Ep 208: Questions & Spilled Tea

even ask me what she sign us up for. Definitely was like, you could do it this, but Mandy gonna say no. I want to know if anybody with a job asks their friends, hey you think I could do this at work? And doesn't ask anybody at work but ask their friends, Hey can I do you think I could do this? So when one of the questions comes up, like what kind of conflicts do you guys have, we can talk about this moment. I um, we ran a little bit late, a little a whole lot of late.

So Brilliant Idiots is now at the studio WT of Media and unfortunately Nigga's nig and there is a whole production and their god damn set is a whole thing. How long is their show? I told you it was about two hours, and it was about three that they needed a studio for so because of that, I am late to go get my hair done and the extra hour and a half that we're spending U is what they'll do to unbraid and take my hair down, and so I have to now do it myself. Do I

have a rat tail comb? No? I have a tiny little brush. This ship sucks. You ain't real why you mother be doing it? Motherfucking take yo braids out? What an edge brush? Bro? This sucks so much. I'm not eve gonna lie y'all. Y'all, honestly, this is gonna ear. Take you on YouTube so much because you're gonna want to help me. Oh my god, I would love to

see the comments for that. Oh yeah, they're gonna be like just out like niggas always got something to say when I first off, the fact that there are so many different ways to take braids out, and I've been someone who was taking my hair and they'd be like, that is even how are you supposed to do it? The way I take my hair out is the way I find your hair out. Mind the business that minds you, Thank you, whatever you do, mind the business that minds it.

Felt good. Now I'm gonna trying not to take it out all the way, so the ship in everywhere. I'm gonna just trying to unloosen each one and I'm just vacuum again. Yes, we will have to vacum again. And thank you for minding everybody. All right, Fine, Well, we have a fun show today because we are basically going to answer all of your questions that you have, and we're gonna go through everything that was sent into Horrible

to Patreon, to our stories, to my stories. These are some really fun questions and there are so many questions that we actually can't get to them all. But because Mandy is anal, I'm heavy on the I have anal. We are going to start with Vanalo so many questions. But Vanilla Ship today is from healthline dot com What causes people to have sexual fetishes? I fucking thought this was really dope. We definitely should bring somebody onto, like

a therapist or some ship. But you know what's crazy though, uh and I'm I'm super excited you you did pick this Vanilla ship, But what's crazy is that I still don't like that there's some sort of psychological aspect to our fetishes or our kinks. And I think we we talked about how I'm like, at least I have. I hate that it's tied that way, really like because a lot of yours makes sense, which one. I think that you like to be dominant because with men, because I

think your daddy issues. I think you even talked about it. But yeah, I just feel like niggas get money. That's why I want to be dominant, bitch, But I do. I don't know. I just hate the idea that kinks and and fetishes come from trauma, bonding or something wrong. And this is why you like, like, okay, tell me what in your mind psychologically why someone would like golden showers. I don't know, butbe they got this. Initially, a b d L comes up, and if you guys don't know

what that is, that's adult baby diaper lovers community. They say. Um, the only real sexual aspect of it, in his opinion, is being attracted to a specific underwear type. He's like, I relate my fetish to underwear. Seeing a good looking person in a pair of briefs or a good looking guy in a diaper. It's just underwear to me. Um, it's not a very specific type. Um. And they don't think this is a mental illness or anything like that.

Good because I will say too if you guys came to our live show in New York and Sony Hall, we have the diaper lover Boy join us on stage, and he got really offended when someone tried to cring up his children. Not yeah, they tried to make it seem like this fetish came from some sort of trauma, and he really liked it has nothing to do like I don't like him for he was upset that someone tried to connect his kink of liking to be changed

in a diaper. And there's not a lot of literature they're saying in a B d L. But he said some of his clients have Asperger's UM and get positive sensory feedback from wearing a bulkier diaper. Um. He says, these instances, they're not into the sexual fetish side. Most of the clients we haven't mentally sound. It's it's really more the lifestyle. It's not sex and um. It's about relaxation and stress relief and taking aspects of that relaxation from childhood when a time was easier, which I thought

was interesting too. Nearly two thousand people who practice adult baby diaper fetish completed an online survey, and mostly men said that their behaviors are showed that their association to it was from their attachment styles and their parental relationships. UM. For instance, male respondents being more anxious anxiously attached UM was linked to a desire to be dominated or to have a daddy. Well, I thought it was cool. Furthermore, I got a daddy. He just a whole what I do.

It ain't like I yearned for a daddy like I had daddy. We saw him every two weekends. I mean, maybe someone who didn't feel because I mean a dad could be around, but not maybe isn't acting like a father. Because one of my home girls that her baby daddy technic kids every weekend and she's like, he let me doing shit? Kid? You coming back like we can do homework. We didn't do this. But they're also saying that preference and personality, UM, they also have similarities. But yeah, I

did think it was dope. It's basically saying once people develop a fetish or an interest in a lifestyle, how they fulfill their desires UM basically determined if it's healthier not not. The act itself, So yeah, how they fulfill it? Like, are you just doing fulfilling it in a healthy way, like you might like to get spanked, but like are you maybe having random people do it that you don't trust? Are you putting yourself at risk with the diaper fetish?

Like are you doing it with people that are consenting? Are you making sure they're in the community too. So it's saying it's not the fetish that's the problem, it's how you execute the fetish that could be the problem. So I thought that was dope because we do be acting like people got something funked up with them. For the you Be Horrid Derve. We actually talk about this soon you guys will hear an episode UM with um Adum not really a b D s M consultant, Troy Um.

We discussed erections and like, um men coming and the horrid door for this week is don't take the loss of an erection personally. Just moves on. Just move on. It happens to all men at some point, and there's not necessarily anyone to blame if his erection goes soft halfway through four player sex. Don't take it personally because overreacting only makes it last longer makes him feel embarrassed, awkward, emasculated, even more so that he may be feeling embarrassed without

you saying anything. So instead of pointing it out and taking heart to it, shift gears, try something else and resurrect the moment. I think we should ask Edin, have you ever lost the direction? And it wasn't for the chick? Oh yeah, definitely, what is it? I don't I don't know. It's like I'm not gonna Lila. I get a little nervous, nervous when it's like the first time of a new girl.

We we talked about, We've definitely talked about. And that's the thing too, especially because we talked about with Tiana, like a man only has two times to show us he got that thing thing before we're like, nah, bro, you gotta go. And so the idea that we almost don't consider that, damn, maybe the first time is gonna be bad because this this person worked up, he has

he's nervous. Not only is he nervous, especially if you take time to talk to somebody and like make it seem like this is about to be the most freakiest, sexiest you wanted to be the best, but now you've applied all of this pressure into someone that you're really about to have an experience with for the first time. And I know I've done that before. I shared the story with you guys, Like I stopped midway and was like,

this is not working. Uh yeah, I think that's differently when someone isn't trying or they're just actually being whack in the sack. Yeah. But also, like I told y'all to uh, this was before you know, I got into a relationship. But when I was a hoh ho you know once again, you know that one was Christmas time, But when when I really was out here, like I love to see the people who I was having sex

with have sex with other people. And so there was almost a level of expectations because you're not gonna fuck me weak and I see you, you know, busting down the next bit. So there was almost what, bro, you're not gonna fuck me picking out your braids? Don't you dare see here and talk about I don't know what you're saying. I was just meaning your dominant I'm doing really, bro, I just say it. Tell you, this is what I really like about ownership, because could we do this anywhere else?

