Ep10: Bi Love Featuring a Bi Couple

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Welcome to yet another episode of Horrible Decisions. The girl Mandy be and I'm sitting here with Wheezy Deputy and we are so glad to be here yet again. We are rolling this motherfucking ship out. I'm really excited because I have so many things to tell you and I need so much advice on it from like everybody. Um, is that something like on the podcast, like I just like just talking about my week, Like I just I want people's feedback. It's so crazy, Like since we've started it,

I've been getting hit up by tons of people. Actually, before we start, would you want do you want to read a fan mail or you have because I kind of want um our guests to join it on that one. Okay, Okay, yeah, we actually and I do want to let you guys know if you guys need advice, if you guys want to share your horrible decisions, any of that, you guys are more than welcome to hit us up on our Instagram. We do have an Instagram page for the podcast now,

but you can also send us an email. You can be anonymous UM and send us an email at Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com UM and hit us up. So today, did you how do you want to roll with this one? Now? You're taking the fucking whale take the wheel, baby, Oh my god. Okay, so I just

have to think us happen. So you know, lover Boy's gone. Yes, I just thought it was gonna be totally dead it and then it was like the second he fucking left, We've been texting like crazy pictures, crazy going on until right, you are just like I don't even want to talk. So next thing, you know, in four weeks, I'm going to Venice to see him. Oh that is nice. And I am losing it because I'm excited and I'm nervous

because I just don't understand what is going on. And so we've kind of talked about this, who are we going to funk while each other's away? Thing? Right? Months and months he's gone, He's not coming back for a little other season. The weather is going to be cold again when he's back, So how is this gonna work? Right? So well, good bitch, he's coming back right in time for cuffing season. Because then, motherfucking how thank you? I thought?

So he was saying to me like, okay, so I'm saying him in a month, right, And it's like, you know me, I'm the type of person I don't believe that if you stick to dick in a bit, you're in love with her. So we've been talking about sucking other people. And yesterday he went on a date and so did I. Now the girl that he went on a date with, he sent me and she was hot, guys, she was I'm not gonna lie. I sat there, I was like, she was like those those are the fucking

Russian eyebrows. She was, but bro, she was hot and I was like, bitch, I don't know what a Russian eyebrows is. But she was cute and I was like, it's so um. But that's the thing, right, What do I want him to do this girl and pretend that yeah, like he's going to bed so no. So he we've been talking about it and he was like telling me these girls and I said, let me approve. And I don't want to ugly bitches around because I just feel like that's corny. Like I know, bitches want their man

to somebody that's not as cute as them. But I don't really think it matters. I think that U I don't know. I want him to be around some bad bitches. I don't want to ugly. I was talking to say so anyway, he sends me a picture and I'm like, okay, she's pretty. Do you like her? And he's like no, Like I like, you know, I like her enough to funk her. I'm like okay, then fine, go out with the bitch. So they're out and he sends me a text, and this made me feel good because I thought I

wasn't gonna hear from him all night. And it's like, I'm talking about you to her, and she told her I like you, and she's telling me that she likes girls too, and blah blah blah. I'm like, okay, we'll tell her, I said hi. And then he sends me this a picture of them together. Yeah. Look, and she's cute, but I'm not even look. I know she's trying to cover his face. I was trying to zoom in on this fucking cunt. The point is, I don't really know what to when she when they sent the picture, right,

I'm just like, oh my god, there's money. Of course, the whole time he's like, wheezy, I've been talking to her about you though this whole time. I believe that part. But he made you sing that that was very that was nice of it. I don't gonna tell you what. When the picture came through, right immediately, I'm laughing at my mom. I'm like, ma, it's not like to send me picture him and his gud damn vision of bar.

So she's laughing, just like send it to me. She's like, fucking Russian horror, so they do apparently have the best prostitutes. Though the girl is beautiful and I'm not gonna say right, but this is the thing. My mom was like, how are you feeling? I'm like, honestly, like a part of me is really jealous, but then this other part of me is like, what could be better? Like, you're out

with another girl. You just took a picture with her, she knows you're sending it to me, You're talking about me, Like, I feel good, you know, unless the whole time he was saying you're his cousin, so I doubt that they're kind of but no, and it's and I like the openness and like the involvedment, Like I almost felt like I was like it felt good, Like yeah, I know you're gonna go, but that you're super into open relationships

in general. I think this helps to this is how you're building This is this is this has never happened. I've always been more like I want to have threesomes together and relationships together. This like you're going out with another girl, I get to see her. I'm not gonna lie though, like am I not going to expect him to get fucked while he's going. However, let me ask you this, because I think we've talked about it and you're into this relationship thing. However, you didn't caught feelings

for this nigga so much. You don't really want to bring a bit in bed with y'all. Okay, wait, are you lying? Hold on? Yes, I do, but I'm dying to see him somebody and me being there. But is it but I want to bring your girlfriend though? Right? Yeah, she doesn't want to bring her girlfriend to this guy. She wants a random stranger and a girlfriend who because I don't like there's predominant feelings in here with the

two of them. And I felt like before her I was a level playing field with her, and then with her and the other guys, all these fucking names. She just loves for you guys to hear the boo. I'm sorry, it's just easier. Don't have to we are not okay, And so like with them, I felt the same way. Now. I don't know, I don't know, and like I just don't know, but I get it. Well, I don't know. But when I was on my day and I was

