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You always see girl me and dB I'm lazy. Welcome back to another episode of Decisions Decisions. We're alone, y'all because y'all been asking for it, by the way, bitch, run up the way y'all been trying to fight us in the YouTube comments.
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Okay, so as a recent a friend of a friend of a friend, definitely not me a promise, not me?
Right?
So they received a letter okay, right, they received a letter from their current.
Boyfriend from their current boyfriend.
Current boyfriend of I think they said of five years right in this is he in a war?
Why he wrote a letter?
It's interesting, mind you. It's not even like a sentence like mail. No, it's a handed letter. In fact, it wasn't even ripped. It was in a book that he wrote. In the letter details everything he'd want in a woman. Okay, thoughtful, you would think, right? Considerably the friend of a friend of a friend who's not me. They didn't take very
well to this letter. Okay, the letter was written to who to that to the partner, to the partner, listing different things that they'd want in a woman, and they felt like there were so many qualities within that letter that did not fit for a description. Okay, things like someone who someone like, for example, someone I don't have to micromanage.
Oh that's a break up. That's that's passive, aggressive, and.
Very probably probably someone I don't have the microphones. Someone who has a passion in life, someone who is strong, someone.
Who to help me with my luggage upstairs. Right now.
I have to ask you to have you guys, ever received certain requests of who you should be to your significant other relationship? And if you received this letter, what would you do?
So two things.
If I received the letter and I genuinely felt like the things that that person wanted didn't apply to me, then I would make the conscious decision that I'm not a good fit. I think a lot of times women like try to be something they're not. So for me, if I received a letter, I would do so example prime example, Oh my god, so my boyfriend is British.
Okay, And before we like.
So we started talking about the things that we like or don't like, or things that bother and I remember we were on the phone and he was like, you know, there's there's something that normally bothers me because I feel like I'm being mobbed. And he was like, so, like your British accent, like really is a problem because I feel like you're making fun of me when you get into your accent.
And I was so real and honest with him.
I said, listen, if you don't like me talking in accents, you don't want to be with me.
You don't like me, because little do you know.
When I'm drunk, when I'm hanging with my friends, when I'm just having regular conversations, I jump in and out of fucking accents that are terrible. And I know my British accent is awful, but I jump in and out of fucking accents like literally all the time with my homegrowth, and I might sound like a.
British, Jamaican, Irish Australian who makes that's unfair.
No, no, no, So I told him, I think their boyfriend deserves Soner.
You just shut the fuck up. It is not unfair. Well, here's the thing, because what if.
He was like, for example, when people make fun of American black women, they normally go to this southern ghetto head bobbing, very loving hip hop ask voice, what if he was like? What if you were like I don't feel like doing He was like, I don't feel like twenty.
You know like that.
That's that's an over dramatized stereotype. I do all accents. I don't just do British accents. I also don't sound good doing accents. So he came to me and said something because he thought it was me mocking him, and I said.
No, this is me.
I also gave him the choice, if that's something that you can't get past, we don't got to be together.
Well, he's an actor who's dating a very bad actress.
No, but not only that, he's an actor who has to talk like an American for roles. So I'm like, nigga, you you go in and out of your accent and not too. I can't tell you. You know, we date each other. I don't want to see you doing American accents because I feel like that's offensive.
Like no, like, so what is it? Because you're doing it from something He's saying like when you no, I literally just start saying it. I don't even mock him like that.
No.
The only thing is he does say what, and I think that that's funny.
It's like when he's like explaining something but it's what, so it just sounds funny. And he says wills a lot, and I know that's like an American term, but I'd never hear like Americans say, well you mean English?
What do you mean but English? But said it's an American term.
Like because Wilson is in the like, oh you mean English, bitch, but it's not like all English speak.
You ain't see that what oh you mean English?
I do?
It's English, but I ain't never date nobody that says Willing. It's like wow, wow, you know, I.
Remember the first smart guy I ever dated, and British people just by nature feel more poised and like.
Oh he's very mature, and I say, it's all the time.
And it really British, like a British gentleman. Like it's a thing, right, the first smart person. And I don't mean this like to be girl, easy to let us just someone that you could tell as well read.
I felt like I was running behind him in conversation.
Like he would just bring up something that was going on in the world whatever, and I'm like, yo, am I fucking dumb, Like it was really difficult for me and he wasn't from the States, but it also kind of just highlighted Damn, we're a little bit far back.
Oh no, we are.
He I'm eight years older than him, Like my homegirl is right years older than me. He sat and was able to keep up in conversation with me and my home gro He was almost forty and he's eight years younger than me. So definitely leaps and mounds. I know, Like there's been constant conversations when I talk to young niggas, like what the hell do y'all talk about?
Me?
And this motherfucker be on the phone for three four hours and it's like, damn, the conversation never gets stale. And I'm like, because you grew up in not America, that's one it is.
Now you love him, he's great? Real quick? What's wrong with him? Does he snore? Now we slept together, you don't snore? Damn, nothing wrong? Not yet. I mean, I'm sure there's gonna be something I don't like.
This is the I remember the first thing I couldn't stand about my boyfriend. It's the same thing I can't stand now love you. Oh wait, there's something I don't like. Ooh what bitch's allergic to Darry?
Oh yes, oh come on, you know what? I thought vegans were bad? Bro.
I literally didn't cook for that nigga because I was like, oh, how do I cook it out?
Butter on it?
Oh my god, I'm like toes, but I'll take a shit like I can't not this nigga will die Like our first we went to cheesecake factory when we was shopping out in mother fucking Vegas, and he they brought him fucking bread with with with butter on it. They dipped the calamari and buttermilk, and I literally was.
Like, oh my god, he about to die with me. I'm about to be the last. But didn't you like know that this was stuff? Well?
No, first off, we had we had a We had a young server who literally when he said dairy allergy, when she felt so bad, she was like, well, most people are lactose, so I didn't know it was like a real allergy side and the motherfuckers only had the nerd cheese.
Take back here, I'm coming for your head. I only had a nerd to remove his meal, not mine. I still got charge. I did, I did, my bitch.
I was so mad, bro I was the best that anybody ever took my allergy serious.
Was My tips are huge in this top.
