Ep110: What's a Doula do? Feat Michellee

Because I was a little inspired to have all of us, not just men, but women as well, have a lot more respect for mama's I tweeted that I was on Bleaker Street going up the subway steps and this girl was carrying her baby up the stairs, and when I offered to help her, she said, I got it. Cist, these men can watch me do it by myself. She was really piste off because it was a long way up.

And for those of you that live in New Yorker have seen in the news there was a woman who died recently midtown after like a stroller fell on top of her. She was carrying her child. Child lived she didn't. So I want us to all finished this hour up with a lot more respect for women helping out moms in the street with strollers. Whatever we got to do, our sisters, our moms are girlfriends, baby mamas, all of them. So let's get it started. How much blood comes out

a lot? Okay, I was just kidding. Actually, let's start with Okay, we don't want to start with the book. We're gonna start slow. You don't want the nasty stuff yet, Okay, we take it easy. Listen, this is how we all got here. Technically, we need this episode, you know what I'm saying. Um, let's start with kink of the week though. Alright, so guys, we're going to start with our kink of the week. As you know, every week we bring you guys a kink. Lets you know the paraphilia and the

kind of medical term of that. Um and so this week it is Zoomi tophilia or pophilia. I don't know, so Zoomi tophilia. It is another more modern fetish incarnation. I really was gonna say that different what I was gonna say, zoo my pophilia. Oh I did say that is probably not all right? Probably is zu Mitho. You're right, that's real elementary Zumi sophelia. Okay, it you says my thought. Okay, Lactually it was real childish zoom me you right, Okay,

bitch zu Mitho. There we go, I like zametho. Zamitho. Okay, bitch, it ain't zoom me. You're right. Another more modern fetish incarnation, zamitophobia, describes the act of being turned on by the thoughts of having sex with mythical creatures and animals. These would be such as trolls, werewolves, dragons, and merman or mermaids um and no mythical creature stays sacred stinks. See why you gotta words? I don't know what that word is. I totally get the dragon thing because after watching Game

of Thrones, you want to wait, what is it? You want to dragons? They're like lizards. You got iguanas with in Florida. Bitch, I mean, I don't want to think about some alligators. I'm just saying that. Getting that's kind of bestality, bro, I say all mythical creatures. She goes d dragging my ship. I went straight to Twilight Ben with the goddamn where wolf like before where we wait down saying dogs? So now where wolds? What would I what mythical creature? I want to suck? So you know what?

And I don't know if this is bestality too, though, like the half man half horse, because that did go be big? What's it called mega mega metatur? Cent centaur? Are you listening to this right now? And you know what it is screaming into your headphone? It's a metal, it's a metatur. Well that's what I wanted here when we had white people, when anyone's here that Niger had notes, he had it right, Yeah, we're gonna look, don't be every time. I'm not that serious. She was right, she said, Centaur.

So I feel like if but so the problem is I've never seen a black man, so would have to be half black man, half horse type in black. He got dress on Google? He got dressed. Oh yeah, I'll fuck him. Hold on, look, why are you looking up? Don't look up? Black horse? Maybe African American centaur? Oh wait wait wait, don't not that one front. That's not a good image. Okay, so the second wait wait, wait, what mythical creature? Let's let's get off the animals. What

other mythical creature? Would you like? A wizard? Oh, I I'll fun will Smith. That don't count. That's like a genie. Okay, genie is a mythical create What about you? I for money, I'd be like, let me get. Why do you think gott to be for money? Just say you want because I'm saying one of my wishes gonna be money. It's something like, if you get a wish, you ain't gotta sucking for the money. You just wish sucking for one more? You get three? Right, you get three wishes. Let me

see what about a troll? Nah? A ugly trolls are like midgets? Yeah, my bad. I know you'd be coming for me. But they called me midgets all they called me a midget. Oh yeah, I ain't fucking I'm good. There's a hilarious joke that I think. It's um. John Laney tells He's like, when I was doing TV, I had this bit or someone said about midget and they were like, you can't say that. It's like saying the N word. And he's like, you know how I know it's not the N word because you just said midget. Fat.

I mean that facts. I'm trying to really trying wanted me to see nine. That's bad. But how much money were you looking for? Why we always gotta break up the money so how so how much money? How much money would I need to sucking? Midget? Basically, ugly face. That's what a little birth to? What ugly face? So ugly midget? How much money? How much money would you do? Like the head? Wait, the hat regular side. I was a little person. Just if they're attractive for cheap. No,

but they have to look like a troll. No, that's what I'm saying. They have to look like a troll. We're talking about mythical creatures. But I don't know. I mean, it's not like I'm doing something crazy. How much money you said you would get shipped on for what? Twenty bands? Ten bands? You went down? Say that? I said that it was a hard ship. I didn't say twenty. I said fifty. Okay, So how much you sucking a troll for?

I want to say higher now, because I mean, if y'all know why we get wait, I just wanted prefaces by saying if you never heard the ship episode, I started at like a quarter mill. But did I work my way down? I don't know. I'm going like seventy five. You were lying like, hell, bit that image we're looking at right now, that i'd have to do that bron out. Okay, I can dig it. I can dig their faces a right? What is another method. Hold on, where was on? There

were wolves, dragons, a mermaid? Real quick, that might be hot done. That's like Ariel. Yeah he's gonna it's like Ariel Mermaid. Oh yeah, he's fine. We ain't got no dick. How you gonna eat? That's exactly what y'all doing. You know, it's real gross. It would be like if you put a goldfish to play with your pussy your clip. Nah,

that's the black Mermaid. Wait on, y'all, if you're a patron, we're gonna definitely ask y'all with which mythical creatures you want to, but we're gonna put some pictures up of um, these black mermaids. So when Jeeves and I were first dating, I thought that, like he really freaked me out. He sent me he had like a tumbler thing of like, um, not anime, but it was more so like fawns and like they had pointy ears and ship and he has a mythical creature. Yeah. He was like, you think this

is hot? And I'm like I could see it, so I'm not gonna I used to like, um, what was it called Neverland? Um the Peter Pan movie. I they looked so cute. Yeah, when they got them little ears in that movie. But like, how cute. I mean I was young watching the movie, so I got turned. This is actually at this point I like, I thought I liked white guys. This is when I was like in the insynct Backstreet Boys. So when I watched Neverland, I was into the little white actors. Now, no, I mean

I'd rather fun him than the troll. Oh yeah, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Definitely scissoring situation. I mean, honestly, it's like paraplegic, like dudes they can't feel their dick. Remember we were talking about was it no, maybe you were here when Ashley was here, the girl who was in a wheelchair, and we were talking about like people that could jerk you off, and like, I mean, we could have figure out a way to it. He definitely fingering you with them Finns.

I'll take it. It might be slim and like, oh it's slapping. That's true. So I do want to say, if you guys have not checked us out, we were again. We mentioned this before on the cover of Salty If you guys have not, go to at Salty dot World on Instagram, click the link on their bio and subscribe to read our interview with them, and then just a ton of stories really dope yesterday or maybe this morning and said how to talk straight June into pegging, not

saying that you have to. But what I did was I was looking for a news article today and I was like, okay, well let me just look on Salty and they had a motherhood section. Um so I got. I know it's a long one, but I got the brunt of what I really found interest ring. I'm so glad so we don't have to listen to you read it bit so it's a right. Let's get the summary headline. And I want to ask, because Michelle has kids, oh you have you do have kids now and she's pregnant away,

why you should buy a sex toy for your teen? Okay? What if we taught our children from the beginning to not seek out relief of these sexual desires and other people, but teach them something that they can relieve themselves. Studies have shown the kids that are educated about masturbation and do it more confident with their own bodies and sexuality are funk. Man. I didn't want to mess it up. You already did. It's the fresh it's the fucking what is it? It's the presh I don't know, de Fresh.

