ship like that happened. But you know, specifically about the peaceful thing, the reason I'm having a lot of feelings about it is because a lot of celebrities that donate it to the Minnesota Freedom Fund or being put under scrutiny because they're using some of that bail money to let out people that set our center, cars and things like that, and people are mad, but understanding what are they mad about? They're like, oh, well, how could you donate to people setting ship on fire? Right? And

I mean that's the point of view. That's all I have to say. And I think we really got to start putting the larger thing at hand. And that's really why I said I lost friends this week, Like you know, I want my black friends to understand why people are angry and know that this is just a representation of a reaction. So we don't have to be like, oh my god, but you know, the answer would be heard

if there wasn't looting, No, it would a bit. I have a few damage um between quarantine and now protesting. What is it like on the West Coast? I mean, clearly, I'm I'm over here in New York, But what is it like on the wen? We could take it back to COVID. I feel like when we had to start quarantine, it was very east fool out here. You know, I've seen how it was in New York and the East Coast. It looked a little different from how the quarantine was out here. Sun bathing, there was a lot of yoga,

a lot of people hitting their personal pools. You know, it was a good vibe. But the protest and it took a dark turn. I protested about UM last week and I just kind of jumped in line. I didn't know what was gonna happen. I seen him coming down

the street. I joined in, but I already knew. I was like, I'm gonna start, you know, I'm gonna kick it off early and then get out of there because I literally when I was walking away from the protest, my my homegirl hit me, was like, yeah, they just set a car on fire, so we out, and that was my que to be out. I don't have nothing against rioters, because you know, we got to get the message hurt and all that. But at the same time, I cannot see here and say I support people burning

down black businesses or minority businesses. I just personally don't feel like it should be a casualty, a war, none of that. That's just for me. I remember during nine eleven, I think I was about nine or ten years old.

I sat there at my school. I went to Mohammed Islamic Academy, and I watched the plane hit the towers and then we had to evacuate our school, and then our school almost wasn't there when we came back because it's Mohammed's Islamic Academy, and the people in the neighborhood for some reason, thought we were Arab and wanted to burn down. The name was a big thing at that time. So for me it was like, I don't that just brings like a trigger back where I don't want to

see people burned down black businesses. We were entirely black school in the middle of the neighborhood. We gave back to the neighborhood, We helped feed the homeless and everything that just for some reason, just I don't like the thought and the notion of burning down black businesses. But if you want to burn down Target, Walmart, Auto Zone, people that got insurance anyway, go ahead. Because the message has to be heard and we tried to do it peacefully.

You're going to catch it another way. We got different waves. We're gonna give you peaceful again. But if we don't get that target conversation, honey, police, for the love of God, when these bring and Target down, did you see what they did this? Soho are you you fucking kidding me? Bro Let me tell you something. I am the person that owns a megaphone, my nigga. I wish, I wish we could just all go through the street and scream

through the gentrified neighborhoods without the curfew. That's really how can I ask to damage? UM? Has there been conversations regarding the rights in l a specifically, because that's where the riots happened for Rodney King, I know they didn't happen out here on the East Coast to the effect that they did in l A. UM Has that been a conversation out there at all about from that? Um?

I think the biggest difference between that riot then and the right now is when they did the riots recently, it was in Beverly Hills, Rodale Drive, the Grove, Hollywood Boulevard. The riots back then happened in people's own community. It just went outside and was upset. And that's when you've seen it was a rift between you know, the Asian Americans and African Americans because they were in the inner city neighborhoods. They're not doing it like this this time.

All the writing and looting I've seen has been on Melrose, ro Dale Drive, Hollywood Boulevard, so they're really hit in the you know, hitting the corporate pockets. But at the same time on Melrose there's still some black owned businesses there. You know, there's an other side of Melrose where you got all the yours and the top man and you know what I'm saying. So I'll be like, go over there, don't burn down, don't hit the chains. I mean I I told you guys that in my last they hit

the banks. Bitch, seriously, the baby. I don't think the base hold as much money as they. If you want to destroy and sunk up a neighborhood, hit the banks, hit big chains, because these are the people with the most money too. Especially banks have the highest insurance. Like a bank could be back up within three hours of you looting the ship. Hit the bank's dog. That's all I'm saying. God in the COVID relief programs went to all these businesses anyway, so they have the extra money.

They didn't go to the small I forget the shakes. I was about to Ruth, Chris, do you want to keep going? Because I thought we were small businesses. No, they was counting motherfucking Wendy's and McDonald's Small businesses. What down build another one? Well, I want to go ahead and get into our vanilla ship this week. Like I said, guys, we're gonna kind of tiptoe back into our goddamn regular routine because I think a lot of you guys needed. This vanilla ship was sent weeks ago and it is

still being sent over and over and it's funny. So guys, this comes from the New York Post. A foot fetishists was arrested after stealing and then having sex with a hundred pair of flip flops. Guys, A Thai man with an unhealthy obsession with shoes has been arrested for stealing more than a hundred pair of flip flops and then admitting to having sex with them. Police in central Thailand first knew something was awry after receiving dozens of complaints

from locals over missing shoes. Cc TV footage eventually revealed the culprit to a local man. I won't say his name because it's hard to pronounce, but he is twenty four and he was filmed lurking outside of his latest victims home. Authorities apprehended this man on at his rented dwelling with a hundred and twenty six pairs of flip flops that he admitting He admitted to pilfering over two years. Now, do you know what pilfering is? What is pilfering? I

ain't even gonna hold you. I don't know. Let me look at that word, because it's it's a nice word for a shoe. So pilfering. Oh, it's just stealing them. So I ain't never heard that word for stealing. It means it means banded, burglar, pi ci word of the day, you know what I mean, expeditiously whole. The funny part is he didn't go to a shoe store, and still

he's still in personal shoes like he was stealing. Creepy well, because first I was gonna give a pair of shoes, but now it's like you still like my sisters shoes and you start having sex with your sister. He doesn't want to fuck you know, old navy flip flops. Well, I do want to say. This is what he did. He described how he would wear the sandals, which spanned from every making size, around the house to first arouse. It was an experience for him. He said that that

