Ep 230: The foursome (Ft. Shan Boody and Jared Brady)

I just don't say it on the mic. You never said it to me before. Well, first off, both of y'all come off very innocent. And I really don't like to feel like I'm corrupting people because I don't want to feel like I'm corrupting people. I like dealing with like just bitches that spew Ho you don't white? Okay,

that's good. You speel sex like like like Classy said, like Classy said, like, I don't know if you would spit in my mouth if I asked you to, if you asked me, if she asked me to A thousand percent. It may not come natural to me, those he instincts are correct, but Ida a team player in the bedroom, so I would do as you ask, I love, And you know what, y'all probably already got the voice if

you haven't yet. We are joined by YouTuber extraordinary, sexologist, sexpert and everything great Shan Bootist and her man, and we are joined by someone which, ironically, the last time we had you on Shan, y'all weren't yet married, right, but you were discussing married. I think you were engaged. No, I think she was engaged. But and we talked about it being her booty partner like it was her buddy,

her booty partner. Uh so you actually beat beat all the odds and ended up marrying your booty call lover Jared, who was here, who was also a podcast the Guys with some really fine co host. Okay, I just want to keep shot, sorry girl, love good. Oh yeah, go ahead, tell them where they could find you enjoy the podcast anywhere that you stream your favorite podcast. And he's not telling you to enjoy it. That's the name, So don't enjoy it. Do you know where I played your song

like whole but time? Really? Yeah? You are learning your romantic I can tell him. So he's also an artist. Guys, you know I swear. And then I said I don't remember where I played it, and this girl was like, is that Sham's man? I was like, damn, you can't play. I loved the video. I'd love that you were in it. You guys are honestly the definition to me of support. You are just the most loving, supportive, arms wide open women that I have ever met before. It's not just

our brand. Arms and legs are open people have ever met before. I think that I don't know if you get the credit you deserve for being such beautiful. I want to call you like wounds no, because like you guys house greatness, and like you give back to others in such nourishing and enriching ways. I just never felt an ounce of hate from you ever. I think it's

because we probably feel it from you. To My first time meeting shan Um was at her house and I was like having a really weird like moment in time with love and like, I just felt like you were very sincere. And I think just a lot of people have done a lot of inter views with people and they're just like ready to kick you out, you know what I mean. It is not like I had to stay. But you know, when someone can feel that you're hurting a little bit. I think that good people. It's not

easy to tell, you know what I mean. I think that's why you have so many fans. But we all look the same and do the same thing. No, it's have agreed a very different you know how. I know that's not true because you even said we don't get like people wouldn't know that or we don't get their credit in that way, like you definitely give like, oh, I can see why she's a mom not us, Okay, I mean no, I mean like we talked about Yeah, she was talking about yeah, I say, mom, you have

maternal sweet like oh bitch, and here I ago. I'm thinking she's talking about by racial nosts, what we do look alike. And we talk about sex. I mean by that is we could be competing with each other, We could be at each other's throats and trying to undermine and undercut. But it's not that at all, Right, we ain't the rap girls. Well, I'm excited to do an icebreaker with you guys, because um, Jared off Mike. I

told him that. Someone was like, oh my god, I can't wait for you to talk sex with Jared because he's so delicate and looks so easy. They said, he delicately talks about sex, So I think that we have to get it, get a the little yeah, a little runch say that. I don't know. That's the first time

I'm hearing that that's not true. Kevin takes the same thing, Kevin the way I look, or is it the way I look or the way so I'm not gonna like we said your your braids were giving boy now when it's just in a good way back pony's heel, It's like, all he looks so nice, but that that's a secret power. Not a secret power, that's a secret power. Those are dangerous ones. So you're dangerous. Damn same to date, you're very nice. You are very nice. Though okay, I'm very nice. Yes,

you are very nice. The tats that sucked it up for me like that made me feel like, oh, he's not what I thought he was. So you don't get the vibe that I'm delicate. No, it's changed over the years. Maybe the more I've gotten to No, Shaan, I'm like, Nah, she wouldn't be with no cornball cornball a cornball? Yeah, I don't think. But when you said like wouldn't talk about sex or wouldn't do certain things, that's why I said, I will say too. In my first time meeting you

was I wanted to move in. I'm not gonna lie. He was coming in setting up the lights and babe, do you need anything else? And it was just I felt the love. But now we're gonna get into the team, so we're gonna start. Um. I got these questions from a game shout out black owned last couple standing. But again with us having are you familiar with Omar and

the whole team over there? I feel like they sent me a pack of cards that could be oh my god, y'all may have to do this at home, and hopefully you don't like break up for it because the questions are intense, But it's to get you, guys to communicate as a couple and really see each other. I picked the less messy ones out, so this less messy, the less messy. You and your partner and your kid are about to get evicted and have no place to go.

Your partners X will give you the money to pay the rent only if they could have sex one last time? Do you accept the money? So thou let' rep been so your partner's X will give you the money to pay the rent only if they can have sex one more time? Do you accept the money? Take the money. That's why you could be on the street. I take the money. We'll do it, Okay, No, no, baby, Be honest with you, Jay, I would be completely comfortable with you having sex with the X right now for no reason,

just for the joy of it. I think also too, I think Jared's so good and bad that I like to lend him out because yes, I'm just a commodity my partner. I'll be honest with you. So I've literally my friends can't spend the night over anymore at this point, everyone who has um has sucked me and my man and so literally though they said, well, they were like, I'm we'll talk he slept over, she hasn't, But it's literally just like they're like, thank you for sharing your boyfriend.

But also this experience was so like amazing. So even for you to say that, I don't think most women, even though their partners are great, especially in the bedroom, would be open enough to kind of share. I love it, I live for even I fantasize about you and other people all the time when we're having sex. So do you know what it is too? I don't know if we know how to have a three summer, how to ask somebody else to enter into it, but I think

it would be one about okay. Well, for one, when you say you don't want to ask, does that mean the moment has come and you like, can you guys think the moment hasn't came? I think one, we don't go out enough to like catch a vibe with somebody and then come back or go to their house or anything, So that's fair. Yeah, I don't think we ever been in a position to do that. Go I mean, prett baby, we went out. No, but I'm saying like we're not.