It's like tens of thousands of people are going to listen to me. You say a word wrong opposed to like when I'm just like improvin, I just said ZOOMI yeah, but like that was a hard like I almost said some random It's just because I don't know. I don't

want to, Okay. So it's funny that you brought this article up though, because if you guys came to our d C live show, we brought up masturbating um as teens and if parents should punish their children if they caught them masturbating, or if we should ship in d C was a woman wanting to teach masturbation for ages eight to thirteen, and then our audience to the audience was they would They said that most of them said they wouldn't pun I think all of them said they

wouldn't punish. But the headline for this ship is like normalizing sexuality in subtle ways. Picking a toy for them can be awkward, but they're basically saying, you pick it and keep the conversation going. And they're saying like, instead of um, you know, it says, imagine a kid billy who wanted to experiment with harmless as play. If he had a small plug to use on himself, he could have avoided that e R trip with a sharpie stuck

in his butt. Okay, so here's here's my thing. And I think this is why I even said um, there was there was a slight argument in people not wanting to exploit this. I shared a story about a friend of mine who caught her younger daughter, her daughter's thirteen or fourteen, reading um erotic novels and she went immediately to take away her laptop, take away her phone, and like,

oh my god, you should not be reading this. And instead of having that sex conversation to where if she's being aroused this way, this isn't opening to where you guys can have the conversation whether she's masturbating to it, whether you know this is what what's arousing her. At least she's not maybe playing with the boys yet, Like this would have been a conversational, like I've googled like

people kissing her girls kissings like that. You know, one of my friends I might have said it on this podcast before, but a close friend of mine, says her daughter. She caught her masturbating, and she let her know it was okay because the daughter was locking the door, because she was like, locked my door too, you ain't walking in wait. The daughter just said, Mom, I'm locking my door because I'm playing. She didn't, so she kept saying, like, why the fund is your door locked? And then she

told her mom. So then she says, she's like, no, this little bit is getting it overboard, talking about I'm stressed, I'm as I need to lock my door. That is funny. Yeah, that's funny. I mean, I get it. Um So it says if you can't do it in person and have a talk about masturbation or a toy, it's okay to leave the toy in their bed, with the notes saying you're going through a lot of changes. This will help you explore everybody yourself totally normal. Don't be embarrassed. I'm

here to talk about it if you want or if not. No, right, that's not a solution. I don't like that. One can them and asked them if they got the gift and if they have any questions. We live in a different era than our parents did, and we can't be as passive and absent minded about education. So here's the I guess here's another thing that I would think of if we all look at our childhoods. How many times did

we find our parents toys? I feel like that's a story that a lot of people have without meaning to come across the dildo ill long right right. The crazy thing is that could be my mom has seven kids, right, so you think that she will be sucking a lot. I literally like, I had this conversation with my husband the other day. I'm like, I have no memory of like hearing my mom fucking like finding anything. Like she was so secretive. And the other day I asked her,

I'm like, how did you do it? And she's like, oh, I just waited for you guys to go to sleep. Yeah, I know, but like how the fund did? I not here because I'm the oldest, I never heard it, but I did. I never heard it. I never walked in And I'm like that, have you ever walked in around? No? But I definitely heard. My mom is a owner. She's so extra. So my mom was like the man that reship like carpet. I don't like the child floors anymore. Your kids are, how old are you kids? Well, my

daughters eight and my son is too. Okay, so right now what we're going through is like they still sleep in my bed, so we're just like ye, no, judge and BILLI um. And the thing is is like now we're like teenagers and we like sneak around to funk. So we're like, okay, maybe downstairs in the liver or maybe here and meet me there. And it's just like so we kind of like cover it up. But I feel like my daughter's like kind of like oblivious to it. Stef.

She's nine, she's going on nine, but she's like so now my husband's like, oh, maybe we gotta like no more like morning sex or you know, because like now she's like she'll send my son upstairs, like oh go see what they're doing. Now. Let me ask you at nine with social media, because at nine I didn't have the access to phones and TV important like not to the extent that it is now, do you feel like at nine that conversation about sex or sex toys would happen or at what age do you think that's going

to happen? In this age right now? I kind of test the waters with her, like I'm very open with her, like she knows I'm adulla. She knows that babies come out of vaginas, like she knows, like you know, not just like you like, we don't story a story, she said, the story is I'm like, what's the stewardess? So now that's yo, so low. I'm coming from work. I went out last night. I had company. So then we was cuddling all night. We was cuddling this morning, like what

I'm sor I was just drinking. We drink a lot. Dumb so um k Camp and Genius were intown rappers, so once met them at the studio. Then we went to PhD. Then we went to Dumblehouse and we went to another bar. We like bar hopped all night. Nick, I was in Brooklyn. That's how you know. I was out late. Who was your company? That's what you're not gonna be all look at my business about a friend. He was a friend and we had, you know, a nice cuddle session. So I was up late. Did you

cuddle something into your mouth? Now it was only cuddling, thank you saying there's a big old belly right there. Yeah, no, that wouldn't happen with me and now I don't know, I get, I get really weird. Look, so Adam and Eve like sent us a whole bunch of like condoms. So now I have like mad options. And he was this is let me tell you the embarrassing part real quick. This is an embarrassing part of the story. And I

felt like a whore. So we get to the house and I take a shower because I went to work then, like we were out everywhere in all these clubs. So I go to take a shower and I put my my winter robe on like this like furry robe that I have from Victoria's Secret. So we get in the bed and he goes to cuddle with me and my robe has pockets. There was fucking condoms in the pockets.

I must have left them in there when Lawyer Bay came over like a month and a half ago, and so he's like, oh, you came to the bed ready. I said, I showed you not. I don't know what those are doing in there, and threw them across the room. But it was so embarrassing because I'm like, oh, he must think I'm a whore. There's just condoms ready in my robe. That made me feel like a horror fuck. I think the bigger issue is how fucking cheesy. I'm trying to imagine you're watching TV in your robe and

suddenly you're like like flips out. So no, no, no, no no. When when Lawyer Bay came over, I like, because we were already laying in bed, so I hate the awkward You got a condom? Yeah, let me get up and go get it. Draws halfway hanging off for Dick is out already and now we got to go find a condom.

So I'd normally like either put it in my pillowcase or in that case, it was in my robe, but so this was for another nick and he found it and thought I came to the bed ready for him, and I was like, no, damn, how did those get there? He was ready, bit I was like, no, we're you know, I'm trying to slide, I hope, so into every podcast here forward, I'm like making a commitment that I just get to say that. I'm talking like Kodak like so much.

The white people at my job think it's like a thing I do, and I'm like the thin I'm like hilarious and like, no, that's funny, Okay, So get in it. Okay, So let's start with the basics first. What is a duela? Okay, A duela is pretty much a woman, a man. It could be there's some men duelas um and it's just a person that's there for support for a pregnant woman. There's actually so many different types of duela. Is not

even just a midwife, No, it's not the same. A midwife is like actually like she catches the baby like they shoot out, Wait, you you'll be the one to hold the hand. Just so I welcome through it. Like I'm basically the one that like preps them for the midwife. So it's like I'm there for like their support while they're pregnant, you know, if they have any questions, like

oh sha, what's an epidural? There's some women that have no idea, So do you do this only when they're having their babies delivered like in a house or naturally you'd be going to hospitals like GMA. Just Dan, I've only attended one. I'm home birth and I didn't I thought when I thought about I thought, I thought in your house in the bathroom. Now, okay, everything is like mostly all my page my patients, not my patients, my clients are in the hospital, where do they find you?