kind of like, did he want me to go? And somebody post so that he could get the leverage to be like, Okay, well, he definitely told you he doesn't want you fucking any other dick. So and there's that double standard. There is a double standard. You're supposed to be okay with him going on a date and potentially possibly sucking this girl, and you can't be cool. And I'm sure he did. He's I'm already know, Mitch, he

ain't got a damny. So we talked this morning and but yeah, at the same time, he's telling you, I like you and I don't want you to know other dick. So if you do, I don't like, you know, but don't want the other day, I don't like, I know he's joking with me or it's gonna be a conversation or what. But so this morning I wake up, right it's like four am. I'm like, I feel like you're cuddling and I'm jealous, and I'm gonna go to bed,

That's all I said. So in the morning he calls me and he's laughed, thinking I'm like, it's it funny that, like your dick is deep down in some pussy, And I'm like, don't cuddle that bitch. I don't give a fun what you do. Don't cuddle that home. And I say that all the time. I would be super into this type of relationship. And I literally tell my guys when we have this conversation, I'm like, listen, if you want to go another bitch, fucker, but I don't need

you taking her on dates. I don't want you to be a nice to her. Don't show her any type of love to wear. She might potentially start liking you. But I didn't think, no, bitch, it's not niggas don't take bitches on dates anymore. Maybe white guys do, but it's niggas don't. There's Netflix and Chill all motherfucking day long. So if they're taking you out of public and spend the time with you and spending some money on you,

bitch is gonna fall in love with that. Because bitches all in love for face times and she eats funny to where you cried, the bitch is in love already. Um yeah. So well, I'm interested to see how this plays out. And I'm glad that it was weird because we were on the phone, like, and he was talking about it. He was trying to downplay it so much because I could tell he was scared I was gonna be uncomfortable, but I wasn't because I know that you know,

I'm waking up for work at this time. You're calling me. You're telling me about this bit. You ain't there now, Like I was really cool about it. And not only that, he's fucking let me tell you how his mom line though. Talking about I'm like, oh was it good? Like did she do this? Did she do that? Like? So when you came, where'd you come? He's like, oh I didn't come. Well, that so nice for you. That was really just gave the most safe we all just like, so you ain't

come over real? So you just sucked this hot at here on your income. He's like it was did she suck your dick? Yeah, babe, but it didn't feel like your mouth that's lying off. So then I'm like, no, we goddamn well got Like so did you make her come? He's like yeah, of course, I'm like I know you did. I'm like, because you really good pussy. He's like, oh no, I didn't need your pussy. I still hold on broch y'all.

That's all. He is the man that I literally really in my heart believe the host Town Halls on How to Eat Pussy because it's that good. Okay, So I just want to know why you lying anyways, you want to go ahead. I super excited for this show again because normally, I know you guys are sick of hearing our whole stories, and we decided, bitch, we're going to run out of story soon, we should probably get sm

other people out. I will suck for this is my job, she literally says every week when I'm on Tinder and I'm like broad on, bro, research it's for research. Think of the podcast, and I'll never forget it. That was my favorite show growing up, with sex and you know, I never day she would it's research, it's research, bro. We would literally sit in her house eating fucking raised nets. That is our ship, raised nets and popcorn. If you sauce I a g live, you know that's what we do.

And she was like fucking rich. So she had a whole movie theater growing up, and we would literally watch fucking we would watch Sex in the City and then be like, hey, let's run the movie. We'd runt a movie and she literally we first seen her future. This is crazy, but she's literally is that how weird? York.

We would literally watch Sex in the City and we were like fifteen sixteen, um, and then yeah, after watching Sex in the City, we would run movies and she'd be like, it's okay, bro, I'm gonna call the the cable company right after and say didn't show or something. We're get our money right back. My mom's not gonna be mad about the ten dollars. Damn. I was dude, you see hustling. If you want to go ahead and introduce, I'm trying to get my mind together. I was like this,

um yeah, I uh yeah. So we have a guest that um contacted us about being or not really contacted us, but like listen to our show. So this is kind of the first guest we've had listened to everything. So I'm really excited because I need some feedback about this leveraboy. Shit. Am I stupid for letting him fun? This model girl? Help me? God? Yeah, We're totally gonna keep giving her advice to two main points. First of all, he definitely came.

That's like like everybody was just like please, it was cute. It was cute. I love the idea of his whole family listened to the podcast because then it's like his mom sitting somewhere in other country, like that's my baby. I don't know it's the mom yet, but oh god, so I guess go ahead, and if you want to introduce kind of maybe what you do um and why you're not even maybe not even that, I don't know what you could be very vague with. My name today

is David, and I own a small business. I have masters in business and and I'm must relatively successful guy. I think I do all right to have a cool life that Insteah, it's a lot of planes, like I don't know where you live, just because they're always on vacation. Where was the last place you? I just got back from Hong Kong and Sydney. I did like five days in Hong Kong five days in Sydney, which was not planning.

