Ep161: Masturbation & STDs Down Yonder Feat Andrea Jackson

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and Eve. Thanks for supporting the show, Adam and Eve, and let's get to it. Hey guys, welcome to you another episode of Horrible Decisions. First off, y'all puts pole thought. Y'all get no episodes, but we here, we is here, we are recording from the comforts of our homes. I'm excited. We are joined by a guest today, but as y'all know, there's actually ship to catch up on. I guess um, So this is your girl, Mandy b a k A full cor pumps a k A de beat and I

am catless Cathy. We've got We've got Carol Baskin. Mandy over here who said she got a cat. Let me see it. I'm worthy, Oh loo it he cat. This is my little kid, So let me tell you all the story. So I came on here and told y'all um, I was being lonely. So I do want you all to pray for your single friends who live alone with no kids. That is me. So I have um actually been going through it um mentally. I've been talking to

my mom. My mom was like even yesterday when I was leaving the grocery store, she was like, you sound kind of manic right now, and I'm concerned. Um, why did because just how I was talking, I was just like a girl. It was weird even though market and I didn't even notice it. But while I was grocery shopping, I was singing, I was dancing, I was losing my fucking mind. Um, and I was just like really talking really fast. She was just like really kind of concerned.

So I want to shout out Demca. I believe her her name is or Demika. Anyway, she will listen, don't Anyways, one of our listeners actually hit me in the d M yesterday and was like, hey, girl, do you still want a kitten? One of my neighbors just walked up to us to sell the one. She was like, but I'm gonna be honest with you, but she only asked you for twenty dollars, so I think she just really need the twenty dollars. So I don't know where the

cat really I gave her. I was like Okay, hopefully this twenty dollars isn't going to buy crack cocaine for this kitten. I don't know what I exchanged for this. Yeah, they actually showered it before they gave it to me, gave put it in a box and I got like a pe pad on it. I'm waiting on the litter box wich. I'm on Amazon last night because I go I want to pick it up last night and I was like, but I ain't got shipped. Girl. I gave us some tune us cat. So that's that's what I'm

working on right now. So you could call it Cat's I will not. That reminds me of cat Dog actually the the you know the guy, So I kind of want to name it body. That's I don't know what I'm leaning towards, and only because it's reminded me of a hood as Bodega Cat, So I either want to call it for the body. I like Bodie better, more clever because it's ratchet. I'm not even gonna lie, let's not go with Bronx. You might move one day. Well, fuck you? Is the cat from the Bronx? Is that

bit seven minutes away? She gave me her address to come pick it up. I was like, oh girl, you write you down the block, so I got it. I think that it's going to be good in terms of just my mental health because I am one of those that is really struggling right now well and my grandmother's nursing home. This is how I'm starting this. There's a few people that have like baby dolls. It sounds so weird. They're really losing it, and they give it to them

so they have something to take care of. So it makes you feel like you've got, you know, something to do. You look forward to something, and you're not only like now you have to fend for someone else. Someone else's like, you know what, I I need depending on you. So it's really helpful. You got to fend for the baby doll. Who finning for baby dolls? Them old ask people that's

losing it just like you will. In the grocery stop, I was fending for my clip, which I actually had to stop touching because I started fake orgasming to go to bed, like literally my clip it's gone, Like I don't feel nothing, Just hand girl the womanizer. Goddamn put this on the motherfucker. You can't do it. Stopped working and then I realized, like, you know, this is how I go to bed at night. So I started like literally fake orgasming to my own self. I was like, oh,

I'm doing the moment. I was like, uh, bitch, but no, I really didn't come and it would help me fall asleep. It's been really the cat. What about the cat's gonna bring me some happiness? Um god, I thought that bitch in the hallway last night. He wouldn't let me sleep. He just want to keep playing. So I set him up in the hallway. Business. You gotta new to the girl lit. Okay, it's lit, and I think it's a but don't act hyper on the because it's gonna match

your energy. What do you mean to think it's a boy? So here's the thing, right, I think he picked up the cats. We can tell you. I did. Oh, it's either balls or a fat pussy. I can't tell, Like, I don't know. I gotta look on the internet and see what the balls as well. Don't be the person that says nipples makes it a boy or girl? That would be me. All right, I'm about to hold on cat, pussy, cat, male or female? This is but look at kitting because

I know when the balls dropped. But so she hit me this morning and said, hey, the lady said it's a girl, and I was like, oh, bitch, I was just sure it was a boy. But I so, I guess it's a fat pussy. You know what. I take it back, um, typing cat male or female, and they show you the but oh, okay, here's a good tip. The boy booty hole. I not it's more circular. No, I am not looking at the booty hole. Bro. I like to look at the booty hole on a nigger. I'm not looking at the booty hole to see if

it's circular on my cat. Bro. Okay, So I think is that a joke? It's a um let me see what I'm feeling better about. I love going to the grocery store, bitch. That what a treat. Oh my god, Trader Joe's. I'd be in there like talking to people to share how y'all doing. I fucking love it. Also, Um, everyone that goes to the Trader Joe's and the Lower

East Side for some reason listens to horrible decisions. Either that or they just want to now speak to me because I've been going to that Trader Joe's for the last two years, and everybody'd be like, Yo, what's that? Yeah, so how y'all recorded? And then one girl or was this like two days ago? She was like that ship. I don't believe y'all. Y'all did not fucking record that ship. Nah, Like I know, y'all did that ship in the house together whatever, y'all be faking like ya don't funk with

each other. But she was at the same crap like but you could literally hear I think I had a package come. My buzzer went off. Y'all know I'm in the bronx of you go here to Sirens? Right, it's one time at least one um what else? Oh, I'm really excited about this weekend because I am going to throw another club quarantine. I found this stoddy as dress that I'm gonna put on, and yeah, I hit up my drug dealer. I was like, what do you have, Let's just turn it up and he was like, I'm

really dry right now. I'm like, well, I'll take what you got. I just don't shoot up whatever it else it is, I'll take it because if we are getting fucked up. But my nigga is like, Yo, we can't get too late because we don't sunk up our immune system. We gotta keep our ships strong. I'm like, okay, well it's either that or I'll kill myself in this house if I don't go to the club. Well, someone's calling me. How do I do it? What someone's doing? Okay? Sorry,

I was going through my phone anyway. So I got the stoddy as dress and I'm gonna do Instagram like I got gonna do Venus Ex or Manny Fresh because he was super lit this weekend. And also I'm going to get a virtual lap dance. Magic City has been girl. You is not doing the virtual lap dance ship Okay, you're gonna give it or you're gonna get it. So I'm gonna get it. And um yeah, right now I've

been using what was I gonna say, porn h Premium. Um, my user name is Horny and why couple if you guys want to see the comments that I leave on my boot cockey videos. But yeah, I'm gonna do the virtual app dance. I think I'm gonna get one from Neon Tree and a few other Magic City girls. This is my way to support, you know, the community and also another way, UM, you should do this too. So I'm doing a whole fucking purge of my apartment right

because I would have donated these clothes anyway. So I'm making a posh mark and donating the I'm not personally not even gonna do the posh mark. There's a there's a watch McCall it downstairs for me to like just put clothes and ship in. Well, I was gonna do that too, but I'm doing the poshmart thing, and I'm donating the money to people that need it. Girl, you you said, I look like um love and hip hop if it was a person. I ain't giving these my spandex and they gonna love that ship got a liquid

level ship from fashion. No no, no, no, no no, I'm not donating my clothes to COVID. Really, I'm like selling them and giving the proceeds so like stuff that I wore on the tour ship like that. The postmark game is wheezy. What the fuck? Um and everything. I'm still in ten dollars stuff, twenty dollars stuff, thirty dollar stuff, and then all that money I'm gonna give to um, you know, patrons and followers. I need it. That's really cute. I hope that's cute. Don't want to you know, it

works out good. But anyways, guys, I'm excited because we are joined today by a yes, so we can introduce her. You've been quiet, am I bad foot but like holding you all, we just had to, you know, update the motherfucker's on what we're doing. She's black, We're back black. Who then I don't what I mean? You know, we mixing it up. We did have a caucagean last week she shout out to ms Corey Be shout out to her again. I hope you guys caught her um her

podcast again her first episode. You can into her. Never have I ever squirted? And last week they did fucking fisting, which I still haven't gotten fisted. We know Wheezy has, but we're not gonna get her. Run Bro, you said, did you put your fists in her? Or she put her fisty? I didn't put this. I just put four fingers in and then I didn't knuckle up real quick, did you? This hole just said, I only put four

fingers and the thumb that's your hand. But but I ain't make a fist, so I just fingered with my hand, but no one calls it handy, bro. I forgot I that bitch. Honestly, see, look at you. I'll remember before you. I want to. I want to introduce our guests. We have Andrea Jackson, who was a lifestyle coach and hosts of our Mirrors Reflections podcast. Hi Adrea, Hi girls, Hi Mandy, Hi Wheezy. Welcome to the show. So you are a lifestyle coach, So what is it that you focused on.