And onist they signed me like Facebook, like I promote on my Facebook. Um, there's actually like this website that's called UM Yeah. So it's like you go there and how do you get the profile? And then they see like your qualifications and then they hit you up like hey this person, could you explain your qualifications? Well, it's on your doula apps is my page? No, you don't swep, but it's kind of like like my Space kind of thing.

You have profile. Yeah, like you have your own profile, like a little picture of you and then like where you're located, top eight and basically you gotta put all that. So doctors, these are my favorite books. So these are like what I love to do, like reviews from previous clients. Um. And it's basically like what information I know over the next person, So like someone might like me because I am the same here as them. It's simple because it's like so it's like when you pick out a doctor.

So think about retology as a duela. I wouldn't want to go to a white doula. Okay, that makes sense, I mean, and it's not even like a race thing. It's just something that can we what do we have in common? You know, like if a person comes in and there and and like let's say it's fully all white doctors, all white nurses, So what are we have

in common? Because now you're on their team and you know, I was looking for a black dula, but I knew it was sucked up not to like get even though the thing is is like as a duela, it's like so rare to find Latinos and it's kind of her to find even black dulas because I would hire a black dula before I hire a white Dulah is black. It sounds like some Africa. What is actually Greek? It comes from the like the word doul and it's um it means female slave. So that's kind of basically what

I want to be. So that's basically like what I am if you think about it, because like I'm your female slave, like I'm your slave while you're pregnant. You pay me. Of course that's how much it depends. Like I'm not certified. What's an average? So I'm not a certified dula. Like I do it based off of like I taught myself, like everything everything for me has been self taught. I haven't done any training. I haven't done anything. I've just read a ton of books. I ain't got

no qualification. This is kind of like, so my mom, right, my mom's board. I don't want my mom to go back to work and have a schedule, but she's been thinking about watching kids. And I was like, oh, I wonder if you can't win no qualifications. I made her a little profile literally last night. So many people love that she's a mom and she's older, yeah, she's late sixties, like, and it's all about like the connection because of course, like they have to interview me, right, It's not like, oh,

I'm just going to hire her because she's pretty. It's not like that. So I have to sit with them and then I have to explain I just I was like, you wanted to look good often like how I guess more so more aside from what do they pay you? How do they pay you? Because if they're texting you all the time, like obviously you're not charged. Basically, the way it works is like most women hire a duela around like their third trimester, around like thirty three weeks.

Thank you. From there on, it's like okay, so we decide you're gonna be Um, I'm gonna be your Duela. Were a match perfect great. So from that moment that they have the initial interview and they're like, okay, I love you whatever, what have you? I give him about like seven seven to ten days to just i'd if they want to sign my contract. And then that's when I received my first payment, which is a partial payment I only receive and then once it comes down to

thirty eight weeks, I'm sorry, not weeks. Thirty six weeks, I received my final payment. So can I ask you because when you have you have a do date and then you can come any time before that do day anytime after. At that point, are you also on call?

Yes whenever. That's the reason why because like in our area, like in East Coast and like you know, New York City, New Jersey, we charged pretty high compared to like Oklahoma, Oklahoma charged but for like in our area anywhere, it can range from anywhere from seven fifty to like okay, it just the more for the more money you make. Yeah, it's just the more you know, the more money. What do I want to do it for? Do I want

to do? Little? Coach me? Through pushing the baby out, or do I want to do it to be there after I have a baby? When do I I feel like the most important time. If you're like a first time mom, I would say the duela from the beginning, like you know, thirty three weeks. And of course if you want to dula, then that means that you're most likely you're very informed already on like what you plan on doing for your birth, so you just want somebody

for like real assurance. So there's some women that are like, they come to this country, let's say, and they have no family here, so they're just like That's where that's where my question was coming from, because I wanted to know what you offer that say a family member or a husband or the baby daddy or a friend would not be able to offer because like so so Wheezy

has not had kids yet. I have not had kids yet, but both of our parents clearly don't shout out kids, so our moms could do essentially what you would do. So you're saying you are hired for those individuals who may not have that supply. Not only that, but it's like okay, for instance, from my daughter's birth, my mom wasn't here, so my grandma was here, and just her

presence drove me crazy. And I love my grandma, you know, like she's dope, Like she's always there for me, she's whatever, you know, But at that moment, she was my mental block. And that's what a lot of people don't know. You're just like spirituals guy, right, So it's just like me and you connect spiritually, and you don't connect like that with your mom, even though like she's your best friend or whatever the case is. At that moment, you're like, I don't know if I really want to, like would

you want to shop in front of your mom? And it just depends on who you are. Yeah, I hid even getting my period from my mom for like the first year. Now now we're comfortable and I do. Look at my mom is my best friend, but even when she was trying to talk tell me about her sex life, I'd be like, gir, I don't want to hear that. So I still don't think I would want her to see my pussy white. And it's just like you know, and it's like, know what I mean, like I could

what you're saying. I hope my mom would drive me nuts. Your mom like literally because all making sure really sweet, but my mom told me I just had a biopsy done, and she's like, oh god, I flyd me on. I wish I was there. She would make me anxious. Thing like you want to be relaxed. This can be like when you're pushing on your baby, because it's like you think about it, like you're stressed and you're the first thing you do is like tighten your stomach and like

tighten your area. So you don't want that. You wanted to be as loose and relaxed as possible. We have a lot of male listeners, so my question would be, do you feel like husband because a lot of men don't want to see that, or don't know how to react or don't want to be in the room. Do you feel like you do get men that also reach out to you for their um women and there's nothing you mentioned like men's there's actually men that it's like

a fetish for them. Like it's just like it's like spam, like you know, like get a random text, like random message like hey, my wife's in labor right now, can you tell me what to do? And that turns them on. So it's just like no, wait, what do you mean? What do you mean? Like I'll get a random message on Instagram. Let's say like, hey, my wife is about to um push our baby out. Can you give me

instructions on how to take the baby out? Like that, you have to be a certain position and then you just have to like kind of see like what where's your midwife? And then you go from there and it's like oh no, no, no, she doesn't have a midwife. I'm here or whatever the case is, so you kind of like catch on. So yeah, but besides that, honestly, I honestly think that men should definitely be involved because the same way a baby is made is the same way a baby could come out. What do you want

your man to be there? You want him to I'm like, but yeah, no, honestly, that's what you want. You want your man to be there. You want him to be hugging you, kissing you, because that oxytostin, that love is what opens you up. What's the difference between oxytin and serotonin? Like st serotonin serotonin levels that increased to like make you happy. Well, oxytocin is basically like a hormone in your body that is just like kind of like your love.

