Ep 273: Strapping Gems (Ft. Jade)

what I felt like. Jade couldn't handle it. I wouldn't have said that, but she has known you for three to half minutes. If I knew Jade less night, I am trying to pictures but her pride month, I said, let's not funk up them again. Jade, Please, before we even introduce you to your pronounces, is she gonna was gone the first one? Deficode wasn't going to go out? Bro, How wasn't gonna see? It's so difficult. It's just too fucking different. No, no, no, it's not too difficult. Speak

by yourself. Please, don't speak for yourself, speak for your god damn self doing that. I don't celebrate, and we're gonna celebrate them. Let's say this is so problematic, that's fine in language arts, I learned it as a plural word. Okay, it's a little difficult for me, that's all. Okay, I give up. Goddam. You ain't even google words, bro. You should be good at excitely, don't. Everybody who wanted to see here, son, I wasn't good at this? What is it?

Fold little word? Anyways, Welcome to horrible decisions. We are not trying to get canceled, but welcome to another episode or Pride episode. Suk all of that. That's not what jade. Welcome so horrible decisions. It's gonna be here. We definitely wanted to have a Pride episode, of course, in honor of the month of June. We have a lot of gay men on here, though we have a lot of gay women. You'll be bringing them on because you'd be

sucking them. You mean, I mean no. Sometimes I feel like it is easier to come come across like gay men than it is like lesbians, because everybody's like by now you know what I'm saying, but by is not lesbians? Can can I not look see looks to Jayang for women. That's what I made that as a point. It's easy to find gay men, but finding gay women or lesbians, I feel like everybody's by okay, so it is hard for me to sometimes find lesbian to come on the show.

I hope you are all right. Can I also ask you um with your sexuality because I'll be looking for women to look like you. I ain't even gonna hold you. But when I know, seriously, I told you I have this issue when I went to couple of Cabana, right, so you know that's where the whole little parties and stuff being right in midtown, and I'll be I told y'all, and I've let y'all know, I want me a Bernie grinder, right. The problem is look and see not why is that?

Literally one of my question is do you like your fetishized It's it's not even that they'd be fine as fun. The problem is the problem is no one that like. When I say I mean like not them lesbians, I'm talking about anyone but lipstick lesbians, which I funk everybody looks like me. I'll be wanting, like somebody come handle me a little bit. And the problem is when they find out I I like also real dick, They're like,

they're not interested. Interesting. So is that a thing in the lesbian community where they have an issue with the bisexuals like my ass who still really want dick. But I'll take some fake dick too, but I also want real dick. Yeah, let's that I know, do not like they don't. It's the idea of like, I feel like a lot of people feel like, oh you like men too,

and people have passed me and left for eyes. I've heard a lot of stories like that that has being entry into the words tell us a little bit about who you are, what you do, stuff like that. So I'm jade, as said, I'm a day trader. So I have a pretty easy schedule. You know. I trade in the morning and then I go to the gym and I spend the rest of my day, usually with my shorty or on horrible definitely flip in there. Definitely came in less than twenty four hours. Notice, yeah you have

a shorty. Yeah we don't care. You don't see your fluk with it the all time. I'm just gonna do I mean, listen, we're open you what she look like she's thick and she's Latina. That's right, that's right, La, let's do it. Why can't you not about to edit your mic out for that she you are thinking Latin? I might be dating him them, that's hilarious. Um, question, you're open and and what I don't know because I feel like every lesbian we always make the joke that

you know you haul on the second date. I'm super email like, how does an open relationship work in your lesbian relationship? Okay, so just to be clear, we are exclusively dating. We have not thrown true titles on anything. But um, we've just been like open to three songs and you know, things like that, you know, maybe if

we're open to it giving someone a pass um. I feel like in my last relationship, I felt very confined sexually, and I've been very expressive sexually, like for like my whole life, and then to be in something so confined, I just kind of came out and I'm like viewing relationships very differently. I was very I was a serious

serial like monogamous, like I'm not playing those games. But now I'm just like I just felt so like like tied up and I'm like now I'm like, no, I'm like loose and my partner is just like that, So what were they doing. I'm gonna say, yes, what were the conversations for that? Because that has been my issue with fully committing to women is they're just not only way more clinky than men, they do become very jealous very quickly. And so of course, I'm sure you have

a lot of homegirls. How do you do like divide those lines between No, this is just the home girl. This isn't someone intimate when you're dating another woman. It's a little tricky because I've definitely fucked several of the home girls, so you know, but I don't know. It goes different every way. Um, every time I had one person I did, I told like all my friends that I had sucked, and then every time I hung out

with them it was an issue. Yeah, I've had other people that were perfectly fine, but the person I'm doing with now, we just were so open. The communication is just like, so I feel like it would be hard for like, have you had any straight friends? And then he's like you can't hang Oh what wait for real? Yes, Jade, right now, for audib For those of you who are

not watching us on the YouTube. She has her hair up in these dreadlocks in a bun and it is just so fucking big the hair is and you like to hide you and you know, for like a lesbian you kind of be like, damn, it's gonna be a short beat. Women do like No, that was the first thing I noticed when you walked in No shady. Yeah, that was my first stud that I was attracted to,

and she was on sex Cells last season. I was like, oh, I'm a little tall in her, Like, well, you just use the term and I'm curious and what I want to ask, Like she just said she was she interviewed young and maid. She referred to her as a stud. Now is there there's so much term yourself and what is offensive as well? Look see I oh, I pretty much try to be the safest and just say masculine presenting. So you kind of hear that a little bit more now.

I feel like that's like real easy, real, Like no one's gonna really have issues with that, So that will have issues with the others, Like Dike, Definitely, I've heard that that word is like Okay, it's it's hard because like if someone is just calling you a dyke, Like what then is wrong with you? You know? But um, I know some people that, like some of my friends, might refer to themselves as like that's what I've heard that girl, the girl we had on christinaer Net, she'd

be talking about she calls herself a dyke. But I think it's different, like it's it's the same way, like bro, we call each other niggas. But no, not that that's the point. You know. I didn't like the word. Okay, but have you ever called yourself any of those? Do you ever called yourself a stud? Stud? Yeah, definitely called myself a stud. I guess if I was to say one, I would say stuff okay, But again I'm more say masculine as someone who is so mask presenting. What do

you think is the girliest ship you do? I'm so girly, that's the funny thing. Like where I mean, like, if you don't make up well not like physically, tell us so what are Yeah, what are the feminine traits than that you believe you have, which I loved it. You'll be crying. Well, that's not feminine. Girls man can cry too, I said they could. It's not feminized crying Okay, we want men to have emotions too, bitch, shut up. That's crazy. What we're more emotional? Like, we ain't just get through