It was all planning, like like a couple of days before and while we were in Hong Kong we decided to go to Sydney. And then she was working in d C. Who's next to me, the next to me, and the young lady next to you is my girlfriend. Yeah, so we had here. She's super cute. It's like me right over you get a mask. He looks safe to You're like, you look just saying though, I'm so excited to have this conversation because if I ran into in the supermarket, you would look like a virgin to me,

like resting, nice face, yeahs face. Like people think that they can walk up to me, especially white people, like they just walk up to me and start saying things they probably shouldn't say because they don't know that I'm militant, and then it's not gonna go well, it's gonna go south really quickly. What what about this face made you think you could just start speaking right? You just look very friendly. It's your team. I'm a happy person. I'm happy and I'm not gonna lie the energy because then

I'm not gonna lie. You was walking next to your girlfriends, I know they would be like, we're not gonna walk up to this couple right now because she looks like she just looks down, which actually is really sweet. But before we got you know, started recording, my hair was sucked up. It's been raining all day New York, and she was just like, I'm I'm gonna help you with your hair. See what a nice fucking way to say

your hair look like shit. I just like to play with hair, like, Okay, well I can see yours is beautifully flowing like you just wanted it and you really like to believe it looks beautiful. I don't know why you would do that with New York rain, but you know me, I was like, but why it's raining? I know that's so you get dressed up in nice and to be his arm candy. I know that's right. I feel like I've just seen the same hairstyle for a while now. For a while. For a while, I was

just like, wow. I was like, can we just maybe like you know, we're here, it's a special occasion like it. Now? Do you two live in the same city? We do together immensely. Okay, No, we don't live together. You guys don't live to together. How long have you guys been together? Um? This madness started about a year ago? Ok yeah, yeah, things and there was definitely a smooth couple of months where we didn't speak at all and then but it's been do you can't like hear to me? Oh my god, listen, listen,

no heard sense of time. Wheezy and lover boy, we're talking for all of two weeks and out of nowhere, She's like, bitchy, All I've been working for the last two months. Girl, you just met him ten days ago. We felt connected, hard connection with time and so off. I don't even remember any other you. You would swear you had a wipe in New York. We got three kids, So if you want to bring up kind of UM, so I want to go ahead and share with the listeners before we get into this what we kind of

would love to start doing. And um, because weezy and I figured we would probably run out of our fucking horror stories soon. Um. We've been getting so many emails and so many um even just advice and topics and combo starters from our listeners, UM, wanting to bring up these taboo situations or or things that they're not comfortable with sharing with their friends. And of course they can clearly tell that we don't give a funk about life,

so they openly share with us. And so what we wanted to start doing was bringing on more people to share their stories, because at the end of the day, I can put a strap on all I want. I don't have a dick. I don't know how men feel. I don't know about relationships because I'm single as funk

out here. So we wanted to start kind of bringing in more more people who are in tune with their sexuality and kind of just enjoy talking about it because this is definitely something that not a lot of people do, not a lot of people are comfortable with, And we want you guys to listen in and know that this ship is okay and and normal. Well is it normal?

I don't know for normal yet, And we ask that normal, like normal relative girl we had, you know, it was to her, I don't know, and she seemed very normal. She definitely had a job, So the definition of normal is having a job. Do you do you get off the club? Oh yeah, okay, um yeah. So we asked him to be on because he is bisexual and his girlfriend is here and the hot gorgeous not weird hot.

I'm not gonna lie. She was over in the corner, wasn't paying no titch and now that the light is shine and I'm like, and she like, yeah, this is not a thing for weirdos. Like she seem pretty normal too, And so I definitely wanted to bring this topic up because we have had a conversation I don't know if you guys listened. I believe this was maybe episode one or two UM where I brought up Moonlight and we

had the conversation of bisexual men. So I do want to ask this on air, what is your ethnicity, because I think that that kind of plays into this just a bit. I'm biracial, father's Caribbean um of Curban immigrant. My mother there's like regular white and so he bled okay. So it's an interesting dynamic because I was I was raised by both my parents until eighteen or so when my parents went up. But my father is an immigrant from Jamaica and my mother Jamaica, and I'm Jamaican and white,

so we're actually the same. But my grandfather, my mother's father, was in the KKK. So the first time I heard the N word, I was three years old and it was directed from my grandfather to my father, and so I my original memories of like race, It's like, oh, the skin color is going to be a thing that

I'm gonna have to deal with my entire life. Right of people who are supposed to be in a position to love me because you're my grandfather, but you don't because of the color of myself, which is so funny. My entire my mom's side of my family. I know my grandmother made my great grandparents passed, but her whole side of the family did not talk to us because

we're black. Um. So yeah, which is why all of my family in California, San Diego all of that, I'm not familiar with much of my mom's side of the family because we're black. Listen, me and my sisters, Me and my the middle sister where I'm Jamaican and white, and then my youngest sister is Haitian and why she loved the island men on top of that. So I definitely I know where you're coming from. The reason I think it plays into this is because either you internalize

that or you externalize it. Either there's something wrong with me why my grandfather and members of my family don't love me, or there's something wrong with them. And my mom did a really good job of navigating that with me emotionally, and so at that point you started to realize that one blood doesn't mean anything like this supposed genetic DNA connection that we have. It doesn't mean you