Could I be such a nixt injinem? I probably could have been. You could have done this in a lot of places. The podcast, uh just environment is none like none other. Okay, okay, because I've you know, I'll be drinking drinking, I'd be spoken so like I've on the podcast and I'm like, oh, this is the whole chill session. Okay, all right, this is what we're doing. Would be like half open or half filled Hennessey bottles. How do you

guys feel about Like, I don't know. This is random to bring up, but I don't know if I like watching people get that lit during podcast. Drink Champs is all of that at you don't like it, well, I don't. I mean I wouldn't like it for like other podcasts. I guess I've never watched Drink Champs. I've just listened to a few things. But I mean more so, like I just don't like when people don't take their works. And also Drink Champs is different because that's their brand.

It is. I think like sometimes that I walk d the podcast in different showing people smoking and drinking too much. I'm like, this is my fun, Like I don't if you don't make it like, if you're not like, we're gonna get drunk this episode, that's cool. Or someone shows up drunk and everyone else is sober, that's fun in my opinion. But I don't I mean to see everyone plan a drunk episode excluding like the format. I feel like it's not fun. Now I'm starting to think we

should do a special drunk episode. Oh, they should be lit. That's fun. It's I mean, i'd be lit sober, but I mean it's funny because when I did Cocktails the first episode, shout out to Kiki and Medina their first episode. You know, they start with a cocktail for their episode, but they used to drink during Bitch. By the end of that episode, we was drinking Moscow mules because that was my drink. So they had the Tito's, they had

the motherfucking Lion juice and ginger beer. By the end, I had to give off our tour dates and I was like, so a little bit of the Lennas and I was like, oh, bitch about we have to memorize our four dates and locations. And I was like, oh, we need to adding. We'll speaking up needing the adding we're gonna get into and speaking of our tour is Black Sexcellent. This week I think makes sense to be us. We have been talking about people in the sex revolution and a lot of you maybe new and you guys

always love a refresher. So we're gonna tell you what Horrible Decisions is how it started, and then we're gonna get into questions of our chill us. Um. I basically thought people should ask us, like the lot of questions aboutroduction. People always want to know questions about Mandy and I in our relationship, questions about us separately, things we do

on the show talking over people. Horrible Decisions started. The idea was it was two sixteen or seventeen, and um, Mandy and I hadn't seen each other in about five years, and we had dinner together we ret Sarafina And was it that dinner? No, it was the dinner that I don't know. That was the dinner we discussed the podcast, but I feel like I said, oh, yeah, she didn't. Yeah, No, that dinner was just us catching up. You telling me you'll sugar Daddy paid for your new apartment. That was that.

And then you actually hit me up on the phone after you did no Chase, No Chaser, with your coworker at the time, and you know, you were like, I think we should do a pot and I was like, and here I go. From day one. I said, well, he used to be very organized. Um, we should have dinner. But I actually owed Weezia dinner anyways, because she didn't. God just she was gonna fuck. That's how literally we I was like this, I was he lived in New York, you live in New York. Y'all definitely gonna fuck. And

how long did you give me? I think two months or something like that, because I just knew she was gonna fuck him. And she never sucked him again, but I just knew it. So I was like, fun to be honest with you. Um, I didn't want to because like since the last time I talked to him now he was married. But I feel like, really what really kept me was that Bet well damn. Maybe I would have did it, but I can't lose. But she didn't want to lose. So we went to dinner then to

discuss what the show would look like. And it's crazy because if I'm not mistaken either, I think I ended up staying with Wheezy the following weekend. Um, but I had a condom stuck in my pussy. So here we are hanging out. We parted. I said, this condom stilltly come out my pussy. So we're hanging out. She's like, well, I know a guy now on fifty ninth or whatever. Let's go. Let's let's let's go get our vagina's checked together. And the woman did pull up condom that was there.

Two days later, she was like, this is great, this is our first episode, and we literally booked. Then I think she was packing or something. I can't remember, but I went back to that place it's the Walking Guy on fifty seven and seventh maybe, and I saw her and I said, oh my goll right, you know I have a podcast now. And my cost actually came in here with the condom side of she dud. It took

her no time. She's like, yes, I mean a lot of people come in here at that, but I do remember you guys, because we were talking to each other through I'm in the I'm in the fucking lobby and I hear wheezy, yeah, my friend is out there because she has a column second her person and I'm like, wheezy, really, She's like sorry, um, And then so yeah, we both just got tested and and I got the condom removed, and that is what we were like, this is this is great? Are you cool with talking about this on

the pod? And you know, there were so many things in the beginning that we weren't cool with, and um, a lot of you guys asked the first names is her names and things like that, and the reason maybe we don't even we hadn't said them for songs. Bas when we start this show. If you've never heard about it, we were corporate women and it was supposed to be

from this perspective of corporate women. But I still like about what happened with Horrible Decisions is that now it's just businesswomen talking about sex apport post to like corporate America and that whole thing. But that was our our life, man. So we had heard two black women in corporate uh that I mean, I wouldn't even stay on the weekend hold because I was going into work with my clothes

from the night before. And we literally just shared that because even the idea at the time that these this kinky, fun living, free spirited woman was only a sex worker or a prostitute or on only fans or a cam girl was just not true. Like I was an accountant. You were at your job, um as a sales manager

or tech manager. I don't even know what then your title was, but you dealt with a lot of businesses, and we were just like, damn, we're holding these prestigious almost jobs and here we are just suckond dick, like what's up? And we were a second we were and you know, like, um, yeah, I don't know. I recently did a consultation for somebody and they were like, we want to talk about how we're you know, working girls and talk from the work perspective. And I was like, dude,

that it is boring. I'm sorry, is it you think? So? Yeah, Like when we leave work, like feel like yeah, but I feel like when we leave work, the idea of work we don't want to talk about. I think people loved when we talked about our jobs and we did it for five minutes and got right into sucking dick. I mean, I think people like come complaining about work though that's fun, Like misery loves company in that sense. I love talking about a job. Like you know, I recently said when I was in l A, I was

out with this guy and trying to figure out. Like he was like, what is so shitty about l A to you? Like why do you feel like people in New York are so pessimistic? And I was like, honestly, I think l A no shape to anyone who lives in l A. I get I'll be upset. We have a lot of listeners there, and we'll be back. Maybe I shut up, but I won't. I think people in New York bond off of ship. They can't stand. Think about the conversations you have with people in New York

randomly that you don't know. You're on the train, something happens and you're like, look at these motherfucker's Like it's just like that ship is dope. And I'm not gonna lie.