Mental Health Awareness month. I want to let maybe I am not shaming men for crying. Women are more emotionally and made crying a feminine trait. She just got to say something. Not really, honestly, it takes a lot for me to cry, okay, but I don't know, like people just say, like my mannerisms, will you kill a bug

for your shorty? No? I am not that one the masculine. No. It's funny because you're just in her pool the other day and there was like a dead frog in there and we actually caught it on the video of me like, oh my god, like freaking out, like running away. I'm like, nah, I'm not that one. Can I ask you something? And

this is not meant to be offensive. This is truly like a turn I heard once, and it was when we interviewed a trans man who talked about how before they were a no touch lesbian and when I was looking at women that were more mass presenting, touch me not, touch me not, and I was looking at girls that were mass presenting, so to speak, and one of my home girl like you like to eat pussy weight too much to funk with a bit like that, and I was like, okay, could you tell us have you ever

felt like that, felt like you didn't want to be touched or anything like that, or ever felt ashamed of your genitals? Okay, so I was saying, Um, first coming into my sexuality, I was a little uncomfortable. Um, but I grew the hell up and I liked it. You know, I tried it. But there are probably partners that I have had that would probably be like, she doesn't like it too much, But it's like, no, they were just bad. That's how I feel like when terrible. I've been on

here a lot being like I don't like head. It wasn't like I craze it because I hadn't really gotten it really good until my last partner. But with women, I will say I I'm good like I like to please women, So even though like I'm them presenting, I guess when when I'm with strictly women, I don't want them to touch me. I want to do all the work, let them lay there and when they're done, we could

just cutle. Okay, but are you mostly fucking feminine women. Yes, okay, so I was just talk about this on Instagram today. I feel like feminine women. Most of the fems i've been with just give terrible heads. Yeah it's I don't know what it's about you. That's I don't know what's

bad head. Yeah, that's why I was gonna at it like it hurts shout out and why does it feel like it's just ramming your tongue, Like oh my god, she was beautiful, and it was just like I had to be like ok and I just went back like I haven't had much good head from women, to be very honest, and I and I believe it. And the thing is like I've never had head from a mash

one person. I mean like lesbian, but I know feams that enjoy the sex that they're having and a lot of times the masculine partner isn't enjoying the receiving part as much, and I'm just like, what is going on? It is also because so I like switch, I'm gonna be knowing what's going on. So I've only ever been pegged by a woman, but I've never pegged a woman. I've only pegged O. Wait when you know, legit pegging like in the this is yet getting off of it

is pegging is like it's not. I mean, like I believe I'm only strapped, but see I say it's my strap when I'm Pagan Megan's in the ass, but it's my strap but only been strapped. Okay, boy, but it's bussy. Okay, shout out to Pride. Mun We call Saucy Santana. I wish you got his number, bitch, he would have been here. I don't know, girls be on his dick. I don't

he be tired of ship? What do you mean? There's like no way that you're telling me he be walking down the street and they'll be on his fuck No, Like I want to be his friend, yeah badly. Women want to be friends with gay men so bad. Yeah, Saucy the most gay nigger in the world right now, like some on Yeah, you're fucked. No, we gotta compete because that acid a little bit higher, a little bit bigger than the other day. He said, should I have another bbut before I do this music video? Like you

love it so bad? Head looking too hard? Agreed, I would all don't want to ask you, which I feel like men always want to know this. When I was dating a woman and was monogamous until we got a nigger. Um, I will say like, I got so frustrated when I would just say, like I sucked my girl and dudes we like, I'll ain't suck. And I'm sure you've heard this. What is lesbian sex? Having sex with another woman? To me? Her? Is that your hand, your mouth, you're pussy whatever. I'm

a favorite way to have sex with women. I love giving a head, but I love strapping a woman. Okay, yeah, I love strapping too. Hey do you says there? Um, yes, yeah, I do like that. That's the one position I'm to take some work to get there. You gotta find it's the good clip to clip. You can anybody, right, That's what I'm saying. Like you can't just scissor with anybody. I feel like it's you you can, but like some people like the energy just ain't Well what did you

mean by that when you asked that question? I wasn't like it, probably like it's probably just uncomfortable or maybe like with a certain person, they know the actual rhythm. Right. My own girl told me that she thinks she's too fat to the scissor. No, no, that she's like, I feel like I'm too much of a big girl to scissor, Like it's too much work to get. Maybe I don't understand. Don't you just lay to the side and cris cross that.

I don't know. But the thing is like you're really trying to get, you know, y'all trying to really get. I'm telling you in there, you had to like cross this way, like it's both the other. Do y'all believe that there is a size requirement for that position, like a limit my only girl life. I've had text with the girl that was maybe a little bigg than you, and it wasn't hard. But I don't know. My own girl is big, but I still can't see what I

think for her in her head. She's just like, oh my stomach, my titty, Oh that No, I don't think I'm rubbing my like everywhere Titti's mouth neck, I'm nasty to dude, was talking about feet, but you said to be your I love I love well. I want to get into our vanilla ship because the last time we had a lesbian guest on the show, we got into how the lack of conversation happens regarding as TDS A S t I S testing. UM. But before we get into that, UM, the vanilla ship for this week UM.

I actually found this from the Helfington Post and the f d A hopes to lick S T I S by authorizing oral sex undis. Okay, So a brand of thin and stretchy single use late text panties called Laurels is catering to people who want to fill both pleasure and protection during ConA lingus it says that the FDA has given clearance to a lineup underwear that can prevent

sexually transmitted infections from oral sex and analingus. UM. It says that the clearance means that the manufacturer has shown that its products is substantially equivalent to a similar product that already has FDA clearance, such as condoms, the product of the brand of the thin stretching latex. And one moment it says that it's proved that the oral sex undies were at least equivalent to the protection provided by dental dams. UM and of course you're familiar with dental dance.

Will get into if where do you even find those things anymore? UM? If you use the sense and whatnot um, and then she just also says that she thinks that the pennies could also reduce anxiety and increased pleasure around that particular behavior. So I do know that that's a thing, because using protection during oral sex has somewhat been shamed upon, Like even in heterosexual sex with condoms, it's like only

prostitutes put condoms on dicks to give oral sex. Like there's been a shame around sucking dick with a condom as well. I'm not gonna front think about it. If I put a condom on the next day before I sucked it, they'd be like, what do you think? It's like, you know, like that's what's in our head. I would probably feel the same way. But dude wrapped his turn up or a woman, I'd be like, wow, you really, like, don't funk with me. I know I have a show

called Horrible Decisions God like lower saves. I think, have you ever used it? No? I mean she's like, you know, saying, we don't believe in save sex. We just know we don't like we don't want to save head. I want to talk about face sex with same sexes, Like what has there ever even been a conversation for it. Has a woman requested it? What does that conversation look like for you? If any regarding s t I s STDs so embarrassing, non existent, there is no conversation. I haven't know,

We're all. I've had some women that I've dealt with that I knew regularly got tested. Okay, I guess I kind of like leaned on the faith of that, just like the niggas that'd be trying to tell me you're good, I'm good. Whild Yeah. I remember one time I'm like going to the I went to the doctors to get like blood work, and they're like, hey, you went to an STD test, and I was like, probably shouldn't get one of those. I mean, it is harder to contract it.