That's being proposition. I mean I just think that I receiving how you are, even how you were saying, your fans have given you so much more than just like love, They've given you support in other ways. I don't really get that. So I just don't think maybe like my arms aren't open to receiving all the abundance, don't You're fine? I don't know what that drop the ball, you know what I was saying, This is kind of I think

we're a little bit more relatable than you. No disrespect here me out like weird telling stories are There was the premise of being these nine to five girls talking about everyday experiences with sex, and people have watched this climb with us, and you have to talk from a very like we We asked questions a lot like I don't know if that's right, you know what I mean, but you have you know it all. I think that's not true though, because today you stumped me. In the

first one. You're speaking and you're looking at that camera he's giving I'm saying back like someone being like nah or almost intimidated, especially women, you know, because you just never know, even though you've discussed like feeling sexual and and and like being open to that. You even said that, I think on my episode, but I could see them being like unsure and the other thing I'm curious to know,

would you guys ever try a dating app together? No, personally, I want to get the vibe off of somebody, you know what I mean, Like there's just something about in person things, so for you guys, you've had three sums. How does that six of Simpsons? And so I don't have sex club three SEMs? Oh yeah, I go to the sex club, not any sex club. You get invited

to a certain one. Yeah, so there there's uh, there's the one that we both are familiar with and we have the owner your ands w which is the members only. And now the one that I go to in Brooklyn is an all black one and it is invite only, like and they curate um, the certain people that they might.

It's it's great, yeah, but in an environment that's not like so I'm normally it happens within like clubs or bars, and most of the time it has been like listen listeners, like all of two thousand nineteen people listen to horrible station. Really terrible to say, but did that work out for the best all of you? Only one person was like a weirdo fan um and I only know this because she faced timed her home girl while she was drunk in my apartment. Was like, yeah, this wheezy house and

if that's just weird, god, that's not bad. Though, that's not that's not too bad. That could have gotten a whole lot of days. But that just leads you into what else are you capable of doing? If you could do that in my face? Yeah, certain people, if I had a three, if I had sex with them, I'm definitely telling people about it, and I'm making a video in their apartment. Be but Okay, I don't believe. I

don't believe I wouldn't get caught making it. So she probably Yeah, that's she didn't do it while you were aware. I wasn't a famous person's house recently, not for sex, like a party type thing, And I was like, bit, look at his best room, Like, um, you are okay, I'll tell you. I want to ask you'all another place shim. So the next one, your husband doesn't like your best friend of twenty years sham and says she has to go. Do you drop your friend or lose their husband? Jared

would rarely ever answer the question if I would. I would. I'm saying I would drop the friend, Okay, not because because I just trust your instincts so much and you just would never ever do that. So for you to do that, you would have to know that this person. You would have to see something in that. Yeah. Crow warts people in their sleep. Yeah, I I would drop the friend too. It's just like you're with somebody that's a life partner. They provide more than just a friendship.

You have to go with that because I want to say that Dick, Jared, huh, that's more than the friendship. Yes, that's kind of it like that. What I mean to say is that, like you know, with your partner, your partner knows you probably more intimate lead then your friend. And so if she can, if she could spot that there's a bad person around me, I gotta trust that instinct. You know, I can make a case for it. I could be like, well, you know, am I allowed one

bad friend? You know you're you're allowed one bad friend? Right? Do you do? You know? Do you all both know who it is? I know who you're one bad friend is, but that person has been edged away over time, and I didn't shove, but I've definitely been nudging or just blowing from a distance, like going, and I'm blowing from my bad friend, not just me, like I'm the one. Friends ain't bad. Friends are not bad, even though the boyfriends. I'm the friend that once my friends get boyfriends, I'm

the friend out of nowhere. They don't want them. When I say, I mean like drag you out, not even like make you Like I'm not saying like that, but like they can be like yeah, I know when you go out with easy you get too crazy and like girl I would be in FaceTime like she talking to her man would be on the couch. Oh my god. Yeah, and I'm let's go, I mean ready. But also I don't feel like that bad. I mean I like that side of you, and I like when you come home drunk.

I like all of at So I mean kind of drunk? Are you? What kind of what kind of drunking? Guy? I just sucked in the bathroom of a bar. I'd be ready, but like I'll be desperate for that one dick that I want. Like it's not like I'll take anybody saying because I love text in the middle of it, like I'm sucked up. I can't wait to get you. Oh my god, blah blah blah, show me what you wearing like I'm extra so shan hood wink me when it came to drinking, Wait, what do that mean? Like

like fake me out because I don't drink. Oh wait, so you were you were not? Really? Wait we went to a club and I bought her a drink and she was that's not she had to drink, like she had to drink. And I remember midway through and she started acting like she was drunk and everything. I'm just having a great time. No, she was acting. She was acting, and I was like, damn, this is cool. You're fun, you're drinking. And then we got together and now when we go out, I have to be the only one drinking,

so I'm not. I'm but I enjoy it, so I'm just like continue, yes, yes, thank god. Yeah, I would hate to be with someone that didn't drink. And was like, is that's your third Yeah, can go out with non drinkers. I don't mind what I went on drinkers as long

as they're the energy is the same. You know. Um we have I won't say his name, but there's a friend of mine who doesn't drink or smoke and people ask if he does cocaine because he's so hyper and he's a party host and m C and like he's just got the fucking vibe and like, I don't know how some people could do that because I need a litlst them to like be all like but when you have it, you have it. And I think we got to get over that ship in her head sometimes because

I'm definitely that person. Even if someone doesn't want to drink, but they do, I'm like, that's a little bit, you're gonna leave me alone. Not the peer pressure, but like no, not like d u I peer pressure. Last question, and this one actually came from a Patreon episode as well, where Wheezy shared this um. But both of you, I would like each of you to tell your partner about the last time they gave you a gift that you

didn't like. Man, we're just talking about how much I'm not a good gift giver, so I like not to offense this at all. But also the truth is I very rarely give you gifts. Oh you know what's so sad that Jared said? He was like, nobody has ever given you a Valentine's Day gift before? That's me. He gives me gifts. Ever, I'm just not good. I'm very generous though, yes I can't say about myself that sounds corny,

but you are, you are, you are. But I'm not a good gift giver, So I don't you would rather you would rather be like, let's go to the store and you pick out what you want, rather than like, oh, let me into it, yeah, and the rest out the whole time, Well, you're not like I just don't enjoy the experience, and I'm just like, man, I'd rather just

be like, go dinner, whatever you want. I can't say that there was a gift that she didn't like, that I didn't like that she gave me, but I will say that there's a lot of times when we're going out to eat and she tries to force me to eat something that I don't like, and I know that I don't like it, and she's just like just try, just like, like, what's an example, um, because that's me. For one, you heard earlier she puts, uh, vine or what is it, vinegar, vinegar on her apple side, vinegar

on her popcorn. I don't want that. That's not that's an extreme. Jared doesn't want to try anything, which is probably like an octopus like I don't mind, I'm gonna venturely eat, but I know it don't sound like because we know you're turning to the bone. So what should be making him like? Love? That's one thing him and my dad bonded off of that, Jared will eat any West Indian, any Indiana. That's right, I actually do like it. Like in l A, we can't get doubles. Okay, I

miss eating which any West Indian people out there. Jared once was like, what what are those Caribbean burgers? So not Caribbean murder that was cute? Were good though they are good? What is it? Tell us the food? It could be anything, Honestly, to God, anything that comes from me. I think that. I think because I pressure you so much too, I feel like you're more if you offered it, he would say yes. If I offered it, he'd be like no and get aggressive about it. That's not just true,

that's not true. If I know I'm not gonna like it, I just won't. Okay, what's your Jared pet peeves? Since it ain't get my pet peeve? Jared, um, Oh my gosh, I know. I hey, am, I don't have a perfect man. But I trying to think of like a specific thing that really bothers me because we all think it. We all think you guys the perfect couple. So tell us something because this is sad. The worst thing is the food. This is not the worst thing. You just when you ask.

