Ep 303: Subs, Dommes & Switches (Ft. Daddy Heff & Glamazon Tyomi)

I definitely had to fix my lipstick before coming in heregulation. Wait, I was gonna say, this table ship is like really giving me seven year ago vibes? Yeah, it's four years. Then we had to upgrade it. Yeah we started. We were like, I remember I was there. Yeah, but we guys, if you are listening, we are currently in Vegas because, as you guys know, we are nominated hopefully winners by the time this drops, but we are nominated for an Avian Awards. So we came out here and we got

me working. So she was like, well, let's recording podcasts out there because I don't want anyways. So we're out recording podcast in Vegas and we are joined by some great people which I'm super excited to finally have on the pod. Well, Glamazon Toyomi. We have a friend who has been on the pod a year ago and I just been I appreciate you. You did great in Our Lives show too, did we crushed it? And y'all help

me stop out? And I still don't ride Dick. And then we are joined as well by someone who I just met recently, and I'm super glad that you're out here. At the same time, we have Daddy have Hello, Hello, Hello. Now I have to ask you because I know even we when we met each other, you said daddy does have to be mentioned, Like, yes, I have to call you daddy the whole the whole episode. All right, you

don't want me to call you, do you? If your name is I call you, I can call you we maybe if you got your mama named weasels someone No, but like let me ask. If someone doesn't, do you not respond? That's correct? So, because here's here's the thing, right is that? Say, for example, if you give someone your name, like say say you say your name is Kuana just for the night, if they call you Kuanta, you'd be like, I don't know who Quanta is you

feel disrespected? Now, what about women that have a daddy? Why doesn't? Because here's the thing, You're calling me daddy doesn't mean that you're calling me daddy how right? Right? I feel like daddy though, is much like a sir. Like it's something that's it's like it's giving me giving up power. Right. So if I already have someone that's my domb now I don't. I'm just trying to if I have a domb, right, and then you say call

me that, and I'm like, I can't. Is it like you're just but no, here's the thing you said, what's your name? I said, my name is Daddy health. Right. So so if you are say you are a film dom, right, and your film dom name is Mama Weasy right now, if I'm like, I don't want to call nobody else mama, But it's not. It's not about what you feel. It's

about it's about respects. Respect is If your name is Mama Weasy, I'm gonna call you Mama Weise because that's how you introduce yourself to me, right, hedd that's a hold of you got father half. It's a whole different dude. Wait, there is a guy named father. Here's the thing, right, See, when when I have people who who mess with my shadow side, right, and they'd like to come in and tease a little bit. So they got this from I

have this pastor outfit, right, it's how all right? No excuse me, it's okay, it's a it's a it's a priest and I passed obviously. No, No, I ain't gonna hold you. You You might want to stay past because priests be out here dealing with the little boys. You want to appreciated beyond. Cole thought you was a past because we had that white suit when you lined up all them booties that let's see, like I was telling someone

that's just so scheezy too. Definitely, yeah, it would be the children from Well then, real quick, what has you out here? Uh? In Vegas for a vin Well? This is something I've been wanting to manifest for for a long time. So I was just like, I got the time and I met I'm at the place in mine in my life and my career as far as my business where if I want but there's a trip I need to go to, I'm going to go to it.

I've always wanted to come to to amen. So since was like you come to a vin bro okay, and you do havev yes with you for the people listening, then watch you. So this this is the fantabulous, delicious, selectable, gorgeous, sexy as a motherfucker' the neckd unicorns. I wish you would have brought your unicorn in here though, Like, what do you mean? No, that's how. But she has a unicorn like a little buddy that she carries, so like I'm a unicorn collector. That's how we actually connected because

she's a little of animation. This is pouring weekend. You better all in the sex round? Yeah, okay, ok? Actually then, well real quick, this is something new then we used to back in the day have something called the kink of the week. What is now we've been talking about unicorns in the essence of a woman joining in on a couple and not just plain to them. I called myself and get unicorn because I'm a nudist. I like being naked, and also I was told that my pussy

is magical, So I'm unicorn. This is me and stuffy form. This is my personality. I'm walking around with my personality and the stuffy form. So you both collect unicorns. I collect unicorns because I'm a little, so I do age play. My little is like three four years old. So I've been collecting stuffy since I was a kid. And so when I found out that being a little was a thing and like kink, I was like, oh ship, wow, I didn't know you were a little. I did not

know you was a little. You don't know that I know you know what it is. It's interesting to me women that can be alpha in other spaces. We're gonna get into that because because you're such a dumb I'm surprised that you can tell you only made my mother get on her knees. I would would be a little And so I didn't really know that I was that sound. She just helped my mom a ride dick a yoga ball, that's exactly yeah. And I didn't know if she could

