Ep112: You've got(HOE)mail

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com right now, use our code w D fifty. Checkout that's w D five zero. Support our show, love us, listen, get inspired, buy some nasty ship for yourself, someone else, whoever, and tell us about it. Happy Monday, everybody. Welcome to horrible decisions. My name is Easy. What a dude? What a dude puts the home? Did your girl? Mandy? I actually wanted to start this episode off a little bit different and I hope you guys like it. And for those of you that don't, fuck you, I feel like

a lot of us need some loving light. I don't know how long ago though a Nipsey funeral would have been from when you listen to this, but you know, a lot of people on the internet just seemed to be more unified, and I feel like there's a chance that we could have all forgotten about that now. But the biggest takeaway from Nipsey's funeral I think that made me, uh curious, is what will people say when I'm gone? You know, we all are wondering what effect we will

have on people when we're gone. And you may not need to hear this, but if you do, there are many and I just want to set like some reminders for you guys to keep your spirit and your energy clear so that you can have that effect on people when you are gone. A one I think all of us should be kind. We can talk that talk, but you really have to walk the walk. It's so easy to say that you know we're being good or we're doing good, but doing something kind for someone you know

is great. Doing something kind for someone that you don't know is even greater. Making sure you extend yourself, whether it be small fucking things like a dollar out of your pocket or giving food away when you leave a restaurant, just being kind to other people that you don't know, it's a great way to just spread that energy and get it back in your life. The second one I have is to make amends, apologize, and I think forgive.

I think it just makes no sense to watch people die and know that there might be something left unsaid or something you wish you could have fixed. So it takes a lot to humble ourselves and realize when we're wrong. But you know, take those mistakes as growth and feel good about them. And it takes a lot of forgive.

But when you do it, mean it. If you know you and your boyfriend are fighting, or you and your friend are fighting, or you and a family member, like when you say you forgive them and you're over it, let that ship go. Because it's really small. And the last thing that I want to say that's really good

to clean and renew your spirit is staging, showering. Whatever your ritual is, My ritual for cleansing my soul is a gratitude journal, just putting some things down that I'm grateful for, um, even when it's very hard to find gratefulness in those you know like that. I remember the day specifically after our therapy episode or day before the therapy episode, I was so angry, UM, and I had to write something down that I was grateful for in Mandy or in our podcast, just to make sure that

I can cleanse myself from that bullshit. And and sometimes we all have to do that. It's hard to find something we're grateful for. But you know, even if you have to say it out loud right now, make sure you do that these kinds of things, these small things will really help you just be a better person, get that energy in the room to your friends or whoever. And I think that we can all then be someone like a Nipsey Hu Hustle if we live ourselves, live

our life that way. Yeah. Something that UM Lauren London did when she actually UM read the text message that she sent to him while he was sleeping. Um, that touched me deally. But it's when I saw that it was funny because that's something that I actually do UM with my friends. Um, I say it all the time. I just love the people who are in my life currently. Um. I've had some pretty sour friendships in the past and not really like I feel like everyone, Like I'm still

friends with so many people. UM, but there there are times like It'll literally be like a Wednesday afternoon and I'll be at work and I'll just text someone like you really make me happy and I'm so glad to have you in my life. Thank you. And my friends, yeah, my friends. And then I call him a pussy ass whole after just so they don't think, you know, I got soft on the asses. I mean, yeah, I definitely

do that with my friends from time to time. I appreciated hearing I love you and like giving hugs, Like hugging people is such a big deal. Like I love to hug people when I first meet them, Like it's crazy, when are we going to venues? And like we need a house manager or someone helping us. Like I feel like hugging gives a different connection, and like, I want to always make sure that people feel that for me, and especially when you mean it. You know what I'm saying.

So like someone who is a friend saying I love you or telling them why you appreciate them. It's crazy. Hugs to me don't. I don't know. They don't hold much weight with me. So, but that's because like when me and my sister used to argue growing up, my mom used to be like, okay, now, hug it out, and I'd be lying, all right, like it's some bullshit. Eight seconds is awkward, but actually it's funny that therapist

made us hug. Yeah, and I like I hugs to me was what you cried after the hook, during the hook, so maybe you did feel something. Hugs can yeah, I'm telling you now, I don't really like hooks. That's just me though. I'm not a hug person, but that's just from growing up. That's Hugs to me just aren't. I don't know. I like words of affirmation, um, and I like I like people to have actions. Um. I don't know that that's just I don't know. Hugs to me,

I don't know. I think all of those things are good, but I just think hugs is a forgotten form of UM showing that you you care. Yeah, I guess I wanted to start um with a quick catchup. Um, do you are you got anything that you've done this past week or anything that was fun or no? Actually, I'm like working on spring cleaning because I've been watching Marie Condo. Have you watched it yet on Netflix? Tidying up? No? I have. First of all, she doesn't even speak English.

The whole ship is like subtitles. She's Japanese and she she helps people like clean their fucking house. But I mean it's dope. She has this black family and they sold it and are you getting like are there certain things that you're just getting rid of? And why? Okay, so she lives on some super minimal is ship. And I've also been watching or reading something talking about how a hundred items is a hundred fifty items is all

we need? Now I can't live up date, but I counted literally how many how many pieces of makeup I threw out? And it was seventies six and the bin was still fake up. Okay, that's so clearing out the bathroom and then clothes was really hard, right, So some of the clothes I threw up on Posh Mark and I was like, you know what, I'm gonna donate some of this money and do something good with it. Why not, I'm not, you know, working nine to five, I should

do this. But it was really hard, like giving up ship that I've had good memories and like thought dresses. Marie Condo said, when you release something, you think it for the good time that you had, and you let it go. And I've legit looked at this literary ass dress and I said, I haven't warned you in two years, bitch, we've gotten fucked in this dress together. Yeah, that's but how many things do you have that like you don't fit any more? It's well, I've I wouldn't call it

spring cleaning, but yeah, I've thrown so many not thrown away. Um, there's a clothes bend right outside my house. So I've gotten I've donated pretty much all my big girl clothes. Um. And then a lot of my friends who are bigger than me now they all be like, oh, bitch, I know you can't fit that, go ahead and throw that ship over here. So um, yeah, I've gotten rid of

a lot of clothes. But I filed. Now. Unfortunately, my shopping habit has increased with the weight loss because I now am able to just go in and different stuff things that I could never like fucking before, like boyfriend jeans, and I'm back to like the crop tops and things without stretch, and like there's like these white linen pants, like the idea of linen pants. My thighs were not fitting in linen pants before. So there's so many things

that you can wear. All these things I can wear that until you said you said this last year, but you were like talking about boots and I was like, Damne boots, bitch, I got the hot boots in my closet. Lee. So like all so, I feel like I've been like in a in a shopping crazy lately. I haven't really been that like crazy. I've been like, UM, and I feel like we get to dress up. I don't really go out, so I think it's fun to do that. UM. The makeup has been fun on the twit I just had.

