Ep 241: Sex Ed Failed Us All (Ft. Dr. Heather)

so crazy. My cousin, who also grew up in the Bronx, is also named Heather because my father from the Bronx. There's two Heather from the Bronx and we black. Well, I'm excited to have you guys. Um, we did have a doctor. We got a few like healthcare professionals here on Horrible Decisions. Um. Our last b g way and we had on was Dr Christina, and I think before that we had on when we've talked about the vagina,

maybe just Michelle Hope just likes in the industry. But I mean, our pussies are changing, they're getting older, so exactly, I need vaginary rejuvenation and a conversation about what's going on down there. Why do you need vaginal like rejuvenation though, Like, why do you need it? Okay? So um, I did this TV show called sex Cells, and I went to this place called the V Spot and they have this menu of all the different things you could do with

your vagina. A woman from the Real Housewives owned it. I don't know if you've ever heard about this place, but at the V Spot, yeah, and actually she was great. She said the V stood provolva, like you know, and she was like, we just want to make sure women can take care of their bodies. And she's like, we do vegacial vaginal rejuvenation. I went on this fucking thing to like tighten my keygels and it was like a

mile a minute, like electrocuting me. It was fun, though, but now I want badgin and rejuvenation because it's like I heard, it's a vagacial and they like basically make your pussy even tighter. Not yet once I popped the baby out, yeah, because I'm like, if you do it now and make it too tight and then you're not able to do what you actually want to do. I wanted to be like Supertan like, oh my god, sorry, I can I also ask you before, only only because I'm a super fans san and she just brought up

Real Housewives. Do you watch Mary to Medicine and do you like the representation of black women doctors on that show? So ay, Gonna Andy, I mean Andy Cohen is someone who I appreciate because I'm always entertained and honestly married to medicine. I don't think that's a terrible job. I think it's honest, it's real and certain respects. Like people always expect doctors to be like these people who don't fight, who don't drink, who don't curse, and we do all

those things. So I kind of like showing that side of us um and I think it does fine with black women because I feel like the black doctors on there are are working. I know some of them personally, and I know some of them like you know, in professional settings, and they are there are people who work, you know what I mean? So doctor, have the can you go ahead before we really get into the get into the good ship okay, get into the good okay of this episode, can you let our audience know what

type of doctor you are? So I'm an O B G y N. So that's an obstetrician kynecologist. You just being pussies, basically, that's right, have you? Um? Like, if you said you listen to our show before, how do you find horrible decisions? So basically the reason why even ended up finding your lovely program is that I'm always trying to find ways to not shock myself when patients come to me with different things. Right, so I want to know what people are doing in the streets. So

they're doing lemon cream pies. Do you know what that is? Well, I know what the cream pipe. I guess if it's yellow, I'm and is their urine involved? Yeah? Interesting? Inside? Thank you for backing us up their interesting. Well you're in a starles, So I mean did your the Alabama hot pocket episode? No, I did not hear about it. When you close your ears, kids ship in a pussy and that's not as great. I don't think our listeners do it. We do have some Middle America folks now, but I

feel like they're elevated. But that sounds real down home to me. Yeah, Like when you're so bored, you just like, let me just ship. Let's figure out like different things for us to do when you're when you listen to Horrible, have you heard us say anything wrong about baginal health and if so, you did it like strike of Corby, like oh my god, or something that we asked a question about where you're like, I need to come on

the show a few things. But I mean, I feel like so when I usually see people the pussy's broken, vagina broken, she's said, maybe as dry as hell. Maybe it's dry, Maybe it's not smellingthing I thought you're didn't insecure pussy. Maybe it's dry as hell. Maybe it really spelled pussy, which I don't have. Well, we're gonna get into a little bit of the vaginal things later. I did want to start off as well, because you are

also an educator as well as a medical professional. I wanted to know for the icebreaker of this episode three ways, um, that we have all been failed by sex education. So could you share with us three things that we all should have learned in sex at early on that most of us did not well. One, the vagina should smell like a vagina. Okay, that's that part, huge, um, if you had to describe it to someone that didn't have a nose. What would you say? But if they didn't

have a nose, would you know what I'm saying? Yeah? Because like I actually I agree right, Like I've heard that said so many times. Vagina, a vaginas I supposed to smell like flowers or water. But what is it? How do you describe? I think mine just has a natural musk and I like the smell of it, but I also don't know how to describe it. Yeah, I don't really know how to describe it either, but I know what It shouldn't smell like that, you know what

I mean? So it's like when you show. We went to a live show in Atlanta and they also traveled and came to another live show and he literally sat next to his girlfriend and said that her vagina smelled like salmon, he said, and we were just like, the whole audience is just like, oh no, honey, wait at the smell? What else would it like? In the present? He was talking about her. She was right next to him in the past, regardless, she was paying were your

mask past? What you're telling me? He was talking about the business? Who were there? We've talked about? How do you just I don't know why it's just not something that is. Yeah, like healthy vagina doesn't smell like to be honest, even the pride fish don't be smelling that good. I mean does like fish just don't smell good. Ever, is there any good smelling fish? No? Not really no, no, right, I mean salmon with butter and caper is kind of be hit And I'd be like, but now you add