get down, but she got down. I was happy about that. Okay, in real quick, before we give the mic back to daddy, have how long have you been unicorning like in this way? Um? And is there a confusion as well when you explain that your unicorny, Yeah, people always assume that it's the lifestyle term. When I say that I'm a unicorn, I was like, no, it's Lee NICKI unicorn. That's my porn start name. And it's just because your pussy is magical. Yes, okay, I mean I'm a magical lean itself, but she has

her own What are her powers? I gotta ask the people who daddy happens? Hold on, take the mic back. I need to know what what is the powers like? Down there, said down on in the firm, in the famous words of Dave Chappelle Field, Well here now, But here's the thing. Legend has it? Legend? I've heard the legend of that magical pussy. I heard it is like a land of paradise and make believe which I ain't

gonna hold you. I'm about to come in with it with a unicorn horn on my mother head for the rest of the year because I don't want to be powerful too. So I'm a un I do have a question. What's everybody's dynamic in the room. Why are the three of y'all all together here today? Okay? So me and this guy we have a long history. His name in my phone? Can I say his name in my phone?

It's the original name that I met him under So when I first started my blog back in two thousand eleven, he found me and he used to have a radio show on blog talk Radio was every Wednesday, every Wednesday night, and so I would come on right I would come on and do this ex position of the week because on my when I started at glamaratica one on one dot com, every Monday, I would do a sex position

of the week. And so this guy has had so many legendary people who are popping right now on his show in the early days, and that's how we met. We just became super cool. Like T. S. Madison is one of the people that we want the big big bit. Yes, YO met her on his show back in two thousand twelves. So we had an amazing conversation and like like on the air I experienced. I talked about the time when I experienced having a prostate orgasm and getting my prostate milk.

I talked about my process on my radio show, and I would have like certain things about about men's mental health and stuff like that, but most of it was about nasty, nasty, freaky. Oh yeah, go to the was like we'll go back to unicorns. How you got he

got so alright. So here's the thing. A lot of men have issues with that process as they get older because it gets it gets swollen, right, and when it gets swollen, you get you get estrogen and testos around in there and the toxins, and then that's how they get prostate cancer at polos in their prostate. So what happens is when someone actually goes in and stimulates the prostate, the prostate, it massages it and deflects it. This is when Vinny said he made somebody squirt from the But

also this is what I'd be telling y'all sea. So basically, if we just out here fingering niggas budatholes, we could keep them from getting prostate not just h okay, but wait, fucking somebody in the ass can't cure cancer, no no, no, no no no no, I won't cure cass. However, what I don't cure forgetting actual prostate massage, it's given cure alight. What in so he searched me recently found on horrible

decisions from daddy half as you know. I want to ask you though, because with with blackness specifically, they don't want their buoda hole being touched whatsoever? So was it a was Was it a woman that said it's not gonna hurt. Was it a doctor? Was that you going to the doctor and enjoying it for the first time?

So how did you do it? So here's the thing. Yes, when I was a freshman in college early, I was already at an advanced stage, right far as like eat pussy the first time when I was fifteen, Right, so I've been eating pussy Florida. However, you know we would in it. We went in a sexual situation and she said, don't get mad, but I'm gonna lick your boot. I was like, now no, I'm like, I'm like eighteen. I was like, okay, let's see what happens. Oh my god.

And I didn't really understood. I didn't understand what that feeling was. But when she had me hold my legs willingly and she was looking at that, I was like, let me tell you, fellas, listen, let go of that ego and listen. You may need some roots, shock or work. Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something. She would She'll lick you like she'll lick you like a toddler. Let me lick you. Let me lick you come on now, turn around around that girl like your

lover should. I want to know this the age that you got no see, I'm giving you the genesis how you got into yeah right, because I don't because that was just tongued. When did you? When did you graduate to the things? You know? Maybe a few years later? Right? I had, I had, I had a partner and she stuck the tip of her finger in my ass. I'm just like, okay, don't stop now. Can I ask you a question as a don't that? To me is a very submissive thing to do normally, Like even I talked

about pegging all the time. I always feel like the dom and a lot of times the men become my bitch. So because your ass is your manhood a lot of times, especially with black men, how is it dome? Do you even do you switch? Do you consider that being submissive or do you find a way psychologically to still feel like you're a dominant in that position? Well, at that point in time when I'm when I'm opening myself up.

So here's the thing, here's the disclaimer. By me saying this, I'm not saying that I a number one, have been paid for number two like to be paid. Remember that disclaimer. Okay, disclaimer all right. So however, I do know at that moment when I do decide to be I have to trust some one, right, and I could be vulnerable with them, and I know that they're there for my pleasure, right, But I could trust someone enough right that I could just spread my booty cheeks what I'm saying, and and

get get licked like a bang like a velvet. Okay, wait go background blog talk radio. Y'all men, you were doing sex positions and then we just became friends and we just send like this everything going. We went out the rab behold then yeah, we did. I just want to know if you guys don't have sex. We've never know. So this is like my brother. It's funny because that's my girls saying. But a girls say that. But like people get confused because they see us like kiss on

the lips when we greet each other. But that's just how we greet each other. But like we are like a brother and sister, just a lot kinkier and open with our ship. Like we'd be negative around each other and everything. It's just what it is. But we're not blood but blood wouldn't make us any closer, you know, like we've literally grown up in this industry together. So anything that I had an opportunity to be a part of,

