Ep 290: Not Brain Damage From A Cheater

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you know, Hey, welcome should have been from Florida. Actually it births the dumbest niggas. It should have been from there, both from there. That's not true. And I ain't gonna hold you fall y'all watching Kanye is actually from Chicago, and Chicago and Detroit birth some of the best tricks, the most generous men. You would think they were from Nigeria. Them two motherfucking cities have some good as think from Nia. Don't don't do this edit. We're not gonna start this

ship off Lego Illinois. Um, y'all. We had a we have solely a solo episode because Mandy foundy guests that wanted to charge. Oh bitch, let me go ahead and talk about that real quick. So we he had a guest I was supposed to come on. I would not give him the name because at this point you did not get he can't get credit off our show. Rico Hondo charges people to be their podcast guest. There we go and I don't know why he's a part of a show that's not really a podcast but more of

a a YouTube thing. And we sat and he was I was like, you know, you should come on similar content. Not really, they're a little bit more ignorant on the platform that he's on, and he was like, yeah, let's do it. So he confirmed what two or three weeks ago, where did you find this guest? Uh, he's a friend of a friend. Met him at a dinner party. Um, and I had already always just been like, I don't really like what he says, so I thought it would

make for great content. It would probably boost his social visibility to be on our show, of course, and on the like, literally five days before we recorded today, I was like, hey, can I get your email just so I could send you the time, the location, let us know if you have any questions or if anything arises. He was like, yeah, here's my email. Oh we didn't talk my rate. And I said you're right. I said, you're right, You're right for what to come on our podcast.

And I was just like, okay, I wanted to talk a little bit to the creatives. I wanted to talk to people who were coming too, and I actually like Savan. But remember he did that to Brianda, and I think that charging is a very weird thing. I mean, eventually she went on. I think they talked about it, but I was gonna say, did here's the thing too, though he's coming on as a guest for a personality at

the time, was she specifically going on? Because I do want to break down we have gotten hit up by the likes of a Doc Johnson above other corporations, companies who wanted to come on and specifically do a whole episode where we talked about their products, their content. We've had authors only want to come on to promote their books. So when we've gotten emails for guests to come on to promote things that they were doing, we were like, well, you can sponsor this episode if this is the narrative

that you want to do. I think that I think books, music, movie products, TV products is something different to me and I actually we let people come on and talk about

their products. But when we reason, I'm saying, when like and when a company wants to come and promote um to me, the point in podcasting, especially when you're at the point where I mean, right, we've been doing it for years and we have a lot of audio listens to, which is generally the audience that purchases right, right, I don't think it's fair to charge just the girl that made a new pussy steam thing, you know, what I'm saying, like, agreed,

we're black girls that fucking started podcast. We promote our ship, like I think it's only fair to cross promote. When a major company that does pay for advertisement wants to come on, that's when I'm like, hell no, that dating app I used to even featured and sex cells and might save the email for them to come on. I'm like, yeah, you already did this, Like you should not be doing a podcast. We don't want to interview a CEO about

starting a dating app. I don't care. Yeah, ask dating app, No City Girls, Freddy Gibbs, Cleopatra, I'm sorry, Bro, Timmy UM. A lot of the celebrities UM or influencers that would Carty hit us the timing just didn't want Carty wasn't going to charge us to even come on the pods. So like the fact that he hit me up like well, here's my rate, I was like, you know what, why would Cardi charge to go on a podcast? We're good,

that's good, but we're good. But that's where it's just like, also, this isn't like a pod with a hundred listens, Like you're getting equity and some sort of benefit from coming on the show. Everyone who has been on this show has sent us thanks, have invited us to things, and they're shown gratitude because uh them coming on the show has either exalted or or uplifted or grown their personal brand, whatever products they had, whatever services they had, whether it

be in the sex space, whether it be something. Let me be clear too, because I'm sure he's thinking this or anyone's thinking this. Hey, that the table is a big not bigger than us. They're not biggeran us, but they're a big like clickbait brand right social. But although he gets paid his talent, he doesn't own I P and that he has a town. Well no, no, hear me. I think that people think when you're seeing clips of maybe let's just say a hundred thousand people or a

million people watched the clip. You know, we've been doing this so long because there is a turnover rate. I don't know, if you know a lot of people, they get millions of views, just like we knew from going to the roots. Picnic can draw out crowds or do live shore or do fucking movie live tours, or do movies and TV and ship like that. Like there is a different level to one longevity and to having an actual cult like following. So I think that sometimes people

get shipped fucked up. Our fans are very dedicated, which is why they'll call out an episode about the City Girls, because they're like, we come to this show for real sex talk, right, And I think people probably get that inflated with like social TikTok that era of like there's just we're on content overload, and so people think those numbers me and something, and in actuality they kind of don't. Right. You've got to have people in the game who have

been doing this. We are able to host an interview in order to turn money. But that TikTok ship, it really doesn't mean ship. And that's exactly why you know, I have, um some podcasters that will come in here and ask, like, I got a person coming on that's got five million followers. That doesn't necessarily mean that you're gonna have five million people listen to their show, especially

um in terms of how it translates to audio. And while someone may have five thousand or five million followers for their skits on their social media, doesn't mean anyone wants to hear them the interview setting. Right. It's the same with um celebrities that are now starting these podcasts, and all these networks think, oh, let's get a big name and it's gonna be a hit off the park. You know, just because people like this person's music doesn't mean they want to hear them talk. Doesn't mean they

want to hear their opinion on things. And we started this guddamn podcast off with motherfucking Kanye, and y'all know, I don't really like her, but yes, Amanda Steals at a point, y'all are still leaning on it ow a and and whatever the funk else he had uh graduation and and whatever the funk else for Kanye where it's just like, nah, even for what he's transcended in that space, it doesn't necessarily mean people want to hear him talk. And guess what, now we're hearing him talking. We want

him to shut the funk up. We don't want him to wear a TA, we don't even want him to close. At this point, he annoys us with everything he fucking does. And so in terms of podcasting, you guys really like, I don't know, this whole ship didn't change a little bit. I didn't have a whole meeting today to the whole

landscape is changing. But y'all thinking that you have the wherewithal to charge people to be guests on podcasts if you are an upcoming podcast, we then and I have never charged for any smaller podcast to be guests on. We have never given a rate to any guests who have come on our pod to be a part of our pod. You had someone ask you how much? Like I've had people asked me that, and I'm always like I would. I feel like, hey, how much is it? You know, if you want to come on my podcasts,

we want you to come on. We're gonna have you come on if we don't know, no, no, I mean when people ask me to be a guest, I've definitely had ship. Even when Fresh and Fit hit me up a minute ago, They're like, okay, we'll do flight this and that. I was like, well that's to get you there. I've offered for sure, depending on the guests Uber rides, Yeah, especially if they're not from New York. Okay, but I make sure your cars and I ain't gonna hold you. That's more so, so need to show up all time.