I focused on a young girl's team, moms, uh mother's uh ex wives, you know, women who have been through trauma, Women who has done been through things when they were younger that unfortunately that weren't able to talk about it until they were adults and it has now transferred into their marriage or their relationships. So I deal with women that has dealt with many trauma weathers from their husband,

from their dads, from brothers. Um I myself have experienced, right, So it's near and dear to me to give back to young girls who went through what I went through. I really like that. I think, um we we We had the episode with dub Um and she spoke of, you know, the gang rate that she experienced. But I think that it's important. We actually have we had any other conversations regarding trauma in sex and relationships as adults, Sweezie,

I don't think we have. I thought of I know, I did the bonus episode regarding like the Surviving Society after the r Kelly thing, But I think we don't really talk about trauma much do. I think? Also, like a reason, Um, Andrea, we don't really talk about trauma too often is because, first of all, it's so subjective to that person. Like right, like we taught Mandy did a domestic violence episode and people didn't like it. People liked it, Like it's like, how soft can we be

when we talk about it? How are we honoring that person that has the experience that listened. Um. Someone even said that our diaper Boy episode was triggering for them because it brought them back to molestation, and I'm like, just because he's freaking like you know. So I think that maybe steering clear from trauma has happened, or maybe people don't even hit us up about it too often to come on because they feel like we're too nasty.

I don't know. Yeah, it's it's crazy because we focus a lot on kinks and the one thing that I know that I know we say no kink shaming, but I think that we do bring up that the fact that we don't like how a lot of people associate

kinks with trauma. So I think you know what I mean, Like, if you're into something, oh you must have been molested as a child, or maybe you have daddy issues, and a lot of people tie kinks to trauma, and we try to like showcase that people can be into these kinks without having I I think you can be into these things and still have had trauma happened to you. Um. I feel if people are not dealing with certain situations,

of course it's going to be triggering to you. But if you are out there getting your therapy and you're out there getting your help, you definitely know how to separate it. And I'm I'm living proof of that. Well should y'all know, I'll be triggering y'all wholes just be talking about married sucking married man, so I get everything trigger y'all. Motherfucker's Oh my god, she is just so proud to fuck married men. Okay, I'm sorry if you're triggered,

married woman, Oh my god, Okay, may almost awful. I don't know. It's nothing wrong with living your truth. It's nothing wrong, and I do like don't for living my truth. And people need to just be who they are and be in their own skin. And if you could can't be with it, then you can't be with it. Also, like cheating conversations are triggering sometimes in general, Like oh my god, when I hear about the situation ships, I just think back to every nigga that I was holding

onn for and I'm like, it's just the worst. You know, there's so much triggering ship in everything, bro, Like that's why people have to deal with their stuff. I mean not only triggering. I don't know if y'all saw it, but Netflix just tweeted UM that they removed the are you still watching um? Feature on their platform because they know we're not doing nothing? And I felt triggered, like that was a fake tweet. I mean, well, oh I

posted it, maybe they were let me see. I'm pretty sure that was when they said we know you guys are doing nothing. We do we I mean it's said Netflix. They said it was from Netflix. Because I reposted that ship to my story, I was like, oh, I feel triggered, baby, Like, how you know I'm not doing nothing? I mean I'm not doing nothing, but yeah, I don't think Netflix. Let's say that, bro, yeah, bro verified account. Look, I'm going to Mandy and do you think that they can't photo

shot fucking fake ship? Oh you might be right, Okay photos shot I ain't, but no, they don't have it anymore. Okay, So we're gonna We're gonna start this week's episode though with an icebreaker. Um. Last week we played never Have I Ever? And this week with our guests, I want to play have you ever? And if you've ever done these things? Do share? Please? This is now storytime. So have you ever warns? Well? I know weezy done, of course done every Why did she always? I ain't gonna

hold you. I feel like you may have done this in middle school, hope. Have you ever warned special clothes to cover a hickie? Now? Guess you're probably wearing turtlenecks in motherfucking the heat of summer, bitch, just to cover the hickies, Like you know, it's fashionable. I'm starting, That's why I'm one this weekend. You want to hit in Jorea? Have you ever worn special clothes? To cover a hicky. Yes I have. I'm guilty as charged. I ain't gonna lie.

Hicky is kind of like hunching to me. It's such a weird word. I kind of like to show off that every now and then. I'm like, yeah, I know I'm an oldie, but goody, but I still get something. I was sucking you you like to show off your hickies. I think hickies are such a childish thing to get. Why. It just shows you how good it is, that's all. No, it's like, nigger, you a vampire? Why are you sucking on my neck like to where it leaves a mark? Like? Do you not know how to keep at People get

spanked and leave marks there too. That's a passion mark. I didn't think about that same thing. The only thing that freaks out about higgies. I'm like, Oh, it's all the blood. Is that what it is? Oh? I know you're not cringing for blood? We know you love blood. Shut bitch. My periods sucking coming on on Monday, so by the time you guys here, this will be here. And I was like, nigga, we got suck everywhere this week. Oh my god, hallelujah. Y'all, she's made it another month

without getting pregnant. I'd be praying for your period. I'll go on that baby like ali want um Nah. I saw a tweet the other day that said, playing parents, I need to open back up this motherfucker growing. Oh. So the second have you ever? Oh? Go ahead? What she was gonna say? Go ahead? Oh? I was gonna say. The second have you ever? Is? Have you ever had sex with a person whose name you didn't know? Nah? Damn no, no, no, only names? Wazy, I'm sorry, I'm

reading what a hicky is? What? Um? Have you ever had sex with a person whose name you didn't know? So, y'all really gonna make me be the only one? I'm sure if there's I'm the only one of some things that you didn't do either, child. I told listen, okay, you're right um for this one, and I shared the story. I may have shared it on a Patreon. I went to a party a couple of months ago, and me and this guy ended up like it was just like

a matchmate in heaven. We ended up getting a room in the city and we had just some wild sex and the next morning we reintroduced ourselves because I could not remember what he even said his name was, and so I was like, hey, nice to meeting. I was like, by the way, my name is Mandy. Um well that

was interesting. Um so yeah, so I we reintroduced ourselves in the morning after having sex, so listen, you know, and I was and now I'm not because we're in quarantine, and so I'm glad I experienced what I have experienced. Um So the next one is have you ever faked an orgasm? Now? I shared that I faked an orgasm just recently with my goddamn self. Have y'all ever faked an orgasm with your partners? Of course? Oh with my partner currently? No? I mean ever, yeah, I have Do

you fake? So? I know we faked it with guys before. Have you ever faked um an orgasm with a woman? How do you fake it with a woman? I get the same way. I'm just like, so you do the Caucasian moment? Am I faked it with a woman? That generally women are better? But I've sucked a few girls that like had never been with a woman, and then they're just like doing a lot. So I just wanted to be over so, but I just know that it's probably I am actually more sensitive to the woman's ego

than I am the man's ego. That's why I feel like I've had two with girls, which is probably sucked up. I was gonna say, I thought my man recently faked an orgasm with me, and I had a whole fit and he was like, trust me, it's gonna come out. It's gonna come out, and like so he just had the quietest fucking come I'd ever heard, and he doesn't come that way. I was like, you didn't come. I

got up. I was so mad. I took a shower and then I felt it and I was like, oh, but I ain't gonna I ain't gonna hold you because sometimes I know and Nigga can be lying, especially if I'm sucking for a long time, I want to look in the condom and make sure it's in there right, So I'd be feeling like Nigga's be fake coming bro, dude, they do. So then I started, we got this whole thing. He's like, why would I Hollywood come with you, Nigga? Why I would just tell you we can suck tomorrow.