It sounds like I like to be angry, but I do like talking ship, and I love that about New Yorkers, like the bonding over ship, talking, the bonding over things that can roll you up, including the smell, including the crowded subway included bullshit, people singing and you and Norton they singing on the train and you look at somebody like the funk that should be let and I want

to make sure that we Uh. Yeah, we we think about those moments because with horrible decisions, there's so much bonding from our horre hive together because you'll be talking. We talked to it about these eggs, and even though y'all listen that, I'm just saying, so, what's our first question? Edding? Okay, so we're gonna start off strong. We're starting off strong. Why we can't start off on first base thinking bad? Okay, let's would you like names being read out as well?

Let's read the first name, because if it's first and last, it's probably from Patreon. I did Patreon first, so kill me later. Stoci or s question, do you guys find value in developing a better relationship with each other? Any steps you both acknowledge that are needed to foster more loving sisterly relationship? You would have pick this god damn question. It was actually like the last one. I was like, you know what, I'm gonna be honest with y'all just because I don't even know if you want so I

know what you're about to say now. Yeah, we actually just had two sessions of therapy off camera. Um, but there has been uh a way in which we've been trying to find a way to respect each other. Uh, not only on a personal level, which I have the problem with because I do. Again, just think of this as a job. Now, this is a job. And you know and I used this h I even use this analogy in our therapy session, and I know you hated it.

But like, I have this idea that when you work with someone, when you have the same goal of mine, you have to get it done whether you like the person or not. And I agreed with you on that. But the only reason I thought it was different is because because Mandy said to our therapist and she was not gonna let me finish because we is gonna talk

about how you just be cutting me off. But the analogy, you see what I mean, There is a question that but the analogy was and and again this comes right off of talking about corporate So you actually did a great segue there. Uh, when I was in corporate America. There's always people that you're gonna work with that you may not like, you know what I mean. So just because we work together, doesn't mean we have to eat lunch together in the cafeteria, doesn't mean we have to

take our smoke breaks together. Doesn't mean I have to join you for a happy hour after work, But yes, does it make sense for me to come in and be like, Hey, how was your weekend? I really don't give a funk about or weekend. But because we have to work together, I'm always going to try to have some sort of of a civil relationship professional relationship with someone. And I guess it's hard and there are blurred lines

here because we're talking about our very intimate lives. That's what I was saying in Mandy like because I agree with that, Like I could go in my last job and be like whatever you like. I just got to get the job done. But the problem with horrible decisions when we aren't getting along is that we actually genuinely have to be interested in those conversations. And no, I don't think we need to be friends. A lot of you say, why don't you guys want to be like,

how come you can't be friends or whatever. I don't think we need to be friendly buddy buddy to do this job. But I think we do need to have a better personal relationship and be on a more level like um playing field of like uh, like a mutual respect instead of anger in order for the vibes to be good because y'all known we have an episode and it's weird. Oh and if y'all on Patreon, no, when the Titchien is hot, they just know is really the only place right now where they're like, is y'all not

getting the lone lit they call girls are fighting? Um? But yeah, and that's important that content. It was because we had a little Twitter argument, and you know, I think that the therapy one thing I learned is that like, we really talked to each other like ship, and it's because we are like so brash and something that happened to us a few days ago is realizing, like we've known each other fifteen years. That's crazy, and well, I guess a lot of people did too, want to know

how the fund? How don't y'all like each other and y'all even be around each other? How did that mean? How did how did this start? And you have to be very fair, y'all we knew each other fifteen years ago. Uh we met um I think in person for the first time fighting ironically, that's crazy. Well, one of the questions about that is the guy, so we'll get into that. But but no, I think we've outgrown a lot of what we were as friends, like and it's different. We've

changed a lot, you know, I've changed a lot. You've grown in different ways, Like our interests are different. So like the friendship necessarily no, And I honestly don't think if we were friends today we would do the same things. Like so it maybe a bar hopping or like some random sharper because you'd be at the white bars, Mandy, I like black shit. I go to lab to black lab does not count as black. That is mixing it okay, but like no, like when I hit up my friends,

not really, I'm gonna tell y'all what happened. We did try to hang out at one time, right, and this is when I was poor, bro. She was taking me to ship with drinks and trying to barrow which I haven't finished my fucking cocktail. Slow down. I'm paying a drink to be around niggas that don't want me. Also leaving to go sleep with Wheezy after spending hundreds of I do like do like a bogie play bie and

Nick is not buying. My moments are over but not like they're like that should have be doing on the weekends, Like I love a good art gallery. I love like doing a workout or like the going to the strand with my friend. And I feel like many like this sounds awful. I love little art gallery, Dame. I go on seesaw it's this art app and you basically bounce around a different ship like and you know, I just feel like many like what are we doing? But no, like I think that's a great question. What are we

doing to work on the relationship? And that was it, and I think, yeah, we are in therapy, damn something. But I think one of the best things is that, yeah, we now understand that, and that also knowing like the therapist that something I thought was funny. Mandy was like, I don't need to do this. I don't need to do that. I'm just up front and he goes, okay, Mandy, Well, with FBI agents when they're trying to negotiate with terrorists, they too can show empathy. Do you think you could

do the outs pits? I was like, they call me a terrorist, you definitely. But anyway, that's what we're doing to work on our ship. And honestly, I think just acknowledging because I said to Mandy, like yo, like I'm going through too much it and you're going through too much it. And we've known each other too long to be each other's and we should this show should be relaxing and fun, and so we are trying. So there, y'all. We know y'all have argued before, but has it ever

gotten serious? I'm just gonna tell you. Most of these questions are like, do y' all hate each other? How do y'all handle other? Yeah? So this one, I like though just a second even more into a real quick But we know y'all, y'all have argued before, has ever gone serious like a high consideration of quitting or stopping

the show? One percent? Mandy said, we need to know how to do a dissolution of the basins because when we was like, yeah, and I'll be very honest with you, uh and the audience and my peace of mind recently, which the reason for this episode, guys, is just because we both had to have talks uh through ourselves. I mean,

because we don't talk on a friendly level. There are a lot of things that Weezy and I have been both dealing with on a personal level that neither of us knew about each other, and so what happened was the projection of maybe just not wanting to deal with any stress with this show because of everything else. I didn't know what she was going through. She didn't know what I was going through. Um, And so our disconnect probably came from literally not having that empathy or compassion

knowing what we both were really going through. Um. And yeah, just with everything that I've been dealing with this year. Uh, not only with horrible decisions, but with my two other shows and starting a business and just being so I don't know, I don't know where I'm at right now mentally as an entrepreneur, as as a lot of things. Um. I literally, yeah, Weezy came in me real hard, and I see Seed our lawyer, and was like, well, listen,

maybe we should discuss what a dissolutions. Yeah. She literally was like, you could had a conversation because I ain't paying for this, And I was like no, because at this point, so what is buying you out look like? And I was just so frustrated. I felt the same bit you could go, bitch, I will buy your ass that, but you can't buy you know, I could buy you beat a gonna be Devil's advocate, how much would it

be to buy you out? Oh? You know, I actually wondered, because we don't really have a we didn't talk about about discuss that, and I wondered what that would be like. And I was like, what would I do? And honestly, um, I you don't set your price. It's based on the I don't know based on what. It's based on what. That's the real part. There's equity and you you know what.