was for play. He would then caress and kiss the well worn flip flops, stripped down and rubbed them all over his naked body, and then eventually make love to them. Okay, this one, bro, what did you what are you talking about? Well, shout out to Dallas pen Mandy and I had an episode actually funny enough. It's when I came in from the woman's march that day and he uh was talking about how when he worked at Marshals or something, he

used to shoes. But he talked about how like he would imagine the arch of the woman's foot and it would be like a heel and need stick his dick in his cloud and clan heel, and that he would imagine the woman and how she would wear the shoe in the architect on. How rough that is. I just need you, Benson, to make sure you get his face. Walt Wheezy was describing what he was doing. Your face damage was. So, what I'm saying is would you rather put your dick in if you had to pick? That's

the name of the game. I'm bringing a sandal over a hill, really really yeah, because the sandal, you know, you put it in, you put in through those little grooves and let me you canta, you can do a little extra, you know what I'm saying. You just put it in the hill. Wait, but the heel has a little arch. You don't want that arches? Want to cut your dick in half? Oh, I think, why would you want something that arches? Actually, how are you gonna choose the Nike slide with grooves because I can see a

nigger wanting them grooves? Bigot damage. I'm still going with the flip flop. It's comfy. It's comfy. How do you know that heels are not comfy? Because love Nike slides. Dog, it's residuous. Y'all do nothing to stray from the Nike slide. What the hell? I ain't gonna hold you. That's one of the that's one of the things about men that actually turned me on outside of basketball shorts. I love a man with Nike slides and socks. Oh my god, talk about don't do that. I'm not from New York,

I'm from Florida. Was say, I thought that was like Southern ship. That's Southern ship. The Nike slides with the maybe that's East Coast ship. Then that's definitely yeah, because I'm sorry. I would much rather a guy with Nike slides socks than Chuck Taylor's. And I used to get dressed up like that. I used to get my white t ready, my ball shorts and fresh socks, put my flops on, hit the corner, like you know what's great about that outfit? Like you could be broken ship or

have money and we want it. Would never know. That's one of those styles that I appreciate because, like you know, there's a lot of fads that have happened in our lifetime that are like too expensive to keep up with. But the Nike slides dot combo, it's any nigga deal. You can really look. You can go to Marshall's get the Jordan's flip flops, or you get the Nike flip flops the Nike shorts, like you go to Marshalls and run it up. I ain't gonn hold my favorite. Y'all

know that's how Jay Coole go on stage. And I love j Cole, But that's J Cole's tour gear right there. Basketball shorts, white tea and some sneakers and slides. That's a little you think that the fucking outfit. I feel like when niggas come over to funk, they wear ship like that. Okay, v damn valid as going to be in the way. So what's the girl equivalent to that? Swear leggings, no leggings with legs, leggings, leggings and a

T shirt. Well, I just live in with But you know, I do want to say I used to be I still am a pretty big cor but when I was peaking my whole, I would be in Miami a lot, and I would always know the niggas. That was for me because I see him one to beat with them socks and ship. No matter how hot it was, all lot got wet, they weight. Have you ever dated a guy? Have you ever dated a guy that? Or let me ask you, um damage on the West Coast And I know you're not from the West Coast, but do guys

were like Taylor's to the beach the same way? Like I feel like New York guys were attempts to the beach like in the sand. Yeah, in the sand, in the sand. No, they let them them toes out shout out to my Mexican homeboards. I told you. I think it's because because of this show and because of these conversations. I'd be liking Mantes now I should I'm missing as you should be like Manto. My foot, I'm missing a pink, your miss pinky? Now, can you pull your foot out?

I don't know how to do yo. You just you just lifted up after reviewing. Sometimes you gotta review your foot. It's it's corn. Let me make sure y'all can't see the pusa. My socks are peasy too. Don't look, don't judge my foot. Wait, put your foot up. Wait, you really gonna leave it with the sock. We ain't got no foot fetish. I don't want to see it. I don't think you'll have a rating for that kind of thing. That that's going to be is for a place to stop.

That's what we don't have. There is not one time on this show where I well, anal acrobats was pretty bad. No, bitch, you were not ready for that one. No, I wasn't an acrobats like shoot balls out of their assholes and it was an asshole circus. I'm gonna send you. I'm gonna send you the video. But basically, a woman, a woman was pouring a glass of wine and the wine bottle was in her ass. So she was pouring the glass of wine from her asshole? How much would like

some of that? Okay? Let me let me ask you this. It's a low amount of money, but like high enough to where you might do it for ten grand If a girl poured a bottle of wine in her ass would you let her shoot it into your mouth for ten grands? Uh? If it was my woman? Hell yeah? Not just some random asshole. That's how you get Corona. We still gotta say Corona free, Yo, don't forget that right? Wait? So, so you're down as long as she's your girl to get his kid possible. I'm not drinking my nigga. I

don't want Booty Salvina Blong. I'm goods booty. I don't want a Booty Bordeaux. I don't want a ship. So you don't want booty Noir. No, that sounds yo, that sounds like a fucking poor name. Nigger Booty, where'd you get your name? I just really love a red wine. Honestly, I'm sorry. I'm gonna say we start doing this ship again. Mob bay, mobay, anybody. We're gonna get into the whole facts, y'all. Whole facts is random sex facts that you may not

have known. And this one, I'm interested. We have a guy on here and I want to know if this is actually true. So the whole facts today comes from all Bright University. In a study that they did in two thousand fourteen, The fact is that you can really turn a guy on with your voice. They found that women were able to consciously manipulate their voices while counting from one to ten to sound more attractive. When the guys in the study tried to do the same, they

actually came off sounding less attractive. What kind of voice change makes a woman sound sexier? A deep, breadthy voice. According to researchers, men are attracted to this kind of pitch not because they prefer women with lower voices, but because women dropped. When a woman drops her voice, she's signal she's signaling that she's interested, a hint that men certainly aren't blind to. So y'all know, wheezy be with

the motherfucking voices and accents. So weezy, I need you to go from one to ten, least attractive to most. She didn't even know I was gonna do this, y'all, but I need you to go from the least attractive voice that you have to the most sexy voice one to tend. Yeah, like, I feel like people really don't like like if you do, like you know what's called the voice right now, it's kind of like cold stuff up.