It's funny because one of the one of the episodes we we recorded, we talked about memories, UM, and we talked brought about uh sex memories. But this past weekend, I had probably the time of a life. Um. I went to dream Ville Fest and for anyone who knows, y'all know, I'm a Duke fan, but I'm also uh die Hard J Cole fan, dream Ville, j I D Earth Game, blah blah, black did. Everybody was in there, so yeah, let me let me, Let let me tell

the story so real quick. I don't want you all to get excited because it's not gonna happen every city. So I posted the flyer for the Dreamville UM concert and I'm like, yo, I ain't never been to rally and y'all know, I like Duke. I need someone to show me the campus. So I know one of the ball players, but that nigga went back home on Friday. So I was like, nigked, do you know anybody else? So he didn't know anybody like that could just like

give me a tour. So one of our listeners actually hit me and was like, I can give you a campus tour. UM. Shout out to G. She's actually a PhD student there becoming a doctor. Shout out to listen Love. She's been listening since almost the beginning. So G was like, yo, like I'll show you the campus tour like I'm off that day, like you know, I'll take you around. So I was like all right, So I invited her for

breakfast because bich the airport food was too expensive. I was like, I'm just star until I land, so I was gonna go to Flying Biscuit and she's like, oh well opposite. If I'm hungry, I'll pay anything, oh Na bro. I was like, I'm gonna sleep anyway, like I ain't gonna feel how how hungry I am on the flight. So I landed and went straight to Flying Biscuit and she came and picked me up from the airport too.

So here go my homegirl, bit you so white? Just gonna hop in a stranger car baite and she's like, so that I'm telling my home girl and I'm like She's like, I was like, but she's about to be a doctor and here go my friend. That means she'll know how to drain your blood and take you apart.

And I'm just like, what did you doing? So I shared my location with her as I was walking up to Jee's car, I, um, I can't let you picture up from the air for from an airport, and everything I gave her, um my I gave my homegirl the license plate. She's like, here go my Duke bad you could take a picture of it. So we went to the Duke campus. Um went around, went to the to the Duke Museum Basketball Museum, loved it. Spent too much money on fucking Duke fucking apparel because I love Duke.

Um on the Krisski Senter. Sorry coach k Um. I couldn't get into the camera stadium. So I feel like I'm gonna have to go back and get into mother camera stadium. And I'm like, next year, bitch, you come here. I need tickets and I'm gonna come with my face painted. And I just want to be a dude crazy, yes and go like like all of that. Why don't because that's what they do in camera They're Cameron crazy. Is I want to be a camera crazy? I was like that's like no. They like jump up and down there.

They're super loud. It's like the craziest you know about to be like, you know that is the Native American bullshit. They just get really loud in the camera. Um, shut up the camera stadium. So I want to do I want to do that. So anyways, my homeboy shout out, Oh, real quick, shout out to Rory fucking came and got me at the motherfucking door for Duce Falsa was treated like motherfucker v I p in another city. I was like, thank you. Then went up there and was like, oh, bitch,

we're in New York. Of course a another party outside and we're in New York. All so shout out to brother from the DC Show who came on stage and did the position on me. It was the fucking bar tender bitch in Rally, North Carolina. He came to the d C Show. He's like, so you'all remember me, and bitch. I looked at my friend and I didn't like because I never know. Did I fun this nigga? Like I hate when a nigga be like you'll remember me? I

really did? He look like some of you? He kind of looked like one of them niggas from Travis Porter. So I was like, maybe we're close to Atlanta, Like I ain't know, no, I ain't sting of the too short for me, but he looked like a Transporter nigga. So he was like brother, he called his brother from the d C Show. Anyways, had a great time at St. Pellosa. If you're able to go check out at Pellosa, it's a good ass, black ass time. So anyways, the next day,

my homeboys Zeno gets me past this. He's in Big Shawn's camp. Lit Nigga. We got our god damn bands, that ship said artists. So me and my homegirl we pull up and we like, bitch, let's see the access that we have with this past bitch all access. We got fucking everywhere artists compound on stage, backstage, in the front of the stage. We wasn't it was forty people, bitch, I said it was about twenty. Because I ain't run back.

I ain't getting no crowds, Bitch, I ain't sweat. We ain't sunk up our shoes to the very end because it was muddy because it rained the day before Super Dope. I do want to give or let y'all know. Um. Nonetheless, that Big Sean in person, it's god damn gorgeous. He looks really huge, just tiny, bitch, but he not that I had on sneakers, so he was like a little He would have been an exception, And bitch the b D didn't see him at one over he was sitting

b d E like a motherfucker beautiful. Not all of them. Well, I wouldn't know. I don't really funk with him, and shut dude. I Ben Wins had a thick dick man and if y'all google Big Sharks dick, I think his dick picked legs and it's like down to his knee. But the energy was there. He was just so fucking he was so flieshot, a boss at a great set.

Um shout out to black as well. They funked up his mother sucking sound, but I love black um, and so I got to catch up with him since I haven't seen him since September, since a few people, and I was just thinking, like everyone has so much fun, and I was thinking, like, you know, it's sad that like we support a festival like Coachella. I refused to go to Coachella because I think it's been made a spectacle.

And you know me, I've been at festivals for years, but I didn't know that that's a black aspect, black wit black festival, first time festival. It was so organized. I was like they had the passage just like Coachella, like that you swipe and likenc man to go through things it was so well organized. I think a few people had a few complaints about the food lines, and I know the WiFi did suck when we between the sticks, Raley, you know what kind of sucks like I had a

WiFi complaint. I went to mister Land. I used to go with Dub like three years straight. I think we win. It was like, how do you expect bro We used to go to fucking it's called Bethel Woods, New York where Woodstock is and people would talk about the wife and I'm like, why do you care? There was little joy. Well I care if I'm buying merch. Not only that, I felt a little rich. So bitch bought the goddamn

denim jacket. Why would you care about WiFi a music festival with because when I'm paying with my card, the WiFi is needed so that the band. Okay, So what I marked the bands is you load the band, you preload your band. That's not how they did that. There was no money, like you used your cards there, um book. Brooklyn Mirage actually does that. Brooklyn Mirage has a set up.