Your love, okay, so it's like that's your yeah, and what's your hastiness and like so this one is like yours and so you want that no. Like like for example, when I was on lexapro, it was to boost levels of serotonin, So that's Oxytocin is basically like your love hormone. So it's just like when you're getting like aroused, that's what's happening, like obviously, but like I didn't really know

the whole time what oxytocin. Yeah, So that's basically it's so like when I have clients that have a spouse or partner, I'm just like, listen, I love her, you know, Like my job is just to be there. If you just need me just to be there to hold space for you, that's okay. Even if you need me just

to take pictures, that's fine. But the whole point is is like if you have your partner, be there for them, because it's just like at that moment a woman is so open and you don't know literally literally you know, you know, like in my mind, I'm just like, damn, why is my husband sitting over there? But he doesn't love me? Like so it's just like that right there can stop you from dilating from like opening up and delivering it. And let's give we can look at either

monthly or year late. What would you say about the number of clients you get in any year? Let's do a year. Um Honestly, it depends how many you do at one time. At one time. You just have the whole the whole point of like a successful dula is to have a great backup doula. So you can't do this by yourself because it's just like you that's my she was actually one of my Yeah I was when she was one of my clients. How you got doing so? Okay? So basically it's like, let's say I get five women

in one month, right, Okay? If I have five in one month and the two of them going to labor at the same time, I can't be at the both places and want check, so I give them um so because I didn't have the right Now you hate you hate percentage because you would do you just want any lots of money? If I was like funk, I connected with this person and they already and that's not all duelers do this, but I always recommend my inert for like, whoever I'm interviewing with, just be like, hey, my homie

over here. She's my backup duel and she's great. I can have her face time you you want her to come, because at the end of the day, you never know, and like you said, if we have a connection and then here comes my friend, it's just like I don't like her, get her out. So then it sucks, and then it just messes up the business, and then it gives me a bad rep because so when do you let go? When do you stop talking to them? Um?

I stopped around. Well yeah, okay, so um So the way it works is basically like I have a package. Um my package is okay. So I offered two prenato visits, which means that I visit them from the moment that they hire me until the moment that they give birth two times, and throughout those visits, I just give them answer whatever questions they may have. No, okay, there's some some duels that aren't even they don't even want kids.

It's just whatever. You want to have a little bit of a testimony when someone's like, yeah, your nipples are going to feel like this. Google Yeah, because I read a lot, and I learned that you've experienced it. Yeah for being but I'm saying like, okay, okay, that makes sense. And there's women that will be like, oh, you never

had a kid. I want Mama had me. But yeah, yeah, So there's some women because Duel is actually that don't even have kids and they're just like I don't plan on having kids, or either they're like eighteen and they're just starting off, or it's more just like an emotional connect connection with a person, like I make really good connections with people, So then you're also building kind of

a friendship even though you're paying forward. Yeah, so like those two visits, you give them the two prenatos if they want. Some people only want one. Some people are just like I already know I don't really need that much. So during that time you answer like the way I do it is like I'm like, okay, so we only have like the visitors really an hour to two hours. So I'm like, pick some topics that you feel are important that you really want to know about before you

push your baby out. So we discussed that and and I attend their birth. So I'm on call from thirty six weeks until the moment that they go into labor. And some women they go into labor thirty eight weeks, some women go up to forty two weeks. So it's very tough. Yeah, no, because that's already included. So then once they have their baby, do you involve yourself in checking in with them as well? Again, so I do the two pre nato. I attend to birth and then

to postpartum. So for those postpartums I usually offer them like three to four hours and then for those visits, give them encouragement with the baby or what. Well, some moms are so exhausted that they're just like take a pretty much as bad as it sounds, because a lot of duels are just like, no, I'm not a babysitter. I'm not an antie. You know, like some get offended by that, but listen, I'm there to support them. And I did a lot of work last summer as a

postpartum du and that was it. Like some women are just like, you really like kids, And that's the crazy thing. I don't like kids exactly even because they're mind, but it's like you want to do it. I have nine siblings, right, I'm the only girl I'm the oldest. I have a little sister. Actually, I'm sorry, I'm not the only girl. I used to be the um nine nine so um. So I've always been around kids, and I used to tell my mom I'm not having no kids because pretty

much like help you raise these little freaking boys. And I'm still raised helping her. And then I got and I had eight brothers under you. I have, I have, My mom has six kids under me, and then my dad. I'm Puerto Rican. Yeah, shooting them out. Listen every time I go to the Bronx, just my every Puerto Rican. My sister is six and my daughter's eight. Are y'all like, so this might be something and I mean this culturally like big family, Well it could just be a myth.

Is like Latina's more like, I don't know, are y'all more fertile? What I don't know saying I say, I don't that Puerto Rican bitches get pregnant way quicker than any other race. I have no what I got to hurt if they just want like they just fertile, like my mom, maybe all the right to be what it is. I mean, y'all eating it's like, yeah, we do. But I don't know, it's said me. That's how you say it, Ben, which I'm in my bronx. I said it right right

Ben Me? Okay, wait, I want to let's go back to the basis, all right, my man, I was really focused on if y'all fartil if you don't know ferti, but I know my mom wanted that many babies are made to it, you know, so baby made pussy are like, so she thinks the sperm have eggs? No, what did you say something about sperm pared eggs? So basically like

the way conception works. Talking about conception, all right, you have sex, two people have sex whatever, and then whatever whatever you want to call it, um and then the sperm travels and then hits the egg and then that's how basically it's done. Let's talk about ovulation, right, So, like you can only get pregnant when you're ovulating, correct, This is that science. I don't believe. What a god? You can only get pregnant like two times out of the month, but yet lives in you for like four

to five days. Yes, because they just had to say that. So you're what you're going to deep You're going to know I won't go deep, but I don't believe too many people pop up pregnant for me to only have two days. The population of the month r one of the weeks you're on your period three weeks you have to fuck one of those weeks your fertile the whole Look at the month, and out of one of those weeks, like have a thirty chance of getting pregnant every time.

So that's why I think everyb that they say only two days, Well, no, it's not. That's peak. It's like peak you usually have like about like anywhere from like seven. So here I just want to show you. So let's look at April. So I'm fertile. You see all of these days actually up until March, so seven days in fertil March thirty one to the end of this week. But are not fucking Chicago. But anyway, so here's that flower day. That's when it's like the real highest chance

that you can get pregnant. But you can get pregnant anytime. Those living If someone comes to me and I'm populating here, this firm can live in my pussy port. So here's my question. If you funk on the seventh, you tell me there's absolutely no way you can get pregnant. If he come in, you'll pussy on the seventh. What if the egg doesn't drop and it's still there? Here was your ovulation peak. I mean the egg drops on the fifth,

So after that, yeah, so after that you're done. Why why why is there still a dot on the sixth because she's still ovulating. Her last day is the sixth, but low chance. So then you bring statistics now this ship. This is why I was freaking out about that Plan B, my nigga, because here's when I went to New Orleans. It's thrown off now because that's what the Plan B, bitch the flower was like. Two days after I was terrified.

