Ep 200: BBW Porn, the Circle Back & the Boodahole

a bang? Did you start with a bang? Um? A bang? Like? Am I pussy? Because I'm gonna be on my period on New Years before? Not me, bitch. Mine is about that mid mid month time frame like the fourth it just ended, which is why I'm about to get a bang tonight. Oh so yeahulate right now. And the only reason I know my period is gonna come on New Years is because Thanksgiving it came like clockwork. I had chicken and just bam. It was like, you know what's crazy,

I'm actually scheduling now my yearly. But with scheduling my yearly, a bitch is also about to check fertility because bitch, he has been showing up this club, babe, And yeah, I mean, are you doing it when you ovulate? Check? I don't ain't tracking ship if we fuck you go in, you know, we could just rewrite like you'd be like these niggas coming in because it's these niggas. I just feel like you, these niggas were always my man, bitch I didn't like and know that. I don't know that.

I don't know what you'd be doing. It's just a little bit. I don't even knowing that Mandy's in ba I'm on the new what she was mass, I don't feel like I was listening in the kitchen in her new green that part. So starting off the new year in a new place, Oh my god, Oh my god. So I've been in my apartment for the last going on five years. And just first off, I didn't know that how you deal with moving in the fucking documents

they need, I didn't know that. I didn't know that them looking at bank statements meant they wanted to see the deposits going into my bank. I just thought they needed to see that a bitch had money. So I just gave them. I know, I gave them my one account that technically, in my mind is my savings, so there's really no money going in or out. So they're just like, so where is your Like how are you

making money? Then? So I showed them my other account and then I guess that sufficed, but I was like, yeah, I don't get to see all the transactions. I don't have to show y'all three accounts now because I wasn't. I didn't go into this telling them that I was an entrepreneur, that I worked for myself. So I only showed them my personal accounts, not my business accounts as you do, which I said I was a media consultant. And also I had all the other documents. That's all

I'm going to say. Do not be scared. People be like, what do you do? Talk about second date? Yeah, I said, well, it's not even that I'm scared about what I do. It's just when when you say you're an entrepreneur or a business owner, they want all of these documents. My account was like, they don't need to they don't need

to know all that information. I mean, they always know I'm self employed because I've moved what twice since I've been self employed from I mean my tax return but oh yeah, not switched up on it too, yes, but I mean with the with with moving. Um, for anyone that's moving something that New York State does, at least, all you have to do is have a c P A letter, so they just have to verify what you'll make and what you're trajected to make. But um, I moved into a new crib too. That's why, you know,

not fun? You know, I'm so bad to be an Elias, Like, I'm so happy to be back in Elias. Like my windows are insane, They're so big and beautiful, and it's like, I just love that I was able to come back to the lower and what I wanted. And it's funny because I almost moved into this building on Broom Street. I forgot what it's called the Artisan And I've lived in two luxury buildings since I've been in New York.

And I was like, I feel like I'm going to move into this building and l e s and be like, no, this isn't what I wanted. Because I think that that was my issue with where I lived. I really had it. I lived in downtown Brooklyn. I know you y'all know I didn't like it, but I think I should have moved to Brooklyn Brooklyn because I would leave my building that was expensive and nice and pretty, and then it was it was really difficult for me, Like there's a

lot of homeless people on my block. I've seen people like I saw ladies say when someone asked for food, she had bananas in her him She's like the funk away from me. It was like, you know, I couldn't even deal with it. It was just too much. And I think I just wanted to feel more like I was in a community again. And so I thought that if I moved to a boogee building in l e S that I'd be like, damn, I'm a gentrifier. And even though technically I am, you are, I mean we

all are. But it's crazy. I mean it's so weird because I mean, everyone looks for something a friend and I was talking to my friend who's also moving, and she's like, I care about the neighborhood. I do not give a funk about the neighborhood. I give a funk about convenience. I give a funk about like it's like conveniences, my Starbucks, my Duncan, donuts, my grocery store of fucking post office convenience. I don't give a funk about my neighborhood. I leave to party. I come to the city to party.

When I go home, I just kind of wanted silence. I don't want to walk out of my building and run into fans. I don't want to walk out of my building and see people drunk and bars. So that's not my thing. But I need all of y'all's help. So this is my first time moving into like a luxury building here in New York. But I have a balcony and clearly I'm gonna fuck on this balcony. And I'm just like, Okay, So what do I give my neighbor when I move into I bake him cookies? Do

I give him wine? Do I go ahead and just give him a bag with sex toys. I don't know if it's a girl or guy yet either, but I'm just like, I need him to know that I am going to be fucking on this balcony. And not only will he know my name, he is gonna know my nigga's name because I'm gonna be dreaming it on my balcony. When I had a balcony. I didn't really feel the

need to excuse myself at all. I don't know, I don't think that you have to, Like I pay my rent, you pay your rent, and I'm not asking what the

funk you do? I know, I get that, but I always used to come outside with this dick out, yes see, And well, I just don't want complaints because it's you have to be courteous, like, which is why I would you keep sucking when it's like, you know, like if you hear somebody or see them outside if you I don't know which your balcony looks like mine was a little more private, but if you know, it's a terrorist, so it's divided, so his his terrorist is on the

other side of the side. Don't, don't, don't do what, don't sunk with the other person's outside. And then I'm not gonna I'm not gonna know. And see that's what I'm not gonna do. I am not gonna change. I'm not gonna change my fucking schedule around whether my neighbor is outside or not. Like if I want to funk my nigga and suck his dick while I look at the view of Manhattan. That's what I want to do.

