Ep 232: Good Moms & Rub Maps (Ft. Erica & Milah)

my guest. It's giving love and hip hop today with Mandy very much. Really, no, it ain't make it do what to do? Baby? Yeah, just giving Jimmy Fox. Why is that? Uh huh? Anyways, our friends from a layer here, so I really don't know why you did all of that. Yes, guys, we are joined today by Erica and Milo, which are the host of Good Mom's Bad Choices. We and I have been having a lot of parenting conversations for some reason, like we spit bitches out of our vaginas and we

have it next? Did you guys? Who she next? You both pushed him out. I cut it out. Okay, I cut it off. If I have to pick, I would take like scissors. You would do it. You would do it. No c section. No, that is not something you do optionally. You do it because you absolutely have you have to. People do it, but people can you know what, I I don't recommend it. Mine was not because I wanted that, but that's just what happened. I just want the stork to come drop it off at the porch if I

really like, I don't want to go through nonaday. My home girl tell me the other day she was like, girl, bit just be having a postpartum. She was like, I do not want to kill my baby. I just want to have someone else to have it. And she just wants to experience the pregnancy and not have the baby. No. No, she's like, actually really scared to postpartum. Well like she's terrified of like wanting to kill her kid. Did either of experience relax? My mom said she wanted to microwave me.

I mean, whoa what didn't say very specific. I think it's I think it's because microwave. She was probably cooking food or something, and she was like I looked at you, and I almost put you in there, and I said I need to call somebody, and then she said, you know, I lasted for about three days and then I want to kill you. Did y'all experience postpartum at all? I did? But I didn't want to kill my baby, Okay, I was just I just was sad. Oh um, I did.

I I didn't think I recognized it in the time, but like, you definitely get extremely happy and extremely sad and confused. It's a huge life changing what the funk am I going to do with you forever? Type of feeling. Did you get mad at the baby? I didn't get mad, right, got mad? I got mad, but I also just got overwhelmed. It was more like, oh shit, this is forever. I can't even Like there were times where we're like, walk into somewhere and I'm like, oh, should I got a baby?

Like I would forget be walking around the house cleaning up, and I'm like, I'm supposed to be doing something like oh the fucking baby, you know, like, m well, you know what the good thing about these conversations is like people are like, oh, having a baby so joyful, It's so beautiful. Nothing ever bad happens, but like, bitch, you need to recognize if you are experiencing I want to kill my baby, so you could drop that baby off.

I just told Erica, we just came back from a long, long ass jungle trip to the jungle and Costa Rica, and I was like, bitch, it should be absolutely required, like they talk about baby moons and all this other ship. It should be required that after you give birth, you drop the baby off for at least two weeks and like, do your own thing so you can remember yourself you give birth. Do you know what's crazy about you saying that? Um, So,

my sister just gave gave birth in November. Um, by January, my mom had COVID and so my sister everyone that was in the house had to leave, and so they were at the house for like, I don't know, the ten to fourteen days, and my mom said that when the baby oh so wait, this is a vacation from my mom, not the baby. But it made my sister closer to the baby because at that point she was actually more dependent on my mom so much so that that break from my mom caused her to be closer

to her baby. It requires both because you're new in motherhood and you're like, you're like, oh, what do I do if someone else is there to be like, I'll do it. I'll take it. I know what to do. Then you'll kind of lean on that. Then you'll leave if you're alone, you like, I gotta figure this out, and I gotta be good at it, and I gotta

you know, like you'll step into your motherhood better. But like I'm not saying immediately after you give a birth, like after you breastfeed, whenever you can get away within like the first year, I highly recommend new moms drop that baby off with that father because he he needs to get acclimated, he needs to figure the funk out. Should have been in my stone. Yeah, you spent the whole last year with the baby. Here you go naked by I got shipped to do. I had the baby

for fucking nine months plus. I've been breastfeeding the baby. What the fund have you done? You better take the baby, do some skin to skin. I'll be back in two weeks. It's really you should do it, amen. I think I'm gonna do that when I get my mommy and me makeover. Yeah, I want to get you already planning that. How do you know that you're not gonna be able to snap back? Because apparently all the girls snap back now. I don't really, I don't really care about Jim got it right off

the table. I want the same kind of recovery time if Kim got it I needed to. I feel like Kim is really I want to be I'm not gonna be a Kim Ridge. That's just like stupid rich. But like if I could get a little bit close to where I could pay for that, mommy me make over right on the table. Just give me the new everything, right, we come off, just lee, I've already got faked tips. Leave them there, hopefully they're still freaky. Are you going to be able to breastfeed? Yeah? I did. I got

them under the muscle. Yeah you care that you can breastfeed anatomy, got your science it bit girl, I'm about to get nipped and tucto. But that's not a vacation, bitch, because you don't be in pain. Yeah, you're gonna be like you're not. You're in another vacation after then. But I thought I was going to dr with the girls. Oh no, it's no girl's girl. You're gonna be the recovery house. Yeah, it's recovery house. And they'd be like yeah, and then come and wipe your app because you're not

gonna be able to wipe your own. Wait, first of where are your where you getting these surgeries? Why are they saying Instagram you're going out the countrybut getting your cheese stune while you're there too? Can wait? Can you tell us about like is it? Were you ever at one point did you feel like I shouldn't be doing this off the country? No? So I got like I was twenty two years old. Uh no, because at the time all of my friends were on his escorts and

everyone I knew. It was like when I go to fucking l A and they're like, hey, we have nothing to do today, let's go get both talks and fillers that I'm eyeing into. But it was just so natural and calm and for everyone that I knew at that time to do it, I was like, okay, girl. They shared their recovery house with me, They shared their doctor

with me, they share what's the recovery house? Like, Um, it's like a house with many rooms and you can either have the room by yourself or split it they like double occupancy, and the women just come and help you get in and out your fab make sure you get your massages, make sure you eat so they cook you your meals the whole day. That's the problem. Though.

There were there were women there fresh fresh off the table, ordering Popeyes, and they were literally telling the people like this isn't what you should be eating, and it's just like this is why it just gotta go back by six, moving to different places and share you well, and that too, and that's what I noticed too, Like my waist, of course has always remained small, but when I started getting the way clearly I got up to two, did not let me just turn off my waist of course? Best

maybe send to me your news of course? Did Did I not put them? Did I not put them in the group chat? I mean, well, I didn't want to get back real quick to off the surgery conversation I do have because we did just have a dad on the show or he's coming up, ya know, we don't know when we schedule these ships. Um, but I wanted to get into different mom labels because for whatever reason, moms just carry a negative connotation with the labels that are with them. Unless they're a wife. So I have milf.

