EP 203: “I said THEY” feat Rob from IHU

You're dropping your strap? Where is it? It's in the closet. It's in the closet. I am retiring the strap. I'm not b ship what it is. I'm tiring it. Which athlete came back to play a sport that was gone? This is what we're gonna do. I don't know that man. Michael Jordan's okay, well maybe you ain't know, Michael Jordan. I didn't know if he went. You know too, he left, took a break, went and play baseball, then came back

to basketball. So right now I'm playing baseball, bitch. Okay, a bitch is playing baseball, but I may not return to basketball, you know what I mean. I don't know. I don't know. Man is old enough to wear like right when he hits fifty, he'd be like you, you know, saying, Okay, I only got three more years. So see you know, I'll be playing baseball for three years then kind of the rise. I'm wheezy. If you've never heard this show, Peg is here, She's still here. It's it's it's she's

wearing a mask. Um, but we have somebody with us from a very special podcast called Inner ho Uprising. I remember when we first started our show. Um, we had heard about it because there wasn't really another black sex pod in New York right now, not at that time. No, So definitely are O g s. I love in her ho Uprising because I really feel like it's a tightened up horrible decisions. What are the tightened up horrible decisions? Even the way that they started, they put what we'll

be talking about. I didn't say all that because I mean, but what I will say, can you what is the tighter now? When you listen to next week? Okay, Well, Rob doesn't do it like Sammy like looking at in her Ho Uprising, where we are telling you about my pronouncer, she Her, and we are back for It's like a good newscasterree hole. You know what I'm saying a newscaster. We'll be starting the show dumb, but I like, speak for yourself. You'll be startling, start dumb. We ain't dumb, bitch,

This is an education. I didn't say weird dumb? Are you saying we'll show be done? It ain't dune. Welcome to horrible you know what I mean? We say horrible decisions that introduce our sales in that see, let me try to do it. You and she Her, I'm a she her, Yeah, that's it? What what what we gotta say? You know what? She eat coachy? Sometimes I do. We both suck dick? Is that how we need to introduce? Hey, guys, we suck dick in like pussy. What's up? I kind

of like that. That's pretty fun. Okay, So let's introduce Rob So. Rob is one of the hosts on Inner Ho Uprising. Rob, I haven't met you before, and I didn't I know? Sam like kind of rotates co host. Can you tell us about Inner Ho Uprising? How you got your started on their So in Uprising, it's a podcast about sex leven dating from the perspective of four black queer feminists. Um, we are, yes, we're all very gay. We're all very open, like, uh, A couple of them

are non monogamous. I am monogamous. Um that doesn't sound like fun. I mean I'm I mean I'm single, So I just the choosing date one person at a time. Um capacity. Yeah, you know, my brain is a little smooth, it's tired, so I don't want to get too crazy. But yeah, we're more we're educational, but we're fun. And

the way we got started. Sam had the podcast initially with another host, and when that host left, she kind of did um like a kind of like competition between from people who wanted the spot, and she ended up choosing me, Rebecca and Akua so we could all be host and it works out better so we can all be Yeah, I mean we're out here. We're all like pretty big. It's like Hunger Games. Though people did y'all

beat up? I have no idea. I was just one of many niggas, but I was the one of the niggas made it, you know, like on top and we're all like super busy. So like Sam, her life is podcasting, My life is like a billion different things. So it works out that I'm not like glue to podcasting because we're all we're all doing it at different You could just be the put your input in when needed. I'm like, I'm like a hole once a week. Damn I got a lot at all. I meant it's like h O

E s T though like a host. I'm but I'm just a hole. Let me say my co ho you feel me? So Rob tell us, I want to know um whoever wrote me from? In her if I think it may have been Sam, she was like Rob's day them and I wanted to know your sexual orientation and how Yeah, well what is it? Okay, so I'll be saying DEMI paint so first with the say them. That's my gender identity, right, So I'm a non bindary person

a gender. I don't identify as a woman as a man um, but that's separate, of course, with my sexual orientation. I call that gender fluid. I mean, of course, with anything, the language is kind of what you make it. Like, gender in general is a binary spectrum usually, so you're

gender nonconforming yes, which which means you don't conform. You know, I finished not conforming a big word because I mean, if you, I mean, there's nothing wrong with it, right, Like I'm not smash the anything kind of person because I feel like, you know, if you if that's who you are, but who you are, be happy than you are. I just wasn't like that was not a gender. What's a gender? Mis means no gender like a sexual anything that prefixes like no, non, So I just don't prescribe

to any specific gender. Okay, I'm confused this book over here. I ain't even gonna hold you because a sexual I getting you choose not to have sex, but a gender I mean, but it's not necessarily a choice. If you're a sexual, like that's who you are, right, like how you are bisexual pantsex people, It's like, is a choice? Yeah, like a sexual is like, actually, you know what we're gonna I think this would be cool to skip into

the whole facts. I brought a glossary up, and I think it'd be good if we break it down together with with the help of Rob because I I don't say choice because to me it I agree, it's not I don't think you necessarily like if you're a sexual, you don't feel it to up you know what I'm say, right, you don't write but a gender. I didn't. I never chose not to be a woman or a man. I have a pussy, but a pussy is not what makes

you a woman. So I never like it wasn't like I was like, okay, cool, you know I don't want to be a man. I don't want to be a woman. I don't want to prescribe to these roles. I just never did see. And to me, when I when I think of all of this, I break it down to uh,

male and female, but man and woman. To me, yes, a pussy does mean woman because when we have the conversation man, no, no, no, no, I'm saying female and male is yes to me, those are genders that you don't have to identify with or that you do because of your your organs. But one moment, I'm talking about what she said, I don't identify like, having a pussy

doesn't make you a woman. Right. But even when oh day, sorry, even when we speak to uh trans women that the argument is that they identify as women despite you know you said the office to what you met and male, right right, sexual like that's described by your sexual organs or genital When you said a woman you feel like a woman, you don't like saying that you need to have a pussy to be a woman. No, okay, that would be saying that the women we've interviewed Jamie Parris

hope disguise on women, which isn't true. Okay, right right, it makes sense. I'm gonna listen. I don't know. I guess this this conversation, and I know that we've been having this conversation um for now four years. I just I just do still want to make it very clear that we're both not experts. But I'm still trying to understand and learn my way around the words and identification and what we can say we are in regards to nonscience. I don't know. Go ahead, read what you have on

your list. I'm trying to figure it out, and again without being disrespectful either, but I I too still don't understand, So explain it to me more. I think you can't described initially, Rob when you said you didn't prescribe to any gender when I was younger, I'd call that androgyny when I felt like I couldn't understand like people I was meeting, like I ain't giving me a girl, I ain't give me dude, Like what is this? What on this? Like?