Was when I was at the Standard hotel and the drink had egg in it and they run it gave me bread, but honestly, like getting into the drink, uh it was. It wasn't a margarita because that's no, no, no whiskey sours. I know I can't drink. It was just some random fruity cocktail that they put egg in. Now, the server at the time suggested the drink to me knew my egg allergy at the top, so I just spent at a look at the cocktail and I'm.
Like, you something good with tequila and they're like, oh yeah, blah blah blah. Damn. So actually she was probably a fan that had a hit out on your.
Maybe you know what I mean, because she knew you had the egg g allergy, bitch, because they let me not even passed on the menu.
I got you. I'm gonna give you this I'm trying to think of what I have an update on Asia. We haven't really gotten much about Asia, and you were there for almost a month.
I know, I will tell anybody who's been dating someone for a year. So this trip we planned in the summer of last year, like we should go to Asia for three weeks, and we really were saying, like, let's see, we could last for three weeks. Bro got along so well that it was like, oh, of course we could
live together. Like, but the trip was really a month because the Vegas I told some funny stories on Patreon about how you know, we ended up having to get escorted out the airport because of the whole VSA ty.
But I will say the most impactful part of the trip.
I have a friend of mine right now who's dating someone, and they were like, yeah, I love being with him, but I'm ready for my space sometimes really ready for my space. Like they live together currently, no when they date, when they're around each other, like after a certain number of days, she's capped.
Out and is your friend me the bitch?
And is I Like, So I'm talking about it with my partner and I remember when we first met. He was like, yeah, I like a three four day vacation with somebody, no more than that, like I need to reset. On this trip, we did so much shit together, to the point where we only took one shower without each other, and the showers was non sexual. Just always wanted to be around each other. And he said to me, I realize, whereas we're such solo independent, I don't need nobody for
shit people both of us. He's like, my alone time doesn't feel as great anymore because I love spending time with you. And it was one of the nicest things anybody has said to me, because I've always felt like when I liked to share space, I'm very needy. And I found that that wasn't enough time. We wanted more than in four weeks. He was like, beach, I was I wantn't crying, but I was like fuck because I had to go back to LA He went back to New York like damn, Like this shit is really over.
We get along so great. I think a few things I have.
Noticed that it's a beautiful difference from this and other partners. There was a lot of things in my head on the way home, not doubting my relationship, doubting myself and wondering why other relationships lasted. For one, the solo time that we spend may look like quiet time while in the same room. I'm someone that needs to feel space by talking all the time. I'm a chatty person. I'm a social person. If I'm on standing online and take it too long, I'm going to talk next to the
person that's just me. If we do a meet and greet, I'm the one who doesn't know how to shut up.
You know that, Yeah, I do. I'd be like, Bennie, can you tell her? We got to get through this guy, Like I just don't know how to stop.
So I think what I've learned is my boyfriend is not that way, and it's kind of drawn me to be a little more patient, a little more quiet.
He said to me.
We went to this really small private island. It was very white lotus, and he said to me, baby, I don't want you to say anything for an hour, not in this shut the fuck up way, but like you need some quiet too. He's like, yo, just read the book, just look at the water, just chill out, cause I'm like, oh, everybody's waking up now and now I can talk about And it.
Was just you know my brain is always going.
I realized that spending the time together isn't always an activity. We had a lot of time idle, and people really and including me in other relationships, I didn't know what to do with that idle time. If there were six hours where I was just chilling with someone, I felt like I needed to feel it or make an itinerary. And I'm not even very type A, but I'm like that I have this very I gotta entertain new energy.
And that shit went out the window, and.
I realized I really suffered in relationships when that idle time happened. Do I like who you are when there's no plan? Do I like who you are when I'm sitting around you for hours at a time and there's no entertainment for the TV? Can I coexist with you in this space when we both have nothing to do. I've found that other people kind of annoy me, like they really do get me to this point where I'm like, this is fun, but you can go now.
It's so funny because you bringing that up, and maybe because before we got together we fucking talked for hours every day for seven months.
But I'm very aware of.
Who like the space that I do need, which is why, like my it worked out. He would be around, but he always got to go home, like and so even like we were having a jokey conversation where he was trying to convince me to move to la and I
said it never gonna happen. So he's like, Okay, maybe I'll consider moving to Atlanta and I was like, yeah, well, i'll hope you look for an apartment because you won't be moving in with me, and it was like it was it was joky, but I also meant it like before he came over, like I take naps.
I need my fucking nap.
So because he jokes about me being a nappy ass bitch while he was there, I didn't want to resent him or be annoyed by him being in my presence because I wasn't able to do the things that I genuinely like to do and that I need every day, and so I loved that his response to that was well, that's fine, I'll just go to the gym so that you could have time to take your nap, And there was like not that I was pushing him away, but he knows how much that means to me, and he
didn't want to like fuck up my day and I literally fuck up my day is very dramatic, but I think it's important for if you're a person that needs space, finding a way to communicate that and making sure your partner doesn't feel pushed away or opposite, if your partner is more of a recluse it.
Needs quiet time, then being able to communicate.
It to you without you feeling like they said, you'll shut the fuck up. So I just think like it's it's a self reflective thing and knowing what you actually really want and communicating it to your partner where I don't feel offended you.
And wearely don't always know what you want. Like, I know I want space.
I think I think a lot of people don't know how to say that in a way of like, but sometimes space isn't I need you to leave, It's just I need to be Because.
What about people that live together.
So let's let's go over that live together to work from home. You live together, maybe both work from home. How would you communicate or how would you say someone could get space from the other person.
Well, that is our current situation. We don't live together yet, but we both work for ourselves. So we were talking about.
It, and he was talking about moving in together.
Yeah, like all right, we clearly need a bedroom, like another bedroom for space, Like what does that look like?
And also I was very honest with him.
I was like, Yo, when we're together, I find myself rushing work sometimes when I'm around you, for spending the weekend together, I find myself learning a rush it so I don't leave you if you don't have work on a weekend. And he's like, that's crazy, because you need to learn how to exist as yourself when I'm around, because I'm not leaving.
True, So how.
To fucking Gila be wheezy for three hours today and not feel you know, whatever that is.
So I think there's just a lot of.
Unlearning of and I think it's women of really needing to be like I have to do this, I have to be available, I got to be this. I really believe it's a woman thing when women feel like this.
That's why I'll be talking about therapist like I might be you.