And that's probably why herpes for sure, because skin to skin, right, But it is harder to contract if you even if you sucking dick, like if you're dealing with like what I'm saying, you don't want harder for cont but you can get so many things in your mouth, but it's

it's so much. It's like, bro, I don't have it in my phone, but I remember when we had Christen the Mass difference and like men and women, particularly because with us we have to quote unquote and maybe the wrong word like interior organs, I guess you could say, right, like whereas with men, like their secretion is different, it goes directly inside like ours is a little bit different. The sex we have is different, right unless you have a cut in your mouth during head It's like, how

else are we gonna contract this herpes? Herpes with skinned to skin is so well, then my other question would be, because there are things that still go inside, what protection measures do you take for sex toys? Because if you're having threesomes, are bringing other women in and sex toys

are being shared. That is also like I know when I go to the sex club, if we bring a dial do or even if anyone just comes and plays with me in my room, if we're using my toys, condoms are going on everything, So like what measures do you take? Like do you use them condoms when you're using toys with other people? What does that look like? Um? Honestly, like, Um, if I'm just like sucking someone, I'm just gonna I'm probably not gonna use anything, but I'm gonna just I'm

gonna definitely sterilize it. I don't boil it. Yeah, exactly, I'll boil it. We're good next go um. If it was a situation where we're bringing multiple partners, and I would probably just like she was a different strap for every partner. Absolutely not really one strap. You say, this is me, but this is the thing. If you're pissing me off because you get a new girl, she's like, you need to get a new strap. No niggers on

getting new dicks. That's actually really good point, like right now, But I ain't told you that was Lei her name on my trap. I don't give a funk. If I was a lesbian, lesbian for real, for real, and I got to pick the dick I wanted. Oh baby, you're not just giving me what you got. We're gonna go buy what I want. How big is your strap? The my newest one is not and a half. That's kind of big. Yeah, normally I stick with the eight eight and a half. And then sure he was like, well,

actually no, we went to get something a little thicker. Okay, ficker maybe yeah, you know I like to feel stretched out right, so I emploways do that though, And it's it's a different type. It's clearly way more poorous than actual skin and dick. So I see, like I have to use so much lube when I have a really like bitch. I'm still getting fun by King Noir's dial though, and that ship, maybe I'll be like on it, put

lube on it. What it's the ship is huge? So I just had my girls like for like, we use lube definitely, or I like getting my strip sucked, so oh my god, why not? I just always want to see somebody's second But I used sucking a goddamn plastic but you know what that was like for that like that it's more of like a submissive thing to just yeah, it's just said, see it's fun such twizards and said, let me ask you, do you like penetrative sex for yourself? No,

I wish I did, but I don't. What about even fingers? And I don't I wish I did, and like um with okay, yeah, definitely I should assume no, you know whatsoever, I'm open to trying it like maybe like a little like toy. Oh, I'm definitely getting my assay, but like but plugs and stuff, you'd be I would try it, okay, Okay, why not. I mean it's June baby, all right. The banks I've got their rainbow flags out and your house

is open uper here and uper the car. I'm like, all right, well they can I ask you what your thoughts are about that? Like I also see um Burger King is doing topics bottom. That was funny, but I didn't know how I feel about that. I mean even like like like all of these like corporations, of course they're waving their rainbow flags. So um, we see that

they did the same ship with Juneteenth. Do you feel pander too when you see all of these corporations do these things and you're like, you're around y'all really don't be doing this exactly year around y'all don't care. So why are we making it a big thing now? I like this exactly you guys, I'll be trying to We talked about eating couci every other episode. Yeah. No, it's just it's just like, are you being genuine about it?

I don't think so. Um. And then you see a lot of institutions or just companies that you know, you go and you look at things going on hr you're having discrimination against like things like this. But hey, out into the world. You want to be loud and proud and act like we accept everybody, when a lot of times you realize that that's not really what it's about. Can we get deep for a moment when we talked about discrimination and like feeling scared for life because of

your sexual orientation. We always hear about it from men. Have you had a time in your life where you were like scared to be gay? I don't know where where are you from? Um, I'm from Jersey, South Jersey. It's a lot more liberal up here. Yeah, I'm twenty nine, twenty nine, So yeah, Like, have you had a moment in your life, whether be church or family member where you were like scared? Um, definitely, I wasn't actually crazy. Yeah.

When I first thought I was gay, was I want to say, in third grade and I had like one friend and we'd like playhouse. I was always a guy like I didn't you know, I didn't know anything. Um, Like I had never really seen any like women on women action on TV or anything. But I don't know. I just kind of like related with that and we would do like a little stupid ship thing and I

would be like every I like my gay. But I grew up so religious, Like I went to Christian private schools my whole life, except for like two years of public school. You taught that gay was bad. Yes, well I don't even feel like I was really taught it so much because I don't think I really like paid attention. I was always in kind of even like the Bible, like the little kids church and stuff that they're not

talking about that. But I do remember thinking I was gay and my friend coming to school one day and being like, yeah, my pastor said, if you're gay, you go to Hell. And I was like, oh, ship, like because I had grew going down, I wasn't going to private schools my whole life, you know, so like, um, where where we are taught, you know, religious and stuff

like that. So I get reinforcement in the classroom. I get reinforcement Sunday at church Wednesday when we go to Bible study, and I get it reinforced all the time at home. Jesus, Like I can't even have a conversation with my mother and and not go to like well God, the Bible. I'm like really, yeah, so frustrating. I'm like, girl, I get it, but damn talking like a regular person.

But yeah, but I remember after that being so scared like every day, like I'm like third grade, I'm like, I'm gonna go to Hell, but hell, oh my god, Like I remember you knew that early. I did, and then I literally like try to like unlearned. Like I was so scared of like going to Hell that I like convinced myself like I wasn't gay. I was like, oh, like maybe like I can't be gay, so like I

just kind of like ignored those things. And then it wasn't until later in high school where I'm like, I'm like, I'm like I really think yeah, you know, but um, I don't know. And then when I got into college, I really got more, you know, Like I had a track coach. She was, you know, a stud like like like it looks like a straight nigga, you know, like and I remember her saying to me, um and um. When I was in high school, she was like, oh, like are you gay? And I'm like no, like because

at that time I really didn't think I was. I never like gave myself the opportunity to you know, explore that. So I was just like no, and she was like to like go to college, you know, you're gonna be all for your own. You gotta carpet on your face. She's like, you gotta go off for your own and she's like, you'll have your own experience and you'd be like whoever you want to be there, And I'm like, okay, I didn't think nothing of it in college, never looked back.