I've been to some stuff there too. They have a set up you like load your ship And I wasn't well they wouldn't not the Hattic, but it were the first time festival. It was a good the weather was perfect, it was a good as time. UM every set paid homage to um Nipsey Hustle, which was amazing. And I will say if you guys have not seen her live and I got the pleasure of meeting her and Tuni after the show. He was chatting coolest Tiana Taylor performed

her like I listened to Tiana Taylor. She's downloaded ontomate music. I like a couple of her songs, but seeing her live because I know they could. They kicked Jeremiah off the tour, and I was like, what is Tianna Taylor gonna do by herself? She performed no other bitch I another scene him guy, She acting like he was acting like she needed. I mean, but if you look at if you look like Jeremiah got some goddamn hits like he was doing it like you're watching a performance with Tianna.

She dances. I've never seen her performance like in live bit she made my pussy way. I ain't even go hold her abs her but her energy, her face, how she's super into the goddamn Oh my God, and then she was just such a sweetheart after like we got Oh, she was so made something with this funny about Tianna. I always say like, oh, they're like abs on women, and she's the only one because sometimes when someone's two cut at gross, but she's one of the only people.

She was just dope, kind of dope. And then Meek Mill came out for Ja Cole's performance. It was dope. I got to rock on stage with one twenty one like I was honestly the best goddamn time I've ever had, and also ruined my experience to ever doing a festival again because my nigga found not all access. I will not be with the regular people in the crowd. There was forty thousand people there and I was like nope,

but hey, I was. I was, according to forty thousand people on stage, like nicking all these people, and I just feel like I would never be able to do the exclusive bid. I ain't even gonna lie. I felt VIPs I was like I am Vip. I was in the artist compound. That's actually we're talking when we were talking advice about how excited I am because burning Man doesn't have any of that and I was like, so like, But also a lot of the festivals I've been to

our larger, so it's different. You. I think there's only two stages at Dreamville. A lot of these have like five six, So when when it's smaller with forties thousand people, that's that's a lot. But actually me and when we did mistery Land, it was so fucking big, like you, you would have to run for at least three or four and five minutes to get to another stage. But I'm excited to do Burning Man. I wanted to, like, just bring that up one more time so you guys

can find me. I had a black camp that wrote me that's gonna be out there. And if y'all are black and you're doing Burning Man, why are you laughing? Oh? If you're black and you're doing Burning Man, I want you to hit me up because what is that? What is you? It's got a condom on it? At least I am not a radio guy. Just handed me his phone and oh and she was playing with her clip corny and her pussies a corn on Macaw. You know

it's a white pussy. I'd like to say that. Yeah, I'm not putting no corn it's probably what they do a Burning Man. But anyway, if you're black and you got to Burning Man and you've had experiences, I've never been to Burning Man. Um, please hit me up. Let me know. I'm going with Andrew and Alex and I know Andrew gonn me and his white boy ship, and I'll be like, I've done with you all right now, I'm getting fight with him on like day four, but then we're gonna make up because it's all about peace

of love. But I'm super excited about that, and I already have my gifts planning. I'm also doing a lecture there, so I'm really excited to meet y'all and just be in the dust. So I'm super excited about this episode. Guys, we're doing kind of like a whole homemail rendition of a podcast. So for this one, we are starting out with our Vanilla ship, and the Vanilla Ship is super dope because they actually Um, I looked up an article based off of this wholemail we got. Hey, ladies, I'm

a super fan of your podcast. Well, I was watching a comedy show called Speechless. Funny show by the way, everybody keeps telling me, I haven't seen it. It's about a child who is a paraplegic surviving life's challenges. In the episode, he was being discriminated by his girlfriend's father, so he wanted to be a bad boy. Being that

he was he has no feelings in his lower body. Anyways, long story short, he called for an aid, but the aid confused the call, thinking he requested a sex serio, being that I know you guys do a lot of research on sexual things and WPS would be an awesome discussion for your show. Anyways, thanks for reading and I'll keep listening. I've been looking for a sex and I talked about it. I didn't even notice she's episode Ashley, who is the able to be talked about. Yeah, so

I wasn't here for that. So for those who may be like confused with maybe what a sex sier get means, because when I hear Sara get, of course I'm thinking of someone who holds a baby for someone else. So I went um and did a little bit of research and on the I believe the word represents a replacement or like an alternative, like a substitute. That's why so probably TV dot com um the article is sex sier gets sleep with their clients to help their lives, and no,

it's not prostitution. So sex sier gets actually worked closely with sex therapists to help clients overcome sexual problems such as erectile dysfunction or sex trauma through actual physical intimacy. Didn't say anything about them doing it for free, um, because this is volunteer work. So right, the very next um question is they make good money comparable to a sex therapist, and the laws are strict as to how sex is handled, so their career isn't confused with prostitution.

There's a Netflix thing, Damn, I wish I could fucking remember the name with this older woman who takes people. She does she takes people's virginities and helps them through that experience, so she would be considered a sexy. She is a sex worter and so like she walks them to their first time in sex. And I maybe I'm guessing it's not prostitution because there is a lot of therapy involved, Like you don't just get there and you fuck. I think it's like an option that can happen. That's

probably how to get around Here's how here's the laws. Um. Sexual surrogacy has been legal since two thousand three, so it's fairly new to being legal. UM, it's remained pretty much. Yeah, it's been pretty much unregulated. It has been defined by the state of California as if it's between consensual adults and referred by licensed therapists and doesn't involve minors, then it is not illegal. UM regulating the industry as long as you would like you as long as you're sucking

someone consensual, not kids or hurting animals. And they also have a whole association for it, so if you guys want to do further research, UM into the industry, it's called the International Professtional Siriguts Association. The credit that's what I said, you saying sirigate, surrogate, sirigate what I have the same ship you saying sirogate, which they credit themselves with helping mostly men with physical disabilities, psychological trauma for sexuality.

And this gallon of water. You're awful. See, this is why she an't working on mo y'all because she can't do a job. She can't hold a pussy, can't hold a pusy UM, I actually did not know anything about um this sex sirigacy being a thing. UM. It is important to also be working with a sex therapist though, to understand what's going on mentally and what's leading someone

to certain thoughts. UM. This is important because I say this often, UM when it comes to sex, and we actually have a couple of questions relating to the psychological aspects of sex and having sex with another person. A lot of sex is way more psychological than physical. UM. And I know that we look for the physical touch and penetration and all of these UM terms to describe

what sex is. But in order to reach the climaxes and orgasms and actually enjoy it to how we want to, you really need to be in a mental state in which you can allow these things to happen to your body. UM. So this is interesting if you guys want to look it up. UM again, they're called sex surrogates. UM. That's s U R R O G A t E. S UM. This was a great thing. So our next UM topic