Since you said the worst gift, you said the worst gift, you gotta thank you so much. Um, I don't know. Listen, I'll come back to it. There's probably tons of best I feel terrible. Well, we got some questions, so we don't get there. So we're gonna get into look our vanilla ship that comes from the New York Times. And I thought that this would be really great, especially even seeing that you guys clearly have different level. Language is everything? Uh,

this one is actually and I want to know. That's what I'll say. Let me say that it's a big one. He is not affectionate, so what's crazy? That's what this is about. And I want to know if you are familiar with the term inter intimate relationships. No, I'm not familiar. I want to know not affectionate? Is it text message? Is it physical touch? Is it affirmation? What affection? Would you want? More physical? More physical? For sure? Physical? Yea

more physical touch? A thousand that's not associated with sex. That's my number one, Jared. This is where you softly put your hand on her shoulder. Yeah, and see what's yours? My love language? Quality time? Quality time? Yeah, that's now and acts of service only because I've never received it until recently that I know. Now, there's a backstory to my physical touch thing. You know, there's this back story. There's there's things there that I'm working through. Um, are

you sharing it? I could share it? Yeah, So when I like my first experience with like physical touch, I remember I was in middle school or freshman year, and I was I had a girlfriend and I was walking with her, holding her hand, and my dad came to pick me up and he saw me holding hands with this girl and embarrassed me in front of the entire like school. Which have you guys ever seen yours dad before? No, pull him up right now. He's big, No her his dad.

He was not at all what you would expect when you hear that story. He's grown up, he's grown a lot. He's yeah, he's he's a lot better now. We have a great relations Back then, was there rules that you weren't supposed to have girlfriends? Yes? So, oh yeah there it is. Which was your dad? That's his dad? Oh damn, that's dad. Yeah, maybe I could come Okay, now I could see it. Let me see. He looked like a daddy. He looked like a dady said, it's not at always

you think I see it. He looked like black daddy yea. And there was rules to not have it. And but also I knew it was out of protection because you know, he made a lot of mistakes with women and then had me young, and so there was like that luring fear that he had with me. So it just expressed himself, you know, by shaming me whenever I was like around a woman. Yeah, well, I'm hoping you're working through that.

You are needing more physical touch. Inter Intimate relationship is actually where for some couples, having different non sexual intimacy preferences can put his train on the relationship. So it's actually kind of what we just said. So it's hugs, backrubs, cuddling, holding hands. There are many ways in which we show our love for our significant others, and we all needn't

want different amounts of emotional and physical intimacy. While couples would different sex drives face hurdles, many couples may be involved in an inter intimate relationship where each partner has different preferences when it comes to giving and receiving and receiving non sexual affection. Well, this is really unword for it what you guys are in right now. Yes, and we talked about it. Okay, every night. Every night I

rubber back to she falls asleep. So that's true. So that was the precedent set during pregnancy that I was like this one go. But I love that and I appreciate that, And yes, it has gone better, and I acknowledge I'm unreasonably needy when it comes to physical touch, to the point I've never had anybody in my life satisfied.

And I will admit this out loud. Since having a baby, I feel like I finally have gotten to a place between having Ryu and getting that much physical affection and having you where I don't feel like I'm at a lack anymore. Well, I just sent you the article because now you're gonna have to do a whole lot of research. That's incredible that this dog is just sitting here cuddling you, not moving, just being a complete piece with you. Dude.

This dog is so good. I'm terrified. Like I haven't been horny for one for two the physical touch thing totally feel the same. Um the partners that I have had, some are good, some aren't, but more recently I had a conversation about it and he was like, I don't even know if I can like do as much as you need. And I guess, okay, four days later about a dog. Oh yeah, no, I ain't gonna. I used to come on the pod all the time, and me and her actually used to talk about this a lot

of my previous like partners. Um, we didn't even really kiss. There was no cuddling, there was no like massage like it was really no, and we used to talk about like just the lack of affection. We fucked, but the intimacy was just never there. And again now having had to see that, oh no, ain't never going back. I need to cuddle like I like the spooning. I like I will lean over in the car just to like put my hand on your arm type ship. Now I see how super needy I am for that physical touch.

That's probably now number three in the language. Pump it up now, y'all notice a sex show. We need to get a little bit, a little bit Nancy up in hill. And our next segment is the horr Derve and I am leaving that to the both of you. So our Horror Derve segment is the sex tip. Okay, and so I need you all to think, no, let's have Jerry give it. We want jar give it what you'd be doing,

so all right, and don't be delicate with it. Wait wait wait wait wait, so uh something that I like to do so for me, I really like going down on a woman. It's like my thing to do. So that's how you know somebody good at it. Wait. Wait, A trick that I like to do is like first year, after you warm it up, you get a nice How do you warm it up? We need deta yeh, lick

around the vagina first before you hit the clip. Then you gotta look up and down, usually on the left side right from usually on the left, your left to her left. Um, it would be my left and so okay, so aftern you warm it up, then you you you can insert two fingers get in. Now there's a two there's two spots that I like to hit. Mine is like a little bit deeper and before you hit the cervics, don't hit the cervics is like the A spot and

you do it come here motion. Then you could come down to the G spot, put a lot of pressure and uh, and then kind of bounce between the two as you're still looking up the clip. So here's my question to you, Jared, because not everyone has the same sexual preferences, and we talked about this even in your episode. What do you do if a woman is not your fingers, well not into fingers A lot of women don't like Yeah, you obviously are checking in making sure that she's happy

about what's going on. The language that you use is very important because I find that a lot of times men go into it and they go what do you like? Or they go into it and be like do you like that? And so I usually like to go down the line of like um, using adjectives like do you want more pressure? Do you want me to orb around this area? To the science now? Would you like me to orb? Or being around the pits like it's like this, so here if this is let me sure you're right here?