and added, you do it. So I am adding smelling kind of good bro legs on my hands. The other day and it was nighttime and I was around my mom and I got drunk. I was like, I can't even master me. Now she's gonna last for days. My mom was laughing and she was maybe, well, like scrubby with lemon or well, what can we do? And I was like, I don't need you to to help me master right up. She's like, I know, but you're right. You

can't put it up there. Then it's really gonna smell like no. Okay, So outside of aagina should smell like vagina. Give us two more that we should have learned early on. Um. So, another big thing is that sex shouldn't hurt. And a lot of people get that thought because people talk about losing virginity and like so they're like, oh, when you lose your virginity, it may hurt. And then some people don't realize that that's like not a continual thing. Is

the cherry popping a real thing for something? Yeah? Right? Like, well, I mean I know that. That's That's when even when I was looking up sex, smiths like the idea of a cherry popping not everyone's cherry pops. Well maybe because it did in another way, they say, they say, the gym um riding a bike, it could have happened to

you before. But if I'm not mistaken, everyone has a hymen every every but again it's not associated directly with sex all the time, which is why when we talked about the t I thing, the idea that he was checking on his daughter's hymen was just like yours. Do you remember a moment where it happened to you or you don't know? I don't know exactly. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah I don't. I don't And most people don't have that experience. You don't either. I remember like vividly, Yeah, bro,

it went down my leg, the blood it was bad. Yeah, I must have been like write a whole bunch of bicycles. Maybe you're about riding home on a nig. You're like, all right, man, but you know what, I have heavy periods now, maybe that's why it's actually bleeding the whole time. Mandy barely has periods. Maybe you had only because I'm one of God's chosen, that's all. Like this three day period, You're so lucky. I'm so blessed are yours? Mine are

like six days? And I'm like, so I have six days of bleeding and then the six days before I'm like a bit well cry, I'm crying like it's like today, right, because I'm I will share. I am definitely in that pre period luteal phase. Right. And so today somebody was telling me about how they're surprising their grandma and she's in her nineties and she hasn't and they haven't seen her since before the pandemic. And I'm like, I love those videos. Send me a video of that so I

can cry. And I'm like, who am I? Who the hell is? It's weird, but I wanted to I want you to SENTI right, I all I want to post this. I love the surprise videos. You know, it was like and I was like, I'm tearing up just thinking about this right now. Okay, No, that's way too emotional. And what's number three? Give me number three that should learned earlier? Yeah, so numbers three is that you shouldn't be cleaning inside your vagina, right, and that your vagina and volva are

two separate things. Why bonus? Why the hell was them douches the Summer's eve bullshit? Douches like introduced as something that we should do because they got money and so they're paying for like things like that, because the seminine care industry is a multifillion dollars and so it's a very these everybody wants there vagina to smelling flowers. We're

always the saming that it smells bad. I remember when I was like younger I was, I wasn't even having sex yet, and I bought a douche, didn't know how to use it and never even put a tamp on in, and I was like, well, I have to smell good, like what if I get fingered tonight, like just dumb ship. And I think that, um, the association to the smell not needing to smell like like it has to smell like something else is the problem. Also when you walk down the aisle. I was just in Walgreens, so I

only use I used something from Hole of Foods. It's a natural vaginal wash. I've been using it for like four years now. I ran out, had to go to Walgreens, and I was like, yo, there's nothing here, Like I literally used water, and like I think whatever plane sofa had for just the outside, like I didn't even want to touch the lips. I was freaking out because everything I looked at had this name Midnight Flower Rose Garden. And I'm like, nigga, what if I smell like a

candle in my pussy? It ain't right. I also think the important thing too, I don't think like the important like all literally washed my my whole body, and then I'll put like I have the little loop up for my hand. So I washed my whole body, and then once all the soap is gone, then I go in with just my bare hands. Because I think a lot of people don't understand as well, because I know, as black folks be using loofless and wash cloths, the white folks don't even use water but or shower at all.

But the loot stop we have maybe we have thirty five and guess what, they still don't shower. It doesn't matter if they listen another So I'm helping your new white listener. But but no, like even just learning the importance again as a fucking adult, Like you shouldn't even be using your wash rag to go in there and clean the outside because of course it has all of your dove soap or whatever you use. And then also like a lot of people aren't just read like changing

out their loofas and watch class every day. So also just that bacteria that you washed off, you're now entering into your phone in the shower, Like, yeah, I'm not I'm not even kidding. I came home after a two weeks, right, and I was like, what smells what? And when I picked up the loof I was like, oh my god, I went the last time I was here, I could

smell it was smelled old. Imagine if I didn't think for a moment, I would have just been scrubbing on like oh ship, Yeah, well, let's get into if you are listening to us for the very first time today because you just love that we brought the education is sheet our Vanilla's Ship segment gives you sex in the

news and for this one girl, we're talking as TVs. Okay, So, speaking of which, my panties are so t I'm around, but no, babe, I remember like when I was younger, my mom was like, don't sit with the wet swimsuits and make sure the panties are loose, and they kind. Yes. Well, I wanted to let you guys know, don't blame our show for this, but this marks the sixth consecutive year of record breaking cases of sexually trans minted disease in