that we're actually going to get into. I love it is reference from a Vanilla ship that I found, UM, and so I'm gonna read the Vanilla Ship and then we're gonna get into the kink of the week. Once Wheezy returns um here she goes cool. I was just I was just getting us into um the kink of the week and the kink of the week. I just want to explain, I have been drinking a gallon a day of water and I've only been doing it for the last five days. Everything is so my skin is

fucking better. Everything create, but it can't stop being like I'm honestly, I almost kissed myself when you were talking about like how you saw the world on the last episode we did, and it's so hard, like look at this if you're watching on YouTube, look how far down I am. Bro and I only started this at ten am. I should have just sitting all my fucking bladder. It's crazy. That's a lot. So I told him we're going to get into the kink of the week and the kink

of the week this week. I actually chose from a Vanilla Sha article that I found. Um So the Vanilla Sha article comes from New York Post um Man with bizarre horse fetish busted twice in twenty four hours. Cas. I do also want to say a lot of the Cassi Vanilla ship because that we find happened in the UK and that's where the horse saying you just so, No, he didn't suck the horse. Calm Down, I could have

cover one. You k man with a sick obception for publicly masturbating near horses has been arrested twice within twenty four hours for the same lute offense. What Malcolm Downs, he's sixty one years old who has a long, long history of pleasuring himself in front of mammals, was arrested on February eighteenth after he was spotted touching himself in a field in the city. It's honestly even of England, that's even worse this activity. The horse has a whole

dick thinking this is worse. This activity went on for three or four minutes. His penis was exposed for about ten When police grilled Downs about the illicit act, he told detectives, I was sat on a bench. I was filling sexy so I started to yeah. Um but basically yeah um. He was released. No, it'said dot dot dot um. Downs told cops he knew what he was doing was wrong. Um. The suspect was released on bail after saying, what for showing like un that's indecent exposure? Someone saw him masturbating

in the field with the horses. Uh, he's done that a million times. If you've only been to jail, this is some ship. So I was like, okay, so the nigga is not having sex with animals. We know that sex with animals is b sality. So I was looking this up because it referred to it as a fetish. So there's actually three key terms commonly used to describe fetishes involving animals, and I wanted to get into the three. Um. Hopefully none of you guys are doing this, um, you know,

but maybe if you are, We're not gonna whole thing. No. I mean, I'm just saying I can't believe that this is where I draw the line, But I don't know why this is where you draw the lot. He just so, what's funny is this? And when Keiki talked about the throw up in the anal bottle, you know you want

to know what's hilarious. As I'm looking for the kink that describes this, guess what comes up mad message boards about if it's okay to masturbate in front of your pets and if masturbating in front of your dog or cat should cause any type of like arousal, because I'm kind of like you're being watched. I know, my dad used to be in the room because he used to be in the bed a lot, and I'd be like, Glad, do you have to go? And I would and I would hear this, I'm be trying to hurry and come. Yeah.

So so that was what I found. So here's the three terms commonly used um zoophilia, b C reality of course, and zoo sexuality. So these are often used somewhat interchangeably. Some researchers distinguish between zoophilia and be clity because bality is often not driven by a sexual preference for animals. Some studies have found that a preference for animals is

rare among people who engage in sexual contact with animals. Furthermore, some zoo files report that they have never had sexual contact with an animal, So I assume he would be considered a zoo file. I would assume mass master, bit masterbait. People with zoophilia are known as zoo files, though also

sometimes as zoo sexuals or even very simply zoos. This so WPS, zoor rosti, sodomy, and zoor rastia are other terms closely related to the subject, but are less anonymous with the former terms and are seldom I can't remember where I found the acronym WPS when I started saying, and I think it was broad City, but I had to be because they came across this. This is super WPS like. But I mean, what if the nigger got a pit bull and he liked to masturbate in front

of his pitbull? Did you like to match to be in front of your pit bull? Because maybe you like to be watched? And that's a really I shouldn't have said black people had pit bulls. That's really bad to me to say. But you know, you know, maybe you got a pit bull? Right See black ass in the room, got it? He's like, Jesus just got one? What is it? Red nose? Blue nose? How you? Oh? All right? So I do want to start off. We got to start

this off with the bank. So a lot of the questions that you guys sent in our home our horrible decisions for this week, is just all homemail. But I want to start off with something that was not a question but will be unsolicited advice that we're gonna give you. We were Patreon message that we received Wednesday night, and here it goes. This is the unicorn from the February Atlanta show. I wanted to give you my rundown on

the interactions thus far with the couple. If you guys need some context on this, me and Mandy talk about it all the time. At one of Our Lives shows, we were so elated that a woman stood up and asked, hey, like, where can we find unicorns? And the person that was maybe two seats over from her was a unicorn and they linked up. Here we go. I'm mad because I remember what they looked like. I remember exactly what they like. I feel bad, but I don't. Originally, they invited me

out the same night as the show. I had made plans already, so I suggested we do brunch the next morning. They picked the spot Milk and Honey, nice spot I was supposed to go there. They also invited another friend. She was cool. We all ordered food plus a picture of Momosa smash. Cut to the bill. Mandy, I know you got my back here, which I want to stop you right there. Bitch, When and ever did you think

that I would think it was okay? I don't know what I've given you, guys, what opportune you've taken by the things that I've said about wanting to take care of things for whether it be scissors or be a sugar mama one day. I would never ever ever tell you that this shop was okay. Not that I don't have it, but y'all trying to suck me right then court me. My tap was only about thirty dollars, and that included the tip. Kind of turned me off on the type that feels that any man who wants a

threesome should be able support of threesome. I eat dinner and drinks with the women involved. So basically after sounds a little basically if you guys, because I got a little bit lost in the story. Basically, they all went to brunch and when the bill came out, they split it. The man did not. After brunch, they invited me out to the Trap Museum. I declined because I had a two hour drive home. So tip for Unicorn hunters, wine and dine her. She's a damn unicorn. Asked her if

I could read this. She's like pretty Treon like yeah, and I appreciate you for letting us read this, because I promise you this is going to help the greater good. I get tired of the three cent question, and I think it's mainly because y'all know I have quite a few, and you ask us what we should do. Go to episode seventeen, you asked where you're going to meet these people? Whatever? My main objective I want for this entire fucking show, even though I had my big kind ship in the beginning.