What are y'all's views on the word milk? For sure, you're okay with milf. I'm cool with milf. I feel like it's very white. Yeah, I feel like it's very white. Is there a black version? But see, my only version with that is milk. When I look in porn, maybe looking like they look older, I feel like you could use milf if you're sucking someone like like exceptionally younger than you. I think I feel like American pie decide did what milf was, and so we associate milk with

like what I was gonna say. We think about her her like the old white lady. But now I think to all of us at that point in time, we were young when it came out, But now we all know a mom, and we all know a hot mom. We want to know young moms. You right, you right? You know. It's like I feel like it's hard. But like for porn, when if I typed in milk, there would be a look Lisa, and sure be an older woman on porn and maybe a white woman. You wouldn't

see any black MILFs be sprinkled. Yeah you don't. I got to say, I don't think I maybe, but what does that t is a tasty black fucking folks person? What is tasty black should be pick It's like a it's like a website that like basically funnels all the black porns I need because I'm not a soul food restaurant. But I literally type inside just a warning, you're gonna get a lot of pop ups. You will get the content you're looking for if slow like that, the surf

is slow. But I find all the black port because I only like to watch that. Do they have gay porn every type at all? I love black gate porn, tasty, it's aggressive, tasty, not to light, no taste. Black dot com has all the black porns and there's no white people on there. No is there in a racial Yes, so there's white people. Okay people, okay, only if you don't trin. What a fucking great website. Oh bit, look at all that, Melanie, Yes, that's what I want to watch.

You maybe be talking sh sh like weaves? I porn? You like weaves? I just told you I watched black gay porn. I don't care about weaves. Now you said that you're on like watching the porn because I don't watch straight porn. I watched gay porn. Ain't got weaves and gay porn. Some of these are good. Oh they got a wrap. Well wait, so in the gay point, you're watching two men. Two men, Okay, you don't. You don't like to watch to women and three man. No women,

you don't like watching women at all? Trans women, they have short hairporn, Mandy, don't do that. I'm not kidding. I've never heard that I was either hair porn. N I'm telling you they got they got a lot of crazy. Hey mad to her. This is the motion while I'm having sex, now to dishevel my fucking hair, as if I didn't work hard on the ways when I do hold on, wait, I'm confused because they can't grab they know poland so now it's a rub like I'm a

genie like for sex short hair. Short hair is not for sex like it just it just gets messed up. And then when you get don't look cute at all, and it I look a fucking well wait, I gotta fine. I carry felm in my purse at all time. Well, wig sex is also hard because I definitely fucked with a wig on, and that you gotta hold it down. I don't feel comfortable come throble walking outside in the wait. Can I tell you something? At one time I had a threesome with a naked and a bit. It wasn't

a threesome. I was like reluctant, anyonen't really feeling like it that day, any made threesome ish. The bitch removed the woman. I'm a woman, I'm a bit girl. Stop are you being fucking I was being patty. I was being patty. I was being petty righteous term of endearment. The bitch took off her wing mid threesome with the straight back. I was not me and I'm not even I'm not even like I was like in my mind, I was like, oh wow. Also, I was like, wow,

this bitch is confident. There's no way of fucking hell with my fine ass when I take first of all, I don't feel comfortable even sucking, like, oh, I don't really wear weaves, but I just like my edges as a track showing she'd removed the whole thing, And I was like, why did she do it? Like in the moment of it's in the way, like you know, she She's like it was like some going on and she just was it a lace, No, bitch, it was isn't removable.

I don't know remota. She just came off and I was just like so and the guy I was sucking at the time. I had fun her before and afterwards. I was like, she got her wig like that. See, but I'm gonna be really just gonna slide off. Wouldn't you have to take it off? And I'm gonna hold you. I apply extra Bobby pants. I put Bobby pants. But that ship started. Maybe I'm meant to care. I'm not having a threesome with my wig on so that I don't even have to think about taking it off. Did

you know you were? Did y'all know you're gonna have three? So that I don't care. I wouldn't even fell into it if it was me like she she didn't know, but it ended up how she didn't want it to fall off of it me personally, I couldn't have done it. I've more powered to her. She's still beautiful. It was great. I'm eating with a drawsting ponytail on, and I remember

like when I was in her those are secure though. Yeah, But at the same time I was eating at blizzy and she was like this, and I was like, way, you should know, don't be pulling on hairs. That's really insulting me about it, like going to play you was, but you got one too, so I don't want me to pulling yours like that. My ex Scissors always wore like she no, she's like wearing cloths and and ship.

But when we were sucking beard bay, like, I would have braids and she would have her ship, and you know, and men want to get really close to your face and they might touch your face. I used to always say it to a little sword like and then get in his neck, and I'd be like, I don't want to funk with fake hair, like unless two didn't think too much. Just I was talking about talking about fake hair.

We're wearing braids, it doesn't matter. We're family, we all, so you'll be wearing tracks no, alright, Yeah, I was about to say, you never see me ward tracks because I can't afford him and I'm not rich enough, okay, and also I'm not secure enough because if you see my track, I'm gonna be feeling away. I'm like girling a lot, get my body way about Alley spress people be like, is that extensions plus girl? No take days to get here, though I always smell like corn. I'll

get to sell in summer. I'm planning for my cell and next summer my titty becoming out. Y'all literally fight close. Let's watch because we didn't we be having a removed weely titty came out. We had to take down the whole goddamn YouTube. I didn't even know the next label. I want to know how you guys feel about the usage of the term baby mama. So I used to have I used to not like that term um. And actually it was when I had a partner I didn't

like the term baby mama. He would he started calling me that, and I was like, I don't do that. But I don't know, I don't, I don't. I really don't give a funk. Now. In fact, I'm wearing my baby mama earrings that we're selling on her site. And what's the site, good Mom's batua dot com anyway, So I just feel like there's been a lot of like a bad connotation, especially amongst Black women, when it comes

to baby mama. Usually it's associated with like a single black woman, who does you know it's desolate and Nick has left and now she's a baby mama. Three Fantasia did try to make it an anthem though, be a b Why I did he and this goes out all my baby Mama's this. It's not that I don't know the song, is that Mandy loves a moment to get her song her. What you know, if there's a fucking if there's a jingle bit, she be the first one. Remember we were talking about you and said, what got

to do you like? My voice is gone today? I'm not lucky. Y'all are lucky my voice has gone today? Um okay. So I like to take on that, and yes, it did get like just a negatives, a negative connotation. And I would say, like, I think people are split on that topic because we pulled our audience because you know, we have merchants as baby Mama, and we thought it

was a great idea. We're like, yeah, I gonna get baby Mama shirts, get Baby Daddy shirts, and then we're like, maybe people don't feel the same way as us, and then we did, and it was it was a hard split. It was like a lot of black women were like, no, we don't work with that. Like I don't want to be a baby mama, but a white women were like, it's so cute, we love baby. All the white women loved it, like every single white person on our ship

loved the baby mama ship. And some black women were triggered specifically by white women using the term, especially if they had black baby daddies, which I wish I could understand. But wait, why do you understand that? I just I just don't feel bad. It's a layered topic. It's layered, and I feel like, yeah, like there's a lot more stigma being a single mom as a black woman, Like yeah, I think of Tyler Perry movies. I think of saving Isaiah. I think of like distress and like welfare and ship.