Means or bits. He doesn't dropped the last two letters, all right, wait wait wait, so this is if this is the clip, it's like putting the stimulation around the clip, not directly on it, because you know something it's sensitive. Do you blow down here? Sometimes? Sometimes no, you don't ever blow You suck, which I'm not even a massive fan of sucking, but I also appreciate the variety. Tie but you do suck, and a lot of people like sucking. Blowing is actually the one thing that you should not

do when somebody is pregnant. It's hazardous to the baby. Really, I don't blow inside I'm not blowing inside them, you know, I don't wait wait, wait, okay, now we're really learning some ship kill someone blowing in their vagina. But I believe it has to be like like like It's definitely not like blowing like a blo. I'm just talking about like a oh, like a like a hot Yeah, okay, because I don't want to dick, but I don't. Who is that? Yes, that's crazy. You needs to be wider,

that needs to be No, I haven't. You don't look like you have. I know what. I think I could be good at it. Though everybody's gonna want JAREDY think after that you will have no. I would like that. I would like that. I would like telling you imagine watching this show and there so I'm talking about how they were having trouble finding someone, and then visually y'all glad in the d M. Their their acts are in

the description of their episode. So or also called a gas embolism, occurs when one or more air bubbles enter a vein or artery and block it um. It can travel to your brain, heart lungs, cause a heart attack, stroke, respiratory failure, and I have I think in rare instances, blowing into the vagina can cause an air embolism. In this case, it can occur if there's a terror, Jared, we have the same question. We do, I know we did.

Risk is higher in pregnant women who may have a chair in their placenta because again it's the tear in the vagina. This can happen during um scuba diving as well. Okay, yeah, so my question is you know when you you you know, you're messing around down there, and then you put it in and then you you have air in the vagina oye. That was my ques exactly. So is that not dangerous? Is that not dangerous when we queath? Maybe because it's that's because the quef is going out. Yeah, but that's

in there, That's what it is. It's air that's in there. And that's why I go because the air going in it's causing it. So technically equip the air escapes, because yes, because the air is escaping a kid. What are those things called the farting putting? Yes, yeah, But at the point of it is though at a certain position you are trapping air in there. Yeah, and you're pushing it.

I don't know. Yeah, that which is interesting because there's nothing that they say in terms of positions that's not safe. So everything is safe except for blowing into vagina. Just nothing needs to be more safe. There's more unsafe. Maybe the foot on your face that don't that's okay, it doesn't feel good, but that doesn't mean it's not safe, not safe that anything that will make you land in the belly. What's the wildest fetish that you came across

that you had to experience experience. I was gonna say, we both how about that. I think the adult baby diaper fetish has been the wildest. It's not the craziest we had. Somebody asked for that. Oh yeah, he wore a diaper on our episode, and we know he said personally, oh he said, or the diaper fetish was the craziest one we've ever had on I think the craziest thing someone's asked me for nothing. That nuts. I like the cream pie eating during threesomes. So that's probably really like

too far for a lot of people. I think I'm the one who asked for it. But also, like mind you, we had to get to a point where we could sleep without conduct like like you know what I mean, we had to be each other's only partners. So maybe there's like a rarity that you enjoy with it. That's what gets you off because you know that you're doing it with somebody that you trust. Maybe I think the other thing too, is like I like going down on women, and I love like when a dude comes like that

literally can make me come. It's ridiculous. I feel like such a sub by saying that, like if you come outcome, But it's true. There's been times where I can't get off and then dude hasn't known it's because he hasn't finished yet. Sometimes I just need to see it. It's sick. That's not sick. There's too many people. Oh God, don't listen to mom. I don't even know. For me, honestly, I do it all. There's this one fetish that um

I knew. Um I worked on the show and one of the gentlemen that was on the show had this thing about feet, which is normal, that's not that's not that's not a normal thing. But then he showed me a video where was in the girl's asked when she was like on his day, no that, But he had this video where she first she started with just barefoot and she was stomping on his face right and then and then she started on the no no, he started she started putting on different hills and was stumping on

his face with different hills and different shoes. So that doesn't his face his face, that doesn't Like I was like, this is probably showed this to you to say like, look at this great thing this weekend. What happened was somehow we gotten discussion. People were talking about fetishes and he was like I just love to get kicked in

the face. And I was like, are you serious because I thought he was joking at first, and he was like, no, seriously, and then he pulled up the video of him getting oh you know he paid for that, honey, Well, I think it's something like that, like it was his wife. See. But but stuff like that like to me, especially because it's not inter course, I think you can find more people to do stuff like that for free. You think you can find someone, not someone experience that people know.

I know, if you're, if you're, if you're, if you're with a sex worker, Yeah, she's gonna want to. But if it's just a regular girl and she and I think she'll be open to do it, doing it before she sucks dick or eats as right now? Would you guys be comfortable stepping on someone's face if I was in Central Park if someone asked me to do it, Okay, I thought you were at send What are you fucking

kidding me? No? I believe in everyone being fulfilled in life, Okay, And if I happen to be asked, I would do it. Hold on, hold on, let's go back. I said what I'm saying. Uh huh. A dude comes up to you, he's excuse me. I think you're beautiful. I love those shoes. Huh. Would you mind if I just laid down right here on the curb, not around the kids? But if I just lay down on this curb and you just step on my face, I'd probably be like, are you sure? I mean, I might even be like, please tell me

on here that you approve that I do this. Would you but have you what about in the sex club? Would you definitely do it in the sex club? In the sex club, No, I'm not really into kinks and fetishes around a whole lot of people, so like, I just want to get sucked in some of the biggest part but well known but I'm fully dressed. He want to be kicked in the face. Okay, let her, Let

her have this moment of philanthropy. Okay, you know what I mean, that's what I'm literally out here trying to do good for the world, and you want to make me feel bad about it. Then you want that I don't know that you're talking about ending world hunger bit. I mean, this could really make his day. That could

really for someone like that. Actually know what It's funny because I did this podcast once where they were doing like embarrassing sex stories on stage and somebody was telling the story of a dude who they were about to get intimate, and he was like, I really don't want to make you uncomfortable, and this is something that's really on me. But I know she's wearing socks and I really get aroused when I see feet, And would you

mind taking your socks off. And she told it on stage and everybody was dying of laughter, and she was like, I was like, you fucking weirdo. How I was like, imagine how scarring that is for that person, and how much courage it took for them to actually ask for that. So the fact that if somebody did ask you in Central Park to kick them in the face, it probably

