Ep 202: The Breakup Guide

has known Mandy for amost fifteen years. She is absolutely that cut fuck. You know. But I really have sounded and talked like I've been me since since I've been me, since I came out the goddamn well. I think sometimes you when you're like having fun, maybe you like it comes at me too, But I don't know. It's weird, like when I don't like that you also just said that something comes out. No, no, I'm saying you get more hyped. Hear my voice gets louder. I don't think

you get more hood the more like you get. Don't let you get lit. First off, I will for one, say that I don't. I don't like the adjectives of hood and ghetto being used in reference to how I speak. I will say there right, just say am bu jetto or something? But wait, I'm so to me, I am bu jetto. You see I got heels on today. I also figured y'all, since y'all photos of y'all who watch on the YouTube, we'll be coming in here, bitch sweats and graphic teas. And I'm like, this is a sex

pas Can we give sweat and graphic seas? What a bit? Which we? We? You know? I said we? You are the one that looks more gay, and I just will not. I'm not like this fucking mike my hand, yeah, not touched because guess what audio picks up. I don't know if you know you've only been potting for four years. We can hear that. The listener can hear you brambling with a god damn. I mean like it's like a hard bitch, because really, if we want to talk about it,

you want to do an animal press shoes? You got going trying to me? I am spicy spicy show had me come in here and just be a normal person like I've been doing for four years. Normally I'm at the last few episodes. Nothing about you, nothing about you as normal anyway, I can't stand man. You ready, I'll just say, y'all, welcome to another show. For those of you who have not listened to this show before, because you got a problem. They you have a problem, you, guys.

I was always supposed to be about sex, not therapy. We had that episode a long time ago, and maybe she should come back anyway. Anyway, I guess we'll start. Let's do a catchup. It's just us. Uh no, Mustard, what see that? I know? I was like, that was God. No, it wasn't God. He was like, she'd be tripping. Let

me get her. You're done. You're don't know. I'm trying to cross my legs and the problem is no, the problem is a bitch been working out and the way my thighs are burning right now, I don't even know how I'm doing this. I dim sure don't go right No did tonight, But this right here hurts because I've been using like the elastic man's I mean that was shade. He did you? No, no no, not, everyone knows you get

over the feeling. They could tell these sides. I don't be working out, dick, but I am back in the gym. I don't like people saying, like visually like, oh, you don't work out because you look like, yeah, that's what people assume when they don't see you as thin. Period. I hear you. I just like, I'm a I know that lets me be like I'm healthy, I'm healthy and

I run circles around you. Well, no, I just have to have that conversation with a Twitter person because they were like, yeah, well they considered me trying to get to a healthy way. I said, nig ain't nothing wrong with my blood pressure or cholesterol or anything else, and so yeah, like you're just seen as unhealthy if you're not thin. So I don't that's why. I mean, I made the joke. But yeah, I'm in the gym now.

But I could very well be in the gym and still have this body and just tone up and people still gonna view me as unhealthy. It's weird because, like, I don't know, healthy way is an interesting one and I feel like I feel like it doesn't prescribe to someone that's your size. Like I watch a lot of like my six hundred pound life, and there's like I understand that you don't get it because you've always been small. No, no no, no, I'm telling when people say healthy weight

for a side always pounds and people still fat shaming me. Bro, you don't read the YouTube comments and mind you. My other show is also very visual where I sit in a chair like this, I'm getting fat shamed after losing eighty pounds because I'm still not thin. I'm probably never going to be. Then. I'm also five ft one, so my weight if I gained five pounds, it may look like I gained twelve because I'm five ft one. So no, I get what you're saying, but not people are calling

me unhealthy and big bitch. I'm between I go between one five and one six and that I'm saying like I feel like when people that know knew you from back in the day, or they'll see a picture I catch up with someone like damn, Mandy got skinniest fun and I'm mad, right the people that know me as two hundred and thirty pound Mandy. Yes, and so yeah the fact like again, I'm just like Damn, I can't win for losing because when I was at my smallest, which was like one fifty. I got down to one fifty.

People were telling me I look sick. What made you want to start um? Just because my partner now, girl, I'll be taking sea moss pills. I felt like, baby, I wasn't healthy. That's why I called the COVID so bitch, I'd be like just being healthy. I got Elderberry ship in my house. I ain't never heard of none of that ship. He got me taking a little o regular oil drops onto my tongue. Yeah, a bitch is like just amping her immune system, especially being that I did.

I thought that. I was like, bitch, I'm gonna survive when the world ends. So I think COVID, well, even though people are ain't symtematic like it does is lower your I read about that. I don't know if it's real, but yeah, so, I mean the part of working out in the gym. Uh me and my nigga been going hiking and I can't some days I can't keep up with him in bed, and I'd be embarrassed because he got me by seventeen years bitch, And I'm like, all right, you know I'm not going to the gym for the

YouTube prime at your assho it's for day. It's for day, Like most of this ship I do and like you know what I mean, do it for dick, babe. If you do it for nothing else, I don't blame you know. And so legs shaking, bitch, I'm gonna just sit like a nig baby can get this? They on her feet, just put the I don't know y'all gonna get this crotch because the way you wanna put you you wanna you want to pause and put sweats on? No what? Oh no, I'm a fucking foot stul that's baby. Come on.

So anyway, Um, Mandy's feet are very very like close to my face and this is free interesting. Don't do that. Let's go anyway. What's the catch up? What you've been up to? Him? So I'm gonna get comfortable. Our show comes out on Monday. I can't talk about it yet, but I'm super excited. I have something announcing on Tuesday. I don't even know the date, but um, you know, I finally got to tell Mandy, and I was so excited about telling you. I guess this is like pretty stupid.

I got the announcement, but Toody announced me. But I just and It's funny because I've been wanting to tell Mandy for so long, but you know when he wants something to be perfect. Oh, I just thought because we ain't been good, no, I wanted to support. I wanted

you to like see it with your own eyes. I was like, she's gonna be so excited just like see this and every time, you know, other little ship will go wrong and be like day, I won't want to tell Mandy because we've been having funk ups, you know, and I guess you guys will figure it off. Yeah, like, damn, I thought we was doing good. Another argument, God damn. Oh. I actually meant like, oh, no, I was talking about us. Oh, I mean, but this is actually I'm okay. It's well,

I don't you know what's funny? Like who was it? Was? It? Kila talked to someone and they were like, how are you Mandy? But you know, like it's interesting because the more I don't know, we do this podcast and like even though like we still argue and those things happen. I always laugh when people say we're gonna break up because I'd be like, nigga, you know what we've been through. You think this little tension you heard like one week that that was gonna do. Niggas don't know. Niggas don't

know at all, But anyway, let's stay on a good track. Yeah, yeah, I'm working really hard and um bitch paint and doing Ship. I've been on the ladder and ship my nails. Everything looks fucking crazy and I can't wait till it's finally done.