But even I don't know when I was with my baby daddy, like yes, not baby Eddie. I thought it was cute and I don't not offended by a baby mama. It is what it is. That's my baby's father. I'm the baby's mother. I think I would only use that term if I was married to the nigg or with the nigger, or he's my man. Well that's why you were you were okay saying, you know, I didn't I didn't like it. Not that's right, you did. I feel like I would have to have something that makes me

feel validated. So if I was like really with the NIGG, I'd be like, do you know my baby daddy? But see, by then he should be your husband. But I'm telling my baby daddy for fun. Yeah, even if you're married,

but that's not baby daddy. But see, I agree. I think I would feel like if I was single, I don't know if it would make me feel comfortable because I think that it would just make it because you made your baby with love, right, like you want to think saying baby mama, it's literally what you are, Like what what? What? What? What about? That makes it feel you are the mama of the baby. It's not in love.

I think people have always made it seem like, uh, like you're nothing to me, which is probably why maybe you felt away, right, because that's terms, because it's the term of a label of a woman that is nothing but you're one of many or like you, there's a level of putting back. I think that feels like, uh, it's diminished when you use that term, especially if you are like for me, it was like, I'm not your

baby mama, I'm the mother of your child. I carry this little baby for nine months and yeah, but but I have done a lot of unlearning in my journey and motherhood. There's been a lot of things that I would have that back then I would have been like, hell no, and now I'm like, I really don't give a fuck, you know. So, baby mom is one of those things where I'm like, I think, I think it's

a term of endearment. So I would have the men to tell me, like when they're talking about their kids, like mom um, yeah, my daughter's mom, and I'd be like, look at you now. The last term is single mother. I wanted to ask that because we know that when you refer to someone as a single father, there's normally praise associated with that. But single mother again another word with a negative connotation. What are y'all's thoughts on how single mothers in general and the type of a single

mother is viewed. I think people have like, I obviously we're single moms, but I hear a lots of different things like you're not a single mom. If the dad takes the baby, you're not a single mom. If you don't, I'm saying the child's fathers in the life and the baby's like whatsoever, Yes, which I am. I'm a mom and I'm single. So single mom always meant to me

that you were like just not dating or whatever. I think women that don't, who's a thought the father's not in their child's life get very sensitive about that term and they like so I understand, like they they truly are the single moms like, but then it's like why are we married to the struggle, like why are we like why why does that have to be that way when you're dating men, Because men are We're always seeing on Instagram like, oh, dating a woman with kids, blah

blah blah. What's something that men you've dated For men that are dating women with kids, like, what's a piece of advice you to give or something you've appreciated with men that have no kids that have dated you? With

your day for the babysitter. If you want me to like that, you want to take me out and you really want to see me, then make my life easier because guess what I pay for a whole other person's life, Pay for my dinner, do the things, do what you're supposed to do, because I literally am taking care of a whole ass human over here. Pay for the babysitter, Pay for the babys That's really good. I like that advice a lot. You know, I've definitely had it happened

to know, but that happened to me. He wasn't older, more mature nigga who was wearing a suit. Maybe he wasn't. Maybe he was a gentleman. He wasn't gentleman. It was obviously. I was talking about a guy in his forties, our friend of any of the show. He always goes. I was with an older gentleman last night. He wasn't older. He is an older gentleman. And I didn't have to ask. He just sent it. I'm looking for Arial, Arial to

watch my arieal is hold. I was trying to get sexy because I'm saying, did you guys just get fresh good? Mom's bad choices chats? Yeah, that's so cute, cute, and we should get bracelets. Mandy, m'm let me get decisions. Me and Jamie La and platonic loves. Yeah, we're vibes that don't have sex. What did you guys get high? When you're in Costa Rica? Do do how you ask for anything? Trooms mushrooms yet a little bit. Yeah, is that when you're like, we were born to do this podcast.

We've been born to do the podcast. That was when we were like, we should have a baby together. Yeah, but you know what, you would have another baby. I was because people always ask me and ask us and they ask every fucking mom, but you can't have another one? Like what do you think about having kids? And I'm like, I don't really know that question. I do, but I'm just like I don't know, like I'm open to it, but like I know too much now. But not only that.

You gotta like a nigga first. I know so much. That's not for you either, Like you don't even gotta like them naked. I gotta you gotta have unicorns purples coming out your fucking dick. You gotta unicorn spark baby Jesus himself, my nag I have. I have postraumatic baby daddy disorder. I do great p t D p t t D traumatic baby p t b D. What has yet? I don't fucking know the fucking the words, but the word is post traumatic baby daddy disorder. I'm scared, bitch.

You got to be connected to this nicket forever, so he should be. Jesus, if you're gonna do it now, he should be. I got one more dating question with kids. Okay, when you're dating a guy and they have kids, is it immediately like, because I'm sure when you make friends, you're like, oh, we gotta do a play date, they don't be at the custody. But when you're dating then girl, I hope you would date a n decent with the kids.

Of course. I would never dated bad dad. I don't even I don't even be friend bitches that I think are mediocre moms that if you're a shitty to your kid, you're definitely not gonna be I hate when I hear men like kind of just be whatever. But it's so gross. But not only because we're at this age and we got friends with kids now, but it's just like, what kind of nigger are you? If the kids you shout out you can't even calm anyway, how soon for the

play date? Because I know whenever I have two friends and they find other kids the same day, oh yeah, we got to do a play date. But when you eat man that you're dating, do you do a play date or is the two brother and history. That's never happened to me, but I would be definitely down for the play date because it makes it easier. I recently dated briefly someone with a child, and his child was older, like probably like seven years older than um. But we did.