Might have to bleep it out. I don't know we're allowed to say that word anymore. But my mind really thinks like I like a nigga bro. I s to God, I don't be thinking like that. You're not as much you've been crying on this podcast. No, I is at you mean? No, I went through of course heartbreak. I'm gonna cry. I was fucking depressed last year, like God
knows what. But when it comes to like how I want to have my time, me telling him, hey, baby, were not gonna rush the marriage the kids in those high talks, like, I genuinely feel like I approach relationships completely from the way that men are used to most women. And I think that that's why my ex genuinely didn't think I cared about him, because Okay.
You need some space, I'll see when you like. I think it's.
Possibly because your desires aren't necessarily marriage and children. When people are on the clock of their own body and they know what they want. So if you are approaching a romantic relationship and you're like, yo, children is my expectation out of this. So if I'm putting this time and energy into this and you're not the right partner, you suck me back for another life goal.
You believe in someone wasting in your time like you believe in that, you believe that that's the man's fault or I think it can be. Okay, I say this because you don't think though that, and I'm curious because that's a good thing. Yes, we know we have the biological clock, and we choose partners knowing that we want certain else.
I'll tell you a few men that I type of men that I think are time wasters.
Okay, let's talk about it. What men are time wasters? Boom number one.
The nigga that dates the girl that is so ready for a relationship, that is telling you she's dating for marriage and you say, hey, I'm not ready yet. Let's see where it goes.
Okay, what what on? I agree, keep going on the rest of the list.
But yes, answer is totally okay until you get to the point where you are positive she ain't it. And the answers that men start to give when being held accountable is like, well, I told you I was.
I wasn't ready.
So a lot of people feel like this is the woman's fault. Right, However, I'm gonna be very honest with you. Okay, I haven't been in my last three relationships, including this one.
First date was I don't know if.
I want a relationship kind of just with This is an answer because it relieves the pressure from the man. If a nigga met a bitch that was for him, he wants the relationship. That's how I got in mind, that's how you got in yours. He probably gave the answer to someone else.
No, No, that in mind.
My nigga says, No, I'm saying you got in your relationship because you're with someone that wants you.
He admitted that there was some things I did. He was like, why do I like this bitch? He tried to not like me.
I disagree.
I don't think any man is in a relationship unless this is really somewhere they want to be. But I think men have so many options. Mandy, you ain't gonna take me off the get.
Me let me women. Let me stay on my hill right now, women have I don't believe that.
I think if women had a bunch of our options, you have a bunch of married women.
Let me continue than os. So okay, so we're talking two different things.
No, let me keep going to differ. But this is what I'm talking about.
My first sentiment was that a woman that's looking for a relationship, looking for marriage, looking for children. Now I believe This accountability falls on the man, because at some point your selfishness needs to be acknowledged. There's only so much sex, fun time, in intimacy and meals you can pull out of someone to know like, damn, I'm really not investing in this person in the way that they
want me to. Because their investment for that time, that pussy, that energy, even the coddling, the intimacy, it's because she is expecting you're gonna be her partner.
I am very tired of seeing this type of that. What is this? The second type of guy.
The second type of guy that I was What was the first thing I said?
What kind of guy?
The type of guy that knows that you want all these things right, says not ready, continues to entertain you even after he knows you're not the one for her.
The second type of bad guy to date to me is the guy that is playing too much of the field. Maybe this guy has an intent to marry dating too many women at one time. This is why love is blind kind of works for a momentary portion, right, love isn't blind.
We need something needs to get up right. I need to be a try.
But these people get so connected to each other because they have so much time to learn about each other. Men are spreading out way too far, dating too many women, and they almost can't manage it. One of my homeboys that's dating too many women right now literally said to me, like, bruh, I'm about to lose one of my bitches because I had to try to keep the other one. This bitch had a birthday. I had to show up for her, and the other one just kind of felt left out.
And he's like, it's it's you owe too much when you start playing all these seeds in different places and someone let's just say, these women are dating one or two men and they're gonna need more from you than you do. You got less of yourself to give, and you end up fucking everybody over. And I'm telling you, you building bitches out here, the savage the tides is gonna change. It's already changed. That's why you have women
having kids on their own. A lot of this has to be some accountability on the fact that the options that men have are leading them to make these decisions.
It wasn't like that back in the day because it was different. It wasn't ding ding ding ding ding on your phone and I really.
Said they was having families with the bitch down the street. They always had optioned. They just had the bitch down the street, the bitch up the block. Maybe.
I mean, divorce rates are higher today, and when it comes to why people are getting divorced, we rarely see it being fucking money or anything like that. This time, it's always some crazy headline about cheating. All I'm saying is like, I really think the appetite of men sometimes can get in a way.
They're getting in with the wrong partners.
You should be in relationships where women are also ethically non monogamous and open to it, not just accepting it because that was their only option. But I just find that like a lot of the pain and heartache does need to lie on a man sometimes because if these women are truly being vocal, then you would know that expectations are higher of you.
Think.
Why I brought that up, though, was because when you said your ex was like, damn, I really feel like it's easy for you to enter in relationships in a way that men feel slightly safer.
Because you don't need that much from them.
Me wanting marriage and children looks like, oh, well she needs this, You just want love, partnership, companionship.
Mine is a different ask.
It's a lifetime fucking ask, and so I think it's just such a relief for men that want the same things as you.
That's the problem. I don't meet men know what the same things as me. My boyfriend right now wants kids in marriage, but we really like each other. We are committed to being in a relationship. And I've also let him know, which is where I never want the title to be on me that I wasted his time because I let it be known what I want out the gate, and when he wants those things, I gave him the freedom to go and get him for a woman.
If those are the things that he wants. I like that.
It like so to me when we talk about time wasters. I would never accept from him if he got upset and called me or said I wasted his time, because I think I'm allowing him to do what I think most women should do.
If a man is telling you that your.
Vision doesn't align out the gate, and you choose to say to try to make it work with hopes that he changes his mind, but you wasted your own time, And I think that that's the problem.
We see here. If the goals don't align, no, so.
That's what I'm saying. So you're saying that these are the type of men that are time wasters. I think a man that out the gate expresses that what he wants at the time you want it does not align, and you choose to stay with that one moment one moment, and you choose to stay with that man in hopes that love will change his mind, time will change his mind, or eventually you guys get to the same desires if you go in expecting that to happen and it doesn't.