That wasn't fake. I'm like, so why he was quiet He's like, I was only quiet because I wanted to hear you come. Oh he gotta answer for every but I ain't gonna lie. I squeeze the tip of his dick to make sure some of it came out. I was being a real extra. Wait you squeeze the tip of his dick. Bro. He was laughing. And then we had a whole conversation about Hollywood cubs and I was like, what's the worst that you've done. He was like, Oh, I've spent on bitches booties before, Like I've done it all.

He's like, I grabbed the condomn real quick, take it off and be like yo, So that's the trick that I'd be knowing, Like niggas are just real quick, pulled a condomn off and act like they gotta go piss or something now, Like oh no, nigga, I need to see that there's coming that condom. Did you come? That's embarrassing if you if a woman got to ask, nigga, but did you come? Ship? We're not supposed to be

asking that ship? I mean yeah, But I think also we have a lot of we put a lot of pressure on men coming like that's always like the quote unquote finale of sex. So maybe they just feel the pressure for it too. I don't know. I'll look at you being all, you know, cautious of the mail because I want to bar tickets when we come back on tour. That's that's so we Weezy found this week's Vanilla shipn dot Com. Um. It's funny because I was talking to

Andrea before recording and she actually saw this too. I actually did not see this, and it's interesting. Whither do you want to read the Vanilla ship or you want me to y? Yeah, let me just pull it back up. So UM, shout out to our Twitter listeners. A few people tagged me in this and I was like, holy, ship is just costing. Yeah, I mean we can't do anything. We can't ride a bike, we can't go for a run or for a swim because new clamydia species are

have now been discovered deep under the Arctic Ocean. That's wow. I can't even talk are fact that this is from CNN dot com. Okay, so when people hear the word clamydia, they usually think about STDs, and it's true that that specific bacteria can cause lamydia depending on your interactions. UM with people, but you can also get it with different

organisms to survive. So a team of researchers discovered that new clamydia related species is below the Arctic Ocean in a place with no oxygen, without an apparent host organism, so it's not like it's even coming from someplace. It's almost like it's growing. Um. Finding chlamydia in this environment was completely unexpected, and of course beg the question what on earth was it doing there? Um says that they're basically trying to find ways and how chlamydia is coming

into effect with humans and other animals. Um. They came across a number of diverse cousins of chlamydia between point one and nine meters below the sea floor. UM, I ain't a lie. That made me happy because I was like, okay, it's below to the floor. That means we could still fucking the ocean if we But you know what doesn't anything Because Andrea, last week or not last week, a few weeks ago, someone wrote in and said, can you create chlamydia? Because her man gave her the ship and

he said he wasn't cheating. That's a damn line. So so she wanted to know if their bodies together could create No. He was like, Yo, no business dipping in. You listen to the fucking holes every week. Bitch, I'll trying to tell you I went swimming, my nigga, I was swimming. And then look that's what they're gonna say. Now they're gonna be like I went to the beach, man, I went to the sea. You'll be out there doing some violations and I'm not down with that. Okay, you

have to be responsible. You gotta be responsible. Man, what beach do you think has the most chlamydia in New York? In New York, here she goes, She's gonna to New York like that Jones. Bitch, I got I got the Orchard beach. I got a rock Away. You got a rock man from Queens. I used to go to Rockaway when I was a kid. But I haven't been in the beach in New York. And so here's when I go to the beach. I don't go in the water. I just go. I just go in the water. You

go in the water, wheezy. Actually no, I don't. Yeah, that's my point. You don't go in the water in New York. So y'all looking at me like I'm crazy, But why don't we the girl because it's New York. They you see what they'd be putting in the guy there, so I saw. Let me tell you, I almost thought these niggles was lying and they just didn't know what one looks like. But I went to Rockaway Beach last

summer in my whole girl. We're drinking, we have a good time, and these needna started bugging out because they see a dolphin and I was like, why they like? There was a dolphin for real? There actually was, And I was the judge bench talking about they don't have to There was like the only beach that I really like, and I think, actually I'm lying. I have been in the water, but it's not a New York beach. Would

be Gunnison. It's the nude beach in Jersey off Sandy Hook, And I mean it's it's up that got the media open, and then they created situations that they're writing in I'm a weak anyways, I want to get into this week's horrid dirt um And it was only right because um, if you don't live with a motherfucker, you shouldn't be sucking them. I was talking to my homegirl. She still got tender niggas just popping up to drop the dick off,

and I'm like, girl, this is not the time. Guys. Yes, like that she met off tender because she ain't got no more time but to swipe. And I'm just like, okay, I get it, you want to funk, but baby girl, no, this isn't that. So the horrid dirt for this week, I know we normally give sex tips, so I want on yes. So well, by the way, guys, me and Mandy actually picked the same hord dirt because I was like, because I kept picking a couple of ship and I

was like, well, I guess that ain't right. Yeah, because bitch, I ain't coupling. I ain't even have a sex with someone else. So I was like, oh, bitch, sex tips, let me lean into the masturbation band. Um. So the horder for this week that I have in Andrea, I would love for you to share maybe one of your masturbation tips. I have one being to explore a rogynous zone, so that means playing with like your nipples, your ears, your thighs. Um. It's something that I actually do and

I'm like, just watching Netflix. I love rubbing in between my thighs. It just started getting my pussy wet before then. I'm just like, now I gotta watch porn and play with myself. But I love rubbing my thighs. I also and I'm not sure if it counts because I'm at home and bitch, I ain't got no niggas, I ain't really shaving like that. I love playing with my little pussy hairs. Bitch. I'll just be like, I don't turn you know, because it makes me. I don't know, I

don't know, it doesn't know. It kind of it turns out how long I love bitch a couples. I don't know a cinemeter. I don't even know what that type of metric system is, but they kind of long. I can play. I can like pull them a little bit. What I like playing with. I don't know what that metric system is for real, Like we don't use meters, we use inches and ship but it's not an inch. It's smaller than an inch, so it's it's right now it's kind of straight. So yeah, right now, I got

kind of straight pubes. I ain't gonna hold you, um, but I'll just be kind of I used to have curly pubes until I started getting wax. Now that they're pulling that shipped from the root. Um, yeah see, which is why I've really just thought it was the difference between pussy hairs and dick hares, because bitch all the niggas, they should be so curly. I mean, like Dann, why we ain't got curly hair down there. I thought that's just the difference between sexes. I ain't gonna hold you.

I thought women had straight pubs and guy's head women do not have not all women have straight I didn't know that, like for real, for real, like I don't know. I guess I've never really seen super curly hubes on a woman. I don't know how it is, especially how it is you know what when you get a bush and naturally just actually I don't still have that book. I have a book of you have a pubes. I have a book of pussy and it's different images. I got it at the Museum of Sex, and it shows

you like vaginas throughout time. It's dope. I actually have that book. If you do orange little one, it shows you to shake some of them right and so like you have skinny ones, you have big fluffy juicy ones you have. I I like that book maybec what kind of how are you? I ain't gonna hold you. I would probably want a book of dicks bad one. Really, I think that's the one I want. I really enjoy the site of a penis um more than ever, goddamn it.