Absolutely not, because I'll tell you right now, If my neighbor was working on my balcony, I'd be like cool for them. But bitch, if I'm outside having my Starbucks, paying the same rent that you do, and then you just decided to call funk this n oh, I don't right? How God damn Wendy Red Hair lady. What happened up? What happened to us both paying our rent? We book pay rent. I could do what I want to do in my apartment, but you want nigga on the which

is why I said, Should I bake cookies? Bitch? Should I give him a bottle of wine? A bottle of Tito's? How could I let him know? I see you, You'll see me. I'm gonna be fucking I'm a balcony. You just reminded me of my new neighbor. She just sounded just like you. Let me tell you about the I know y'all want to talk about sex, but too bad we're talking about sex. You're telling me I can't have sex because about sex. Let me tell you about this girl.

I don't even know how to how where to start, So I moved back to l e S and the apartment I live in. It's the two bedroom and it's the only one in the building. I used to be a workspace, like a commercial space years ago, and they literally took it out. They like knocked the stuff down and they made it an apartment. So that's why it's so much bigger. So the girl sees me downstairs and she was like, oh my god, you just moved into

the two bedroom. Who's your roommate? Was like, Oh, I'm using it as a workspace, but nice to meet you. This is a Caucasian woman. I wanted she looks like her name is Sarah, but she was sounding like this, and then she said to me, she was like, yeah, girl, I'm just so happy another woman is in the building. She really wanted to say another black woman. That's what she wants. She's not black, No, she's not. She's a Caucasian woman talking like this. Then mean absolutely shout out

to Tammy. My mama kind of thought like that, Well, let me tell you what she did. Maybe she's from the South. Well, she wanted to explain to me where she was from. After so she kept talking to me like girls, so what she'll do for work, and every time she would talk to me that way, I was like, oh, this is some thugshit. So I would just reply to her in my voice like, oh, actually working entertainment and how about yourself. She then says to me, verbatim, girl,

just sound like dis because I'm from Middle Anna. But you know I grew up around it. I said, what is it? So then she ignored me and didn't tell me what it was. She grew up around it, you know, I grew up around eat And I'm like, what the funk is it? It just was so like put on dog. I was uncomfortable. So then she was like, well, let me know if you need help by packing or something. Girl, I'm just about to go to the show. And I was.

I was so uncomfortable. Many why man? She was leaving, She said to me, have a good day, sis, bitch, who are you talking to? Technically half of you is her sister, bitch, half of you in the Caucasian Middle Eastern ISRAELI No, but I'm just saying half of half of hers. But but also like you know what, I I don't take away from I mean, we see a lot of our fans. We know, straight up when white

women date black men. And also, I'm not gonna like go against her for sounding like that because if she's like, listen, I grew up in Atlanta. I know that my mom to to other people maybe like she's putting on, but she's not. Do you think your mom would talk to like that to someone she first met her, someone she

was comfortable with. My mom worked at a daycare and beat up a mom my mom mom, and my mom voice when she'd be out in restaurants with us and chilling like if over the top, and it's extra, and it's making me feel uncomfortable. Frankly, because tell her that that's why she had to explain to me where she's from. I'm not having another conversation with her because I'm not her sist, and I'm not just gonna let people speak to me the way they think they want to hear it.

Because it was very obvious she was putting on for me. If I looked like her, would she speak to me that way? We both don't know. We both don't know. I bet you it's to now. And when I knock on door number twelve because she's playing too much music, because I can already tell she's that type of bitch. I'm gonna I'm so annoyed. I feel bothered because I don't want nobody to think this of me, like a

part of me. Even with the getting a proof for the apartment, like because they were asking me for so much. Everyone that I talked to immediate was like, well, did you look and see if they're racist? Did you look and see if they're discriminatory? And I don't want to put my mind straight there in a unit that listen, maybe my documents just wasn't what they wanted to see.

So I don't I mean, I don't know. I'm gonna be here with you the building that you're moving in, and like, I don't even know where you're moving into, right, but a luxury building. They need people so bad they take Bro, they are giving six six months free. I want you if they give it six months free. I mean, I mean you came in there with Grand's Gold team saying do you remember the song like a few Buck I was on it, and they'd been like, come on in,

that's how much bro. Real estate agents right now they were trying to pay me to show me apartments. Dead ass. They said, show us your lease and that you're leaving, and we'll give you a five hundred dollar gift card for like a few in apartments. Yeah, and I mean in the area I'm moving. They were offering five hundred dollar gift cards if you put an application in within the first twenty four hours, which I did. I'm not

gonna lie. I went to four buildings, saw ten units, and I walked into this one that wasn't even listed, and what's We're crazy? What's crazy? Is like, as soon as I walked in, I was like, why are you showing me this? The saint in my budget? Like I just already knew it wasn't in my budget. And then once they, you know, put the incentives on that thing, I would like, oh, this is in the rat is

very important. And I'm very clear if any of you guys work as in freelance, whatever you do, you have to always make sure I don't care what they're telling me about how much the rent is gonna be, what they're gonna do. I say, listen, I make money a few times a year in large chunks as you will see, and guess what I care about my net annual pay. I don't give off that what you're saying about how much it's gonna be, or we can take it down

to this, I want this and this. You have to be very clear, like real estate agent will fuck you on everything else. But make sure that you're spending what you should be spending it within a year. And I think that another thing that could be scary for some people is if you know, let's say the rent is for a grand and they give you three months free or some sh it, it takes you down to twenty eight whatever. Right, make sure that if you can't afford for a grand a month, you let them break it up.