You know what I mean anymore? Because now you have gender nonconforming so people can understand, And I think, What's it's funny because it's made it more difficult for i'd say, everyone, right, including you, making sure that we're being respectful of people's pronouns, who they are, what gender they'd like to be referred to as, etcetera, if any And for these people that fall into this box, it's a lot more comfortable, right because Androgynis may not be how you felt you were,

you know what I'm saying, like, and so now it's like they're more comfortable, they're happy because they're finding their place, there's different terms, whatever. But for the rest of everyone else is like, well, I don't get it, And I

think that's what makes it so frustrating. It's super frustrating because yeah, I think a lot of people, even when I was just corrected, please correct me every time I do something wrong, because the same way if someone sucks up your name, you want them to know your name the right way. Don't just name me whatever you want me to, whatever you want to name me. But again, yes, it is frustrating for those of us that do want to be respectful but still don't have quite the understanding

of of what it means. Essentially, So you do have a list. This is our This is actually just sexual orientation.

So I thought we could walk through this because when I was listening to Inner Uprising, someone on your show is demisexual, and I was like, let me look this up because I've been saying pant okay, So hetero people that are romantically and physically attracted to members of the opposite sex, homosexual, which, females that attracted to other females, lesbian, and they're talking to the men, gay, bisexual, which don't just go over because there's people that may just be

listening to us for the first time. Make sure you read those two. I feel like we all really know the rest. I want to dig into a little more. Bisexual people that are romantically and physically attracted to members of both sexes, which is why pay and sexual is interesting. So pan sexual is attracted to people regardless of gender, right, So bisexual is strictly male female, when you're putting that

blanket term over it. A sexual are people who may not be interested in sex, but they feel emotionally close to other people, i e. Being able to have relationships with others. I've mentioned a few friends I've had that haven't had sex with partners, but they're like living together. Um, now this one I thought was cool. I don't know

if you've heard of a rob gray a sexuality. If you heard of that, not really, So this is the spectrum between a sexuality and sexuality individuals who identify with gray A sexuality A gray A basically referred to as the umbrella of everything else, which is then pan sexuality and demosexuality and panoramic demosexuality. Nigga, I know this is

why it's lgbt Q I A plus. Pan sexuality is the sexual attraction regardless of gender, while being uh pano romantic is having the ability to feel romantic attraction regardless of gender. So pan sexuality I thought was interesting because I think that's kind of when people will meet maybe actually for men. I've met men that will have sex with trans women, but they'll just be like, I'm not

ready for a relationship with them. So apparently that could be a PAN because you're sexually attracted to whoever, but romantic I wouldn't use that example though. I know straight people who identify as being straight sexually that still have sex with trans sexual trans women that they identify a straight, and they still identify a straight, So I wouldn't identify them as PAN just because they have sex with trans women and women fair. I think it's however someone chooses

to label themselves, but I mean for that. When I read pan romantic, I was like, oh, ship, so if you like basically, I mean that's like me with with women. I will have sex with women, but I wouldn't be with one that would be more like bisexual because sexual and you have also bi romantic people who can be emotionally attracted to the same sex. Right, because I'm by like, I pay romantic whatever. Look, I date people, and I love people and have sex with people, and I don't

I don't have any qualms with anybody any gender. I fall in love with anybody who I feel like I fall in love with. But if you have some you have people who date people of the same sex who they can have sex with them and have a sexual relationship with them. But they don't necessarily feel emotionally connected in a romantic way, like they wouldn't date them. They

don't see a fusion with them. And I guess that's why it's like this pan sexuality bisexuality, and then you have the viroman Oh so I guess, yeah, that makes sense. That's how I would explain it, especially for like, like I said, I know men who identify a strait of course in the open, but yeah, have experimented or done things. And I think even the experimentation, we immediately want to put a label onto someone is bisexual or get even

if they and experimented. So I like this idea that people all the girls, if you have sex with a bit one time, they're like, now you straight once. For men, they'd be like, you know, like I said, I wanted to look up because the inner uprising the sexual attraction to only people whom with the demisexual person has strong emotional tizes. So bitch, I think I'm a Demi Moore pain romantic bitch because you know my emo hoo, okay, demisexual.

I felt like that was like you be crying over niggas, and I was like, yeah, it's like you basically like the people that you sleep with, Like, but you're not that a way because we would just talk about this on the patrion, you'll be sucking in bitches the only light those are like, they don't count because it's like a one night standing. I hate when people be saying, oh, I thought that person, but it don't count, like you hate do that? Hate me bitch, because I like to miscount.

A lot of people are one. We all starting over, So let's break do some icebreggers or rob because I'm curious how much of a whole are you? Have you ever smashed homies, group of friends, people that you may need to avoid. If you entered the party and they were all together, yes, really were you proud about it? Or were you like, shut the funk up, don't tell anybody. Yeah,

I mean I don't care it happened. I mean I'm not like, look, I fucked this this check and then I sucked her brother, but I didn't know they were related. Wait wait, maybe did you go right into us So I'm just like, but wait, when did you find out they were siblings after I sucked the guy, same mama,

same daddy. I think one of the parents were the same parents, and then I had to choose, and then I never chose, and wait, so they were still wanting to funk you again even though then we were like romantically, I was romantically involved with both of them. You know what's cool with robs? Like you're telling me that, Like they were like pick one because we're not about to both be at the sucking family dinner, like there were no family Dinner's ever going to be involved in any

of those situations. Say that what energy that is? That's heavy bisexual energy. Right, wasn't that about to get there? Okay, imagine them like actually having family issues Like later, Doneline, we're gonna bring it up. You know what I'm saying, Like you sup when you first, I'm sure that's happened. But oh my goodness, what I fucked brother too, So I mean I'm just saying, wait, you never sucked siblings before? I mean mine was stepbrothers through marriage. No judgment that

it doesn't count, thank you. That's what I said. That's why you asked, Wait, have I ever I did want to twins one time because they both was fine, but no, it's only interested they suck each other. Right, Yeah, I think if you're looking the same room and then it's like sexual energy. Like being now because when I when I Claremont twins, they'd probably be each other. What maybe they eat each other puss. We got mad about the Claremont twins. You can't suck me to twin brothers. Well,

I can't because I got a boyfriend. Okay, favorite type of porn Hotly, I do not watch porno. Isn't it liberating? But I'm watching my own ship now, thoughts, that's like auto porn. You see you see how she just did like this, But that's how long her videos are. They're like jifs. I don't know how should even make them. What you mean? Yeah, I got long one. Yeah, but when you showed the one the last time, I was like, this was a GIF. It was like I showed you

a clip. Dude, want the whole? I don't. I do not, But I'm just saying I said it ap I get the lighting right, and I'm like and I always make sure like right when I like do my video, I give a little both. You know this is directed and edited by yours truly, and let's start eating busy now.