I always brought him in. So the industry wise, you're both here for Avien, but you do Exotica a lot now I work for We got nominated and found out because it's a fan DM to me and said she's like, you know, nominated, said, girls, I just got a d M and a fan said, we're nominated. I think I told Adam two. They were not like literally literally we're not aware, and so we were like, well we have to Nobody at Avien don't even reached out to us and let us know that we were comminated. I'm not

surprised they just put you along the flag. We pretty much were just on the promoters. How many horror podcasts they just put them all in and crazy and we did go down the list we are were whenever this drops one of only two black pots even recognized. So shocking,

which I'm not gonna lie to the convention today. I went to the convention today and was able to really like walk around a random people that I knew, like I actually read well, no, I read, I'm not gonna I didn't run into many black people, but I didn't running run into King Nazir, who has been on the pod before. I also run into Adam and and Uh and Uh Lena and then my friends. Then I knew

that we're already working there. But there were not many black people, not many black porn stars either, And I was like, okay, I see, okay, interesting, But I do want to ask you then, because you also have been in attendance the difference between the conventions and what someone may be able to expect at a porn or sex convention. So I work for Exotica as the residents sex expert in some of our coordinator for the show, and I have since seventeen, but even prior to that, Oh yeah,

I've been yeah, my people's um. But prior to that, like actually working for them, I did every Chicago Exotica since twelve have. Yes, I'm like like two years basically basically, I mean twelve years in general in the game like just take the keys, right, you can give me the keys. So there's a strict difference between Exotica and Avien. Avien. It's like the industry show like the big industry show. So a lot of the big production companies are out the big stars who do at the contract work with

like Browsers and bank Bros. And not like exactly all in their signing right, And so it's like the professional show. And then there's the ward show where you know it means something to be nominated for an apien a War because you're recognized by the adult industry. Right. But over the last few years a b N as an organization has pretty much plummeted. And I'm saying it's publicly because everybody knows that it's the truth. So I'm I'm okay

with saying that, but I'm not that information. So it's not it doesn't have anything to do with the only fans and a lot of what there used to be way more people that worked for the organization and be due to internal stuff. Now there's not as much staff. And so you could see, like and everyone was saying it when they came onto the floor and the organization was not the same that it just seemed like it was a a shell of what it used to be.

I don't wonder if it has anything to do with and and we've talked about this on the pot too, especially with um only fans now, porn Hub, all of just the umbrellas of porn has something as well to do with tech now, and there have been a lot of tech layoffs over the last couple of years. And the vanilla ship that I even wanted to bring up is that now in the state of Louisiana, you have to show I D or how to verify your age now to even go on to porn hub dot com

or any adult site. Oh yeah, hold on, the sound the Bible belt. So but don't tell you what I like this? Oh you do like? Hold on, let me read it first. I'm gonna read it because so y'all can understand. So um It is now saying that many may be familiar with the common pop up message that implores people to verify that they're eighteen years or ordered before accessing a porn site. However, in Louisiana, people have to have to begin providing legitimate proof that they're a

legal adult before visiting adult website. The law, dubbed Act four or forty, officially wanted to effect on January one of this year, and it's centered on protecting people under the age of eighteen from quote unquote commercial entities who distribute material harmful to minors. OK, A pornography, Uh, pretty much, you're gonna have to start uploading your passport, your I D or something to even verify yourself before going on

to these sites. Which because I've been really into porn, Lady Only Fans does do that as well in order to even but Only Fans is also like a register for me to pay to watch. So here's my two reasons why I like this, even though I do think it's insane that I have to log in to watch porn.

But I know that in most cases when people are uploading porn or watching like child or anything, we always find out after the fact, right, And they've said a lot of times that when you have um people that get arrested for aggressive sex or violence against women, there's a trend in their porn, And so I do there's always a trend in their porn, like they're watching certain

type of porn. Now. I do love blutak, however I mix it up with lesbian you know what, just that give X murderer no. But if so, if you're like starting to watch really violent ship, maybe you need to be the kids. But I'm curious how this like so for in the in the state of Louisiana, specifically Twitter, I watched so much I was gonna say, what about there's no way that they're gonna be able to like write but the number one and it's the number one site for what's the word when not revenge porn but

like someone didn't give consent. Oh it's consensual, thank you? No, no, no, not that like it talk to me and took a cell phone video of it and uploaded and uploaded. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm actually talking about actual scenes of life consensual. What are what are y'all's thoughts on? Because by the way, when I lived over in in Singapore, when I studied abroad, you had to get a VPN just even access. So a lot of other country, a lot of Asian countries