the US. And y'all, I'm about to give you the ten states that are the highest in there, and if it's your state, you might just want to go get um. Well, two thousand nineteen, more than two point five million cases of chlamydia, gnarrhea, and syphilis reported, according to the CDC Prevention um. The CDC data looked at states with the highest cases of chlamydia, gunaria, syphilis, and congenital syphilis. What

is congenital syphilis. That's a different type of syphilis. So that's if your mama has syphilis and gave it to you as like when you were as a child, you were in utero and your mom had syphilis and you got it that way, and could you get rid of that? Um, not really, because it causes certain birth defects that you have for like the rest of your life. Oh careful out there, guys. Is they all have something that's tested

on women before giving birth. Yep, we test you and and we test you and treat you if you're positive. Oh wow, oh wow. Ship, my homegirl got canary while she was pregnant, and I remember she was freaking out because, um, and this is when I was ship in high school. I think maybe he might win her second partner. And she was so scared and everybody was freaking out about it because they didn't know what medicine, what dosage to

give her. She had a high roots pregnancy. And we really need to just keep in mind like the fallopian tubes and STDs. People make jokes and I even I do about like, oh, I'll just take a pill and get rid of it, But like it's a lot of damage, especially if you don't catch it. And that's the thing. A lot of a lot of women a aren't in tune enough with their bodies to even realize a change. But also there are so many of these STDs that some people may not even see symptoms, Like I didn't

even get symptoms from sucking COVID. So there's that is Sometimes I look at my nigga, like when he came back from the cad out, and I'm like, I tell you right now, speaking of the class, we're gonna talk about the ten uh states with the most cases of clamidia and you had one out of ten, correct, wueezy. Georgia is in there. Um so we have Alaska, Mississippi, Louisiana, South Carolina, New Mexico, North Carolina, Georgia, Alabama, New York,

and Illinois. They that rank the loil actually New Hampshire. But also I don't know anyone that lives there. But Alaska, we don't know anyone who lives there either. But maybe that's what what are they doing? How far any Canadian store? Can you really go get a condom? I mean in Alaska? Yeah, And if any think they have that accident in Alaska, I know I wanted to do it. God, That's why I'm having a small community accent. This is not southern. This is like we live in a place where we

don't have stores like that. A condom for I'm gonna pull it out and shoot it on her bed one of the other things that I actually as well wanted to share because this is a motherfucking black ass podcast. Um. The CDC data actually illustrates the STD rates were one to two times higher for Hispanic and Latino populations, UM, and rates for American, Indian, Alaska, Native, Native, Hawaiian and other Pacific islander populations were three to five times higher.

Data also showed You're ready, I was like oodcast now the data showed the STD rates were five to eight times higher among now now listeners are like and take that, Amanda. UM. So the thing is, I have a two part question to this. A for the CDC, this says that these are all SATs from twenty nineteen UM, and so it's one why are these sat almost two years old? So you have to understand that different health departments have different

criteria for how you report these right. So, UM, any clinic you go to, private, public, they all have to get this data and it takes a while, and it depends on what state you're from, because we're talking about places like Alaska, We're talking about places like Florida, We're talking about what what does that mean? What does that mean? Where it may not be centralized, It may not be a central type of way that they collect all this data, so it takes a while to get all in the

data for the whole country. Florida is sucking up votes for the presidency and our STD stats. Probably what are we from there, dude? They're just embarrassing. Floria cannot get their ship together. Any place I've ever been to, I hate it the Plan Parent and then I go to this place called the Center. It's an lgbt Q friendly place if you want to have a free test over there. I always go when I'm downtown because I'm like, oh,

it's so easy. There you go, you peanut cup, you just need your I D. So this is parked up because I'm like giving the place props. At the same time, they pick up with no cover, handed it to the girl and I was like, Okay, when do I know and she was like, well, if we call you, you'll know. I'm gonna panic long Like that is the worst me

A twist top not the question. The second question I had for you, based on even how it's been for you working during COVID, do you see do you predict that those numbers will go down because so many people were locked in their homes or do you feel like it would also continue to rise. For I think it actually might go down to be because I do think that people just kind of buttied up and figured it out. I mean, but of the people, that's how I got a boyfriend. Look at you. It's gone now, but it

was cute all last. We'll come for you. Yeah, that party as long as he left with and you as the relationship with. No, Yeah, let's I hope we win. We were good and clean whole time. I loved it. I loved it for us. Come on, I mean, damn, look at us. So yeah, I mean I guess I agree as well. Um have you have you had as many scares? And also can you talk about where you had been? Like where do you work? What part of New York? The Bronx, the Boogie. But I'm in Queen's now.

But I'm in Queen's doing now, I shout out, Cathar, let's go. I grew up in park. Now they're speaking, I want to say. I want to say, okay, And is it private? Is it? So? I worked for the public hospital system, so Um, I see any and everybody, people who have insurance, people who don't have insurance, people who got their immigration paper straight, people who don't. I see everybody. How what is the easiest way for uh someone that does not have insurance to get access to

STD testing or what would you recommend? So the free clinic works, like the free clinic works, and there's a lot of different iterations of free clinics. Right. So, um, in the hospital where I am, we have clinic space in the hospital and we worked to whatever you know, income you have, right so if you don't have money, we'll see you. If you, you know, make a little something. We have a sliding cli dollars just we need because

we gotta keep these lights on. I went to a free clinic when we first quit our job years ago for STD testing, and I had a really shitty experience because it was like I waited like six hours to be seen, and then once I got seen, they were like asking me how much I made my last pace step, But then my pay step was too close to when I went, and I was like, Nick, I don't have a job nowhere. I know what is it? But damn, And I mean I couldn't even be seen that day.