You said not watching porn is liberating. What about it is liberating to it, like I'm using the space of not watching porn to be more in touch with myself sux, because I feel like me concentrating on something else a I have to substitute watching somebody else for like my own feeling. So I'm that chicken fun I'm that dude doing the fucking right like you because you want to get into it. I put myself as the director. So I watched gay porn. So but I've been watching a

lot of trans faring lately. I don't know, they're just beautiful. I don't know. I've been watching a lot. I think I just really like dicks, so I do. I just really like fucking dicks, like even trans women. Like when I look up t S. I put big dick because maybe has some big old dicks. I just like dicks. Don't just saying some do something don't because of the hormones. I don't know what the hormone in. But oh my god, t s Paris, I love you. Rickaya too pretty on Instagram.

That's her. She lived in Vegas. Fawn might even subscribe to her only fans, but her did go down to like her knee bro and she a burst Anyways, when I watched, because there's two dicks, I just imagine that I'm directing. So I don't imagine that i'm either one of the people, but I imagine that I'm telling them what to do. That's how I watched. Anybody doesn't know,

I think I know. So I like to watch, like we all know, when I watch cocky cocky, and I always think about getting come on, oh you so you imagine yourself being the girl, and the second I'm done, I'll be like, so disrespectful. It's the so I like what she said, so I like how you're taking the liberation. Oh sorry, it's they they I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Okay, okay, alright, um it's the Pink Watch and the pink bands. I'm like, you know, they they're gonna stop doing that ship with babies.

That's why they don't even do the pink and blue. Bro. I'n be honest with you. I do think babies have like baby parties, and babies should have made me do that with pink and blue. Yeah. Absolutely. When I go shopping and someone will show me something pink, I'm like, I don't want to you you say it all the time, I think it's the girly color blue is more. Yeah, um that some baby shit. We're fucked up, dude, I know.

I mean society made us a swell okay, all right, So it makes you more liberated because now you don't have to imagine yourself in any scenario, in any part of So what do you think about when you're feeling about Sometimes I think about No, I stopped thinking about that too because I fucking hate most of the people that I've slept with it now, So I don't really want to think about giving my energy and ship, especially because my brain will like go to the parts of

the relationship that like our arguments and ship like that motherfucker's So I'll think about like a fantasy. And my fantasy is I come home for a long day at work. Could my job be stuck in sometimes? Right? And I stink? I always think when I come up from work. So I'm like, I'm so tired, I go to the house firefighter. Let's just add yeah, not that just be stinking and ship.

I just be like in sewers and ship. Now, I just think because I work, and um, so you know, my partner opens up the door, right, and they're like, oh my god, you're home. You know what, I'm gonna run the shower for you. So they run the shower for me, right, And I'm so fucking tired sometimes I am this tired where I just I just stare at the shower and I'm like, funk, I gotta get in this ship. So they like get me in the shot and they wash me right, and I'm like, wow, I

don't gotta do anything. Right. They washed me, they drive me off, and then they fucking lotioned me because you know, I'm black. I'm not trying to be ashy in this bit. You know, they lotioned the hole but even get between the toes, mad love, right, And then they dragged me to the bed. When I dragged me and up, but they walked me to the bed. And then they just start, you know, just taking care of me, you know, kissing me and you know, get eating the coochie and just

taking care of me. Before I even get to penetration, I'm already done because it's just that nice to just like, oh, I can imagine these these wonderful you're a little Damni Moore and YouTube Oh absolutely, like I mean, I mean, people I don't like because I also like to like the people someone else my show that way, Like I used to not like the niggas. I was poking like it's not but they dick was good. Like it was just like but it was people that literally we had

And that's the thing. Sexual chemistry is something that to me is hard to come by. So there would be people that we would eat each other up and have such good chemistry in the bedroom. And as soon as we were done what I don't want to hear you talk like we just alright, alright, guys, So I am going to announce one of our very new segments. Um, if you are a part of our Patreon community, you

have already heard. It is called Black Sexcellence. And during this segment, which is new and we are going to add to every show, we're gonna give you guys some informational educational background on an either activists or just member of the community who has made strides in the sex revel Lucian or the LGI And Mandy was like, no, bit,

we are not doing Lori Harvey. No. She was like, but it was her birthday, No, bro, Like, I mean to me that she's beautiful of course she's being talked about, but to me, nothing she's doing is excellence and she

don't talk. I mean, I think it's all like chalked up to how you mix a match up, right, like we I think Black China is someone that definitely along the line we should talk about her strides, right Like, for one, we haven't seen like a stripper or someone ne No, I don't think she's doing ship that Black China is doing, do you I do? I mean whatever, we can go through their accolades, but I mean just saying like, I don't think we've seen somebody and Black

China like Amber Roses mixed. She's light skin like Black China and came to funk up. I don't like that either, because we sit here on identify as black woman. So that just there's a lot of way because she's light skin. I don't know you could black China's recent picture. We know from China light skins too. You've seen in recent pictures. Shout out to a guy like talking about Rebel, who is one of our patrons who came up with this name,

such a fire name for a segment. Yeah, so black Excellence for this week, we want to pay homage to A Bayard Rustin. He was born in nineteen twelve died in nineteen eighties seven. Rustin was an LGBTQ and civil rights activists, best known for being a key advisor to Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. And y'all know, shout out we in January baby, that's who birthday eight is this

weekend anyway. He organized the nineteen sixty three March on Washington and was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the nation's highest civilian honor, in two thousand thirteen, for his activism in Governor Gavin Newsome pardon rust Rustin for his arrest in nineteen fifty three, when he was found having sex with two men in a parked car in Pasadena. Rustin served fifty days in l A County jail and had to register the sex offender. Jesus right for just

having sex with two people. Ship we all do that, don't we? Which I'm offensive, you know what I mean? And pardoning Rustin, Newsome noted how LGBTQ people were unjustly punished for their sexuality by US law enforcement at the time of Rustin's arrest. Imagine some time you put a pussy in your mouth. You knew you were breaking off insane. That's insane. You would have had life senses of jail. It's like cheating. You know how people like cheating for

like getting caught. It's there. Wait, they don't know, but no, they don't want to get caught. They just know as a possibility. Niggas who cheat don't want to get caught. To be honest with you, I think there is something hot about knowing you can get caught, because knowing that you can get caught, but they don't want to get But cheating sex can be hotter, like when you're singleing you're fucking around. I'm sorry, I just really believe that,

feeling like you gotta get caught. I think nigga's like this ship. I really do, because I just don't see why you do it. Like I was talking to a homegirl of mine who might be one of the most beautiful people. I don't know. I don't know her that well. I just know her from like on some Miami ship. She's bad as ship, and she just found out her man with cheating on her. And I'm not saying that women, Yes I am, they weren't as hot as her, and I was like, damn dog, just like random ship. He

just be fucking bitches. He met at the store like she found all the ships in the computer, not even like some you know. I was out, I met someone, we had a connection. He just has the fuck and I was like this nigga must really want to get caught. I can't see like he must want you to catch them, bitch. I'm really also thinking about if it matters at all if I think the person looks better or not better

than me. Not a bitch, you're telling me if you're a man cheating on you would ugly, bitch, Mandy, you wouldn't be bad because I'd be mad and be like you did me like that. Well, we all know that everyone has different views of beauty. Okay, Well I'm saying

if you and me, you better know this is my standard. Naked, don't be as trash you're you're how you look at this thing, ander the beauty like people, I'm allowed to judge my own person stand beauty and everyone like, just like you're allowed to judge your man when he do dumb ship. I'm allowed my man don't do nothing though, Okay, well perfect, sorry man, he got the perfect You can't relate rob you ever dated beauty like he's not doing.