I was saying, He's like, I don't know why, you don't know why you it's crazy because when you posted that, I actually got a message sense in and I'm not sure if you've taken um Plan B or even your weight, but more so my weight before my weight loss. There's actually something that says that Plan B does not actually work for women, or is very unlikely to work in

women over a hundred and seventy pounds. Shut up, yes, ma'am, And if you last ship y no, and so we looked this up and the odds of it actually working for yeah, looking up, girl, I'm telling you, so the odds for for maybe um more, you know, curvy women and and overweight women. Maybe you do want to use something other than Plan B. What h b M I women's supposed to do about emergency? Yeah, high B and my women have a lower chance than were The average

woman weighs a hundred and sixty eight pounds. That look, she's looking it up right now. Yeah, so okay, it's it's the b M I they're talking about. Yeah, yeah, so for someone like me who's five ft one and way to thirty. At one point, yeah, there's that ship. I was popping skittles at that point. I was just praying my ovulationship because I okay. So the World Health Organization UM suggest that it's not that much of an

issue like people say. Um, there's four studies published that says, while data is limited, the finding suggests that women with obesity haven't increased risks, but it's not increase Still sound like me if you're sitting here telling me he's oddestly the data to review is still extremely limited. Yeah, I don't know. How because I'm not sure how you even if you just haven't gotten enough women in certain bmns to try it, like the studies of you have to

try that on human people. He was interesting and over or whatever. Y'all know the L word that makes you know had a baby. It's not the only more toto, what's the L word? Live on gestural the like the ingreded thing again love on gesture or whatever it is that you fringe. No, but the Plan B wasn't available. Right when I walked into the wallgreens. Did I tell you all the story about how went out to So I went to a bunch of them because right it

was busy where we were at. So when I went to the last one, I came in the car and I didn't have Plan B. I had this ship called Alegra. He said, Nigga, what the hell is agra? Wasn't that that's not for alig I was not to say so that Algie. Let me look on the name. But you've just got lucky damage because no, no, no, no, it has the same active ingredient that love agenna one point five. After feeling like no, that's when definitely, yo. All I

know is when I'm walked in. He was like, he looked at me, like, so, I guess for for again, ella, bro, you're not gotta ask. So what other question you got about shooting babies? Okay? So okay, so the baby's weren't in there right, So basically I'm interested in knowing kind of like what it feels like to be pregnant, right. What I want to know and what I'm trying to basically push out there is us respecting pregnant people and mothers more so, like let's kind of just walk us

through the first trimester. I've heard a lot about women. Amy Schumer is a popular one that is throwing up like crazy the entire pregnancy. Yeah, like what is it like the second So for me, my pregnancies have been amazing, pregnancy amazing. Listen. There's women, like you said, like she throws up like crazy. Um, yeah, she's one of them. Like she was just always sick everything, she couldn't eat.

There's women that just can't eat, can't get out of bed, they can't go to work, they can't do like everyday activities. And for me, I didn't have that problem. That's probably why I got the third to Like there's certain women when they're like they'd be ready, didn't they? Like I'm remember being in school, girls wouldn't come to school because they was on a period. And that's not google. I would say, like every other period, I violently throw up

from the pain. Really, then you know that. I wonder like if they have a connection, like if women have crazy period period? I never had crazy period, Like you've got to throw up your whole pregnancy, bit scissors having that, Like we're gonna still be doing the show if you get pregnant. I gotta talk to someone pregnant having sex all the time. You know, I ain't gonna want to imagine that you'll be having sex with with your belly? Eat? Why not? Why wouldn't she? Like you don't feel the

baby going up and down when he's behind you? Now the baby like just you don't feel like you have a baby watching you? A baby watching me? Like that's where dimples come from. Oh my kids always ask me where dimples come from. It's from the dick kids. I'm like, oh, by a fairy. There you go. So okay, you have a good pregnancy. In that week, let's talk about were vagina. So basically everybody, it's good to well for some women. Some women have like super dry vagina's when they're pregnant.

Do you know, it's just like hormone levels, Like your pH balance is like a little bit everywhere, right, So you're eating like crazy, ships so your body is going crazy, and then everything that you have inside of you is going to your baby. So you know, if you're normally like always like why and you don't have to worry about using the lube And then you come around your man's like what is wrong with you? You know, like

what's wrong and not turning you on? And it's just like, do you feel like your sex is better Chase pregnant? I do? I feel like because it's just like, first of all, you're already pregnant, So what's the worst that can happen? You just let him shoot the club up. But there's what's the worst that can happen. You're already pregnant.

There's still oh I guess back, you know, besides and of course okay, okay, but I mean so I feel like that right there is just like your comfort level and then from there it's like now you have like your body is just like so sensitive, so like just by like yeah, So it's just it's just like sometimes it's something I have days like sometimes it's like it takes me forever to orgasm, and then there's days that I like come in like two minutes, and it's just

like you feel like, do you feel sexier because of your your breast are getting bigger in your this pregnancy? Yes, my last two pregnant. I've always been I'm not like self conscious or anything, but I mean, of course you think, like what if he doesn't like me or you know, like just like different changes of your body. Does your husband make you feel good about your body? What he does?

What could some men that have pregnant women look be honest, like, you know, like don't well, I'm not in a bad way, not in a good way, like you know, just express yourself to her, you know, like just let her know because even though if if you guys have a great relationship and you tell her all the time like oh you look good, you know, you're sexy, whatever, tell her more.

And we actually pregnant couple at the New York Show and it was beautiful, so beautiful, and they came and I was just like standing up, so like we we don't do um. We had one our first show, we would sell. We sold standing room never again, right, We're like, we literally sell exactly. So we saw people standing up in the back and I'm like, yo, like, y'all didn't

buy tickets to sit. Come sit. The first person to come say it was pregnant, and I was like, yeah, what fuck, because imagine how it was when they went home, because it's just like you're ready, Like your body is just like like for a woman, it's just like your body is so sensitive. So even just like him brushing by me is just like if he brushes by my boob, it's just like oh, you know, Like it's just like you know, And it's like, alright, how much time we know?

Because I actually have a lot of questions about I'm gonna I'm gonna knock all these questions out. Okay, so let's get this in all right. One of my girlfriends told me that she had to get stitched up, as many women do. Now I said the same thing basically, yeah, basically, your pussy rips stuff. Okay, so everybody, the problem with your fucking pussy ripping, It's just that a lot of women are coached when they push so the whole point of it all. It goes back to like hippie ship,

you know, like honestly the O B G LANs. You know, everything for them is a business, so everything is on a timeframe, so they want to rush everything. So by them telling you lay back, put your legs up, and push when I tell you too, that's automatically you're trying to push it out watermelon when your body is not ready for it to come out. So not everything is ready to So what is the best position to have a baby in? I would say the best position will

be standing. Um, it can be like while you're on all fours, like on the bed. It can be sitting on the toilet, you know, like it's just the whole point of like no like leah, but all the toilet. But like so there's like this, the whole thing is gravity with your legs up like the squatty right, So I thought you were I thought even like, okay, you can actually like women that do it at home, some of them deliver on their toilet because it's just like first of all for them, it's just like the first

of them. First of all for them is just like you're sitting straight up automatically. We can't what if it's like nasty automatically. I just want to see it looking I don't want to see automatically. Yeah, it's gonnafof Why are we gonna get off right now? Man dialed up? We can talk about some ship every week. Yeah. I don't want to see a baby coming out of a vagina into a toilet. I don't want to see the

whole toilet. I just want to say, Hey, guys, if you're tuning in right now, go to Google on your mobile device and look and look up what the hold? I don't know what I was trying to happen. I wanted to sound okay. So yeah, So basically the whole point, like you asked me before, Um, why shouldn't we lay on our backs? So we shouldn't lay on our backs because if you think about it, we're like this right. So the baby is like playing a game. So if he's trying, the baby's trying to come out, So why

don't have supp keep doing it? Because it's easier for them to have access. So everything is to make it easier for them. They don't want to make it easier for the birthday house. How is it easier to them to have access because if they have you where your legs open, they can go and be like, you know what, the baby's not coming fast enough. Let me get that vacuum and it's like right there, or let me let me get you open, let me like slice you open. Whatever. Yeah, wait,

it's a vacuum. It's like literally a vacuum that they put on the baby's head and the out shut up. No, no, we're not going to watch that. That's what we're not going to watch. She turned it out. No oh, And that's the thing. It's just like a lot of women are trying to stay away from doing that because that's where the doctors come in. And it comes back to men, like men became O. B. G. Y n's and then they took over the field and how women give birth.