For my fourth thing I should have said is treat the person you're inviting to your bedroom. Asked me to fuck you and your husband, and then even why didn't I gotta split the bill? Which'll I really am disappointed because this couple was so cool and we've met them twice I technically three times, so they came to our club shift after Opium in Atlanta that that first time. I'm so disappointed that a couple so experienced could even let this happen. And then I thought for a second

they weren't experienced. She said, they do it all the time. The then the other thing I was thinking of was, um, you know, okay, well their friend was there, so that all couple. No, not even then, not even then, you guys are fucking tripping my nigga. Now, as a woman, could you have sit there and known and watched your fucking man only pick. I don't even know if you and your man regularly split, but you should have definitely

stung a different tune that night. How dare you? How fucking dare you have insinuated that you wanted me to fuck y'all and you couldn't pay for my food? You know what, I really appreciate that she mentioned the price, because that even you know why, that makes it worse, because the couple definitely has. You just really cannot teach

some people to be courteous. I'm almost disgusted that, like y'all met at our show, I also want to say for a lot of the men who want to engage in threesomes, like, not only is it going to be a lot of work in the bedroom, but it is work outside of the bedroom. And I feel like, you definitely know you now have to court two women, and you should make that person who's joining you in the bedroom feel even like she's more welcome to you know, you'll maybe don't like him. Maybe it's something a lot

of y'all love. The advice Anthony said it take take this one fucking piece, be rich enough, for three days, and I didn't even tell them you'all got to do that. But if you can't get what you want by those three days, at least show me that in three dates,

y'all had three ten dollar mills. Yeah, I shared on a I shared on a Patriart episode of three something that I recently just had with a homegirl of mine and she was actually in Atlanta, UM during our live show, and her and her her boyfriend had me in the group chat wanting me to come over, and I was like, you ain't flying me to Atlanta. You ain't paid for

this Airbnb. I'm here working, And I genuinely didn't even want to give them no pussy because I'm like, you ain't even working for it nothing right now, like at least last time, I got to flight out the goddamn ship and the whole goddamn trip out of it. Like now, no, I'm not just gonna sun you because we're all in the same city. So I think, yeah, like you need to kind of put in some type of goddamn effort.

If I mean I'm gonna I'm gonna say for that one, I think a little different because like, okay, I get it, like the trip the first somebody, if you guys really clear, then you wanted to funk. I get it. No, I'm not just sucking you and your boyfriend your boyfriend, not when I'm in that horny though. Yeah I wasn't that horny. Um. But I mean, I think at least like offering to take someone to dinner and treating him to something or something.

And I'm kind of shocked that as someone that was saying, like they know that, this is all I'm saying is I don't. I can't speak for how many threesomes they had. I don't know them, but I do know that the first time I met them they were talking about it, and the second time they came to the show they said it again. I cannot believe. This is like basic step one. So I'm gonna just say it one more time. Places to find a threesome, best advice to find a threesome,

and this will be the last. I ain't even gonna can we stop getting the goddamn three some questions? Like we have we have episodes with threesome in the titles, So go up. I'm actually gonna put a note in my phone to put this in the description threesome tips at thirty three minutes. Yes, okay, let's start all right, here we go. I'm gonna give you basic ones. I gave it at the last Cargo show and I think it was great advice. Let's say that you guys are

not the type to go out. Let's say that you guys maybe shouldn't be showing your faces in that city. Make a Tinder page. Start slow, whether it be just a guy or just a girl. I think the best thing to do if you don't make a couple of pages just a girl, Let's say that you really can't put your face on there. Take a picture of you to blur it out. Take special made pictures for that Tinder and blow your ship out right. Get in the bed,

take something cute together, do whatever. I really enjoy when I'm swiping seeing pictures of couples having fun, I think that's great. You gotta blow your faces, do your thing. And you're very specific when you say something like, hey, looking for someone to join us on dates, blah blah blah blah blah. Don't lead women on. I hate swiping. Um, you know a girl where in the description they say nothing about them having a boyfriend. That wants to suck

me too. I hate that is, even if you don't have your boyfriend in the picture, at least say hey, this is what I'm looking for. I hate that. I think that we all have to remember that talking about sex kind of very upfront and word on a tinder. It's a little too abrasive in my honest opinion, I think that you should at least be a little more kind when like or just be suave about the ship and say like, hey, I would love to take you out for drink, smoke, link up, let's have some fun together.

Also use the words like we would like to take you out. Knowing that a couple can do that makes it more exciting anyone I know that's played a unicorn, even like Mandy just sitting right here saying I got a trip out of it, Like, it is very exciting to be treated, especially by a couple, to do not do this ship for me if boyfriend wants it and you don't, do not do that ship. Three, do not do this ship if you're not attracted to women. I don't care. I know some people say, oh whatever, maybe

you can know if you're not attracted to women. If you're not ready to eat some vagina. It's gonna be crazy. And I read a tweet the other day that said, you know what I think all the time about having threesome. It's like, okay, eating pussy, cool until it's in your mouth. If you feel like that, don't do it unless you and her bows are not doing it. I don't know. I'm just saying, i'll see why you would want to have sex with someone you don't want to have sex with.

Don't do that. Another thing. If you really feel like you can't do it in your city and you and your man are taking a trip to let's just say Detroit, pay the fucking ten dollars. If you don't have the ten knowledge, you shouldn't be having three steps because someone in the audience is like Leon budgets this fuck that passport tender ten bucks white people in other cities. This gets you very open to the idea of women together. You get to see each other's type. Ship like that.

If you guys just want to fuck and have the experience, go to a strip club. Maybe they'll offer some pussy to you. I don't know what else to tell y'all. I know that I'm sounding really annoyed, but I'm just so tired of the threesome question. Is it just me? No? I think you said everything. I mean, damn if you don't want to use tender field f E E L. D. Thrinder was the old title. Field is another way to find someone. My Wild Lifestyle is another website, um or.

I am very pro sex work. Let's support another woman in our community. Eros paying for escorts. If you just want someone who's a professional B will get out of your life when you're done with it. And see, you just want the sexual experience, pay for it. If you cannot pay it in they're fairly cheap. They're going for like two hundred for the hour, and so I mean, yeah, do it, y'all, don't be any I know that a

lot of really pay for it. But I think that if you have a man and you're maybe a little too apprehensive to meeting a woman together, and you know, people say should you do with a friend or a stranger, like y'all are too worried about what will happen after pay for it? Because one thing I know and the escorts I've met in their life in my life, they are all about their money and giving a good name,

napping to catch feelings with your nigga. They just want the money and that's it and they're going all today, next client, Okay, exactly. Um so, yeah, I don't have any. I think you kind of did it all for the threesomes, and I'm glad I specifically did not pick. I didn't I even secifically did not pick any threesome questions because of that. Bro, when I see people send the threesome and I don't want you, guys tend to turn. Don't

get me wrong. If you guys have a question that's like more in depth about the threesome, sure, but asked how to have and where to find a third person? It's honestly a case by case um basis. So this next one, I really like this question. Um So, hey, y'all, I've been listening to you guys for a while and telling all my friends. Thank you, guys, by the way, for telling all your friends about us. I've learned so much listening and got comfortable exploring kinks. I've been a

serial monogamous for as long as I can remember. Every guy I've slept with, I've been dating or ended up dating for a while I'm over that ship. I went through a rough breakup and just want to do me for a few years. That being said, going from constant sex to no sex is rough. I'm trying to figure out how to casually date while not while not leading people on and not ending up in a relationship again. Any tips on communication, getting comfortable and dating multiple people.