She also it doesn't count because even when she used to talk about how much money would take for her to shoot on somebody, she'd be throwing these real ridiculous numbers out, like a million dollars. Bitch, you will shoot on somebody for a thousand? Stop lying she comes on the show and talking about a million dollars. I don't I do very decent. I may say saying that, which I go down about what you mean, my my numbers

be realistic that I'll be talking about. I just feel like it would be hard because it's just the time in the years, and so honestly, I didn't know what Like, I didn't know what buy out things were, but I also knew and realized, like it's just like the show is so valuable as Mandy and I it's not even funny, Like you know when I watch other shows like and sometimes the friendliness is cute. I'm like, it's just we're so like Yin and Yang that it's almost become the

brand of us. But outside of the brand of us. I'll be very honest. When me and Wheezy do get into like our our spats, we always come to say, this show is bigger than us now, like from the from the live shows to the emails that we get to the d m s on how many lives we've changed, and how many relationships we've mended, and how how much

confidence we've instilled in other women. We literally be like, bro, it's it ain't about us, Like what was edding or Alex knows Alex that did an episode where we were screaming at each other and they had to stop. It might have been edding too, But I remember Alex, I was about to say, he always talks about this with me when it comes to Mandy. If I've ever gotten an argument with Mandy and talked to him about it, He's like, I have never seen two people talk to

each other like that and click. But I think the only reason we click is because we understand what we're doing it for. And I really had to look outside of myself, and Therapy did that a little bit to me too. I was like, what we do is just so big and people may feel like it's small. That's fine, but like to go on the road. I don't know how many cities we've done and see that how you

watch people? It's over with Vinnie. I think we argued one the show when Vinnie was our assistant at the time, and he was like, girl, look at all these fucking people outside, like what the fund is wrong with you? And it's true, like how can I let this moment of a disagreement because we're so bullish, Like really it's stupid.

But also for the podcast is listening, Uh, this really becomes so much more than just showing up and talking on a micro And I don't think that people understand the business of podcasting, especially when money is involved, especially when there's teams involved, like we have an agent, we're part of a network now. Like even even Charlemagne was here earlier and was just like like what y'all do like cannot be replicated. It's so hard for this just

to happen. And I think a lot of times with podcasts, you know, you have an idea and you want your friends to join in, or you you know someone that would be a good fit, and there is there's so much more to podcasting than just showing up and talking and um yeah, so to all the podcasters that just think it's just showing up, uh yeah, it's not. And also, I would never suggest you, guys to start a business

with your best friends. That's something that's often asked. Don't do it if you want to be a great podcast and and you have faith in it. If you do it with your best friend, just know you're gonna lose your best friend. And speaking Charlemagne, yeah, when the Twitter thing happened, here you call. He's like, hey, I just wanted to check on you. Everything all right? I was like, whatever we are and he was like, well, I'm wanna tell you right now, y'all better get it together because

horrible decisions is big. The one y'all leave, it doesn't matter because it's not the same show. And y'all could just keep thinking whatever, I could do this, and he was like, you can't. It's this horrible decisions as Mandy and Wheezy is your ship? Like, get it together and it's true. Alright, tell us about the dude he both dated that made you, guys friend of me. Do you remember his last name from Hell? Yeah? That is his last Let me look him up. Let me look him up.

Oh my god. So guys, here's what happened, right. I started dating a guy, uh, we'll call him Jay. I started dating him and Wheezy was his ex and I guess Wheezy was not over him, but he had moved on to me. Mandy. Bro We went to Disney World together on Christmas. Bro Christmas, Yeah, so you was okay? You were probably still the side chick I'm looking at. Maybe you was giving him pussy. I wasn't. I never had sex with me neither. That is the crazy thing.

We also fought over nigga that we never had sex with, but by him. On Christmas ed Disney with the friend and met the family. Mandy. I think he lives in Brooklyn now, No fucking way, he does not live here. The only person with his first and last name went to school in Orlando, from work in Orlando. He was from New York. Yeah, he was in New York. Nigga whinny, he's bad. We got when we do a live show, my mama, My god, I bet you he's not that cute no more. I bet you he's Oh can you

see a picture of him? No, it's just well, that's probably why he wanted me because I could bring his hair and you probably couldn't. I couldn't. I know you couldn't. But anyways, we literally just started this, uh just battle because she was still claiming to be in the picture. But this was my boyfriend. Uh. I wasn't claiming, but she was claiming um. And so again, this was back in two thousand. Talk about more the guy, more than the whole story. What was he like, how he worked

at it? He worked at a VET when I was dating him. His sister was a veteran and he was like an assistant at the vet. I mean, he had a car. He was an older guy. I probably shouldn't have been with him, now that I think about it. I was in high school too, though, No I was a freshman. He had graduated high school by the time I was a freshman. He was out of he was out of high school. He was like eighteen, but graduated high school. I was fourteen fifteen. Okay, I met him

when he was in high school. Yeah, you did, because you dated him like a year before I did. Yeah. By the time I dated him, he was he. I didn't steal him. He was single when I when I met him. Dude, Honestly, I'm trying to remember as much

as I can. It didn't seem like Mandy and himmer to get when we would speak, because he was just like, oh, I just met this because nigga's lie, niggas lie and no. But we did find ou out and we finally became friends because Mandy and I got on the phone and was talking about the city, was saying and it was like now because we became friends way later. Yes, because we bonded talking about what the funk Jay did. Okay, anyway, anyway, fun him not So that is how Yeah, that's what happened.

What's next? What other questions? Okay, Uh, I've never said yaw in my life. I'm gonna be honest with you. Has a guy or girl ever seen y'all in person a lot about not knowing who y'all were and tried to get with I'm gonna just say why a w He's saying, so I went on a riot date where a guy didn't tell me he knew who I was till the end of the day, and I didn't like that. And I think he listens to He might be listening to this episode. He said, he's listened to every episode.

So What's Crazy is one of my like partners that I talked about often on the show, and he listens to this episode, he listens to the podcast. He Uh, when you guys knew I had a guy in my life that like put me on payroll? I think it's how I described him on the show. Uh, he didn't tell me until maybe three years into us, like really fucking with each other? You knew he listened? No, but no, he didn't know me from the podcast. Oh he knew me from Twitter days and my blogging and so it's

crazy on the first day. So that's exactly probably how So my very first job here when I moved to New York, I helped open the Applebeees across from the Barclays. I was a bartender there and this guy, yeah still there. This guy came in and he was so strategic and he told me all this night was like, are you fucking kidding me. He sat at my bar, he ordered, uh he had. I don't know wings and stuff. Didn't really talk to him at all, but I knew he asked to put the Orlando Magic on TV. I was like,

of course, I'm fucking from Orlando. I'm in New York. You're a Magic fan? Oh my god. He's like, yeah, yeah, you know, I used to live in central Florida. And I was like, okay, cool um. And then when he went to leave, his bill was forty dollars. He left me a forty dollar tips. So of course we exchanged numbers and then literally he told me three years later, like I knew exactly who you were where you work because you tweeted about it. I came in. I knew

you were a Magic fan. Why we knew where you work because you tweeted, of course, But back then I didn't like he knew I was at Applebe's, like nig I used to tell fans pull up wherever I barted, like pull up, like I used to tell people, Hey, it's my ship tonight, like they used to always come to the clubs, he said, But he didn't tell me that it was strategic his tip that he left me him asking for the magic game. You're probably talking. I didn't.