But you know, I really think they do get very attracted when she's doing this A little bit different when you watch good now get now turn that into a super sex voice. Oh my god, stop, I can't, Yes, you can't. You have to get breathy, the deep, breathe deep. Okay, all right, all right, let me try. Let's get out of care and I'm getting nervous because we're gonna use this as a clip hoop. That's why I'm trying to get it right. I even put my wig on for this. Okay,

just think about booty, their booty, their girl. Okay, do some role play with me. Okay, called dammage, call me damage damage, call her because you're trying to get the pussy. Okay, so go ahead and talk to her. Let her know you want you want a booty call. That's a booty call. Let's go is this d Yeah? Hi? What are you doing waiting for you? When you're gonna pull up? I don't know. I thought you were gonna like send me an uber, come get it yourself. I don't. I don't

know how bad do you want to see me? The breath? I hear it. I'm about to send that over right now. I got I got asked me. I can't do the breath. To god, I barely got it. I got up. No. But it's so crazy because little do we know, Like if I'm just having this conversation on the podcast, this is clearly different than the voice I give when I'm like here, what's the voice you give? Man? Come on? Where do you want to come? Did you really just snort? Bit?

What if they back with? And what options do I have? Bitch? Do you want to come on my tits? You want to in my mouth? Can you come in my mouth? Want to hear? You'll want to hear? Where do you want to come? Story? If you guys listen to for a fact sake, you'll hear this. Um you've already heard

this story. But let me just tell y'all. So I'm in New York for a few days for work, but I've been living in saloom during this quarantine with my and he came and he always comes in my pussy because we track our ovulationship right, and it's all she about to be bullshit me. Just the week fund for Wheezy. Sorry sorry, sorry, Okay. So the week of that, my period was supposed to come. Sad moment, George Floyd, Right, So like, I know that you could get so stressed

out that your period won't come, but it did. Never happened to me, So my period didn't come on for seven days. My period has only ever been late one day. So I don't want to say anything to him because this nigga working too much. There's already a hurricane that comes this week, so I'm like, let me go get a pregnancy test. So I come in the house, I pee on the stick and these words pop up and it says and you're late and embrazada, and I'm like,

what it's coming through in Spanish? Right? Right? It was a digital screen, but hold on, the electricity went out because it's hurricane, so I could not connect to the internet. Right, I'm like, my niked and my pregnant. Do I gotta impanada? Or do I not gotta impanada? It said embarrazada? So I wake up? Non, No internet comes back up, and no, it didn't come back up. I walked down the street to get signal to figure out I wasn't pregnant. Two days later, I go get another pregnancy test. The ship

says negativo. I know what that is? We straight. Then I get an I say negativo, bitch, that does not just could have been Spanish. I think I think it's the name. I think we just like. I think we just like add an oh to anything anything. Because when I was sucked up right and electricity went off, I went downstairs and damn show said l light too and working it is Negativo. Okay, okay, I ain't know. I ain't.

So then the next test had one line on one side, one on the other side, right, And so as a woman you have to take like multiple tests because you can't just take one dog seven days late. I literally took one every other day. I took four tests. So at this point I see another test the line is a certain way and I have just throw it to him. I'm like, yeah, I don't know what's going on. Just look it up. This niga google is that comes back

talking about no empanada. We ain't got no empanada. No emfanata, we got bitch. All I know is I know all about Mexican pregnancies. And to let you know, when I went into the ox So, which is the Mexican pregnancies, you're not gonna get their version of seven eleven. Right. So when I walk in, mind you like the signals sucked up out there because the storm, so cellphone towers are down. I walk in trying to ask for a pregnancy test. I went like this, see, no, do you

have test? Though? This bitch is like she put everything literally, that's what she's doing. But listening, I'm not trying to be racist. I just don't know. So this bitch comes out with some diapers. I said, no, oh my god. I said maybe maybe maybe maybe no baby. People in the fucking store was laughing at me, and I was like yo. And at this point I noticed bitch was sucking with me. She pulled out apple sauce and she don't like, you know what the funk I'm saying? Oh?

Then I said, you have just googled it how to say it? You could have just cellphone towers were down. I don't think you're hearing me. They can't even process credit cards. Okay, that's how it was a hurricane. So wait, I walked down the aisle to grab a tampon, right the box of tampons, because I said this, how must figure out pregnancy tests? Our dad ass held it up. I said, no necessito because baby, anyway, she handed it to me. But fuck, I'm weak. I'm I'm weak as well.

I love it. Um, we went through the whole facts. Y'all know, y'all know I'm an outline whole goddamn it. We ain't really been on the outline because you know, ship fuck. Anyways, we're gonna get into our hor derve before we get into our horror decision and the hord derve. I found this on Cosmopolitan Damage. If you have any sex tip that you would like to share with our audience, please let me out this. So this is me trying to get my sexy voice on. Didn't work? Maybe not, Okay,

I'm working on it. My nigga is like my rasp, so I'll just be like Anyways, the horrid dirt for this week is a sack cruel sacral sacral. How you think that that spelled? Pronounce sacral like sacrale? If it's sacral oh maybe like a nut sack. Maybe because it's for your butt crack. Actually, not the nut sack, but

the butt crack. So try a sacral massage. If you're going to experiment with anal anal four play is a must, So try giving or receiving a sacral massage a k a. Massaging the area just above the butt crack for fifteen to twenty minutes. Now, I don't know if those are fifteen to twenty six minutes or actual minutes, but I would say just for massage, I hope for thirty seconds. I would be willing to bet my life that a sacral massage has nothing to do with your butt, your

nut sack, I said, butt crack, but nut sack. You take your thumb like this, you actually actually go It's it's right above your butt crack. And what you're doing is you're massaging this area and it will help release tension and loosen the whole area up. I actually wanted to add to this guy's so this is I do because so this is my tip to you guys who are interested in getting near the Buddha hole. It's just a Buda hole, you know what I mean? I know, but I get it, I get it, But this is