Until they determined that my income was low enough to get tested for free, they wouldn't even take the sample. And then once they did take the sample, they said, if something came back wrong, They're like, well, what do you want to test for? I was like, well, I want to test for everything. And then they started breaking down that goneria cost more, lamidia was cheaper, and I'm like, they don't even And we've talked about this on the show.

We've had a few episodes around her feet, herpie simplex. That is an actual test because they assume everyone has some some number of it. I think there's eight. If yeah, there's eight, there's an eight, And so that's one that they will only test you for if you ask, because it is a it's a different cost than just the basic chlamydia syphilis trick. And there's one more, the basic

wnoia clamidia. Well, I test everybody for doneria clamidia. UM HIV of course will be forget in the HIV and it's still out in these streets and black women we are still the highest um people getting new cases of HIV. It's really really bad. I was gonna go out tonight and have some fun and I want to stay in the house. Yeah you know. I mean you could go out without having sex where you can have sex and just like not get h me. I know, but it's

not worthy. The second abstinence and I've been some good lord and like here we go, scarier, bro, I hear the coming out really serious. Y'all can joke all you want. When you are not fucking and then you start sucking again, you almost anxiety on top of like when I'm sucking this ship don't come across my mind. But not sucking right now, I'm like, oh god, oh now, now I'm going to jump into it, like you're more freaked out. It's true. That's actually true for a lot of people.

But the cuddling is kind of like fun and intense, Oh my god, because like everybody's respecting like the fact that I really don't wan to sun right now. So it's like really intense for playing humping, it's nice. It's also sweet not unch don't do nothing, because that is just like you know, a bitch now your child, Like it's kind of fun. Oh my goodness. I want to get into our horr derve and of course our horr

derv segment is where we get a sex tip from you. However, one of the things that I ran across in an article that I also saw you mentioned on your page but also look at you. You ain't even know the outline. You mentioned it as one of the things that we should learn early on in having sex. So I wanted to give a tip to all of the women based on this is this actually is an article from Everyday Health UM and in included in the description of this episode, but it says, why is it so hard to speak

up about painful sex? Um? So you are actually I believe featured in uh discussing this, but painful sex actually has a name. It's called that's the name of it. Thank you. It was like parunia vaginous smith though you you're in the right area because it actually vaginousmis can cause this perunia, So bunia unia like a pernia disperonia.

Let start where disparonia. So I actually wanted to add on sound like outside of vaginous smiths, outside of dysperunia, which is actually, you know a reason for painful sex? What are other reasons as to why a woman maybe experiencing painful sex? And then I would like you to also share with our audience a tip on how they can communicate this sex is just really painful for them. So let's start with the first one. What other reasons

could it be that the sex painful? So I like to tell people will split it up into kind of sex when the penis is going in in or whatever is going into the vagina, and what we call deep dysprunia, so like when the penis is deeper, right, Because it's really important to know the difference because it can be due to different things. So vagin is Smiths, which is

when your pelvic floor muscles kind of spasm um. That usually causes more what we call superficial dysprunia or more pain in the vagina and maybe even closer to the outer part and so um, the treatments are somewhat different. Deeper dysprunia could be due to things like fibrates, endometriosis. You could have had um pelvic inflammatory disease or p i D in the past and now you have some scar tissue in there. Sometimes it can be due to sexual trauma you have before. So there's a lot of

different reasons why you can have deep dysprunia. And sometimes you can have both. And I wanted to also add um and we'll talk about this in the Horrible Decision, but also just you can and get you can tear inside, not only from pregnancy, clearly that thing poppy right open, but if you're not wet enough, if you're not moist enough, there's if there's not enough lubricant, that you can start pretty much getting like a rug burn inside your pussy. Yes you can, and so that can cause it to hurt.

So even though you think she moaning it might be a pain, it's really painful. So can you give a tip to our audience for all the ladies listening, if they're with partners that they really love and they really do enjoy having sex, but it's also painful and unenjoyable at the same time, what tips would you give to

them in communicating that right. So I definitely just be really upfront, like I think what happens is that a lot of times we use euphemisms or we're like, oh, I'm gonna hurt somebody's feelings, but like, if it hurts you, it shouldn't hurt. Additionally, I find there's a lot of stigma against using lube like, I don't get why people feel like lube is a bad they're supposed to be.