I didn't know until like years later after he became my sugar daddy. What did I really called him my partner? Uh? That he knew exactly who I was the whole time. I think if you were to have said it at that moment, it would have been okay. But so far after that, like three years later after like we had not you paying my bill because when you're making it too,

like three like how could you not? Yeah, he had to tell me like, oh I knew you when I pulled up the Applebee the last time you've heard from him.

We still talk that, we still talk so much, so to where he you know, I went to Miami and he knew I was going to Miami to host, so he was gonna pull up on me and he was like so he was like so next week and still the thing, I said, uh, if you want to grab a drink with me and my boyfriend and he was like, sent the little Asterix and was like, uh, refunds night at Fountain Blue Refunds. Like he canceled his reservation because he's just like, I don't know all of us liked

so we're not friends. No, we're not. That was from someone shout out to Mahogany. I did a day where we fed people at a mission in Mahogany is one of our patrons and I met her there. Um. I think this is a really dope question. Actually, did your first round of ads come from people that support you already in goals not monetery or did you go into places and pitched so our first ads? And this was No. I really liked this question because Mandy and I our

goal was we're investing this much into the show. We need to recoup this money, so how can we make sure we're not paying for each episode? Right? Whatever it was at the time, what was it? A Hunter Bucks the two? No, No, we when we started doing video about hundreds in episode. But you, by the way, can come and shoot a w TF media for a hundred

dollars with four K video. And I did that on purpose because I know you know what I mean, I know what it's like to want to start off and do ship and where now we've got the four angles, you guys are watching us with the clips and does I felt like for an episode with video a hundred dollars is fair, and I wanted people to be able to pay that to you know what I'm saying. So, like when we started, we wanted to make sure we can recoup that with video because it was so expensive.

So we were selling ads to people in music, so we gotta find them, ship to find it. If you guys go to like the earlier episodes, you'll be like, and this episode was brought to you by this artist and this new single. We played it at the end and sometimes in the beginning of episodes. P Mona was one of the first people who paid us to come on as a guest. Almost never charged anyone before, but he and not he offered us the money and we were like, we start doing this. Was he I can't remember.

He was problematic as fuck, talked about how he was just out here fucking everybody with no condom, everything about when he asked our mom's about to come. I don't remember. That was at the live show. Oh yeah, well anyway, so that's what happened, all right. This next one is from it. No, no, that would be already got that one. This one's good. I just don't want to show it on screen because then you'll know what it is. Why haven't you fixed your teeth? Or if you will, why

or why not? That's Julio. Yeah, that's just say her name. You know it's crazy. I actually just brought this up. This is my other podcast. Uh so I've paid the money, I have the INVISALIGNE been putting it in and no, the way my mouth hurts. What did I tell you? The way that I like sucking dick? I tell you, I literally like it tore up my mouth so much it made it. I was just like, I'm you know what if J Cole can still be J Cole and wrap wrapped about his second smile and it doesn't honestly,

guess what. Guess what? Guess what? This doesn't keep me for making money because I got my name and I like for for I don't even think she was coming at you. This was in my I listed it. I really think this is yours, just for both of you, both of them, they talked about both of our both of them talk about But it's funny because I had in visilne and it was so painful I had to stop. And then when Mandy got hers, I was like, ain't gonna hold you. Let me tell you. Let me tell you.

I paid for it. It was only supposed to be four months. I got a call last months like hey, it's time for your retainers. Uh, and I said, mind you it is sixteen trays. I was like, bitch, I'm on four, Like you gotta give me some time. And now they started texting me like time to change your your tray, bitch, I'm supposed to be on nine. I'm on six. I'm still next six. That's actually really good. I what are ways that was with? I think my insurance for Visili what a waste. This one's a really

good question too. Who comes up with topics and guests? I love this question, Mandy and I. If you ever we can go to the next question, and if you ever listened to an episode and someone starts it and starts leading it, that's who made the episode now because I still always started no no, no no, I mean like, who's like introducing um oh the guests that that will be your guest on? Basically who did it? But Mandy and I we plent it pretty That is That is

the thing too. I know that a lot of other podcasts when they start, they ask if they need a producer and cameraman and studio and engineer, and we still are very much. We have ed in here with us, but we're still just us. We answer our own emails. Anything regarding ads does have to go through my heart now, but we we get get them, We get our guests, we approve our ads, we make all of our outlines. Um. And just to also, my my friend asked and I

shared this on Patreon. In two days, we recorded six episodes and my friend was even just like, who comes up with that content? And I said we and I so even down to the research, uh, the segments, the everything, everything literally comes from Weezy and I. We have no one helping us. We have no assistant steel. That's what's good about Please don't hit this up for it. Don't

hit u up for some assistant ship. I know. And it's funny because sometimes I'd be like it naturally seems like it would be vinny, but also like this kind of stuff isn't so bad. I think that's what really connects us to our show and our audience is that we make it. UM. I love this question. Which one is the diva out of the group. You're definitely diva? Are you serious? I'm the diva over the years you

cannot play. And because he and I are working together in this stud video, now that's different because he sees happy. Who is the Diva? You're in person, Diva, you're texting Diva. Oh you guys can't see at one point that Mandy is texting Diva. You're in person, texting a corporate texting. You're in corporate. I am, matter of factly, if a matter of fact, if I can't email, if I can't text, you,

do you want to be in our email? Threats? Because those she even hates even more, I highlight eye bold things. She fucking hates emails. She's no, I feel like you're yelling at me or giving me direction, and I'm not gonna listen to you. I don't say that anymore, not anymore. But like because it's I realized, I don't know. That sounded like texting diva to me right now? Diva, No, I am, I'm very, I'm very business like. I'm very. I mean yes that too. But he want to say

you a bit diva? Not and you bro, you for sure are What does that mean? I'm trying to we want the definition of diva? What is the diva? I guess what what are we thinking? This, says Beyonce when it come up, then I'm gonna taking uh what a self important person who's temperamental and difficult to please. Let me tell you, I wash yours on braid in my hair right now because it's gonna be the clip bitches. You and Nick's gonna vote. No, we don't need Nigga's

the vote. They don't know what the fun go on in here because they didn't even know who came up with the outline. Bitch, they don't know they get something with the let's put a pole. No, we are doing this one because, bitch, it is you difficult to please. You could walk into the Ritz Carlton into a brand new like why are the curtains closed? That? I literally said, I get off and I'm pleased by pleasing others. I sucked, dick because I get enjoyment out of pleasing other We

get hard to please. I get pleasure by pleasing others. That doesn't sound like difficult to work with all they said, diva being now that you said, its next question from Danny tell us the truth? What did y'all really think of the City Girls? Because that episode was whack? What did you think of it? Um? So that was actually in my UM round up for as just one of the episodes that I thought should have made the list.