I think this also has to do with ship like, um, you know when people say like you dated down after somebody, right, Like it could either attribute a job or monetary like like look how people treated We just talked about Amber when she dated with Cleveland. They were like, well, he ain't this or he ain't that, Like he is everything to me, honey. So I don't know who was saying he's a popping like rapper, he's attractive, Like how did she like date? Like what are you wanting to about? Drink?

I'm just saying, like, I don't know, but see into me. I would like a whiz over a jury and I heard that he got a third live bit. I would like a wizard Drake. But that's what I'm saying. So I don't know. So I mean as far as level of Kanye, you got Drake, jay Z, Kanye Kanye cute to me, not cute. I'm just talking about status, right, Yeah, would you agree with that? Who's up there with Like, wait, is that the order Drake? It's just just like the group,

but they all copion. I think it's jay Z then Kanye, then Drake Okay, okay, Kanye. I was very concerned about the order before whatever we're supposed to do you want me to like get as good as I had, Like, wiz, ain't it? Like? Who can I after Kanye ship? Maybe nas I ain't gonna here when I heard about that one, but let's go. Yeah yeah, keep going. So we wanted to get into ship awkward all right, Today's horrible just vision for this week is love a A Love addicts Anonymous.

I don't know if we've ever discussed this, but it was interesting to me when I was talking to in the Uprising on their Instagram about like what to talk to Rob about today, because I had actually looked into this before when I broke up with lover Boy, which was what two years ago on this podcast, I was like, dude, I gotta meet somebody else. I gotta meet somebody else.

I was like swiping like crazy, like I was getting carpetson from swiping boat, and I really felt like I couldn't just fuck because it wouldn't make me feel good enough, Like I have to feel like someone likes me. I need to feel loved, Like why do I want that feeling? Again. I kept chasing that feeling and started looking into a love addict, like meeting and Ship in New York. They

were I honestly, I knew I went too far. I was like, let me just go to a A and like just blending, huh, this is a this is in New York, this is lover's addict, love addic what what? What do you? What's the acrono? Love addicts anonymous and I l A. Yeah, you can look up. You could look up love addiction, my bad love addiction. It's not anonymous. I haven't you have to take because some of these

questions to me are so regular. For example, some of the questions were, was there ever a point that you wish you could stop or control your sexual or romantic activities for a given period of time? Who the fund hasn't felt like that, Like, you know, you gotta stop being a whole at some point. Everybody think about that. By the way, real quick, y'all. If you're interested in looking up it's s l A A sex and love

addicts anonymous. Want to be grouped in with them? Niggat, Oh my god, I have feeling in my exactly that's why you're you're grouped in with the sex um. Do you feel desperate about your need for sexual attraction or future mate? Do you believe that someone can fix you? Have you ever felt that you were obligated or needed to have sex to feel better? Do you get high

from sex? And do you crash? That actually is a really good one, I thought, because I've met someone who was like that, where she told me like, immediately after sex she felt bad about herself, but she needed to get there to feel good. It sounds like drugs. Um, let me see this one. Have you it's not funny. Have you had or do you have sex with someone who you don't know? Yes? Okay, but what is knowing someone?

That's what I was thinking. What is knowing? Because if we say hi, I'll be like Rob cool one of five glancing. No. Seriously, Like, what what does it mean to know someone? I guess what it means to not know? Could be I met you at the club and I'm having sex with you at the club. Just you just need to leave. That happened, I mean not to me, but it happened not even at the sex club. The club you like. It's It's quite possible to meet somebody

having attraction. I'm gonna have sex with you right there, right, that's some makes you don't know. You gotta talk to where a New York Hub party. I mean, I said, I don't choose that, but it is done. It's done. It is. I did eat some pussy after dream in Miami one time, but it was at the dinner. We left the clube, We went to the dinner and I ate a pussy at the dinner where in Miami where he and the bathroom? You know her we met. We was at the same table to night. That's not knowing

somebody you were wondering. That's how you don't know her. Let's go back, ques, I said, they take it way too long in these corny pass Let me go eat some pussy when she was killing? What marked this ship for the clip? Monigger? No? No, what is the problems? You can put it in there? Okay? Does this sexual and romantic behavior affect your reputation? Well, hello, welcome to the YouTube and the audio. Yes it does. Now we're making money on the ship. I mean, isn't really that bad,

not really alive unless you're in a romantic relationship. This one I thought was really good and when it got to the juice because a lot of us don't feel good unless we're with someone. It took me a long time to be good alone. You know, I didn't really understand how to feel like. I don't want to use the word worthy, because I've always felt good about myself, but something always felt like it was missing if I

was alone. And to get to that point where you can be alone, like it takes a lot of fucking self searching, I think, like discovery, just like being able to take feedback and like criticisms and be like okay, no, like I see what's wrong. Like it took it took me a while, I'd say years to get to that point. And when I moved to New York, it started to happen after that breakup and I was like, Okay, fun makes getting money, I actually feel this way. And that

was you know, for the last decade. But I would say it, but I didn't necessarily know if I get money from them, that's a mood you you feel in that order that then I get the money. What is what you discussed on Inner Uprising about what, like you know, knowing biology and something to do getting into science. I'm gonna check out here, it's not that big. So um, so we we did a whole episode called love Addiction.

I don't know the whole episode name, but I'll give it to you so you put in the show notes. But it was basically about love addiction, the parallels between love addiction, sex addiction, and drug addiction, substance abuse, and how does that like, what does it look like? Right? Um?

The most important factor in addiction is to know that it's something that affects your life, like, truly affects your life, not like just something that kind of you carry around like a burden, but something that affects your ability to like really function at the highest potential that you were functioning prior that you can possibly function like. It takes a toll on your social aspects, your physical aspects, your

mental aspects, spiritual aspects. Like it's if to say that, let's say addiction, even if it's not a substance addiction, addiction is addiction, right, So if you're addicted to cocaine and you're addicted to sex, they don't. It's not like one addictions like bigger than the other. One is smaller than the other. Like addiction addiction, anything that really hinders you and holds you back in that way. But with addiction, you know, it's a reward system. You have that reinforcement.