I'll be like, well, I'll get your car service. Like no, worries. It's it maybe four or fifty dollars if they're coming from the city to come to us. So we have offered car rides to people. But that's for me to make sure you on show. But here's also why a CARDI B wouldn't be charging right or and who we didn't ask for. Uh, it's because this is a new form of press. Like it is, we're like radio radio.

I mean, it's better than radio because you have a place to actually sink and listen and you get something wrong. One of the podcasts we're making at my job. Um, literally, I asked the dude, like, do you want to be laughed up? Like can I am athlete vibe? Or do you want Mike's in front of your face? And he's like, nah, Like I can't. I want the Mike in my face. I want the real podcast field. I don't want to like turn it into you know, Karsia Please is a

YouTube show. But I mean, and while it's great interviews, I'm just saying like, it's almost like people are just calling it a podcast because they know that they're popular, and I want to also because they're they're on all podcast feeds. That's the thing too, like you can call yourself a podcast when you're available. We're all podcasts lit and they specifically also have the audio to where at

least it's great to hear audibly. So Revolt actually is doing a good job where maybe we see it more than YouTube show because we want to watch it and it's shot beautifully like an iron athlete. At least they pay attention to audio. Um. As far as Presco's uh, I think that, you know, people have to understand pr agents have like literally been out reaching for podcasts because

it is the place to go. Whereas magazines and different things and articles are sure cool, more visibility comes from podcasting, and we are in a whole new era where if anyone's listening, that's a podcaster. Like your ship is really the key to people getting their ship out there. So never feel like for a moment when you reach out, even if it's me, reach out to someone that you want to be on your podcast, like you're inconveniencing them.

People should be grateful to be on any platform, you know, I really think that sometimes we get to up our own asks with ship um and if you broke just say it, why else are you asking me compensate to go on a platform that can possibly indirectly bring you more visit, that could lead to more deals, that could lead to more monetization you wanted. I don't know what what then is right is because as soon as he said we didn't discuss rights, I said, Blessed, Beloved, no worries.

Maybe he just we're fine, We're fine, We're fine, don't even worry about it, blessed under his eye, under his eye, nigga funk out of here before. Also, and I do know people pay to be on Joe Rogan. He's the number one fucking podcasts like I Gotta Eat. There's a there's a price that he charged for people. But he also drops four pieces of content a week. But you could like it's like fifteen or something like that. It's

it's something, it's something kind of crazy. Yeah, okay, But maybe that's the way he monetizes how we got Patrear. Maybe that's how he monetizes outside of that Spotify deal, you know what I mean? Like the way Black Effect allows us to tour, allows us to do marchalized. If you know somebody on Black Charge and I want to know Beach oh, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know if any want black effect is charging Oh not. I think it's the white it's very low brow. I

think it's just the white. The whites have that. I mean, the views that the whites are getting are out of this world. So maybe that's why, like you know, to me, if you have a company or a business, that's a part of your marketing budget. About the Spotify dinner that we were supposed to go to, like, so it was really nice. Um, Mandy and I got an email. It

was in l A, so she wasn't there at the time. Um, but there was just like Spotify dinner and it was like all their top podcasters And when I walked in, I saw a black girl and I just naturally went to go speak to her. And of course it was the person who invited us. Uh. But it was a really nice event. And um, I was the only black podcaster there. There was a black Asian podcast. I guess they count, but um, it was nuts, bro because when I was in the room, you know, we're just really

like in a different world. People almost didn't believe my numbers because they've never heard of me. But like white black shit really be separated, you know, And it's like crazy because to be honest, I don't sucking me either. Keep I don't talk to white people. I mean I don't listen to you know, I don't do much with white people, but I do like to make money with them. So you have checks for me, please bring it that away.

But it's like the time I go to another episode at my ears, they but I mean, white people are in the majority of this country, right, Okay, they hey listening to us and the inn word, they'd like, you don't like they don't believe me and not gonna stop.

We don't. But I didn't realize how big white podcasters are until they started going to the studio and I was like it, did you know, dear media, Like they've got so many white podcasts, right, and so like you know, like one of the engineers gon like, hey, have you heard that? And I'm like no, And who was it you said? Kanye was on being here with one of the girls. Oh, Tiana, there's some podcaster in here who

has relationship with Kanye's about to interview him. And I'm good, it doesn't I never had this bitch of my life. How what white and of course he would have been on that one. But like the the access by Lives Matter, like literally it was there is a whole another world of podcasting that we don't know about. And it's funny because, like Loki, I'm in this bubble and I feel like I will live and thrive in this bubble forever and

I don't mind it. Like, you know, when I was at the Spotify dinner, I remember saying, which is ironic because Joe Budden was the first podcast to launch, which is a black podcast considerably, but you know, I was sitting there and they were like kind of digging and know who I was with them bla blah blah, and I'm like lack effect, like literally the network that came with a decent bag because y'all weren't like you were.

I wasn't on your radar, right. The fact that there were other podcasters there's with maybe likeent of the views

we have in deals. It's just interesting because literally fashion bloggers were a girl that's like talking about travel, and with no audience, they'll develop talent, you know, And I don't even know if it's Spotify's fault more than that's already their demos so maybe they need to feed it like it's weird, and it's really just when you need to have more black people in the room at the end of the day, Like that's literally what it is, because how will they ever know about horrible decisions unless

that happens, you know what I'm saying. I think we've got to make sure we are applying for them jobs and be the diversity, not be the token. Well, speaking of be the token, um, we're gonna get into our vanilla ship that does stem from a white woman. Um. However,