I'm super excited. And yeah, um also, y'all know, I have a show coming with Fuse and um my filming got pushed to COVID, But that doesn't necessarily mean that it doesn't come out at the same time, which is kind of scary because that basically means you just gotta hurried up all you about to be on that Tyler parent schedule that's gonna not got a whole season in two weeks. Actually, yes, that nigga said we're gonna do

February fourteen to eight. That was like, okay, because it's supposed to be eight episode plus the outtake plus to read yep, two weeks. So I don't know if it's coffee or cocaine I'll do, but I am going to make sure I get this ship done anyway, That's right, it's stressful, but I think sometimes being busy is like a little fun because you forget, like you know the rest of your life is falling apart and stuff like that. Sometimes it's fine. I think that that's why I really

like being busy. Like to me, when I am not busy, then I think about too much ship, and then my mind just be going. I have my anxiety is already bad, but apparently it's to leave her thing to overthink. Y'all know, I don't well, they say it, I don't mind is the devil's workshop, and baby, that ship is true as it is being especially when you're going through it. Oh

my god, please, well right now, give me a reo excute. Well, I know you're you have an announcement for what you've been working on with your project, but I've shared with y'all too, like a bitch is like about to drop

her own products. So I literally like I had to have a woo saw moment on my on my conference call this morning and at it because even talking about the numbers, the money we have to raise, the money that's going out, I'm just like, to be real, this is all a lot of money to me, Like we're

doing like possibly fifty. You hate when people act like the money that they're talking about with you isn't that big of a deal, Like, well, well the I is gonna be like it's like, well it's like like eight thousand, Well well yeah, and right now it's fifty. And I'm just like, you have to understand, I don't come from a family. And I'm telling this to my partner. I said, I don't come from a family of entrepreneurship. I don't come from a family with money like you know, I

grew up. I talked food stamp, section eight um, all of that. And so in terms of what a lot of money is, this last year, I've seen the most money that anyone in my family essentially has ever seen, like and so it is like, I don't know what As an entrepreneur, seeing these numbers is just like, oh, this is this is what I'm dealing with. This is what I have going out. This is like even my credit card bill, I had to ask my accounting like, is this right? There's my delta? Miles said, I spent

forty thousand on my car last year. Who's who's spending forty thousand? I remember when I didn't even see half of that as a salary in a year. That's why you gotta look at if you only get them one to per sent it back. Whatever the funk that ship is, you know crazy. The entrepreneurial ship is interesting because, like I've said to you all the time, like I don't care if I gotta go back to the nine five, right,

I would never like. The reason being is like I don't I feel like Twitter and like niggas have really made me think like this is the only way to go, and I don't ever want to feel like if I don't make it as an entrepreneur, I won't make it like it's something bitch I'm not. I'll go back to sucking dick and my my price is gonna be real high. After nine five wasn't bad. But you know what though, we had two different nine of five. So if you guys have never listened to us before or you've forgotten,

you need a reminder. Mandy was an accountant, so she was like it was a tax accountant who sometimes had to be in the office during season. That would be nine fifteen deadline, ten fifteen deadline. Because I did taxes for hedge funds and private equity funds and in investment banks, and so my work weeks I cried at work. I literally cried at work. I would work seventy eight hour weeks.

I would let her know we need to record some more episodes because I literally be able to leave the office when my When my first quarter review came around, I didn't get good stars because I was leaving telling them I had a doctor's appointment. Every time we had to do the studio, we did brilliant idiots, well while I'll beyond this week And during break during the London bro oh no, I ended up switching in in Adida's out. But literally I would cry at work. And again it

was salary. They thought they was doing something because if I stayed past seven they ordered me dinner. Whoopie do they gave me a car when I left the office at two am and still had to be back at nine am the next morning. That was And honestly I was doing and I was a public account and shout out to my public accountants at the Big four's, I was miserable and on a sleep that I will never

do it again. I'm sorry, No, I'm gonna stick and lay on my back and give it to you, baby, and you don't even have to give it up because bitch, I might just be able to lay on my back. It's like a plastic dick on the only fans you and listen, entrepreneur, it's not so feel me. You guys

may know. I used to work in tech. More specifically, we could say tech sales, tech engineering, because I was at the first start of the show, I was working in telecommunications, um, selling like tracking devices for GPS, anything with a SIM card, I'd sell it. If a billboard that you're looking at was digital, if the cab had shipped going on, like and you wonder how it has WiFi, there's a chip in there, like that's a cell phone,

and I was selling that ship. And really why my job was not hard but easy about hard but easy is because when I needed time, I would just go on an appointment. Yeah, I had a luxury, so that was fun. And then, um, towards the latter part, when I got a new role, which is really what was making me feel like, oh my god, this is terrible. I made like another I made way more bread, but it was I was miserable. I was installing Ethernet street cuts, figuring out how much it was, Like I never I think.

I would always tell you was like to close the street down for like six hours, like who would think? But ship like that disaster recovery software a w S, which is Amazon Web Services. Anyway, Basically I was doing tech stuff and I always felt really excited about being a woman in that field, and that already made me feel good like I was doing something different and now in this new place in life doing entrepreneurial ship, like our podcast was one thing, but your new ship with

your box is something different. Me doing this, this is actual investing. See our podcast, it was a little bit smaller investments. It was like studio equipment closed our first tour, though we did put bread in there, you know, like we we funded all those venues you all went to. But um that was reflex um everyone that showed up to all the sold ol shows. But anyway, um nah, this time it's like you said, fifty racks winded out already, likes you gotta really and when you want to make

something good. And the thing with I'm doing now, you know, we've been to a lot of them in summer, shitty summer not And I was like I wanted to be the best, and it's black own. It has to be the best. The new place that y'all will figure about tomorrow or if you're listening tomorrow, it's in Soho. And I remember talking to my partner and they were like, nah, you know, Brooklyn's gonna be cheaper and or this is gonna be cheaper. And I was like, I want fucking Soho.

And I wanted to be the only black one, and I want when I get my fucking article about the ship, I want niggas to know. And when we fucking moved into that building, I said, actual, don't you know a lot of black people are gonna come here, and I don't want that to be an issue because its gonna a lot of niggas And like they were laughing and they were like, yo, like no, like this is so Ho. We got designer show. Yeah, but niggas. I did, though.

I want to get into our same as because we got a lot to talk about and I'm excited about this episode or whatever. Um do you wanna rock out with our Vanilla Ships? So for those of you guys listening for the first time, our Vanilla Ships segment is like sex Ship in the news. Yeah, so I wanted to say, by the way, I only picked the subject for this week's episode, Breakup Guide, because I feel like everybody goes through a break up at some point, and

this is really fun. And if you may get depressed, even though we're gonna tell you how to break up with someone, how to get over a breakup and all of that, this week we need a little fun. And what more fun in an article that's listed with the headline your cock is mine? Now. This is from Vice. A hacker locked into an Internet connected chastity cage and demanded ransom. Now, a few things I want to say really quick. If you don't know what a chastity cage is.

There's a chastity belt, which we've learned about in historical times. Normally there for women, right, you'd have to wear them and unlock it when you like lost your virginity or were able to lose your virginity, but they're supposed to ubstain you from sex. A chastity cage is part of the humiliated humiliation fetish right in d S m Um and yeah, so I guess they have one that's bluetooth.

But here's what I love. So normally when I've heard about like hackers demanding ransom and some sex shit, it's an email that's like, I'm in your webcam, I saw you jerk off. Send me this money. I'm gonna write. Well, this one was literally physical. A hacker took control of people's Internet connected chastity cage and said your cock is mine out. According to one of the victims. For a screenshot from the conversation, uh so does the article say

how many people were victims? Because many niggas out here got dicks in WiFi chastity case at the moment they hacked. So. In October last year, security researchers found that the manufacturer of an Internet of Things chastity cage, a sex story that puts users um that users put around their penis to prevent erections, is used in b D s M and can be unlocked remotely, had left an API exposed,

giving giving malicious hackers a chance to take control. That's exactly what happened, according to a security researcher who abstained the strange train shots. A victim who asked to be identified only as Robert, said that he received a message from a hacker. Hacker I'm sorry, I got my teaser. It don't matter. I'm sitting here talking through goddamn and visilized. I'm gonna need you to get your words again. I did get montegoed in, but it's definitely not affecting my speech.