I think that, Uh, if any of you guys came to our tour shows we walked out to City girls, Uh were they who we thought they were in their songs or even their tweets? Now? Uh, the tweets weren't like that when we inter them. No, they were not UM And I think I talked about this on Patreon. I want to be very fair with you guys too. Weezie and I recorded this morning. I cried, do you think we wanted to be in the studio and keep

it like? We've been going through so many things personally, to be fair, Young Miami had just lost one of her baby fathers a couple of weeks maybe even before. This was also their first run together since j T had been out of jail, and we were also their first in person interview with COVID. They did all of those other interviews for that for that album that dropped virtually, and me and Weezy flew down to Atlanta for the next Wary It wasn't it like forty five minutes before

they didn't want to forty five minutes before. They were like, and I said, listen, we'll do it for thirty minutes. But to be very fair, yeah, there was a lot of different variables involved with that, um, and but they did a good breakfast interview. They did. But also this was a lot of celebrities now are now coming for the very first time on the podcast. And I knew people that worked for Capital Music Group and and QC, and they were like, Yo, we're adding podcasts into the mix.

I love horrible. Can we bring them on? And uh, shout out to Brittany, shout out to to everyone over there at QC. It was I think they just weren't ready for everything that Wheezy and I sat down like suck bitch, And I really don't think that they're used to an interviews being that way. Uh So, I don't know your thoughts because I know you hated it. We had we talked about it. You hated it, And I get why I did it, because I think it made us seem so abrasive and I don't think they were.

We treated them different. Um, that's really why I hated it, because I realized what it made us look like. And I think it made us look unprofessional that we couldn't match the energy of our guests, Like people were saying like they're too hyped to be here, and I'm like, have you seen have you seen the show? But and yeah, maybe also that, And then I wondered too, like should I be matching someone's energy? But then also like no,

we never. The best part of that show was when we were sitting on the couch alone laughing about a question we had. And I do think a lot of it did have to do with maybe her baby father passing. But j T, I don't think it was bad. I liked j T. I feel like I would hang out with j T. I would. I like j T was actually so I do think too. You have to understand if me and Wheezy are in the room and I can sense Wheezy down, I'm gonna feel uncomfortable or feel

like I gotta pick stuff up. So and mind you, j j T hadn't done a press run yet because she was locked up like they saw stardom while j T was away, and she's obviously the start of that group. I don't care what anybody says, and I mean, I love them both because I don't like that people do that with us. I'm not gonna pin them against each other. I think they're both great and they bring just different things to their duo. I think a musical group is

different than pinning them. Oh hell, now we outcast, bitch, we are. We are duo, and people gonna pin us together against each other the same way they do artists. Like, it's just a thing, you know. So I ain't gonna do that because we uplift black queens. Okay, we don't tear them apart? Right? Can you guys stop talking now? If I'm talking over something, you can think? So maybe I don't know about you question, I think, can they

I didn't help? What are you thinking? Like? Honestly, I sometimes I think we're doing better, but then I realized no, And then honestly, it's one or the other that does it more. Each episode, Yeah, episode Mandy doing it worse. One episode is do you guys just get so into the topic that it's so hard for you not to release that thought and then try to move on. But it's so funny to see guests social cues when they're like, I guess I'm gonna just have to wait here. Okay,

so maybe it was me with Olivia Troy. Yeah, absolutely absolutely, Okay, Wow, well, yeah you was seen that last week. You said, what you guess which guests was you in the last few that were recorded? None? Because that did great? Beat Which one was it? I'm cutting off wey in the solo episode right now? See No, okay, I barely talked that episode, So that's bullshit. And the times you talked, you talked over him. I promise you, I don't know what he was. Okay, Hey,

we heard he was all spoken. Maybe I don't know how to be in a room with all spoken people. So somebody say, like, what if we gave them headphones? And I feel like it'd be worse if they we gave you all headphones to talk over? Well, and what's crazy? We don't. I think we don't do it now. But I used to wear headphones just to make sure everyone's levels. Uh, we're a certain you know, me being fucking corporate and wanting to be in control all the time. Um, but

you know, we talked about it a lot. You guys may listen. Although we have a structured podcast, we talked about how much this is really to see that because Mandy goes. We had interviews in our vial. Then we don't do interviews. They're off because we don't think we're interviewing the movie if it's a conversationsation. And that's the thing. When you guys listen to us, even when we bring people on, we bring them in, say the word interview.

Sometimes you a bitch. I ain't saying we interview with nobody. We're talking with such as such today you feel me um bad? Real quick couple questions, Why do y'all give so much cloud to cigarette? Oh we could skip that. I'll tell you about what that question was later. That was just a messy question. And keep the mess out, I mean keep them out. How do you guys handle people, and this is from g V thirty one, how do you guys handle people saying that they might enjoy other

podcasts more than horrible decisions? They said your solo podcasts? I think, how do you guys handle people saying they might enjoy your other podcasts more than? I really liked this question, um, and I think the reason it's such a good question is because we have to learn how to take it as it's not an insult um. For one, we have a show that is very flagrant about sex. We talk in detail about our personal lives. We are

loud on this show. It is not like our other shows because of the fact that we are all over and we have a dynamic on this so no, I know, Horrible Decisions isn't for everybody. I have people come up to me industry and say they like what I'm doing and aren't listeners of the show because it's just not for them. I've had people say, oh, I don't really dada, but you know, good for y'all. I understand that sex

isn't for everybody. So if you want to listen to for facts sake because you find it to be easier listening, that's a very easy listening podcast. Or if you like see the thing is because you want to hear about culture and what's going on and what's up to date. We talked about music and then even that's a different things periods is And it's crazy because someone came to me and was like, oh my god, I actually guys just talk about sex on all of her shows and

we're talking about boots. These comments on Lorie Harvey and her body count Like I don't it's it's in pop culture as well. And yes I have a I have a way of talking about sex where I'm just very very fucking comfortable and I know that that makes other people uncomfortable. And then even periods is that is I don't even know how many men even listen to it. That has everything to do with feminine hygiene and health.