I did some further research and it's quite interesting. So a couple of weeks ago, you guys may have seen Chloe that the kardashian Um trending because she decided to let everyone know um in her attempt to make this black man because you know, black men don't cheat, y'all right. By the way, sorry, just hate the narrative that she's just trying to demise of this black man, as if this man did not fully show his ass and embarrass her. Yes, oh, bro, multiple occasion, the fact that I got a side with

a white woman. It's bad. It's bad. Why are you making a side with the whites anyway? But we should remind them why so, like Tristan has already had a woman pregnant when Chloe they met out a wedding. Yes, when Chloe took Jordan's took took him from a black woman. What do you need Jordan's Jordan is the first baby, mama. Oh sorry, Jordan is the first baby, not not the

other Jordan that he also uh flirted with. That was Kylie's. Okay, that's it confused, It's too Jordan's, bitch, Nikka, just Michael Jordan, Jordan. I don't know nigga like Jordan's. You know, maybe he wear him on a speed to once tools twenty is whatever. The whole line, how hard did the Jordan's go up? Because he prob that's how much she likes Jordan's because nobody wears those. Um But basically, Chloe went to UM. On the most recent season of The Kardashians, which is

on Hulu. UM, she shares that she uh Tristan cheating calls her brain trauma. She goes as far as to say she she has medical Oh that's why I brought it up, bitch. That's why I brought it up because I did the further research because I was like, not you storing me. So Chlorie Kardashian was torn up over uh Tristan Thompson's cheating scandal, but has medical proof that

it has messed with her brain. Dr Daniel Amen was that be ready for was at the ready for a scientific stunt for the Kardashians Hulu show to show there's medical proof she was experiencing brain trauma, presumably from the scandal. I did further research, um, and I want to pull this up. This is from medium dot com um and it links actually back to another article. I don't know who wrote article, but basically it is science says this

is what cheating does to your brain. And I wanted to bring up because clearly Uh Wheezy has said that old Bay is debt to her, but in what you've been feeling, even and not even wanting to be friends with him, cheating pushes your brain into PTSD territory. So well taught them. So infidelity can unmask pre existing or non existing problems that have been masked by the relationships,

continued presence justice with PTSD. Cheating contrigger can trigger symptoms that linger in your life, flashbacks, nightmares, and obsessive thoughts about the situation are some of the most frequent systems. Uh, frequent symptoms. I'm sorry. UM. It says that a study here we go, this is an opinion based. It's study based, which is scientifical hypothesis. I don't, um so the study involved.

The study did involve nearly sixty four thousand. This is the subject pool men and women of all sexual identities. Um and pretty much it said, hold on because here we go. Consistent with this evolutionary perspective, heterosexual men were more likely than heterosexual women to be upset by sexual infidelity, which we know because men have an issue with egos um. It also says that it could lead to anxiety, loss

of sleep. Um, hold on, let me. There's like a whole list of where it literally affects, like your whole thing. It also takes away from brain carnage. Cheating is not just an emotional fair it's a physical one. When you cheat, your brain actually lights up in the same regions as

when you feel physical pain. The woman who has cheated on can sometimes leave the experience with higher mating intelligence, which led to you experiencing the trauma of not further trusting someone not wanting to be an intimate relationship because it completely triggers all of those physical aspects. And um, it also just says it completely affect the brain. There we got and where you were even trying to hold up platonic relationship. Maybe you didn't know what abuse he

had put in terms of his cheating led to your brain. Signally, here's the thing, Like I dated and a good person that has a sex addiction, basically right, like old Bay was not someone to yell get angry. He wasn't really

even insecure like that. He makes little comments when he knew my type walked around the spot, but like he was a decent boyfriend except for the fact that he liked to funk any white person that walked I. UM, I think the you know, the brain thing was like it was funny to read at first, but at the end of the day, like absolutely, I can't even walk down certain streets in New York without getting anxiety or having certain memories ship I was that was it gold room,

And so the other nar TYPEK or whatever went there the other night literally sat down and remembered a moment where I got a text message from him that wasn't meant for me, and I was sitting in the same place and it ruined my night and I went home. I was like, fuck, like, how do I get rid of this nigga off of my brain? The only weird thing is normally when I get this email about ship, I want the person back. I go, hold you, bro a, you're walking around with CT and don't even know it's

given c F hey speaking of a millowship. I don't have my dick out at the pool. What the fund is wrong with Antonio Brown? You know it's for no one that there is. I mean they saw that. I was like, no, no, no, But like for for those of you who may not have sne I'm gonna describe this video. We're watching Antonio Brown in the pool and Dubai, who is like not only like touching his dick then jumping on a woman like dick first asked out. She

looks so uncomfortable. There's guys cheering him on in the back saying that he's water boarding her, making it clearly horny. Because I was just looking at how big that blur was, Like God damn, that blur was like really big serious. He literally sexually sexually assaulted something I was just looking at the blur. I wasn't taking it. There's a lot of bitch. I've been watching damer Okay, there's just a lot of chama going on, and I was just like, damn, that's a big old blur. Sorry, I was glad to

see a blur of blue faces. Dick fucking Krishan. There's just a lot of sex. Let me see, Are you ain't sick? She was riding it and it was blurred. That's what I said. It's a lot of blurred dicks going on. It gotta be a good dick. Is she acting that? Nuts? He's cute too, so I get it. I think he's cute and he's handsome. Yeah, even his like his music video, he looks cute and like a mute. But no, this is the even so that they're like very very like you don't mean a lot like never

been looking. He's a handsome guy, so I get it. But like if his dick is also big, you know, I need I would keep my tooth but oh god, and I'm ever child. Does my hair? She says, she calls crush on ruthless, toothless, not love that name, Oh my goodness. Nonetheless, yes, ladies, if you've been cheated on multiple times, you very well could have CT or some sort of brain damage. How you gone CD? Why PTSD? I understand not CT, It says brain. CC is about

the brain. Yes, but you need like actual physical injury for this. You don't, you don't. It just said it's like a physical injury, like like not an actual One question, how come when you got that text message? Why you need have him block? A ready? Oh what you said that you got a text that wasn't meant for you? Oh no, no, no in the in the back in the day. Okay, yeah, that's a very question. Said. Is

he blocked? Now? Yeah, he's blocked actually so everywhere because normally no, no, no, I'd like that open what's app or like an email, but no, like fully blocked, like nothing, no way to communicate with you outside of like maybe a pigeon. No. And honestly, I I told his sister I can't talk to like to stop talking to me too, which actually kind of was hard to do, but like I was like, yo, I I can't talk to you.

I just feel like I've seen a lot of people do this and then they don't block people like I don't no, no no, no, you're right. Before when I would blocked him, it would just be like phone number, So like he knew he was blocked and he'd have to like find no Instagram, horrible decisions Instagram. He's blocked from everything. UM. I have a personal page. He's blocked from that. UM. I told Vinnie to block him, Like, I don't want my mom scared to block him because she's like, what

if he don lays or something. I don't know, but I told her, don't tell me, then they get hit her up. Well, instead of all order of this week, I wanted to do a hope fact and because we are in the month of October, UM, I wanted to shed light and maybe get into where we could share some stories because y'all love all motherfucker stories UM or our personal connections. October is actually breast cancer Awareness Month

as well as Domestic Violence Awareness Month. UM. I think I've shared on this pod quite a bit that my best friend, at the age of thirty four, UM found out that she had stage to breast cancer and beat it. UM. And so I just want to advocate for anyone who is not only a breast cancer survivor, but someone currently fighting breast cancer and to all women, UM, it doesn't matter what age you are. Um, I think she was in chemo and someone was in chemo in their twenties.