We we had he took me out for Mother's Day and he brought his son. Oh sorry, that la not her like way, this is a new story. Um. It was kind of awkward though. It was like it was awkward, like he was like the same my mom was the kid. What made it awkward, well because his son is like an awkward teenage age so he and then my daughter's like six, so she's just goofy and ship and then like we're kind of like me and him are kind of awkward a little bit because we were like still

kind of getting to know each other. So I appreciated the effort, but it was kind of the age difference does it wasn't close enough for them to like really like you know, connect um. But I would say, like that was the first time I've ever like kind of dated someone with a child, and it was appealing to me because he really understood my parenting, my schedule, like

he he is a single father. Um and and I mean that like the mother still in his life, but his son moved across the country to live with him and he's the sole provider for his son right now. UM, which was appealing to me because I was like, oh, ship, like I've never it was. It was hot, made my pussy very wet. Um. Although we didn't have sex, but we'll talk about that later. UM. Wrong him because you always got a story about some had nothing to do

with him. It was more me. I was substaining UM, but I it was appealing and that was the first time I had done that. It didn't work out between us, but I'm very much open to the idea of dating someone with children. I think that it might be like the best thing for me, but I just haven't. I don't suggest moms to maybe like seek other deads. I mean, it just depends on the situation. Is like what is your relationship with your baby mama? Like, is it gonna

be toxic? Is a drama? Like I don't want to deal with that ship, you know, So sometimes it is easier to not and you can start your own little life, you know, and have your own little babies and ship. So I don't really know, um, but I do know that I enjoyed that time and it opened up my eyes to like, okay, wow, like this person really understands me, and like if I cancel thirty minutes before a date, like he's not tripping because he knows like ship is.

And also, you know, kids are the best excuse to cancel everything. Girl, I've got to tell my homegirl, you better stop using that little girl. Oh my god, I use my baby. I can't. She's so sick. You don't want to go to check me. Like, nigga, my kid is sick. Shut the funk up. Can't come at home washing. You really can't check somebody what they kid. It depends on close you are to them. But I tell it all of this, so we're gonna get into the Vanilla ship.

The Vanilla Ship is literally us revisiting two of the previous vanillitions we've had, and it's because we think I gave our opinions on it as nonparents, So I just want a parental take on both of these vanillations that we talked about. The first one is in regards to parents here in New York being enraged over masturbation videos

being shown to first graders. I wanted to know what are your takes on if a masturbation video is shown to your children in school without your knowledge or permission of the video first, and if you guys think that sex being taught that early in school is okay? Um look, I think that parents deserve to be in control of their of their children's um, you know, exposure, right, But I also know that a lot of parents aren't going to have the conversations and then and then you grow

up and then you're you have trauma. You don't understand certain ship because mommy and daddy didn't talk to you. So I'm kind of I'm kind of torn because for me,

you know, I'm very sex positive. If that happened, I'd be like, oh ship, great, thank you you you know, I would be like yes, please, you know, But I understand why parents could be uncomfortable because they haven't had those conversations, because they didn't have those conversations with their parents, and they have no idea even how to begin the conversation with their kids. So I mean, I think that it's probably something that should have been maybe discussed before.

But I guarantee you it wouldn't have happened because most parents would have said no, like absolutely not, we're not showing this, and then it wouldn't have happened. So I don't know if the school did it because they knew, like if we prefaced this and they're gonna like be pissed, new might as well just expose them. And so I don't think the school should have that, Like I don't. I don't think the school can make the decision in that way. I feel like, I feel like you should

have talked to me first. Um. I'm also a mom who's going to have a conversation when it's time to have the conversation. I I was masturbating early, like I was exposed to like the pleasure and the sensation in my body early. And if I would have had guidance in a in a in the realm of health in a healthy way, I probably would have. I probably would have a more healthy relationship with masturbation. As an adult,

I don't really masturbate that much. I'll use people, but um, because okay, I think about my daughter right now, she's about to be in Jesus Christum, she's about to be in she's about to be six. No, she's about to be in first grade. She's not really like, she's not really exploring her body in that way. She's just like, how would you feel? Okay, how do you? How do you? How do you know that? I know that because I'm I live with my daughter, like I know my daughter.

I hid my period from my mom for a year. Uh fifth grade? Okay, Okay, when you're when you're six, you don't even like if that's the thing. When you're introduced to the pleasure the sensation that your body brings you, you're not even aware yet that there's anything wrong with it. It's not sexual, it's not sexual. It's just genuinely, oh,

this feels good. So I know, like I would, I would notice if my daughter was exploring her body, and then we could talk about it, like, oh I do it, Mommy, doesn't wash your hands, close your door, do it alone. No one else does it now. The only thing I fear about, like a school setting, introducing it before I do is that like then she'll be like, huh should I go try that before it naturally comes? So like

that's the thing. But I agree with Erica. Most parents are not going to have the conversation at all, and then when they do, it's gonna be like what are you doing? But but and then and then forever you like, don't do that. You know I'm saying you'd like that trauma that like that first scare is like, Okay, I don't need to do that because it already kind of feels bad and naughty because like you don't see it,

you don't talk about it. But I do think it's the first time I talked about sex d was at school in the fifth grade when I was ten, and it was about periods and like it wasn't about pleasure. It was about it was about the cycle and women don't get enough pleasure talk women don't get enough, Like it's about your body. It's about like a sixth year

old deserve that from another adult. Like that's the thing it's not about they do scientifically, and that's like I have to come to my teacher about questions and I just don't trust other adults in regards to like keeping my children safe. And I think that that would be the craziest part of it. Like now you gotta ask this older woman or a man about your vagina and touching it. But's be talking about touching it. I think that and not someone else. I think that it wasn't

done properly. I think that I get what they were trying to do, possibly maybe if if I have their intentions correctly. But I do also think that it's probably caused a lot of trauma for certain kids because their parents aren't ready to have those conversations, and so now that they're exposed, their parents are going to then put up expose them in a way that's shameful or like we don't talk about that, like don't worry about that.