took them so much courage just as to ask. So you probably I love sham, I love ship, you know, or even people from burning buildings, because that's the tone that you have right now, so much for him to ask, I mean, I mean, I'm gonna lie. We talked about it all the time, even for like the men listening who maybe want to try pegging, or would like a finger in their ass, or want to even share the

weirdest things that come to their mind. Like I know that it's a lot for even men sometimes to share what type of porn they're into out of the fear of being judged. Westingly, we were talking about nipple play, and you were the partner who didn't ask for it, right, but enjoys it. Even for a lot of men to ask for their nipples and I'm like, it's just a nipples. Never asked me to do it, and you like it so much in it, I just really realized you were

into it. No, I didn't. I didn't even really fully know that I wasn't into it until we started doing this. I imagine if I got into a new sexual partner, I would be like, yeah, this is something that I mento now. But we started a month and you said because I did it. I mean I think, I think, I think you can find I think you find out too um even for a woman. Again, to me, even her saying, is that not weird thing. A lot of men don't want to admit it, but they do enjoy it.

So I think even a tip that I would give is just to see if your man is into it. Slow kissed down before you suck his dick, so slow kiss him from his mouth, then kiss his neck, and then spend some time at the nipples. If he pushes you down, maybe he doesn't like what you're doing there, but a lot of men will like kind of let you know that they actually do enjoy it. It's just not a thing that I think men are brave enough to say, courage it to the bravery, the bravery respected

mother Mandy the first respond well too as well. A satisfactory sex life elongates your lifespan, so you could be adding years. I'm gonna be a lot to Alma hunted bitch, I'm gonna get to say I've been here for ten for ten decades makes you look younger and longer as well, because it releases releases d h A, so you are it's a. It's the It's like something that makes the skin look more elastic, like collegen. Yes, drink well. I just found a random link that said that that's why

black don't crack because we produce collagen more. But it's also the reason why we key Lloyd faster. Smart. Fact really just be falling across the most random inter committed. What was the term intimate enter intimacy? Yea intimate relationship. So guys, the next part of the show is the Horrible Decision. And this is where I literally broke down questions for the both of you, because not only are

you newly married, you were newly parents. And this is something that me and Wheezy, even though she thinks she pushed this dog out her coach, she didn't so there's a lot of things that we have zero experience on as far as being a parent, what it's like and how it affects you. Did not I am post body, ain't come at my pussy. That dog ain't come out short. I am a march STUPI almar. But you don't have to have something come out your pussy to be a mom.

To clarify, oh yeah, okay, sorry, ship adopted a child, maybe at least let it be a human baby that part um. So I wanted to talk about with the both of you because I think you're learning. She's saying a lot, she's giving you all hint it, she's ready for some other things. But I wanted to ask you, guys, how you were able to not only keep it spot, keep it spicy pre pregnancy, but post pregnancy. Did you

feel hot when you're pregnant? You know, yes and no. I felt like I intentionally forced myself to feel hot even though I didn't because I knew that it would benefit me and benefit our relationship and benefit the baby. So I didn't feel it, but I was like, let me put myself in a position, so I that's in lingerie. I bought like full like little leather suit for myself. So I did all the things to put myself in the light to make myself feel safe. You were working out,

I was working out. I mean that didn't really help that much though. What was your what was your favorite body change during pregnancy? Breast thousand a thousand percent tits? Like I never existed in that world before. I'm actually upset that you're not more enthusiastic about you know what it is? What it is? I feel you know there

right now, they're not mine the right life source. Their feel like that though, Like do you really feel like there's like a there's a part of it that's like watching and also to like because I mean now that I'm breastfeed squeeze milk everywhere you guys watch sex Life where a lot of people learned about that when you orgasm, Yeah, that it drips out, Like did you notice last night? I had? Okay, you look it up? Do you look at it? I did get some of my mouth. Oh oh,

that's what we're doing. I have to I have to express for you, and I do have it in a bottle, but it's been staying there for a while, so I don't want to do that to you. Oh, it's not unless you don't mind, she will suck your nipple. It's sitting in the other studio. You never mind. Oh you still want to give her a bottle? Never mind? But it's breast from a mother. I didn't. That doesn't make it sexual if it's just breast milk, right, just get a little bit, let me taste it. I can't. That's

how it works, I thought. I thought, No, I have to, like you think, she just could just you and it takes a while to turn on unless we started having sex, and then then it just does its own thing, turn on like it would be like a slow It's like a faucet, like you know, you heard it on Its cold water for a long. It's just air for a bit, so even if the baby latches on, it's like a minute of air and then it's sprays all over the place like a carnival game, and then it goes to

one single stream. So it's a process. Yeah. Why I feel like I thought another world. I did not even know that. Yeah, I didn't know. I didn't know either to be during pregnancy. How was your sex drive? Hi? You have double the blood volume? I had more orgasms. My orgasms were faster and more intense, and I think I got more sensation in my vagina, which I never really had that much before. So I benefited from it. But you, Jared hated and you got it always come

to you next. Jared hated pregnancy sex. So it is a very strong word. Why was it? Did you feel like you're gonna hurt her? Um? Well, you feel like I was gonna get a dimple from your not not that like so there. So the first time we had sex when she U was pregnant, I couldn't get it up because there was like this feeling of the child

is in the room. And then on top of that, like I got and the child was the size of a figured at the time, like if I were you and I would have felt like it was me not right aware Jared didn't want to three some with a baby, but your mind. And we talked about it right away like it wasn't like something that I was just like hiding or you know, and it was the only time that it happened. So then that happened, and then as

you know, we progressed. Obviously the bigger that she got, like the sex changed, So it was just kind of like we were having it. It wasn't the sex wasn't about pleasure for us. It started becoming like we know that this, this will benefit the baby in the long run. Sex benefits. Yeah, yeah, releasing all of like stress release and to go to sleep and and then when you're closer to delivery, that actually helps the baby come out bad.

I knew, but I didn't know the other one. So you're not one of the men that believed that pregnancy pussy is so much better than I'm pregnant pussy. It was great, but I think, like, um, it was this is a weird word to use, but it was fluffier, not a flow. That's not weird at all. I get it. The walls puffed out. I remember with siss Is like when she was ovulating. I can feel it in my hand a little more lovely. Oh, is that what it is.