have stulate ben just to watch. So see this thing that we just went through, the reversal of even pro versus Wade and now this is happening, yes down there in the bodle go, what are y'all thoughts on Louisiana even doing like that? And do you think more more saints followed? And how does that affect this the space. So on one hand, I do appreciate that there has to be another level of verification because you can just say yes, I'm eighteen, and then you're in the sight right,

which doesn't have any true weight to it. So somebody could be fourteen all going on to porn hub just because they clicked I show you the But also, is that the kid's fault? Where's your daddy? But making that's bad? No, But like that's the whole point, and that's why it makes it good because parents can't watch their children seven

and then with technology you have a broader access. So I think it is good that it puts restrictions on there because people get the misconception from watching porn um. They think that that's how it's supposed to be, when it's not real. My point is real, by the way. My issue though, is like y'are doing with that extra information? Though that's somebody's whole like government information. Girl, we clear

they got a look at this. Yes, and but I'm gonna say this though people don't know this, but a lot of the big names are owned by like only a few companies, which I did notice there was an agency room even at the convention. So even like when when I was doing the emails to get us the tickets and stuff, a lot of the response was, oh, well that's normally done through agents. That's normally the agency handle all of that. And but sure it was well it's me and her and wet, which is weird because

if you're nominated, it's just an easy thing. It didn't help to say, well, we're nominated. We were like tickets to the Awards show. But yeah, like a lot of the girls are. And it's weird because that's I would love to have an agent on here to describe the difference between agency and pimping, because it's a lot of that. It's a lot. I ain't gonna hold you. I saw a lot of people. Okay, so it was him. I'm like, damn, I wish I could have just asked one of them

to come on a pot too. It is pilp sitting baby and there and there. You could tell like they just remember we almost had a pimp on the show and then we found out he's beating somebody. Oh yeah, well that's what they do. We have a good timp. It's just crazy. Not I was gonna say that for agencies. I learned a little bit about the business of sex agency. So right now, in today's culture, the volume of money that people are making is from crowdfunding, right, which is

a honi fans are or whatever. So what happens is us just say you're the baddest bitch that can square a million miles an hour. Well, how are we finding You're just a normal person in the world. So much like a talent agency like Mandy and I have w me right, these agencies take a fee to then broaden the spectrum with you. And what happens is because they have relationships with let's say a porn hover you porn or whatever it might be, you then get to be on the front part of a page for exchange and

whatever payola that they do in porn. So that's how the agencies work, and they track from when you started from a quarterly basis, like this is a full time thing. Some of them are taking upwards of depending on if the girl has like no professional corporate But think about it, if I'm just like, let's just say I'm a badass perceptionist that's got a hundred followers, or maybe I have no faith and I wanted to show my toes. How am I gonna get my fucking sexy ass feed up there?

They got agents, but they are agents for everything everything. People have no limits to what they like? Do you have limits? Daddy? Up? Now? How did she say? What what I said? Because you got softer when you do well? You said, it's not like they call me daddy. But okay, so you know it's a It's about voice inflection, right you can be yeah, yeah, yeah, you'd be like, hello ladies. So it's the vibration of the lower tone. You canna make all these bitches puts this we at work period

to adore gonna be like go back to the unicorn, Joe. Now, I did want to ask both of you guys for a hor derve. So our hord derve section is sex tips, um, and I want to start with you, um, Daddy have I would love for you to give a tip for a man who is maybe just being introduced to being a dom in his relationship. What tips would you have

for for beginner doms? Um? Make sure that whoever your partner is, that y'all have a trusting relationship, because if they don't trust you, then they don't think that you can keep them safe or protect them? Right, So it's about trust. So like your your partner can't submit to you. If you want someone to submit, you can't be like you're gonna submit. What does what is keeping someone safe

and protected look like? Just because I'm not going to the to the to the corner, uh club that begins shot up all the time and stuff like that, Like I don't walk around with a bulletproof vest? What does protection and safety look like from a partner? And I think because that's an issue I'm having even in my relationship, Well, I need somebody. I'm gonna let neck Unicorn answer that. Okay, yeah,

there we go. How does that he have keep you safe? Well? Um, we met in through my Madam Cartney um, and we went to what Madame Karmen like with a cave New York Madam No, not New York, Madame car Um with a see. Um we went to what was that space we went to in Atlanta? I'm familiar with the law, Okay, so we went. They did a lot of gay parties there. Now,

I had a horrible experience at the loss. I'm not used to I'm not used to how things happened because we have um Madame Karmen, she has kink nick and our events are always always safe and protected. But anyway, this guy um decided it was okay to grab my ass and right away Dad he helped correcting him because he did not have my com We we actually we met because through my through my dom, we were Oh,