I want to falling down that if men are celebrating, and it's much like the pressure on women for a rock hard dick, on men to have a rock hard dick that women may be giving or whatever partner. I think that particularly with men, even in music, pussy being super wet, these are things that you feel like you're supposed to naturally happen, right, Like no one feels good

about having to like, you know, spit on it. You want to be super soaked, and I think the experience is what someone's going to remember more than if it was your pussy they got wet or the loop right, I mean, at the end of the day, would you rather have broken pussy, dryass pussy for a little bit

of they didn't sponsor this podcast? Loop true? True? That, And I actually agree with that so much because I feel like so many people and so many conversations I have with especially women as they're getting older, because when you're getting older, like when you are going towards menopause or whatever, or you have or even people who just had a baby, because you're um, your hormones change, you can get dryer, and so they're like, oh, what's on with me? And it's like, girl, this is life, Like

this is not you. This is not my greatest life. Is that happening to me? I just know it's gonna happen. Something is always wrong with me. I'm allergic to everything. You just that ship is always sucked up. I just know when I popped that baby out, then I'll be like, yo, pussy got broke when it came out. So I'm gonna request the C section. Just do you deliver babies? By the way, how many times out of ten to the ship on the table? Do you want me to truly

into that? Probably most most time cannot tend but like maybe not. And I also want to ask you, and this has been no ship. This is another thing that I saw in the news article. And I want to know your opinion on this because I believe it happened here in New York City. Um, there is a crisis in which a hospital lost all of their nurses who deliver babies due to them not wanting to get vaccinated. And so now there's a whole area where they can't

deliver babies because they're not enough. What are your thoughts on that? And at this very moment YouTube is probably gonna put the CDC doctor goddamn stamp at the bottom of us, but I would like to know your thoughts on even that, being that you do deliver babies. Well, I think it's really unfortunate actually know that area because homegirls have some jobs. So I've been here, there and everywhere, and that place is rural as hell, is country as hell.

They already had access issues with people getting appropriate eccentric care, meaning care for pregnancy, for deliveries and things like that. The fact that they're closing that down because of it is messed up. And these people know each other, all right, Well, enough about the goddamn COVID vaccine. Everybody someone asked you that. Yes, I have been. I work in the Bronx. Of course I've been asked that. And if someone goes down on me with COVID, can I get over there? Yeah, they

have asked. And when you laugh about it, I mean I laugh audibly, so they know. I was like really, and they're like, yeah, no really, And I'm like, I mean, you can't get COVID specifically, and your puzzy but you can get COVID kind of body. It is a mucus membrane. What's the dumbest sh it someone's asked you? And what your opinion? Because they say there's no dumb questions, but they're kind of ore. I'm trying to think, if there's like dumb, maybe let's just say something that kind of

like what the fun wear? Mind a little? You're like an educator. I say, no question is a dumb question. Horrible decisions, I know, but there really aren't any because there are people who really don't know. And I don't think that it's their fault for not knowing. It's just life. And I think it's also you're in a spiral too. When you're the doctor, you just start asking yes, and people are really nervous. I asked everything. I'd be like

and I'm getting headaches, but yes. People will be telling me, oh and then mate hurt, like are you gonna do something about it? No? I'm like, do you want me deal or their tea? I'm like, do you really want you better know how to work my whole body? Yeah? But do you really want me to be filling a cavity? Like?

I mean, I deal with your vagina, Like do you want me to really be doing dental word for you when it comes to like the vagina though, right, Like it's so close to the asshole, Like when people have asshole issues, are they I mean, are you the whole area? I mean, there's some asshole things that I can deal with, like hemorrhoids I kind of deal with. And then there's some conditions when you get older pro lapse. So yeah, yeah, so the uters can come down, your rectum can start

pro lapsing, and so badder. Well, rosebud is like coming out the butt, but there's a way that your rectum can start coming out your vagina. Wait excuse me, so like to the wrong turn, you're wait, your budhole could come out of you will not. Well, So there's the anus, which is the body, and then there's a rectum, which is above the anus. Right, So that's two where the ship come out, and that's inside, right, that's above. So the back wall of your vagina shares some real estate

with the rectum. And if that back wall your vagina gets weak, it can kind of pooch out and actually your rectum, like it's called the recta seal, it can actually pooch into you. Okay, so I have one question about that. I have one question about that only because of course Future even made it popular with the thumb in your butt. But I do know that when I have a finger in my ass and a dick in my vagina, he can feel his finger in my ask is there anything where that could actually like, could he

puncture that little lining at all? Or is that not a I mean he would have to be extremely aggressive and probably never cut his nails and again be extremely aggressive to puncture it. And I have never seen that. Would okay, knock happen? I don't know, I never see that. What's the weirdest thing you've seen? So I had antient ones who forgot she left the juice like a juicy juice box inter vagina. Okay, maybe she was a little

thirst excuse me. Yeah, I don't know when she put it there, and she didn't remember why she put it there. I mean, she had some mental illness issues. But she was being brought to us, I know, but she was being brought to us now and she was like, oh, like yeah, because I was pulling out pieces of it and I was like, what is this? Like wanted to get like a puzzle. You know what. I don't want to know what flavor it was. It was great, not it was great, don't tell me she was it was

it was purple drink. I don't know it was, it was perfect. I hear all tampons being like left up there for a while and tampons are do you recommend the obi no string having condoms? Like or do those those tampons are they called obi? Yeah? Yeah that I remember always seeing that when I was like younger, like, well, how does it work? But like they literally even don't even have casing. Yeah, you just are those the ones that get stuck. No, it's really what happens is people

forget that they have a tampon in. I feel like and maybe they like their period was like that day and they were like, okay, let's just put one in, and then they go about their lives and they forget, and then they start having issues with discharge and smells and then they're like wait a minute. They come a lot of times they come in and then I do the examine. I'm like, I found the reason why you

have smells. I love them. That's usually at least since the last period, and it could be like, I mean, I've had a friend with one stuck for just a week, but that actually leads us into our whole boch face man. Y'all, y'all read the title for this week's episode. The horrible decision for this week is sense and feels. Okay, so the first question that I actually did have. Again, we're getting back to sex, but still the gushy gushy medical stuff as well. Let's get into it sense and smells.