So if I do this thing and I feel good, If I do this thing again, I'll feel good. And you keep doing that until you kind of build those connections in your brain, because you know your brain is always forming connections, right, and you build those connections that become kind of like permanent. So the only way you

can feel that feelings if you do that thing. So the only way I can feel good about myself if I if I do that thing, which is have sex or start a relationship or just start entertaining some fucking piece of ship, like you know, something that involves another person. It doesn't necessarily just involve you. I'm gonna be real. I'm not trying to be funny. I might be addicted to the club dog. And that's why you went Willie's. Dude.

I moved to him when it was still like it was just beach and chilling, like remember she wasn't open till the summer when I left. But like, no, when I am at my lowest lows, like and I'm just thinking of like when the world was open, I'm like, I gotta go have a drink. I gotta And it wouldn't always be like getting wasted. I just needed to be around people like I needed to be around people. I needed to have that vibe and not the club

per se. When I say club, I'm actually far as far as and ship I had to do that, I'd be like, I'll be all right. And I remember thinking like I had a really bad argument and I was like, oh my god, I'm gonna be single after to the bar, Like what am I gonna do without the bar? Like I was really bugging the funk out, dude, And I was like, why are you like living in the middle of all the bars? Like the part I love being around people, like I love seeing people. That's why I

love New York so much. I love getting energy from people, getting inspired by people like That's why I love podcasting, you know, like, no matter who would be with you, and if it's a guest, like I love sucking that up because it's exciting for me, like the social interactions and I think it's that only child shit help me look at my brain. I mean, I need my alone time. That's why even with my nigga now like moving in will never be a conversation. I am so content with

having like my space now, like my own space. No roommate, no, none of that, like never ever, ever, ever, ever ever ever. Um, it's crazy because I'm hearing like how you're defining addiction, and I mean, I will say I feel like maybe at some point sex was an addiction, because I think that that's when sometimes I'll be like I'm miserable or I'm cranky, and even my mama was like, you need some dick, like it gets to that. But but rob, I feel like we all know we need to get fucked.

But that's not addiction affect your mood. I mean, then you would have to look further into it, right, because it might not necessarily just be like the sex, Like you might just really have wanted to be like with the person, right, But one way to be with the person, especially somebody who it's like I don't really have any other way to pull them into my house, but to say you want to fuck, right, I can't just be like, hey, you want to come up and talk they're and be

like no, not really okay, but you want to have sense? Oh yeah, this masturbation too, right. I believe it is because, like when I was watching a True Life on MTV, which by the way, I think that's hands down on MTV's best shows they've ever done, and I'm like, don't want people shooting up. I was like, just a fucking America that she was so good. Anyway, they had a man who was like, I had to change my password to my computer to my son's name, so or something

like that. He said, so I wouldn't look at porn. He was like, I don't even know his name. I don't even think about it anymore. It's like my fingers just go. Like he tried everything to stop himself from going porn sites because of its sex addiction. So I think maybe sex edition is like, yeah, maybe it may be all encompassed porn. I mean it's it's sex. Masturbation is still sex and pornography. I mean that's more of

black a material kind of thing. But if you're doing it in they masturbating like you dick, this mashmating and porn. I don't know. Expert episode about love, but what about that? You know? But it's but as far as love goes, when dating with a love addiction, do you think that you should tell somebody kind of like if I was addicted to alcohol or drugs, I think that it would be important to let my partner know. Would you suggest that people should tell their partners they have a love addiction.

I would suggest that you go to a therapist first, say that, because I wouldn't. I wouldn't say I wouldn't self diagnosed myself right with something like that, because it's it's very heavy and it deserves actual treatment. So just to simply say, I think I have a love addiction and I'm just going to sit in this and it didn't let all of my partners know that I just had to love. But this is just this is just the thing that I am. And then that's said. You know,

that's that's a lot right good explanation. It's very like, take me as I am. But that's some rude ship because that's that's because you know, it's not like you shouldn't treat it like it's not something to be treated. No, it's because it's cracking coking. And if it's it's cracking coking, might want to you know, don't care of that because it's not like it's something that you're not aware of because even if you're not aware of it, somebody A lot of times, if you have people in your life.

Not everybody does, but if you have people in your life, somebody's gonna make you away of that ship. Like if you have a drinking problem, if you have people that care about you, somebody's gonna say, hey, motherfucker, you are a while for respect right now you might want to calm that ship down. Somebody's gonna make you aware. Then you do what you want to do with that information, whether it's ignore it, whether it's actually give it attention

and try to do something about it. But to like go into relationship and say, hey, I have a love addiction, but I want to love you. I'm out. I want to know because now that's on me. You're putting that burden on me to try to maneuver around it. And it's like, is it is it your addiction to just wanting to be loved or you actually want to be giving me PTSD from niggas that let me know they were holes. You know what I'm saying when they'd be like, yo,

I just got this problem. I just you know, I mean, I love you, but I'll be working other business, you'd be like, so I do have to put off for that. But you know that's I really like what you said, because we have there's a fine line between being proud of who you are and being like, this is who I am taking or leave it, but also needing to understand that some of the things that you have that encompass your who you are are little, especially when they

could be a burden on somebody else. Yeah. I like that, I mean, especially considering that I definitely think I went through love addiction phase. Do you think or anyone think they've ever been through a like I know you said, even through a sex addiction phase maybe yeah, where I thought, yeah, like I mean, but again it just affected my mood, like if I want to dick, but I was still very picky on who I was getting dick from. So it's it was not don't like a crackheads picky about

who they and see that's what I'm saying. We had a sex at it came h He did come on the show and he shared how he just needed sex from and he didn't care who he got sex from. This so like, I don't like and hearing her explain, hearing they explain it. I don't believe that I had the addiction. It did just affect like my mood, and I guess I was still able to like go about my day as normal. I would just be in a funk if I felt like I needed to release and masturbation.

Masturbating never did it. So even when you mentioned, um, just maybe having a person to lay with, to cuddle with, just to be in the company of another person in that kind of close like space. Yeah, because even my friends hated, Like I'd be trying to cuddle with all my friends. They'd be like, bitch, give me my space, like the ones I don't fuck. They'd be like, I

don't want to cuddle with you. I love cuddling. I'd be like, come here and we'll be laid up like time for Netflix and little with my friends kind of associate that closeness with I lay on Vinnie, but like it's a very minimal like maybe a leg, Oh no, my leg is over my friends, Like I love cuddling with my friends. When you were talking about spooning with friends that you don't fu, Yeah, that I don't fun. That's so crazy to me. Yeah, if I that is, I mean I've done that, but you did you feel

something though I feel I feel I felt. I just I didn't like it. I was like, you're thinking about I don't want you to they know if I want to suck. But I think it also comes from and I shared on this show. For many years, I was having sex without the intimacy. So for many years I just didn't get I wasn't kissing niggas, I wasn't really cuddling after. I was leaving after or they were leaving after.