I thought you guys met that night. Sorry, no, no, no, we went to the play party the night that we met. Keeping keeping your partners safe and protected at a play party that absolutely makes sense. That is and if you listened to a Patreon episode, I just had a mirror from both sides of the bed, and we talked about the etiquette of men in sex clubs because I don't think it's talked about enough like that. Rest of all, we can have a whole episode. Yeah, oh no, well

tune into our Patreon Patreon dot com bat slash Horror decisions. Uh, it's just we we had to have the conversation because even in terms of approaching men, or like when men approached me knowing that I come with my partner, like they'll just talk to me and not even acknowledge him, and then I get then it's just a whole bunch Anyways, we talked about it on Patreon. I wanted to come to you for a horder, Taomi, you have been going

off on Twitter, we're calling on phone. This has been period, just like period, and people are just loving it him. But I wanted you to give a tip to the thick girls who have sex and also please also share the myth busting fact, uh that thick girls can't take dick. So I put out a tweet and I was like, rumor has it that big girls can't take dick? Is it's true? Now there were more people that came back and said, it's actually a myth. It depends on the person,

and it depends on the amount of for play. And that's actually ding ding ding the truth. What do you think it stems from? Because like, there's always got anywhere it stands from. So, because as I already have the answer, what I'm doing is just generating public discourse that people talk about it. Right, So, after I let the twee go off for like twenty four to forty eight hours, I said, all right, I've had enough of this. Let

me tell you what. Sure, Okay, I'm curious, Yeah, I can't understand why somebody would say that either, I'm like that, people say, oh, skinny girls take dick all time, I'm like, what is it stamina? No, it's the perception that if you are in a larger body, you need farmer or harder handling, and it's not true. And so you have more cushions, you have couions. Yes, they're being rougher with us because they assume that our bodies have to be treated that way because of what the outside looks like.

But it's like, it's still vagina. Still, I still has a bottom, a k A the serving, So what are you doing? And if we're not warmed up, just like skinny girls, we're not going to be able to receive the full dick we need for a play. We need to be treated with safety. Safety looks like whatever a person says they need to feel comfortable in a situation, and everybody has a different level of what that looks like. And literally men were saying that women were saying that

thick girls was like, I don't know about job. What over here I'm taking dick? I said, yeah, me too, And I personally go into my my situation is with lovers, like, hey, let me guide you into how to open me up before you try to go to Poundtown. You can't go to Poundtown out of the gate. Even if I get on top out of the gate. I've warmed been warmed up to a certain a point where I can sit on the dick and it's comfortable. So the myth is

just And one guy said it in the threat. He was like, I think the myth just comes from like one time there was a guy who just wants to rush into it. And he assumed because he was rushing in that all thick chicks can't take dick because he didn't take the proper time to actually right, No, it wasn't one. It was Emile. It was. But you know, they literally do feel like and I mean I've been thinking who exactly so I know, but yeah, they definitely come in I guess wanting to come in so hot

and relax. It's like I ain't even warmed up yet exactly, like nig is getting so excited because yeah, yeah, but I mean yes, I can attach to that too. It's like but but dog like, right, you like all of that, but relaxed like And sometimes I think that they they think their erections are going to disappear, so as soon as an erection is. There's like times sometimes I disappear

in my thighs, maybe sucking my flishy. Maybe if if between my dogs, I'd be like, so you're not yet sad for one maybe the one for me is the little cushion between my thigh and knee, Like wait, what you don't get there and been your leg and have guys like for fun, Like they don't think it's start fun, but it feels do they spit there first? How does it get what? I mean? My moneys be sweating money if you but the guys, yes that you got take guys and they stay together. It's just like they'd be

rubbing and they're not in but yeah, moistneezy. And now wait, you kept talking about being warmed up. Would love to know because I mean, yes, you did give us for a different fence. What is your favorite way to get warmed up? I'm an intellectual, so I'll stimulating conversations. I'm saying, well, not even read a book, but like I like to debate about ship like hip hop. You know, if you talk to me about like backs to hip hop and ship, but also like I like to be touched, so outside

of like the mental simulation of body. They in the body of knowing how to grip, knowing how to grip me up, knowing how to touch me. I don't like I I enjoy touch, but from the right person. So if I give you consent, please explore my body. I got body like I need you to like cuff my booty in a certain ways. I need you to get all around, like the thickness of my thighs. And they like to be choked, you know, like play with my neck.

And I got choked, yo, Yo, the best thing to happen to me so far yesterday, Yes it was your brain went right back, yo. Yeah, I got choked out on the couch. I was like, I remember this as I went fading to black, um, not as you were fading stought before I got that. How much do you like to be choked until you're like I like to be challenged to the point to see like how far can I go before I pass out? But I only

do that with partners that I trust. And this is my partner's absolutely not I. I have to monitor it because a lot of guys like they think they know, but they really don't have to train them in the moment and then give safe wirsts and stuff. This partner is somebody I've known since like so he knows me, he knows my body, and we hadne each other in years. But he it was like clockwork, like just jumping right back in. He knew how to do it the right