I wanted an excuse. Okay, I'm just like really concentrating too hard. I feel like everybody's looking at me. We got two lights, Like there's not We're not the only people in here. I just really don't like I don't like reading out but I read books not to people like I can like improve on my own, but I just can't, like this is a script. I don't god, Okay. The hacker demanded a payment of point oh to bitcoin

around seven fifty bucks. In this moment to unlock the device, he realized his cage was definitely locked and he could not gain access. Fortunately, I didn't have this locked locked on myself when it happened, and so the owner of the cage basically had no control anymore. And he's like, I couldn't open it, I couldn't do anything. Um, but yeah, basically, these hackers show you that anything connected to the Internet,

like you're fucked. Well, hey, guys, Um, if you are indeed a hacker who listens to horrible decisions, I need you to spend your time on Sally May bitch like they just be hacking the wrong ship. Bitch. It started at forty thod. I don't know how that ship up, but your s girl, they ain't ever gonna get it, ain't it ain't never gonna fall off in seven years. No, it's that not with Sally Maybeitch everything else, but goddamn student loans. So yeah, like, yeah, you know, so I

need you want to hack the right ship. I've been reading things which I think is really mean, people who like, we're talking about student loans being wiped out with the new Oh damn, it's this week. Damn if the world let's knock on fucking would my nigga let me talk to my accounting because your student loans only gets wiped out if you make below a certain amount of money too, we need to make they were I saw like people tweeting like, oh why would they wipe out um student

loan debt when I had to pay mine? It's like, dude, like times changed, like civil rights, Arab nigga, you think people like hey, y'all letting them niggas out of jail smokedweed. I was like, Yo, don't you want to see things change? It's fucking done. Like I could see being a little salty, but to the point where you're like, don't do it. Don't I paid mine off. It's not fair student education in America. It's it's so wild that it's a business

and not a privilege. And like when you just think of other people in the world that are smarter than Americans, and we wonder, like, oh my god, there's so much more articulate, like Americans are just um No, it's because maybe they didn't have to fucking pay their way like us. Like ship, it was crazy. I had it free, but I took out financial aid because I was living in New York City, like and I couldn't work and take

seven classes a semester like I was doing. So like how how awesome am I going to pay my bills? I mean I was sucking a little dick too, But like Sally, good for you, you know what I mean? Good for you, sister, I hate you. Stop are you doing with the chastities? Yeah? So black sexcellence. I love the nelance time. So this is our segment, guys, but we are going to educate you. Um. I know we talked a lot about sex, but we do like to be educational over here at the horrible decisions. Uh network um,

shout out black effect um. But basically this is a network. Who else is on this whole? Just hilarious? So she was working with a merry Man? Wasn't she with Mary Man two sister? Anyway? Our Black s excellence for this week is James Baldwin. A lot of you guys may know because he is one of the very few that we get to learn during Black History Pictures of James

and My House. Yeah. So. James Baldwin is a writer in social critic who is perhaps best known for his nineteen fifty five collection of essays, Notes of a Native Son and his groundbreaking nineteen fifty six novel Giovanni's Room, which, bitch, what about Marvin's Room? That's you? Maybe that's where got it from? Maybe alright, Drake, I see you, which depicts themes of almost no, never mind, this is not what Drake meant with Marvin's Room. We don't know that because

giovan needs room. Did you know what they say about sexuality? And bisexuality. The novels stood out among literary critics because it features all white characters, unlike the civil rights activists

other novels, which centered the experience of black people. I'm mad that he had to involve white people, but okay, Baldwin's been a majority of his literary and activist career educating others about black and queer identity, as he did during his famous lecture titled Race, Racism and the Gay Community at a meeting of the New York Chapter of Black and White Men Together known as Men of All Colors Together. So he was all lives matter, tyger. He

couldn't just keep it blake. I'm gonna be honest with you, James Baldwin is pretty black and people black. Why he had involved white people? I don't know if they I'm asking you, you you why he had involved white and he from back in the day. Maybe he had to at the time, like right, but I mean, he, James, you better had been forcing. Why the crackers had to be involved? I don't I just want to know. But what I know is James is great. He's revolutionary, he's

a black as um. He's got some amazing like like you ever looked up James Baldwin like interview clips, like just the way he be reading motherfucker's in interviews, but um no, he's dope as funk. I really liked this segment. Um. I really cannot wait until the days where we can start incorporating you know, a Heather Hunter into this people like of that. You know, you know what I'm talking about.

The points start that's gonna be your job. So you guys are gonna get black sexcellence modern era from Wheezy, and I'm going to continue giving y'all. I'm gonna make myself one once I'm on a dick stuck is free or something. You know what I'm saying is okay? Anyway, Well, our whole facts for this week are just what they what they sound like facts from hose Better Us um

this one. So we normally do something like sex whole facts, but I really wanted to talk about breakup facts because that episode is about you know, So this one I thought was fucking hilarious because Monday's are my favorite is on one of our shirts, and most breakups are announced on Mondays and Somebody's weak. They happened right before spring break because nigga's ship and very few breakups. The cur

on Christmas, Well that's isn't that lovely? Now? Zoe Kravitz, the queen that she is literally my fucking hair and broke up with her nigga on his birthday, had her homegirl, her sisters had sent divorce. But it had to write like that was an ice it like you did that strategically, which shout out to the queen. Um if you wanted to see Zoe Kravitz his husband's dick, it's on love and love, but it's it's pink, ain't it. No, he's mixed. I think you think he's mixed. His dick is beautiful,

beautiful love by Gaston Noah. It's on Netflix, the one where you can watch a threesome and they had the actual actors do their own porn scenes. Oh his dick is nice. Yeah, damn So she left a beautiful nigga dick. God did that mean he fucked up? He did? Because dick be making as say it? Do give me like, I know you ain't ship, but damn ain't nobody else. Don't get dead, dude, same, you know what I mean?

Like I definitely like up. So another study has found that people who have recently fallen in love have some of the same symptoms of O c D, for example, frequently washing their hands repeatedly checking to see if the door is closed. I looked a little more into this, and they say that like when you're in love or like it's a new feeling, like everything is so exciting that you're you feel like you're losing other areas. Have you done anything like that because I know you've got

a new boyfriend. No, really, I mean I'm way more catering, Like I'm a whole cater to you as Beyonce as bitch like before Mandy is me when I start hearing like he's slurping on his drink. Baby, you want another drink, I'll make you another drink. I cannot want to talk about this. I'm brilliant idiots because I would love for

them to title it the Revolution of Man. No, seriously, like, I mean, even girl, I woke up a maide a nicer breakfast one day, bitch, I pull do you and made avocado TOAs he ain't and then I put a little egg on there, but you know, diggause, I was like, are you okay with a running yolk because a lot of black people like niggas like a Friday. Well, I like my ship running, so I had to ask him. And then and then, y'all, I sprinkled some ship that

came down from the heavens. If y'all ain't had the everything Bagel season, I put that on my bit home came out with everything bagel season. I'm just saying, like, that's my avocado ship. It's my ship. There's one thing you gotta put in avocado toasted cheat go. You want to be me so bad, but you wasn't even cooking for niggers. I was cooking for myself though, But now I gotta make two pieces of toast I do. I chopped red onions in it. I put lowies. That's the

real ship, opposed to like regular salt. And then when you're mixing the avocados, I put a little coconut and minos from Trader Joe's because just give it a little pizzazz. I squired a little lemon on that motherfucker. I do garlic powder, onion powder. Then I do some creole season because I'm extra, but no, man, I do none of those seasonings, just everything bagel Okay, yeah, you're doing a lot in the morning, bitch. I'm sorry, but I barely

want to make a smoothie in the morning. I'm like, okay, well on top, I do put the everything with Vehicel seasoning, and then I chop up a little to me and he was like, oh, that's what that was. He liked it, he said, like my little toast. No, I don't think I really get O c D. And it's crazy because he's one of my first partners that literally like he's O c D. Was washing his hands. But then I don't know if that's a COVID thing because I met him during COVID, so I don't know if that's an

O c D new relationship. You could have been dirty, he could have been, but now he watched his hands because the COVID the other one I love. And maybe as many can attest to this, I'm not sure couples who have similar drinking habits are most likely to say together. Researchers found that among couples and one person was a heavy drinker and the other was not, forty five to fifty of them were divorced by their tenth anniversary. Oh yeah, give me an alcoholic. I do love getting love. I

of to drink like and that's our thing. Like when he comes, I'm like, you want darker white today, Like he's more of a dark liquor drinker. I'm a white liquor drinker. But we we matched with drinks. And sorry, guys, were in Harlem. If you hear um those sirens because you know what I'm just saying, because when we was recording remotely, when I was in the Bronx, ya was hearing him sirens and no, there was way more sirens. Drink covid, like of kids. It's the heid of COVID.