Love the show and love the positive vibes. I like that getting comfortable dating multiple people. I think the best advice someone gave me, because I am such an emotional person, was being honest about expectations while dating multiple people. Like if you just want sex and some fun, you have to really mean it when you say it. Don't have sex and some fun and then get upset when you

know he's doing the same thing. And just naturally we can be possessive or jealous people, and and there's this there's this little thing that's innate I think when dating with competition and things like that, right, Like, for example, you could know a man is in love with you and you see his ex and he be like, change it because you want to, like know you've got this leg up, Like because we care about that person, so we want to make sure, like we're the one they

love and they're blah blah blah about right, you gotta let a lot of that go and when you can let that go for real. And it took me a long time to not have jealous feelings with you know, my partners. I would say, don't literally to the last like fall of last year. And I've been doing this show two years with you just recently am I totally okay? That ship takes a while. I said it on the episode with UM when Andrew that men lied to us and we lied to ourselves. And I think that I think, no, yeah,

we lie to um. We we lie to ourselves. And I think that that's one of the biggest things and not only communicating with someone else, but literally communicating it with yourself and really knowing what you're going into a relationship with somebody for. And I say relationship, but it doesn't have to be a boyfriend girlfriend relationship, monogamous relationship. When you're having sex with someone, you're relating with someone else, and you have a relationship, whether it's a situation ship

or not. UM. So, I feel like in terms of dealing with multiple people, UM, you need to be very clear on your intentions with them and also communicate what they're looking for, because if they are something someone who's looking for a relationship and you just want to date multiple people, you should probably let that person know upfront. Um. I think that that's very important if you're someone who genuinely, right now does not want a relationship. A lot of

men do it to us all the time. They'll tell us up front, listen, I'm not looking for anything serious, and I think as women it's okay for us to say that to men as well, and honestly as a one and a man will be happy to hear that nine times out of ten because they like to know that you're not gonna now stress the idea of a title, or just the pressure of a relationship or what they can genuinely offer to you at that time won't be on the table. What you're literally saying just a lot

of pressure in the beginning to turn someone off. UM. I just had a a friend of mine that lives in l A. I went to her wedding. She recently got married. She's been dating her husband three years, and yesterday she posted a d M where her husband asked her out on Instagram and he said three years ago. She was like, you keep checking for me or something like what's what's good Nigga? And he said, I ain't trying to wipe you or nothing like that. I'm just

trying to chill and have some drinks. Ship And they got married, and I thought that was so funny because we always be like Nigga's be Italian and and you know, even our salty little video. But I think it's dope. And the reason I think that happened to her and happened to him is because they both had no expectations. So it's a lot easier when you're not putting that pressure to fall all in love and appreciate someone. You know why, because we're not putting up this like I

have to be this, this and this. You know, I was out in dates with a guy I'll never forget it, and I knew he was more into me than I was into him, and he would start to say things I liked, and I didn't believe him. He'd be like, yo, I love going to the museum and blah blah blah blah blah. Oh I love this, and and then he would say things like yeah, man, like I just bought my my new crystals, and I'm like that mag a lie. But I know that. I mean girls do that too.

We we we do this people doing then the pick me mentality where because you want to become a girlfriend or because you want to become a wife, you start doing things that you think our girlfriend material or that you think this guy would like, and now you have to be this way when in reality, I think it's super dope to just genuinely find someone that you mesh

with because you're able to be yourself. It feels good to have someone know exactly who you are and which you know back even Lauren's thing like just her saying I was completely myself without my quote unquote cool mask. I remember, um when of the last time Jeeves came over, I was like, oh, I don't even know why I did it. It was a whole lie. We've known each

other for over a year now. He came over and I had all these water bottles open, because I'll drink a water bottle whatever throughout the day, and I was like, oh, normally, I you know, I have it out of this and like I normally recycle it and I put it away and he was like, no, you don't, dude, And I was like, yeah, I don't know. He was like, and I love it, and he was like, every morning I got to pick this ship up, like it's it's fine.

And I think that kind of accepting your flaws and like not getting so overboard and what you think this personal want, it's going to help. And I think that that helps with dating multiple people at the same time, like just genuinely being yourself, letting them know and not sitting here feeling like you have to tie yourself into a relationship. I think that has a lot to do with women feeling like they're worth that's tied to being claimed. Um.

And it's okay to just date multiple people. And even when you date, you have to realize you don't have to be having sex with all these people. I like to do the ideal of carp compartmentalizing. Um. The niggas that I talked to, there's niggas that I it's like that phone conversations with. There's some that I actually like face timing, some I like having sex with some I don't. Some I just like going out with some people. Okay,

I'm not great on the phone. That's crazy, Like some aren't you know, one of the actually things that are very vital for me is talking on the phone with lovers. Like if men are not selling people, I genuinely don't feel like it will work out. Like I love to sit on the phone. I'd love to be able to call someone when work sucks and they just listen to

me for five minutes. Actually very recently told me on the phone, he was like, my nigga, you literally have told me the story three times about these people at your job, and I'm like, I know, you know, listen to me, like it's really what I want and just to know that, like somebody can give you what you need those things I need. I call my friends on the phone. I want to call my fucking man. So weird. Yeah,

it's I don't know. I talked to to ship maybe one or two friends daily, But other than that, I'm not a phone person. Um only because between work, being on the phone, the podcast and talking. When I get home it's my quiet place. I just like to sit in and watch Mary to Medicine or Real Housewives of Atlanta and all of my fucking shows Project from Away. Like I'm into all of my shows and so when I get home all texts and that's it. And when

I'm at work, I can't be on my phone. I text, So I've become a texter and talking on the phone does become good. Like a guy who came back from the past. Um, I really like what he's talking about right now. Um, he no longer plays football, but he just does a lot of things investing wise, and he's now in a space where he's looking for a partner. We spent two hours on the phone the other night and I was like, oh, this, this felt great. And then we've been texting ever since because I'm like Nick,

I can't do that all the time. It's a nice feeling when you can connect on the phone because it's something that's so forgotten, you know, Like I'm just like that book my flight, we can talk in person. I think the three things that I love that are most forgotten, that I used to really love was one handwritten things to the phone, and three actual photographs that are tangible, Like, yeah,

it's funny. I was actually gonna go to Walgreens and like the pictures from the festival and even pictures from Our Lives show and stuff like that. I want to start getting picture albums again, I have like five. I did that growing up. It's crazy. Like when people come over, like I know, they laugh at me because like I'm so used to go onto my phone to share memory.