As a woman, bitch, you wasted your own time because you went into the relationship with hope and delusion.
Disagree. I'm gonna tell you why. Okay, you have a dude, you go on a date.
I actually pretty much talk about kids in marriage first or second date because I know I'm out. If we don't align, men will say things like and I know this is just something.
Common or a shit.
I want two kids, I want to poor, I want a girl, I want this, I would love to move to Westchester.
Whatever. They're gonna start their story.
Right, all of us having the same goals does not mean it's gonna happen with me, of course, but it's very for you to say it doesn't align. It's very easy to have a conversation where you're seeing, we have things in common, whatever.
But sometimes it just ain't gonna be you saying something different. I know, because I think maybe the verbiage you use was one.
Now, the with you is always going to be silent. A man can say what they want. Just because he's expressing that he wants it does not mean he wants it with you in that conversation. A man can express
what they want, which is what I'm saying. If you are sitting across from each other and you don't align on your wants or needs or desires, and not even by the sex of the children, are moving to Westchester, whatever, If you know you want family planning and marriage down the line, and you sit across from a man who says, I don't want those things maybe ever, and you choose to continue pursuing him, got him. So that's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying, The with you is always going
to be silent. A man telling me he wants kids and marriage does not mean and I'm not gonna believe he wants it with me just because he's telling me it's what he wants.
Let me ask you, though, because it's interesting that out of the people you were dating, I mean, it seemed like you were the most connected with Actor Bay.
But does it scare you as a.
Woman when you hear a man telling you marriage, children and family is something they want and you want them.
I told so, I believe that nothing lasts forever, and I also told him that I don't want to futurefuck our ability to just enjoy each other in the present.
He doesn't want children or marriage within the.
Next couple of years, So to me, I'm excited to enjoy a loving, carent relationship for as long as it lasts, and as soon as it no longer lasts or we no longer align with each other, I'm comfortable with just experiencing what the relationship was and moving on with my life.
I genuinely don't think we have.
To consider people lasting forever or always being on the same page. Again, we're also we're also eight years apart, so for me, I genuinely believe that he will go through a lot more life changes in the next four years than I will in the next four years, Like, going from twenty six to thirty is going to be a lot different in his growth as a man and an adult than what I'm going to experience from thirty four to thirty eight. So we've already expressed that how.
Does it make him feel when you say nothing last forever as an answer to life.
If he has a problem with that, you got to take it up with a therapist. In God, nothing lasts forever. No, when you say it, like, well, how is he really if he.
Thinks that love and relationships are supposed to last forever? Again, he could take that up with therapists and is God. I'm not here to coddle him in that belief because that doesn't.
Change for me. I genuinely believe a movie doesn't last forever. A series.
We're always sad, right when a series that we fucking love says it's coming to an end. Me and fucking Wolf were just like man, dream Bill Festival, this is the last and final one. We would love for it to last forever, and it's not, And we're gonna deal with losing dream Bill as it is. Sometimes you have to just deal with the reality of life that things
will come to an end. And I don't want to go into a relationship with the fallacy or with the id theology that this is something that's going to be forever. I just want to be able to enjoy it while we have it. And so again, when I talk about future, fucking this idea of even thinking of it coming to an end or us being on a different page in the next six months or one year or two years. Let's not fucking overwhelm ourselves with anxiety about what that's
going to look like. Let's just fucking enjoy each other and love on each other until we don't anymore. And that's like what I want experience. I want to experience just healthy relationships without the idea of what life is going to inevitably bring.
Do you know what's at the end? What you said feels like such women empowerment.
Shit.
If the roles were flipped and a man told a woman, let's just see where this relationship takes us in knowing they wanted children, but see I don't, we would demonize them. No, And knowing the women wanted children, we would demonize them.
Well no, but yes, you have the power to then leave the relationship. That's the thing people should not be demonized for being honest. Okay, I want to be in a relationship where I just let this ship flow. You're telling me as a woman, you want babies like yesterday.
As a woman, if this man just wants to let it flow, you have to be strong enough to realize that this is not the person that's going to bring you what you want, and you have to be okay with going back out into the fucking ghetto of dating and finding someone else that aligns with you. I think the problem is women, well, women so much. Women so much just want to be in a relationship so bad they're willing to make it seem like something's gonna work when they know it ain't gonna work.
They know that.
And again, because women have the biological clock working against them, all the blame is on you or a man that just wants to keep it easy flowing. I think the age difference makes it different for us, like him staying with me even for the next three or four years. He can always get with a woman that can procreate with him younger. He doesn't have the biological clock that.
I mean, you're so crazy? Why am I crazy?
Hold on, Wolf is over there, he can stay with me for four years and then if he wait, when he's ready for a kid and I'm still at the place where I don't want it, I'm gonna.
Send him off the world to go what don't want though, But I'm talking about but I guess like marriage.
I told him he could give me a ring, I like a cute ring, and we could go like and then we can have a ceremony.
But I told him I'm not putting it on paper. Oh wow, I think most men would like that, Thank you, especially niggas with money. I'm a bitch with money. We not bruh.
We don't need to put that ship on paper to signify our love to what these Republicans want marriage, I am happy. That's why he flew to Atlanta because he was like, I just really want a ceremony and I want to I want to be able to celebrate our love in front of my family, and if there's a way that I can still do that, I accept that answer.
Bro.
It's so crazy that the marriage conversations I'm having now, I've been through these, you know, like, this is what our wording looks like, this is what I look like. The more in love I get I'll be like, Okay, so when we're at the courthouse, like it went down from having cousins and siblings to I just want my parents and your parents.
Like I don't know what it is. My brain is gone from I want this to like who girt is economy E to Asia.
I swear to God, all I think about is like that's how I love. I am like definitely want marriage and I want to find this couple. I don't know if anyone has seen them. I'm going to tell you their page, go and shout them out. There's some fly ass niggas. They had a wedding in Mexico City. The way it started the cinematics, I thought it was a fucking horror movie, that's how good it looked. But they shared some photos of them getting married at a courthouse
court courthouse. Him and I shared it at the same time, and I realized, damn them niggas went to dinner. It looked like they was alone after they got married at the courthouse. I'm like, Yeah, when people fucking love wedding, A lot of time is for everybody else, you know what.