But unfortunately that's all. But everything is frounding set true. And I would say, but I would say that I don't know. I don't necessarily agree with Jamila as far as like kids not masturbating at six, Like I remember touching myself very young, and I said I did, I

said I did. My kid hasn't really like just like I did it and my mom wasn't around, but I wasn't like mom, mean like like I was alone in the room like touching my So what do you think the age is both of you for the grade where masturbation talk should be had, then yeah, if it's not first, I think you have to first like kind of talk to your You have to know your kid and be in tune with your kid and be like, you know,

like if if that does that feel good? Because then if she'll do ship and I'm like, why are you doing that? Does it feel good? Like if you just make everything matter? If it's not one conversation, it's it's

it's an ongoing conversation. I mean, I'm you know, as a mother of a daughter, like I've had to teach and still teaching my daughter how to properly clean herself, right, and we are talking about her vagina and we're show I've showed it to her, you know, with a mirror at five, you know, like she knows what it looks like and like but I can already see that there. She's like a little like like shy about it or like giggles a little bit. And I don't even know

where that comes from, Like why is this sillity? Why is your body silly to you? And actually could both of y'all like being naked like right, So I don't know, it's I don't feel like there's one big conversation that happens. I think if you are have a child that is you know, at the age like our kids are and it's not too late, but like teaching them about their body parts, talking about it, that's how you open up the conversation and like normalized, normalized, like just normalized conversations

that are usually I haven't been tabooed. I asked Luna, like, oh, how are you? How is your day? Anybody touched your vagina lately? It's like, no, mom, And I keep asking that. I'm like, I just asking, yeah, because like my mom would put her hand be like, what would you do if someone does this? Well, that's the thing that it's all scary, Like, nobody touches you here. You hear me, You hear me, look at me. If anyone touches you here, you tell me. You know what I mean. That's how

my mom talked me about it. Actually, no, because a lot of people, especially as a child the way you don't like to get in trouble. Some children don't want to get anyone else in trouble. And so if you know that this is something that makes your even parents angry, you may keep it to yourself because then you know, when that happened to me. I did tell my mom same that happened to me too, very young, like three, but I remember like, if someone does this, you tell me.

And then I remember telling you, and I was like, you know, I was like this big thing, and honestly, I blocked that. I blocked that memory out of my mind for like fifteen years. And then when I was like sixteen, I was in high school. I was like three or four and like an older kid had touched my vagina and playing house or some ship, and I was like sixteen, I had totally totally blocked that that

memory out of my mind. And we were in Philly because that's where my parents are from, and she's like my dad was like, remember your grandma used to live right there, And as soon as I looked at the house, those memories flooded back. But like as children, when you have traumatic things happened to you or things that are like such a big deal at that time, your body and your subconscious can automatically block that out, you know

what I mean. So it's just like regulating things so that they're normalized and we're having conversations and then you can talk to the person down the street and say, I like, you know, she she said this to me it's just not this huge, big deal. And even if it is a big deal, you kind of like guard that part from your kids so that you can deal

with it in an adult manner. But as long as the conversation is normal and normalized and calm, just like oh you want you want apple jacks or fucking frosted flakes, then it's like the kid doesn't feel that energy from you, and then there's no fear associated with it, like we're having normal conversation, just like when they become teenagers or preteens and like, oh Joseph fingerbank me or whatever the funk they're doing in these days, we kissed, you know,

we literally went from them kids to talk to them kids. I'm want to talk about really quickly. You really got it on my mind. One of my favorite videos, and we can cut this part out of you don't want to talk about it, But one of my favorite videos online is a dude with his nephew, I think or his little brother and they're on a pole and exercising, and I don't know if anyone remembers it, but it's adorable because he jumps on him while he's swinging on

the pole. The man is dressed like with a shirt, like he's not like dressed in appropriately, and they're like really having fun on the pole. You had a video with Luna where she was playing around, and like three people sent that to me, like you follow this bit, and I was like, I'm really confused. What the fuck we following her? What's the wrong? Because everyone sexualizes everything.

So here's the thing. Let're talking about this. People sexualized children, and it's putting your adult ideas and perspectives and projecting them on children. I have a poll at my house. Luna is great at it, literally like Mom, look at this and like, how did you do that? It's just like we go. If you go to the park, there's a poll, there's the pole of the park. You go to the park, there's a pole, there's poles. Okay, it's an apparatus that you you practice on. My daughter dances.

We dance in my house naked clothes and bitch when I tell you that is actually one of the hardest forms working out. But it's also gymnastics. Like, my child has never been to a strip club. My child is not like I'm not putting dollars in her fucking her her outfit while she's doing it. She has no perception of that this pole means this sexy. She didn't even really know what sexual is. I literally heard, I mean Aerica, Irene and Lena having a conversation talking about Beyonce and

like you think she's she's sexy. Huh, And I'm like, what the fund are you talking? Like they don't know? You know, Like it's it's just we have to really stop doing that as like in the black community, and and and as as adults period, Like I hate that ship, Like, oh she's grown. Oh she's no bitch. She's mimicking her parents. She's mimicking TV. We go down the street right now, we turn on the TV. Bitches are gonna be doing sexy ship because that's what's what about the media? Can

we call kids grown? Or can we have those moments when like I remember there was a video that came out of Uh, what's daughters Joey? Or is that his baby? Momay? Her and her daughter dance all the time. I really love watching them dance. Then there was a video where she started shaking her ass. It's let me go a station really quick. When kids start she's what ten? When there's TikTok's or videos of kids working. At what point

do you at all find that it's too far? Because I think definitely if it was my kid working and shaking her ass, I'd be like, I don't want this ship on the internet. But see, no, but it's weird because in me growing up, me and my cousins would literally that was how we would compete during the cookouts. We would all have fucking twork contests like doing the like vibrating and all that ship like this is how we danced in the South. This is like what we did.

And even if you look at where these type of dances come from, they come from an African origin. So even the idea of it being again it's sexualized by adults because yes, they may do it in the strip club. That's what I'm saying. If we can all agree to understand it's a dance and we know men may not see it that way. Of course, that's a family reunion that are in your family. There's creeps on the internet. This keeps everywhere. Did you like the adult Yeah, you

within your kid posting videos on their TikTok? I think she's nine of her shaking her has no First of all, we're gonna have access to the internet at nine where you can post yourself, okay, like you your ship, like we can't. We see videos of Luda and I red all types of where she's like, hi, am i I'm little, Like where they get this, it's going nowhere, It's going on nobody's feed. They have their own podcast, but that they do. But like, we have to acknowledge that kids

are literally mimicking what they see. I see a little twerk or whatever the fun you wanna call gyrate and I'm like, where are you learning that? You true, that's how I dance. Would be mad at you. But like also it's just like you can't sexualize children, and you have to there's a thin line and where our kids are only six and we'll get there, you know what I'm saying, And there is there is a thin line.