Now people is dying again the same way in l A. L A Is New York. You know, one and every four people and all I have COVID. Oh, by the way, guys, for y'all listening, my mom is doing a little better. My mom currently hads COVID. W Are youn't tell me that the symptoms Like I literally just insta carted. Yes, I instatcrted all the immunity boosters because my mom, being my mom, what she used to do when we were sitting growing up. I said, Mom or no, she's like

I'm drinking gatorade, bitch. If you don't gatorade is not gonna help you with fucking COVID. I do be drinking gatoradeymore. I was like, moms, this is not just a cold because I told you we never really got medicine. My mother just used to give us some motherfucking gatorade. Like you'll be fine. I wondered why this mic is short. It's because you were here. No offense, You're just sorry, alright. Anyway, those guys, do you have one more? No? No, no,

that's the horrid derve, which is our second y'all. Y'all, I mean we are serving you with tip, bro, So this is the sex tip. Maybe I just wanted you to know if you're not watching on YouTube, has hoisted herself because y'all, her position g v y'all something new to happen, and so I want to give this tip to y'all. But let me tell you why she's so shocked.

Mandy shock, something new happened because when you have been holding through the trenches of your life, you really feel like ain't nothing else, when every hole has been used interview never hole even mins, bitch. I'll swell not with a dick, but some nut don't went up knows before anyway, Speaking of nuts, this is an amazing that I would love for the fellas to introduce with consent into the bedroom with their partners. Now, my nigga just know I'm a nasty ass hope. So I was just excited when

it started happening. We never discussed it beforehand, which was crazy. But if if you if you don't know, if your partner is a nasty bitch, don't do this without consent, because it threw me off a little bit. So the hordeur for this week is called finger painting, and basically what happened is my man who does come multiple times? Hold on one moment. I want you guys to guess what this is about, because I when she said this, had an image in my head finger painting. Benson, tell

me what you think this is about? Finger painting? What do you think? What do you think in a sexual realm? Just sir, look ay, none of them guests. Let me tell the niggas what it is. Bro what with what? No? Yeah, but it wasn't that way, okayn't that way as much? Same? I thought the same as well. So this is what happened right. So, for whatever reason, I don't know where

he came up with it, but he wasn't. I wasn't swallowing this evening because he was coming from back shots and normally we do missionary so you know, just just come right now and puss it. Anyway, he was coming on my back. This is the instructions. So as he was coming on my back, first off, step one being doggy style. I mean, I guess this could happen in any other position as well, but this is how we did it. So he was in doggy style or whatever.

Right as he was ready to ejaculate, he pulled it out and came all over my back and I'm feeling it and I'm like, oh baby, you're coming a lot tonight. Oh. So he came all over my back. Right, he took these two fingers, his own white up the nut. I was feeling him just I thought he was just rubbing it into my back. No, the nigga decided to make me simba. And from the back he starts wiping his nuts on my forehead and then down my cheek and then down my face and then he puts it on.

This has to be some African charge. I don't know. Maybe I don't know. In Brazil they'd be doing ship well. He came three times this night, and each time he would take his nut and then he started getting I was like, Nick, you can't do this when my hair is done. He did start then wiping it on my neck and into my hair. My hair was hard as fuck. After we got done, something about Mandy, I said, God, damn it, I said, I didn't shower prior to him coming over. I said, great, I have not like the bet.

Like I started feeling like my neck was stiff because it was driving nut. At this point, it wouldn't been working for a minute. And I'm like, and as we know, Mandy did say she went to brunch with Commodore. I did pearl necklace. I know what it feels like when nut drives up on you, but I will say it was almost like a different I felt a spirit chal connection when he was wiping his nut on my face in the way that he was doing it, and I was like, it was like, it was almost like, damn

you a nasty nigger. I love you, Like that's what was in my mind, Like you was such a nasty fucking I was like God damn, you're amazing because I like nasty, like daffydig. It's like and I was like, no man has ever finger painted they're nuts on my face. And it was so sensually done too, so it wasn't like aggressive where I felt just like a brushstroke. It was like a what's he do? Does he paint? No? This nig ain't no pack that nigga canvas. You mean I'm his canvas. So that is the hor dur for

this week. If you want to try finger painting, it is taking your nut from one part of the body after you ejaculate on her and bringing it up. It's not the things you may do with your child. So I'm just saying it was amazing. So fingerpainting, y'all do that. Ship. Well, if the finger painting doesn't go well, you guys might have to break up. And here we are at the

breakup now, Yeah, we've all been through one. I wanted to do this episode particularly because people ask a lot of breakup advice and we had an episode with Amelia Ortiz. Shout out to Amelia. She is a Bruja who is amazing at connecting people with their emotions themselves and really

helping you guide yourself spiritually. I think hers was episode eighty eight at the time, so many people listen to it, and I was like, I wonder if that many people love Amelia or if that many people need breakup help, and um, she talked about cutting chords and ship like that, but what she didn't talk about was how to do it. So we gotta talk about how to do it, how to break up with someone if you want to, and

then if you're broken, were done. Okay, Well some people don't take it that way, and that person is me. This isn't working for because I'm a Christy Teagan. You with me, I'm gona be like, no, are you? It's not like do do you want to hear someone say it's not it's not you, it's me. That's I thought that's what they'd be doing in the movies. That's how they break up, right, Yeah, But like, nah, I've I've

talked with some pretty like intellectual niggas. They haven't like given me no bush it like that, or I break up with them because they're lying, cheating. But here's number one, let's do the break up guy defining for yourself what isn't working? First? Acknowledge the complicated feelings you have around the situation, even if the realization struck you like lightning.