amount of pressure. He has big hands. Oh my god. Yeah, so that in itself choked. I like big hand being choked. Big big men big. You know, if you give me a skinnynigger with a big dick, I'll take that too. I had a threat about that ship too, I used to I gotta say the skinniest I told I said this maybe on Patreon. Bro. I had to work with Whisky for recently, and Mandy has been talking about her for years. You see that. I'll tell you that nigga looks so good me. There was a day this game

this woman couldn't even concentrate. Bro, that's how fine he was. I took a picture with Wiz I know what says, Night Say, and she was like, why y'all I go out of Yeah. I hit her because I don't even want to see nobody take pictures with him. I kept I was acting like a p a Okay, I was the producer on time. Would you like that? I ain't seen it, I just knows, but I would love to be walking funny after that. Well, I wanted to make sure we got to our horrible decision. Daddy help, I'm

going to ask you some questions. Of course, so we've gotten into I mean clearly you being milked and everything else, but I wanted to really get into I met you and your um, but especially with you being here, tell on me. I thought that it was right because you identify as a switch. I want to confirm you are

only a dom. You are not a switch? Correct? Well, I mostly a dom, but sometimes I will switch and then so with that, can you explain not only switching, but I want to talk about if there is a difference in rolls and genders within being a dom or a sub like what that looks like from a man's perspective, and if it changes across genders or not. I know how we show up as submissive because we're women. I know me as a dom. Everyone only assumes I'm a

dom when I'm peggan a nigger. But there's other ways, even vocally right, But I want to know, like if there is clear distinctions with the roles and genders between dom's subs um In my opinion, just I think it's sort of gender fluid, okay with with you know, dominant submissive is very like it's a very beautiful, fragile space.

So it's not like men are more dominant. Some some men, even though they appear dominant, are really very submissive, very right, but they don't they don't feel they don't feel safe enough for trust anyone else who they could be submissive to. Right and well, and I've said that I do feel like, well,

a lot of women don't create that safe space. Um. I say that to my homegirls a lot, because when I do experience the things I experienced sexually, maybe like, damn girl, how you be finding all the same type of niggas that's in the same type of ship and you don't like I don't find them it's that or or it's I've allowed them the space for us to

do these things. And I'm like, you probably have either said in conversations something to let men know that you would judge them in certain it's like this right for example, talking about Peggy. Right. I think there's probably two ways women are doing it like if you're talking about horrible decisions. Oh my god. So I was listening a horrible decision today and Mandy was saying how she pegg did you

ever been bad? Or you're like okay? So I thought it was really kinky because Mandy did would you be done to try that? Like when you're already putting something down. Yep. You gotta remember even if men are curious, they don't want to show up for you and they're not the dominant man. And mind you, we've said so many times. I think someone said on the show the key to masculinity isn't in your asshole. But at the same time, when hearing a tone like that, I would I've had

a nick as one you had an abortion. No, does not have listened you Almost the things you could be proud of us we never even know because when you hear that, you're like because because think about it this way, right, it's the same same way where if a woman squirts for the first time, that's the guy's first time experience and he will shame her and and and she won't do it again because she associates squirting with shame with

a partner, Right, So it's the same thing women. Right, Well, I'm assuming, but I'm really thinks I'm just speaking about myself. Is that once again, you have to trust the person. You have to trust that you're not gonna attract somebody who's gonna be who who makes you feel that they're gonna tell your business. So here's here's the thing that I gave this advice to someone I was associated with a while ago, and I said, listen, it's I hear around town too much that you like to get paid, like,

don't let everybody pick dog. I told him that. I said, man, listen, you gotta be you have to be very discerning about your actions, all right, Like you can't just be like, oh, that's the that's the pagan guy. I just get in good with him, and unless he wants, I feel like he is the pagan guy. And I feel like, I know you're talking about the pagan guy he had on the show. Maybe it is maybe it isn't having someone else some people want to be at some people. But

but that's what that's what I'm saying. So like you just have to establish those different roles and as far as dominant. So like me personally, like I have to really trust you to the fact that I would just like bend over and allow you to just go to work on me spanking me. Now, I want to know, do you have to trust someone to dominate them? Like you have to trust yourself, but that there's a level

of trust. First of all, I trust myself, right, and when say, when neck Unicorn trust me, then I know at that point in time if she trust me, that's all that matters. Because but I'm also trusting that she's not gonna do anything crazy, especially if I'm doing have like knife player something, I have a knife afternoon. We got to try to safety go Wait a second, So, Nifela, how do you introduce that you're into that is their blood happening to explain NiFe fla and so this and

y'all are if y'all are y'all listening? These are black people. Uh here, let's get into it because that's interesting. A right, so ARCOI like, so here's the thing. Wow, I don't think they make nives But all right, I was all right, that's a I just thought a murder. Sorry wait, Swiss army like or like or not like a big like a big chef what like like like Michael Myers, like the kind of big eyes like that, or you can use the sex nice right, No, I don't. I don't

think there's a sex thing sex sex sex candles. That wasn't a dumb questions like it's not done every like like a sex knife can be like play though almost it could look it could look like a really no, I'm just really okay. I want to know how you introduce all right. So so here's the thing. So you have to ask okay with saying the clothes mouth don't get fed, right, here's the thing. Yeah, how do you know you want that? Well, let me let me explain

this to you. All right, So when you go through the things of what's your hard limits and your soft limits, what are you open to? This is when negotiation, right, So like give it for example, like this riding crop here, like it's nice and leathery here, but on this end it has little spikes. Okay. So the thing is, even though I want to use it on you, I have to say, Mandy, don't have your cent to use this. That's the negotiation. And if you touch you said can