I'm actually new to the word fluffy. Yeah. I was about to say, did it feel swollen, because I'm definitely good word. I felt like, just feel different, but in a good way. Yeah, it swollen is a good word. Yeah, but fluffy is the word that Dr Peusche used. I think I use an Okay, take credit for that, we went to this doctor who does like Lady of Plastics, and she gave me something called the OH shot, which

is something like the make sure. But she said, I've never heard this before, that I have a very fluffy hymen, that it's like a lot of tissue in there. I did not know that before. So now this vision got a pillow pussy. Everything perfect, Everything is perfect. I want to mart in front of each other, Yes, really in front of each other. Far. I can't believe that. Really you think I'm proper? Which is you know, yes, I don't think we all do. I mean, I don't think

people think that about me. Do you what that I'm like proper? I think they kind of they can tell. That's I think maybe your I mean, I did not think you didn't fart. But I'm like, yeah, I'm not trying to be shady and start a little. No, I'm super gross. I'm a real gross person, that's for sure. We think I'm gross. No, you're not a gross person. Your body parts? So wait, how did the first part come out? Oh? I couldn't even tell you. I like talking about poop, like I you know what it is

for me. I don't like secrets, Like even when he just said that, like he couldn't get it up and we talked about it immediately after. So it's not like we're living in a world of like pretending to be any delusion of delusion. Yeah, it's like, let's examine. We had a YouTube channel together for like thirty seconds. It

was called the Examined Life. I think that's why we actually bonded and we transformed from buddies to something more is because we both realized we're people who wanted to talk about everything, and like, look at life, moll angles. What I also like about the two of you, And I mean even any couple listening, I think a lot of people assume when they tell their partner that they

don't like something about them. I think there's actually a lot of fear and telling your partner you don't like something about them um off of maybe the fear of confrontation or leading to an argument or making their partner insecure. Now about that, and so was there something that left for you guys to be this open with each other, Like even the fact that you're saying like, yeah, I want to see you with someone and hey, I don't like that you make me want to try out this food.

A lot of people can't tell their partners what they don't like about each other. I think it started. You know, the interesting thing about our relationship is that we started out as fun buddies. So there was in the beginning, our dynamic wasn't uh, there was no fear of losing the person. You know, does that please? I actually want

to snap my finger, please get into this. Yeah. So in the beginning where they're like, I was able to put all of my all of me on the table and know that it's not going to be judged because it's not like a girlfriend, right, and you didn't care? Yeah, and if you did and you were the same, Yeah, Jared's younger than me. I wasn't sure if I'll be

able to stay in our country much longer. Like, there was so much fuck it in what we shared in the beginning, and that I think benefited too, because we're never trying to make it anything more than what it was in the moment. I love that because it's also a lot of people don't assume that you could go from a friend to marriage. A lot like and I don't think a lot of people can. No, I don't either, but I think I give them too much of them.

But also but no, this is the problem to what both of you guys are insinuating two is that when we date and we're actually looking for a life partner, we don't show up as our true selves. No, yeah, you show up on the selves that you think they're gonna like. The only thing is I will say not saying it like even over Like literally told me maybe the third time we had success, said something about having

dinner again. He's like, yo, like I'm just letting you know, like I haven't had a girlfriend in a minute my life, selling for a girlfriend, don't want a girlfriend, and then two years to their families, all that living in Mexico, like it was a lot. And I think sometimes not even that men are um, I'm trying to find the word, not that they're lying, because I do believe when a man says what he wants or what he's looking for,

you should believe him and listen to him. But I do think it's the no pressure because we are trying so hard on that first date or that second date, not even realizing it, just trying to make a good impression. Like that's what we do in a job interview. That's what we do on the first day, because that's really what it is. And when you meet someone and it's that no frill ship, you get to know they're really true,

like that's your friends. But the truth of the the matter is that's not like we're saying it like this, but there's so many times and jaredy also to say to him, if you knew this about me before, would be would we be together? He's like absolutely, not really being super needy, being very corny, like making jokes that he's in front of funny. I think I'd like to annoy you a lot. Yeah, that's that one thing about that I will say, like her version of flirting is like trying to piss me

off or you what, Like it's just really bad jokes. No, it's like like I don't know how to explain it, but like it's like you don't want to like nagging, like I'm poking you. A lot of parts I tucked away neatly because I was aware that I had to wait until there was like some involvement in commitment to be like this is who I truly am socially, and instead of saying you look really good, you'll be like, the hell you got all? She's really known as compliment,

you know. But I think at the end of the day, the reason why I said, I'm not saying that not everyone could do it because I'm like, we're something special. I was really anal about maintaining the fun buddy relationship and creating very clear boundaries because I was aware of myself when would get me caught up and also my biology naturally, so we only created relationships and revealed parts of ourselves that fit with what we were at the time.

I never overinvested in him ever, So I never did anything that made me feel like I'm trying to get you know something that really great point because a lot of people are trying to like cook to coop do this stuff so they can get you to be theres So who who wanted to take the fun buddy relationship beyond? He was like that fluffy pussy got me, Jared, Yes, it was you. You were the first person to say I love you. Yeah, Yeah, he's so sweet. I love it. She's like a yeah, so guys, I had to pe no,

they ain't gotta know that that's we edited. No, but they might stay it on the video and it's a it was like a pregnancy p You're like, you look different now you look different afterp do you? I don't know. I'm just saying, well, my friends is pregnant, maybe having to pee, like it's gonna come out right now. Like I had a friend pulled the car over. Yeah I can see that, and I was like, girl, are you like we were in New York? Bro? Yeah, yeah, pushing

it gets like that. I get it. If you girl a pe on yourself before you p and these on twentieth and sucking lex Oh, ain't you I used to Papa squad anywhere? Yeah, I don't want when No, New York won't let you use the bathroom unless you're a customer Starbucks. Don't be like you gotta have a key and 't receive. No, I'm just gonna pop a squat well speak speak, You squatted and the whole baby came out of you. Um, now that the baby is here, how is your sex life now? It's been affected? It's

hold on. That's a big work. That's that's positive. Uh, it's it's it's tough. Like the stage that she's at right now is so much attention, so much like you know, involvement, and so we barely get time to just be with us, but we still find times like we had sex in the closet. It's actually storage room sex, yeah, she does

room with us closet sex. Yeah, So like while y'all are getting ready or like let's do it time that there are always people at our house all as people, so are windows of time of being alone and so very very short. So when we do have like storage room sex, it's when there's people upstairs. So it's a

limited amount of time that we have. Actually, in many ways actually enjoy it more though, because I think before you just you and me for so long there and we work together, so there's like a constant opportunity to be having sex, which kind of makes it less special in many ways, Whereas now, like we're on this trip together, we've had sex every day because it's like it's rare

to have that time. But also when we do have sex or have those moments, I don't have to like work up the drive or the desire like it's been in me all these exchanges constantly like building it up, So I think that it actually has made the sex better. I don't think I've had bad sex with you in a long time. Yeah, And when I say it affected,