But one thing is for sure and three things. And for certain if you raise a child that is confident in their body and I'm like, oh, like, don't touch me there, bitch, uh nigger, my mom reel like I know my body into my body parts, and I'm confident about what I'm doing, So I feel confident in my body and self aware that I can tell someone no, I have to. The only gift we can give our kids is having having like full autonomy of themselves. Period.

You can't control anybody else. There will be creeps, there will be weirdos. We were watching a movie. We're watching, like The Craft, the Old Craft, and a part came on where a guy was like, my shot the valley, that's our ship. But a part came on and a boy was trying to like come on to one of the teenage girls and she was like no and started running and Luna was like, I was like, what happened? She was like he was trying to touch her and she don't want him to, so she left. I was like, yep,

I'm like, boys be creepy. Sometimes she gets weird. You know, you got to tell people know if you don't want something. She's like, but like it's just it's instead of like remember when you're little and then like a sex scene comes on and your mom's like it covers your whole

You're like, why do I do? Girl? I remember watching and theater Food and I. The first concert I ever went to was the Velvet Rope Tour with Janet Jackson Okay, I was like seven years old and like literally my mom had I don't even know actually wasn't my mom, but my mom. I wanted someone else. They had my eyes covered like ninety percent of the time, like why did you even bring me? But but that in fact and tregued me more. I was just like, what is that here? I was like I was the middle school.

I'll go to the fucking yeah, and I'm looking at be Th K like you want them? All the things that my parents hit for me, I went ten times harder to discover. Period. I went, I had to know why why are you hiding it? I think, yeah, like telling your kids working is bad is one thing. That posting it absolutely not. That's the hell. And but here's the thing I'm telling them is bad? Would made me think like why then I probably wanted But even that, like I've posted Luna on the pole, like and on

the pole? Was she talking on the wall? She's just tirling on the pole. The thing is the video I saw when I wasn't crazy. It's not crazy because she's six. Nothing she does in the pole it's gonna be so crazy. She's not wearing a bikini on the pole and that's the thing when people come at me or send my ship to friends. But I don't know what you're sitting at. T wheezy, She's not my mom. Literally, I was like,

what does this mean? She mark? I sent back and then someone unfriendly person wrote me back and put well, my bad, y'all cool, like, here's the thing they wanted. They wanted to keep key and talk some real quick, not up to you. And as a mom, there was a time Luna was on the pole and another mom, an older mom, hit me up and I was I took it down. I got like, I got intimidated. What did she say? Just creeps on the internet. Keep in mind her daughter, her grown astater, became a stripper. Wait

wait was this after the video? Watch watch? This was like this was years ago and she was on a pole and I had posted it like because I thought it was funny and cute, and she was like whatever, who gives an my business? And another mom, like my friend's mom hit me up directly, text me and I was doing I did her lash as we were close, and then it made me question, like, damn, am I putting my child in a position where creeps or predators are looking at her and I took it down and

I felt bad, like I felt away. But her daughter was actually had become a stripper in her adulthood and actually had married her trick um, so maybe she was like, don't let she was triggered, but she was. However, hence the bitch being a stripper. It didn't matter if you kept her off the pole or on the pole, and at one age, bitch did what she wanted to do.

You know what I'm saying. It's just like you have to be I'm clear in my parenthood, and sometimes I don't post her because I don't have time for the negative energy. But also, bitch, I don't give a funk about your opinion. I'm a grown this is my household, and my daughter's innocent and a child and fine, and I'm not dropping her off at Magic City to make her two dollars for the week. The kids on Poles videos like I've seen like once that first video came out and I'm gonna try to post it like in

the description. I hope I can remember to do that because it was one of my favorite videos. It was so cute and the kid was like do it again, and do it again, and he would jump on him while he around the pole. I do think that we're so I don't know if it's someone being cautious or too nosy. There's this like weird thin line, right, are you really worried about my fucking kid or want to shame me? Bored like things? Even our girl Ashley shout

out to Miss rights Away. She she she got a lot of flag a few years ago for being on the pole with her baby strapped to her. You know, she was doing like beautiful pole work in her house and like her baby was strapped to her and people were pissed. Either people loved it or they were piste. And it's just like, first of all, she wasn't anaked, and even if she was, probably she probably is naked.

And when she does it, when she's breastfeed and beak any but your line, I will be the first one at soho house and my baby like she likes, oh mil yeah, thank you. But you know what, there's just so much stigma about women being in tune and in touch with their sexuality and their diffemininity and like being in control of it. And here I am and here on my breast and hey, this is my child, and she is aware of herself too. Where you have not

been taught to own our sexuality. We've been taught that be sexy for niggas, but don't be sexual in front of by yourself. Comfortable with it, be comfortable with it like it's very it's very compouching. Yeah, I pride myself that I'm intint with my sexuality enough that my child will also be like inevitably understand both sides of the coin and like be more confident and more self aware because of it. There's nothing you should not sucking, you

should avoid. Well. I want to get often kids because I ain't have none. I just swallow Maam. I had another kid question. I want to ask about gays. What do you tell your kids about the gates there? They love each other, you can love they asked you about like boys or not because they've just been around them from the beginning, like my my my brother and his boyfriend have been around that. She calls him uncle's bash and uncle Josh. You know my mom said, I never

asked her um. Ever, she's like, you never asked me about And I wonder you really have to show for the getting kids don't care about what you're doing behind the bedroom. It's only about if you know, when you talk about gay people in front of your kids, just like if you talk racist ship in front of your kids, they'll be racist. It's the same ship. If you're homophobic,

then your kids are gonna think that. Bring that up because a lot of people out there may not have gay friends like all of us, and you know, some people may have to have that dialogue with their kids just talk about love. It's also now, it's on TV, it's in the cartoons. People aren't mad about it him, but you know you can't. You can't hide forever. I wanted to get into our hoar derve where we can enjoy some story times. Again, off them got damned kids.