a real tip. Shut the funk up. So yes, massage right above the back um, right above the buck crack. But I would say you could get to this by offering your man a back massage. So if you guys know the lower part of the back, definitely focused there. And wait what wait, let me finish damage because this is this is this literally works every single time. I'm not gonna lie it hasn't not worked for me. So you your massage is back. So you act like you tie and you do the elbows and ship and you

know the pattern and get the upper upper back. Then when you get down to the lower back, then you start massaging the butt. She As you're massaging the butt cheeks, you're pulling the cheeks apart right, So then you go into the cup of the cheeks. So now you're massaging the thighs and the butt cheeks, thigh butt cheeks, and then you go in with your hands just like so, and you fit your mouth right into that boot hole and you add heating the groceries. And let me tell

you tell us something. Please, I never had my ass eight but if I was to get my ass, I'm not laying on my stomach and let you massage my ass cheeks open, dipping your tongue into me. It's not not I don't like my asked me a massage where. It's why I didn't like that because I feel like air is gonna come like a I feel like I don't want to us about to blow in the boot hole it supposed to. That's the opposite. I want things coming out of it, not in it. You're gonna fart

in the nigga face while he in your booty. Hall. I feel like when niggas spread my ass like air is gonna come out you. You're gonna fat for spreading the man's sad. It's the gluteous massage. It is. But so here's the thing. You know if they like it or not, because yeah, yeah, So some guys will moan and that's they're like, okay, I like what you're doing. And some guys will actually start to spread their legs like to let you know that what you're doing is

okay without telling you. Like there's body languages, body languages, body like I don't feel like that's comfortable. So that's the part. Well, I mean, technically most people would prefer massage on their stomach, so I don't think you're thinking of it that way. You're not thinking that it's on. And then that's the thing. Because the balls are there, you also just spit down on them and make them wet, and then you start massaging the balls while you're massaging

the butt cheeks. It works, I'm telling you it works. You guys want to know something random that's been coming up in my head. It's disgusting. I dream about it like two or three times a week now. So our place into Loom is like in this little like community, right, and there's this Italian dude that lives there with his wife and children. Mind you, with my nigga, I'm not trying to like you know, but it's just this fantasy that keeps coming. He's a boxer and he gives me

boxing lessons three or four times a week. But when he's like doing his ship alone, he gets like really bad because he does like kickboxing. So I guess something happens to his ass and he'd be oiling up his legs and stuff like that by the pool, right, and I'd be looking like, yo, he got a nut because he's euros so he'd be wearing a little Speedo Italian dude, I'd be like, he he really about to go up

in the ass. And sometimes if you think about his cute little fucking ass all day, and I don't know if it's because there's nothing else to do but just cook and sunk my own nigga. Now I keep thinking about this and dreaming of an Italian nigga in a speedos just his butt because he'd be oiling it. But now when we but with no oh my god, dude,

now we're all becoming friends in this community. I hope to god he never looks up horrible decision because he's like, what do you doing a medic I'm going to figure it out, come out with the speedo. But he don't speak that good at talking about him. But sometimes when we be working out right because we spar or whatever, and he'd be like hound up. But and then like he'll like turn me and ship hand ups, hound ups.

And then when he turns and he'd be having on him tight little short and I see that ass folks out, I think about going to his booty. And I never think like this, like if I fan assigned, someone is not about their ass. I can't even stop looking thinking of going into an Italian man's Buddha hole. I have literally almost ran into things on my bike because he'll walk by the street he o gee, and I'm like, oh, we want to be in some Buddha hale. I don't know what I think why I got this fixation on

his nigga's ass. It's the sky? Is it big? Like? Does he have cheeks? Like you got a man? A full on cheeks? So like I think it's because of the workouts he'd be doing. He got a fat ass, And I've never seen anything like this. You ever actually look at a man's ass and get turned on? No damage? Do you like booty? Like not man booty? Clearly we're going to change the gender here because you are a heterosisn and jail you know, you know jail, that's what they call it, a man's but it's called booty. Is

that jail booty? It's just booty. I thought it was called booty for everybody. I thought it was called for everybody booty something specific. So what type of I guess for the ladies listening, what type of booty do you like? But ass? Because I like it natural I'm into athletic athletic, so it doesn't have to be big. Just I used to play sports, and I don't think I would be considered an athletic ass, but I used to play athletic.

Acid aren't like weighty. You have like a heavy but let asks are more like titans small, they're super round, but they're like you like small booties. You know what you know that? Did you know? You know? Did you know that Weely was the president of the Small Booty Coalition? Why did you say it was? Because I think you're going to think now, yeah, you can you think now with me? Let me tell you all what's funny. So uh this I used to suck your nigga. I can't

remember where he was from. Slovenia. Where you talking about the nigga that had the bank issue that you told him in the Pillow Talk episode where he was like being investigated. He was Danish, but this guy he was Danis Danis Salvacia. Dude. Once I've moved to New York, and I like, because I wasn't really a white guy fucker until I moved to New York. But when I realized they had different type of white niggas. I was like, funk,

I'm trying to suck these nings. Thank god, I'm with a black man now and he's trying times because I don't know what I would do. But anyway, so this white boy used to funk, right. He used to be like, you have a nice sports ass, and I think it was his way of being like, it's small, but it's cool. He just can't stick out farther than the booty as long as that ratio is fine, You good. I hate guys with like cheeks because I clearly like to get in the cheeks, but it'd be now I see what

men have to deal with. It's a lot to move about the way to get there, like you be having, because many has been searching for the booty hole as we know it is. And and like when guys have kind of like a little donkey booty, I'd be like, nigga, your booty look bigger than mine. It's just a lot to move out the way. What tighter men have donkey booties.

So I football players for sure are thicker, but even the basketball players because I guess they're athletic, like they'd be having little asses that sit up and you know, I'd be liking niggas to walk naked, like that's like part of my foreplay after sex. I want to see a man just walk naked and their booties be so big. I be like, oh, you'd be posting up, don't you. But you know what, I appreciate when men have like that tone on their side, not like their ass cheek.