How did she find out that she had breastcan So literally what's crazy is? And I remember crying about it and I was just like, oh, I like, I think everything happens for a reason. So when over over the pandemic, I was of course I had periods this going and every week I'm filling my brain with all of these women talking about how they had to get second opinions. They didn't know things that they wished they could have

found earlier they didn't. And me and her were on the phone and she kept just getting a sharp pain and like her chest and she, of course we in our thirties, so this bitch is thinking it's acid reflux, she's thinking she has gas or but it was like

it was a constant, like sharp little pain. Then she was in the shower and she was like, I feel like I feel you know, when you're like brain is going literally she was like, you know, so she felt her breath because her family does have a history of it, and she felt something and she was just like, what's this mind? You just felt like a little tiny pebble. And what's crazy is we got on the phone and I think I had just like done some sort of piece.

I did some really harsh episodes of Purious This where like I think I cried once a month on that on that show, hearing like just a women's stories, and I said, ma'am, you're not gonna be my friend. I'm just not gonna talk to you. I won't answer your phone until you go to the doctor. Something isn't right and you used to go get checked and I don't want to talk to you. You cannot call me. I will not talk to you. Go to a doctor. I'm hearing all these stories from women on things not being caught.

And what's crazy is she said, okay, friends, So she went to the doctor, got a Mama Graham and the woman actually said, oh, I don't feel nothing. I think you're fine. And literally before she walked out, the nurse turned around and was like, you know what, before you leave, can you you show me what you're feeling. Literally heard her just saying that. She walked back into the room and she was like, this is what I feel. She was like, oh, I feel something, but maybe it's just

like a torrent tissue or something like that. Bitch went through the biopsy, went through everything. She was in stage to cancer. So the doctors literally told her if you wanted six more months, we don't know if we could even help you. Wait, Graham, they didn't see anything, you mean, no, they did, uh, just work. So she did that first and then they issued, well, let's get a second thought.

And when she went in they literally were like and so it was literally like even when she went and got the man, like, you know, whatever, the feeling thing is the way I've heard all these things in science. I can't keep up with everything. Um. But yet the doctor literally at first didn't feel anything, and then came back it was like, well, what do you feel? And it was like a pebble, like a little like maybe you know, so like maybe it was like you know,

and it ended up being stage to cancer. And so I say that to say, if you feel like something's wrong, I know that we did envision Fest last month, and our our moderator even was like, her period hurt, her period shouldn't hurt? Section wait wait wait, wait, wait, hold on, hold on, periods be hurting but you were saying hurt, like if you're period in capacity to you like it basically make sure on floorier's throwing up like the level of pain of course. But but of course with black

women specifically, doctors don't want to believe that we're in pain. Ever, so it's still if you feel something is wrong, go UM and again to October is also domestic violence Awareness one UM, and we talked about all of those things where there there's emotional abuse, there's physical abuse, there is UM sexual abuse UM. And there's so many ways that you can be in a relationship with someone and be

abused without even knowing it. UM. So I know we had again uh the doctor the psychologist on MAC and talked about where sometimes you don't even know you're being psychologically abused by narcissists. We talked about that a lot. But um, if you feel like you can't get out, talk to somebody, I know, like we've been And that's another thing we've I've been seeing just so many scared things over this last summer of like parents killing their children,

killing each other. This summer has been gruesome. So please, just if you need help, we are going to include in the description of this episode resources for breast cancer help and aid, as well as um domestic violence resource centers and hotlines. I can't remember which episodes we have, but maybe we can go back and list them in the so you guys can listen to them. But who says HOSE can't be help? Well, speaking of allose, I know this got kind of dark, but this is dark.

I mean it's kind of like we want to live. Can I be honest? Like this ship is always I don't really think that like sharing resources is dark. I think because we're so scared and we want to talk about parents killing their children, that like that was where at dark? Like not us sharing resources? You have like a breast cancer story. I mean that's a happy story cancer well, because she survived, she has been remembers that didn't, you know what I mean? And the earlier you can

catch it. Also, domestic violence is very dark period. Um, we're gonna show those resources uncoupled. If anybody's watching the on Netflix is the gay Show? It's so good. There's a man who gets breast cancer and literally one percent of men get it or something like that, so it's crazy. Wow, I'm right, But um, yeah, all right, let's for the horrible decision. Let's go to laugh at Weezy. Are you ready?

Are you time to make fun? Because I am so Guys, if you listened back in the day to horrible decisions, we are bringing back an old school style of horrible decision. There was somewhat a horrible decision where we sell stories and the last time we've done a full story for a horrible decision was my Unicorn experience in Mexico And so this time, Wheezy, I need you to add all

the details that the scene action. Okay, light is So I meet this cutie in the street and literally I was with Brianda and she was like, no, he's a casanova and you know it. And I was like, yeah, true, but also I love people that are tattooed all over their body and that are tall and sexy. Why did she say no, what's the casina? Did she know him? No?

But I an't a sucking him anyway. But the point is, basically Brianda has been having this thing like if you date someone who's medium ugly, they're gonna treat you right. And it's this is not what is medium ugly ugly? Spot and average looking people are just better partners. They're not Have you ever watched Mari. I think I bring that up all the time, that they're not both ugly all the time. When one party, do you regularish medium,

average looking people. That's my point if one's really hot anyway, So here's what happens. Um so whatever attacks with this person and it was good. And so when to l A and we've been talking since then, and um, all right, so talking was good. Hold on, you're not gonna speed

through this ship, which we got a time. I'm just like, so they looking at the YouTube minutes like she should be going on, you know what did you on the very embarrassing story actually, because it's so embarrassing, Like I just cannot believe it was one of the best states. And they're like, okay, I love. So I've been talking to this guy. Um, I don't want to describe him too much because he's really out in New York. So I feel like people know him. Probably not people. I

want to say, you show me his picture. I ain't never seen him. I don't know what I mean down the street. I mean, I'm not girl friend like once I started seeing him, like a lot of like lower east Side East Village, soho crowd, like we had some of the same people. So long story short, you were really going after the broke artist, not broke look not to really being with the with the Elis crowd. I'm never there, all right, goodhead, good, Okay. So we've been talking.