You pay twenty eight and see if they're comfortable there. You have the way it's amortized amortized. I didn't know that. Yeah, that's how that's pretty much, uh, meaning that you pay that net rate monthly instead of them giving you the three months whenever those are and then you paying them. Because I could see if people up like if you're not and they're advertising it as yeah, maybe hundred, but the actual rent is thirty nine. Like, girl, my real

estate company wasn't shipped. I would shout him out, But the niggas I was sitting down like I can't understand why I'm only getting a month and a half and he was like a month and a half. A month and a half. He was also as really, he says, you have eleven hundred square in the east Side, why do you think you get more? So then I tried to play hardball with this and I was like, you know what, I don't want it. Everybody else is doing

it too and a half. He's like, no problem. I was like, let me give it two hours till he called me fun So I'm like, let me wait till the morning. I call this nigga like eight am. He's like, I know you're going to be calling me. I fill out paid for work. I was like, fuck, do yeah, I get better ju than I think baby thinking I am. You know what I'm saying this, this this movie sh it ain't for me. So I went ahead locked in two years, so I got three months off each year

and I'm like, thank you. I'm happy, but let's go in. We're gonna get into you. We're gonna do any of the baby room though there is no baby ever coming. I'm getting, bitch, I'm getting the vacuum. Even if my test came out positive tomorrow. Bitch, i'd be making an appointment for New Year's Day, Like, suck it out. I'm not having a goddamn baby. You make it out you'll

maybe having a baby. No, it don't matter. What's the shoot up, and it don't matter what happened the little swimmer swimming then they go to the egg and then there's a baby. I'm so glad. Look, let's pock it up. And you know, in sex and you got a little swimmer swimming up and apparently it's science. Now I'm like number twelve. Anyway, Anyway, we're gonna get into the Vanilla

Ship for this week. If you guys are just tuning in for the very first time, because you got into and was like, oh, let me add to my podcast playlist, and we popped up. Our vanilla Ship. Is kind of just a news article or is something that has to

do with sex in the news. This one comes from Vice. Um, and I did want to talk about it because we've talked about porn a lot if you haven't yet, we have two episodes where we go into all these porn categories, and this one from Vice actually talks about how BBW porn encouraged uh someone to have better sex. Uh, So for this one, I am speaking to my girls who ain't comfortable with their bodies. Um. A lot of times we view porn and even follow women on Instagram that

don't look like us. So this one says, I first came across images of b bws and b h m's in two thousand eleven. B h M. I don't think we talked about it. Wait, big huge, how are you gonna have to to bigger us and the big Harry. No, there they are synonyms. But thinking it asked me, I'm saying I was speaking that. Look at me saying all these words. You don't know I'm loving. I'm sorry. I thought you would like amatized. I don't know that. I don't thank you. Thank you for teaching me something but

a hair loom. Oh we're not gonna do that. They don't even to know about that. Leave it there, bitch, big Harry. No, no, it's not another adjean, said, okay, right, it is it is. Yes, give me a give me a sound, bitch, big hot. Okay, So it's big handsome men the same way big beautiful women. You couldn't have thought of a synonym for beautiful. Oh yeah, it's man so um. If you've ever visited porn hub, chances are you've seen them as clickable categories full of content starring

fat performers. And it does have it there also, it has it has the air quoth quotation with her hand. No, I'm just saying, b b W really become shorthand for quote unquote fat porn um. Of course, anyone who feels like they're bigger doesn't really care for the word fat.

So that's why they use these other words. That's the wild ship to me though, because like I feel like when we've interviewed BBWs um s, particularly Ashley Chubby Bunny, who was like, you can say fat and I'm like, but she but she like it's because So that's the thing. It's all perspective, because I'm someone who doesn't like the word fat or chubby or the other words that were used to describe me, and she was fine with that. She also was okay with fluffy and guys holding her stomach.