A lot of times the bride in the groom ended up being so exhausted, overwhelmed. Like there's so many stories that people don't even have sex on their wedding nights because they're so fucking drained and exhausted from entertaining.
Motherfuck.
Anytime I am C or DJ wedding, I let them know, Hey, I know this is your special day, but it's really their special day. Yeah, And I pointed the family and everyone else, because at the end of the day, they're gonna want to take pictures with you to make sure they get every moment. They want to see you look pretty, you look handsom. They want to be the rusion, they want to be the bridesmaids. Like.
It's that's why I said, I don't want birthday parties. Me and Weezy be on tour. We'll be talking about active parties.
The curation of making sure you have to host and throw and entertain brings about so much anxiety.
I told them, I said, you want a ceremony, you got a plan it.
I mean, don't get me wrong, I definitely want to get to that one day. But for me, at this age, I definitely want to just be married.
Nigga.
I'm telling you right now, I could be in the studio, and I feel like people would find out I'm married from the ring.
By the way, y'all don't see my texes when I come in with a ring. Bit y'all married, Fuck y'all like, y'all better not look for that. What marriage specificate because it ain't gonna exist. But bitch, when I say it's a wife, bitch, I'm gonna hold the ring up and be like, it's a wife.
I've posted so much less for miles, so I really feel like I'm gonna be married and people gonna be like, why did she hide it? And I'm like, when I tell you my photos, I think I took forty five photos, which isn't even what I do alone when I have good makeup. It was crazy and like I kind of wish, like I literally was like on the plane back, I was like, damn, I ain't really.
We didn't take nothing. Oh.
I told him when he came to Atlanta, we only had fucking photos in the aquarium with sharks and jellyfish behind us.
I said, we could have took more photos. You feel me, I think we don't get sucked in it. But I'm also dating someone that doesn't give a shit about that phone.
Oh yeah, this nigga ain't even on social media. I'm gonna tell you this though. I was cracking out, bitch. We was on that little island.
It was three nights. I started getting real stressed out about something that was going on the track. Everything's great now, but when it was happening, he was like, listen, if Bredonda needs you, if Alex needs you, if your mom needs you, that's it.
You don't have to shoot horrible decisions. Don't your meeting that meeting. I took it to him. Anyone that really needs you will call my phone. Put your phone in the safe and let it go. Girl. We was at the fool. I was like, let me go change my sandals. Bitch. I was in it. Uh God, just give me a TikTok. Bitch. I was dying. I hate it. I'm telling you I don't, just knowing I can't. And then you know what sucked. Oh my god.
They started doing some cute little performance and they brought us all these little coconuts with the letters.
Card.
Didn't give my phone nothing nity thing. I'm just looking at nice shit with no photo. How are people gonna know I'm living luxury?
But I'll puss that.
That's the life I was living, bitch, and we was getting a massage. I was like, this is so nice, baby, I want to take nothing, dog, I need to let this shit go.
But it's bad. I even got a little tech net. I had all posture rescued. Fucking massages.
Like, I am a little too addicted to my phone, and it's interesting because I'm not a crazy person, but I just like having access for some reason.
And the phone feels like, oh, I ain't gonna lie and I don't win my niggas this one and the last one. When I'm with somebody, I like phone be in a whole nother room.
It do.
But bitch, I was with, I was, I was with old Man River and now I'm with baby Bottle Pop.
When I tell you, my friends came up with those, by the way, literally the opposite ends of the spectrum. And I ended up with two men who couldn't be further apart in age and generation and upbringing, and both of them do.
Not be on phone. It's I love it to date somebody that's not tapped in because.
Once because what I noticed it anytime I see people on dates, they're both on their fucking phones.
So when I'm out because I'm with someone now who genuinely.
Don't be on the like his sister runs his fucking Instagram account, and I say, good, nigga, I met you on the Graham.
Get off that ship. I can be honest with you.
I think when you're a person that like your intentional like. I don't think an Instagram crazy person or a TikToker can't tap into a dinner if they really need to. But I find that the phone is pastime. The phone is this thing of like I'm on a couch now boom type ship. I'm not going to interrupt my stands type ship like a Hyan heard a young the young Nigga reference. No, it's not a reference, it's a term.
Now why in it's exactly it's exactly what you exactly what you said. Well, you're on the phone more than me, so you would know it. Well that's what I know.
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into a quote from our book. Whoever's up doing the outline, We're going to give you something that we wrote and dig into a little convo about it. So Wolfinett and please join in. This is from I believe this from our New York chapter. I wrote avoiding loneliness will only cause issues when you're finally sharing space. The growing mindfulness is to your overall self seeing productivity and the energy levels your brain starts to recover with all the external
stimuli that a clusterfuck of a city brings. Yes, community and companionship are necessary, but so is being able to say you can be happy by yourself. And I finally realized the most beautiful version of me doesn't arrive until I meet the ugliest me. So I want to ask, y'all, is it true that you really got to get to a dark and shitty place within yourself to have a
fucking glow up? Have you ever had a fucking glow up in your life that you felt like just naturally came without you going through a hard road to get there?
Now, I think my twenties was the dark ugliness, and I'm in my glow up currently.
I think it's the same. Like, you don't know happiness unless you know sadness. You don't know.
What it's like to make money unless you know what it feels like to be broke, Like I think that that's that's You don't know that a relationship is bad. I mean, you don't know a relationship is healthy unless you've been in a relationship that was bad, and so I think that's literally just the nuances of life, like duality, Like you don't know how to appreciate the good in
life until you know what comes with the bad. And so I think like for me, my glow up is now like finding the strength of confidence, being financially secure, being like confident in myself, my looks, and all of those things bring about the best version of myself to where I can show up as the best version of
myself for the world. I think that you know, when you're unhappy, when you're depressed, when you haven't dealt with your traumas, when you haven't gone to therapy and you're just existing as this broken person, you don't know how great you could really be before you You have to navigate those things first.
I learned another word recently that I wanted to talk about with y'all. I don't know if anyone's heard this. Have you heard of a glow down? No?
Well, low down?
At the top of the list people that are relevant to talk about today, they are saying on the tiktoks and the instagrams, Tyler is the number one most recent celebrity glowdown. Wait, I now need an explanation on this, because wherever my mind is going, I disagree.