So so and so you went all the way back to third grade. You knew there was an attraction to girls. Then you get to high school, still that attraction, but you never acted on it until college. So there was no sex, no kissing. No, you really just tried to steer away from me. The thing is, I really believed it. Uh No, I've never had sex with a man. So you are girls Latin section. What's to me means you

never like oh wait, sorry, that's the other side. If you're a gay man, that's never that's a gold star gay. If you came out of a stomach, you've even been near vain that I realized that is insane, that's crazy. You've never we've never, I've never heard of that. Yeah, it's a thing like you are gay, got it? So what you you go to college, you start having experiences and I'm assuming getting more comfortable with your gayness? What about women you were sleeping with? What did they want

to hide that they were sucking you? Or how did like how did that happen? And when you meet women that aren't out or things like that, how do you feel, um have I girls are usually pretty fun being open. I have only been in two situations where the women aren't were so open. Both of them were like African and very religious, and you know kind of like they're usually like stricter households. Do you feel that the d L can also be used that in terms with women

as well? Like we heard that we hear the term down low a lot with men who are not comfortable coming out. Bro, you like Harry Clinton is not you mean they've been saying she's been gay all time, but but she hasn't come out and said she's married to a man. That's d L. D's people that right now, But we don't know. No, No, that means, is there any proof that Hillary Clinton has a She ord have been a couchie by another Actually I have to say no, no,

I'm gonna get you. She may don't be masculine presenting, but that doesn't make her about it is that the suits. That's what I'm saying that Casio all like sucking Comlo whatever. But Hillary Clinton, they've been Sam's gay. They the internet enquired National Fire. My mom was reading paper bro not you playing final on Hillary Clinton. They've been saying Hillary was gay. Google it. That would be interesting if man imagine she came out. Ain't it crazy that Mirando looked gay?

And then she was all sex with city But that the same haircut as Mandy. Oh no, she did not baby marine, never have no thing away. She wasn't this fly. Let's go back a little bit. So family, let's talk about coming out. Um you know, tell us you're coming out story with your family and if you had any family members that you could lean on, um, I guess you could. I never secondly came out get out. My mom apparently have been stalking my Twitter for a month.

I had no idea. I'm a broke college shoot always asking for like, hey, I get like queen. I was like whatever, right, So one day my mom was tired of me getting tattoos. Didn't have many, but she was like, don't be wasting money that we sent you for school, lad, Right, So one day, in one Twitter I'm talking to my friend, one of my teammates at the time, and I was like, she said, I'm abouna get a tattoo, and I'm like, okay, cool, I'm gonna get a tattoo with you. I was like,

I think I have enough money for it. So we're talking about that. My mom text me, I swear to God like five minutes later and goes, if you get another tattoo, that's the last time you're gonna get from us. I'm like, oh, ship, like you can only see that on Twitter. Meanwhile, I had a girlfriend at the time that was like kind of posting the bat you're about it on Twitter. This is little like I was. Oh. I was like, I'm going there, I know, and she's

probably seen everything. Avery, I'm deleting everything like fuck, she's gonna know. Okay out. And then, honestly, like me and my mom were always cool. She had me very young, so you know that whole like single parent relationship. No, you all you got. But then honestly, once she knew I was gay, the relationship just changed drastically or not as well. No, I had siblings very late, like withou

was so those are my babies. But yeah, So it was pretty much like I felt like the only child for a while because even when they come like so young and I like went off to college, you know, but our relationship changed drastically. There is none Yeah you know,

I'm I'm a sad. I'm just kind of like listen, like either like me or you don't get there, and do you know what this room to grow for people Like yeah, it took a while for me to get to the point of being like, okay with the relationship how it is, but I'm like I have so many people that support loved me that like, Okay, she ever flat out asked you? And have you ever flat out said it? Or it's just um, well we did have a conversation about it, um she's like I was like,

I don't want to tell you. She's like, you know, like why don't you want to tell me? And I'm like, oh, you know, I don't really know. For a while, I leaned on the like maybe it's a phase because I was like new into exploring that, so I wasn't really sure. I'm the type of person like whoever I am, I can stand on it all day long, but I didn't want to come out to my mom who's like so like all my ass out it when I wasn't a

hundred percent sure. But once I knew, I remember her saying like, do you have any convictions about it or whatever? And I'm like no. And I think that was like the moment she realized like, oh, this's been really gay like and it's not going nowhere because she turns up the Bible so much and you were in Bible study and church and all that. What is your relationship to the church then, if if any and and has your sexuality pushed you away or brought you closer? Definitely pushed

me away. Um. It was just crazy because like growing up so religious, like I always saw myself I pick the church and raising my kid in the church and all these things. Um, but I do believe in God. Um. I just feel like, especially in the Black community, you hear about homosexuality all the time, but I feel like it's rooted in just toxic masculinity because you have all these a lot of like you know, black creatures and these no Black churches and they that's kind of like

what you're growing up around. And the black community is like a lot of like homophobic ship and I feel like they get there, they start preaching, and they're like also putting their views on things, because I'm like, why are we talking on this every Sunday? All this every Sunday, every Sunday. I'm like, just about how same sex is?

It's wrong? Is this? Is that? Like all these things, and I'm just like, at the end of the day, they even really say no in the Bible from what I like, listen, maybe maybe interpreted doesn't talking about sodomy or something and that homosexual talk about a lot of it you stories of Brianda, but I'm pretty sure they

have talked about like men and men. Know a lot of you ain't men and men thought they have been translate a lot of things have been translated as men and men was really before translation, like men to be a board, so like pedophilia, pedophilia. But when you get like the King James version and the translations, they're a little off. Oh so King James said s that they

can eat that. He said, don't King James changed it when they were really talking about boys, like you'll see a lot of those, um but shrimp and we can't bump coaches anyway, this one. But as I'm saying to God, says love all the children, love that neighbor, do this and that, and then they pick and choose which ones makes sense for them to feel like they living on earth. And you clearly know my money. If you you're probably

one of our tribe. And I feel like we have to do our due diligence with having a lesbian on because the niggas needed you here. We need your best sex tip. It can be. It doesn't even have to be head. Just something about pleasing women that I that you feel like is either your gift sent from God and King James himself or you've learned along that really

improved your sex um. I just think the most importan a thing with sex is just learning someone's body, paying attention, because it's just like how many times have we had sex and someone's doing something and we clearly don't like it and they just keep doing it. Also, like if anyone's like moving their needs towards you during head and like, it doesn't mean I'm gonna come, it means I'm uncomfortable.