So if you're in my home, anyone that's listening that's been to my house, you know, I have these albums, Like I have binders of things, and it feels really good. And even though I can get like a little cluttered, it feels really good. My refrigerators covered with pictures. I just bought a Polaroid Um tangible photos feel good. Actually, for Christmas, I sent Christmas card to Collet with a picture of us in there and just thank her for being a great friend. And she said to me later,

She's like, I can't believe you suendny picture. I can't believe you know, but how many Like how good would that feel? And just writing with your hand I love you or I care about you to someone is a big deal. My friends make fun of me all the time because I like to go into photo booths everywhere. I love those little things. And then when we travel I'm the one paying when we on the tour, I'm paying for a little big picture of us standing in

front of whatever. You've got to bro that Cross makes so much money on those photos because we don't have a dollar. Fucking Jesse at our ship in Miami, she got this photo boothsh it, and I'm like, I don't know why, Like you're you're looking for a sponsor for this, Like we don't need this, Like we should be working on something else. I wish we could. It was such a greater. So the next question is from one of

our young listeners. Shout out to y'all, Um, Hi, Mandy, and Wheezy, you guys can call me gee very much, enjoy your podcast while at work and wanted to ask y'all what I should do about this situation. I am nineteen dating my very committed girlfriend who has showed me everything but love in every way for the past eleven months. But we have a problem. I can't come on my problem. Night, I received my first blow job, which was amazing, toe

curling and all, and there is one problem. I did not come keeping it short and went on till her arm and jaw hurt from doing it for over thirty minutes and I told her to stop whenever she needs. She did so and went on with our relationship. Also, that was not her first rodeo, and she went through her whole phase in high school but fell hard for me. Now, after so many amazing blow jobs, I still haven't Yeah. I was actually just wondering what if he said they're amazing?

He said, so curling, I still haven't came from her blow jobs, and now whenever we fuck. Lost my V card in October, which is also amazing, which makes this very confusing and very concerning. So he doesn't he can't come from sex either. No, I don't know if it's my stamina or just my head fighting my head, since I do suffer from anxiety. We've spoken and joked about it, and she said it might just be that I have a lot of stamina, since every time I masturbate it

takes about forty minutes on average. Damp. I would like your opinion. I've listened to your podcast and applied a lot to our relationship, to the point I gave someone who didn't like head to her hugging and kissing me after saying don't leave me after I'm done. So thank you all for all the tips on treating and pleasing my woman, and can't wait for all the future episodes. Also, I've introduced my Girl to y'all since I love your convos. We have been very adventurous to beach, blow jobs and

head in the dressing rooms and stores. Hope to see you at a future live show. Keep up the tips and good luck PS. My girl reminds me very much of Mandy. She enjoys giving me head very dominant, and I like the idea of pegging. I don't know about that yet, um, but just getting freaking and just freaking was overall from I really wish that we would have read this question with someone better suited to answer, because I think there's a lot more going on that we

can't really speak to. I mean, we have men in the room. Would do you all have issues with coming or when you guys were younger? I want to he's nineteen and just lost his virginity, so I want to speak to that. Well, can you come on the mic so that they can? I want so? Yeah, well, this is our camera guy. Guys, welcome Benson on the show. He's not a doctor. Yeah, can we no? No, no, come back, come back? Can you? So? I wanted to focus more so on his age and being that he

just lost his virginia. If this is something that maybe most men would experience, I'm about most men, but I'll tell you firsthand is that I lost my virginia was eighteen. And the way I lost it. First of all, I was watching the podcast. Didn't actually lose it had a stroke of impotence for the lip service. Okay, um. It was actually the Mayo and Uncle Murder episode of Massivend my my ex possession on it was so weird. But

but here's the thing. I actually didn't get hard. I actually had impotence for the first month, and that was like very stressful, humiliating. But after that, well wait, which so you weren't getting hard for the first month anxiety, it was all on my head, okay, so like him? After that, then I was for hours straight. I mean obviously the first time I was like five minutes. Then I worked my way up and now I was just working straight hours and we had to take breaks on

her pussy hurt. Um, come, I don't know. See, that's what I was trying to put my head around. Like happened to you too, but while you were young and just and it was weird like my my ex crazy. She was like, oh, he must be sucking other people because at moment, dick wasn't working when I do because it overworking. She was like, what the fund is the issue now? Like, I have no clue. That's not an issue for you now, right? Do you know what you did for that to change? Was Was it a change

in partners? Was it a change in your thoughts around sex? What made it to where you were then able to have I guess regular sex? And this wasn't an issue. I really couldn't put a pin on it. I don't know where just started change, like uh like because me Max were on and off, so then it became like got down to like forty minutes, and then we had a lot of public sex. So I was like, you know, I'm gonna rush right now, you know? Okay? So well

that that was an idea. So that's something that maybe he could consider even to see maybe what's changing in his mindset. Maybe when he's in the house he feels like he has all the time in the world, and maybe he can come faster if he doesn't in public more. But what I will say, what I will say now at a sex club? What that's probably technically not okay? Um, what I will say is that anxiety is closely linked to impotence and not being able to come. All you

guys know that. Right now, I want to let everybody know that it's important to be careful. Talk to somebody, talk to other dudes. Please talk to your other dudes in private. Maybe just slightly bring it up, because I don't bring up dick talk in front of the talk because don't want to talk about that like all about like you know, my ships on SWOW. But then I

don't know what I brought up. And then four of my other closest dudes are like, yeah, it happened to had an issue, And I was like, yeah, man, there's like a close older person in your life that can like walk you through that moment because sometimes at that age you're so immature. How old were you? I was Okay, he's nineteen, so yeah, about the same about the same age. Thank you, Benthy, You're coming through we see. So here's

what I was thinking about when he was saying that. Um, there's one of my favorite parts and it's the very beginning of Charlottegne's last book, Shook One. Did you read it? Um,

it's on my bookshelf. I haven't read it though, so there's an awesome There's an awesome part in the beginning where he talks about names aiety he had attack he had going down and his wife and he says his wife always squirts, even together, like eighteen years and he was going down on her and he was high, and he's like, I thought he was going to drown, and he's like, I kept doing it and I was wondering why she wasn't squirting, and I fucking freaked out, and

he's like, I had so much anxiety, and she was laughing. It was a great story, actually embarrassing as fuck. When I met his wife, I mentioned it and she was like, oh my god. She was like, hey, that that is to be getting at the first chapter. And I think that that was such a dope part of the book because even for so long, you can get with someone