love me, It doesn't mean you have my back. You know, in any way, shape or form, and your family are the people that choose you and you choose them back, and so how someone feels about you doesn't have to

affect your self esteem. And so when I was dealing with my sexuality much later in life, because I never even I'm thirty five now, I never kissed the guys I was twenty eight, um, right, It wasn't something that I was dealing with as a young child, as a teenager and whatnot you as as a young child because the first time you dealt with a man was twenty which ironically I've been meeting much older adults who are

now getting curious, was this never in your mind? So I definitely remember, like I had the biggest crash on Winnie Cooper um on the Wonder Years, Like I always remember my first she was bad. It's a little older

than your reference, right, so the ten years, um. But but my first love was my high school street Sear, you know, like she's a doctor now and it's been like so I've known that, but there was always you know, those moments where you might think something's a little different about you, you have an interest in in something that maybe you shouldn't. But I grew up in a very conservative religion, going to Christian schools, and so that was

bad and I was good. So therefore I am not that, and so I kind of just closed myself off From a very mentally strong person, I can control how I think about things, and so I thought of it as that that's not me, and so I ever explored it. And then you know, as you get into teenager years in your early twenties, stuff really and so the things

on the internet are disgusting, like horrible. Don't say horrible right here on this podcast, But I think I started watching like gay porn and it was something that I was right, it was something that I was into. But to me, I was just telling myself, Oh, that's just the freaky ship you're into. You like pissing on somebody, and that's that's crazy. Someone someone's getting Piste think you're nuts somebody show and that dude is nuts. But the girl that Piste on, oh yeah whatever. Okay, So here's

my question too with you. I have a few, and she has a few. I'm going to go ahead and throw this out and then you're more than welcome to ring them all in. So this is my question, especially with you you black, so um and I brought this up and we briefly talked about this before going on air. So in the black community, they don't see a man being sexual. If you deal with me, you're gay, you're gay. You're gay, you're gay. So how was it that you were able to I'm a bisexual man, I like men

and women. How are you able to you know, maybe deal with that and is it something that you are open with? So I think the need to categorize people is universal. That like, So that's that's that's something that's your scientifically proven. You need someone to be this or that for you to be able to understand it and and not be afraid of it. Right, But within the black community, if you touch one of those boxes, then there's a fear that comes into it. Then there's a taboonist, there's

a we run from it. And so that's more so in the black community than in the white community. But of course there's putting a homophobia in the white community. There's puty the white kids whose parents turned their back on them in the sent a third, you know, So it's not like it's not something that happens. But the point is, ultimately, I think that I'm in a special situation that I wouldn't say that. I see a lot in our community because I'm an active member of the

LGBT community. Um, I we have a letter in the in the LGBT thing, you know, like it's be It's like it's there be. Um. You know, I'm not ashamed of who I am, and that comes from who I was as a little kid. Right, So I from from twenty eight. It was late in the first time I did anything at all. Um, the first time I mess I mess with somebody that I met on the Internet, and I was freaked out and I was like, that

was horrible, that I will never do that now. Then back in the day, bro, it was like Craigslist right right right. It was just a super awkward experience. And I was like, well, I'm glad I'll never do that again. That was horrible. And but of course that's not how the mind works. I actually got promoted to a different city, so I was outside of my comfort zone. And um, so my social networks and the women that would normally

be around we're not there. And so you have all this downtime to just let your mind go where it goes. But somebody introduced me to Grinders, so that made it my easier. And I'm really funny and I have a good personality, so even though you know, however, someone just perceived how you look, how level of attractiveness you are, Like if you got games, you've got mouth, games, you can talk and up right now and well, for you guys listening, I want to go ahead because we talked

about all of these apps. All they're not ads, they're not sponsors. So you met loverboy on bumble. I am often on Tinder for guys. For the listeners who don't know, Grinder is actually the I guess gay version of Tinder. It's literally all men, and it actually shows men much closer in your proximity, so if you're in the same building as someone, it can literally go to the amount of feet away. That yeah, but it's literally like a

tender app but for men. By the way, can I just say in Cuba, one of my friends was so curious as to who was gays, Like, I need Grinder right now because I need to know what the fun is going on because you're not. So that's a joke. I'm just joking, but I did. I did have one of my first gay friends. Um, he said, I've never met a Latin guy. Couldn't get there all bisexual and that was that was his mythic. It's so crazy because I say that all the time, like his, like, Latin

men fucking have better eyebrows than me. They shave their legs, they shave everything. And I used to be so away from the I don't think all of them do that. I don't think that's a universal Harry Latin men. Well, yeah, I think the words the eyebrows is definitely sometimes like you see the guy and you see the girl like his eyebrows better than she's cool with brows Again, she's in her feelings. Guys, Um, how did you meet your girlfriend first? All about a college almost eleven years ago?