I touch it? That help? I say, sure, touch it? If you say no, then I take it away. But if you say it's not me personally, I told you I really want to use it on you. But if you tell me no, but I gotta respect that, So I put it away, right, pull things away. So it's about it's you always have to ask for us with the knife. The knife has to be something where like you're like, oh, I would try that. You gotta be you gotta be adventurous, right what you were just cutting

some tomatoes and was like, can I stab you? Usually where he does his like his sessions, right, all of his tools are laid out a nice right. Okay, now this is well what's that about? So? I remember my first time when knife play was with King New War. Okay it was at Exotica at that because King to War and just he's the mess of everything. Yes, doesn't do anything wrong. We not, I don't think something, but but we negotiated this scene prior to going on stage

at Exotica, like a week before. He said I want to do knife play with you. Are you open to that? Because he already had a list of like my soft Heart and Maybes right knife that was like a maybe? So I was like, well, what kind of life you're using, he explained, I don't think it would so he so I said, okay, yes. Now the day of the performance, he said, hey, time my knife got taken from me at t s A. So I had to go by another one. It's not my normal knife, but it's what

it looks like. Are you with it? It had like a little knob on it. I was like, okay, I trust you. Yes. Now he told me where a fish net like a body stocking. During the performance, the little knob kept getting stuck and he was dragging the knife across my body to cut off the stocking. I was shook, I'll froze, but I trusted him. So we're on stage, it's a performance. I gotta keep my face together and still be sexy. They're like on the low threat, like I ain't trying to tap out, but to do it.

You know. It's so for me. I was like, whoa, it's everybody experience. I don't know if I will try again anytime soon, but I do. Like when knife player is used with wax play, so the nicest and you're not cutting because you talked about the fishnets, so nice player is cutting clothes. You can cut clothes off what is that place? So you're getting no blood. Blood If if you're in the blood play, in your bottom is

in the blood play, there's then there's blood. Right, But if you're not basically the knife you just so it's just grazing across the skin. Now you would feel the sensation of the edge of the knife on your skin right and to the point where you could where you where you could where where you could use the point of the knife. Now, because we are black, were black one, you say we're not doing the blood because honestly, if someone told me knife play, I probably wouldn't guess that

there was no blood in it. I thought that there was blood and bad I didn't hear that. I didn't hear dash they want that for knife plate instead, he'll use a credit card if they're blindfolded, like saying he would show them the knives, but to feel it, he would only use like that, he would do credit cards. I mean, I guess it depends on how hard you want to go, because for a person who likes to play hard, knife play is like on the hardest side of things. Yeah it is. Now, I'm personally not a

blood play person. It's a lot with a lot of safety protocol that goes with that that I'm just not willing to do. But also I like my skin. I'm saying I only want I only want you, right, that's stuff to bleed outside. I've only heard of one black person doing blood plain and it was Orlando. Oh yeah, and it was I. I met a dom, a black dom at fat Con in sixteen who was straight needling it on the con floor and I was just like, god, damn, I ain't never seen like the first time I see. Yeah,

like needles, she have you done? That was pulling blood? That's not true? Yeah, that's a hard No. I have a phobia of needles, Like even when I'm gonna get tested, I'd be about to pass out when I get tested and maybe saying stuff like how do you have sex? Stuff? Right? Like needles for me? No, but not a knife for me because like I'm really, I'm really, I'm a very central dom. So for me, like I'm all about it's

about sensation taking the mind. Some were blindfolding everywhere. So like, well, the way I flogged, the way I use all my impact in a way a hands bank is very sensual. So for me, like you know, I'm big. I'm a big feeling already, right, So so like I was always a big kung food like person. So come right. But but but like like different movements like this, like learning tai chi and stuff like this. So basically the knife, it's all it's all like a tai chi move like energy. Yeah.