You need to read. Definitely. I think he was with eating I've got some head reason And when her is she moving away from you. It's not good, Yo, it's not good. The head guy was so soft, and I complimented him on that, like, wow, like you were really gentle. I was like, even your fingers. When I felt his fingers go inside of me, I kept thinking he was gonna go deeper and he was like, oh, like I just start that way and I wait for someone to

tell me more. Why don't we all think like that. Yes, it's important, but I think even where with dealing with men, that's the thing too, write there's still this ego where they don't want to feel like they need direction or or anything like that is dirty talking my name. I believe it. Do you do you appreciate direction from tell me there right there? Oh left in? I love that. Literally,

I don't get that. I had one girl that I dated and she was so aggressive and I'd be like I would have to get up like and hold her head like this does not feel good. We like to do it like that. I would be like this doesn't feel good, and she's like, oh, just like just let me do it. I'm like I was like, okay, I was right, I'm gonna lay here this entire time. I'm not gonna come I'm not gonna move, So what is the purpose of this? Just so you eat? I mean,

people definitely eat, like give a head for them. Sometimes sometimes I do. I'll be forgetting when it gets too messy, I will say, though, and maybe we're maybe maybe we can speak to this. But to be fair, I do think sucking dick is way easier than eating pussy. Yeah, it is like like I don't know, but I feel like it would be like it's like there's a there when someone's sucking your strap, right, generally, it looks like the same motion, even if there's more hands or more spit,

it looks like the same motion. With eating pussy, it kind of looked different every time, every time your hands, your mouth, turning, your face, like on the type of person I wanted the whole face. Some people want like just to clip like it's some people want your pussy holes. Some people don't. Like I don't know. I don't mean I don't need it either. You Actually, I mean I love on the pussy my whole volva, but I don't

need you to just focus on the whole. For the men listening right, they may be wondering, why do you want your strap sucked. If you can't feel it, what pleasure is there? And okay, what what pleasure do you receive from getting your straps sucked? Because it's not attached to you know what I mean? It's it's we're so about the visuals. It's just sexy. It is um and it gives me what is fox? I think it's like titty fucking like what's the point of that happen? But

also feel the titties? All right? Fine? Sorry? Now yeah, the visual like the noise, oh, all of it, me too, all of it. I have a fence though, and I just and I have be posting my shorties. I can watch strap doing on see I got something I want to see one Hr. You can't just be asking to see but your fists? What you mean? I just want to know. I just want to see it, the best one I don't know. Please take your time pick it,

please please, I want to see it, Mandy said. Hr. Meanwhile, we don't watch the nigga fuck his own asshole because he what is that? You asked to see it? You asked to see it, but I am your calls. This is someone you met less than twenty four hours ago. I'm sorry, Jade, when you walked in the door and saw the horrible and you look down the page, did you say that would be a moment where I didn't need to see this strap? I mean, you want to share?

I thank you, But what does that mean? So it means you're sharing it in the world, right with the people that she wants to see it. I'm not so bad, but let me see it. You just play the audio. Oh my god, her eyes fun. Oh this is hot. I can't see right right across the brag okay, okay, right across the train. I asked you why you should cut a lot of horrible decisions, and it's mainly because, like sometimes people are whacked and wow you okay, let's

talk about the finger sniff tests. Oh yeah, no, no, Now this is this is giving masculinergy because there are men that do the fingers. I honestly normally, normally. I it's not a thing for me. Okay, but I learned after one situation. So it was just one girl. I'm in college. She lived in the dormnext had a badass. I was like, oh yeah, taking down yes, yes, So she was like, oh, it's trying for me. So you know, the moment came, her friend or roommate is in the

bed over there. Uh so I'm like, what's going on. She's like, no, it's okay, it's okay. And I'm like, lights are on everything, she's going to sleep, and I'm like fuck it. So you know, I'm finging her, but like I'm not like, I'm like, you know, our heads and stuff, our clothes, our faces are close, you know, finger cool. She's enjoying it. So now I'm like, I am about to give her some head. I went down there. Before I even go all the way down, I smell like,

oh my god, what the fund is that? It smelled like sewage. Oh? I was like no, because I sniffed my fingers and almost passed the funk out. I was girl, so like, so you put it back on her face. So I was like, when you start putting her face, what you supposed to do with now you bring it up to them and make them lick your fingers? Yes, what I mean obviously I'm assuming you saw. So I

was just like, oh my god. So now I'm like this bitch, you gotta have the STD because this is wow, Like how you smell like dizzy something that he hadn't have son because this ain't normal. So I was like, oh ship, So I just like I rolled over and I was like, I was like, hold on the right

fact I went to the bathroom wash my hands. I was like, oh fuck no. So then I got back into bed with her because I'm trying to like I don't be trying to embarrass people when we have sex, like if it's bad, like I'm not gonna be here like, oh my god, you're so terrible. You just sat here and said you pulled the bitch up for me and your pussy and said you're doing an awful job. Yeah, but I mean that was my girlfriend. Okay, so it's like something hurts, so I can't stop you. Yeah, but

I'm not gonna be like smells. I'm not gonna be like, damn it, you didn't tell it. I got out of there. I laid there and I was like she's like, oh, like why do you stop. I was like, oh, like I'm I'm gonna come back tomorrow. I'm gonna come back tomorrow when you get so poked. And I was like no, no, like let's go, let's go. I was like no, like there's no way. She didn't smell herself. Like, as a woman, we know when a smell is different, when this charge

is different. When I talk like, you would assume that most women do. Know. My mom said, if you can, if you can smell it, everybody everyone period, Yeah they can. I'm like, man, I like, I wasn't even all the way down there and I smelled it. Maybe he's normal for her at this point. I don't know. She was kind of a little bit. I saw you mentioned squirting, and I'm curious because I think a lot of people are like trying to make someone squirt. I don't know if they could do it in a car. So do

you have a squirting trick? And if so, tell us, And if you don't, just tell us your squirting stories. Okay, So of course any girl would. I definitely want to, you know a little. You want to show off, right, so people leave hands are the easiest way to get it off your first time. Okay. So I had one girlfriend that she always wanted to so she would like explore her body all the time, and then like somehow we just like start doing it all the time. It

was great. Cool. Now I'm like current girl, She's like, yeah, you know, I've done it before. Whatever. So what I realized with her works is if there's clip stimulation, so like she might be like rubbing her ship and I might either be finger her or fucking her. But I noticed, like when I'm not that deep in and she's doing it, Wow, you know, men are like convinced. I'm sorry, I really believe this. The more they're jamming it their hands inside

of you, the more they're gonna reach this button. And I'm like, yeah, I've definitely been like done that before, badly, I mean, because you're watching it in a porn Yeah, aggressiveness earlier. That's why I'm thinking. I'm like, yeah, when I was when I was younger, I would watch porn. They're slamming the door. Yes, we weren't yet. We're not being taught to be gentle. We're trying to do all the crazy heart be taught. Not. My homeboy told me recently,

I mean he ain't ship. When we were eating the other day and I told him about a sexual experience I had where like I was like kissed and cuddled after and he was like, weezy, I love you. I need to tell you something. I said, Okay, he was like I fuck every bitch like day about girl. He's like, because nobody wants to be slut it out unless they asked for it. Bro, He's like, you need somebody for the first time, like treat them kindly and like let

them tell you how much harder they needed. He's like, I'm a grown ass man and I'm sucking growing ass women and they do not want to not be kissed and slammed into the market headboard, like they're going to tell you when they need it. And he's right for the most part. I'm sure that's not the same, but I actually agree with that because when I do want it harder, I'm gonna tell you. He's like, I kiss bitches, I'll lick him everywhere, like I just sucking do whatever

I want. He was like an after sex. I like lay them the balls too. I was like, damn, my girls, be like why do you fuck me? Like he loved me. I'm like, girl, chill. That was like our like our first couple of times. I'm like, girl, now I want to get into kind of what dating is like because are masculine presenting. Yeah, that birthberry butter for all You'll take spending By the way, y'all if you're not watching on YouTube, her shirt said Jade's shirt says paper pussy piece,

give you peace. Amen, there you go. What is that conversation? Like? Is there ever? Like? We both bitches, So let's go Dusch. Do you not go dusch? Do you take the bill? What's up? Okay? So to a certain my dominance, I want to pay, Like I just feel like that's just I don't know, that's just I'm one. I'm just like, regardless of sexuality all those things, I am a very generous person. Um. So like even like there's times I'll

go with my friends at all, like cover for my friends. Um, but when I'm taking a woman out, most likely i'm asking her on a date. So I feel like if I'm asking you on a day, I definitely should be the one paying. I'm not going to ask you to come out and have you pay like, um but yeah there's somewhere kick there's a bit kicking her man right now. Yeah, I don't really I agree. I don't relieve you asked.