So it's more of women sharing their stories. That is an interview format, and it's also digestible and like our us as personalities, that which will may be a good thing to wrap that up so it doesn't have to come up again, but on for facts sake, even when we do. We did a chicken recently. I have a joke where I will try to make every fact about sex. So I wanted to figure out how chickens fucked. We talked about chicken. Why black people like chicken? Where did

that stigma come from? We talked about chickens memories like random facts. But like I always make the joke domb and to do the sex fact, that is our personality. It is it's us like literally, I can be at a restaurant with you and if my food is spicy across the table, I'm gonna be like no anal sex for me tonight, like like that is literally who we are. That's why you all like horrible decisions right like and so I think that you enjoying our other podacts. I

feel no way about that. You don't either. Yeah, I think that's a fine question. Uh, Mandy, how does your family mom feel about your public disdain for white people? You speak so harshly about them on the pond. This is from an apologetically you know what's crazy? I do want to I really like this because I thought it was a good question too. Last year, there was a huge disconnect with my sisters and my mom because Black

lives matter. She wanted to go and protest because of course my mom is an ally like she has three black daughters, and like I remember my sister saying, no, don't go down there, that's not for you, and also me coming at her, telling her, I can't talk to you about my hair woes incorporate and there's so much about the black experience that she'll never understand. Uh, I'll be very honest with you guys and sharing a little bit about my mom. My mom hates white people too,

with her white ass. Uh, she actually uh you know, grew up very troubled, and when she left home at at like fifteen, it was a black family that took her in. And so the way she she views, uh, just black people and white people and she knows that their trash and just the camaraderie, man, I'm sorry, the camaraderie that she has had and people who have truly looked out for her, because that's kind of innate into black people, like we're caring, We're we literally you know, want,

we're nurturing. And so for her to have that experience early on, she doesn't have much good things to say about them either. And also to open up with you guys, that side of my family outside of her mom and her mom's mom, I know none of my cousins, uncle's aunts because we're black. So I don't have that experience or that closeness with the white side of my family at all. So yeah, she she laughs at it, uh,

and she learns. She she opens her ears to learning, and that's that, Like she supports everything that this show means, and she supports me. So yeah, there's that cracks. Sorry sorry, sorry, Uh do we have time for anymore or anyone more? Yeah, because I can I can. Um, I feel like I feel like this one was already kind of did you already there's another Mandy one? Mandy? Would you like another one? Mandy? Why do you know you don't even give it? Is

there another ship? How do you guys say, Mandy, would you like? Actually? Do it? Argued? Um this taste for white people? Both guys, y'all dated. Uh, how do you guys manage being business partners but not considering each other friends? And we kind of talking about Yeah, let you see, that's what I'm saying. That's a good amount of I like that you want to do this one. How do you guys handle conflict between between each other or when it comes to choosing let's talk about that regard to

choosing guests. So it's interesting because I think for the most part, guests are really uh an issue for us at all, Like we both um kind of let the other one and maybe because we split up our episodes kind of, So Mandy and I record about two episodes um in a session because our shows are only an hour, so we'll do an hour for one episode an hour for the other. Just makes more sense timely wise, bringing everybody in, setting up everything and bringing in you know,

our bed in. So I think I like this one because the only thing I feel conflict with is not making sure we have too much of the same type of guests too quickly. For example, Um, if we have like a dom on back to back or someone that works in d s M. I think Mandy had brought in Dallas Playhouse and die a Dare And she mentioned D s M with both of them, and I'm like, okay, well why would we have both of them? And She's like, all right. One person is a rope muse and does

electro play. The other one has this that's probably the only different like even and and And that's the thing too. Under this umbrella of sex, there is just so much things untapped. But also there's experiences that Weezy and I don't have. So to be fair, everybody people are different. Yeah, but we can bring in ten people in b D s M, and we're talking about B D s M ten weeks in a row. A lot of their experiences

are not going to be the same. A lot of their their takes on certain things are going to be the same. What they're into isn't necessarily going to be the same. Um, you know as far as yeah, I wouldn't say that there really is ever really any conflict with guests. I would say conflict comes with after the episode. Um, as far as if maybe we thought they would be a better guest than they were, or um, you know we have to tiptoe on maybe was the conversation good again?

We we mentioned we started putting trigger warnings in front of things. I've been attacked recently for how an episode went. Uh, so I think we really talked about the response of the episode and did we really do a good job in the conversation or the outline? Um? And so yeah, uh yeah, I don't think there's really much conflict though with with guests. I think for any for our show, it's very easy. I don't know what you guys, to go in through. It for our show is very easy

because sex industry we like it. Um next weekend. Somehow we're connected to a whole bunch of people in it. I'll be honest. Who early on was like, how do y'all find all these guests? Bro? They fall in your lap now? But not only that, try joined me and my nigga at the sex at the at the Nude Beach. Um Tiana. You know we talked about how we met. I yeah, but we're really in this community. People are in this space. People want to come on this. Like when people meet us see us, they're like, they tell

you what they can bring up next week. You guys are gonna hear from someone who's visually impaired that I met because he came in the studio to check it out. And like, the first thing I thought when I knew he couldn't see it was like, what's pussy like for you? And he sat with us, and I thought he got very vulnerable. Um in order to talk about I mean right, like I don't talk about well, damn really, I didn't say nothing. I say nothing. It's the facial cues, are

you know what? And that's the one thing I'd be like, we us on YouTube, the YouTube we catch my face. Yeah, it's just keeping on hurt. It lost my vision to talk about watching porn, having sexual experiences, going as far as to talk about dating people, going on my phone

while blind, Like, I don't. I think that's going to be one of the most interesting episodes we've ever had, because that's a world we're introduced to that's never been explored we've done disabilities very lightly touched on disabilities on the show. We could have done. I would like to do more disabilities. So, like, I think that was a

very necessary conversation. And um, that's the thing though, like there's so many people we haven't covered, like just it's just so much to touch on, and um, it's and it's like never ending, and I'm just glad that basically everybody can come on talk about second Dick. So yeah, I love it. Thank you guys for supporting us. We

know there was a bunch of questions. We're actually going to continue the conversation with more of the questions that you asked on our Patreon this week, so you guys can check these out at the same time you're listening to this episode, our questions episode will be there as well. After Oh yeah, well you just got a whole schedule that I am not aware of. She talking about next week, you're gonna here it is. Y'all also gonna hear this on Patreon And this is the diva I'm talking about.

How are you just sitting here telling them what's gonna happen and you ain't even talk to me first? The same way with these birds we're talking about. We did not talk. We said we'll released the questions on the day. She talked about this on her Instagram Live Mandy she didn't even hear about it. I said, what do you think we could just keep continuing? This is literally, I goes she talked about it with Live. I don't know the schedule. She's sitting here. This is what we're gonna do.

We have told because maybe you get in my head honestly, hold on. Maybe it was in my head that was hold on. I really feel like I texted it to Mandy. Dude, there's so many questions. We can do a Patreon part two with this. Yeah, but you didn't tell me the schedule when we drop in. None of that cool part two.

But you're sitting here. Look you see what I'm seeing it out because this is a raw, real But this is also why I'm a text even because I do believe everything needs to be first in writing because and you know I'm petty. You'll be like I didn't see that. I'll go up and fucking react exactly where the fun I do do that? See that that's a diva. That's something because because if you if you or or Wheezy

be like you didn't say that. Oh bitch, I'm gonna scroll up because you'll gonna see where the fukut Mandy said something to me other day. I told you at the last point when I said Mandy, and then she wrote me back two minutes later. I know she must have went to did go up? I didn't say that. Fine. Uh, But guys, if you might be next week, n I don't know. She don't know nothing, so don't listen to

any of the schedule. And she just said. Uh. But if you guys want to hear the other UM Patreon episode with questions, go on over to patreon dot com back Slash Horrible Decisions and you guys can hear more. They're also we did talk about our other pods, so if you want to listen to our other pods, I'll give this feel of mine uh and I will pass the mic over to to Weezy to tell hers. But I do have two other podcasts, one being period Sist.