Okay wait wait wait wait eleven years ago and you guys he was dating for a year, so wait did she leave the friend zone? Is this? Was it a friend zone thing? And oh you friend So maybe that's where I'm backing. I'm still so what had happened was I was coming out of college, I was in a good space, I had options, right, Um, I was, I was still um and it was my first job out

of college. I take my job and career seriously. Um. And so the beautiful Latin woman a couple of cubicles away that once took up although I'm super attracted her, like and the first time I saw her, I remember the day I walked in the office. I was like, well, there's one stupid hot girl in this office, you know,

and somewhere. So we're hanging out at her apartment one time, and it's late at night and she puts the moves on and I'm just you know what it happened, right, she I'm not gonna put her her busines other she said something in that day that was crazy to me. I perceived it this crazy. What was it? Wait? Are you not going to share? Wait? Look, permisted, I'm not gonna says it really wasn't that crazy? I was, okay,

So that's that's yes, all right. So I asked you just a date question, right, So, what's your greatest fear? And I'm I was a psychology major originally, so I know that your answer is most likely going to be to lose the thing you value most, right, Um? So I asked, what is your greatest fear? She's like to be ugly and I was. I just laughed. I just like that's not right, Like that's not a serious answer to me. I'm not. She's like, no, seriously to be ugly on this. So I'm looking at her like, wait,

are you serious? Like that's what you think? Like if you weren't pretty, like that would be the worst thing ever. She's like, well you do you just think ugly people are just walking around unhappy? She's like do you think they're And I was like, no, no, there's issues here. That's a red flag to me, and your two cubicles away and I don't need the latina cutting up my car tires, right, And so I'm like this what kept

you way? It is? She's crazy. It couldn't be that I was actually very successful, educated, had almost been shot, like I've already dealt with all the stuff that other people are afraid of and gotten past it and like and she like she like, so I got it just a very quick, great way of thinking of it, like I have lived my life like bro, I almost died. I just don't want to be ugly at this point,

Like I'm good. So that gave me enough pause to be like, you know what, I'm not gonna I'm not into this right and then but then then and the other part was I didn't think it. I didn't think it would be private, right. I thought it would get out in the workplace, it would be drawing, right, that she was just gonna talk about that dick in off, you ain't want them know? And you got that things

are you happy? Okay? Come to find out I have a mortal enemy in this company, like a guy in management that me and him don't get along, Like I hate this dude, right, and and so at some point, months and months on the line, maybe a couple of years on why she's just like, I'm I'm engaged. I'm engaged. So she had been dating this dude for months and months, got engaged. No one even knew. If I knew she could keep a secret, would have been doing this ship.

I didn't know that. It was like locked damn. And so I had this giant regret. And she married this guy that I hated that I'm like the hottest girl that I ever had the chance to get with, I passed. And it's just I screwed up right right and divorced and um, and we've been friends, Yeah, we've been friends all along, It's totally awesome. Was a why are divorce

is so expensive? Because they're worth it. They're wonderful. Um. But we reconnected a year or so ago, just out at best Buy, you know, and we end up talking for like an hour or two standing there and best Buy, and I was like, she come to my birthday party and housewarming or whatever, and um, she getting on birthday dinner. We had a house swarming and then that night it

just kind of went down. It was just when you, like you guys reconnected and then okay, so now I'm like super interested in that, Like, okay, so they're in the conversation your sexuality and your sexuality like did you know already from rumors in the streets? Okay? And and why is it that you didn't give a ship? Why is it yeah for you to be I'm just super

cures in this. Yeah, we are the only people I think that we know right that we're the only people that out of all of my friends, they're all like, bitch, he'll let you do what, he may do what what? And so they're super against any guy even doing the strap on dealing with men. What made you okay with the fact that you knew he had dealt with men before. So if I'm being honest, I don't know that I

necessarily was. Okay, Okay, that is honest. Yeah. So the year prior to that, I got divorced, and it was because I found out that my husband was sleeping with a guy. Oh oh, I've ever said that actually publicly, so just in context. I think that over the course of a year and some serious therapy, Um, I figured out that it was not an issue of I was worried about secret. Yeah, it was the secret. It was the secret. Absolutely. I'm openly bisexual. I had girlfriends when

I was in the military. Like, that's not a big issue for me. So I understood the fluidity of it. It was the fact that it was a secret. Be it be when I asked you about it, Like what you need to answer is I like dudes, And if you can't say that, like if you say it was a mistake, it wasn't. When I feel and then I find out that there's actually more to That's the issue

is are you comfortable with who you are? And if you're that sex confidence is sexy is let me just say, women say to me all the time that they don't want to see their man is weak and you're sitting here with this huge guy like like got the masculine, he's super masculine. That confidence has so much more weight

than anything. So just to say, like just knowing a man was hiding himself, that's what makes it so sexy, Like I'm I'm super against And I say this often because anytime I'm on the phone with anyone or work, I'm trying to get to know someone and the first time they sit here and we had this conversation before. There's times that I'll talk to guys and they'll admit

to me the things they've done with men. And my very first question is do the women you do, the other women you talk to know know this about you? And they're like, nah, man, I ain't telling nobody this. I'm not comfortable. And it's just like that to me, that download lifestyle and not being comfortable with your sexuality, not only that enough to respect who you're having sex with. Let them make the decision if they want to sleep

with someone who's dealing with men and women. But if someone is not secure in themselves, are not relationship material period. That's heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, if you're not secure in who you are as a man or as a woman, the relationship is going to be thing. But probably this wasn't

something where he had to come out to you. You knew before you got into a relationship with him that heaps possibly you know woth I'm I don't live a secret life, you know, Like like I said, I don't, I don't My mom My mom was the first person I told you know, Like so when you when your mom knows and your friends know, I made a spreadsheet. I made a spreadsheet probamary secondary people just have the conversation with because I only and it was I kissed

somebody at thirty. I came out because I'd rather deal with being really because I know people there's so I would rather deal with being perceived as gay, right, then deal with lying to the people that I care about and sing to love and so what's important and my only real advice to women, um is don't connect someone's sexuality to their character and integrity. Because Carmelo Anthony straight right, and that strip is pregnant, you know what I mean?