But what did I get? Yeah? What's that called? Was a little the did in the booty. That's a hit, right, Okay? I like that. I like that. I like that whatever they're doing, the little sidekicks, Oh, that donkey kicks. I like that little whenever I try to get attention from dudes at the gym, because I like when I squat, I feel like my ass doesn't look that big cat cow yoga thing like this one where you oh yeah, so in quarantine. I've started doing that, y'all. I don't

know if y'all know. I would probably rather run on a track. Them yoga positions, bitch be hurting because your body weight is the hardest thing to I'd be like, you know what, let me just run the bleachers because this fucking yoga ship. And I'd be in my living room like like bit like dog, I realized, like the best shape of my life is right now. And it's because body weight is like really what gets you in

shape for real? Like Calliston and all the ship being in the gym doing all that extra ship that did nothing like this body weight ship. I've never been out able to pull up my own weight and ship like it's crazy doing that. But a bitch hiking, I don't even know how I like hiking. Where do you hike in New York? Girl? I don't want to. I mean, I'm gonna let y'all know because it's my little place now. But it's in Jersey and it's right over there. It's

you don't hike in New York. No hiking Jersey, bitch. Um. But it's Palisades Park and it's like it's it's right on the water, so you see the g WB, but there's like just all these little things. It's on the water. What makes the hike elevation? Yeah, like, bitch, I'll be to the heights if you go to the heights like up by dykeman Um. I actually ran the stairs, so the Joker stairs, I've been running those so but you don't ask me why because I don't even know who

I am anymore. Honestly, why are you hiking? Girl? Don't worry about you? A patriot? I'd have told y'all somebody that got me changing my life over here. But that's only a nigger could make Mandy, because I never ever girl like to the point where I'd be like looking at the weather and I'd be like, we could do ten am, does that work for you? Can? Can we hike this week? I mean, you shut the funk up? I'm sorry, Mandy, You're just You're you working out with?

Are you me? Bitch? I don't know who a bit right? Who am I? I don't know? I don't know because I would going fro. I love being a little fit couple. We're going out there, We're hetting our protein. I'm about to call my name, Wheezy sts Wheezy. Shut the funk up ship. Before we get to this week's horrible decision, this week's episode is brought to you by none other than Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve says the best

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having with my friends, but I think it's important. We talk a lot about X. But a lot of sex involves partnership, relationships, the people you're working with, and a lot of things can turn us off. So I wanted to talk about dating with different views. So when I wanted as far as dating with different views. Right now, we have the election coming up, we have a lot of the protesting and riots coming up, just a lot of things where a lot of people have different point

of views. And I know that we've talked about not really wanting to date Trump supporters, or if you're a Democrat, can you date a Republican? So I wanted to kind of talk to you easy. You're dating somebody, Um damage, you look like you got hoes, so can we talk? That's a compliment. Attractive people have hosts period period. So um, before I guess how to start off this conversation, I want to ask how soon do you ask the person that you're dating about political, religious, and social views day?

Who you vote for? Really? You asked that on the first date. I'm not sorry to interrupt your damage, but like I feel like, my nigga, whould you vote for it? What about you? What about religion? Because I mean, do you ask about that as well? Or now? Yeah, I think religions you need to get out the way. You gotta get religion out the way because you don't want

to get so far in. It's like, yeah, I really want to come to want you to come to church with me, and then you're not really like a church going or me or me a nigga, tell me I don't drink or eat pork. Okay, this ain't gonna work because I put pork in my collegreens and so the way to this Okay, So this is why we we're friends. We're friends and that's it. Um um. So I guess. So you guys are saying, first day, how do you bring it up? Like? What? How do you bring up

without making it awkward? I never talked about politics before Trump. However, we all know that people that align their views with this man are okay with some form of racism. And I feel like maybe I alway wasn't always this person person, but I've become more awake quote unquote you know the older I get, and I'm just not about to like have to go to this point where I teach somebody something.

And that's why. Really, the white boys I date, you know what, I always mentioned that they were Europeans because I feel like American white guys always would be combative with me, even if they were liberal, they'd be like yeah, but Europeans don't do that. They'd be like, no black people. Yeah, So I want to I guess, go ahead, go ahead, damage because I dated a European white girl. She was

like some sandal pay or whatever. And it was some stuff going on, and the fact that did just say San San Rope wherever the hell it is was French south of France. She was friends, Yeah, but she was white. I know she was white. Did I realize? I was like, no, you're still white. But anyway, and it was stuff going on, and she was just like, I just feel like I don't understand everybody's people. It was just so vague, and I was like, no, not during these times. I can't

be talking to the white girls. You gotta have I hate I don't see color narrative coming out like and I believe her, but during these times. And this was a while ago. It's so sad that even a while ago, with something going on currently, I was just like, I

can't really get with that vibe. It's like, you know, it's it's interesting because you've got either you've got you've got too kind right, You've got the American white person that has been taught and brought up and either has to unlearn their bullshit right, and then you've got the year old person that genuinely may know nothing but it's sucking an it's so annoying, That's what it was. It was annoying to me. I was just like, but you know, what stuff going to set She's like, I don't know

why police stop and do that. I don't get I was like, all right, so here's here's where I kind of want to ask to This is clearly something that's been going on for centuries, hundreds of years, the last fucking six seven eight decades, dating back to the Civil rights movement. You're dating somebody, and maybe these conversations weren't had,

but clearly, right now tension is like flared. How do you keep from being turned off by your partner when they say something that you don't agree with or believe? Like that possible even I think, especially like situations like right now, it talks about your values, and I don't think if you don't share the same values, then it

just becomes an instant turn off. Like you know, some things you can kind of look to the side, like sometimes people can have different religions and they just put that to the side, But when it comes to values and being a human, I don't think and if you are able to just say, oh, well whatever, you know, she doesn't really care about what's going on right now, you really look at yourself. So it's really about values. I'll tell you. Um. I got in my first dispute

with Old Bay about the blackout thing. Um obviously he's black, but he was more like, you know, you do so many better things. Why why are you joining in this blackout ship when it's like, you know, it's all he is doing is taking things away from the Internet. I get it, you know, if you're you're taking the images away silencing black people. Da da da da da da. Why join in on something that's just making everybody shut up?