After I sucked him, I was like, okay, well this was mutually good, so now let me talk to him somewhere. So so whatever, we've been on the phone a lot while I was in l A. And like, you know, when I can talk to someone for an hour and it doesn't feel like an hour, I feel like that's when you know it's good. So I've been looking forward to seeing him again. And he's not dumb. He reads books, all right. That sounds like a very basic thing to say,

But niggas don't read. They just don't. So you can tell when someone is a reader and when they're sitting alchemist power not. But like, he's just it's someone I vibe with, right, and we have really good chemistry. So I was really excited to seehim when I got back to New York. So I had been offered a stay cation by this company that I don't even want to say what. They was a condom brand and not a

big condom in a small condom brand. And we're basically like, yo, if you want to have like a night and like escapade or whatever, like we just want you to take a picture. We'll like get you a photographer, will you know? Just you don't and I don't even have to be in laund rate, just set the scene and like talk about your experience. I was like okay. I was like, well, you know, I talked about it in a horrible I want you all to cut a check and they're like, no,

just make it real quick on Instagram. And I was like fine, So I tell him and me and him are laughing, like super down bro. They have a spot day plan for us the next day, like it's a whole thing, sent a car, like literally gave me an expense for like lavish dinners. They wanted it to be a full like scene. So I get there. He gets there before me, and he was looking dude his book.

His hair was in braids and I hadn't seen it in braids yet and just like also when like whatever, I can't even hype him up that much because it's not like you can't you're really happy to him up right, because I remember how I was feeling in the moment. I'm actually trying to go back to that feeling. So I get in after the envisioned pest and I take a shower and like I'm looking at him and I'm like literally like I wanted to fuck him before we left. Um so we go to that show company, what do

they call? What's X? I not a good ty that calling X? I V that? Well anyway, I'm not all the way there. Well, they have a new show. It's it's a little bit difference. It's not like full theater esque like when we went. But um so I got to them too, really good. So I'm like, yo, that's fourteen. I was like, I'm oh yeah, I'm like, yo, hey you got four to one. X is a ten all I think it was forever x X from no English. Now you want me to translate letters in the numbers,

We're not doing it. Yeah, this ain't it? So oh so to him there, Yeah, so she did ask for a plus two and babe, it wasn't me. So I had to happen. Well can I get to I figured they were saying like, well, I figured, yeah, they hit me up too lesson and I was like maybe I got playing. So um we goes and it's and it's raining, and I brought my I bought mushrooms because I was like the show is kind of trippy, and so I

was like, oh, let's take some mushrooms. And he's also mad fun, like you know when someone is down to do whatever. So we're like dropping the mushrooms. When we get in there, they let us in and they really gave me a fucking full v I P experience, I'll say that. So the cocktails they're giving us, like we were getting fucked up. So while we're there, we did also the night. He was like documenting the night, which

I guess a lot of artists do. I've had another artist kind of do that, but like he was just like taking pictures of a lot of things and like morphing them into ship, doing like a lot of frames of me. Like it was sexy. So we were sitting there, you know, touching, flurting and it's getting cute, going to the bathroom to do some more mushrooms, getting a little flective. It was fun. And I'm also not every black person in there knowing who I was that was also the gag.

Well that's what happened when we went that's but I think it was like a press night. So okay. So we're watching like the girls on the stage and they're like looking at us like it's a thing. Also like not shooting my own horn. But we're looking good. So then finally somebody calls us in the back a fortune like tellering thing. She's like, oh, I heard you two are on a date. Come to the back. So it's like we go back there. They take us through this room and like, anyway, if you go to the show,

maybe it don't happen to maybe you'll get chosen. But bit me and him were laughing because we got back out and I was like, yeah, I thought he was going to let beans. I thought we were going fun. He was like ship me too. Then we're sitting there not a sex club, lazy, I know, but where you

get horny when you go there. So they we're looking at this girl on stage and I'm looking at her and he's looking at her, and he's like, I don't know if I'm gonna ruin things, but like I feel like if we ever had a three So I was like okay, good because I was on the same page, which is crazy because just a few weeks ago, I told you I would never have a three something again if I wasn't fulee into this person. But you know,

I think I've been it and somebody pussy does. So then one of the one of the performers, gets off the stage and knows him, and she's talking to us, and I actually want to have her on because I thought she was throwing and I'm sorry if you're listening to this, but it was giving you through the pussy. So when people are friendly, you often think no, I would tell you why. Okay, So she says, did you see the beginning of the show. I said no. She said, well,

I was wearing a strap. Sorry I haven't told the show whatever. She was like, I was wearing a strap, and I literally thought of horrible decisions. I thought of you guys, and like, I love the show. And I was like, I think she was thinking of me. I literally said, I said, said one of us is the beggar, and she goes, I love to peg. But so we start talking and it's just the three of us and we're all talking very close, and she's got her titties out and like it's cute. So she's like, you know, um,

how did threesomes come up? I don't know, but whatever. Oh the strap. She started talking about how she's been on this sexual healing journey. I'm a sexual healer, like I'm a unicorn, and I really do well at it. And she talked about how she has sex with couples and either break up or stay together, and I'm like, well, duh, that's kind of funny. She said, well, one of my friends I think needs to leave her boyfriends. I'm probably

gonna suck them so she can realize it. She was like, I just have this power where it happens with people, and I'm like, oh, I was like so toxic. And then I said, do you ever have three silms like where you're not the guest star And she's like, I love being the unicorn and I'm like we're all just

three looking at each other. And he's like, okay, we're actually going out later like it was giving it was gonna happen, but whatever, I'm not trying to because she listened to the show, so I don't want to like to whatever. But also she knows you poke fans so

that that makes sense. Okay, many gay, sorry can't. We have a great time at this show and it's going well, and now we're drunk and we're drinking all these weird mixolity drinks and the licksters and ship and it's turning into a very high low night because now we're in Brooklyn. He's like, let's go to this bar. We know it's like some shitty bar whatever. So then we get into this thing where we go to this next bar. We

Dave is there. We see we both know some people there and basically he was dancing with me all night. It's getting a cat and then he offers to go to this one last place and so ho, okay, now we're smacked. We get in the car okay, and this is now the third spot of the night. We're going

to the third spot, okay. And he goes there a lot because I've been there with him, and he gets on the phone for a moment okay, and he's like, hey, what are you up to and the other person it was like nothing much, dada, And she asks what he's doing and he goes, uh, and he was drunk. I don't know. I'm having a really good time right now though, so like, I'll talk to you later and hangs up. So I said, Nika, did you just call to check it with your bitch? That's exactly what I said. So

he's laughing for a moment, like a nervous laughing. He goes, actually, I've been wanting to talk to you about this all night. Bro, my whole body got hot. I was like, talk to me about what? And he said, I I'm talking to somebody, but like, you know, I just wanted to tell you. I'm like, Ni, do you have a girlfriend that he's talking to somebody? Now? You know what's crazy? I actually can't ruin my night because I'm I'm also high, I'm