Would you prefer voluptuous curvy? Voluptuous curvy? Um? Even I'm not gonna lie. When I was when I would be shopping plus size as something like, I was like, oh, I have to shop By one, two, three X, Like, there was just a couple of things that to me personally, I just didn't like. But it's because I had insecurities

about what I look like. That's why even back then I would have sex with the lights off and I wasn't comfortable writing dick and doing those If like, the more ownership you have over how you're feeling about your body, the more you don't give us. Maybe that's like us saying like core is not a big deal, you know what I mean, Like when you accept what people quote unquote think you are, how you're viewed as to the world, maybe that's why actually was I don't give a funk

about nicks. Well, so that's why, uh, in this article, it's pretty much saying how what we take in I guess we can compare it to Instagram. When you follow all of these beautiful women that have these little weights, the big gass, and you know, the plump lips and the long hair, all of these things, you start to pick it your own insecurities because you don't have these qualities. So basically, when you're watching porn, it probably is better for you to feel more comfortable with sex if you're

watching people have sex that look like you. You get what I mean. Yeah, Like, I actually only like watching porn with mixed girls or latinos because they kind of look like me, right, And I mean that's why I even said it's hard for me to watch porn right now because if I'm watching regular plan well no even to me with vanilla porn. But I watched gate porn and now because I just am so enthralled with what my man looks like. I told you I stopped kind of watching porn because I can't find a nigga it

look like my nigga imporn. Even though I watched Gate porn, I'm like, I still want to nigga that looks like my man. I just watched our own porns, but I like watching Black Girl. You don't like recording what bitch I have, like, I'm that nasty, asked Niggat, Like he

doesn't like recording that. No, we talked about it. He said, Man, I don't because if we're talking about I said, well, I want to record more, and he's like, I don't enjoy sex as much when I record because I'm too focused at looking at the camera and figuring out the angles to make it look good on camera that I don't enjoy what's right in front of me. I do have a porn with hospital Dick where I thought, maybe I just gotta set up the tripops ain't got to

hold it real, big bitch. And he was like, you see how you look at and I was like, yeah, because I want you to remember me. And I was like, right, you know what what I'm saying. And honestly, the only reason I looked at the cameras because I knew he'd watch it later and I wanted him to watch me looking at him. And then he was like, no, yeah, no, I think So that's another thing that we got to have a whole conversation about that maybe with another guy

that we come on. But when they record, because of course po V p o V, what they've record and what they want to see is completely different than how we think we look at what we're doing. Uh no, no, because I'd be thinking I look good and I do a bitch, I'll be looking can you tell you though? It's funny? How like? And this is the same with group fitness. When I'm working out like at a Berry's Blue Camp or at a spin class, like I always burn more calories. I'm always doing better when I fuck

on camera. I ride longer because I know this, we just gonna watch it. And I'm not trying to look like I'm not a fucking champion because I am. That would be the last position that I would let a nigger record me. And you ain't go ahead me with cracker video. My physical perspective is it enjoyable? No, but they'll be looking good. And my titties are like you know, I mean, they're not new, they're seven years old, but they just look really good from the bike. My hair too,

from the bike. That's the only way you getting me from the bike? Why? Girl? Because then when when it's like this my waist, this little my ass, little veg and it's just that's all you get on this happen with riding is when I come I'm like useless. I'd be like see what I mean, Ain't nobody recorded me

being a failure. But I do sound I realized after watching My Importance that like when I'm coming really hard, which is funny because like there's a few videos I have where like the phone knocked over because we were working so hard, Right, I sound insane. I don't even know. I remember one specific one. I was like, oh my god, I have to like edit this and try to get my voice out of it. I was like, oh my god, coming me, Oh my god, you'd be sounding like a

whole last white woman. Yes you do. No black girl sounds like that when they sucking. When I go out to like come the hardest ship, maybe maybe then I have the spirit of number twelve come to my body. I noticed that when when I record, like when I'm getting fund and I know I'm on camera, I pretty much. I don't know why. I just talked so much about the man, like your dick is so big. You see

how big it is. Oh my god, you're making me wet. Like, yeah, we're not gonna talk about that because my nigga laughs at me calling myself a dom. Apparently I've shown no type of dom with him, and he's like, hmm, I don't think that's you. And so one, yeah, I don't know. I don't know. He is just so adamant that I am a sub and it's just I think because with him, he's he's kind of like seven in that sense where I do relinquish a lot of power to him. I'm just watching Malcolm X behind you. He is he is

the reason fuck you anyway? Is I do want to get into now? Our hord derv our hord derv is our sex tip. Our sex tip pretty much comes from either someone who submits it when we have guests ourselves. This one actually came from my man and I shared it with the patrons, but I wanted to bring it bike one time and share it to our our all of our audience. Uh So, basically, I was in the middle about to have anal sex with my nigga a

couple of nights ago. Actually it would have been a couple of weeks ago now, uh, And I was like, you want to put it in my ass? You want to put it in my ass? I just know he really liked anal sex. So the whole time we in bed, I'm like, you can put it in my ass. This is me giving him permission for anal sex that I normally be like no. So in the middle of us fucking, he just starts laughing, And mind you, he did not

put it in my ass. So I was like, babe, you didn't want my ass tonight, I'm confused, like what the hell. But apparently he knows how much I don't really care for it, and a sex is often and so he thought of a joke, and so, ladies, this is for you, For you guys tuning in, he thought of this joke because he knew that I didn't really want the anal sex. But it was on his comedy

school while he was sucking me. I mean no, it was funny too because I was like, damn, well, it was towards the end because clearly he came, but I was like, you came before you put it in my ass. I thought you wanted my ass. So anyways, ladies, for those of you who don't like anal sex and want to get your partner away from asking for it, specifically in a heterosexual relationship, what you can do is pretty much name your booty hole and this is how we