So like you can have you can have your super educated doctor who's banging his secretary so it's like, being heterosexual doesn't mean that you have a man who's honest, a man that'll be true to you. You know. That's but that's real. And so just because a guy has is bisexual and has an attraction to men doesn't mean that I'm a liar. Doesn't mean that I'm a cheater. I'm as honest a person as you will ever meet. And I would rather deal with any consequences of being

honest than to say I love you. But I'm lying to you, right, And this is my question. I actually have a question to you about this because you being so open with it, and I'm not sure what your dealings are now, but I've had friends asked me, do you ever so women get jealous of other women with him? Is it jealousy with men and women? Is it something to where you feel like, damn, not only might this nigga cheat on me with a girl but also a guy. Is Is it something that you that crosses your mind

that it could be anybody? Essentially? So, essentially, I'm in a very unique position because I'm dating him. Like I legitimately can tell you from the bottom my heart, I have no doubt at any point in time that he would ever do anything to her. I do not like do I get jealous sometimes, absolutely, but it's not from

place of fear, and it's because you trust him. You have that I don't have, like like I have told him on several occasions when I'm out of town and we can't see each other that it's okay for him to do things. It's fine. I'm cool with that, and he's just like, See, this is the thing that I totally feel you because I'm there right now, she's there right. I feel like I don't know where I stand with this guy, but I feel like he three months. You

don't have three months apart. I can fly for free, right. I don't think. I think when you are when you know someone is emotionally connected to you, like well, and this is the thing to the fact that both of you, even you seeming a lot less open than he is

as far as just your personality. I feel like the fact that your communication seems completely open and you know that at the end of the day, what you didn't have with your last husband was when you asked him a question, you didn't know if he was telling you the truth is, and it's with him, you know that Listen, if I ask you, I'm going to know the truth.

And I feel like that's the biggest issue with having relationships is that you always want to feel like you're finding dirt because you feel like who you're with you can't trust. And when that trust is there, regardless of their sexuality, what it is, it's literally just focused on that, Yeah, she's over here trying to get sound bites and if you're it's yeah, I know, and I know you guys hear us talk about funny ship and all the time,

and this is still I'm still with the ship. I mean, I hope you guys are not, you know, still laughing kind of sort no, but I definitely want I just just to dig into this conversation to mind, like I have so many couples that they put on that front for you, you know, on's Instagram, and but you know, because I address every issue that I have you and you seem like, I mean, it just seems comfortable and this is working. I'm being a better person, and I have a question to this um and this again goes

from personal, but real quick, because it's funny. I told people all the time when I meet them, I am not a nice person. I am not am I am mean. I will hurt your feelings, but but I am a good person. Like I am someone you can kill if you if you were my friend. My friend was in her back home. She missed the fight to Jamaica to start her vacation, and she's in my city. I was like her mom. She calls her mom crying and she's and her mom goes, so, David's gonna come get you.

Because she knows I'm gonna come get her. I'm gonna make sure that she's gonna have a great day. Her and her friend who I just met that day at my place, we're swimming. I took him to dinner, to lunch, We cooked them dinner. We started their vacation. Because I'm a good person. She's nice, like she's genuinely cares about other human beings. And I don't even think about at she thought that. I was like, it's gonna get caught. I go. We go out of him, Like I guess

she's going for the ethnic look today. So I'm not gonna tell her this. To put a fly iron, I just wanted to keet some of the birds that were nesting in the hair like maybe she wants mix today. I don't. But but you know what I also like about that, though, is that I feel like we know she's attractive, she knows the confidence right, she doesn't feel like she has to look perfect all the time. Someone

the prettiest or not. But I feel like someone don't just get anybody wants it, somebody like I feel like I have makeup on or not. Maybe less cat calls, maybe right if I have something to can't be wrong. But whoever was going to really talk to me in that balling? Absolutely, you know, I feel like, well, well, and we go all the time and I'm much bigger, like I'm a thick bitch, and I tell her all the time, I still pull mad niggers. I will funk

about these little flyin bitches because here's the question. Man, there's guys lost twenty pounds. Are you the same? Dude? Something to saying dude, So I'm not gonna lie, do you want to lose twenty pounds? But no, I mean I say this all the time because I'll have other girls come at me, like other Instagram models like and they'd be like, bitch, if y'all only knew I bag the same niggas that y'all do, the same blue check mark ass niggas y'all be trying to get be all

of my motherfucker damn Sue. And I know what's the body count on the blue checkmarks? Oh listen, I ain't even gonna they get a blue checkmark interview. What wait? Twitter started in oh nine, We're not going to do that math No. But and and that's the thing like that we say all the time, and when I'm going for you, for you, who's for you? Who's for you? Who's for me? Who's for me? And when we go out, when I go out with any of my friends, even if we all see the same guy, we'd be like, bitch,

well let's see who he talked to. And it's literally like there's no competition because we all pull different types of men, we all are open to different types of things. She's more into dom ship. I'm no, I'm in the dumb ship. She's like sub My other homegirl is super prude. She's fucking I think she's head on an episode, the one that we just head on. Oh yeah, well even Crystal.