This doesn't need to come with clarity. Say things about growing apart, specific things about UM, maybe the inability to provide care for your partner if they have mental health issues. Like you know you you're you're acting this way. I feel like I'm drowning with you. UM difference in opinions of its finance, politic values, and not having your emotional

needs and interest met. I sent this text years ago and I wanted to read it because I was like, I did an okay job, and I screenshot at it because I actually always had it in my favorite because I felt like I broke up with this nigga really well through what text? You did an awful job. Actually, you broke up with a motherfucker over text, and you think that was a great job. Okay, let me explain why I had to text so now I realized I

and shipped for this. I cursed him out, hung up, and then texted him this is awful, but let's read the text. I realized I'm spiraling, and I think the reason I'm spiraling is because every is so ceation I have with you is a negative one as far as it comes to complicated conversations. When we're good, we're amazing. I'm so enamored with you in those moments, and I see exactly why we're together because we work when there's

no stress. However, when you get stressed out, it's literally something that drives me crazy to the point that I feel uncomfortable with my own life. You get stressed, and it's such a burden on me that I think I end up worse than you should have been an email, it's already way too long. Men do not read them long as scrolling out roll back a lot. He was ah, so I said, I feel like I need to list out the issues I have, and I will do so. You do not do bullet points starting with one when

you get piste off. I should not be your point of contact. That's it too. I have let you know about reason one, and you have refused to find a therapist or someone else to talk to because it really cannot be me. Well, then that means maybe you weren't a good partner for him, because when he gets upset, why why can't he vent to you? He was a very mean person when he was in Okay, you know, And so I think that when and I think a lot of people dated that person when they're in a

bad mood. Everybody gotta fucking be in a bad mood. I don't, I'm talking people know, it's hard, and I mean, he was a nice dude, but like he couldn't he couldn't manage his stress at all. I can I just point out to this for those of y'all in relationships, Um, I love that you brought this up, because this was

a conversation that me and my boyfriend just had. We both just had a really, really really bad day on one of the days that we were playing to see each other, Like, I was piste off with my fucking shipping debacle with the boxes, and he had just bought a camera and it wasn't working and he had to go return it, like, and he was just upset going back and forth with that, and so we we didn't see each other, of course, and I said, I said, honestly,

this is what I prefer because he's come over sometimes and he's either in a bad mood, and I always know when he's in a bad mood, and he he loves that I know when he's in a bad mood. But I'm like, I don't know who who your past partners were that still didn't respect when you were in a bad mood. But I get it. And so he

said that he really loves that about me. But I said, honestly, moving forward, if you're in a bad mood, I would much rather you say let's reschedule, because a part of that energy is not something I want to be around, because we really enjoy each other's company, and when you come over and you're you're in a bad mood, I feel like I'm now walking on eggshells. But now I'm

just not enjoying our time together. And I would rather have more times where we enjoy each other than times where it's just like, all right, this energy is, but you gotta you gotta be able to recognize those moments and like be like, it's okay to tell someone you can't see them. I think I had someone tell me that I was hot, normalize that he was like, yo,

I can't, like I can't, I can't. But a lot of us take it personally or think that he's automatically out sucking another bit a maturation like and it's just like, yeah, you don't need this. One is interested practice your oh no, mine skipped, practice your mindset, writing down why the breakup

is necessary for you. And this is really good if you're dating someone who's toxic, because it's hard because it feels good when like you know, even that, like I was dating somebody and this, like I said, it was a minute ago that I really fucked what he was cool, but like he was mean and I've seen that streak and I was like, I gotta remember, like nigga, ain't becu um. Three run the words past your friends. This is a controversial one because I don't like that. I

think your friends will either skew you one way. I think the only thing that you can do if you're going to talk to a friend about it is be like, yo, I made the decision already. Tell me if you like this approach. Don't ask a friend if they think you

should break up or do this. Don't because I will say the problem with that is we overshare his girlfriends and so a lot of times, if you're at the breaking point with your partner, you've probably already overshared all of the bad qualities and awful moments in your relationship with this partner with your friends, to where, of course your friends are gonna be like, girl, just lead that already, Like he's called you all this stress, You've called me crying.

I'm sick of hearing about it. Leave them, And so I think that two before reaching that point, as women, we should probably stop sharing all of the negative things about our relationship. And it's crazy because I still still land I had one yet in nine months, so or a baby. Well, the other one is acknowledging their emotions and their pain, and I love this one. Make sure

that they're done sharing their side before you leave. While it may be uncomfortable, you need to be prepared for periods of silence, even crying, but regardless of emotions, stay clear about your reasons and listen to theirs. How to respond to those questions is remember I don't know is a valid statement. You can say things like I don't know if you really don't know, not everything deserves an explanation because you may not know what's going on with

a certain thing, so it can be okay. Don't spiral and try to make something up if it's really just I don't know. Um, you can repeat their answer if they try to say this the same thing, and it's okay to say I'm sorry. And the other one is don't reach out right away. Losing a genuine connection is a bit like losing an eye in your world will feel like it fell off, and you may experience some regrets.

It's normal. When you were together the world widened a bit, but now the vision shifts, so it's gonna feel like you're getting half of what you used to see. Which is a great explanation because I think even when you break up with someone that you don't even funk with anymore, like you're mad at them, or they cheated or they did something mean like not mean, um, deceitful, you still

feel like something's missing. You're like, well, I'm used to this routine or whatever, So like, yeah, I think that that was a really good one because you definitely need the space before you jump back in there and can check on someone and do all that ship um. And it says this, I like, because there's always this thing

of do you delete everything? What do you do our chai reminders of them relationship, removing certain social media accounts like on photos, archiving them, um, if there are gifts and photos, putting them in a box on a drive, maybe taking them away from the phone immediately, like but just you know, putting them in a certain place. Um, this one's interesting. Can you be friends? An hour later? It says that most couples, what do you think for

a year long relationship? It depends. I'm not gonna lie. I've said you shouldn't funk friends. So to me, it's hard that if you can't be in a relationship, I don't know how realistically, Uh, it makes sense to be friends with them, especially immediately after a break. I had a sneeze, but it's COVID and like, I didn't know want people. Oh yeah, don't sneeze on me, bitch. We would have fought right here on camera on the YouTube. Get it. So I don't worse though, Um oh, she

could be came on with a fucking bit. You don't anyway, No, I just I do. I don't feel like you should remain friends, um with someone. The problem is too when it comes to relationships. A lot of people gauge the time in the relationships, so at the time they feel wasted at the time they felt spent with that person. So a lot of people if they've been in a relationship for a long time with someone, they feel obligated

to hold onto a friendship. It's okay for someone to have been in your life for a season and to completely let them go. That is okay. I don't feel like I feel like a lot of people hold onto this friendship with this person because they've been with them for so long. That's not necessary. I don't want to be your friend. But I will say there's probably one or two people, definitely one, but there may be another one where I was like m m, or are they

really someone that I shouldn't have been with? Or did I just not know how to be with them in that moment? Like and I can acknowledge that, like any saying that they weren't from me, it's just like I didn't know how to be their girlfriend and never you know, like it takes a lot of growth, and I mean truth rely dating older men, Like that's really been where my life has been. Like so that's been hard now and I'm not gonna lie again. Just with growing and

learning yourself more. Yeah, Like if I would have met my boyfriend now five years ago, I know I was a completely different person and I may not why your home. I'm yeah that part, but I may not have known how to be a good partner to him, like which I wasn't cooking for niggas and I wasn't expecting Like there's that episode where my my mom was on yeah, and you were like, you cooking for him? I mean my nigga. Pretty much, I feel like it was my boyfriend.

It was like a love the first sight type of thing. So even like our relationship started the first day we met. But that's the unfair thing to say, because you can't judge the magnitude of someone else's relationship and how they're progressing it, right, Like people show their love differently, so when you're getting to know someone, like their gestures are different.