do it, Okay. So basically, when you know your nigga want to have anal sex, what you do is name your Buddha hole the name of a man. So be like, baby, you want to fun Darius tonight? Is that what you do? You want to fuck Greg the night? And I'm telling you your man is not gonna wanna suck you thinking about Darius. No. He was thinking this is the joke

that he had heard, and he just knows that. I'm like, baby, you could have my ass and you could have my ass, and I all want knowing I really didn't want him to get in my ass. So he's like, I don't know, way I didn't. I didn't want attitude. I feel like you lost the game of cards. You're like, you can just have him a budda hole, all right, like, and I guess he sends that I really didn't want him to open me up because we had just had anal sex the week before and I already told him, you're

having antal sex way too much. It's supposed to be once a quarter. We're having it a little bit too much. I don't know if it's like a Fredian thing. But every time we talk about anal sex, specifically me and you, I have to ship because I just have this and maybe no, because you'll be acting like you be taking dicky taking dick girl like without as in my ass. You've been talking about riding and I just always think

of my own ass. You. I literally have to ship my buddah hole be turned into a hole pussy like it'd be opening up. Okay, it does, and then it starts to get it does get wet. We do use luke, but then it be getting wetter, which is why I we care because I'm like, is this I know the boot hole don't really get wet like that, but my bussy talk because I just feel like it's leaking right now. Well, my booty ain't leaking. It might be because people say that it doesn't go back to normal, You're a liar.

My booty has gone back to normal. Like girl, I tried to put my finger up today because I'm like, I'm gonna see him tonight. Let me make sure there's there's nothing under my acrylic nails, because then I'll be like, okay, what when I'm in the shower, that's what you do. I'm not saying it doesn't go back to normal. What I am saying, though, it is I have a friend of mine who'll be sucking this dude and he'd be like, yo,

I don't like because ass is too big. Yeah, but with guys is different because you're getting your ass fucked a lot. Me I'm only getting it once a quarter or once a month, so like it goes back twelve times, and because I have time for it to go back. When when that's the only hole you have to offer, it's not gonna be a little tony tighthole normal. No, And imagine you do. You shoot out of it daily and you're probably getting funcked in it daily. Your your

boot hole just not gonna be tight. But you're the one who said you're billy. How we'll go back to normal women that are scared about anal sex, but men that are the same. I refused to believe that women have a different type of but we have another hole for a man to go into that men men don't be fucking in a piss holes, but maybe don't pus the holes. Look, you know what what I mean, se what I mean Anyway, I have a horrid derve tip. This is more like an anti don't do it tip.

If you want to send a nude to somebody and you want to change the date, don't save the photo from Instagram like I thought it would do. Because I actually posted my own nude recently. That was a fun time you saved it from Instagram. I thought if I saved the photo from Instagram, it would change the date, and it did. But accidentally, I'm so used to doing Instagram stories. I posted it to my story M and you are at the second time. You don't did this? I no, no, the first time I got acted, I

remember what you're talking about. I sent that video in my d M. Okay, but anyway, this was the first time. And uh, lucky enough, thirteen people saw it. It was about four o'clock in the Morning's bad, It's not too bad. What type of newd was it? Full frontal? Just the titties because I feel like the titt is they'd be out anyway. Really yeah, I feel like the nipples like a big deal to me, not ariola, but maybe because they're new, Like if it was my old titties, you

know what I'm saying. Like, I found this nude of myself. Actually, wait here was it? I just took a picture of it. I was cleaning out my inbox and I found a nude from two thousand eleven. I was like, well, I does a little baby titties, it's your whole ass. I was really a home like I was spreading my pussy and everything. I don't know who else to do. But what I do know is if I had a nude like that leak. I'd be like, yo, I was a child, but now like I'm developed. You know what I'm saying.

I could afford tits and in my own apartment, and I would really prefer for my nuds not to be spread. But that's an I'm spoiled. My nigga don't even want nudes or videos. I don't have to do ship no more. Would be like, that's just because he lives near you, girl? Is that what it is? But I don't know. It's

always a nice little I mean the afternoon delight. The cheta got social media, so the nikka just get to see the folk social media seeing you know what I do, because now you like this lingerie babe, good so to Instagram, Like you gotta take videos and you opulate in this is really nasty, but like you don't want videos. So basically here's my horrid derv When you're ovulating, you know what I'm saying, because it's a little bit creamy, so you gotta track it use like I'm worth mind called

I think it's called pea tracker. But anyway, when you're using your ovulation app and you see the flower day, that's when you're like most likely to get pregnant, and your pussy is that it's juicy as period trackers and what I use. This is what mine looks like for

everyone on YouTube. So my flower day was yesterday. So basically, you make a video and you like push on like the whole of your vagina and like squeeze all the juices out and it looks like there's come dripping out of your pussy, but it's really just you and niggas love it and find a way to change the date on it because I've easily. I don't know how, so I don't know how to do that either, not for videos, for pictures. You just and then crop it. That's what

I did. It was like a quick videos three seconds. It was just like me in the bathroom. It was that in the video, this is a boomerang. I just wanted to hear like a boomerangs bit. It wasn't a boomerang three seconds a boomerang. It couldn't. It was longer, but I felt like I look goofy at the four process video. How do I change the date on my iPhone video? Help me be a whole series? Come on iPhone life dot com let's see master your iPhone in one day. I don't want to take that's the whole class.