You can go Dutch, okay, but I don't really I don't want my girl going Dutch with me, So I'm gonna pay unless the only time, like my girl ever pays it and she's like, I want to take you out, and I'm like, da, you splanted me today. Okay, but look even last night we went to day and she paid. Um, but not ons and times I'm probably gonna pay. I've always said I hate Dutch, but I'd rather like pay, you pay, I pay whatever. Yeah, Like it just seems weird.

Just going it feels a real HOMEI once we started splitting a check, yeah, and I get dry. Yeah. I was gonna say, I'll literally split a check with a guy I'm not interested in, just so he knows, doesn't see. I don't say that when you used to be I'm on a date when we were when when I was poor going out to eat. That's a different handy when I was actually dating, So you didn't say that. I used to say that. Used to be like I don't give an if I never want to see you again,

that's why he gotta pay. I Okay, you did. They can run to take back. Let him run it right, Okay, Broka, how as bitch, what are you about to say? Old episodes like splitting though I do think it establishes friendship. Um, but I just think I never knew that. And I think honestly, for like whole male we've had people writing and say, like for women that are exploring their sati sexuality with other women, like what do I do on the date? What would you reckon? Or what do you

think happens with two lips lesbians? I honestly feel like period? Who not period? But I guess like in that situation, whoever asked what on the day should be paying? Do you believe that with two lips of lesbians one always takes? Like do you think there's gender roles? Do you think someone becomes quote unquote the man because it happened to me in patriarchy? Like? Did that good? Of course? Like you don't want to play into those, right, I feel like, but I do feel like I kind of play into

them a little bit myself. You open doors and ship. Yeah, And my thing is like I want my woman like whenever, like I'm like married or whatever. I don't want my woman to have to work like I want to just you see even the way you're talking, I've never and this is I know your care I've never called my girl like and I don't know why. I like whenever I'm no lie, that's some real like mask. But like I'm that bitch type ship my woman? Did she say

that was talking about you? I with her girl, I say the same thing about me and my girl, Like that's you. You already doing it, You alreadyven know. But I do think though, like I'm sure there's a world where maybe something can be fluid. I don't know, but I haven't really seen it all the way yet. Most

lesbian friends that I do have, there's a difference. I feel like too, um those gender roles come out a lot more with women that mostly date met so like I can say, like I've dated, I haven't really dated maybe any lesbians, not because I don't want to. It's just like I don't really come across a lot of lesbians. You're going to like lesbian clubs I have, but it's just like every especially in the city, it's just like everybody. I'm sucked everybody, like everybody. It's everything. I go to

lesbian clubs, they be fighting, don't don't. That's why I stopped going. Every time I went in the bitch I went with fight fighting people, and I just went I went with somebody was like the way people looked at me. I was like, baby fighting, it'd be, it'd be, it'd be a lot happening sometimes. And so I just I got into like gay nightclub seeing a little late. I guess you could say not even late, but I don't know. I just wasn't And even the woman there. There's a

lot of straight women that are there. Ye, yeah, a lot. I mean, do you have a problem with because I know gay men have said how much they hate when women come in and just want to hang out with the game. Do you hate when straight women consume this space because this is y'all space, and y'all don't have many. I can't even say I'm mad abou because I don't

even know. You don't know, they just look like a feminini, you know, I don't know until like we're having a conversation if but I do remember one I'm being at a club. One girl like wasn't trying to dance with me. She was like, I'm straight, what save right? Okay? But you okay, you straight? You can't it. Sometimes I will say, people get way to up their own ask thinking that every lesbian wants to fuck you like never, I mean, it's the same with. I mean that's the problem with

men too. Men think that gays are always just trying to turn them out. Is that a thing with you too, Like do you feel like even you just younger being in a room, did they think you want to conquer their straightness? I feel don't get wrong, I feel like the women be with it, but like, but I'd be like, girl, I don't want you like I'm not. I've definitely had girls where I like, like, I'm social, So if I go I could go to a club, bar or whatever by myself and I'm gonna have a blast. So like,

I'm open to talking to people and stuff. And sometimes people like, oh, you know I have a girlfriend, maybe we are you not in my sype? What is that type? I don't have them. Yeah, if you lined up all my exes, you'd be like nobody. Another question. Mandy made the Brittany Grinder comment, and it made me think about So when I had a girlfriend maybe two years of the show, and uh after that, I mean, even though I had continually talked about women, once I had a girlfriend,

I had the most pussy thrown at me. Like my ex when we went to Miami. Oh, she was sick. Of me bro because girls were you remember every home, I was like, I want you to be my first girl. I want to do this. You also admit openly that you fans. I didn't say I wouldn't puk me because either I think it's I'll be writing at for homet

like that. You know what I'm saying, Like women just the way they're like, I want eating my first Like but yeah, like at the end of the day, I'm still fucking bitches that fuck pitches like to me the first thing and like knocking me off the checklist was so fucking annoying. And I'm curious because you are mass presenting if a lot of girls are like, oh, I could fuck you because you don't look like a girl to me, and how it makes you feel, like do

you give a fun? No one has necessarily said that to me, but I've definitely been like the first for a lot of like straight women. But I don't know, I don't know. I don't feel any type of way about it. If I feel like you're like feticizing me or like being weird, then obviously like no, have you ever had a nigger want to suck you? I mean yes, it's so annoying. Oh yeah, they don't be trying much, is it like maybe like on a home girl ship And then they'd be like like, I've definitely had friends

at all. I've won. I grown up to like I never really have guy friends. I don't know why. I feel like I know I always have. Because she was trying to hide her gaines was trying to let's go hang out. No, I don't know, I just always I feel like I just connect with women more. Um, but yeah, I've definitely had friends that were like, oh, yeah, we're cool, and then all of a sudden, like we're out and he's like, yeah, so you he would never fuck no, like an if I did, it would not yo. I

remember this one guy. He hits me up like oh yeah we should hang I'm okay cool, Like we're both kind of like in like the art scene like where I'm at, and I'm like, okay cool. He's like a really dope photographer and he's like, yeah, yeah, I'll get you. This is like probably like for Uber and Left or right before, and he was like, yeah, yeah, I'll get you like a taxi, I'll call you. Taxes in my