it wasn't. The sex itself is out time and when you can also for sure, I mean like when we first got together, we never never not had sex, you know, two times in a row day we saw each other, and then we within together and we had sex every single day for a year, and then the next year it was like maybe you know, six times a week, and then the next year it was like maybe three times a week, and then the next year and then now we're probably at like how many years have been together,

twoft and now you're at what once or twice a week? Yeah, And that hasn't affected either of you because clearly both of you didn't have really high sex drives. Has age and life slowed that down or do you still have that sex drive just not enough time. It's still the same sex drive, just not enough time. And I think you know, with age comes understanding, So there's like a part of it that's like I understand that this is just the process that we're going through now. It doesn't

mean that we won't get back there. But I will say, like like we did a video we talked about this where people were like kind of upsetting the comments about it, but we said that we never turn each other down, Like if he comes on to me no matter what, if I want to or I don't, I don't ever turn him down. Well, it looks like it makes it seem like like like like, I mean, if you have a partner, schedules, bro like to remind each other, and I think that not turning each other down is a

great commitment. Well, if you have a partner who's going to be like, I don't care. If you're having the worst day ever and you're on your period and you're on your side in so much pain you're sucking meat, then that's a terrible rule. But I don't have that kind of partner, so I don't know. I was about to say, it's definitely subjective to the relationship only because like I do believe that you should be able to tell your partner no the same way you could tell

an unwanted person or person essentral park. Yeah, like you can always tell someone else, So I do get why it would get pushed back. But again, I think it's subjective to the type of relationship you have, Like my partner now or did was x whatever I heard about it because I'm single but I'm not, but I am I it's a hot girl summer um. Um, Like, I

don't do period sex. And I know that there's a lot of men they're like, I run red lights and for me that's a that's a no. It's a hard no. And so even if you're as horny as you are, that is one thing that I'm sorry, I'm not interested in it, and so to me, I should be able to say that without like another one like yeah, just some period bled no blo. Um. I have courage. It takes okay, not courage your body, courage and bravery. That

that should be the title. Little all right, before we get out of here, let's get really quick to the whole mail. It's called unchanged this hole, um, and I want you guys to help us as well with the advice for this. I'm twenty six and I got married almost three years ago to my currently thirty four year old husband after being together for almost six years. Since about our relationship hasn't been in a great place. However, I remain optimistic in hopes that we would get through

it kind of similar what you just said. The major issue in our relationship has actually been money ever since, my husband hasn't really been a strong financially provider of the house. This is mainly due to his need of pursuing a creative career and not wanting to work for the man anymore. Well I supported this man, Listen, Well, I've supported this man through two failed dreams, and now he is on number three and I know I don't have the emotional, mental, or financial resources to continue to

support him. After listening to your podcast and hearing the variety of perspectives from some of your previous guests, I have finally come to accept that my marriage is possibly a failure. I now know that it isn't that I want one moment all on Oh. I now know what it is that I want from a partner, and my husband isn't cutting it. I'm ready to be unchained and go out into the world and live my whole home

ass life. My question for you, ladies and guests is how do I go about telling my husband that I want a divorce. We don't have any kids, we don't at Anna say, how about go out there and have the summer like this is all happened? You know she wants to know how she comes to her partner says that she says that they don't have any kids, so no worries about that, but she does currently have four months left on the lease, and she's worried that she if she tells him too soon, she'll be left to

support a home by herself. You are not worried about too, And she said she said at the moment, she can't support the home by herself. So that's why she really mean, since he can't and she can't. I think that they're both now stuck in a relationship because they are both financially. I just noticed that you're wearing orange. You're on the orange mike. You're wearing green, You're on the green mike. I think telling your husband that you want to get a divorce, if you haven't tried to work at it,

might be kind of a shitty thing to do. It sounds like they've tried it, sounds she's been Um. If you're concerned about the time frame, um, fake it till you get you about sixty days? Right? Is she per to keep them cheaper to keep her like? That's what they say, like and you need a playing girl. But divorce is also takes some time, right, Yeah, but like imagine if someone told you that, well, it takes a

year being separated and not living together. So in effect, you have to dissolve the relationship for a year and then you can file for a divorce. But I still have to make the you have to file separation first. Yes, really, and I didn't file the separation very safe. I'm pretty you have to be separated for a year before you can file for divorce. And now I'm not even quite sure because you're so shocked that I don't know. Ye, like people be like, I'm yeah, but no, it's I

definitely know. It takes time. It does. It takes a lot of time because it's like there's like pepperwork that has to be signed on both ends, and sometimes if there's one partner who doesn't want it, they take forever to sign it. They don't sign it, they throw it away. They that's the TV. Let's say. I think even outside of marriage, this has been a constant um struggle for

a lot of relationships, especially during covid um. People wanting to separate, but now they both know they need each other because they live together, and how do I pay bills by myself without my partner during this crisis. So you know what is it takes so much mental energy to maintain an unhealthy relationship that doesn't bring you joy. You'd be surprised at how much more productive you can

be outside of that partnership. So you're looking at it now like the version of you that exists today can't afford to live alone. But the version of you when you free yourself from this connection that is draining you and dragging you down, probably can make it work and figure it out. Um, I can say that I went from making twelve thousand a year to what we make now as a result of a positive partnership. But even just living alone and getting away from my toxic X,

it was just a day night version. It just it takes a lot of brain power to manage an unsuccessful, unhealthy relationship, So get out of that. Prioritize that over finances is I would give that advice a thousand per cent across the board. I also think the coolest thing someone said to me about marriage is that marriage is the only thing that we do where we celebrate the intent.