But you better go to the YouTube. Okay, you have to go on a Mac. There you go. Okay, here we go. Hold down the shift key while clicking all the photos whose dates you want to change. Next, go to images images click just date and time. This will allow you to change the dates for any photos selected at once. You can also use this message method to

adjust the timestamp individually. Um oh, this is perfect. So like if you told your nigga you a Miami, are you not my nigg even know you could sign document? Like he asked me if I had a printer. I said, babe, you know everyone does everything electronically now right, so like this this right here, he ain't gonna even know how to check the time and shoot on stuff. I had to be like, babe, we don't need to print out

and sign anything. Uh, okay, well, people, are you know I'm gonna saying you know what I mean electronically boo, you just send it by via email. I got I've gotten up not on the date but on the time, Like I I was a hout that was four hours ago. Niket so what the fuck you at now? CU, But we need to phone because it's a little too much investigative ship with me to I don't be investigating well. Anyways, guys, we're gonna get into now a horrid blade decision. Our

horrible decision today is about the circle back. So let me start off with opening up why I wanted to talk about this, and also just some self reflections. So y'all know, I've been talking about my nigga since fucking may have last year. Uh so it's been an ongoing thing. But over the last two weeks, a lot of my niggas from the past have hit me up. Um, and it's not even my past because a lot of them were in my present. Green Eye with me, I don't know.

Green Eyes hit me two other niggas that didn't even get a motherfucking uh nickname on the show, and Perpendicular Dick been hitting me up. I ain't even gonna hold you, but he just he know I got a boyfriend. He the only one that know because he'd be hitting me up like you still we him? Yes, nigga, I'm still we him. Get off my phone, damn. But anyway, other dudes text me that have girlfriends. I'd be like, he has a girlfriend. So I'm like, I know you tuose

to cheat, but baby, I'm not there, not yet. I don't want to cheat on my nigga yet. You know what that you can cheat with like letting him know. It's called an open relation. Well no, so that's the that's the crazy thing, and that's why I wanted to talk about Well no, that's why I wanted to talk about this because my partner is okay with me having sex with other people. So here's what happened. And I want to talk about the circle back. It's a new year,

it's supposed to be new year. Knew me. So I want to ask the girls why we continue to bring certain people into our present that are serving no purpose. So I go to say this, clearly, Green Eyes has amazing dick. He hit me up and it's like I'm coming. I'll be in New York and I'm like, okay, cool, Well I have a boyfriend. Now, however, you use the video. However, in that very moment, I was like, damn, it's it's December. At this point, I said, I'm just telling you I

have a boyfriend. That made me reflect on the fact, mind you, the other three niggas well, the other two niggas that in me up in that same week, also, I had to let them know I had a nigga photo you posted or something. Maybe niggas was just ready. One was ready to put me on a flight. The other one was just on some hey, how you doing? You know? The other one was just like, I'm in

New York this week. So I say all this to say, I realized that between May two December, none of them had hit me up, because clearly none of them knew I had a partner. And a part of me went back to reflect on the accessibility that I gave these niggas when I was single, and I was like, damn, it's a pandemic. I turned thirty, I got these new podcasts, I started a new company, and I said, between May and December, not now one hit me up for checking

all my health, for wishing me a happy birthday. Mind they follow me on social media. You know everything I'm I'm going through and what's going on in my life. You haven't even checked on me. But as soon as you want some pussy, you expect me to just clear my schedule up and hop on a flight or meet you because you in my city. I only think that people give that energy like I've done that to people that have done it to me. Um, But like I'm saying,

I don't think it's meant to be rude. Like if you know you just had a thing with someone, I think you're taking it personal now because you have something more in depth and well, and that's but that's what I'm thinking, Like, or when you're in that mind space right, like let's say that, like you've just been broken up with and you're like feeling some pain and then someone hits you up for dick that you used to fun and he'd be like, oh my god, all he wants

to do is fun. Me it's like, well, all y'all used to do. It's fun. But that's where I'm just like now experiencing having just anything because I do still talk to some of my old homes like I do still talk to them, the ones that actually cared about my goddamn well being in life. I do still talk to them, even if it was an arrangement or just

a fun thing or whatever. So to me, I was just like, h and I want anyone listening who may be experiencing this as well, the self reflection of not only the relationships that we have with men, but how much we really show them how we value ourselves and hear me out. I say this to say, when I was talking with my home girls about it, a part of me did judge myself. I said, Damn, did I

really not require anything of these men? Damn? Did I really make myself accessible to where whenever they wanted my pussy it was just for the taking without at least have put out into I mean, as a listener, right being me being sitting across the table for you, you've

put out that this was your choice. Yeah, but that's where Also I'm also looking back and seeing how much I wasn't in control at the end of the day, I was getting dick when they hit me up and was offering me they dick, and I made my pussy available like and I think I have said this on the show too. There I didn't feel like I could

be like a nigga fly me out this week. I got some free time, a nigga, fly yourself to New York because I want to see you like so Also, it was a false perception of me being in control of my sex life because I essentially did allow my availability to happen when a nigga allowed me. I wonder if that's why I've always been so like I like to have nection with people first, because then I feel like, at least there's a mutual interest, Like I've found that even when I just want dick, if they just want

sex for me. Sometimes it's difficult when I'm single because I'm like, I've had relationships, I've had someone that cares for me. I know what that feels like, and it's hard for me to be on the opposite side as someone who's normally in the relationship being none when this nigga break my heart a bit, going straight to the church because I don't know I was gonna be able to deal with no like hose come from like no bullshit? I think I was because I was born a heart.