career were kicking. I'm like, all right, cool, I'm thinking, Matt is I'm clearly gay and he's like, yeah, you know I dikes before I'm like, oh my god, he said this, what does that happened with me? Like he was trying to yo. I was like goodbye, Like I'm good. Have you had gay men wanting to drop them up? Yes? And I would definitely do it. I know that's right. Interesting, Yes,

let's unpack this. It was anything not bad because like as a lesbian, clearly you're attracted to chet's pussy, right like like I feel like that's it is strapping up a gay man part of the fluidity for you. You think you could try and or is it just because you know you get to funk a man and they wouldn't be sucking you. M yeah, well my thing is too. I think that feminine men are attractive. Um See, they

get the bitches, they get the straight bitches. That's the ones that I'm you're not sucking me, but i'd be down to just like trying. Yeah, but I always as I don't know, them dicking balls come out, they keep it in. Now, I don't know the time came I was someone that's probably going to give it head, you like, I gotta sucking dick. I'm not sucking dick. That's as far as I see, as far I can eat fussy

like maybe I mean like I think I was. I got one more question before home O two about your pronounsa. So why do you think it is that you're able to be comfortable to you? I don't know a lot of my friends, and I would call them studs and women. I've hung out with it her studs like get annoyed

sometimes when people reckon, is there a woman? But I'm gonna be real with you, Like I find it sexier when someone has like, I think you're pretty, but I also think you're fine, and I like I like that you're Like there's a handsome thing and I don't know what's it doing right? But yeah, Like, have you ever felt like there was a point where you maybe wanted to be more manly and or more mask or like and when I say manly, I mean actually appear to be a man? Like do you feel insulted when someone

says ma'am? And what's made you chose she instead of them? Okay, y'all, y'all don't know me obviously, Like, so y'all tell me y'all opinion. I get called sir all the time, Like if you saw me, what you think I was going? No, I don't think so either, But I get called sir. I mean, or you could just look like a real pretty feminine man maybe, but those like the pronouns on the street for me are like he him like, generally try to call you with how your quote unquote dressed

like a dressed someone? How they on the phone too. I'm like, damn, I ain't called you. I get sir on the phone. Girl, I like, my name is Jade, bitch. Drive through? Would I'd be going down to and it'd be like pull pull through, sir, it's ma'am, it's you. I'm taking it's ma'am. It's ma'am. It's ma'm to you. Yeah. How does that make you feel? Do you when you

were younger at least, did you feel that? Okay? So like no, no, like I've never And that's the thing that people always feel, like, oh, when you dress more masculine or you wear a strap, well now like I'm just wearing it throughout the day. But you know something, but I don't um. Some people feel like you want to be a man like. That's like such a narrative, and I'm like, I've never in my life wanted to be a man like. So no, there's never been a

time where I wanted to come off like. I like my appearance to be more masculine because that's what I feel comfortable with. But as what I identified with is a woman, I feel like a woman. I'm happy to be a woman. I don't want any other way. So, but when I would get called sir, he him all those things, I'm not like, man, have that like a shade to throw it like mask girls a lot, like you're mad because we're sucking your bitches and blue period.

Let's get into home mail. It's a really really short one, and I felt like it was good for all of us to answer, do you guys? And they were talking to Mandy and I, but I want you to jump into get slut shained by men or women more? And how do you handle it? If so, what do you think? Um? I think Over the years, it was girls, and then once I had a podcast, it was men because niggas are more likely to make a fake page and call me a horror God, damn, it's so much fucking effort. Bro.

Why that's why the YouTube comments be so so so much because they could go in there and notmous um. I don't really know. And I saw that question, I was trying to think. I would say it was even across the years. I don't think yeah, I mean, honestly, I think it was even. No, I would say men. I don't think I was really ever slest shamed by women because all of my friends rose I was friends with escorts, porn stars literally like we all got all of my friends were hos. So actually I never was

really sleight shamed. As as much as I was fat shamed by women. I was body shamed way more by women than men believe it. So that's the shaming that I got from women was definitely um physical never never bodies because I was always working the niggas they wanted anyway, How how did most women make you feel like that? Like? What what were they saying? And how about what you said? They were body shaming here? Oh yeah, I mean it

was always about my weight. It was always about um why I was getting like they didn't believe I was sucking the niggas that I was really fucking your face is online. I even I've even had a girl say so, me and her were both sucking his nigga on the colts, and he actually got you ain't gonna bleep it out. That's fine, he ain't there no more. But uh yeah, maybe they'd be gone every year. Um not NFL, not

for long. Um. Anyways, so he was sucking this bitch in Miami and she found out that he was also sucking me, and he found it so like it turned him on more. How much him sucking me bothered her because she felt like my body wasn't like done enough. I didn't have a small enough ways. I was a big bitch. How dare he sucked me and fuck her? We weren't in the same league, or so she thought. And so a lot of a lot of the issues were like where women would be like, ill, bit you

not even all that. That's crazy. That and not to me is an insecurity. I've never felt that with body type. I've only felt that with like the type of bit you fucking like, I'm gonna get insulted if you fucking at least cheating on me with a bitch, that's whack. But with a white bitch, and I only ask you, because we see that with looks and they're what's it called the the fuck the the pivot They Fred not fred Um the other Ni goddamn Channing got in trouble

for calling Russell Wilson whack or corny. So to you, clearly we know what isn't ugly? Okay, so that it was looks. No, you just said it wasn't lot I met body type. I'm sorry, okay, Like I've never thought that body type attributed to like attractivity, like uly, bitch. I mean, I'm gonna be real with you. I didn't say white women were ugly, but the men that I date,

I like, I don't find it. I don't think it's cool for niggas to just a bunch of white bitches, and like think it's a look for you, especially lit black men or black women, Like I think we should be finding our counterpart I BELI even black families. I understand I'm mixed. So y'all might feel like I can't do that gun host it, but I am and get over it. But also, you used to date white men, Yeah I did, and I stopped, bro, Like I realized it just really wasn't it really didn't make sense at

the end of the day. Like, don't get me wrong, I'd probably a white boy. When I go to yourpe I'm probably getting white You're engaged a white women, tell us get out. It's more like this. It's just it's it's more so when you realize like one of I can't say it because y'all know who it is, but being so proud in your blackness and wanting to pursue black shit in surrounding yourself, like even my studio, right, Like I make it a point to hire black and

brown people. What I look like marrying and starting his family and getting all this money together with the white dude. It's just not no for real, and like so for me when I and also like there's an abundance of attractive black people in the world, attractive Latino's, attractive brown people, Indians, Asians, whatever, bro, So when I know that someone's on a streak of fucking white people, to me, you're looking for it, because it ain't hard for me to find a find ball sucking.