Like in university, you celebrate the completion, right, that's the graduation marriage is like we're intending to give this a try. We're celebrating the intent. It's okay if that intention doesn't work out. And even she said someone said the word failure or she surrot my Malian marriage is a failure. No, no, it's the opposite. It's like if you're a party, Yeah, the party is over. It was a success, but now everyone can go home, like if we have done what

we came together to do. Maybe we didn't make forever, but we accomplished whatever we did in these years, and I want to call it right now while we're ahead and say this was great for what it was. It was a successful marriage, But now I want to move

on to other successful ventures. Like no, yeah, I would say, um, just just pull that trigger as soon as possible, um, because I find that if you start to find different excuses on why you're not gonna pull it, maybe when you come down to that sixty day mark, you're gonna be like maybe should I Or there's gonna be one other thing that's going to hold you back from pulling that trigger. So I'd say you just do it and

uh and see what happens. You only live once and you pro divorce so that I love that about Yeah, I love that. So divorce Actually, yeah, I think that that's also good thing to be now because it seems like, oh like, we're gonna make this work, and if it's not gonna work, we're not gonna sit in here and be unhappy. There's so many marriages where they stay because there's in divorce. There's a whole other version of content I can create around divorce. So anyway, right here we

speaking of content. Where can our listeners listen to the both of you and find content from y'all? You could find me. I don't know which one is like camera, but I'm gonna look at one of these. I think this one right here, this middle one. Okay, you can find me enjoy the podcast or enjoy Jared Brady across all platforms, and uh yeah that's everywhere because oh hell

yes kiss kiss. Oh oh well, there's per mention, the vibe I'm like to get out expect that out of You have a podcast coming out which we did an episode for today. We're going to be an episode by time probably airs October six, where all podcasts are available called Lovers and Friends. Congrats on your podcast A very long time coming. I know you had one that came out with your audiobook or something. I feel like, well, that's a audio book which also listened to that. Nice.

We loved your but thank you so much. I appreciate another one. Thanks kiss yo. Looking looking at the chand like, are you serious? Right now? This will be the clip just so you know it's gonna go all over the internet. Look, you don't want to kiss him, first of all, I mean I'm not saying I want to turning red now, not the one who flirts with all the guests. And now I never had a guess with a husband. I was into. Well, now she's giving you permission to kiss them.

Is this gonna be on like TV? Okay, let's not do it. It It feels like it's getting cool. It's all fine. You don't want to eat a guy. She's not doing that right now, I'm doing well. Guys, are gonna leave you with a five minute bonus clip from our patreon if you are all caught up for horrible decisions and want for us on the bonus clip. Oh we could, we could do it as a bonus thought. You know what, Come to our Patreon and you're gonna see Wheezy kiss

Shan's husband. There, I'm putting it to the universe. Go on over and join us now at picture on dot Com backslash Horrible Decisions. We are there again. We leave me? What if I'm in a bow clip? And this has been another episode of Horrible Decisions. Hey guys, I've been listening to Horrible Decisions for a bit now, and I thought you might have some advice or could relate to the current problem that I have. First off, long story short, I recently, in the last two years, came out as By.

It's been crazy trying to be true to myself because in my background, my mom was highly against the idea of a woman being with anyone else but a but a man. But when I came out is By, I started experimenting with threesomes, guys, girls, all that. And then one day I started realizing, I keep thinking about a threesome with two men who were either by or gay or whatever. I just wanted to try it, and I did, and I loved it. So now I'm into that a lot,

and I never knew it before. Fast forward to last year, my X and I got back together. We've been on and off for seven years. I had no intention of going back after he was so upset about me coming out to him is by during the last time we broke up. But nevertheless, here we are. I do love him. Our sex has been amazing. I just wish he was more open to the idea of a threesome. Maybe I'm not even asking for him to try a threesome with another man. I know that's a far as stress stretch,

but damn, can I watch you another girl? Can we fuck this girl together? I have needs. I can't deny my sexuality, and it's sad as hell, but I take it slow because I know I just should have been open from a jump, and I've always known I was into both. I was afraid because I was so shameful. My question is, do you think there are any ways I can introduce the idea successfully to have a threesome.

I definitely don't want to just bring it up bluntly like I have in the past, because he'll probably think he's gonna have to compete with a woman. Um. Sorry, it's lengthy with the story needed context. Until I figured out I'll be watching porn. Of all the things I wish I could try, shall now see why you brought a shot on Patreon. I'm so sick of he'se goddamn, how do I get a threesome of My partner asked questions. No, this one's a little bit different because it's just she's

just announcing that she's bisexual. So I think it's a reverse right. It's normally men trying to bring women in on a threesome. And I had a situation with hospital dick and with the Jesus dude I dated where they really felt like and believed that other women were just as bad as other men. In my head, fucked up. I have a sex podcast. I was like, but it's just a bit. I'm not trying to suck another nigga. And I will say this if there is any ladies

listening to the podcast. I know we don't often talk about men saying no to threesomes, but I do believe, and both men that told me no have big dicks. I don't think it's a confiden it's issue. I truly believe it has to do with where someone feels like

they stand with you. Hear me out. I don't think that men feel safe in threesomes unless they know who the funk they are to you, Like, I think there's a reason that people that go to swingers resorts have been together forever and they're oldest fuck Like, I don't think that, especially you being on and off seven years with someone introducing someone else into the bedroom makes sense when they don't even know what the funk they have

going on with you. And maybe you could say he knows you well or whatever, but like on and off for seven years, on and off a lot, and it sounds like you're more off been on for a nigga

did not know you've been by the whole time. And if you mean then that to me, is you coming from a completely emo place, because niggas are okay with threesomes before they know where you stand with them, like clearly, But I'm saying that I'm talking about in case where men don't your boyfriend a man I've had a threesome with, These aren't the men were talking about. We're talking about the men that aren't comfortable and where where it comes from?

Maybe right, So I mean, That's where I'm putting my input in. And I know we can all talk about men we funk that I've had a recent with, but I'm curious to know what y'all think as far as a man who is not not a man who is, but a man who's not. I mean, I just think it could come from a lot more deeper rooted things, uh, such as religion, such as their views on sexuality. Um, because I mean, I did have someone early on that I was talking to and well, this wasn't recent at all.

You know who I'm talking about, but he actually did not like the fact that I liked other women and didn't feel like he would ever really care for me to be with another woman, and came to me like, if I feel like you have to bring in another woman to the bedroom or that you want to play with women, it's because you don't feel fully satisfied with me.

And so I think that outside of religion, outside of what the relationship is, a man could have some insecurities if you want to bring someone in the room at all, like, and I think that that's really where a lot of that stems from. It's more so him a man feeling inadequate to please you fully and that's why you're seeking someone else. Yeah, there's article I read because when you try to like search advice about this. It's all about women asking my boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what

do I do. There's this article on bold dot com. It's Bold with the Apian and it says, my boyfriend and I try to have a threesome and it destroyed us. And there's something really interesting about this. She says. At first, I was freaked out. It was moving so fast. Maybe I should have told him I was nervous, but I just wanted to be spontaneous. And see, I feel like if someone is telling you know before it's even happening,

like this is a blessing in disguise. Threesomes can end so badly if you all don't know where you stand. And I think that, honestly, it's better left undone than trying to fund someone else with someone that doesn't want to do it. Like, you know, we hear about men kind of core sing women into threesomes so much, and I think that as women, we've got to really respect

fucking boundaries. And if you've got to fund someone else that bad and you're that your kinks are that important, then girl in the game, you