Another one is another masturbation tip, which I actually kind of reference to earlier, is to give your sex toys a break. Wheezy told me put the woman eyes down and use my fingers. So vibrators and didos are loads of fun to play with, but they're not the only sex toys in town. For example, you can simulate yourself with maybe your shower head, or you can rub your bova against a pillow all the I'm like, I ain't gonna hold you. I actually have um. I don't know

because I don't have my acrylic nails anymore. I feel like now I could really play with my pussy different. It just feels different than when I have my nails on. But you're like, I can get in. I mean, but so I don't. I don't finger myself. I only like which is weird. Which is weird because I talked about how I don't like head. But masturbation wise, I can only play with my clip. I don't stick my fingers in myself, but when a man is giving me head, I asked him to put his fingers in me so

I can't fucking sunk myself. I don't know why I didn't. So I me and you had checked out the same article and one thing I liked in there if they talked about the different positions to masturbate in so for women, they talked about squatting. I actually I don't know. Let me tell you how I did this. The other night. That ship was so fucking good. This is really fucked up. And I actually didn't tell him this, but I was obsulating and my nigga was sleep and we already had

sex once and then twice. He woke up in the middle of the night and I had to do it again, and I was like, yo, he's gonna get like I could only imagine how I would feel if I knew like he went in the bathroom while I was sleeping to go masturbate because like, I didn't give him enough. So I was like, let me just would you be mad? I wouldn't be mad, but I'd be like God, damn bitch.

Like I did everything, I couldn't ain't enough. So I went in the bathroom and I didn't want to sit on the toilet, so I just squatted down and I just fucking masturbated like while squatting, And it was a whole different feeling. So it's crazy. When I read it and it said squatting, it was weird, but that ship felt good. And then when I was like really coming, I had to like put my hand down because I

couldn't hold the squat anymore. But for men, they talked about jerking off on all fours because it'll emulate kind of doggy style, right, So hey, wait, is that possible if they're using their hands? Yeah, I mean just like just like technically down all threes, bitch. Okay, I'm just saying I'm trying to get that. I'm trying to get the numbers right around here. Andrea, do you have any masturbation tips? Ice cubes in masturbation? What is it that you do with them? No? So you insert what was it?

What does it do for you? What is it? You bring ice cubes to the bed and then you just put it in your pussy and then do what it just melts and then feels good. Yeah, you put it in a condom. No it's too cold, is it? No? Not if you're hot, think about it, think about your hand and it does melt, Yes, melted a little bit, and then go ahead and see what happens. I ain't gonna hold you. I hate confusing my wetness with something else that's wet. That's why I don't like like doing

anything in the shower. It's like, is my pussy really wet? Or is this water? As long as you have your happy ending is how I see it. It's just a different consistency. I guess water and my pussy juice. My pussy just like it's a little bit more slippery. I don't know. I just like I want to get into um um the horrible decision though for this week it's kind of a whole lot um. Just with the pandemic that's going on, I wanted to talk about sex and

mental health. Um. I guess before we get started, I want to talk to you guys kind of what's been going on with me. UM. I am getting into therapy because through this pandemic, I've had something sing that has happened recently and it's I guess it's an AHA moment or a self reflection. And I actually talked to my old roommate about it and she was like, girl, I'm glad you finally see it, because I was, you know,

kind of wondering. Um. Last week I talked about considering flying dick in um, I knowing that I couldn't have the human connection I've just I was super just antsy, like trying to have sex, trying to figure out what I can stick in my pussy, trying to figure out how it would work for me to get with a guy. And so a guy texts me. Actually a lot of guys have been texting me, and I've been really nasty to them and so the other days just just really mean because um, and this is where I guess the

self reflection came in. Um, a guy hit me just to check up on me and stuff like that, and I was very short and brief with him, and he was like, damn, like what's your problem? And I was like, well, nigga, I don't need a penpal right now. And I know I've talked on this show before about the pen pal idea, and I realized that, well, if a man can't physically see me and give me quality time, if he can't sexually see me and fuck me, or if he can't

financially do anything for me. I realized that I have no desire to have that emotional connection to men, and I like, I almost started crying. I was like, damn, maybe this is what's been wrong with me and why I had the relationship that I had and why I have a lot of these sexual relationships. Um, it is because I don't try to find an emotional connection to men.

It's either sexual, physical, or financial. And so I know I haven't said I was gonna be absentent before, but although I'm forced now, I now, um, I am gonna go through life coaching and therapy to figure out why this is my connection with men, and I think that that's been something positive to come out of this. So sexually, I'm I'm no longer like focusing on when is the next time I'm gonna funk, When is the next time I'm gonna be penetrated, When of the next time I'm

gonna suck a dick. I need to find how I can emotionally connect to a man, and I don't think I I've picked up on that. That's honest, and I think, like very vulnerable for you to say, because I feel like some people because I'm listening to it and not and I'm like, of course you like you've already said this, but I think just acknowledging that you know it's necessary now because like even when you talk about like, oh, my friends are good to have my friends, I have

my friends. That's important when you're single, um and when you're in a relationship. But I think that feeling like you have an emotional connection to your friend can't replace the romantic one. And I think that's my life coach

said exactly what you're saying. He's just like, you speak so highly of your friends and have this emotional tist with your friends, but when you speak of your lovers, you act like your lovers can't also be your friends with that emotional caring, like everything you care about your friends.

And so I don't know, I'm it's been kind of big and I'm now seeing the emphasis that I have on sex and I'm just like, Okay, I need to find a healthy space because now that I'm looking at it, I see that maybe my connection to sex and men has not really been that healthy. It's like, I think it's a reset that's happening for you, and I think it's tappening for all of us, just some different ways.

I think you acknowledging that on your own is a huge shattering the ceiling moment, and you shouldn't take it lightly because it takes a lot for persons to self reflect and say, huh, this is what my issue is and this is why I'm not allowing men in. So I think this is where you are. You are very tight with your friends, you give your friends, you're all put there's a disconnect with men where you just put them in this box, and you have to then ask yourself, why are you in that box? And why am I

putting them all in the box? Why am I not allowing them to come and stimulate me mentally? Right, it's just a basical thing and it's an exchange, but you're not exchanging it with your mind. So when that dude cold you and said hey, I want to hollerate you and talk to see how you doing, he was like, oh, no, that's right, that's exactly where I went to and and it was to me where I had to um figure that out and shout out to DJ damage Um. I've been talking to him a lot just because we have

so much in common. And I even had to tell him, I said, can I tell you how much I appreciate just talking to you every day, like about the things that make me happy. As far as creating, He's always like asking me, have I come up with another way to make money? Like you know, this is our creative bubble right now that we're in, And I enjoyed that. I actually had to thank him yesterday. I was like, I haven't had just a conversation that was free flowing that I enjoyed with a man in a long time.

And me and him have not touched on sex at all. It's not even going there, and so I'm just appreciating even just having that conversation without going into so do you like it from the back? Do you like yes? Ate dad? Do you like your balls played with? And I'm just realizing that that's where And I know Weezy has told me like sex shouldn't be a conversation so early,

and I'm just like, damn, maybe damn. I don't want to say Weezy was right, because y'all know I don't want to give it, say say say Weezy was right,

It's okay, well in that space. Yet it's different because if Mandy knows that she can't have anything more like let's say they are married, or let's say that it is supposed to be casual, then maybe yeah, but no, I have always said that I felt like sometimes it was too early because to me, I just think it'll be difficult for wanting to grow a deeper connection after sex, not that it can't happen. I mean, I'm in that

relationship right now. Right then. They literally told me, I think a few months ago, after we've been on vacations together, that he didn't know what my favorite color was. You know, wow, I didn't even know that. And it's like thinking what and it and it took time to realize, like wow, this It is really hard to get deep, deep, deep and deeper with someone you've been sucking for a minute. And I think it just starts off a lot better when because if you don't like the person that they are,

you leave him before you back him. So it's it's crazy that you brought that up. I wanted before we get into that conversation. And Andrea, you and I were just gonna kind of mix up the order here, but we I wanted to ask you because because um, this ship is, you know, requiring distancing from group sex and orgy sex, and you guys love bringing other partners, and I want to know if mentally it's you know, changed anything with you or him that you're not having thirds join.