It's just not that's to me where it is weird where it's like you're searching for this like white woman or a white bird like, but the trend for you to be on the trend where you just keep at it, that to me is when like you must like it or a whole bunch of snow bunnies and that son like, why woman as have been disturbed? I was so confused, Mandy like, And it's funny because I remember like the closure talk that we had and he was just like, He's like, I know what you're saying, but you know

every girlfriend I have was black. I'm like, but you know when wh white girls ain't to look for you either, And I've said all his girlfriends were lit. I really can't find a girlfriend he had that wasn't ape. A matter of fact, one of them lives between New York and l A. I want to be her friends so bad. She just lit as styles and she pretty. I'm like, damn,

why you had to fuck that bitch? But anyway, uh, I say that to say, he was like, in my head, I wouldn't date them, so I'm just smashing and dashing and I could do it with white girls easy. And I just don't believe that. To me, if you're like that obsessive about sucking hose, like you're gonna fuchs you want to fuck. You're not sucking people that you won't end up with, like, shut up. And I do think

it's just weird when someone gets to that point. So for me again, I do get insulted when I'll see you niggas a bunch of white girls not be like, what then do you want me for? And or girls that are ugly? Okay? And I know people say ugly subjective. It's ugly. It's subjective, not really, it sure is. It is because I'll be calling some of the some of the niggas my friends be fucking is ugly, and they'd be like, they're not, and I'd be like, the ugly niggas and I knew they were ugly. You had that

one ugly, Oh my god, Jamaican, the DJ. I know, y'all. He was the ugliest motherfuck's out. I've never seen a mother was ugly. Oh, I know you can find him was ugly, all right. And when I tell you, and she got cheated on that nick nigga cheating on her? How you don't know one because I used to put back there. I liked ugly niggas. They're funny. No, she was like nineteen, she don't know what about Dick is

a nineteen Yeah, I'll take it back. I'm not unfun like if that even walked by me in the street and told people to be like please and my excuse now is like it was before I had chitties BT before. All right, all right, well Jay, thank you so much? Do you do you want to? Also want to say, do you want to shut out on not defense not don't you gotta accept she's gonna get flooded with thousands

of nerves? What messages do you want? Because I'm serious, like people are gonna throw but she has a girlfriend. I know That's what I'm saying. What kind of messages do you want? Would you want it to be like three some type ship? If any We're down for a third okay for she no just sex sex? Did you tell your girl you were coming on here? And how did you feel about it? I was saying, so Yesay was like it's so funny because I'm like, I feel

the most myself with her. If anyone I dated and I was like, there's other people would date it, and I probably would have been like, yeah, I'm not doing that. But he thought it was like dope. She's like I'm so excited for you. That's cool. Let's be cool now. Wait, do what your handle? It's Jade of all Trades? What a Z? I love that name. By the way, that's a really good name. What does z Z? Well? I'm telling you they're coming. Prepare yourself, Prepare for sure, love

me too. Want to tell everyone Happy Pride, Happy Pride. And again, if you guys want some bonus content, please make sure you go over to our patreon. That's patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions Jade, thank you so much for joining us today. And this has been yet another episode of horrible decisions ladies and left everything you do. I just found something out. I'm freaking out. I have no clue what to do. I was just informed by my boyfriend that his ex has herpes and did while

they were together. She wasn't having an outbreak then they never fully had sex. I don't know what the funk that means, but I know your episode with Ella. That's still possible to even get it then, and it's extremely common, so I'm not upset over the possibility that have her have herpes. I'm piste off that I was just informed of this almost a year into our relationship, he's never been tested for it or an STD in general. It was dumb and not like me to still have sex

with him after that. But I immediately got tested on my own. But as discussed on Ella's episode, they don't test for her pies. Not caring about your own sexual health is one thing, but I feel like not caring about your partner's sexual health is another. I don't care if I have it, like I said, but I just feel very betrayed and disrespected. I'm not sure what to do. He knows I'm mad at him, but with dumping him be over dramatic. I feel like hiding something is kind

of a deal breaker. Please help me. I'm a patron. You can read this on there too. Um So, she mentioned that she got tested, but really realize that they don't test for her bees. That's only because you have to just ask. So they do test you for her bees if you go in for an STD screening, however, you have to ask for them to include her pies. So she's just saying like she got tested after but but like, like, you know, it's something you've got to

request or it, so just go back and requested. I think the interesting thing is is dumping him over dramatic because she said it's not about the herpes, it's about um the deal breaker from hiding something. I'll be honest with you, and I surprised I'm even saying this, But I don't even know if he realized he was hiding something. And here's why. If a year later he told you, I yes, Like, I think here's the the interesting thing.

You can be mad that he didn't care enough about your health because that is something that's super important that people don't give a funk about. Right, People care about them selves, and people are worried about their own ship. Not everyone is as conci conscientious about others around them. That's why people voted for Trump. Right, That's like just a more larger issue. People are not selfless like they need to be. That is an issue for you. Let

that be the issue for you. But if he eventually told you, he probably never realized that he was quote unquote lying, right, So I don't know if dumping him for that would be over dramatic. I think dumping him should be because you feel like he doesn't care about that as much more than he hid it. Because I don't know if they hid it. I think that this would be a time for you both to talk about your sexual health and being that he never went and

got tested. To me, there's nothing technically wrong with him not disclosing the health of someone else. I think that this is something to where you could both to take as a learning lesson. But the fact that he didn't disclose something that could be very private to someone else uh.

To me, it's more so the fact that he never thought the need to go and get tested, which means he may not see herpes as a big deal, which means the two of you may need to open up about your views on sexual health as it pertains to as TVs And this could be the time to where you both go and get tested together, or you find or you find out from him why herpes isn't a

big deal to him. Maybe he feels like it's not that big of a deal as long as you don't get outbreaks, or maybe he feels like how or maybe he feels like so many people in the world. I mean, we talked about it even on the episode. Eighty percent of people have have some form of herpie simplex. Of course, there's the one on your mouth and the one on your genitals, but also herpes can can end up in any moist area on your body. You can get herpes

and your goddamn arn't pit. So I think that it's important for you, guys to discuss your views on sexually transmitted disease and your sexual health and not use this as a time to to to badger him or or punish him by breaking up with him. But this is a chance for you to educate him and maybe see where his views are on this. Yeah. I think that's a really important thing, is that he may not just understand and um, everything is a learning moment and a

teaching moment. Excuse me, And when it happens like this, especially if we told you a year later, it doesn't sound like a lie. Um. Also, bitch, what is never fully had sex? Because you look white? Zilly? And I wonder if this is some white people, because when white people say we hooked up, I'm like, what that means? I don't know what hooked up means? Do you know what it means? Man? Do because I don't hooked up

without sex. Maybe just make people be like, yeah, we hooked up once, and you're like what I'm saying hooking hooking up the sex. That's what I thought, so what I'm up. But hooking up is the same way we talked about dating, meaning something depending on the person or I mean. But we also say oral sex is sex. So my nigga's still set. Okay, well, maybe that's what

she means they never fully had sex. When she said they never fully had sex, that made me think to myself, Wundy, they drive or played and right