Why is Tyler a glowdown? People believe this is not me. God don't come for me.
People believe that Kyla's glowdown is because the Internet started.
To high leak Tyler. Tyler Tyler. Okay, Tyler Tyler. Yeah.
People believe Tyler had a glowdown because they believe she got up too quickly. People became obsessed with the song, didn't have anything that went quickly as pop in mainstream and social media started to dislike her.
So I think it's because, first off, I think this is absolutely unfactual wrong, and I feel like Tylo is literally I think I think I think pushed.
This is not my opinion. Push the Star was still great. The album, by the way, was literally.
The playlist to Saint Croix, her entire album. I was so shocked at how fucking dope it was. She has so many great songs and more hits than Just Wanna. So if you if you just don't, if you just don't listen to Tyler, just say that. Secondly, I think that she is our next upcoming Rihanna. I think she's phenomenal. I think she's a fucking star and her right what. I believe why someone would say that is because misery.
If you're in the darkness, you're upset at people who get so much success so quickly.
I think we saw that.
I think the internet's opinions seem louder than the real and.
That's not the reality. I think that we saw that with Ice.
Spice like to me, her glowdown is because her album didn't do as well as it was anticipated. However, people hated her because they felt like, why the fuck is she the one that gets to have all of this?
Why is she at the met gallup? Why is she in videos with this person? Why is she next to next to uh Taylor Swift.
I think people hate to see someone reached success because they're unhappy with their own.
Inability to I think any other strange thing to at least with black celebrities, that I've always found strange.
We don't want to see motherfuckers win. I get Tyler Skinny, I get there's aria star.
I get that that there's darker skin talent that is probably wait Or is better of a singer than Tyler.
I understand well, no, let's it's because she used the word colored, which is a word that no, no, no, this is Tyler being light.
If you're gonna have the biggest let's nigga, this isn't. I hate to make it about color. That's life, bro. Tyler is the biggest star to come out of Africa. That's a woman.
Correct or am I wrong here? And look how she looks? Well, I think Thames, I was Gonnas is probably bigger and has. Actually you think Thames is bigger than Tyler. You think white people know Sames. I would hope that's true. I think, though, but don't I disagree with you, guys. I think Tyler is bigger. I think, I mean, I think on the cover, I think. I think Tyler makes pop music and leads into pop music. Tames make more soulful.
I think that's the point, though, Mandy, like, there's a pop music star in Africa that looks like Tames. I'm sure Tyla there. I'm sorry, No one's gonna convince me that Tyla's looks in skin color and why she's as huge as she is. It's fine, she's gorgeous, but that is.
Still saying she's a glowdown take away.
No.
I think I think a lot of this when you when you talk about ice s pice right. Also someone like I think there's a lot that the internet hates when it's like, fuck, how do we have someone when there's someone else scarlet someone.
Else way better? Right?
And so I think sometimes that noise starts to infect everybody. What Tyler did with the A word thing was shitty, yes, but at the same time, it's like, I'm not gonna hate this girl that much for it, Like I'm over it already.
I think we really you are.
But I think majority of people harness shit for people they really don't fucking know, right, And I think it's just it's people wanting to have just and luckily we still have the First Amendment. Y'all know they're taking rid of this shit. But luckily we're able to just hold space, have our opinions and exist. And I just think people harbor on the worst things.
This is what I do.
Anytime you want to see how miserable the goddamn world is, just go to the shade room. Find somebody you really fucking adore, that you really respect, what you think is gorgeous, and go look in the comments and see how many people have something negative to say about it, and then you can literally move on with your fucking life.
Now reactionary, Let's talk about some other crazy shit in the world, factual, not opinion based. I don't know if you guys have seen the woman that had the wrong baby born inside of her, but here's a little clip about some recent craziness.
A woman in Savannah, Georgia, has filed a lawsuit against coastal fertility specialists after giving birth to a child who was not biologically hers due to an embryo mix up. Christina Murray underwent in future fertilization in early twenty twenty three. When she gave birth in December, she immediately noticed that baby did not share her expected genetic traits. A DNA tess later confirmed that she had carried and delivered another
couple's embryo. Murray is suing the clinic foreign negligence, stating that the mistake caused her pain and anguish. She initially planned to raise the child, but after the biological parents were notified they saw custody. Facing a legal challenge she believed she could not win, Murray relinquished custody of the child.
At five months old. The clinic issued a statement apologizing for what it called an unprecedented error, and stated that it has since implemented additional safeguards to prevent similar mistakes.
Let's talk about a real recap of what I just said, what you just heard. Excuse me.
A white woman in Georgia did IVF embryo, put the embryo inside of her baby is born. The baby's black. Come to find out it belonged to a couple from the clinic. She thought, fuck it, I'll just raise the baby. Them nigga said, hell, nah, bitch, that's our baby. They were about to go to court, and she was like, you know what, I'm not gonna lose this battle.
I'll let it go.
First off, I think that white woman deserves millions upon millions of dollars and a few more babies.
On the opposite end, I have three or four friends.
That are currently going through egg freezing and embryos literally retrieval of eggs. Mind you, I'm learning so much about it. Or you can go through mind you, like seven thousand dollars a pop, so much work, especially if you don't have insurance. Insurance oftentimes also doesn't cover everything. The medication alone is like fourteen hundred dollars.
It's ridiculous.
So going through IVF basically starts your eggs to get healthy for retrieval. Mind you, they can literally pull out. I think ten eggs is normally like a good amount that you could have. I have a friend right now that is producing four three like not enough to where basically, even if they're healthy, it doesn't mean that they'll form into an embryo.
Mind you.
Whether it forms into an embryo or not, you don't get your money back. So I can understand this black couple wanting their baby because the retrieval process and having a healthy baby actually born through IVF is a lot.
And so I'm not against the black woman wanting her baby. Me too.
Also, I also think there's no money in the world that is gonna make this white woman okay.
Oh my god, bro at all. Let me tell you something. You know what I mean. I really think that these are the only.
White tears I would wipe away. Well, you know, you carried that baby for nine months. You had to deal with the fact that it wasn't your baby. She probably had to sit with herself and say it's fuck it. Man, God gave me this baby. Either way, I'm going to stick this through. And she grew a connection to this baby, and then Bro and we were just saying a few weeks weeks go in the episode with Kendrick, the biological attachment.