Women can do chivalrous things too, right, So whether you're dressing up for someone and putting that effort in that you're into, or trying to surprise them with something, or having those moments like I'd still really stand by I think those things are part of dating. But you're like,

I'm not cooking for nigga. We got a title and he got that side because I said, just so you know, all my friends know you as my boyfriend, and he didn't argue, so that meant we were together, okay, because now I will tell you I beat that and he just said, okay, so that's when we were together. I'm glad you have your ma. Now if you have been broken up with, here are the five stages of grief from a breakup. Nigga. This ship is so real that it's not even funny. This ain't speaking to me. I

don't know about what this feel like. Denial, okay that that is the number one. Hey tripping this. I don't even need to read this ship. Hey tripping that, nigga, hes gonna be calling me talk. We know. This is probably why a lot of people's like call it a break because not bro, you got broken up with, but you went denial and now y'all back together. But this one's really funny because I've watched myself do this literally, like with my last breakup. I remember it. I was like,

so the second one is anger. I was like, okay, so they make really gonna call me it as we Okay, I'm about the funk around and I went out just like I said, if you want that pussy, ain't hurting nobody but yourself. You ain't hurting him, I hate him all right. Then the bargaining, this one is a good one. Bargaining what during this breakup you may feel vulnerable and helpless, and in these moments it's not uncommon to look for ways to regain control or want to feel like you

can affect the outcome again. So basically they say you may start bargaining with God or a higher power in return from heal relief, bargaining with that person trying to get them back, um or anything like basically saying if I only had more time, they would have stayed. If I only did this, that's your bargaining. It's like you like going over and over again on what you could have done. Um, then I only gave him a threesome, he wouldn't have left me. Depression that's the fourth stage,

basically saying it's a quiet stage of grief. Um, you may run from the emotions by trying to stay busy and do all this other ship but falling into depression. And the fifth stage is your acceptance stage. Not necessarily that means you're like happy, but means that like you understand what's going on, Like ultimately, this is what had to happen, this was a healthy choice for me, or this is what that person wanted and have to respect what they wanted. Um, but no, I like those so

how to get over it? Now? I did pull something up from Oprah Meg, but I feel like Mandy and I could put our ship in there because I don't know if Oprah can really be the Hoprah that no, because she's still got no. I mean Hopra as in us allowing yourself time. Now, this one is a good one because you know your friends will be like, bitch, you gotta didn't you gotta like you gotta take your time if you don't know, because I haven't been through a breakup? But have you never helped friends through a

break up? But I've never done that. That's not what I feel like, Mandy, you would be a fucking bitch through a break up. Like if I like called you like for crying, you'd be like girl, No, remember you know how to help friends? Well, I gotta nigg if you want to get flown out? You did say that to me? Did he did you out? But that's how I helped? That wasn't right. I got a whole bunch of nice looking niggas. You want an NBA player or wrapper.

Do you know what? I called Alex crying one time over nigga and he literally listened to me for maybe five minutes and he goes, Nigga, shut up. Can you like go through your DM and he told just find the first blue check. You can't, You're gonna be fine. I was like, that's how I helped my friends, my girl, will you what's happen nigga? You want I help you find him? I mean, I'm a real friend. But see

that's the toxic ship. You can't be toxic. You can't just get under someone to get over them immediately when you really need time to get over, because then you just get word. Yeah. But then if you don't really break up and maybe he comes back, now, you don't miss out your chance and the nigger you probably would have. You know what I meant, he stopped giving the hole hope. So this one can consider deleting your ex's number for now.

I love that one. Nod deleted. No, there's WhatsApp, there's snapchat, they got my email because they booked my flight. There's too many other ways. It doesn't do nothing, no, no no, no deleting it. So you won't text, like deleting their Instagram because there's just too much. There's too much access. It's it's trying, You're trying. It's a step. And then I have to go through all those apps. By the time I get to the fifth one, I'm gonna texting

nigga like, so you really wasn't gonna hit me? Oh, I'm blocked the nigga cutting out and blocked them back. You know what I mean. It's like, it's so help unblocked the old may once we toxic. This ain't working. Unblocked him after I got mad at him. I can't ever when I got mad at it before. We had a flight together the next day and I blocked him and he emailed me like are you serious? And I was like, I'm still gonna go, but you what was

you know? I betty like that y'all weirdly blocked me before and I said, oh, well, bitch, per our last conversation, and I emailed her what I had to say, How did not see see the email bit you're gonna read this ship so that blocks to Oh yeah, that blocking up another ain't gonna stop nothing, because you're crazy. If these niggs crazy I'm a nigga. Protect your heart with

a social media purge. Now, not only should you delete them, niggi, you may need to delete you all shop not happen to put them down tome go through let me go right now. Settings screen time said a fucking app limit, and get your motherfucking ass off that goddamn app. Now, whether you're scrolling through old photos of happier times, you need to stop trying to decode if they're happy, um through their stories doing all this ship literally, just fucking

give yourself a break. The other one. Don't con hact your X unless absolutely necessary. It doesn't say what would be the reason, what would that raison? Sorry, I had to do the cardy thing. But um, I think if you're dying, that's pretty good, or if someone dies that's pretty good. Other than that, don't hit that neck up. I'm sorry. Even if someone's dying, you're the last person I want to hear from. Then if I'm dealing with

a death, you're my ex. Yes, like to me, like it's the same way, Like me and my friend were just talking about this, like, don't make me a charity case, don't reach out to me, And we haven't spoken in months. Don't hit me up just because you know I'm dealing with something tragic, because right now, the last thing I need is someone who brought pain to me to come back into my mind about that where I'm dealing with.

If something tragic happened, like any of my ex boyfriends I found out someone died in their life, I am one right, but I'm telling you as someone who would be on the receiving end if if I'm going through a tragedy right now or I'm going through something. And again, I was just having this conversation because you really think that someone shouldn't be wishing you absolutely like I told you.

And and this is something that I've been dealing with, like I said, not only has my anxiety been up, one of my really close friends sorry, is battling breast cancer. She's young, where you know, and one of her exes was like, no, let me know when you're going for your surgery, and she was like, my nigga, like we haven't spoken in months. You lied to me the last

couple of times we talked. Don't hit me up acting like this is a weak thing or an us thing, or that you're here from me when realistically, you haven't been here for me in all of these months from a mutual friend. The mutual friend ran her mouth and so she was upset because it's just like, don't come in me now on some how are you I want to go through this with you? First off, it's also COVID. You wasn't rocking with me and checking on me when

I had COVID and she also had COVID. So it's just like this has been a pandemic of a year where if you haven't checked on my well being over this last I don't know. I feel like, don't come at me because you hear something. Maybe if he like I said a nice I don't know. I just don't matter how nice you say. I'm not a nice text. I'm saying because I will never forget, like if someone if I lost somebody and you never I will if I saw you in street, I'll never remember that you

never wished me well. You know my motherfucking so and so died. I don't want to believe you never said anything. I don't want someone who's genuine. I remember every single person in my life I believe didn't fucking do anything for me. Where my aunt died. No, when I was going through I believe is I believe in a sincerity and someone being genuine and to me, if I'm experiencing grief or I'm going through something, I'm not gonna lie.

I don't want to hear from someone that we ended bad, or we broke up, or you sucked me over the last time we were dealing with whatever. I don't care for you to insert yourself back into my life what I'm going through, something that I'm I'm drained with mentally, emotionally. The last thing I want is for someone that maybe maybe we're maybe we're saying different things. I'm gonna tell you what you're saying, gonna start yourself into my life because if we haven't talked, I don't want you to

wish me well or say you're sorry. Don't anyone canna argue with this, because you know, I just went through a death and I will never forget the niggas that knew my aunt died, that said nothing to me and then just hit me up randomly like oh funny post fuck you see. And so we just and and as you like. Ain't cool when you know, but as human beings, you have to understand that we all have our way in thinking and how we respond and receive things. And to me, if that's how I would receive it, that's

something I'm not gonna do. Well. The niggas know me and they know that I, like at least would have expected as is as high as my emotions always are and as much time as I've spent with someone like Thanksgiving ship like that, and you could say nothing, You're a piece of ship. You could literally die a matter

of fact. Yeah, I don't view it that way. I I do, but I think everybody pretty much knows how their person is, and I think you know when you've got a super emotional person around, like niggas need to check on me. Yeah, but it's the same way. Don't see me a Thanksgiving Day text if we ain't talking one, don't that's not a death. Don't say Mary Christmas, don't say Happy Birthday. Don't come and send me so see

those are I want to funk again? Text? No? So maybe now you're about to use this depth to get back into this pussy. I don't trust niggas. It's the same thing, especially because in those times you are the most vulnerable and may want someone I don't trust it. Bro, if you ain't genuine, if you ain't been working with me, don't sunk with me when you know I'm at a low ground. That's just how I see it. I guess

that don't agree to disagree on it. So the last few things to get over a breakup schedule plans with friends. I love this one. We all need that, like it's very necessary. No much more to that, um the breakup playlist. I love this one because don't don't turn on Mary? No, no, no, A good like fun one? What's a fun break up? Do you know what my breakup is? Like fucking pastor Troy bitch? But like just that made me be like, oh I'm a boss bit fuck everybody in this world.