on mushrooms. I'm feeling this nigger. We're having mad fucking fun and I'm like, okay, I'm not even gonna ask does she thinks she's your girlfriend? Because if he says yes, I can't do this tonight. So ignorance is gonna be blissed. I said, is she about to fucking be there? He's like no, We're good. I'm like, okay, Also, this is like a second day. What do I give a funk? Like, let me just have a good time. And we have like this massage treatment ship in the morning. I'm just like,

let me just relax because I actually needed. So we go to the club. Before we even walk in, guess who's there? Sexual hero lier girl? Did y'all tell her you were heading that we did? And I'm like, okay, okay, she was ready, thank you, So maybe three's out of crowd. So then we go in the corner again, she passes the mush round. Now we're getting higher. We have fun, smoking, chilling. We go in there, we're having drinks, dancing, it's great. And then someone comes up uh and looks at him

and I didn't see her. I just saw his face. For those watching on YouTube, I need how did she look? How did she approach? What was the you know? First of all, she came, she came by herself and the only person she went up to his him. Now, if I'm going to be my niggad, that's how I'm because that's my nigga. So hello, what do I need back

up for? She comes up to him and like she didn't say hey, Like you know, when you run into someone, you're like hell, So she didn't say hello, which let me then know it was just like, yeah, you know, you see a man like this is what you're doing? This? Who you went? No, no, no, this what's going on? I don't think she felt that. I think she knew he was out with friends or something, because she clearly didn't know what was going on. So I was like, oh,

this must be her. So then he goes immediately because they're hug and he goes, I'm not gonna smoke real quick, and I'm like, oh if he had to escape this beach, so what I'm about to do, bitch up and go smoke the fun you went to smoke maham oh yeah without her walked right out. Yeah, she sat at the table we were at. So I go outside to smoke with this nigga. But now he's talking to so many people that I can't say, that's old beach. So I'm just waiting for the opportunity to ask, even though I

know it's his bitch. I needed something to my motherfucking faces. So now sexual healer comes outside. Now this is where I said, I'm very embarrassed because I can't say what I want to say in front of him, in front of her, when also I thought we were all gonna have sex. What the fuck? So now we're smoking, we're outside and it's sexual healer me and him, and I'm trying to lock eyes with him so I could look at him. Like the girl comes outside, the girlfriend or

whatever the post the post. Maybe she ain't a hell I don't know, but she owed me, so whatever the hell is. She comes outside and she like stands right in front of him. It's cold, and she like puts her arms like this, you know, like waiting for him to hover and warm her up, like something was giving, Like I don't care, and I felt the was she cute? Like you didn't want to just make it a forceome. Um, she's not my type particularly, That's all I'll said. I

don't want to be rude. You don't want to be rude. But she called she's no, no, no, I mean she's she's cute to somebody's cut him. I'm not saying she's not a pretty girls just like somebodyous. She's cute to somebody. No, she is both. She was not ugly. I'm sorry. I'm just not into like that. Okay, okay, I don't want to state the obvious because I have PTSD. UM. Once I'm connecting these weird dots and this ship is getting weird. It don't take me too long, bro, I get out

my uber out. I called it SUV. The ship was one minute away. Now here's the thing. I said, Well, I had a great night. I hugged the sexual healer girl. I think I dapted him up. I don't remember how I said about him. And here she says to me, do you have his number? Please let him know you got home. Saved definitely, because she was like, hope you had a good time. He's going home with me. That's

what that was. Oh, I wanted to not that little white bitch out, but that's why she wasn't your she was but but I thought everybody, but you know what, and maybe she's not a white bitch, but she had bitch to me, So I dude, that was it. Actually, if she didn't say that, I wouldn't have been as mad. I was like, what the son? That ship killed me? And also, you know, it's crazy. I don't even think she knew the vibe. I think she made it just

I don't know. I don't even know if she was trying to be funny, she might have been being sweet. I don't fucking know, like I've said that to women that's been out with hope. But what I'll tell you right now is, bitch, I ain't being sweet home. So now I'm where are you all at now? So the girlfriend showed up to the date, you went home alone. Did y'all do the spot the next day? So let's

talk about this. The he he brought some art supplies to the hotel room, and like, I don't want to exactly say what he does, don't describe exactly what he does, but just say there was some ship there for work. And I knew that. So I'm like, oh, he better not come up in this beach. He better not. Is he crazy? Now? He ain't that crazy? So my drunk ass gets back to the addition, I'm on the phone my home girl, and she looking at the phone like what Because she knew we had a night she answered

the phone like hello. I said, oh, bit, I'm in a lobby too. Let me tell you about this naked So now I'm telling her the story and she goes, Wheezy, I'm gonna be real with you. There's a few things that can make this worse, not that bad, and let you again. I said, Okay, Okay, go if you text you so sorry, this just happened, Like I had a great time with you. I hope you're home safe. She's like,

there's almost like room to come back from. And he was honest, he was he told you you're talking to somebody before I got there, But also like, why would you take me there? If you notice a spot a dumbass New York. It's not New York, but the place where he's comfortable, I'd be going to ship and be like, damn, no, no, if I gonna run into a nigga, fucking I'm not

about to take no nigga ever to last lot. Since you've been singing I'm single, but you know you have the there're the possibility that you're gonna run When I was sucking other niggas all oh bay, I never took the last How about that, gay? But what about right now where you are talking to different people. I'm not talking to somebody that's out of I know, I hear

what you're saying. That specific scenario. No, I do not do like if I'm single and I'm dating or whatever, like there's nobody in my life, multiple people, if anybody in my life right now sees me out what a nigga and ship, they could say, So you're in a position where there's a bit that sees you. I would have been that ship, she could say. So don't take

me that fucking spot. That's my point. Okay, period, I've definitely fucked niggas that has been at a spot I've been at, But like, you know what I mean, it's the past or whatever, but like specifically that scenario, he should not have took me there. Bro you like ruined the night it was. Also, we were on such a high, a fun night, and then just bam, so seven in the morning, I get a text cannot pull up and

I'll wake up. Oh hey, oh no. Also, you don't really sleep well on mushrooms when you take them late. So all night I'm just like dreaming crazy scenarios. So then he's like, I just need to grab equipment, and I'm like, I could kill this naked. So I go downstairs fucking make sure I check it and disable the keys because I'm like, he ain't crazy. But also he better not talk to me because I'm living right now.