First question, Should I have sex if my sense is off? Is it healthy? Too, funk through b v yeast or any other reason as to why my pussy's smell is not normal? One moment. This comes because I was recently at a sex club. Again if you join Patreon, it was the first time I was at a sex club where I walked into a room and I said, there's no way she doesn't smell that too, And I was just like, everyone in the room was having sex, so

it's clearly one of the women. And I was just like, that's where you could smell it right now, Like that is that is where I was just like, sonically, you're listening to this, are you? Like? Are and YouTube smell the show? But yeah, I wanted to know if there was any health concern or reasons why we should not

have sex if our pussies. Well, so the thing that's going on is that your pH is off right, and now, especially with something like b V, the bacteria has overgrown, right, So the issue is that you can make the situation worse because basically it depends on you know, condom usage, non condom usage, and your partner. But there's a possibility that. Um so when you have b V, your vagina is more basic, right, so in terms of acid base chemistry

and semen is basic. So that means that it can make the b V worse and it can actually usually

make this smell worse. So his colm can make the smell worse, so he should pull up if it already thinks I mean, but there's also my pre comes, So there's that and also too, like that kind of stuff can get on a penis, and then you have to know like your partners like hygiene is you know, because men have pH as well, Oh yeah, and they you know, and circumcised uncircumcised two, So there's some of that factor. You can get stuck in the forest, kid, there's a

lot of things that can happen. So I mean the answer technically is sure, you can do whatever you want, but it's probably not a great idea and it probably doesn't feel that great. Now we don't kink shame here, right, but we do, like I've given golden showers. We both said we really wouldn't be in this gap play. But also there's anal sex, so I did want to know, are there a lot of bacterial concerns with anal sex

and golden showers? And is it actually bad for our bodies to engage in So in terms of golden showers, so urine is usually um sterile, so there tends to be no back to her unless you have a U T I wait when I ask you like, and this is just the thought I have why all the time he is sterile, but all my toxins are coming out of it. At the same time, what is in the p that's making it the jellyfish thing? We're like, what

is that with the P bro? What is it? This is a great question, I like, actually really love this question. So in terms of toxins, we're talking about like chemical toxins, so that would be like nitrites or nitrogen containing things you know, like acidic things. But that's when your P hat is probably no. Now that when when when men no, they say when men like have the foamy P or whatever, Like if your P comes out and it's foamy, it's like health like could be healthy. I was like, yeah,

it can be. I thought, yeah, sometimes it depends it does. He's gonna be examining it. But it's more so like in terms of like the type fightings you eat things like that, that it's a big chemistry. Like I googled that because the dude that I slept with, um damn. I don't remember how long it was, but I was like, damn, this isn't because I was watching him P and I remember googling it and I was like, okay, the phone cool because I was like, is it is it like

this starts for men, like I really didn't know. So P is terryll. It's it's the sorry you said, it's the chemical toxic. It's chemical toxins. So it's not actual like bacteria or anything like that. So you could drink it. I mean yeah you couldn't. Actually, so usually in places let's say you get stranded, I touch, She's gonna same places where where do people drink it the most? In the middle of nowhere, and they're gonna die. And it's an option between drink that dirty like pool water or

my own piss. I'm gonna drink my own piss. And I just said that you're about to drink your piss. Us speaking of again, just pH and we talked about this earlier. You did a great job without even knowing anything we were talking about today. I wanted to know outside of our mental concerns regarding just how we think our pussies should just be wet. I want to know, is loop something that will throw off our pH and is loops something that then could also make us smell later.

That's a great question, and the answer is it can. Oftentimes it doesn't, though, because most lubes are formulated for the vaginal pH and most loops don't have things that should throw things up. However, we're all different, right, so some of us are more sensitive than others. So um, you may have a reaction to loupe because you may have a reaction to certain things in that lube that

may you don't right. Actually, always at a pretty sensitive pussy, Like I said, everything is always wrong with me but um, the matter the lube I've used after, I just feel not like burning, but a little just like something's there, like I'm aware of my vagina, like I notice it. Maybe it's like tingly like always water, like the oily ones, the fucking anything, the natural shade, organic lube, like, no

matter what. So now the only thing I've done, just a little bit differently is the lightest layer and rub it into their penis, like that's the only thing I've done, Whereas before I might put it on my hands and rub it on my vulva. Now it's the opposite if I need it. But I mean, it is scary when you're just like what works? Or just throw water in my mouth and try to get as much spit as I can. That's my face. There's that's the best. But it can dry out first, yes, yea. And the spit

has bacteria, that's true. We have the dirtiest mouths of everything. I mean, I'm sucking dig before I fux, so there's not really, there's no way around it. I'm gonna hope that the onion soup is out of my mouth. But like, all right, that's why I was on my mind. So the last one in the horror decision has to do with fields. Um, and this is because we have a lot of kinksters that listening. So this is a question