And you know, to me, and I'm glad at the end he ended up posting a blackout thing at the end of this conversation. But when I woke up and he started saying that to me, I was so angry and I was like, yo, Like, and you're having a very defeatist attitude, right. You got a man in his forties who's been through a bunch of ship. Instagram is a new thing in his mind. He's like, what the fund does posting black squares do for black man and women?

This is bullshit. However, to me, I think that the most important thing about this era is solidarity, and I think it's a great thing when you see so much ship, and this is a stupid thing to compare it to. But do you remember when Firefest everybody posted orange squares? Yes, and he made you start looking it up. That's what I really loved about what was going on with the black Square ship. I get his point about now you're silencing people and not seeing the videos on their timeline anymore.

We were pushed, you know, it was all day long. Now it's gone, um, But I find that the conversation that we keep having together. You know, he was very proud of me for helping fundraise for bail bonds, but he got annoyed with me with that, and I really allies like, Okay, I have a different view on social media than someone older than me does. And here's what's happening. He can't seem to comprehend why social media trends and

protests and petition retweets are important. And I was trying to have a conversation with him, like this is actually how people get and receive their new information. Right, just because you're not that person doesn't mean that it's not real. You know what I'm saying like, I mean, it's also the reason why podcasting can now be a career, Like this is something that's new, but you know, how we receive information, and that was the main thing about the

politics thing. He's like, like I even told him, you know, Mandy and I had to show. I think I don't remember what city it was, but I'm like, we used to promote on the podcast on Monday's. People were here, tickets were out, It's sold out before the episode came out. Because that's how many people are connected to the Internet. And if you can't understand that people are using the internet for in for everything they take in, then you're

just choosing to be blind. And like, I really genuinely feel like people don't trust news outlets more than they do Twitter. Now, I was gonna say, um, so for a lot of people who have followed me maybe over the last decade. I used to have a sports blog called full Court Pumps dot com for those of you

who don't know where the name came from. Um, but it was a sports based blog and I literally stopped doing it when when I got back into college because AdSense Um was how I got paid through Google, and that's based on how many clicks come to your website, you get paid like fucking micropennies on the on the click, but it adds up and um, essentially blogging went down, newspapers and tangible like how all of that like, which is why you know, Show magazine and King Magazine and

even the magazines all went to flush because people were accessing what they wanted to see through Instagram and Twitter at like an instantaneous type of fucking right. And I think it definitely changed not only the narrative and how we receive information, but journalism. Um, I want to get into a d M that was sent to me. I asked some of our followers if anything had caused turmoil

in their relationships with what had happened. Um. Someone said, um, and I'm not gonna put their name out, but they said, my boyfriend and I are on the same team. But with him being a police officer, he finds a way to justify the actions that they do or have done. It frustrates me to note that the um that the system has brainwashed him into thinking that certain situations need

a story behind it should just be wrong period. Not to say that he doesn't want justice, but the same way he speaks when I try to have a healthy conversation is a turn off for me. It's dismissive and closed minded. He hates to admit that the system and cops are fucking corrupt, but only when they are fucking with him. I get that this is his job, but as a black man, first, I think he just doesn't see the bigger picture. But but but really, what you do

so that that was gonna be my next question. You don't think that you can help somebody unlearn those ways? This mon Nayga posted a blackout thing after waking up and telling me, yeah, that's way different. Because at the end of the day, if you can watch a cop in any of these instances kill somebody and then go, well, you gotta think about this and this and that, you're part of the problem because this is not necessarily just

a race thing. It is because systematically it's racism. But it doesn't matter who's the person on the other side. It's just because he's a black man, he's a part of that racist system and he's brainwashed by it. So as a human, if you can't see that a cop put his knee on somebody's neck, or a cop shot somebody when he wasn't supposed to. If you can't see that as wrong as a human, then we got to disconnect. That's a fair point. Your values are all over the place, bro.

I think the problem with black cops right now is they're one of two things are happening. They are feeling guilty for something they haven't done and feeling like they're hated. So they're feeling forced to defend ship because they know that they're wearing this uniform and this is how they are in a living So what am I supposed to do?

Turn away from it now? And or I don't know, Like I've met cops that have that are that were the community police, you know what I'm saying, Like I've met cops that like you know, I lived in the Lower east Side for a minute and it's where I spent most of my time here in New York. And there's a lot of Latino cops in that neighborhood that are from the Lower east Side and talk about that's why they're there, and I appreciate that, But there isn't

a lot of community police. There isn't a lot of community police led programs, and I think there's a lot of great cops actually, But the thing is, when this stuff goes down, I would love to see those cops speak up and say what's wrong. That's the problem. So if you're not saying what's wrong, I don't care if you're a good cop, because you're not stepping out for us to know that there are some good cops that

know that that's wrong. What they do is they band together and even when they see something wrong, they just stay quiet. So you're a part of the problem here at this point. Either you're on this side or this side. Right, yeah, right, So here's my too before we get into the homel and wrap up. Um, do you believe that it's that it's possible to have a healthy relationship when you disagree because a lot of them, I mean on these matters, on who you vote for, on religion, or on social matters.

Is there a way to agree to disagree on these things and have a healthy relationship. I don't think so either. I don't think so. And like I said, it comes down to values. And if you think like that, it means your family thinks like that. That means when I go over for the cookout or the family reunion. Now, they're saying a whole bunch of flieship that I don't agree with. And it's just more than just the interaction

with us. Is now, now your friends might have those same values and now or maybe you have one friend that don't agree with you, and I agree with that friend. Now you think we're gaining up against you. You know what I'm saying. It just creates a really weird dynamics. So it's too much of a lingering problem politics and

where we stand on this. I mean, this is why your political party is in dating apps, right, because I'd be dead asked with you like I would swipe left and and it isn't I feel like Trump ruined a lot of this because I wasn't that scared of Republicans, Like I think the best thing we've ever had was the Mitt Romney Obama ticket. Mitt was a Republican even

asked somebody went that bad? You know what I'm saying, Like, it's like when you have to genuinely question someone's ethics about the color of your own skin and you're fadful of that and you're watching someone demonized children, Mexican kids, Muslims. I mean everything over and over, um and I don't