Breakup list, See it don't help. Well, see that's what I can't listen, but I do have, like say, don't do no. I mean, I'm the only Mary you could do? Is the song That's not enough cry just fine, fine, fine, fine, fine fine. I can't never hit that. No, we're not dancer ring in here? I hate that song We're not dancing in the breakup playlist, Like I actually call it my bad mood playlist okay, just do city girls, but

get money playlist. Honestly, I mean, I ain't going through ship right now, but I'll be putting that shirt on when I can annoy it. I'd be like, damn, it's raining. We put this on, like we all need a good one. Well, I have a song that, um, you guys can play any time that you guys are just like like you know, oh they do have a good do not do not get a breakup haircut? I love it. Well, I'm just gonna play you guys the beat of the beginning of this song because um, you really don't need to hear

an can help. This is a breakup song and see your list bit because get a lie to you then screw you get mad? If it's homeboys, do you that's it, that's it. Damn I'm about to flock the niggas now you know me from Florida Beach. Play Kaya and she'll help you get through. It's not kay, stupid hole. How you figure he won't suck your best friend and your sisters. I mean he will and as we know next week,

just say it. Okay, okay, okay, So it says, um resist the urge to obsess over what went wrong, which is very difficult because when something goes wrong, I mean, obviously we always feel like it's a failure. And you know, but I like the last one, lose yourself in a good book. I was going through breakup and that's how I started watching Fiance. And if you're losing yourself in a good book, don't read such a Soldier's Name, because there's just love stories in there where you're gonna be like,

you know, I love murders are good. Murders are good. Breakup, but murders, Oh yeah, I don't know. I wouldn't suggest murder. You need something worse than what you're going through. Yeah, but now you might want to kill the nigga. Now you on Lifetime, now you're on the first forty eight. True, that's a good point. Yeah, don't don't read a good

show show was to get into for a breakup. I think we should say are so like I said, I was going through a breakup when I started watching ninety Fiance, and I remember being like, yo, like this is the best thing for me. Game of Thrones I watched over a breakup, um Master and None it's funny too. I will also just say um, and I think I at

this point Bravo should cut me a check. But Real Housewives of Atlanta, you get to see how awful everyone else's relationships are, and then it just won't make you want to be in one because it's just like, oh, dealing with some He was like, they usually for it might not be a sissen, you know what I mean? Or are you watching the new one is seated? This this uh, this new husband left for three days and they ain't even hit her up and said, I was just gone. Nigga was in Tampa and they said, you

don't need an a while. That's what married married. I was like, oh no, let me tell you about how the new ninety day fiance. They got this white woman on their handy. She's a hula hooper who owns a esthetician, like like a beauty salon. Like do you know when people look LOOPI She's like, I just live with my cat and so she but you just said that, bitch, I live I live with body. You feel me? She LUPI and this says, I live with my cat. That

was never the way she'd be talking. But I got a cat, and she said, this is what loupie saund like, I live with my cat. Okay, well I'll know I'll be showing bodie every now and I think about it. You do like me young niggas, but anyway, she's white. Then she says, I am in love with my twenty seven year old boyfriend from Believes. But she got the strong accent, like maybe do the accent. No do it. I don't even I've only seen two episodes because it's

just a new season. Learned accent. I have it. But what I do know is he was like. She was like, why didn't you answer my phone? I called you fourteen times? He's like, you have that fucking work like ship. And then she was like, it seems like you don't want to come here. He's like, you think I want to go to that stage with somebody who like this, and he's like doing some crazy times. She's like, so I'm crazy and he's like, well, yes, bitch. Actually she calls

and this is actually the bitch might be me. She calls the terror Reado over and she's like the Nigain answered the phone in like a day and a half. She's like, I need to know if he's cheating, yo. I mean she didn't even have to flip the Card's like he's hiding something. Really, Oh my god, he is. You know, she'd be calling his mama asking where she had. She sends the family money every week real quick. We

talked about breakups fellas break up with a bitches. She doing all this, I'm sorry, and can you deserve more? So she pays all their bills and please let me she pay you for dick at this point, I mean, it's an arrangement. They ain't got like they're broke up there exactly. That's my family, not because why she couldn't get an American Families bro She had to buy somebody that she felt she could paying for the mama's bills bills. So you think you even to put up with that ship,

I've alway put up with it. But listen to this team. Look at me's saying it like I run the show. So the bitch was like yo, during COVID, he lost his job at the resort. I met him att so I got him an job at another resort by paying the resort who wouldn't hire him, Like, just hir him back. I'll get you money, gird. It's just so good anyway, let's get to the home mail mail please baby. Okay, so the whole mail for this week, what does it have to do with I'm getting to it. I'm clicking

on it, so I'm just using filler words. Here we go. I still don't have it. Okay, Mandy and Weezy. I just want to say that I love everything about the both of you, especially you easy or so gorgeous, thinking this would be the one you pick. I love your sweats and mandy skills are kind of that is not what they said. She say anything about me. I hope to be the hose that you are one day. Well, I'm a reformed honestly. Wow, I'm writing because I'm going

through a bit of a dry spell. I'll recently stopped working with my friends with benefits because he was a toxic person. And after I let go of that toxic dick, I made a promise that I'd only fund guys I actually like and who respect me. I like that, But that promise I made to myself comes with meeting a lot of guys that don't have the time, patients, or capacity to give that to me. I've tried dating apps and I haven't met a guy who's willing to take

me out or potentially suck down the line. I've tried hitting guys up, but you can slow down. We're not in a rush, We're not. No, I'm really hungry. Sorry. I've tried dating apps, and I just haven't met a guy who's willing to take me out or that I could potentially fuck down the line. I've even tried hitting up guys first, but that doesn't work out. I get

left on red, et cetera. At this point, I'm so horny all caps that I've been considering fucking dudes that I've been avoiding for months, and I don't want to settle for something that I didn't want before. But I feel like I should respect their persistence and give them a try. Am I settling? How do I get the guys I want? What should I do? Well, ma'am, let me tell you something. How do you get the guys you want? Let's go with exhibit A. Mandy a good job,

graduated college, fun, pretty girl. It took four years, thirty years altogether. Because if you thought we had the answer, bitch, I was out here toxic dick for as long as I can remember. I got a nigger right now, who I don't even know. I feel like this is a very hard question to answer. No, this is she's actually asking a question in a space where I was. I mean, I think the pandemic sped it up, like I wanted to get out of dealing with the toxic men that

I was dealing with. But again, as someone who does just like to have sex, I would much rather deal with toxic dick that I know it's gonna make me come, then risk getting new dick that is probably gonna be subpar. So I think if it the main thing what I found interesting, She's like, they won't take me out, they want to do this, they don't want to take me

on dates. You mentioned one word, which was respect. I don't think that you need a man to court you to respect respect you, And I think you're confusing those two things. This is very Steve Harvey of you, and you should just be Lorie. What you need to do is just understand that the two are not the same. Someone not wanting to be with you does not mean

they don't respect you. I think also somebody who just wants to keep the relationship at a sexual you know, in a sexual capacity, just because they don't date you, because that's where it can blur the lines. If you are right now just looking for someone to fuck um or those were the relationships you had. Just because they didn't take you on dates or didn't, you know, take you out to dinner doesn't mean they didn't respect you.