So we get to maybe one o'clock in the afternoon, eleven maybe, and he texts me, I'm gonna make this right. Make what right? Like, are you serious? So then he calls me at eight o'clock at night, which that's already too late for me. Let me at least attempt to apologize to you. So I have some weed, I smoke. I talked to him and he's like, what do you think? He said? What are all nigg is gonna say? I

sucked up? Basically blah blah blah blah blah. And I'm sitting there like, you know, all my friends are like completely cut him off, right, I would go that far. He's just talking to the bit. I don't think he's just talking a bit. I think he has a girlfriend. But also, here's the thing, right, which is that I was battling in my head. I should not be going through ship like this on a second date with a name that had plans with me for like a week. Also, like,

why are you not prioritizing me? If you were just talking to a bit, you could at least text me to say, are you getting home safe? I'm sorry that happened. I'm like, can we talk about it tomorrow? Like you did none of that, because either you waited to the next day he were a little too awkward or whatever, and he's like, yo, like, I'm like really feeling bad about this. I care a lot. I really hope I didn't suck things up. I'm like, hope you didn't suck

things up. You should have hoped when I got in the car. So to me, you really made me feel a second fiddle and like side bitch type ship, which kills me. I hate that feeling. Don't make me feel pushed to the side. Also, like I'm not trying to like act like I'm that bitch, but I am. And you end up with a bitch like me at the palm of your hands. You need to be doing a little bit better than that. I don't know, shorty, Like I'm just saying I know she ain't me. I know that.

So anyway, whatever happened, what killed me. At the end of the call was like he was like, well, when I get my ship together, can I hate you? And I'm like, does that mean when you break up? Like what are you saying? It means when he figure out what he want to do her, not break up, when he figures out where he sees her in his life. Then I'm I'm gonna slide back to you if this don't work out. But he's gonna figure that out first, I said, nigga, if I'm not already like in some ship, okay,

I don't. I can't sit around way for anybody right like. That is like also the other thing that annoyed me about it. But you know, here's what really made me call him back and give him even that little piece of hope. I would be lying if I didn't say I definitely had probably one of the best dates. And also the sex is good, So if he's a terrible person later, I'll figure that out along the way. But those things were enough to let me know that i'd

want to like see something more. And also the New York l a ship when someone can go between him both that kind of makes me. I'm very attracted to that right now, but maybe that's on the move. It's

just what my life is. It's actually interesting that you said that to me, or that you just shared that um knowing that he's in whatever he's in now and clearly went on a date with you to still consider seeing a future with him, knowing that you don't want the same type of relationship that you just had with old bay. He's showing you how he moves in a relationship, and the fact that you're even thinking, you know what, I still would entertain him and maybe he can come back.

He showing you the type of thing he is already. That's what I was literally thinking. Wanted to be cheated on. This probably ain't the nigga to even consider revisiting. I honestly, I like made a joke on my Instagram like about it where I was like, I really thinking, like, like I did something and it's with a white woman, so like to me, you even thinking, well, the sex was good, it was a great day. I'll give him another chance. Bro,

it's a cycle. Why would you want to be with someone that you already see a showing you know what it is? But the truth of it is like, and I agree with you. If someone if you told me this story, I would say the same thing. Having sparks with people just rarely happens. And I hate that that's the truth. But not if they listen to this podcast that you got works with somebody everything every yearly but we all the time. Dream Ville nigga was a spark. This nigga was a spark. That's too in the year

was just not Lamb Lambeau. You highly spoke of Lambeau until I almost had a child. We didn't have a spark. We were sucking any was fun. But you seem to really like him. There was a spark. Lover boys sparks years ago. The hospital was three years ago. I'm only saying through this but but I'm only saying but I'm only saying, like through this, through this podcast journey even of six years, where you're saying it's rare, the sparks that you've actually had with men five and six years

is rare to me. You said, what d yeah, bro, you've had sparks my niggas. It's given you start a car on here, Like, there's not a lot of women that maybe even get as many sparks as you've had. I haven't had that many, but I just had my first boyfriend. Like, you get sparks and connections with men way quicker than than I think a lot of people. Or maybe by the time this episode comes out, I've already or not or you gotta ne ni speaking of new niggas. The guy that I cuddled with that I

mean at the Netflix party, see what I mean? Another sparks spars. It wasn't it was It wasn't this kind of spark. But he didn't meet for dinner next week in l A. So you know he's way way more, way more. I feel bad. Wait, scientists, nigga, you had a spark with scientist nigga, the nigga in l A. Not Netflix nigga, because you had a spark with Netflix nigga. I didn't have a spark with scientists. He just had a big dick. But there was you know, you saw a long term with him for a little bit and

because he had a great job, but he's boring. Oh, listen to the show. It was a little bit of spark. No, it was okay, and he was tall and cute and the dick was nuts. It wasn't even you know, it's crazy. Actually had better sex with this guy. Wait, and you had a spark with fucking Beard Bay nigga. You had sparks, nigga. Act he had the fucking starting lineup to the w N B A T Bits. What is that? The l A sparks giving l A sparks bitch? Okay, you know what,

you know what it is? The last person I've sucked. That's probably what but but you got But you know what I'm saying, Like the dick is still imprinted. It's like it's fresh up there. And but I think also, like you know, I romanticizing so much as the Pisces thing to do. And I spent a lot of time, uh talking, So the more I talk to someone, the more interesting I find them. Like that's also what builds it up for me. But you're right, um, he definitely

I guess he's giving oh bay to QUINNO move on next. Okay, so the writer nig oh, let's talk about this football player that I met. They got a girlfriend, bitch? All right, you see all these all got girlfriends. Oh bitch. I'm in the club I go to. I got to Stafford him, which, let me just say, for anybody who lives in New York that likes that ship, that was it. I felt like a cucka cloud when I walked to him, Like wow, So it's giving Dapemond but downtown Yeah, but no, no,

it's like in the forties. So nobody was in there except for the v I P. Midtown Midtown is that's not downtown. But it is not downtown. Midtown. So I get there, it seems like no one's in the club at v I P has packed. There's like a bunch of niggas fabulous may know. It's just like crowd in BBLS. And so I was in the sevenutes and I was like, Okay, well, at least they're playing fucking Chief Keith. So I not

go front. I saw this guy who was so fucking cute, dre It's a gorgeous smile and he had on an outfit I liked. So I said to Gabby, Oh my god, how fucking hot is he? So she was like he is. She's like, he's so your type. But he's sitting down. He looks short. I was like, you're right, go to the other end of the club. He wasn't tall, about six ft, but maybe forty five minutes later, I didn't see him for the best the night, dude comes up to me and he was like, I've been watching you

all night, and I was like, did I manifest him? Like, honestly, very rarely do I look at a dude. I I fucking nig and they come over, but like where we were clearly each other's type. It was just one of those moments, so like, I'm like all up in his face and he just moved here for work and I'm like, what job is that? And of course it was ball so um. Long story short, he kept wanting to hang with me and whatever, great conversation. I'm like, what the