for anyone interested in fisting, gaping, double penetration, or size queens. Okay, well, my holes ever be tight again? Um most times? Yeah, because like so in terms of we're talking about butt holes or we're talking so okay, most of these whole have muscle around them and um, connective tissue which is collagen, right, and so that allows for some level of elasticity, so they should be able to stretch and then go back, right. So that's why, um, people's vaginas don't stay as big

as that newborn baby. It goes back. Or is there a time frame from that, Like if I suck a big dick nigga one night, well a little dick nigga know I had the night before? Unlikely? Yeah, like usually within a few minutes. So like even looking at after that makes things fun. Within a few minutes, you should be back to where you were before. So cheaters, you're gonna be okay. Yeah. So if people claim they feel a difference, they're just trying to like get something out

of you. It's not necessarily and then they feel anything different. I love that. I love that. Well, before we get out of here, I found a homemail that I feel like only you could have answered if we're getting into the health ship. So this is actually from one of our male listeners. Um, yeah, I'm excited about it. So it says, hey, y'all a huge fan of the show and recently started from the beginning. I've known about Horrible Decisions for a while now, but never gave it a shot.

But after Manny started doing her other pod and after we created the pod studio, I thought it was trying to pay attention to y'all. Jeez, thanks, Like damn, were you waiting to see us really proper spot? Maybe because visually people like watching it. Maybe it networks too. You're being kind, you know. He said, I'm a twenty eight year old by his spinnic mail, that's still a virgin. I know. That's probably why I took him so long

to listen. Anyway, Sorry, he said, I have gotten head eating pussy and said a lot of vanilla ship, but never have penetrated. I have this condition called fimsis not sure if you guys know what that is. But basically, the foreskin of my dick is too tight. It doesn't pull back behind the head, and I'm self conscious about it. Some women and men like it, others don't. I've always been scared to have sex because I think the foreskin

will rip when I penetrate. I'm too much in my head and affects my ability to get hard when it comes down to someone wanting to funk me. I've considered getting circumcised, but I'm being a bit and it terrifies me. I actually don't mind having foreskin. I just wish it was regular and pulled back and forth effortlessly. Also, I don't have shregma, and I hate how uncircumcised dick have the rep of coming with shregma. I have had for years that I know how to clean it. Have you

guys ever heard of this condition? And if women or men actually have that as a kink? Love the show, y'all's energy. Keep it going, sincerely, the Riverside guy. Right, it's a great one, and I mean in terms of Moses, I've heard of it, and a lot of times we

hear about it when it's actually painful. So not only does it like not retract the foreskin, but it actually kind of suffocates it, and so it can be sometimes a surgical emergency for my colleagues who are urologists where they have to like come in and like snippy snip, does he can he do the thing where he um, you know how like men want to grow their foreskin back, Can he like do the stretching to maybe, I mean potentially,

or he can also get circumcised. Or if there's any um, like you know, scar tissue or some sorde of type of tissue that's holding up the foreskin from being able to be pulled back, there may be techniques they can use to kind of free it up a little bit. Now, circumcision as an adult for men that maybe even still be wanting to consider it now, they lose even more of their sensation, correct, because and it's super painful. Insurance no, and even actually, did you know that baby circumcision is

also not covered by insurance? Wait? Serious? Um that I don't know because I don't do that, I'm not No. I well I heard that it's sixteen dollars on average in the country to deliver baby. Yeah, so that's why I was like curious, like someone had to throw that in there, because that is the option of the parents.

It is a circumcised not and I know that in America people are circumcised, and what do people do and it's not um something that has always been the case, Like insurance companies did pay for them in the past, but many most insurance companies don't because because before the thought about circumcising was that it decreases infection, especially things

like transmission for HIV. That's what they thought, but then they did further studies that show that that's not actually the case, and it's actually just primarily cosmetic or cultural and comic that's what they was. Honestly, I haven't never minded uncircumcised penises, but I feel like other women do. And just the fact that there's a girl out there that could talk about my son's dick in a disparaging way, that's the only reason I do it. Really just save him.

But I'm oh my gosh, I'm a saving from these But then in terms of pleasure hearing that men and and by the way, someone that has given blow jobs to someone who circumcised and uncircumcised, oh my god, uncircumcised dudes making way more fucking noise when I sucked their dick or even touched them certain ways, and I'm like, why are you nodding? Are you uncircumcised? No, no, I'm just appreciate over you. That was a head, not like

like skin. Well, no, I'm circumcised here. I just watched the Sex in the City of episode where Charlotte was dating a guy who had for skin and he wanted to get circumcised, and it was really funny because when you said it was painful, they started making out and it was like after a surgery and he got hard. He's like, oh, like, can you not be like under when they do that? Oh no, you're put to sleep. Put to sleep for but I mean you wake up,

somebody cut your foreskin off. It's on your penis. Like when I got my tips done right, I didn't feel it, but it's still hurt. Sure, you know what I'm saying. Like I was under, but then like I fucking vacuuming, Oh man, yeah, that ship I was. That's when I knew that the tips weren't mine. Every time I vacuum sometimes to this day, really ten years later, I was just I'll just notice it. But back then, oh, it was pain. I had to get a little step ladder

to like reach up. It was worth it, though, you're like, I loved minute. Who knows where my life would be without tips? I don't for you well, and doctor he there. You also now have a podcast out educating the Girl Rolls and it just launched this month. So if you could go ahead and let all of our followers know where to find you where they can, because you're really active and really good at the ticket taker and I don't know how to do that and know what you