So I think that you're drawing the line to where it making it seem as though if someone courts you and takes you out that means they respect you. That also doesn't mean they respect you just because they take

you on dates, though it doesn't. And I think that we have thought that someone respecting us for the longest time meant that they would do all of these things for us, when really these lines are a lot smaller, like through female liberation and sexual liberation, Like you got to understand that you being able to even say you want just sex is respect, you know what I'm saying, Like you knowing that you ain't about to play yourself

on some ship like that. So I think if you could suck these niggas and act like one actually is that Steve Harvey, But I act like what I mean, like be able to just move where you're not gonna feel bad about yoursel and I think the problem is you feel bad about yourself. And we talked about this on Patreon when you want something but you're settling for something else with partners, which is what I had to realize.

Like I knew I wanted a boyfriend. I shared on this for you know damn near from the end of twenty nineteen, well halfcause I got one. But I talked about wanting a boyfriend, but yet I was still settling in these toxic relationships with men that I knew weren't going to give me essentially what I wanted. And it wasn't that they were disrespecting me. It was just that I wasn't really putting my foot down and really ask

getting what I wanted out of these partners. If I wanted a relationship, I probably shouldn't be fucking with niggas that was only offering me sex. And I also didn't want to be with them then. But that's the thing too, is like you'd be thinking, like, all right, this ain't the nigga for me, so let me just get some dick. But I mean, he ain't gonna be that one like you could do right, and you got to compartmentalize dixus.

You got to know that this is a dick and these might be like potential nice job, fun, smart, very kind and text me good morning some pictures like that something to just don't. I don't know what your vibe is, but yeah, compartmentalizing niggas put them in litt pockets to where you know you can pull them out of anyway.

Uh yeah, this was fun their breakup. I want to start a website hose that host for heartbreak or whatever, like heartbroken Hose, and I really feel like it'd be a fun like you know, like break like a no, like a breakup reddit, but really like you can help me other like hos in there and funk each other while you're going through this pain. Okay, haven't gonna keep that in the beta stage. Um. Anyways, guys, I do want to thank you guys for listening to horrible decisions.

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Uh We're doing a lot over here again. I'm super excited. This week, you guys are gonna get an announcement from uh Wheezy in something that she's been working on. But also tomorrow. If it's tomorrow, if you're listening to us on the day we dropped, which is Monday, on Tuesdays, you listen to us again. I have a podcast called See the Thing Is with two other co hosts shout Out, Olivia Dope and Bridget Kelly. And we also has another

podcast for Fox Facts. I was about to facts. We call them mother Factors, but we got Booners mother Factors. And of course I do want to give a huge shout out to our hore hive. By a braid, Calm down, yo, one minute was that I gotta see my face? It was a roach. Oh the disrespect You just think of roach gonna fall into your chest at the studio. Oh that's disrespectful. You think there's roaches in here? Bitches A brave anyway, Shout out to the war Hive. Shout out

to the war Hive. M p v A studios that don't got roaches. Uh, shout out to god bit you say, anyway, shout out to the war Hive. If you guys are all caught up and really were like, damn, this is the podcast about sex. I didn't know they could have two hundred episodes. Guess what, we have another hundred over on Patreon. So going over to Patreon, doctor three hundred times. Ship, we've really been home and for a long time. You say my episode five were gonna be like, all right, man,

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even the whites. Thank you guys. For tuning in. Um. This has been yet another episode of horrible decisions by so secret signs that your neighbor might be a swinger. This comes from the New York Post um So, while the Suns Online cannot verify any of these claims, here are some of the tail tale signs that you could be living next door to a swinger. According to Cooper Beckett posts of the Life on the Swing Set podcast,

many swingers actually wear black rings. So you may know that your neighbor is a swinger if they're wearing a black ring. Um. You here's what he said. He said, where your black ring on your right hand? If you are out and open to meet other swingers, if someone wearing a black ring on their right hand approaches you, start a conversation with them. I see you're wearing a black ring on your right hand. Maybe we are in the same club. Um, that's what No, don't be telling.

They also cite white landscaping, rocks and pink or purple decorations in the front garden as a signal of swinger activity. Um. Bizarrely, the website identifies pineapples as another swinger signal, in the form of a door knocker. And I don't know if y'all can see it, but a pineapple door knocker also signifies that your neighbor may be a swinger. Um, let me see if there's any more signs. There's also another

a sign, um, oh, here we go. Uh. There's also a suggestion that pink flamingos on the lawn is also a tailtale sign. Ready, why you got flamingos? And YoY already gotta be white people. Ship, I'm from Florida. They put flamingos in their yard. Nigger. Someone said it's all Florida's swingers, all of Florida's all right, Um, all right, let me say something about that. First of all, listen,

it's a large intendency of swingers down there. Um, there's a big resort called top Secret Resources to just open. I mean, like, well, wow, if you want to come on here and be our goddamn third host, you need to send an application. But I don't know you think you are coming in and telling us about the resort and stad go ahead. And MARII also, I think maybe the only one with the ability to just un mute his mic whenever he's still where's the top secret thing?

Where it's a top secret resort in Florida. Um, a friend of mine, I think that maybe Orlando, Florida. I gotta check, but I know it's in I know it's in Florida. It's not Miami because it's a little bit northern than Miami, but a lot of those places and a whole bunch of cities between Orlando in Miami. Well,

he's not lying. It is where in Orlando adult only luxuries are on Johnny on Parkway Haney, Okay, way, my friend, Um, I know somebody who was doing some of the marketing for that company because they just launched and we're just trying to bring some people out there. Is it? Have you and have you had any friends that have gone there? They got a podcast, y'all. It's new. What is new

right now? It's new right now, Like they're just now doing a brand and for that So, Um, the only person that I know down near that's doing that is the is the girl that's doing the market in my own girl break. I'll ask about that. But as far as Wish was saying about the pineapples, all right, I don't know nothing about the flamingos or nothing like that, but yes, the pineapples is definitely a thing in our community. Yes, pineapple, Yes, that's our symbol all right. Now, as far as the

Black Ring, that's a company called Partners. I d those nigs was just trying to market their ship. Yeah, yeah, that company. Because we might need to have you on the episode since you know so much what I do, and now this is what I do, what I have on what do you do? Now? I have lifestyle events, as a matter of fact, I do. We have a little podcast we're doing on our own. You know. I have lifestyle podcast, lifestyle events in n y C. In Jersey. Oh wait, you're up here, so we can have you

like on a real episode. Yeah, definitely would love that. So next Friday, put your out. Yeah, we're gonna we're gonna maybe talk about next Friday. We're not gonna ask you to pull your dick out, I promise. I don't know what he's talking about. Definitely would like to talk about how you slang that dick um tammy you over there yelling at us, So go ahead and I mute yourself. Girl, tell us what you know about to swing your lifestyle. Baby,

I ain't know nothing about swinglat style. I just realized that my mama used to put him in the yard when I was growing up in Chicago. So you mean no, I'm just asking, so you need to try to say admit that by playing my day, we're sliding that dick somebody. Oh mrs much team, I just want to know if you single, cause I will move to New York. Alright, I'm just right oho, alright. We gotta mute Tammy, y'all because sometimes she get it a little out of about

to look up on right like their voice. Oh my, and he had a beard, yall. Hell lord, but my, how tall you is? Since you can mute yourself, tell us real quick. Ruin the Fantasy