Don't come from heartbreak. Heartbroken. You could be born at home, you could be born a home. But I really do think, like, if I do believe heartbreak like brings your home. For example, you was the whole Like when we met as teenagers and your heartbroke, you wasn't all the way heartbroken as a teenager and you was the first of all. Man, I was sixteen, sixteen year old home straight out the ball. I like to have fun. I'm just saying, why are you gonna recording this is not funny, this is this

is why port had to take videos down. Okay, because they were talking about a child. Don't talk about me at sixteen now, when I was eighteen, that was my own choice. I feel like I'm just saying, you're saying hoween comes from heartbreak, which I ain't experienced, breaking elementary and what I'm saying, we ain't gonna bring up the

fifth grade playground love. Let me explain. I think hose are birds from heartbreaks, like I think behind every home is a nigga that made them do that ship for example, just hear me out. Nigga is gonna be so mad you're blaming them for us being homes. That's fine because here's what happens right now. My nigga calls me is like, fuck you, I'm done. It's not a pandemic. Gonna tell you exactly what I'm gonna do. Finish these fucking episodes out,

Finish my apartment, getting moved in. I'm going to Miami I'm going to space, I'm going to do drugs. I'm gonna suck someone out else, I'm gonna get fucked up for a week. Had so I was like niggas bit on Instagram. Then after a week, I'm gonna go home and cry after I have chlamydia? What's gonna happen? Where did this? Just? Well? We but here we go? You know why, that's not the smart thing to say, because we can't just assume that hose all have STDs or

catch I'm not saying that, hos. I'm saying that I would be wilding that much to where it would happen. So you haven't unprotected sex with someone you don't love. Weethy like, I didn't just say I'm protected. I'm just saying I was. You catch a chlamydia girl? First of all, condoms have like an not for chlamydia. It's HPV that you could catch on a condom. What I know, idio, if I'm quite broken, I'll be begging for it, Okay, nigga. When I went what was it last quarterly? Uh? No,

no, no no, sorry? I go twice a year. The last time I went, and again they told me I didn't have HPV I was like, this is insane to me. You're telling me of women have it. I ever in the house, I talk all the time. I don't have HPV. I'm this is h V. HPV is something different, right, you're talking about HERP simple exprs. HPV is what human papalonia or something. Let me get the word yeah, because I'm yeah, say it right, but HPV women have right. I wish I knew how to I wish I knew

how to say that P word. And for anyone who's listening who's like, damn, bit, you got a sex podcast you don't know, Shut the funk up you. I'm listening for how many years and you don't know either, bit, no fat human paper movie. You still ain't saying let me see, let me see paplona papalona virus. I think you said it pilloma varias various. The last word is virus. Start from the end and then work yourself back to the begin. HPV pronounced Pomela virus. I feel so stupid

right now. I think it is pamela virus. But let's just leave this in here. Here we go HPV. No, we don't want to say pom Okay, we was closed. I'm mad, he said, HPV, Which we do that then, I think. So I say all this to say, please, anyone on our patron I would love to hear a story from you, but pretty much us going into this new year, I think that it's important to find purpose with our partners, and also as a woman who who, like I said, was out here just having all these

partners and feeling like I was in control. Looking back on now, I really wasn't. And so I think it's important for you to know what it exactly is that you do want from these men and not allowed men to be around if they're not giving you what you want? So do decide? Is it money? Is it time? Is

it affection? Is an intimacy? Because I ain't gonna hold you a bit the way I'll be cut it up and loving up now, like I will probably never have relationship again with someone that isn't showing me the intimacy and affection that I'm getting. Now that's not true. I'll

tell you why, why talk to me? Because when I n again on your nerves and you kind of tired of that ship, like right now you're feeling, you know, you've never felt this in love before right, so like it's an amazing feeling and cuddling an intimacy like that's all ship. I love too, but as someone who is like a ho for love. Oh, I'm telling you dog,

like sometimes you just want to get fucked. So so here's I am someone that you know is a serial relationship data Like I don't even know how to not lay a table out for someone like it's I've heard people you know talk about like pick me on Twitter, and it's like I genuinely thinks it comes from my mom being a housewife. I don't know if it's just

something that's like just in me, like I noticed it. Well, my friends are over like everybody, I'm just like trying to do things for them, like almost over the top. I can't help but like serving that right now for this, I literally just what do you want to what do you want to eat tonight? I'm literally asking this nigger what do you want to eat? Who the fuck am I I always ask like, oh my god, are you feeding yourself? Well Jesus, But I will tell you this,

there is sometimes a good feeling. And I know you all know what I was talking about when you like leave someone's house and you still smell like Dick and it's kind of friend. You're like, and I tell you I love a good dick smell too, and I ain't got your hair. I was about to say, bitch, I ain't got no hair no more. But you can't just like go out and dick breath. Didn't you come on

Vice Live with Dick breath? Well it was because I had longer locks and I sucked dick in the spit and the dick all of that went into my hair and I was like, that's an is I love a good dick smell in my hair and bitch, I ain't got no more. Well, that's why we ain't got a TV show once, bitch, because you had to dick smell. And they were like, we can't have this bitch on again.