I just want to know how if someone who's normally into group sex and that's excitement for you, how this pandemic has kind of changed your thought process with that. We just talked about this on Sunday. Yes, I know a lot of our listeners are into that lifestyle too, So can you talk to that and how it's changed and what the conversation around that is. So uh, Sunday night,

I am and treated it too. I was like crying. Really, I know, I always think I cry, which I do, um, but at a really hard time and we had just made dinner and I was, I mean hard, like making noise crying, And I didn't want to tell him because I find that sometimes when you burden somebody with your emotional ship, like it can be too much, especially in a time right now. So I'm like, let me just

keep it light. So we get in the bed and he could tell I was upset, and he was like, listen, the things that we do as a couple that makes us happy, we still do, but there's a big piece that miss. It's missing. And he was like, and we always kicking by that. He like, we go out, we fucking, we do this, we do that. And he was like, and that can't be our only fulfillment, Like that's not why we love each other, that's just something we love to do. He's like, trust me, I miss watching basketball.

I know you miss going and out in shopping. He was like, that's just an aspect that's gone away. But this is just more time for us to connect on another level. And we literally had to sit in the bed and talk about like goals for the next ten days thirty days is like not even sexually, but I think it's just like sex is such a big part of our relationship that we had to talk about like opening it up to more ship. Um. So, I mean we definitely got deeper after that, but I mean it

ain't easy. I FaceTime this girl that we fucked, and he was like, I mean, is it really bad to have her over here? See? Yes, because you don't don't, And that's why I wanted to ask you, like, I know that that's been a big thing you shared on the platform. Even when you travel, it's a part of your sex life, so being that you do have to kind of limit who you're around, I was wondering how that has affected, like you know, so we added it up.

There's only once that we know, sorry twice because Thanksgiving? What account with my mom that we didn't have sex in someone a vacation and not of them we're playing. They just happened. So it's like constant, constant, constant. I thought Puerto Rico was gonna be it. Nope, last night

we suck a bitch. Um. Yeah. The conversation wasn't easy either, because I told him I was like, it's sucking up my self esteem a little bit because for me, I feel super sexy when I get to be with another woman, I get super turned on, and knowing we're going out and picking someone, it's my way of keeping dating fresh. Like it's making me feel really shitty and I'm like really having a sit and deal with that. So you you went to bring in I guess the face time

was something. Are are there any other things. If someone's listening and they're also used to having three sims with their partner, do you have any tips for them, Like have you implemented anything yet that seems to make up for the lack of another? The only thing that it's, like I said, we're gonna try this weekend, it's the virtual lap dances because it's I'm a boy, a blow up doll. Let me know that nigga address, you're gonna blow up doll this, I'm good? What a faith it?

But I do have this week? And I was thinking, oh my god, what Yeah, listen, I didn't like last week and very like minimally, but I'm just gonna get the wig. And I know he's probably gonna laugh and think it's silly at first, but if we're sucked up, he'll get into it. And that is funny, Like, yo, I'm making a whole thing, go for it. That is funny. So I wanted to switch this conversation. We really actually kind of brought something up like if you don't like

a nigga, you can stop sucking them. And with this pandemic and a lot of people working from home now, they're spending a lot more time around their partners, and I think a lot of people are realizing maybe they don't like their partners as much as they thought they did. So, um, Andrea,

why do you what? I guess, what would you suggest for someone who's realizing this, you know the fact that we have to stay at home and them seeing that maybe they're not as into either emotionally basically or sexually into their partners, Like, what are things that they can do to to not make that hinder, you know, their relationship.

I would say, first of all, you know, we're all in a very interesting space right now, and I think I think people need to really sit down and deal with their stuff first before they go to their partner, because sometimes it's what we're feeling about ourselves and then we're projecting it onto the other person. So what I would say is, first, well, write down on a piece of paper what are the things that you feel you're lacking and what are the things you feel that you

need that you're not getting. That's number one. Another thing that I would say to do is record yourself first, because you could really Once you record yourself and play that ship back, trust me, you'll realize you've got a little crazy new that you need to record yourself having a conversation, record yourself, which I do a lot, having a conversation with yourself, speak out your feeling and record it. Yes, and then when I say put it on pause after

you're done, don't play it right away. Pick it up the next day and play it, and then you could hear what is really deep down bothering you. Is it that you're both in each other's face all the time and the kids is running around? Is it that you have to face affect your in a marriage and you're not having sex. Okay, it's one thing when you're both working full time, you don't really have to dress it. It's one thing home twenty four hours for the last

fourteen days together. You are really in a bad situation because it's it's crazy that you said the playback. So let me tell you. I was in a group chat with my homegirl. So she's still getting dicked during this quarantine ship. And so she met a guy Friday. He spent the whole weekend with this is in l A exactly. Maybe I think she was I don't know, maybe online. I didn't even ask where she met the guy. Yeah, No, she met literally met a guy on Friday. So it

was either online or through mutual friends. I'll get the tea where she met the nigga. Anyways, we're all in the group chat and she's like, Bro, this nigga just came over. He came over Friday, he spent the weekend, and then come Monday, he stopped answering. His phone literally went over twenty four hours, goes to her, So listen, we're all on the phone and so like, wait, wait, wait, I said, wait one moment and I texted and then I voice recorded it, and I was like, wait, you

met a nigga Friday. Let me spend the weekend with you. Let him get the pussy raw, because yeah, you let him fuck raw on top of just just for him to go see twenty four hours after he left your your thing mind you. Then when he came back to respond to her, he said, I'm just getting my phone back. The excuse right, girl? So I literally she was like, so I wrote it in a paragraph and she laughed. She was like, can you can you voice note that

to me? So I reiterated it in a voice note and she's like, damn, hearing you say it, that sounds really bad. She was like, damn, I'm judging myself now, And it was literally hearing those words and what literally just happened, but hearing it back through vocals. So I actually liked the tip of you saying record your thoughts

and listen back to it because you're judging. You can actually judge yourself the words that you're a great idea, and you don't have to call all your friends and get your friends all in your business and have them throw that in your face at the later time. That's me. I ain't gonna like. If she had the nigga over last night, I said, where is your self dignity? Bro? I said, where is it you let that nigga? I said,

he's only gonna do what you allow. Didn't face time me while the nigga was at her house and was like, my friend hates you. I was like, your damn skippy because you ain't ship nigga. I said, you shouldn't have got pussy now. I said, but it's okay. My friend has no self worth and she's lonely. Say that who did it? She laughed, that's whar to God? I said it? I said, but we're gonna work on this. Do you know what. I really love when you can really tell

your friends how you really feel. That's how that's how you know who you're real friends. And when he can tell you the truth about yourself. She was like, she was like, she was like, you keep saying that word dignity, bitch, I feel seen. And I said, I listen. And then she wanted to be petty and she thought she was gonna help me name my cat because she has cats, and then she started sucking naming it Jordan's. I said, get off the phone. I said, that's not what we're

gonna do. I'm not having my cat after that. Nigga, thank you very much. I that's belowd about, way below, way belowd about. I'm like, damn, so you're gonna name my cat and nigga, I hate thank you. What's most disappointing to It's like when you get that call from a friend, or when you're the person that calls and you already know they're gonna be bad. Shout out to my home girl. I don't want to say your name,

but that bitch called me. What was it like? A few weeks ago, we hadn't talked to a few days because I was away on vacation a few weeks ago. I'm like, what happened. She's like, girl, you know what happened. I'm like you she was like, yeah, but we are talking again, and I'm telling you I'm done. I'm done. I was like, but you were like, no, you're not. Me and your they both said they're never going to

talk to each other again. And just a few days ago, she was like, Wow, this real thing is really not hitting me up to see if I'm okay. I'm like, y'all said you were down with each other. Wait, so that was like the last time fun. I don't know if you remember you were Replies had a song, um, let me funk one more time or something like that, before y'all remember Applies me be in real Florida right now, Um, before you leave, baby, let me funk one more time.