So I think it just became you know that I really love my friends, and I put my friends in the highest seem almost about family, and so yeah, in terms of love, like I love them, so you're gonna give me these cuddles, bit you're gonna give me these I had this. I found this cool article. It was for Vanilla Ship, but I wanted to put it in here. Sexual and emotional anorexia, y'all ever heard this? No? You know what, if we're to compare it to attachment theory,

it's the avoidance style rather than the anxious one. It's a type of disorder that people have running from sex and or relationships rather than run towards them. Um So, sexual and emotional intorexia can manifest as the usage of porn instead of real partners, the fear and avoidance of sex, the fear of intimacy, vulnerability, shame around your own sexual drive and preferences, the harsh judgment of other people's sex drive, always waiting for quote unquote the one the perfect person,

and compartmentalizing people into sex or relationship categories. And I thought this was interesting because they say the root a lot of this ship is from love of addiction sounds more like self sabotage. I mean for sure, it's like the world is so wild, and how we find words for everything, everything, and then we find multiple words. It was the Netflix show where curse words came from. That

was it was funny. It was funny, but yeah, like literally because to me, this doesn't I think the antorexia threw me off if sucking threw me off too. But this is from sex love addicts anonymous. So they basically say this is a characteristic of sexual and emotional antorexia as outlined by them, this is where it comes from. Having few healthy boundaries. We become sexually repulsed and or emotionally threatened by people without even knowing them fearing emotional

and sexual nurturing. Um, we over idealize love and sex so conversely that we confuse love and sex with physical and sexual shame, like we're confused about what it means or the need to be rescued things like that, and we are deeply anxious and insecure, but may cover those feelings of stress and guilt and envy with the persona of independence and self sufficiency, which is the funk niggas

get money ship. We can be feeling like, okay, you know what, like maybe I haven't found someone, isn't me whatever, you know what, funk niggas like I'm doing this, Like I think that is a great one because under all of that, it may not be Like I don't think I'm at that place now. I think you are in the place now right like when you're starting to grow and getting to know yourself. But at one point in my life absolutely I was like overly independent because it

made me feel better. Like saying that, well, not only that, I think I've said it too. Um, the funk niggas get money, not not foot niggas and make them give you money. But the funk niggas get money. Mantra to me, comes from when you don't feel like you're in a

place where you're happy. So to me, that's where I feel like for the past decade, um, I was focusing on my financial state, getting an education, and being happy with who I was as a person, and so a part of it was, yeah, I'm still gonna get this nut, but I'm not at a place where I really want to be a partner to somebody or I want to be in a relationship, but I still need a nut because which I like sex and that you know, I'll

be cranky if I don't have it. So I think that comes from, you know, get your ship, but also really get your ship and get your ship together. More than anything. I don't know that the podcast it we're just trying to sound smart because apparently we sound dumb. So the beginning, I say dumb with love Bro, I mean like we'll be doing dumb sh it's silly words,

mean things, wheezy, okay, such am all right. I picked this whole mail for a future episode where we have to do this because it really made me think of a rob story. Here we oh ship, So send your whole mail to horrible desistence now rit now was me just kidding because keeping anonymous? They said him Mandy and wheezy. I love y'all. I've been listening for almost three years, so when I recently started having the best sex of my life, this story I naturally thought of before. Sorry.

The man's dick is perfect all caps. We've been dating for three months months, he brings out aside of me that sexually I didn't know I had. Yes, I actually had a seizure on the dick. We were fucking in the mirror high off mushroom chocolates when I collapse and convulsed. When I came, it felt so euphoric, but he was scared. Another time that stands out was when I was writing and he was using my vibrator on my clip asked if he could fit it inside of my pussy with

his dick. It was a small bullet, so we tried it. It was amazing, but it got stuck. I had to lay on my back dude keegels until it finally came out right. I don't know where this is going. I could go on about our sex, but I'm writing to you because I don't know what to do about his best friend, his best friend is also his roommate, and if they haven't fucked already, I know that if they did they would be with love it. They both identify

a straight, but the energy is just there. His friend is really hot too, and I've been happily fantasizing about an m m F three, So with them, how would I go about initiating this. I don't know if I should or if I should just leave it in my mind as a daydream dream because plot twist, his best friend is dating my little sister and she could absolutely never find out. Do I leave it alone? Do I wait until maybe his friend and my sister break up.

Do I bring it up to my man. I feel like it would be so chaotic, But I also think would be so hot to watch my man's best friend give him head. Please help me start through this toxic the one who dates my sister. That's where that's where I lost. It was all good until that ship. And I want to tell you something, which one I don't know. Thank you so much for your fucking goddamn service to this show. This is what I'm talking about, This is

what you're talking about. This is how we got on the Black Effect Network, right, here, you and your man and his best friend and suck your sister. This is what I'm to Mandy Weezy Springers, thank you anyway, this is this is not it Mega, I don't know, maga fuck this is her sister's boyfriend who she said, both of them identifying straight. So you just think it's okay. She was like, energy is there? Let me tell you something. Bit the way that man investing you're doing, this is

what you gotta do. This is how I started getting money in the show. She all getting oh god, so much. It's so fucked up. But like what does she got to lose? What she has, her sisters, what her man to lose? All right, let me go from there's there's a lot of that's a lot of factors, you know. Shout out to you for admitting that ship was toxic, was well toxic, saying what it needs to say in your head and in our email inbox, and know where the fun of that ship. That is good material. And

that's all I'm asking. A matter of fact, if you've got a family, phollow everybody in it, that's that's disgusted. You want to know. My email is the Wheezy WC aftert gmail dot com. You're not. You should have so fun lest somebody explicitly begins to give you some kind of consent to do these things. And even then, like, I don't know if that's a talk that you, oddly enough might have to have with your fucking sister. I

mean I would never ding. Okay, wait a second, because maybe her and her sister are like the Claremont twins, So let's talk. So let's figure this out. I think the first thing you should do is talk to your sister. Ye see if you know, she might be like you, I don't give a phone. You know, maybe we don't know. So let's if we're, you know, paying homage to the holes. They're right into the show. We don't know what type of upbringing the gut they might be like the Claremont

She's like sexcellence right now. So that's an imagination. Jesus Christ. So uh, I would say, the first person you need to ask is not your boyfriend, is not his best friend, But you need to talk about this with your sisters. Right then, if the sister be like, actually, yeah, I'll give you to go for that because you're my sister and I love you. And if this is what's gonna make you happy. I want my sister to be happy.