Crystal just got her first good dick nine. So I'm like sad, so sad, so like we say this all the time, but yeah, so um I was Lena, ask the questions to happen like you have, everybody will have. These people are gonna be like, why the fun didn't you ask him this? Okay, so yeah you said just now that you said he could do things. What are you thinking in your mind you can do things when when you guys are not together and you let him know that, hey, you can do your own thing. What

is going on in your mind? What do you think he's doing. I don't think he's doing anything. I at one point was encouraging it. Apparently it's a bad idea to do that. So because like I said, I travel a lot, and as a woman, I think that sometimes our needs sometimes can be different, or at least I know for us, sometimes my needs a different and I'm

just like what I want to go to bed? I'm knowing the sex drive, right, feel like you need to accommodate his part of his sexuality is bi sexual side like, oh so you're not so Another advice to women, right, if you're going to date a bisexual man and you want it to be monogamous, don't date a bottom don't date a guy who intrinsically needs dick in his life if that if that's something, but if that's something, he needs that something, and it forces the only top and bottom.

By the way, for you guys that don't know, I feel like we all should. But picture and Catcher, it's it's simple. But the guys that I've dated have all been rock bottoms, like people who have no interest in poking anybody with anything. And um And it's not to say I've never experimented, because of course you experiment, and sometimes if you if you're not right, but it's the bottom line is I don't have a need for it.

So if what our issue sexually is that we're not in the same city all the time, and so if I could sleep with her every single night, there would be no need for anything. Ever, the frustration that I have is not that I missed being with a guy because I'm in love with her. Um. And when you started making love with somebody, what is like but but like yeah, like going to like hooking up with someone. When you're making love to someone, it's like it's it's

pales in comparison, and it's just stupid. And that those let's say those months we weren't talking, like I was around the world acting the god dang fool you know. Um, But as soon as we reconnected, and I swear, so this is funny, I stole a kiss just because she had started dating someone else, and she's like, I'm being super honest with him. So I wanted her to have to tell him that we made out right, and that was it was just me being petty. I was being petty, right,

and then I kissed her and the world stopped. Like it was like everything I've done the last couple of months, I didn't want it anymore. To get back online. I don't know if I met my match right, he wasn't talk to me about me like this is that Russian? I know that your fucking world stop. I don't think that came out. I message might have stop, but it

was not this right? Um? What was yeah? Okay, So it seems because as sexuality is open, I think just like she asked a question of pegging, because we just assume, right, So I assumed that your relationship is more open. Do you ever want to bring other people into it? Do you talk about it? Question? And if you do, not to what capacity, Like, first of all, have you guys

had okay? And if you guys do have a three both like him as the girl, you both like women, you both like men, would it be open as far as the gender. I feel like that's something we just haven't discussed. You guys have okay as a guy? Right? Every time she looks at a girl, I get hopeful, right, right. So, so we had this conversation because he was crashing, we're crashing at your place, right, we're crashing at weez these

place while while we're here in New York City. And I and at some point I was just like the excited I'm so excited about meeting her because I've always like we have mutual friends, and I just felt like we were clicking friends right side of mine and so um, and I wanted to go to Cuba really bad, but I couldn't go because they don't know you free so um. So I was just expressing her how excited I was glad to cancel a non cancelable hotel, like I got a doctor smell from the friends and the doctor to

say my MoMA was sick. And so she at one point goes, it seems like you're more excited to meet her than me. And I'm just like, wait, what Anyway, I have another bedroom in my apartment, which is why they when they came to New York, they stayed with me because I know they're like what all in the She's like, She's like, I just feel like you really

wanted three something to happen this weekend. And I was like, wait, I didn't say any of that, but I just like, like a day later, he's like, so this is like I'm like, I just don't remember who this is because you mentioned like I mean, I wish if you if you didn't showed me that the one when you said when you told lover boy, this is your pussy and then you were like why did I do that? Your

girlfriend her talking about loving OK. Here's the thing. When he reminded me who this was, I was like, well, I wish you just said it was her, just Hollywood thought about the fact that you wanted to see it because and so as a guy, and I feel like you could relate to this, like if the opportunity, if the opper opportunity ever existed for you to sleep in the apartment that both of these women were saying it right, you would have some hopes and dreams about the future

of what could happen, right, and then the reality is she was making it like you want to have, like you be happy even if I wasn't there, and I'm like, no, that's not it. I want y'all hold on, let me finish. I was a little bit good because I thought she was a bridge and then you showed me your picture. So I'm sitting there going no, I want you to to be attracted to each other. Whatever I would need to do, right, if I needed out a hand or an apage, or if I need to just sit in

the white and just masturbating. This is the greatest moment of that. I'm so happy to be watching this live like I'm fine with anything. This is not about me going behind your back to meet her, Like I just if the first time I ever saw her touch another woman, it would be awesome. Your girlfriends, I'm told, I'm cool. It ain't gonna be all right, like just giving them

shots and just in here, like what's go ahead? It's very interesting right as women like so same would be a lover boy, right, He's like, oh, I love when you girls like take him home. He only gets jealous if I come too quick. It's a weird thing. So I would lose my ever loving mind if she was to lose it again again. Yeah, what is it about not needing to be involved? Is it because men don't feel threatened when another woman's with their woman? Is right?