So if you think about it, back in the day, it was women helping women and women didn't have c sections because how the hell you're going to have a c section in the middle of your country or like whatever the crisis you figured it out by doing what switching positions. So, like I said, the same way you make a baby is the same way you get that baby out. So if you're standing up right, like hospitals

let you do that. Well, the thing is is that you're allowed to do whatever you want at the as crazy as the sound, because it's just like it's your birth, it's your body, and you have the consent to say no to anything that they say. But the thing is is like people are scared of the modern medicine and they're just like, oh, well, he went to school, so he knows how I should give birth to a baby? How believe in what may tell y'all right, see what

I'm talking about. It's all coming ya want to try me trying to share you and it's just like you, I love you because the baby blueprints. Because it's like it's like, how can a man tell a woman how to give birth? I know that's right? How say he can't feel he never felt to that you never felt it, and he probably won't even be able to survive it, honestly because of the pain. Tolerance is like breaking like fifty two bones at one time. So did you go natural?

Or yes, I've done all three naturals? Um no tears? Why do you think not on your back? Because I actually wasn't back from my both of them that's where I felt the most comfortable. So that's the thing, Like I tried different positions. I tried the standing and standing

I just couldn't tolerate it. And then from my daughter, I didn't know any better, Like I had a O. B. D Y n He was like chilling in the back of the room, like eating my food while I was there with my fucking legs open and some student nurses delivering me. So some student nurse was delivering me, and it just happened to work out that she came out with me on my back. Final nurse. What do they call it? Because I know it's a bride zilla, I'm gonna be the other what is it? What? A mom zilla?

So I didn't like I was kind of like I was kind of aware of like what you should do and what you shouldn't do. But I was nineteen, so that then that was I really don't have much to say. But I always recall like the nurses coming in like are you sure this is your first baby? Are you sure? And I'm just like, yo, what the funk is my friend baby? Like yeah, They're just like you're so calm, and I'm like because I'm calm, Like what do you want gonna do? Be screaming? My your mom not um.

My mom never had an epidooral. So she shot out and she had me when she was fifteen, so and no epidoral. It was kind of like a punishment for her. Like my grandma was like, nope, you wanted to have a baby at a young age, no epidooral. Push that baby out. Where are you boring? Where you born in Puerto Rico? No? I was born here. I was born in Elizabeth where I'm from. Bro dub shout out to the lady w She came on a show. She always says she didn't have epido. When I asked her, I

just remember her sponse. She was like, slaves did it? Like right? And that's the way. That's my mentality all the time with a lot of things. It's just like, okay, so my ancestors did it. How selfish of me is it to do that? When something so simple that our body, our body is made to do it. But when you think about it and you like educate yourself on having an epidooral, things could go worse for you than what it can go good for you. So like you outweigh

you're you're pros and your concerts. For some women, they need an epidural and that helps them because like they're so exhausted, their body is not opening up because they're so done, like they need a rest. And then for others, it's just like some women could just do it, and I feel like being to the point where you can't have it. There is a point where you can't write. I don't feel like there's a point that you can't doctors.

And that's that's where it comes again. It's just like, who are you to tell me that I can't deliver my baby with right And it's just like, no, it's the honest truth, because it's like our bodies are made to do this, are we don't When we were made to make babies, like to deliver babies, we weren't given the time frame. It was never like, oh, you have to have a baby within twenty four hours. If not,

cut that baby out. Who made that rule? But the problem is like it's so instilled in us that as soon as our water breaks, we have to go to the hospital. As soon as um you have a contraction, you have to go to the hospital. If you don't mean you're like you don't have to you have actually twenty four hours before there's like a serious risk of

you having like an infection or whatever. Actually water breaks there like honey, right, it's every that's the first fucking reaction that everybody's just like, oh ship, I have to go yeah, and she waddled to the cab. So that's the thing. But it's instilled in us. It's like what it's like what we're tall like from the moment where little because like you said, we see it in movies,

like our parents went through that. Because it's like everything is going backwards now and like the medical field, you're gonna notice like fifteen years from now, everything's going to be like more holistic and it's already getting there. Everything everyone wants to just like medicine and right. So like but when my mom when we were born, it wasn't like that. It was just like you have to go to the doctor, you have to do this, you have

to do that because the doctor said so. So now it's like now as women as dulas as midwives were fighting for the rights of women to be able to have liberty again and have to say because it's like, like I said, who are you to tell me when I could have my baby, you know, like it's like I made this baby one thing I was curious to know. So like a lot of men or women say, I don't want him to see it, and you know, because I don't want I want him be able to suck

me again like that. I'm not really worried about that. I'm more so worried about shitting. Can you talk about that tables? But like, you know, shipping is so normal actually, like actually they clean it so fast that you can't even tell. Like really, if you're like having a baby at a hospital, those nurses look you out so like so much. They're just like like taking out the like the bed pads and they're like wiping you real quick before anybody can tell. So if I've never shipped, I

have no idea. I don't know, you know, and it's like I don't know, like who knows. So it's just like I'm pretty once you because your body starts like yeah, like once you start like clean um, getting closer to your due day, your body automatically starts cleansing itself out, so you no longer have like hard ship, you have like soft poop. So yeah, pretty much. So when you give birth, if you are pushing, most most likely you're going to take a ship because you're pushing as if

you're taking the harder ship your right. So they tell you like push as if you have to, and so of course you have to push, like you gotta poop. To something you want to talk about before we close out placenta and you eat it? I hurt people in postpartum. I want to discuss people do eat their placenta. Um well, actually for what I was listening to Jesus and he's like, I want to see how white adjacent your family is. What did you guys do with a placenta and it pills?

They make it, They make it, people eat it people. I can't remember the hair product, but there was a hair product that got discontinued because people found out they were putting put sensios inside of it inside. Just think about it. It's like we're the only mammals that don't

eat are placensos. Like listen, I haven't with my last two because I wasn't as educated, but I'm definitely gonna do at this time the nutrients because I mean, it's kind of like for me it's like kind of hypocritic, hypocritical because I'm actually training to become a placenso and capsulator. So it's just like a placentis basically hold on, I haven't Yes, I got it. It's not like it. Um. I knew she would knew what it was, but I wanted to make sure we were just articulate. I feel like,

explain it the whole way, right. Yeah, So, basically, like your placentis like the organ that develops on the wall of your uterus during pregnancy and provides nutrients, blood and oxygen to the baby while also removing the waste from the mother. So it's kind of like the filter, so it like filters all the nasty ship from like getting to the baby. So it's like an intestine almost everything actually like an organ. Like when you deliver your you

deliver your baby. That like is the third step of labor. You have to deliver your placenza and it's literally like the size of like a paper plate and you just eat it that and that big. Please go back to this. I'm gonna tell you guys about when I saw a placenta. I went to see one of my friends. I'm let me tell you what you look at me. I know who I told you a story. She has a baby. I go see her. I'm wearing shorts, were in Florida. She keeps talking about this pain and stomach and I'm like,

are you okay? And I'm like touching her and I'm like, I take her my hand and I rub her stomach. I'm close to the edge of the bed. It sounds like a water bucket fell out the floor and it happen to you. Yeah, on my legs. Yeah. So wait, so it didn't come out in the hospital. No, no, no, it comes out in the hospital like if you're at the hospital, but if you're at home that delivers it. It slipped right out onto my god. I remember exactly the shoes off where they were converse little tops. But

they know when it happened. She but it was how high? How long after delivery did she have that? Man? Maybe this is maybe an hour? Oh wow. They were nice because a lot of a lot of like, um doctors, they like pushed down on your stomach until it comes out. Well, I fucking didn't realize that. It's no. The nurse comes in because I started screaming. You were like, right, so scream and the nurse comes in and remember her face