So the hoar Derve today um is actually suggested from Sophia franklin Um from her episode thirty seven. She talks about rub maps dot com. So rub maps dot com is actually an app that you can go to to find places in different cities where you can get happy endings for women. For yeah, for women? Is it just for women? Well? Because I feel like happy endings are traditionally normally for men, and that was my problem when I was over in Asia. Um, it's like maps alright,

so I found it. It's not rub maps dot com, it's rub maps dot c h Um. You have all the UH states and cities and ship listed. Um. And basically what it looks like is you can find out where to get happy endings in your area. It does not like differentiate between whether it's woman or man happy endings. Okay, Pine, is that what it is? Yeah, it doesn't say whether it's man or woman. Yeah, so they always are. So

I'm glad that. Shout outs to Sophia for bringing this to our attention because I ain't know about it, but you had a story. Please Erica, please share? Can you share? Because as women yet it's hard to find places to give happy endings. But you just had a happy ending in coast that he got two quick questions, Was he cute? And did you come? Uh? He was attracted? It wasn't

not that attractive and it was I think. She asked me, you know, you get if we don't have the same type, and we don't, we're not we don't like the same type of speaking the bitches line, because I told her, do you even know what he remember? We hired him again and I did get a good look. At the first time, she said, no, I don't evemember to look. I didn't because I was it wasn't about him, it was about me. So the second time when we brought him back, guys, let me get a good look at

this man and say what the who he is? And she asked him all these type of questions and I was like, you asked him many questions. I don't want to think about the ship. But anyway, so we were. We just recently came back from a trip um in Costa Rica um a little work cest uh and the first night we had a long asked voyage to our house. We were in guanacast I don't if anyone's ever been to cohostreak is beautiful. But anyway we were. I was like, we need to get a massage for this. I got

We called the airbnb host. I was like, can you get up a massage to the house and she was seen bitches in the profile pitch. It's like, no problem, no problem. So we get the massage. He comes and he lays out his table. He pulls out this towel because you know, you get a massage normally like you have a sheet over you. It was like the tiniest towel to cover my whole body. And I told her, I was like she was sitting, she was there. I was like, bitch, can you put the towel on me?

Because maybe it was hot? It was hot? Were you naked? It was a very small time. What did you wear panties? No? Okay, See I wear panties during assage. I don't. I don't. Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don't, but like if I've been to the person before, I take him off. But generally I will put keep just a thong on and then they pulled it down to my cheeks. I don't even wear only wear draws. When I'm bleeding. I'm bleeding, I am, I just tuck it in, tuck the string in. Um.

But you see I got rid of the string. Look a little to tell us. I realized, like I got rid of tampons completely. I realized my period. No, bitch, just a bad I realized my period. I already have a three day period. I have like a two and a half day one now, and I don't have the the lingering days of brown like the But I think that's what tampons do because you keep it plugged up. It takes for the oxidized blood. So when it's freebees, I'm ready. I'm ready for Dick again. Yeah, like the

path like link like shortened my path and leaves. I hate him too, you know what. I've never used the tampon like for real everyone, Like I've had to put it on for maybe moments, but like on like on purpose. Like no, it's only because like a friend had it. I don't like them, but I will say, I don't know. We did some research a minute ago or someone told me this, but it was about the chemicals in Tampa, the chlorine and basically like affecting the length of your cycle.

It does so that makes your cramps different. Well, they probably want want your cycle to be a little bit longer, so you have to buy it science. Okay, the bleeding. That's his name, No, Jose, Jose, because it was, um, I don't know how costa Rican. Well they're sucked up. Jose his name is Okay, So I'm starting to get the massage and he was how was that his bomb? Like he's a really great massus. I was tired as fuck.

I'm finally unwinding. I've been wrapped up real tight for like the last month, just me and her just been grinding and I was like, bitch, I need this massage. So he's starting to just like decompress my body, and I was also wasted a little bit. Yeah, okay, um, And so he has me flipped over and he's massaging the back of my leg and he was like he's like getting it, getting in there, getting in there. And I'm like suddenly I'm like getting a horny and I'm like, damn,

like this is really good. My face is covered at this point, but I'm gonna tell you the flip over. So he's like grace grazing in the back of my leg and he's getting like kind of close to like you know that this little line. I was like, huh, just like so I'm like, okay, I think I want

this needs to touch my pussy at this point. So I was like and I was like, okay, when I turn over, I'm gonna give him all the space he's going no. So I turned over with this tiny ast towels basically like barely covering my big gass ariolas, and he's back to you know, back to my thigh area, and so he's really getting in there, and I'm moaning louder just so he knows that, like this is where

it feels good. And I slowly like inching my leg open, just started biting my lip, and then finally he starts taking the towel and like rubbing my pussy and I'm like, yes, thank god. And then finally like put pulls the tower off and then just starts rubbing my pussy and then he fingers me. And actually it's so funny because my friend I told my friend about this, or actually I posted about it, and she was like, did you give

him consent? And I was like, bitch, yes, that that was the consent, the mode and the biting the lip like and and and um, and so then I think jo got a little nervous. Um. So then he kind of stopped and then I finished, you can't wait, you finished yourself, finished myself, and then he was there, Yeah, that was the best thing of the week for him.

And then he continued to massage me afterwards, really respectfully and just like amsuchin and then and then when we were done, like I went to get up, and then he like I don't know if he was like trying to tell me to relax or like I don't know what. But he pushed me back down, and I was like, what's gonna happen? Like what's he doing over there? And I like I heard him like rough, like ruffling some ship. And so then I ended up falling asleep for at least like ten minutes, and then I woke up and

he was just standing in this like. First of all, I was like, when the fund is taking so long? Keep in mind we've traveled for like ten hours for the fucking Costa Rican jungle, up a mountain and shipped. I'm like, what the fund is taking so long? She comes back in the room like I'm like, bitch, what the fund looks long? She's like giving me this fucking I he keep me happy and I'm like what, no way. She's like, I'm bitch, now he's gonna think that's what

I wanted. I'm tired. She's like, you should did I said, I was like, you should do it? It was great. I was like, it's completes the massage, I think all. I was like, I can't believe that. I can't believe. I'm just I just have to say, ladies, if you're listening, they're listening. Listen, don't wait any longer. Don't question it, don't question, don't question it, just go for it it. Compaty said the same thing, said she didn't want it though no cutty Cutty was looking for it. She said

the person was like, may I rub your pussy? Him? Please? Please? Are you serious? Though? I don't. I don't remember. I just said. She was like, oh my god. The person was like begging her to rub her pussy swept. Can I rub your pussy? You don't remember this? I would love it this, I mean, I wasn't ready for it that night. I was in the mood. I was too tired, and I was pissed she took so long. Thankfully he didn't try me. I did try a little moment because