If you'll get the blessings from your sister, then I don't advice obviously, bitch, don't do it but the first So if you get the blessing from your sister, then I think maybe you need to go ahead. And then I'm trying to think it should be the sister's boyfriend. You gotta talk to your man and then be like, yo,

how close are you and Novadius? You know what I mean? Um, and just find out if they is close to what it might be like Okay, cool, Like I don't want to have sex with my roommate, but I don't mind that supposed to having sex with you because that doesn't make me quick, doesn't There's nothing rob This email was dick so good. I had a seizure. Bitch, you need to do right. You need to write something. She gave

us that ship anyway came out of nowhere. This is just so fabulous, Like I can't believe how I think actually needs to work on her journalist skills because she could have had a way better hot topic headline than because but either she should have just said I want to fuck headline. I want to fuck my boyfriend's roommates, sister boyfriend. No, my sister, my sister's boyfriend, boyfriend. It's too much, too many characters. They're gonna work out. So really,

what you did, I'm telling you she won. But see where you're going with this, But talking to the sister, No, that's sick. You can't do this. But we're out here trying to promote healthy communication and the same we don't. We don't know their relationships, thank you right, they might even be judging right now. They might be best it look we all know. We don't count them the ship. They're like, they're like friends, they're like just because their parents wanted to fund. I think you just want to

MMF threesome. I think you want to watch your man get his dick sucks sucked dick, And I think that, And I think the roommate just happened to be fine and they're around each other, so you're seeing it happen. But like, no, you're a chipping you're fucking insane. But like, I really like this um her name, I'm weak. I feel like it's that anonymous that what I'm saying, I'm showing you guys, I think this is a black name the last name. Can you not do that? Not a

black name? Bro? No, I'm trying to figure out because if this is white people ship, I want her to come on the show. Why because I don't want to make us like this nuts. You look nuts with everything

you just said over the last ten minute. You you like Renig, but it was after you went like after she went love this because like I have this thing that goes on in my head, like there's this comedy ship and in prom school that you have a straight man and crazy man like that you can play like right when you're watching someone who's how do you go from straight and crazy? Biden? They used the word straight as like um on the straight and narrow, like at

the term right, like like someone's not tripping. We played that skin in our short film right. I was like, let's have dicks on stage. You're like, no, let's be educational. That's a straight man crazy man skin. So you're crazy and I'm the clear head. No, I think I do both. I just did bo. You don't think so, No, you're just crazy? All right? Well fuck your sister's boyfriend that lives next day to me I don't know. I think that you just need to get M M F threesome going.

I think that that's the main uh fantasy that she has. And so if that is the main fantasy. Again, just to wrap this up, I think that you should for sure have that conversation with your man to see if it is even an option to have with your man, because y'all can always find a thing going to join in, you know what I mean, definitely, but he might not be he might not be comfortable, or he might be comfortable.

Say I don't want to suth no, dick, and I don't want to go different different, And that's going to make sure. That's just like do not like for we're saying bye m M F threesome. And I feel the same way with men, by the way, like forcing the women there with it's not funny, pussy like, no, don't do that if he's on intimate it's is always key, especially in something Look how wrapped up. Oh yeah, I'm glad we warned up because I know how I was talking to the beginning. I was like, oh, they hate me.

I was like, look, fuck, don't do that, don't do that. Don't But again, the same way Like if somebody came in and was calling her Wezzy the whole time, I would be like, bro, it ain't Wezzy, it's wheezy. You know what we people smell your name, pronoun what you kept saying the entire You just have to say you if you're getting lost and him, yeah, I don't know, I say you. Yeah. But but even them, but you is when you're directly speaking to them. If I'm speaking

to you about them, it's different. I'm just like Robin right here, but I know, but but I'm I'm I'm speaking to the both of you, and so if I'm not directing to just them, then it's just like I can't just say you when I'm talking to you, brot when I'm speaking like I had a colleague of mine at my last job that only wanted to be referred to as day them, so I got a little bit better at it, but I was sucking up. Oh, I sucked up this whole show, and they're gonna read me like, yeah,

it's supposed to be professional. Y're supposed we experst in this hash. She's sucking up really bad. But it's because the transition happened while I was working with them. Oh,

I remember sharing that story. But I do want to say to that is why like and we have we've done our best with just educating ourselves, but you are our first guests that strictly identifies as them they, And so I do apologize if I offended you at any point if anyone's listening, Uh, definitely, Maybe I just need to think before I talk a little bit more and slow down, because then I mean, you would have you know,

it's okay to mess up, like we're human. Um, you you you probably mess up more than you even realize. Just talking to like people who are says like you might say, she might say he were talking about somebody else, because you're just you're human. Your brain moves faster than

your lips through sometimes. But it's a matter of when you mess up, when you realize you're just correct and just keep going like to make the spectacle of it, or I'm so sorry that it's like now you put the burden on me to have to comfort you, like no, no, no, it's okay. I don't want to because like it's not okay,

And I also don't want to. I don't want any of your burden, Like just like you know, any other correction like just they interesting, just keep you never thought of that, Like we overapologize to have someone understand how sorry we are. But it's like god damn, not even making me feel like I don't I don't want that, but to me, it is all. It is almost like the overapology, and I want you to understand as well, coming from someone who doesn't want to offend you or

feel like we're disrespecting you. Also to maybe not apologize. I also don't want to come across like well, I don't care how you want to be addressed the same way like if someone keeps correcting me on their name. Yeah, I don't want to also make you feel like I'm dismissive of of you, you know, just the my bad they proceeding well, I'm also it's just it can be. It can be a lot, because you know how you were saying, like oh, you know, it's frustrating because you

get confirmed. But it's frustrating for me because I have to hear a seven even if it's not for you, like okay, cool, you guys, you're not my employees, Like I don't I can say anything obviously, I'm telling my fucking business. But I work with white men almost exclusively, and both of my careers I work with white men. I'm not coming out to them because suck them. I

don't feel like it. So I'm she, I'm her, I'm a woman, and that's just it is what it is, and it's something that I just have to go through the rest of my life, the rest of my career, just kind of accepting that. So that is I'm not open and I'm not free in my workplace where I spent fucking I spent twenty four hours at work. I just got off last night. I'm tired of ship and that's just my reality. So when I come and I'm experiencing the world with queer people, with black people, with

black women, like this is my safe space? Do you I know we're about to rap, but I really I'm curious if you could share a story with us where someone told you they wouldn't so maybe even closely, maybe family member. Has anyone been so reluctant to it that you were like what the fuck? Um? So real fast and I have two stories. Um. First story was my ex. I've known him for now, um almost fifteen years. We dated a few years ago for like a year, and so he's known me like he was like my first kiss.