do really good. Your Instagram is so informative. This whole outline, by the way, came from her motherfucking instag So can you let us know a little bit about your podcast name and also where everyone can find you on social media? Yes? So my podcast is Dr Heather's Advisory Servix. So yeah, so I'm gonna be talking about like all things reproductive and sexual health. Seriously, It's gonna be like no question

is left unanswered, no topic is left undiscussed. So um, you can definitely hear from me and all of the people that I bring on. I'll have other doctors on there. I'm just like and like my friends actually like my friends. Remember when you had a U t I girl, Come on. I love that you're even doing that because that's kind of how we started this podcast. Uh Weezy and I were just really inviting our friends. My friend Dr Kim We we had our first doctor. We were just like

inviting our friends on. And honestly, even before I launched periods this, I was like, I know all y'all got pussy stories, so I need so. I love that you're doing that, but also bringing other healthcare professionals and then could you share also you're a name and where they can find you? And do you have a website as well? Yeah? I do, so you can find me on TikTok on Instagram.

Add dr Heather Robunda empty Heather, what Erobundaunda? It's like like you definitely said it quick, like it was Heather Williams. You're like, Heather, Yeah, it's from Nigeria. African. I'm a African. If you're from Africa, I'm African because I'm half Jamaican, half Nigerian. Cute bullet bullet. We like you. That's your I G handle on what's your website or your TikTok? And my same my TikTok is the same handle, and then um my website is eran mpt Aerobunda m D. Guys.

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Canal Stream Market. All right, well, guys, thank you so much again, Dr Heather for joining us. And this has been yet another episode of Horror Decisions. It's bonus bitches. Welcome guys to another motherfucking town hall of hory. Blade just says you olds everybody. Damn this bitches blow drying her hair. You'll be doing something random ship on this motherfucker. Um. As always, I like to start off by shouting out the people that I see who show up in their merch,

So shout out to Jasmine. Um, who else do I see in here? Well? Doing a lot of people don't took their video off now that you've didn't scared them, wheezy, I mean ship, why not? Like, oh wait, hold on main go buttle with the yeah ho shirt? I see you. First of all, there's a NIGGI Oh I thought they said Carvin Smith. I was like, who ship is he using? It? Says Cameron. I was like, you saying, Netflix, nigga give us our MANI Um. Anyways, guys, welcome. I'm glad to

be back with you guys. UM. At this point, Berry is definitely about to get blocked. I don't know if y'all see his God damn screen, you're not funny berry, And honestly, I'm not gonna lie. I know that you have a difficult time getting pussy with those action figures, so to cover with my face it makes sense. Why now you're gonna use me to help you get pussy. I don't mind it. I'm just saying I would do the same, Okay, UM, I want to start it off

with this off the top. I had somebody d M me saying that we lost one of the hore Hive members on Tuesday. I'm not sure what their name was or who they are if Mandy heard this, but if anyone wants to unmute themselves and pay respects to a horror hiven where we would love to do that. Yeah, I know, I know. Like a few weeks ago, UM, quite a few of you guys linked up with each other here in New York. UM, and you guys actually

said that you were able to meet him. He also did purchase a ticket to UM the New York Live Show, and now of course won't be able to attend one moment. I do have his name. UM, there we go. UM, can anyone UM explain I do love one thing, how much of a community we have formed here? UM, with a whore hive. But if anyone would like to say anything, or if anyone's heard any updated information, uh, please definitely feel free to share. I haven't heard any updated information.

Someone from the group chat let us know of his passing. He was one of the people that I became closest to. This is the New York meet up here. Uh. We decided to meet up today in his honor. Um. He's one of the people that I've came closer to every day. It literally spoke to him every day the past month. And it was thanks to you guys and his quartery group, and I know he would was all here and just be our best post south so you guys. So so basically we all got up together. UM. The rest of

the crews coming up in a few were in. Um we're in a biggie cafe. So if anybody's still that's in New York that still want to meet up with us, you know what it is, Um, Barry you still my nemesis, UM, but you know it is what it is. Um. But at the same time, to his spirit was always a great spirit, which which is the significant reason why we came up back over here and over in the Biggie

Cafe because that's where we first met. And I felt that this is the best way that we could send off and show some love and respect for a person that you know, his energy was doping and and and quite felt especially when it came to the New York this sport. Um he greeted almost everybody that came into

disport and made sure that everybody was welcome. And yeah, I just wanted to show some love and um damn yeah, can you really wants to know if y'all can spell his name out in the chat for us, I'm supposed to go fund me or anything, Please let us know too. We would love to, you know, help towards that shape. And I'm like a few blockers away from Visio. I was about to actually, uh, is that you super Ugly?

Are you there? Super? I'm gonna hit you on the other discord chat if y'all are still there, I'll go ahead and pull up and maybe have one drink with y'all tonight. So if anyone were hive um wants to pull up to Biggie's, I'll definitely pull up and link y'all just for a little bit because I've been drinking all day, So I got one drink in me. That's it. Um but I do, and um we might. I'm trying to see if we can organize something with for Barrious Homecoming. Okay, okay,

Alky coming. We know that nigga all over then