and then selling people to motherfuckering drink bleach. We ain't even gonna talk about how he's handled this whole COVID bullshit, right, It's be it's very hard to now be on that side and not see a Republican as that person, and it's it's a hard place to fucking be not to mention with religion. You know, I'm agnostic with for those of you who don't mean you know what it means, atheists, someone who don't believe in God. Agnostic is just like

higher power, spiritual being. Um, I'm not gonna front. I had to do that left me for Jesus. We some of you remember early on the loves of my life and I never forget walking out saying is he's just gonna suck your dick to cool Like we were dead ass breaking up because he was like I'm he was feeling guilty and wanted you to go to Bible study, bitch, to step through the church. How I've been fucking bitches

with you. I like parties, we'd ecstasy, we were doing together at the time, and you thought for a second then suddenly you would just wake up and be like no, now it's Jesus. Oh no, dude, we're going to rave. That was my energy back there, like and why does God have to stop you? Do you know how many horns I've sucked a loved church come ons? We know we know how to pass and get down with to get down. Uh. Anyways, guys, UM, if you have any stories, I do want to share those as well as the

coming weeks come. So, if you have any stories regarding UM, maybe a change in your relationship due to differences in opinion regarding the upcoming elect or what's been going on with the rights and everything, please shoot us over an email. Tell your story. We have something called hole Confessions, but this will fall right in there. Email us at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. This last homail that I'm gonna read really quickly. We're gonna give UM some advice

before getting up out of here. It's as Hi, Mandy and Wheezy. First of all, I love this podcast. I just got into listening to the podcast and this is the best start I have got I could have gotten. I just want to say I am African from Rwanda, not to be confused with Wakanda. UM and sex is literally a taboo to even mention in most African homes. So you best believe I make sure I put on

my headphones when listening to y'all. L O. I've made sure I make all of my friends start listening to this podcast, because why the funk not y'all are really ship? So I have a question. I am twenty two and I'm a virgin. I have never done anything sexual with men or been in any relationship. At first, it was because I just didn't think about it because I was mostly preoccupied with school. Now I'm in college in the US, and long story short, I want to start exploring my

sexuality with both myself and relationship wise. It feels like most of my friends are already ahead of me and don't know where to even start. I have tried dating apps, but to be honest, most of them niggas just want to hook up, and that is not what I am looking for. I genuinely look I genuinely want an emotional and sexual connection with someone. Come on, wheezy, what can you advise me on entering the dating world or even

pleasuring myself? Sometimes I think I have set the bar so high when I see my friends hooking up, but hookups in one night stands just don't interest me at all. Also, I am scared of when I do get into a relationship, being that I'm a virgin and twenty two, not knowing a lot. Here's the question. Please tell me how I can get to explore my sexuality deeper while not compromising what I want in a relationship to her? Give it to her, ladies, So why I'll go ask you too,

But go ahead, we we're gonna start with you. I can give it to her first. As a woman, you should give it to a person. Point of view, well, I would say I'm going to be soft, but with the voice change okay, because you want an emotional and connection in a sexual relationship. But I think what's going to hinder you from that is thinking that it's going

to be something deeper. You're allowed to have an emotional connection with someone that may not be your boyfriend, and you won't regret giving your virginity to that person because you'll have a connection with them. I think that you cannot seek after a man to take your virginity and have this perfect idea of what he will look like. If you've met a guy and you've been hanging out with him for three days and you feel like you've got a mutual respect and you're interested in enemies turning

you on. Let that be the person that's still a connection either way. We have a very weird idea of what emotional connections look like from how other people are displaying their relationships. We could talk about myself. I've been talking about Old Bay on this podcast for a minute, and it sounds like I have something deep with him, right. That doesn't necessarily mean that we have to mimic those relationships that other people are talking about. Everybody's connection to

someone is a different one. I've had very deep connections with people I've known for a few hours. To be honest with y'all, like I'm like, Wow, I'm really feeling this person. It's like when you're out and you make that bathroom friend. Is it someone you'll remember for a while or someone you want to keep seeing. It's like vibes, baby, vibes. It is And do not put the pressure on yourself to make sure this person will stay around. I enjoy

this person for that moment. I understand you don't want to one night stand, and I'm not telling you just suck somebody because it's going cool. I'm telling you to suck them because you feel like that person is matching with you on another level that one night stand would it. Just don't have expectations beyond that. Get some experience and if you need to be in love, fine, but you didn't mention that, So I'm just saying, don't confuse the two.

Don't confuse an emotional connection for a progressing relationship more than you have um a mutual respect like damage. I don't know if you could speak to this now, but how dating women like can you acknowledge that that you've really cared for them? Maybe didn't see it going anywhere. But and this is the problem she's going to run into. Right, she's a virgin. Clearly, she doesn't have a lot of dating history, so she's looking for Mr. Perfect. That's already

strike one to whoever she has sex with. First, she's gonna fall deeply in fake love with. She's not really gonna love the person. It's just so much, you know, passion. This is the first guy she's really been with, and what she needs to do is first workout her relationship kinks, because she's not going to realize that most likely she's

going to be the problem. Just gonna be honest. When you've never dealt with somebody before in a serious relationship and you first just start having sex, you're gonna be super clingy, You're gonna be acting super weird, and you're not even gonna notice that until you're in your fourth boyfriend. Like I used to act so crazy back then. Why was acting like that? You know, I almost I didn't argue with about this, but you're right, Yeah, I'm serious.

So she's gonna be dealing with a dude and no matter how normal he is, she's like, he's acting weird. He doesn't call me every five minutes, he doesn't do this. It's because this is your first boyfriend for real, like you never really had a boyfriend. I suggest for her to find somebody she vibes with that mutual respect, Like you said, get that out the way, get your virginity out the way, unless you're waiting to get married. Okay, not get your virginity out the way, get out the way.