It was like one of my best friends. So when I finally like, hey, this is who I am. I'm non binary, that is are my pronouns and he said, so, what the funk I'm dating What the funk? I'm sucking a tranny. And I was like, okay, there's like many levels of this right because now we're just sucking and now I'm a tranny. So it was like a lot of unpacking there. And I still dated him because I'm a dumb ass bitch and whatever it is, what it is,

but you know that was super fucked up. Um you know, now several years later he's trying to be respective of my pronouns, um and be respective of my chosen name. But you know that was not fun. And then, um dam, I had a friend. I mean, we're still friends and he's a lot better now. But when I first says, hey, my name is Rob, he said, no, that's not your name. I'm gonna call you what i've been calling you because

it's what i've been calling you. And I'm like, that's not how this works, because hey, he never called me by my first name. Anyway, he always called me by the name that I fucking gave him, So I'm like, why can't you call me by this name? What is the issue? But it's like some people feel um personal, like no, I've known you this way this whole time, Like I'm special. I've known you said you came out the womb, So why do I have to change? I understand all of them having to change, But why then

do I gotta call you something? But it's like, that's my name. So when people ask me, oh, what's Rob short for short for Rob, why Robbed? I don't know. It's just my name. You can see my name on the paper. I don't go fun. My name is Rob, and that's what you're gonna call me. That's what they call me at work. Even though they don't know him Trance, they still call me Rob. They have no problems, no questions, they don't care. And that's why I expect from everybody

else in the world. Even on my birthday and my cake said happy birthday, Robbed the God. My parents were there, We blew out the cans and everything. They took. Pictures of the cake were posted. They didn't give a fuck. I mean it's don't care because it's just it's a name. It's a name, it's an identities. These things I don't mean anything to you, know what, Rob, you just taught me. I met someone named Alex. I wish I could take it back now, but I was writing their name down.

I was like, um, is it Alexandria? And I'm like I remember her looking at me like it's Alan And I was like okay. And I didn't even think in that moment, like oh my god, I'm such a fing I just had to make it like you had to make a whole name. I'm robbing. People call me Rob, and I'm like, where'd you get that from? If it's robbed, it must be short for something like no, it's not shure, if anything, because people might be feening too, Like I need to finish the story. This is a mystery. What

did my name got to do with you? Maybe it's our brain, I mean, but don't don't get it twisted. Society over. I guess so good? Damn Yeah, yeah, all right, my guys, the society has Society has trained you to be this way. Society has given you these bioneers. It gave you these fucking colors, like society has taught you all these things. It taught you able ism and totally transfall fact fault be homophobi, racism, colorism, toucht theism like this is society's doing. It's just up to you to

undo it. And it takes time, Like you can't unlearn everything, like at once you're gonna be un learned without your whole life. It's like, don't be too hard on yourself for not being perfect, because that's as the world wakes up. We are too every day. So I appreciate you saying and I'm glad we got school today. I learned a lot about I mean, especially this last part. I agree. I agree. Can you, um, as we wrap up, can you let our listeners know where they can find you

social media and where they can listen to you? So um Instagram smoking Peep, I'll get that out, like you know, smoking Dick, smoking peep smoking like penis no, no you be out here spoken Dick. They'd be working while with the smoking peep Dick. But if you're interested in smoking Dick, let me know. I want to figure out. I like to do anything new on Twitter. I'm the underscore body.

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we're gonna talk about why black people love chicken. He was like, you know he was going to the screen. I'm sure because he ain't black. Well, I wanted to dig into that ship. Did you know that? That's one. It's because there was a lot of chickens in the field. It was the easiest thing to give. But one of the reasons that like slave owners wanted to push that ship is bec as they find eating with hands barbaric, they want to watch that because, yeah, do you know

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to get into our Vanellusha. Because the crazy part about this is everyone assumes it to be a woman. So when you hear this, of course you're gonna think it's a woman. So this comes from the New York Post. A nurse was suspended after stripping off ppe to have sex with a COVID nineteen patience. Oh my god, I remember this. It was a gay dude, right, it was a dude, bro nurse. I'm just saying there, that's what

we're doing. That's what we're doing. Maybe that is what he said beach and and honestly, to be fair, I told y'all my nigga fucked me in every hope possible while I had COVID and he maintained negative status. So I don't know how this works. Maybe you can't get it through sex. I don't know. A male nurse in Indonesia has been suspended after admitting that he stripped off his perse snow protective equipment to have sex in a

toilet with a man infected with COVID nineteen. It is true that there has been a suspected incident of a same sex relationship between a health worker and a COVID nineteen patient at the Wisma Outlet Emergency Hospital. He said the nurse must follow legal processing the Indonesia. The Indonesia expat reported the incident in Jakarta came to light when the patient boasted about the romp on his Twitter account. All right now, so the motherfucking COVID patient decided to brag.

This is that capital building ship. You could have just shut the up, could have just shut up, but it could have just not said nothing. But I ain't gonna hold you if you got COVID? Do you in a hospital I mean, to be fair, we talk about our sexual sescapades quite a bit. Would you mention that you've begged a fine as nurse or doctor and then he came at h a pussy while you had COVID? I think you and I would maybe brad about I would. I would, I would say that, but just maybe I

wouldn't say um, oh damn. I guess I would say no. Let me say I probably wouldn't bring up the COVID part because then it's like, you look, no, but say you announced COVID and then you talk about when you got tested, how you have to maybe stay in the hospital and you had sex in the hospital. It's it's literally just oh, clearly you had sex in the hospital. Twitter like, can we interview them because they're fun well, I mean, I don't know. Do they speak well, yeah,

Jacarta in Indonesia they pretty they do speak English. Oh if you watch De Fiancee Um, there's an Indonesian girl that comes and she moves to Wisconsin and she was like, this is very poor, Like I grew up very rich, and you know, they like have a really weird English because it's all the accents all come from who you learn English from like some people come down like you're like, what the funk? It's all how you learn English? Oh? Yes, this was like this it poor as fun, like they

got bread in Jakarta. Oh yeah, no they do. It's crazy because when I was living in Singapore, all of the scammer Africans live in Jakarta. So like this, it's also mad Nigerians and Jakarta with maccarter, I'm Jakarta. But um we found that out because we met the niggas when we was in Bali and a bitch when I was in when I was in fucking Singapore, we we flew to Bali for seventy five dollars in my nigga, like when you get over there, telling cheap to fly.

So we went to Bally for Christmas and that's where we met these Nigerians and they weren't able to come into Singapore because Singapore is very strict when it comes to Nigerian passport holders. And they was like, yo, Singapore don't let us in because they require like bank statements and ship and clearly they funds ain't legit my nigga. So these I'm not gonna say all Nigerian Nigerians, but Singapore. I'm just saying I want to clear that up because

it's not all Nigerians with the scammers. Is the one that got a problem. I just wanted to tell you guys really quick. I just had a text come through it would love to read. Hi, Gela, I'm writing you on behalf of your conversation this morning with I won't say his name. I just wanted to apologize on the behalf of our company. Our production company has never faced something like this. We stand by our biopic, but by pH is in round and I would love to have

a discussion regarding how our company would move forward. Please let me know when you're free today for a call again. Sincerest apologies, But I see I ain't even gonna hold you that email right there. Bothers me too, because that now they're making it seem like, oh, we want to make sure she doesn't claim that we're racist over here. Pretty good on Patre, I don't, yeah, but I don't understand like your need to point out the BIPOC part,

like what is the BIPOC code? You know? And I probably because in my email I said something about it. I said, did the nobody else was black on the call, see, and That's what I'm talking about. Like so I just I just uh hie good sign. Let me tell you something that is really bringing up dude, Like I hate that ship.