The chemistry that feeling like you're and it's like it's gone. Yo.
I make fun of my mom for this all the time, okay, But when I got Niena, my mom was like, I want a dog too.
I was like, well, I'm only give you a thousand dollars to get a dog, and the only.
One she could find as tiny as she wanted was in Fort Lauderdale at the time, so she drove from her land of the Fort Lauderdale.
I don't know if anyone hurt me tell the story.
Before she waited to get this dog in a CBS had the cash in hand, and nobody showed up, and she called me and said.
I feel like I just had a miscarriage.
I have all my toys at home. I'm so ready for this fucking dog and I don't have anything. And she would score and it was kind of funny but kind of cute, but kind of sad, and I realized like, yo.
If I was a good daughter, you would have said I got your two thousand on the next Well, you know, I did raise that budget for your mama.
I did.
But by the way I think they was when a robber ass and I think they saw she was an old lady, and I was like, nah, we ain't gonna do it, because why would you have somebody meet you with.
The cash in a parking lot?
Anyway, I yelled, I can't believe she did say this to say my mom Actually, like she was depressed for weeks because she got so ready.
She was looking at the photos. The baby wasn't ready to get the dog, wasn't you know what I mean? Imagine nine months it did, five months of having a baby, five months after raising it and then having to give up custody. Is she in the wrong though?
Like?
What wrong? Who the woman?
Because it's like no, no, like the black woman for taking the baby as well just I mean not even putting an effort into just only onto the baby.
Is that that tough?
No?
I don't think she's wrong.
Balls were around this, but I don't think she's wrong, especially because as a woman, like even though you went through that, bro, if you know any other one that went through the same and wanted wanted their kid.
This is where I think the only motherfucker's in the wrong year is the clinic, right.
I don't think how this ended up either woman is wrong. I'm sure she wanted to keep this baby, but also we don't know, like we don't know. But honestly, like I said, I don't think that woman is ever going to be mentally okay with it. And I do think that there is something to say about the black woman and now her connection to this child because she didn't carry that child. So it sucks for everybody involved. I wonder how you find that out way later though, Nigga, the baby.
Came out black.
I mean, I wonder if they would have found out if that baby came out white, if it would have been the same outcome. She may have never known, you know what I mean, If the baby came out white and it wasn't switched up with a black baby embryo.
She may have never realized that biological look get into little sex history.
So sex history for the ending of our show, we're gonna be talking about the history of the brothel.
Now.
The reason I wanted to do this was because in true easy fashion, gotta have some fun.
Now I didn't.
I'm not gonna say I googled prostitutes Thailand, but I did. And something that kept continuing to come up was not not plaza Now, not not plaza is in Bangkok?
It is Have you been? Because I I just went to the ping pong show. I wasn't looking. A lot of people just went because it's not I'll tell you, okay.
So a lot of when I was telling people, they were like, oh, I went to that too, Like I thought it was just strip clubs. So it's a plaza filled with bars and strip clubs. I would say, it literally looks like a mall, four floors, escalators, like it looks like if it wasn't a strip club, it would be a fucking hot topic or so shit like for real.
Okay, So each strip club has like a theme.
One of them the girls were like kind of super thick blonde hair, almost like American looking. There was another one of lady boys went to bed you already noticed better. Witch is another one where they had like the super wide eyes like anime dolls. Another one where they were just straight bob like very like you went you.
Went or you just looked at it. Oh ya, this looks this sounds cool.
So we go and basically this is how you acquire the plus. So I'm just thinking it's a strip club. Actually, no, I did it. I just thought we was want to pull a bitch out the strip club.
That's what I thought.
We get there and I'm like, we were staying at the w I'm like, I don't really want to bring a bitch back to our room, and he was like, no, I think one of these places will probably have a bed back here, That's what he was saying. Like, I think that's I think these places have rooms because think of the massage followers.
He's like, maybe it'll be a happy ending thing.
Not the case attached to Nanoplaza is a hotel for five hundred bat which is equivalent to about twenty US dollars.
You can get two hours at the hotel. That's that's look. I would say it's sixty.
Fourteen sixty for five hundred five, yes, oh whatever rounded out now, I would say it was equivalent to like a Courtyard Marriotte, not a fucking na like you would think. Okay, so you get into these bars almost every single one of these women has a number on them.
You go in, you know, they're like what you like? What you like? What they're loud? You're like, damn, let me try to get sexy. So you go, you get a drink.
They're rotating on this thing in some of the bars that are bigger, and I would say, maybe it's twenty girls on a spinning fucking pole and they're all going around.
And we're like, ooh, that's pretty. What is that number?
Say thirteen, Like you're really looking. So when you bring the girl down, you can negotiate with her. After negotiating with her, you have to pay a house feed to take them out, which is a thousand bys. So I'm now twenty four.
Yeah, thirty dollars. You can negotiate whatever you want.
Uh.
Basically after that you then take them to the hotel and you do your thing. So when we were outside, I started looking at these other women. It was a lot of African selling pussy outside, which kind of was like wild to me. I was like Niking a thaighland of sale pussy and then women in his jobs and I don't even think they were really Muslim.
I think it was just a fantasy I saw a few I.
Would say a little like like a uk Battye type thing, Ossie, like OnlyFans girls looks. But when we were outside, I'm like, I wonder why they're on a street because when I think of like a street walker, I'm not thinking I'm gonna see people like this one.
You have to be a Thai citizen to sell or to be working in those clubs. I googled it. You have to be a Thai citizen. You have to have no criminal record.
So a lot of these women if they ever went to jail for a week, like you know, real punishable things in Thailand that could be small, you can't work in these industries. So if you ever as a sex worker been you know, soliciting pussy boom, you can't do it.
We talked about this actually at our live show at Sony Hall. Was it Germany or one of these countries. I think Switzerland actually recently past the thing where sex workers can almost have licenses and it provides them with yes, with healthcare, parental leave, and health insurance, which is probably what Thailand is trying to do.
A safer space or prostitution as illegal in th Highland, Well maybe they don't call it prostitution. But right, that's what this is.