It was called it was called one more Time. Y'all gotta listen to it, God damn it, sayce listen. I'm I'm gonna at it on Patreon because we're gonna get kicked off iTunes if I put it here. Just just look up one more time by Applies and it's literally that's your closure. Bro. You don't believe that somebody could suck somebody one more time and they never talk again. I had to close your sex with lover boy the

day we broke up. And it's crazy because we had lunch in Dallas, UM, because he lives there now, and it was right before our show, and I was like, Oh, he's kind of cute. I could suck him again. But then I'm like, you know what, we had our closure fuck and that was why open it back up? I listen. I hate I hate backtracking, but y'all know, I haven't told you. I didn't have the same niggas in my phone for about ten years. I was a girl, and I ain't one of the niggas who I wanted to

fly here. Bitch you went to school with and don't say his name, because you know, the only nigga from Olympia that I talked to. Oh he's so cute. You're like, yeah, he's so cute, and you you didn't even because he was a little nerd and that. And then I went to middle school, maybe even elementary. UM probably known him my whole life, and very tall basketball player of the school, but was always so geeky and lanky, so when Mandy told me she was, I was like him. Then I

went on his Instagram and he got fine. He definitely grew out of his nerdiness. Like god, yeah, but that dude, I think he left me a happy birthday comment. Now, but all the basketball niggas from high school grew up, and at the time, when you're in high school, you're like, I can fuck a college guy now next, and I'm alright with it. Right It's yeah. I was. I was willing to fly him here. He was like, no, you come to Orlando. I said, they're not letting bitches from

New York into the state of Florida right now. Like, did you I come down there? I'm stuck for two quarantine. Did you know that they'll check they? Yeah. Someone I just I mentioned this on the round of reports. Someone was like, man, they just make you feel out of paper. And someone else retweeted and was like, no, nigga, they

didn't knocked on my door twice. They're like, y, no, for sure, specifically if you're traveling, and they also added New Orleans, so they blocked off going into the state of Florida, but also if you're coming from New Orleans because they said that Marty grawl added to so many cases. Festival is done. Oh, it's postponed. It's postponed. Yeah, everything said. We ain't gonna have no summer y'all. So I wanted

to talk about I'm going outside. We not have it as maybe I'm not going to the club, but I'm going down the time. Where are you going? Where you going out to Trader Joe's a game, I'm going to take. Hey listen, by the way, if any of you guys listening work at the supermarkets, can we get some bops um playing some tunes in the grocery stores. Now that is our club. That is our club. Now, that is

our entertainment. I need some bops while I'm deciding between you know, mayonnaise and I needed some super some bomp in it. Uh. To be honest with you, I actually said this on Twitter the other day. I was like, I've prayed to God none of my favorite rappers come out with a hit because I cannot be in a house with a lid As song right now. Well, I ain't gonna hold you unless they got a studio at their houses. But all the studios a show, please, I mean in the house they can't go to the studio.

The studios closed girl, even in Atlanta. I was talking to UM. They record out of the I Heart studio lex Andria, which they had to record from home. I know that our studio bitch that we record out of bitch clothes. These can't do it. They got studios in their basis. Bit they got off. The baby in there right now cooking it up headphones on big beautiful curls. That baby is beautiful. I want to shout out UM as well to one of our Twitter um our Twitter listeners. Actually, no,

we're not. We'll talk about the ted X talk. Maybe not that there is a teex UM that talks about how sex workers UM can teach us about human connection. That was really dope, UM, because I think it's funny that only fans actually went up as far as their new subscriptions and new pages in the month of March. So happy for those women and it's the highest peak that they did. But so with talking about sex, UM again, I have different sex than Wheezy has Andrea. Are you

married at all or in a relationship? Uh, you gotta wait for the book, but I will tell you I was married for twenty something years, have two children, in divorce for five years, so I'm divorced. Who bitch, that's a that's a long time baby. Yeah, I was so long as you guys ever went without sex. It's not to be this quarantine. Four years? No, I mad her marriage? Oh in your marriage years? Was it try to enter in the middle? Uh no, no, no, not in the marriage,

after the marriage. Um, you personally personally, that's what you were saying. Four years was yeah, oh my goodness, in your marriage. But wow, four years? Four years and that was after your marriage because you couldn't find someone to replace your husband. Wasn't mental? Why didn't it four years? It was all mental? It was all mental. I was destroyed. Was not interested. And as you get old, I'm forty three years old, it's I'm not saying I'm not into it. I love sex. I think it's more of a mental

state for me. And if I'm not here mentally, then nothing damn there can happen. I mean say, I was about to say, I think we've said the same thing, like and although I'm not having a mental or emotional connection, like still mentally, bitch, if if I'm off you, if you do something that I don't like. Um, I'm sorry, we can't have sex. My pussy won't get wet. So I actually wanted to talk about, real quick before we get into the homemail, the differences between types of sex.

So I found this article, um, and this comes from Psychology Today, and it talks about the differences between types of sex. And I know we talked about I I know, I talked about just kind of the casual sex I have. Wheezy has sex with where where there's you know, two or more people. So I wanted to talk about the difference between hook up sex, marital sex, and making love sex. And I didn't realize how different they were because I know, like, even with my hook up sex, I've been like, oh,

but it was real intimate. Then there's porn star sex. I mean, so I wanted to, I guess, clarify between the three. Um, actually, Wheezy, do you do you know the difference between hook up, marital and making love sex? Do you sound like there are I know, look at me, I look like. So hook up sex refers to purely physical encounters. Marital sex is the kind of sex that most committed couples tend to have, so merit or not

straighter gay. That would be marital sex, and then making love is a different kind of experience that transcends both of the other two kinds. So hook up sex um is more like you and your partner use each other's bodies for your own pleasure. I used to say that ship you do, you do can. It can be extremely intense and arousing, especially when you feel less towards a new partner. There's a place for this kind of sex. But it's also the most primitive. It's the least involved

form of sex too. Um. It reflects more of your your animal part of being a human. UM. So it's like your psychological needs and your impulses when you're having hook up sex. Which is funny because reading this, I think it is more so what I've encountered mostly. Um. Even like as far as when I talk about my partners, I only want to have sex with a motherfucker that I know is going to make me come. And if I can't come, what are we doing? You know? Um,

where's the marital sex? Um? Marital sex actually reflects a higher plane than a hook up because it includes some degree of emotional connection and intimacy. So, bitch, even when you was having casual sex. I think he was having marital sex. Who you bitch? Because it says that it's above the hook up where you're not just looking for your own emotional needs, but you're tying in a degree

of an emotional connection and intimacy. So I think that even I can agree with and even if it didn't mean the same for them, Like I definitely needed to be stimulated in some way to where I felt like there was a deeper emotional connection. Um, even with like other partners, like there's an emotional connection there, like the hook up sex. I don't know why, it just doesn't work for me, Like I don't want how do you? How do you? How do you compare? Because the next

one is making love? And to me, emotional sex is making love? No, Like no, what do you? What do you know? Yeah? So what is the difference between before I get into what they say making love is, what is the difference between emotional and intimate sex and making love? Because I thought they were the same thing. I think emotional is when you're connecting beyond sex with someone in a mental space I feel, when you're doing things together as a couple. I don't and in some days you

don't even have to have sex. It's the intimacy, is the conversation, spending time together. That's what I think. Okay, and then making love then is what I think. Make and love could be with a boyfriend, it could be with a you know, somebody that you hit up every now and then, because it's like beyond just having the right it's like, wholey, you know, let's lay down, let's do it again, go to sleep, wake up, do it again.