and you can get that anxiety. But I think what it has to do with is there always feels like there's a clock on sex, and a lot of us have to take that out, which is why I kind of like that thing of like talk about amazing sex without coming, like we women feel like men have to come for it to be over, and men feel like they have to wait for women before they can come sometimes and we don't really like get to enjoy it anymore. It's like you're figuring out what position we have to

be in so we can come. And I think that should just like explore bodies more so, like a lot more licking and touching and like getting into your senses to really turn you on, just like women take a

long time to get wet. Kind of remember that, like men can sometimes take There's a thing that I almost said his name, Jeeves does with me body worshiping, and he would literally sit in front of my ass, on my pussy and talk about it, talk to it, lick me, fucking tell me how hot I am, put his fingers in his mouth and whatever is dick take it out, do other ship to it. And it's like it gets me so fucking rilled up. And I don't want to

speak for their sex. But I would guess at nineteen, maybe exploring and taking time doesn't seem like a thing because I didn't do ship like that at nineteen, So I think talking to an older friend that's mature enough to not laugh at you, to looking into that anxiety or sexual therapy or stuff like that. For insurance it's covered. And three do some more floor four play and a lot more four plays. I just had for the like,

and y'all know I don't like head. So I had sex with someone um recently and it was our first time having sex, but we've known each other for years, and he got like he got really hard the night before, but in the morning he wanted sex again and he just was getting like medium hard, like but not all the way hard to where it just it just wasn't going. And I was like, I condom gotta stay. So finally

we we we fucked, but it just wasn't staying. He went he got soft again, and so he like got into this place where he literally laid in between my legs and just put his mouth like it was head but finger popping at the same time and literally made me so wet, and I came that way so much, so of course I wanted penetration after, but I was like, Nick like got me way wetter than when we were and it was so he literally funny because you're talking about how you don't really like no, and he laid

between my legs and was just like looking and like was working it like, but it wasn't allhead. It was a lot of fingerplay. It was him looking into my eyes, like him wanting to hear me moaning. It was just very intense and I got so fucking white. I was like, oh my god, that no right there. Though taking the extra time to like please someone being a giver helps. Actually one thing, this is really dumb, but it's true,

one of the hardest I've ever came. I can't even it always sounds like I'm on my period with her years ago. Okay, I'm gonna say this is like six seven years ago, licking blood. Now, I couldn't mean I was on my period, so I couldn't have sex right with scissors. She came over, she was drunk. She came over from the club, and she got on top of me and was like rubbing on me and we were like dry humping, and I was so fucking horny. And I realized it's because I have never really been teased,

so like teasing like, I love it. I think y'all should try that in your four play because if you some people think four play is just eating pussing a second dick, and it's not right, So we have one more um listening to let our guys or homemail my bit um. Hey ladies, I've been listening to your show for a while now. Was put on by my home girl. I love it and it opens my mind to things um that I've never considered and fuels the questions I

bombarded my vanilla as friends with. But my purpose in writing is that I've been having a lot more casual sex since my last breakup. She's a complete opposite of our first writer way back in and at first it was Hella lit. It was exciting. I was coming pretty much every time, learning new tricks and all. But now it's kind of died out for me. Even sex with the people who were also amazing before now have me dry and disappointed. I wasted gas pulling up or allowed

their presence in my queendom. What can I do to get that spark back and sexual interests back into my life? Signed board and sexually Uninterested. And I picked this because in the beginning of this year I was having quite a bit of casual sex um with a lot of repeating partners um. But I was winning trying to wean myself off, which is is getting there um, and I was telling my friends that I thought my pussy was broke because I was having sex with like people who

worked me for seven. My pussy was the driest it was it had been. I was mad every time I had sex because I was like, this is why I don't have casual sex with other people. I was frustrated and I was like, yeah, my pussy's broke. I wasn't interested in having sex. I went on quite a little a dry spell. Didn't want to seven, didn't want to suck anyone regular because I was genuinely not enjoying the sex. So I read this and I was like, this is

what happened to me. And I feel like in a in a bit of it, you have casual sex, and yeah, it's fun, But when you're having casual sex with multiple partners, you miss a lot of the things psychologically that you like in a partner, such as the cuddling, such as the conversation, the intimacy. Maybe they're not um doing the things that essentially you want them to do, or maybe you really don't want this sexual connection with someone as much as you want a conversation with them um, And

I felt like that's kind of where I was. So maybe you were enjoying this casual sex with all these partners and it was fun and you were coming because you kind of didn't want anything else. You just wanted sex. So I just wanted to sex. Also, people say is replacement for something else, right, But I um, so I went through a really scary moment like towards the end of February where like when my aunt died, I was like scared to masturbate or have sex because I felt

like she was watching me. It's really dumb, but I was like freaking out, like my grieving process fucked up masturbation. And one of the things that helped me was a little bit of time. But like erotica, I read a lot already, Like erotica really fucking helps me. And I don't know what it is. And I think it's because when you're reading. And this is much why when books turned into movies, people can't appreciate that yet because we all imagine it in a different way. That's who I

would ever look into a movie, addicted Zane. Oh, yeah, so like we kind of picture, you know, the book a certain way, and then the movie comes out and it's not what we wanted. That's what's great about books. Your imagination runs so wild reading erotica or really got my pussy to work. I really can't give any other advice because I think sometimes it just takes time, and I think it takes a little bit of solo time to like work through that feeling. But when it's there,

you feel like it's never gonna be Overbro it sucks. Yeah, So, UM, I think that honestly, you should maybe come more in tune with yourself. Um, stop giving your energy to so many people. UM. I believe that when you do have sex with someone, it's a transfer of energy. So maybe the things that are going on with your partners are now draining into you. Whether it be something negative going on in their lives, or maybe they're just exhausted, or maybe they're not performing to to what they used to.

There could be so many things. But when you give yourself to someone, specifically sex and when having casual sex, you are draining yourself more than you know. And so it may be a time to where you just need some time for yourself something that I like to do and something that I like to do when I feel like I've just given too much energy to my male counter parts, are my sexual partners, or whatever the case

may be. I literally enjoy a trip with my friends and I stop answering their calls and no, I don't want to see you. I have plans with my friends. I make a lot of plans with my friends, and I get my energy back up and and being grateful and happy for life, the people in my circle and what's going on in my life before I can allow myself to release energy to somebody else. So that's kind

of what got me over my little dry spell. Um, when dealing with multiple sexual partners, just taking a break and enjoying other people around me that I'm not having sex with, specifically male friends, male friends that you aren't having sex with, spending time around them, because then you just get to appreciate men again and their energy and the sastroone and just men for being men without having to attach the sexual connection with them. So that would

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