I did feel good. I was just I was just testing. The water didn't work as well for me. I would be, yo, this is a sex in the city. Remember that over and bite your look. I didn't by the lip would I didn't have 't have energy for that. I didn't have to go the longer, not necessarily. I don't like to be fing or banged. That was a lesbian I wasn't. I wasn't into that. That's why I was like, I think I stopped moaning, and he got scared and was like,

oh ship, did I go too far? And then now and now that I've heard I heard this story four times now I want to happy ending. It's the best. I feel like it should be an add on for all massage places I got because I have been turned on during massage in a very odd situation. It's just like natural, like a nigga. But I was just it wasn't even I don't even know when he looked like it had nothing to do with him. I mean, it has them to do with his hands, but I was

being nude with your eyes closed and relaxed. I'm always thinking about But you know what, it's also distracting because I had a massage and they got too close to the pussy and I was getting turned on. But then he did nothing, and I was pissed. I would have been piss literally frustrated me because I was like, my pussy was so I know, it was on the sheets, and he did nothing. He was just rubbing close to my pussy and I was super frustrated. It just made

me more tense. So now I'm ready, well rub maps is here for you, baby. If you ask me, she's ready. I'm going to email them so they can specify who gives women happy ending and the niggas is all on. Would you I'm not gonna lie. Even when I was in Thailand, it didn't matter if it was a man or a woman massaging me. I wanted a happy ending, and I was fine with either one. You want to eat my pussy. I don't really want the singer. No, I know. I don't want your mouth, your full head.

I wouldn't either. No, I'm cool with fingers, especially because I know they have just but see even the oils they if you use peppermint, damn sure, I don't want your fingers. Name. Don't go in me, but just around me. Yeah, just like click click, like rub me out. I don't put your fingers. Did you take to finish yourself? And what was he doing? It was quick, he was massaging. He was massaging me like the rest of my body, oh, like my shoulder, and you were rubbing yourself. And then

he came back a second time. But and then she started asking so many questions like I guess what, Erica, she has a three month old baby, and I'm like, great, I didn't need to know that. If she's recently married, that's her job. I had questions and she was taking along from yoga side. She's like, guess wet he has a baby. I was like, YEA, should have gave him a baby daddy T shirt. I was like, we're mom's too. Thank you for helping me. I did try to get mine.

I was like, it's my birthday. It's compliannossas Campians. But he didn't care, apparently just like fucking Eric. Yeah, she got all that. She played like did you even need to pay him? Did you get an extra? I fell asleep after that, so I back in the rembas was knocked the funk out. I was like, here's an extra from my friend. I know you did good. Wife was like you said from my friend. Now, I just tipped him because I knew he rubbed her out. Thank you

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their mouse. I was like, yeah, like these house just love you love House. Don't say we knew all the FUSE viewers were host Actually, speaking of hosts, Mandy and I were walking on the street and a older woman older not what do you call her gentlewoman? And she was just like somebody on tea. She was like he was doing something and I assume, especially when I'm walking my Mandy is horrible. She's like, you were doing so much of feet on TV. Yes I was, ma'am. I

guess that was my feet. I check the reruns out for sex cells um and enjoy all those dopest episodes. Absolutely, and guys, this has been get another episode of horrible decisions. We have a lot of We have a lot of things that pertains to not only our jobs, but the lives that we had prior to our partners, and I don't think that we realized they have shown up to allow us to be exactly who we are at the expense of things that they probably have not allowed in

previous relationships. Well, I know that the conversation that right when it comes to like you're also dating somebody that's living a different life from the bishes that she was probably with. You know what I'm saying, Like I've had conversations with my l a nigga because we're more casual. And remember he was like, Yeah, what's wild to me how you won't post food or you're where you're at, or like like you know and give a funk, like you don't always have to post that ship And he

was talking about a girl he was with. He had two hundred followers and acted like she had to report to them all the time. And he was like, maybe you'd be losing your phone because he as I lock in. That's me when i'm with when I'm with my partner, like bitch, p y'all know that I'm with my nig and I'm gona tell you all now when all y'all see on Instagram is like reposts of people posting me, I don't put where I'm at, what we're doing, or

I'll just be off Instagram. And now we know that because a crazy baby fucking rolling up on your ass. They're talking about I don't I don't put my location when you leave. How anyway, all right, love bomb and slash. I'm making fun description for this because who knows. Okay, we do have to um answer the home mail only because I told her we would. Okay, let's do it.

So this one's interesting. Hi, Wheezy and Mandy love the pod and yes I'm a Patreon member, so if you choose to use this on a bonus episode, um great. I'll get into it. I've been dating a guy for a couple of months now and we're both super kinky. He likes when I dom him, which is something that's new to me, but I'm getting into it. He likes being degraded and he wants to be my quote unquote slave and wants me to call him that. My last partner, who was black and kinky, would always tell me how

it made him really uncomfortable. How kink generally a very white space, has co opted slave slash master to be used for pleasure when their words that carry so much um race based historical context. Also, after reading slaves Play by JEREMYO. Harris, Wheezy has talked about on the pod. Oh yeah, y'all should check that out. Since then, hearing white people throw around the word slaves so easily in

the bedroom has made me kind of uncomfortable too. Obviously, it's not my place to tell my new partner what's right or wrong. But at the end of the day, I'm white and he's black. But it does make me a bit uncomfortable to call him my slave, even though

I enjoy the actions of making him worship me. Do you guys personally think we can separate the historical context of slave master and use it for kink and pleasure even in interracial relationships, or will it always carry an underlying weight like should I ask him if we can find a differ a word or just get over it and call him what he wants? Thanks in advance, mad love to you both. Love this question. I'm gonna post in the community more this question. It's a very honest question.

And you know I won't even talk to my white girl ship. So here's the thing. So many words have multiple meetings and unfortunately that's just how the English language works. But in the times that we are in now, where you do second guest, second question, or you feel the need to unlearn things. I understand not only why that would be uncomfortable, but girl, even in golf, and I'm not sure if you know this, they're considering changing the

Master's tournament because of the word master. Um, even even I was having this conversation. I don't even know if this was on an episode with us, but the master bedroom is not being called the master bedroom in real estate. And I'll be honest with you, I think that the face of B D S M, what are you gonna do with your master's degrees? Like, I'm sorry, but I'm not gonna lie, and I was gonna go there. I

think that it's an overthought, and I trust me. I am the girl who's cool with us tearing down statues, but there's this part of me that does feel like that's a drag. I love the word master for control. However, it is interesting to me to use the word slave, although uncol with master, I do believe master has more of that dynamic. And um, it's a it's a lot more definitions. Like right now, I'll just look it up

really quick. Hold on, just just let's just see how many definitions there is for master's male teacher academic degree, ruler, governor, person licensed to command a ship, um, the employer of a servant, an owner of an animal, one having control. A youth or boy too young to be called Mr. Used as a title, oh like Master Jeffrey and Master Master who was it on fresh prince emiliar m