That's what I think. There's a lot more I think um softness to making love, Like I don't really you could have rough, passionate sex, but I don't consider that making love. I don't either. It's funny they actually hear they they say that making love is equal to kind of spiritual sex, so kind of um ecstatic physical experience that you have. So I think that that So what if I cried, like I know, we had like porn star sex, But if I cried during sex, does that

making love? If it makes me cry? Yes? Right? Or do you agree with that? Or no? If I cry, is that not some sort of like spiritual like because I know you don't you you you be crying all the time. I think that's emotional connection. Absolutely, yeah, But what if I can't. What if I'm just emotionally tied to the great Dick? Nah? Now, if I cry, that means there's nothing deeper. There's something deeper there that you need to explore, you agree or not. Have you ever

cried just from good as dick and not making love? Yeah, I've had, Like it's been like a release, but there was something a little bit deeper there, but it wasn't but it wasn't like it wasn't really him. It wasn't that, um, I was super in love with that part. Like, and I'm only speaking from guys from my past when I know I've cried and it wasn't like I wasn't sad or anything, and I wasn't in love with them. But there was one time I remember where I cried when

I weared guys. I don't know if I was just like, oh, like, am I crying because it was a release? But also like do I want something this deep and this personal with someone else? Like it was weird. It was it was like some subconscious because I wasn't upset and I knew I wasn't like super in love with this person.

But I'm like, why why did that cry? Right? I mean I cried with my ex um, But the next day I had pink eyes, So I think maybe just my eyeglands that watering because which I think it was the pink guy bitch Listen, I didn't want it to think he made me. Goddamn girl, I think he got you in a place where you haven't been and you were afraid to go and see what that was about. But I also had pink guys, so I think that.

So intertwining all of these conversations, UM leads us to our homemail, and it was sentence I won't say her name. She demned me and said, this is a baby homemail question. But UM, just because we just had this conversation of all the different forms of sex, how sex has helped like affected us mentally through in the pandemic UM, one of our listeners, one of our listeners wants to know what should I do about feeling insecure about sleeping with

multiple men. Of course, I'm doing it because I want to and I like it. But if I have sex with one guy, I feel like the next guy can feel it or knows that I did it, and I tripping what should I do? And I think that we the you and I have you know, kind of paraded the idea of you know, living your best life. Um. You know, we meet virgins that are looking forward to losing their virginity when we meet them at our lives shows.

What would you tell someone who was insecure about sleeping with multiple men even though they want to sleep with multiple men? I don't know. I mean, I think that's something we have to unlearn. I feel insecure about wanting a male male female threesome. There's something that makes me feel insecure about that. But that's also like preconceived notions and things that I've been taught growing up. Right, It's

that it's that inner horriphobia. UM. It's a hard thing because I think the only thing that can maybe make you feel better about it is keeping it private, because for some reason, you're feeling bad because either you're judging yourself or you feel like others will judge you. And to that, I would say, you're allowed to keep your sexual life private. A lot of people overshare with their friends, and I don't think that that's necessarily something that we

always need to do. Um. The only person I overshare with is my therapist. But I mean even then, like I'll be ready for him to judge me. You know what I'm saying, right, It's it's crazy because I actually think that Um, for one, I do want to say and let me know if I'm wrong. She says that she feels like the next guy can feel it if she had sex with someone else. I know that we're not niggas, but no, take it from someone who has

done that. Now, No, they can't write. No, I mean I would say maybe they're what if they're super different in size? Look, No, I'm asking the question that people may want to know. I think the only way that a person can tell if they're really in tune with

the person, and if there's an odor or smell. Because I don't care what you say, if you move from a different person to another person, there is a smell there and have to be a foul smell or a horrible smell, but there is an odor, and if you're paying attention to your partner, you can tell that they've been with somebody else. So it's funny that you bring this up because it was a conversation on the timeline, UM, when you were with your husband or we the any

partners that you've been with, Have y'all ever smelled their dick? Yes? Really? Can? Can? Okay, so I've never done? Can? I just know how this conversation happens because I was listening to the to a podcast and they were talking about washing their dicks off before going home. Because bitches are really asking to smell dicks? Can you can both? Y'all police why that came up? Um? Uh? Yeah, you know who the nigga that does your taxes. He

came home one day from motherfucking Cleo's. Clio's is a strip club for those who don't know Andrea and Orlando, and um, I was like, let me say that, and I think he was like thinking I was trying to be funny, and I was like, no, let me smell it. And you and you asked to smell it to see if it smells like I remember complaining that he smells like soap and he told me I was driven. I still think he cheated on me that night phone, So it's weird. So it's supposed to have no smell. And

I know you know I don't. I guess we're giving tips now to the nigga. So you just know your nigga dick smells, so even if they wash it, it's not saving them from it. Because if you've been out, like I'm sorry, Ria, how did you ask to smell

the dick drop your pants? And he just no? Oh you was just like I know you out, I know you have too many hours without talking to you and so so, so what's the conversation when you smell it and it smells like soap or something else that you know it shouldn't smell like, well, I don't know either the ring is getting slushed down the toilet, I'm locking you out the house, I'm throwing you in the basement. I mean it could just depend. So niggas in the

basement basement? What's your basement like? Is it like comfortable basement or is it like dungeon? It's comfortable? Okay, let's still it's a list throw away bit. You about to put that nigga in the adding? So what what is it like? I guess what do you do when it smells different? Like do you just hope he admits to cheating? Like so that's my question, Like, Okay, you smell the nigga's dick and it either smells like soap or like how you don't want it, like how you don't think

it's It's the same for pussy. If I went to go fux someone else, right, and you thought I was at the club and I came home, you know what, My pussy would smell like sweaty whatever, like a musk smell. If I went to fux somebody else and then I shout, it smells like a condom. Oh no, oh, I'm saying, if you, if you're if you're washing it so now. But women walk around with whites like that doesn't help. Remember we are internal and you that odor will hang

on to you for a minute. I would give a damn if you sat and it's up to thirty minutes with hot water and some dead told. I want to just make a point. I have a friend who I know the escorts, and she's talked about how when she's with her partners, they don't use condoms. He does cream prize and ship and she says that recently she feels like a guy who went down on her because she had a cream pie the night before. She was like a showered whatever. But she's like, I just feel like

there's this moment where he tasted him. She was like, I think it was different from what I normally taste. Like, She's like, I never really thought about like spacing it out. Yeah, So so when we get guys that taste different, we apply it to their diet. No, you're talking about semen. Okay, yeah, y'all talking. Y'all been talking about the taste and smell of the dick. Okay, Okay, yeah, when I guess okay, yeah, I'm talking about seeing because that's where I really pick

up on it. I guess. I don't know. I don't know if you have someone though to think about it, like you're with them every day, like you know, not that I was went every day, but yeah, I knew. You know, they're smells when they wake up. You know, they're smells when they're going to bed. You know they're smells when it's all day. I know what my man's dick smells like when he comes home from work. Bro,

That's how much I know. It's so weird because I wasn't even with seven and I know, Okay, I'm gonna stop bringing him up eventually, but that's the only thing I have to really go off. And we were working like weakly, but his dick to me, even though I knew he was sucking other people, I felt like his dick smelled the same like. And I know we really got on me because when we went and did Vice Live, I felt like his dick smell was in my hair

and I really liked his dick smell. So like It's weird because I was dealing with someone that I knew wasn't my only partner, but his smell was his smells, So even if he had sex with someone the day before, even the night of, I have never really sensed a difference in his dick smell, which is that That's why I guess I was really Maybe I don't know that maybe it was the I don't know his dick smell, And I told you because we talked about this on Vice.