It is brought to you by the Official Box Owner, which is my company UM that focuses on uh, feminine health and the importance of that before going into the bedroom. So we talked about periods. We talked about fibroids. Uh. Shout out to Melissa Felix, shout out to the hore Hive who donated to her she had premature ovarian failure.

We talked about clots. We talked about literally everything that women have to go through in terms of their box, their reproductive system, and just a lot of the things that we deal with as women before going into the bedroom with our partners. Also, guys, you can now possibly now purchase I have apple cider vinegar gummies. I also have bork assets depositories. Those help with pH They help with a lot of things. UM Official box owner dot com.

Also See the Thing Is UM. I am one half over there, possibly soon one third, but I'm over there talking about all the current events that Weezy and I kind of don't get to talk about because of how we record over here at Horrible Decisions. So we talked about everything that's uh pop culture. We talked about music. We have a Freshly Squeeze segment where we do actually play music. I love talking about music, and we always talk about television and TV and things going on like that.

So check out See the Thing Is and go ahead and tell them about chickens laying eggs and fucking I didn't even we'll be talking about some It's so fun because like the way we could just be picking topics eggs. All right. Um, did you see the clip where Eddie and I did Black Facts and he not Black Facts? But I did see one where you possible No, you you introduced yourself as something. Edie said her braids are tight and her money's rights nuts. But we did recently

Black Facts love and then we did witchcraft. When we did Black Facts, I did black churches as one of the facts and like where it came from? When why do we shout and stuff? And I played this song call Stomp, which I'll should know about frankly, and he's listening to it. He goes, well, Jesus in the house, Jesus wants to drink, and so do you? Oh my god. No. And guys, we've had Eddie on the show Eddie, Eddie Della Seppi is Wheezy's hosts over there on for a

fact sakey listen to that. And we've also had my co host on my other show here on Horrible Decisions, Bridget Kelly. Shout out, Bridget Kelly that's that's right. We have allhead I'm up. We should we should do both of them at the same time. That would be Eddie lives West Coast. He's gonna be coming here to film some episodes in person. Could we should do that? That would be funny. We can you imagine Eddie and Eddie and Bridget Kelly. No, I cannot, I cannot. That would

be really be interesting. He's gonna be like, well, Eddie is Eddie got an eye for everybody? I know I got a girlfriend. But see the facts are we're gonna but no, make sure again, guys, we're gonna play you guys a five minute clip. Go on over to Patreon as Patreon dot com back slash horor Decisions. Also, you guys see me wearing a shirt. If we're not all sold out, go on over now to hor hive dot com and get our merch. We got black s Excellence. Yeah. Ho,

last night I made a horrible decisions. Not our merch. If you're on YouTube, yeah, it's on the table. And this this is part of our top tier patrons gift thing. Okay, it's gift things. So yeah, anyways, guys, thank you guys for listening. To yeah, another episode, And how is I going to tell you that I have a bay when I'm just sucking a nigga at first? Right? But bro, we also like we share and give so much of ourselves. Do you know how how it feels to just kind

of want something of your own? Like my mom is coming up next week, and we was like, let's see if she wants to come on the show, and I said, honestly, I don't want to bring my mom on the show anymore.

I mean, our audience is way bigger than what it used to be, and there's so many parts of myself that I don't feel like I have to myself, and so my relationship right now, my family, I want to hold something sacred because which y'all just feel entitled to every time my pussy ass in mouth get bust wide open, and I do I kind of want to keep some of that stuff to myself, don't Is that okay with you? I honestly totally understand that, And I think I didn't

understand that until like public figure ship came. Um, I want to tell you something too, I thought was really dope. So you know, we don't really have celebrities on horrible decisions. But on my new show, fuses put a great budget into it and really want this to be like a debuting show in this realm. They've never done something like this, and they have some celebrities on this show. And I said to the head of talent, he's here in New York.

He flew down to be here. I said, you know, I really appreciate what you guys are doing because like I know, like nobody knows me. And he's like, I don't know why you keep saying that. He said, because every rep I get on the phone with, he's like, if the rapper doesn't know you, if the celebrity doesn't know you, they're fucking managers. Like I love horrible decisions. Which one is it? He's like, not one hasn't known

horrible decisions. He's like, somebody on the team will tell me about the podcast, they'll offer me to send you close. They can't to talk about it. And he's like, he's like, you are, but you aren't and you have to remember that, like you want are a public figure, he said. If you didn't feel like that a few years ago, I get it. He was like, but this is changing, and

he said even the accessibility. You know, he talked about my safety with um doing this in studio consults, like I let people come in the studio and consult with me instead of on zoom. And I actually removed it

because it's something he said to me. Um, I've been in the studio Mandy literally taking zoom calls or even working on my Fuse show and people like knock on the door and they're like, oh, we just wanted to see the space or whatever, and so like we've totally changed and Alex is like we're putting cameras in there, um Like and the thing is with our doorman at the in the building, like we let them know like sure of course people can come up, and now we've

totally changed that. Now I have to call down and say who's allowed to come up? Like we change the structure because it's true, Like that's happening to Charlemagne. You know what. I'm like gonna hold you even with scheduling. Uh, you know this weekend when you told me it was booked, that's why I said, oh, you have a booking at three to four, Okay, let's do twelve to two. Dude.

It's feeling amazing damn if I can make it to where I don't have to run into someone because I know that your place is getting booked, not only by by peers of ours, but fans. I ain't trying to meet and greet bitch every We were in Gotham and people were like that. People were in there too. Like, But it does feel good to be busy. That's a great feeling. Man. I can't tell you, but now we need to block out. I mean, I know right now I'm busy and you're busy, but like we'll have our

scheduled day and time. But um no, it feels really good to be able to be busy. It's just like, yeah, life is changing and it feels really good. Money need to change? How um Okay, this one I think is good and I know a lot of you guys have questions about this. Can you guys talk about the progression of your relationships. I know Mandy's boo is perfect, but have you had any have you had any doubts um recently the longer year with your partners. I notice Wheezy

has more passive aggressive about obey jokes. I know it's a joke and he's your person, but do you feel a change in your dynamic in the relationship. So I joke about old Bay more because I feel like it's been funner to joke about it because I'm more comfortable in my situation. And for two, I think Mandy is really in love and I feel like I was feeling like that two years ago when I meet Obey, So

I kind of like playing the devil's advocate. Um, but I don't necessarily notice that, Like I don't know, Um, I mean ship. They just left here this morning. He's been so supportive with my show and helping me and fucking we are actually used his apartment for a scene because my building wouldn't approve I use um the location rights, and I was freaking out. They wanted to put me in some random Airbnb and I was like, oh my god, bro, like no, this doesn't match my aesthetic. This is stupid.

Like I was really freaking out, and he was like, take mine, because he owns his crid and he's been really great man, Like I just joke around about him because he ain't ship. What about your perfect I mean that that is the thing. I mean, he's so perfect. Uh, Like he just left this morning as well, and you got to say something wrong about him, so we feel like we're all normal.