It's gonna hinder her with that person that she feels Yeah, still a good person, not just anybody, but still somebody has mutual respect. Because what's what's going to happen. Man, I'm telling you, she's gonna be acting weird with this dude and he's not gonna be with her. So now after she had her first boyfriend and had her first sexual experience, he's probably going to break up with her or do something weird and she's gonna be crushed for like a year. So I'm trying to I'm trying to

prevent her from that for the never given. But be ready for heartbreak. I think that you need to prepare yourself for that too, because it just comes with the goddamn Let me tell you something. You don't even have some fun. Just have some fun, like, don't try to go into your first one so serious, and you will find that right person because you want to work out your own kinks first. Yea, when when you said be

ready for heartbreak? This entire podcast over the last three and a half years has never gone a week without talking about a dick. Dick is the reason for tears. Dick is the reason me and many have argued, and we don't have a mutual dick, just dick drive you crazy, don't even not getting dick, getting dick, but then just not fitting in the time We're going to the student.

My nigga Dick is the root of all evil. You want to be a part of this, und you and understand that you are now really a part of the whore high because when you come to them live shows and we start our niggas, ain't ship chip niggas, ain't sh niggas for the men wanting to come to the Horrible Decision live show. We do not chant the niggasation. Although I did get told the other day that I have a niggasation ship attitude towards life, and I was like, oh,

I don't know if I like that towards life. That's not bad. I love all my niggas. I ain't gonna lie and everyone that's been inside of me. Um. But anyways, we are going to wrap this up. Damage. I want to thank you for joining us. Can you go ahead and let audience know where they can find you and where they can listen to you. Also what your podcast is about real quick? Oh of course? Okay, So of course, Hollywood and lock On one third of Hollywood and lockshout

to Jason Lee and Melissa four. You can check out at Hollywood on lock On Instagram. It's all over YouTube on all the DSPs, look up Hollywood a lot and sensored. We talked about gossip, politics, and sex talk just like y'all in a differently I hope, so with Melissa like you know what I mean, sex icon and y'all can follow me catch up with me man aill DJ Damage that's on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. And if you're interested in becoming a personality on TV podcasting like y'all, Radio

legendary media group dot com. Are you saying damage it again? Are you single? You know what? You know? What? Put a button on that? I don't know? You don't know? Something good as brewing? Well, let me tell y'all something sliding while you can. Yeah, y'all better hurry up because it's something good's brewing over here. I like that. I like that. Well, guys, I want to thank you guys um for tuning into another episode weezy, Do you have anything to get off before I dropped our patree? Yahn

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in that way because we are eighteen plus. And of course we talked about hot ship even more in depth, and um, if you'all are interested in what's been going on with my abstinent life, I talked about the good ass absent and dick I've been getting so UM, you guys can go listen to that on Patreon against Patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions. We are going to leave you off with a motherfucking five minute clip from one of our bonus episodes. Again, if you want to hear more,

join us on Patreon. This has been yet another episode. UM. Decisions by women listening are like, you know, what marriage really isn't for me? I guess I get them into kind of a a a deep hole of thinking than what is the purpose of dating? What is the end goal of dating? Um? And you and I kind of had this conversation because essentially, a lot of us date to marry, a lot of us dates to find our you know, love, love of our life. We date to to find that one person that we see ourselves with

for the rest of our lives. And that's kind of how we're conditioned. That's how we're born, that's how the fairy tales go, that's how all the Disney movies end. And and so as an adult though, as I get older and I see that I'm happy like with my partners and and what I get from them, and how I'm not I don't have to answer to anybody, and how I'm able to have purely open communication, and also just not seeing a marriage that I envy. Girl, that's

that hard. That's that's serious though, Like I don't know a married couple when I'm like, damn, I want that. I wish I had exactly that. Like even do I want what will Smith and Jada have? No, ma'am, I don't.

I don't want that. I mean ship. We all sit here and say, relationship goes to all these celebrities, and then by the following week we see that one has cheated on the other, there was domestic abuse or you know, and so even our ideas what I don't even want, I don't even envy Barack and Michelle because Michelle had to put up with a lot. I'm not talking about like Barrock cheating or anything. It's just their type of partnership is a lot on her a lot. It's a lot.

It's demanding, it's demanding. But I think that I think that we don't realize not only does society add so much pressure to us, but men do and other women. I want to read. I want to read this tweet. It's from Sierra w Um. I literally asked what the end goal was if you don't want to get married, and she said L O L. Society telling women their only value because people see them as wife or mother

material is dismal. In my opinion. If you can only see your worth through men, then please continue the cycle like our mothers did. Um and I write, and I think that that is telling because yeah, like I think a lot of us view ourselves and the worth of ourselves by the acceptance of men, or how men view our worthiness without viewing ourselves as worthy, and we do it to each other. We see here and be like, well, girl, you ain't got a ring, So until you get a ring, hey,

don't nobody wants you. And I think it's trash. I'm looking for the response from Raquel Savage. Raquel Savage has such a fucking way with words, um, and I want to read it before we kind of get into our own. So so again, the question is what is the end

goal if you don't want to get married? Um. Former guests for cal Savage said, to get my needs met, To experience love and kindness, gentleness and stillness, vulnerability and introspection, joy community, to feel seen and held, to practice reciprocal reciprocity, reciprocity my baby, you know, I gotta reciprocity, bitch, fuck you, and feeling safe in my body with others. To learn

something about myself and my perception of the world. And I like that because I don't think people realize you can truly enjoy a long partnership with someone without not only marriage, but without a title. And I think that we've we've talked about titles a lot on this podcast, and a lot of people feel like things go downhill

when you start pressuring a title. UM. I do think that that just has a lot to do with monogamy, because maybe at that time that person does not want to be exclusive, and so the pressure is a feeling like, Okay, I now have to answer to one person. I now am getting into an exclusive agreement where you know, maybe I don't want to lie. I think that that's where a lot of pressure comes with with titles, um. But

also what is marriage be? What? What is marriage? What is marriage but sides documents and being able to file joint returns? What what is marriage? Or what do you what do you believe we have viewed marriage as over the years to make it seem so worthy and make it the end goal of of partnership. That's a tough question. I just feel like everyone has a different version of

what marriage is. There are some people who want to be taken care of and you know, have children and have the husband to work and they bring it home to the wife, and or some people just want literally a partner, you know, for you know, health insurance or like there's so many reasons people get married. I don't have that answer, and I think, I mean, maybe that's why I don't know if that's something that I want, because I haven't I have I don't have a definition for you