and she's like, oh, oh my god. And then she goes and tells me to put the gown on, and I'm like to get on my clothes and I'm like, what am I gonna drive in? That's the first thing I said. We're not gonna drive drive That's so it was so gross, but like it sounded like a splash, So okay, so you know you said that, it's like where we're dispensing all the bad stuff and it's basically like the reason why you eat it, all right, So

it contains a massive amount of crucial hormones. So think about it, so right, exactly, So when you when you're pregnant, your hormones are everywhere. You cry over anything, you excited over anything, you're you're super like your body supersensitive to anything. So when you give birth, all of that is gone, right, So you still have like your emotions of course, because you're still like emotional and your hormones are out of whack, but you have all those good nutrients that were throughout

your pregnancy was the lifeline to your baby. So when you deliver that that's gone. Now you can't just take more pat you can, but it's just like you said, it's the size of the plate. Can I just swallow a hole or you gotta cut them half? Choate you have to. It's just kind of like it's like as if you're cutting like beef, I don't tastes like and it says it's sort of tastes like blood or pennies, really ironish, but you get used to write it tastes

like and multiple smoothies. So the way the way it is, a lot of people do it just so we can cover it. So the way it's basically done. A lot of people do it for religious beliefs, like it's like their tradition, it's like part of their religion. They do it for religious reasons. Some women health. Some women do it for health. And it's just like a lot of women say that it helped them, like they had postpartum depression and previous pregnancies and this time around they didn't

have postpartum depression. They would they put it in a

freezer bag for you if you want it. If you want to leave with the hospital, you sign a consent form like saying like hey, I'm taking my organ consent form for your own organ that's and then you just have to be prepared, like you have to come in with like um, they ask you to come in with a cooler so you can put ice and then put it in a zip block bag and then you leave the hospital and you do whatever you want with put sentence smoothies with a lot of frozen strawberries, organic o J.

You don't even notice it. Yeah, it's just like so basically what you do is you have to cook it, so you boil it and you like steam it to like as much like get rid of all that blood, and then you can dehydrate it and that's how they turn into the capsules carnivores. Now if you don't do the capsules, all you have to do is just dehydrated, chop it up, put it in a freezer, and then every day you just throw it in your smoothie. So most women are what's what's um the guy who was

eating people? Oh, hannibal elector don't know, wait, where's the word it is? Hannibal, right, candible candle, Yeah, yeah, yeah, handible cannible his name. But before we end, I want to talk about postpartum depression because it's very important. That ship is fucking rough mine. Yes, it really is. You had it, yes, I definitely yes. Did you ever have it? I never had it because our periods is lit. Can

you come in the first second? Sorry? Yeah, I was really great because and Alex just have a seat where I'm sitting, because she's kind of like, tell them, tell us about your postpartum. She was never diagnosed though, y'all welcome to Alexa onto the horrible, So explain to us your postpartum. I guess depression of what it felt like, what you went through and kind of you know, I felt like really like dark and like alone. Everything was like an attitude angry. I was always like I wanted

to be by myself. I want I actually lived with her. I hated her. Yeah, like I locked myself and the baby in the room, like I didn't want anyone to knock on the door. Like it was just like I say this all the time, like she in there when my niece and my niece came out like three months old. Because and I knew it, and I knew that she had the signs and I knew it was going to happen because I know her as a person you know, if you take time and it's just like a the time.

I mean, you can go to the doctor and they'll prescribe you like you know, medication and like right right, I mean what helped you, um me getting a job, like getting out there working and and her No, definitely not someone know for some women, Like I've had clients that are just like get that baby away for me, you know, and it's and it's sad because it's like I know they don't mean it intentionally, you know, it's just like it's just your mind. Your mind plays tricks

on you. And like when you go into a pregnancy, like I tell everyone, it's always mind over matter, Like you have to make sure that you're in control of

your mind because your mind will play tricks on you. Now, when you're pregnant, do you not see a psychol It just is that not a part of going to Yeah, you can't know, it's not it's not something that No, it's definitely not a require even because to me, a pregnancy is a surgery in the sense, and so before I had my surgery, I did have to do a psyche vow to make sure that it was something that I wanted to say it's a surgery, I would say

it's like a life changing moment. So because if you say surgery, all automatically, people are going to be like, all a C section, But no, that's not the case. It's something that's going to change your life drastically, because okay, fine, I've had two babies, but there's no way that I can tell if this baby's going to change my life in a whole different, drastic way, you know. So it's like each time a woman goes to have a baby,

it's a sacred moment. So back to what she was saying about men, how men should be there and why they should be there, it's definitely because okay, oh well she's been pregnant before. She's my baby mama, you know, like where we have kids together. But it's a mental thing and it's just like our bodies go through so many changes. Is that It's like even I have a great marriage, but sometimes I'm just like who are you texting? Huh? Why are you texting her? And he's just like, yo,

calm down, what's wrong with you? Who? Who am I texting? Like? Who are you talking about? And it's just because your mind placed tricks on you, and it's like, if you don't have full control of that mind, it can end bad. And that is that she's bring you guys back, that it's hard and for her, she wanted to fight you. Girl,

I did No, it's not a joke. So for the men, baby, I guess for the men listening, for the sisters of pregnant women, for the friends of pregnant women, or women who just gave birth, to know that after giving birth, there is a high chance and even when so much help out there, so much for three days, she thought she was gonna kill me. For my son, I didn't

have postpartum depression, but I did have baby blues. Like it was just like out like I wasn't enough for him, like everything, Like it was just like you know, like my breastfeeding. I'm just like I'm not feeding him enough. If he wasn't like pooping enough, I'm like funk man, I stuck as a mother, right. It's hot. It's like a lot of pressure, and that's why you have That's why it comes back to even if you feel like

you can't afford a doula, there's free dulas. There's so many different programs in our area that even if there's like there's if you like qualify for like um wik medicaid government, but it's but it's free for you. So it's just like, don't feel as if you can't afford it, because I'm broke just as much as everybody else is broken. Maybe it's just like and I received wick and if I can afford, if I can go and like get a free dula, I would, you know, because it's just

so important. And it's just like not only white people deserve a dula, and that's where a lot of people America. She's like, no, it's truth because it's like it makes me sad because mostly all my clients are white. And it's because you don't know, for us, is a luxury. You know, it's just like pop that baby out, you'll

be fine. But then you have postpartum depression and we scoop it under the rug, like oh, no, get over, you gotta figure it out, you gotta go to work, you gotta find the babysitter and then what so then we're fun because it's just like, oh, you're just another crazy bitch like you guys. But like I feel like this was such a be very honest with you, um like chalk to you on the phone. You were so quiet.

I thought this is gonna be trashed. No, not for me, because I'd be like, do we we don't don't bring out. I'm like, you know, I called her and she she had energy on the phone. You know. When you called me, I was like, I was in my mom's house and we have this fucking game like we have to take one car out put another car in the driveway, and like when you're calling me, I was just like, fuck, okay, hello, hold on, hold on, And I'm like, well, I wanted

to make day talk someone. This is gonna sound really fucked up. After Sugar Daddy and after that's the last um HIV, the first HIV episode, we had just kind of getting him to open up, and I don't think he was willing to happen. I don't know how to be like just be like no, I know he wrote us and so he said he was willing to open up. Yeah. Yeah, right.