I know his dick smell and I really liked it, and so I liked when his dick smell was in my hair and everything. And I don't know, I don't know, bitch, I do miss that dick smell and that dick, but I ain't, you know, didn't it hasn't been since October, Since October, bitch, I ain't that nigga, since well, sex in the city. They say it takes half the time you're with someone to get over them. And I'm not saying, oh, bits three and a half years. Oh no, bitch, so

you're almost out of year. You'll be all right by the time April, which I'm almost said, I've just reached six months, So don't do almost a year. You can't age me like that, like listen, oh yeah, I'm well, I'm not there because now I have no one else to reference sex, and Wheezy is like, we're recording horrible decisions and let's talk about sex. And here I go going through a phase where I don't even want to

bitch oturdcast that we did. Yeah, but now I'm into like, well maybe like and And honestly, it's probably because every time I've made an outline it's been about relationships and dating, and I really came up with no sex topic. Can I just tell you all the irony of Mandy coming up I had. We were texting us. I was like, I was like, well, let's make sure we talk about sex, and She's like, no, we will, We'll talk about sex, and I'm like, I'm so sad, like I'm not happy

to me. I don't want any I hate niggas. That's why I was like, that's why the sex tip was masturbation. And she's like, well, I was gonna do the Patreon about masturbation. I said, we talk, we give oral sex tips. It's the same thing. Let's just talk about masturbation. I'm not having sex with someone else. I want to relate, Like we see come out here talking about thruffles and three films and group sex and bitch, I don't even

want to dick around me right now. So I'm like, Okay, we're gonna have to try to find a balance here. I'm like, okay, weezy, let me talk about the mental space that I'm in. I'm over. You're trying to plan an episode about assonance. Now, I'm like, I don't know, I have to relate. Well, that episode would be good because you did it. Like there's people that have been absent. You know what I mean, was yours? My choice minds was by choice? You know why? Because here's the thing.

When you get a divorce, the last thing you want to do is go run into somebody else's arms. What you need to do is figure out what your baggage is why the divorce happen. I know a lot of people like to say, well it was his fault. No, you come with your ship. They come with their ship too. And what Joe Exotica did d Nigga got married two

months after the death. No, not doing it. Um, I needed to really get strong, and I feel like just running into another relationship or just having sex would have confused what I was trying to do for myself, which would take care of me and really take care of me. I like that. Well, Andrea, let our listeners know where they can listen to you and kind also maybe a steer them towards an episode that you have that you think that, Um, would you know are listening horrible adjacent? Well,

you can find me on Our Mirrors Reflections. It's my podcast. If you want to find me about what I do more of is with my coaching with girls and women is Andrew P. Jackson dot com. You can find me on my Instagram at Andrew P. Jackson Underscore and the Twitter is the same Andrew P. Jackson Underscore. Allah, and um, I guess I know. And I listened to it and it was really good. You had Charlemagne as a guest on your part trying to have him. Yeah, I don't

know how. I don't know what topics we're gonna have about Charlottage and when black men don't cheat, but they do. Not all black No, not all black man cheat. There's something that don't cheat. You gotta you gotta point them out because I know it's very far and few in between. Um no, you should. I think the guests should listen to Charlemagne, and I think you get to see him the whole different light. He talks about his family, his life,

what that that journey was like. Um, you know, him losing his job to radio and then you know there's too manly to freaking go out there and accell unemployment. He was like, I'm not gonna do it. But he really talked about the struggles in his relationship and how they came together and made it happen. And I think a lot of people who's you know, having issues in

their relationship. Here's hope out there. If you really love somebody and y'all just had a mishap or a few mishaps and you really want to work it out, you can work it out. Shargon Maine's story like to to completely go like told cold Turkey and not like no one else is in his life but his wife. I mean, he's prime example of like black men don't cheat anymore. Yeah, yeah, you gotta add the animal with an asterisk up there, Like there's definitely you know, I agree with that. I

agree with you. It's possible, and especially when you had access like that to not cheat, that's a big deal. It is a big deal. It takes a lot of wheel. Yeah, damn, we started the episode that way. Look how we did full circle. Who doesn't like free ship, free pussy, free toys whatever? Uh No, But I want to thank you again for for joining us. Um guys, if you guys are interested in tuning into her podcast or following on

social media. If you have been through trauma, she does talk you through that and and finding you know, kind of closure with maybe some things that you have experienced in your past. Definitely reach out again. Thank you Andrea for joining us. Thank you for having girls. Love you girls. Keep doing it. And you know this this coronavirus say stopping us. So whatever, So y'all are still getting your episodes every Monday, and we are still dropping three bonus

episodes every month on Patreon. So again, I know it's different. A lot of y'all are now listening to us from the comforts of your own home. Please still use your headphones if your children are around, because we still live in approp read guys. Maybe we'll find a way to Like I saw that some people are recording their zoom screens. Maybe we could do that. I just don't want to if you you no, bitch, I look at me right now.

I don't know if I want people to see me. Bro, I ain't need to gonna hold you like Andrew Enjoy looks nice. What do your bottoms look like? My bottom? Like? Do you have actual pants on? Are you like? I'm like, oh, I got a slitty dress? So what the hell? How she so ready? Right? But I definitely have right now. Guests always look better than every time. They always be

ready like slate. Anyways, guys, again, if you're looking for more content, we still have our Patreon up, so you can go to patreon dot com back slush Horrible Decisions. We are going to leave you with a five minute clip from one of our bonus episodes. We truly hope that you enjoy and once again, thank you for tuning in to yet another episode of Horrible Decision. Bye bye. So today's Vanilla Ship is actually an old article, but I wanted to talk about it. Um. It's from Complex

dot Com. Steven Spielberg's daughter explains why she's um embarking on doing porn. So some of you guys might have seen this in the shade room, but she submitted application to be a sex worker in Nashville, Tennessee. She's twenty three, she's battled and alcoholism, mental health issues, but she has come to realize she's a sexual creature and she wants

to create solo porn videos that makes her feel that. Yeah, I got really tired of not being able to capitalize my body, and frankly got really tired of being told to hate my body. And I got tired of working day to day in a way that it wasn't satisfying my soul. I feel like in doing this type of work, I'm able to satisfy other people and it feels good because I won't be violated. Um, I'm curious to know. Obviously, she comes from a family of money. Let's just say

that she's got money from him. Let's just let's not yes, because I know like a lot of rich people won't give their kids ship. Right, let's just say that he's given her money. Do you think this is some cry for help? Ship? Like, do you really believe that someone that's got money just does sex work to satisfied? Like? How do you feel? So? I have I do believe

that people are in sex work not just for financial gain. Um. I have a friend who was an escort, and I think that it was a lot more into maybe just what she got from being with different men. I think that there was a part of her that was also a sex addict. Um, but I know that there were things like even when she didn't need the money, she would still do it. Even when she found another way to make money, she was still doing sex work on

the side. So I mean, I believe that that in terms of sex work, that there are reasons that people do it outside of money. Um, it's funny. I wasn't even missing says that she she was like that ship was fun. That was such a fun time. Like she always talks about how much fun she had when she was doing I mean, I ain't even gonna hold you.

I think my whole friends are the funnest friends that I didn't had, like just going out, having the having a blast, drinking, skinny dipe, skinny dipping, fucking whoever we're around is having like it's just fun and too like it's it's non judgmental types of just fun. I don't know, it's it's hard to explain, but I mean, I do believe that even if she's getting money from her dad, that she is doing that because she likes it. Do I think that maybe it's a form of her boosting

her own self confidence? Yes, I mean it was something yeah, but it's something that I do and and you helped me when when I lost weight. One of the things that makes me feel sexy sometimes it's literally walking lingerie. Um, And so the idea that her pleasing herself on camera makes her feel better about herself makes sense to me. I wear lingerie not for Instagram picture age. Like when I post a cute Instagram picture. It is what it is.

There's a little bit of an ego boost in that, Like come on, I mean, who are we to say and not admit that if anyone said as a picture, yeah, bitch, we all do. But again, I think We've talked about the fact that a lot of us, whether it's sexually, physically, how we dress, um the idea that everything we do

is for men or for some sort of attention. I think a lot of times there are things that we do that, while it may bring us attention, we do do it for ourselves to make ourselves feel better about ourselves. Like it is, that's cool,