So so basically when I when I do B D S and play, everything is about energy. So that's why. Look they're worried about what's on TV. Now Karate Kid a karate kid like everything de turned like example, which example, here we go, here we go, Man, excuse me, may I person slept? This is my person slept? What I going to call me that? Alright? So here's the thing, right, so we're gonna talk about choking a little bit. All right, So holdng a, you're doing a demo. It's an audio

experience now. Now Black Effect pays us for the audio, but I want to show you what happens, right, So I'm big into energy. Right. It's all about the touch right as time we was talking about about the touch. Okay, it's giving meditation all that, right, because we're working on this hard space too, right, and then we could tap up here right to release some things, okay, yes, and then we can go in here like this squeeze a little bit, bleep out the titty, the ariola showing you remember,

m hmmm, they're gonna hey, does that work? You'll yellow Daddy Hills. That was yellow. That's what she said. Yellow. Yellow means okay, right, yes, yellow me slow down? Well that was hot. Wait, you got very exciting. I was, although you were the thing to what I looked at you a few times and you were getting super side. It's obvious. And you know, it's nice to see that because I've definitely been in the presence of doms that think they have to keep that face on just so hard.

And it's like nice to see us the act. Yeah, it is, and sometimes that act kind of makes me not buy into it, right, it feels like just complete pat performative, and so I appreciate that. And so like I'm a I'm an exhibitionist, like I like like even going to like like we know y'all go to a resort, y'all, So you like to be watched? Okay, well great, because I'm going out tonight to watch and so and so you want to join us, girl, you ain't gonna you don't be wanting to go. You're not coming to the

play party anyway? Are you h p that we're party happen? You know how we're by a happening? We we we were right, that's right. So I'm going people isn't like hotel room? Yeah? Just well, I I mean, yeah, I don't know either. I don't wait before we go, before we leave to uh, just because you're here, I did want to know. I've recently shared a list of sex clubs, um and because we're in Vegas, have either of y'all been to the Green Door? Is that what it is

that you've never been to Green Door? I can't think about the one that I went to, but but the one that we went to, Madam was assaulted there. But yeah, I saw that on Twitter. Is that out here? But it was out here? Okay, So it was the way that they handle it. I can't even think of the name of it. I'm gonna find it. But the way that they handle her being assaulted did not put it

on Twitter. I know, like more people are trying to venture into these spaces, and I've been absolutely lucky, I know, to experience the play parties how I have, especially in New York UM, but I know it's different everywhere, and so definitely want to make sure that we continue to share the safe spaces to go to and especially especially for us UM. And then maybe if you guys can share, if you guys have groups, I know that there's groups as well for people to be vetted and joined to

come to the type of parties. Yeah, we like that. We like the vet Yeah, we just don't invite anybody. Everybody come in, Like we gotta see what you look like your social media and follow instructions. That's the moment. That's the main thing. It's like if there is a vetting form and we say feel out everything, and you'll feel out everything. But one thing, you're not coming because you're not following instructions. If you can't follow simple instructions,

and how can we trust you to actually abide by consent? Right, So people don't understand that. And like with me being a switch, right, being both dominant and submissive. Right, I'm dominant when I have to control things when I'm like on to host, to care of people. And then in my personal life, like there's partners that I both dom

and sub for. It depends on the dynamic of our relationship, right, and if I trust them with my safety because I don't just switch for anybody, right, I'm not gonna see that's the missive side of me unless I rushed you. And so people are like, I know you were a kitten. I didn't know you were a little what didn't know you were whatever? It's like, yeah, you wouldn't know that because you're not in that space. But you don't deserve to see me like that. Well, y'all, we are sitting

here with a father, a unicorn, and a kidden. Yes, how man, bless you my child with the right y'all. This my ass, my ass was read for like you made me lick a shoe. Bit I was at the roots and I you made people chance. Oh you know I ain't pussy, so I'm gonna do it. But now I didn't go work ship to see you use a wrong word. Now I'm not work. Mandy is so hard with this paddle that she said sorry, it hurts so bad for y'all week. I'm just so glad we got

to do this while in Vagas. Please please please let all of our listeners know where they can follow you, find you and if you have anything coming up, parties of lessons, of classes, all the things. Yes, you can find me on I'm at Real Glamazon Tyomi and on Twitter where we have public discourse about sex. At Glamazon Tommy type it in because they have me shuttle band

or something. That's just how it is exactly. And if you're trying to learn how to ride, but also as a woman, feel better about your body and like just more embodied. Look how Girl Workout dot com. We are online you can work out from the comfort of your own home and it's I about a five version y'all. So I have people with like disabilities who are also in my tribe, and I make sure that as people come into my containers that I accommodate them as much

as possible. To have been working on like new methods just to make sure everybody feels like they can keep up at their own pace. And I'm launching the Pleasure Academy dot com, which is my teaching platform and um I will be touring with the Exotica Expo all year again residents sex person and our coordinator. So if you are an educator and you're listening to the show and you want to be considered to teach. Go to Exotical Expo dot com. Fill out our form. I will have

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bringing our entire production to London. This is not going to be something that you maybe haven't seen on Instagram. This is just like our real show that we've been doing for years. So we're so excited to bring it to get ready to go across the water. We have been international, which we did Toronto, well in Mexico and Toomazao we did. We did when it was that was we didn't make Oh we did, but not a listen as someone who has the multiple shows in London, Flex

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