So like whenever I can't find videos, I can't click on someone and hear their voice, which, by the way, with Sugar Daddy, that was a trap because I was he I saw his energy and Okay, so if I can't see that, I'm like, let me just call in here. And then once you said you had two kids and you're pregnant, I was like, well if she sucks, we'll at least ask her about that. Shoot, I was like, oh my god, what am I going to say? And I was working on it, sat down, nervous, and it's

just what I'll I very nicely. But if we if we have a minute, I actually want to talk about something, because, UM, we don't know, like I we what I want, what I want every woman to know. Basically, every woman like myself, African American, Hispanic, we got options. We're not alone. UM, don't feel like just because you can't afford something that you don't deserve it you know, resources or anything that

maybe I do. Um, there's so many resources. Like I'm from New Jersey, so in New Jersey we have UM it's a program called am I allowed to like absolutely should? I mean, honestly, you know you being here is gonna I'm sure we're gonna have all the girls. Right. It's like I wish I heard this before. I wish. And that's the thing that it's just why you're looking for that tell them where Oh yes, you guys can find

me on Instagram. I am Michelle Underscore the Lovely Doulah or that's my personal or you can go to my business page. It's uh the Lovely Doulah. Hold on, let me double check. Sorry about that. D o U l A. Okay, We're gonna put her information in the description. So it's Lovely Lives Doula on my I G and it's just how it's pronounced. Yes, I do. It's Lovely Lives d s dog Sam at gmail dot com. UM. And if you have any questions, feel free. No, honestly that's fine.

That's fine because honestly I'd rather just help as many women as I can. Love you are come over to well. UM. So basically the resources, so basically the resources that I would say for New Jersey is just UM. It's called I can't find it right now. We can include it too, yeah, definitely the description it see will definitely post any of the others. So it's UM. It's called n n J DULA net. So basically what they offer is like you know a program that UM offer services to women that

are low income. So with that program UM, they just reach out to different dulas like, hey, um, are you willing to help? You know, different women that cannot really afford to pay for a dula and you just decide it's usually mostly like women that are just starting up. Um, so if you it's like different payments, like if you receive like Medicaid, you might only have to pay a hundred dollars, let's right, and then um, if you receive Medicaid, Wick and whatever other program that you can think of,

it might be free. So like it's kind of up to the dulah if you want to, you know, do it or not. I don't charge no more than three seventy five. But that's my personal preference only because it's just like my mom's been there and imagine if my mom would have known about Oh of course I think that's awesome. So I'm really glad that you were able to come on and feel like I said, like, don't feel like you don't have options, because there's options for everything,

especially especially with today's technology. You can find even if it's like there's some duels that offer pro bono and even if you're just that one lucky person that they hear your story and you're just like, you know what I'm not charging you because that's some deep ship and you deserve to have somebody there for you. You know, you don't know other people horror decisions and we don't support you an end right, And it's just like another thing,

another thing. Support your fellow business owners, like especially us women, you know, like we have to stick together if we want to build higher, and you know, businesses anything, the simplest thing. If your friend is just selling a bracelet, support her because it's like she worked hard on that bracelet. And if you don't support her, who will. So it's just like the whole point of it all and the way it's going to go in this life is like

we have to stick together. And even if it's just like five of you that sticks together, but at least you know that those five people have your back and you're gonna make it up somewhere with the Business Owners show before we close. I go to a very elaborate gym in New York and a lot of you probably know the name. Recently found out the person who wanted was black, and I said, Yo, why are they not

like out there? And blah blah blah blah blah. And one of the trainers told me because he feels like if people find out his black owned, they think it's the gym is like up there popular French, trust me. And when I heard that, I was like, yo, I get it. And that's sad because because then it's just like, oh, all are up and coming. No, that's that's sad. It's like you and fellas support those women and you're like our coworkers open the door, don't be afraid to have

sex with them. Don't be afraid because there's some men that are scared to touch that women. But my philosophy is one orgasm a day keeps that put Tolson away and it's just like a crazy medication that causes you to have crazy contractions and that it hurts. So okay, right, thank you. You definitely want to have We're gonna guys your baby gross questions. I'm gonna look up baby coming out of a toilet. Um. Please enjoy the step from our patreon. By the way, do you want to say

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coming to our live shows. This has been yet another episode of horrible decisions by I said, so let me tell you, bitch, So I land from Chicago. Next thing, you know, I'm not even gonna say the team because I need y'all limiting ship. Next thing, you know, I see all these niggas in like basketball gear, I'll say basketball gear and mad tall niggas. So I'm like, oh, okay, so I'm waiting on my lugging tall man tall niggas. So bitch, I'm looking. So I see all these niggas

or whatever, and I'm like, oh, finally I see this one. Bitch, fine about six. I ain't gonna say the number because you're gonna limit it. But he taught as fun and bitch, his ass was sitting over six seven, over six seven. His ass was sitting up in his great sweatpants like something serious. Bitch, it ain't made no goddamn sense. I was like, goddamn, And here I go, just sucking my teeth thinking about bend in that booty over. But I'm looking at team final tell I realized the team it is.

I'm like, oh, shoot, I one of these niggas in Vegas so I hit the niggat that I fucking Vegas like you at LaGuardia. He's like, yeah, terminal, see I said me too. So he's like where So I call him we hug and I'm like, mind you followed this nigg because nigga don the nigga, no bitch. I ended up his teammate that I saw it with the Great with the Great Sweatpants because I was like, oh, he's fine,

So here I go. I'm like, all right, I ain't gonnau the nigga that I sucked in Vegas because but he doesn't came to New York about two three times this season, and they hit me that nigga I don't followed him and everything. So the nigga I wanted in the Great Sweatpants, I don't know his name, ain't no ship. Here. I go Google Google the roster, and of course, because it's G League deal lea bitch, none of their pictures are there. So I had to click every name, but

I started with the height. Didn't click on the white boy names because I was like, I know he's not a white boy, so his name isn't gonna be European. So I go to all the nigger names over six six. I go to all the nigga names, b making no, because you know my phone charging over there. I want to name this episode. I went to all the nigger names. I'm just saying no, the ones like you know. So I was like, okay, over six six, he gotta be

a forward. So I'm I started to click on the name Forward because he's not a guard and he's over six six, so I'm clicking on all the names. Finally, I put the name back in the Google search because they didn't have no pictures because I did girl and his booty was big. So anyway, I find him right, find him on Instagram. I like three pictures. I was, but I left that ship at three likes. Bitch that nigga sent me to I emojis like ten minutes later. Why the fuck did I scroll up in our damns?

Which Why were we talking in two thousand fifteen when he was in college? Of course, because I'm a home bitch, I said, Oh, we were talking four years ago. So he spent both days that he was here with me like already, onesome, you gotta cut your holes off. We was in the middle of us, he said, he's gonna take care of me now. He can't take care of me with you, Lee Bunny. But I wasn't gonna let him know that you're not even rich. I'll make more than you, I'm sure. Um, and then tell me why

I did the math. So while we were talking when he was in college, I asked him his age, No, asked him his age now. I said, oh, so you lied about your age four years ago. He lied to me about his age seventeen. He wasn't seventeen but close, and he was legal. But when he told me his age now, I said, sir, that's not adding up to what you told me you were four years ago. He's like, I said, you can yeah this morning, girl what he did?

And I, I mean, I chuckled because I knew maybe if we go overseas maybe not now hold on, but he's kill he talked, let me get off the horny mate. Um, I think now they pay seventy K like that's like the start. And then if you get a two way contract, which means you're signed to the NBA team and the G League team, it's like mathematics shut the funk up. Plus the whole