fund is wrong with him? Literally, in the middle of the conversation it was getting so good, I was like, I have to go home before our flock. When he was like, come up, can my driver take you home? Like what can I do? Blah blah blah blah, and I keep hanging with you. I was like, no, nigga, And then we were just vibing so hard. I'm like, something's wrong with you? How many kids you have? And he was like no kids, and I was like something else is wrong. I was like, your dick small, so

he starts laughing. He was like no. So then I said, um, how long people with your girlfriends ah? And he's like, well, I broke up with her, but like she just kind of staying so like I think I'm broken up, but she thinks she's that's enough. Gave him my number and to him to call me when they break up. Is that his fault? Though? What do you mean, is it his fault? Why are you fucking coming up the minute that well he said they've broken up. You can't take

his word for it. Na, this is the same problem. Like if you know who thinks you there boyfriend, that gotta be the question that definitely happens. Hell yeah, how many? How many bitches think you their boyfriend? Right right? But that's the question because if you've got multiple bitches out here playing claims on you definitely have claims on me. And they were not my girl. I want that problem. You may maybe a bit talk, but this nigga with a bit something like, let me goog with this nigga.

So I had to do his first name in the team, and I was like, that salary is a lot more than I thought it was gonna be, which is probably why one she not leaving. Yeah exactly. So anyway, then all you gotta do is just click one thing and then bam, there is just their life together. And I was like, oh god, I said, I apologize. So anyway, Um, basically what I realized is anyone attractive is gonna have a girlfriend. There we go. That's not that's not true.

That is not true. I can't agree to that they're gonna have options, not necessarily a girlfriend. Okay, if I have one more of these decisions, reisturations happened to me. What I'm saying, it's true three out of three because things happen in threes. God, please don't let you have a fucking girlfriend. Kill me if you don't ask me to go to fucking Unless you don't have a bitch, I don't even if that's a bitch. No, I don't even care if she got a toothbrush. There is a bitch.

That's what I need to know. And if you don't have a bitch, I'm good, and I'm sorry I'm calling all these bitches bitches. But these bitches is getting on my voice. Well, you probably get a lot of the you know what actually the problem for them? You know what, I'm starting to wonder ship old Bay. In fact, tell these women when they said, do you have a girlfriend? Like she cool? Though you know she think her boyfriend. I think he was just like yo, like it's complicated.

I think he was like she'd be traveling like she she cool? Yo, we have three sings together. I bet you that's how you did it. He acted like I would have been okay with it. Okay, that's what it was, not the way you'd be talking about. He knew it white with me. He lied too, probably right. That's probably why sometimes he had to answer the phone if he was like, no, I got a bit. She don't know, but you know, shut the funk up. What I mean, well, who story time has commended? Is that the word when

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this has been yet another episode of Form Decisions. Finn be far when I knew that they could just take my car and charge it instead of me parking, and I was like, oh, I want to live here, but wait for you? Did you have like a tesla? Yeah? Um, that's amazing. I didn't know. Wait Columbia Square would you do that? Or the place that you? So I almost moved in, but then I kind of wanted to live in a house and it's probably I liked so m so cute, though squirrel, I love it so five of

my best skirts. It's right here, yeah, was like three minutes away. Okay, perfect ready? Uh um. So Mandy starts it off by saying it's bonus beach, but I can't say it with our inflections, so now I feel like I failed. So I would like to say, we never really have white guests, so I'm gonna get my lot. We don't pumpkin spice. Well, Mandy loves that, you know what it is though we actually yesterday I was thinking about that. I went to a Spotify dinner and I

was the only black girl there. There was a lot of Asian girls, no Latina's, and I was like, oh my god, there's so many podcasters I want to have on. But also, like, are my followers? I think our listeners gonna think we sold out. So we have a white guest, they have to actually be really interesting, so no pressure,

but tell us the nun ship for real. Actually I'm trying to think who it's really just because our podcast started on the premise of having X talk for black people, right and over the years, um, I mean, we've had guests that we felt like Okay, we've got to have them. But it's moreover because the conversations that were happening before horrible for me when I was listening to sex podcasts, weren't necessarily relative to my life. So I just wanted stories.

I felt like things that actually happened to me, whether it be. But now white girls were clippings and stuff, so that was my main thing. It was like, you know, oh, how do I explain my way or my ponytail? And like all my white friends, now where we do you? Uh? No? But sometimes no tape ins, nothing, not right? Now, give gout something. What's the blackest thing you do? Um? Oh

my gosh, you know I did so I did? Uh. And then I was making out with a guy and he felt the back of my hair and he was like, what is that? And when I stopped, that is so big. I got busted and I was like, oh man, but it looks so good. Everybody does it. It looks so good. It looks so healthy and so like full and I know, and also like if you get the right kind that are good enough for your hair, like the protectives to anyway, Okay, I won't get into because we should be talking about sex.

But we have Katie in the house. When I say owner and creator of the company, and it's called Lavina Lavinia, Yes, every time I like i'm reading it, I think of, like, where did that come from? So she's like a Roman mistress? Okay, it's from a movie. Who's the famous Lavinia? It's like she's like a Roman mistress, like a goddess, Like it's from mythology? Why that become it's become like a popular first name too, okay, but why Roman mistress for the

name of a I do. I actually keep trying to keep that on the download because I don't want to trigger anybody. So sometimes they say like mistress, yeah exactly. Everybody to listen to this has probably been one at some point, but yeah, what's Lavinia? So yeah, so it was just a sex guy basically. I mean, you're calm many that we're still talking about the name. Um. So our whole goal is to enhance people's sex life through cannabis. So all of the products that we're working on are

exclusively designed to do that. We launched last year with the silicone based lubricant, and then we're working on some really exciting products where we're handsome. We're an R and D for some anal sex products R and D research and development R and D. Oh wow, yeah, no, No, that's if you don't know what R and D is. You don't know whatever. Um, But if you'd like to try out the product, you can and give us feedback. That's essentially pussy. But like also at the same time,

I do like smoking and sex. I've done, like, I don't know, I've had a lot of experiences with cannabis and sex. Some are good, some are bad. But I have heard of THHD and fused products. I just never I don't know, I never use them, but I'd be willing to try to louve. I have a new partner and we are using condoms, so oh great, I need help. Great. Um. Cannabis is a vaso dilator, which essentially means that it increases flow. So you know, like when you smoke weed

and sometimes your eyes turn red. Basically the blood vessels are actually increasing in size and the blood flow is increasing as a result, and so the same thing happens. You're asking you are we are we talking about? You know? I'm just thinking where do I really need to be opened up? And dilated,