Okay, So that's so weird. Okay, so that's what what else I was gonna say. Prostitution is not legal, but even though there's a lot of sex tourism, it's weird, like dial dos are illegal, like it's just mad shit. But anyway, so to get into the oldest profession, the tag of it is actually that old. We say it's the soldiers profession, but it's not. Anthropologists say that prostitution didn't actually seem to exist when there were primitive societies.
There was no sex for sale amongst the Aboriginals of Australia before a white man a wife, Nor was there brothels and societies when there was ancient Egyptian people or tribes and jungles.
Like prostitution seems to be something that we.
Came about when civilization came about, when things had a cost, that's when prostitution became a thing. So when cities and communities became civilized.
And had a structure to follow you that is, don't tell me a bitch was not fucking for some chickens, Like it wasn't like the dollargon exchange. But if it was like, you're not gonna tell me a bitch wasn't fucking for a roof over her?
Well, the first recorded.
Instances of pussy for sale was not a brothel, was not for chicken, it wasn't a temple, and it was a religious ritual.
Oh the church.
Don't be bad you telling everybody that prostitution began in the church Jesus in Sumria Babylonia. Prostitutes were those who had sex for religious ritual, not other type of gain. And sex in the temple was supposed to offer even more special blessings to men and women alike, and there's plenty of that in the Bible, though prostitutes in Jewish scriptures seemed to imply that they would do that in trade for a home, a place to say.
So wow, right, the first actual who.
Was they fucking the past like the leader of the congregation, I don't know, it doesn't say or they were just fucking.
In the church.
Maybe just fucking like listen, let's like manifesting like a sex magic thing. Bro No, they was fucking the leader of the congregation. Okay, like we need to get we said, be sounding a little culty.
We need to get some land. Let's go fuck and build this up, and we gotta fuck the man who owned the land, otherwise we can't get it.
You gotta you gotta fuck the owner of anything to get You gotta fuck a man with money to get money. You got a fucking man with a home to have a home over your head. They was sucking the leader of the church.
The first brothels brothels that were actual proper like rooms in a you know, was ancient Egypt, when where the influence they believe was from Greek travelers. They would later have pharaohs dancing with women and musicians trying to have sex with them in certain spaces, and then boom, they finally created one. When you watch Game of Thrones, I don't know if you ever finished the season. I never
saw got Okay, that's right, you never watched it. In Game of Thrones, you see them going into rooms and women all over the floor and shit.
But I am curious if it started in Egypt.
I wonder if these brothels existed, like when them giants lived, you know, the ones that built the pyramids, Because what if like a giant camel, what giants? You didn't see the giants you mean like a bigfoot thing. No, like there's like giants like so you know, No Nigga was only like six two no no, no, no no. They were giant giants.
Giants going around. You think giants made like giants giants. I don't know what's going around. They was like twelve foot niggas.
What if the twelve foot giants went to the brothel and as a woman like, I wonder if they added text to the because they had to have big dicks.
They were giants.
You haven't seen the giants that build the pyramids. You know what I'm gonna say about adding tax for big dicks?
Though? Where Mandy ate? Low key wrong? Do you know what? Hold on? Wait wait serious?
Ty girl from non A Plaza told my man the last time she had sex with a black Eye, he was too big, too rough. And she didn't even say big in size. She said he was like football. He was just too rough with me until now only Europeans.
Well, being rough is different from being large in size. Why you know what I mean?
Like, unfortunately I didn't change the shame. What happened is unfortunately maybe she had a bad experience.
You know, I've met giants with a black man.
But I will say my homegirl, who used to be an escort, she literally because she would fuck anywhere from like four to six guys in a day, I think six with her max. She literally didn't want to fuck black guys because they mostly had bigger dicks. That's a consensus. They can go longer there, they're stronger, their dicks are bigger. So she was like, bro, if I'm taking six dicks with a black man, I could really only take one. So she's not probably be reading a fuck wanted smaller dick.
But also, you know the couple thing like I mentioned yesterday, I think that also kind of like calms you down as a sex worker.
But we went to this place called Susie Wong's.
It's in Puque and I think it's in Bangkok, and it's this ass spanking bar. They just spank you. They're known for that shit. They don't let you use your phone because I would have been got bad footage. But we were talking to this bitch.
She was fine. She was thirteen thousand by how much is that that was a bad bitch. I'm not even thousand by thirteen times thirty.
Three eighty Oh yeah, because I remember me and him was like how much? Just didn't get everybody else telling a six listen nah but okay, So basically she was telling me she was like really attracted to her man and a lot of the girls were getting excited by him but scared. So I think this girl because it was kind of feeling like a little like offensive. But
she said something to me that made sense. She said, all of the European tourists get so drunk they can't end up sucking you, Okay, they just get wipe boy wasted.
She's like, UK Australia, they paid me all of the money.
I sit there, they do cocaine, they pass out or they're drinking and they can't fuck. And then by that time I'm like, okay, I got my money. I think the niggas be coming in there from New York, like, ay, bitch, you.
Put the honey peg hello, straight from the juice bar, right from the juice.
Bar in bro And they probably talking like America money, I paid you thousand dollars.
Bit you better take a shower way. I'm going prepared, I will say too.
Maybe we'll have to do a part too, because I do want to get into brothels coming not only to of course, we know, uh the Stadtle ranch out in Nevada, which is crazy because that is like prostitution is illegal in the state of Nevada, however not that city.
No no, no, no no, or the opposite, yes or the opposite. I remember I got my prostitution license on sex sales. Yeah, I wonder.
Also, they used to have brothels literally here in Times Square. So I would love to like dig into the history of brothels within America because the rules have always been so anti sex work.
I just want to know how those were even able to be in septicide.
I want to talk about also the religious, like I watched the actually watch this y'all and for when we dig into it next time. There is a documentary on Viceland called Prostitutes of God dev Dosi girls in India and they have sex to feed their families. The money goes to the temple and then goes to their families. Like it's some wild shit, but yeah, I love I just sold pussy for fun. If these stories all over the place.
Anyway, if you want to read our prostitution.
Tales coming to buy no holes Barren, thank you. There's only like two and there we each have one and that's it. You're not getting tails like it's a whole bunch.
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International pus. But you don't want to talk about you want to talk about in America.
Yeah, because I'm okay. I'm outside with this pussy. I'm outside with the pussy anyways, y'all. Thank y'all for much bucking tuning in.
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