That's exactly. It's like, there's I have no So how do you know that I don't eat pussy better? I say, I eat pussy way better than a lot of guys. Maybe I can learn something like, but you're like, man, you're not leaving me for you. That's not now when a man is how do you know she wouldn't leave you? Like? I couldn't be the same for a man. Man, What is the complex? Why would you not leave me for a woman? I know that's right, and and bitches are

just fun and I'm the same way. I'm super like and I'm yeah, they're beautiful and I love that dealing with them. But no, bro, I'm not I'm not leaving. I'm gonna marry a man as much as I like women, as much as I like being with women. It's the same way. And even when I was dealing with I guess we could bleep it out. Um he hated that I liked women, And I think it was more so him thinking like, well, damn, not only that every time you're out with your friends, you're gonna beating pussy every

time you're that. And I think it was more so maybe an insecurity thing he thought that, which is what we talkt Yeah, and it's literally about like no ship, nowhere, nowhere, and it's literally it's literally that confidence. But he was like, damn, is there something a girl is doing that you think? Like your Instagram? So many of them are Instagram no, no ship No. Not only my well, it's my followers that has a that's a huge issue with a lot of the regular man. But not only that, And I

know a lot of blue check mark niggas. I'm friends with a lot of them, like literally friends, and she knows I'm friends. There's quite a bit of guys that I haven't sucked at all, and the fact that they're just in my phone. I've had guys, well why would you be with my regular ass? When you got x Joe blow making thirty million dollars in your phone? Why would you not be with him? And so it's come up tons of times that most men that I'm are

insecure as fun. However, I will say, but which is why I bring up the sexuality thing, because I'm not gonna lie. I have met another bisexual man literally the most confidence in the model model boy. Yeah, literally the most confidence. But he's also a model. He's a model. No, he's accepted himself and he's super open and he's find a ship, perfect body. Um, but deals with men and women.

But literally probably the most confident guy I've ever met in my you do, I feel like to get to that space, you need a competitive advantage, Like he's a model. I'm brilliant, Like I'm smarter than ever. So if you're into smart guys like James, ain't gonna take you from me. The how ain't gonna take you from taking you from me? Like not if that's what you're into. And I just realized we're going over time. Yeah, we're gonna go ahead and um and the show. Do you want to go

ahead and say something nice? Yeah? I just want to thank you guys for coming and like reaffirming that I just love for me, not only not only love, but just the confidence and being honest there, confidence, honesty and communication. The fact that those do exist in the fact that both of you could genuinely accept each other for who

each other are. I think it's so important to know for all of our listeners, anyone who's maybe not comfortable with your sexuality, to know that if someone doesn't accept you, there is someone out there that will, and you shouldn't as here with her shoulders down and looking awkward like this is when you were saying, guys, I've dated like, I looked at you a lot. I just wanted to see you get uncomfortable and it just didn't didn't. I didn't want to see it when like guys are like,

so when did you transition? So I literally introduced her to a friend and said this is my girlfriend and they and they turned. I turned away. I wasn't paying attention, and he goes, so when did you begin your transition? She looking at her, Come on, I flipped it. Like two days later, we were at we were at a Broadway play here in New York and the curtains about to go up, and she's like, I gotta pee, and I'm like, are you serious right right now? So we go.

The girl's line it's like two blocks. The guy's line is just moving and she goes, what do you think the bathroom laws are here? I said, no, I heard nothing, but he called me a transder person. He asked me about transition and blah blah blah blah. I said, if you walk in that bathroom, I don't ever want to hear about what happened at that bar again. And she's like, she's like, deal, clear the way and an offensive lineman and said this is your come on, And then the

black girl behind her said can I go next? Come on, bob, And she's washing her hand in between two dudes and they're just looking at like the fun isn't that was between my leg. We made it back to our seat and the play open a bisexual guy. I've taught her positions in football so that she understands all of the offensive linemen's positions, the white receivers, and we can go to Broadway place to do so there's that together. But I try to put her up on sports terms too,

because you know we're the sports fan. I just let me just look at their butt. I always wanted to do this. I never I could do this with my close I never know a thousand years thought that she would be comfortable enough to even allow me to walk in here and talk openly on the Internet. And I'm so proud of her. Right now, my girl is not like open let's talk about our personal sex lives in front of the world kind of thing. And even though if it's anonymous, it's still the Internet and people can

connect the stocks, you know. So I'm super proud of you and I love you more today yesterday. Well, guys, thank you so much for tuning into another episode of Horrible Decisions. Um. Again, continue to tune in, and if you want to be a guest or if you have any you know, sexual horrible Decisions stories that you guys, this is super I'm gonna cross it out like horror cross out. Yeah, I don't know, fantastic decisions decisions. I

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