Whatever they the pheromones was going and that's why we got into development because they was like, let's get you all into development and let's work on a TV show with y'all. But no, So I don't know. I've just been thinking a lot about damn how I really was moving with my past niggas and the fact that they now just trying to hop in my phone, like I'm just gonna be ready to give them something and not even though it's noticing that I'm a new woman, I've changed,

I've grown. I love it. Fuck you guys. We are gonna give y'all to old mails this motherfucker week because that's how we're gonna start off the new year. So the first one I really like. It's short and simple. Um, and because why don't you just try to tell y'all how to send an email? It's short and simple. I started going through them. One was a five paragraph essay. I said, oh no, bitch, this ain't getting ready on not on my watch. And I just say something to

you guys. That's in your emails and your homemail to the Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. We like a backstory, but it's only when it's really juicy. When that girl wanted to fuck her sister, her step sister, the pregnant step sister, it was a good back story. If you want to hear that story, it's on our Patreon. But when you want to fuck your pregnant stepsister, write it out. You know what I'm saying. But if your nigga is like cheating on you and you're not sure, and it's like,

let me explain, we did it in high school. I'm still in love with him, right he you know he's been sucking around. Then we got back to I don't gay. We don't need all that, but because if you want to fund his dad, give us some a little bit for that. This is just homemlee criteria. I like short and sweet. This is sort let us know if you want to be anonymous, because we normally never we normally never read names anyway, so I actually be annoyed. Don't say my name, bitch, Win Dewey. Do you listen to

the show. We don't be saying name sometimes we do no maybe like sincerely, Oh that's got coming to pussy stil and then that that's not okay. So this one is We're gonna start short and sweet, especially being the weird side size queens. The title for this one is big dick. I know that's right. Hi. So I'm fucking this guy who's dick is very big and long. We've only had vaginal set the two times we fucked. It wasn't enjoyable, as I've experienced before with guys who were smaller.

I think it's because it's hard for me to fit all of him in me? Can I get some tips on how to handle his dick? You're the better, you said, not pass them to you, bitch. That ain't That ain't a tilt. It was the one I had. So this I actually wanted to bring up because I very much mean it for the fellas listening. There are women out there that like small dicks. There's women out there who like sch medium bro. My home. Girls don't like to feel pain with sex, so they do prefer smaller days.

I want to, I want to. The only dick I cannot take is a curved dick. I don't like them things. I don't know where you hit, but like my home, like Venus, she was like a little captain. I need a net to hit my walls, not my windows. And I think on the side there's windows, and now you're gonna break my sheet. I think it's because all pussies like and I only know this from being in them with my hands in my mouth. But but that's not

even close to a dick. Bro. Maybe your hand doesn't go as close as a dick, but this is small. You're not feeling everything that they feel. It did. I'm saying when i'd be in there. I've taken condoms out of friends. Okay, I've been in there. And what I

can say is, pussies do not come the same. So when girls like, you know, curve dicks or whatever, I really believe like it has to do with where are like Some people, you know, they squirt from certain spots being hit, some don't, right, So I think it really has to do with where your pussy hits the best, right, Like we all come differently. I just red snapple hand. I hate when you call it that. Why is I

think about fish? But it's a it'd be snapping like it'd be close, bitches, a red snapple like that because I'm red and my pussy snap red snapple. Ho. This is so what is the problem? What is the problem? What you don't like it? Busy? I can't call it a red snapple A fish? I like fish, bitch, Give me a motherfucker. I don't want anyone to ever compare my fucking pussy with a fish, and I compare. Yeah,

but it's not the smell of a fish. Is just that it'd be snapping in When I hear the word red snapper, there's a looking at what you call your pussy, not that what you call it, the kitty cat. I don't call it anything. See that's the problem. That's the goddamn problem. You need to name that pussy, or like, at least attach some sort of thing to your pussy. Let me look up good vagina names. Let me see.

There's the wallet, there's the kitty cat, the pussy. I feel like the box y'all know official box owner shout out, but bur burgers a fur burger? That sounds worse. Who wants to eat a furry burger? The white don't Never have I ever been like, damn, I can't. Oh, I like it your house, not your house? When I come home, Daddy, that was so you know, it's the garage. That's what CARDI BESI your flower. Actually, my ex used to tell me because whenever I was ovulating, like you talk about

eating flowers, But who eat flowers? See what I mean? At least at least we eat fish. Bit it was context who eating flowers? Younger fish? Vegans? Vegans out, you're eating flowers? What they annoying? As one of the names, flower pie, lady, flower, penis fly trap? No, bro just no? Why is catfish? Oh? People? Do talk about fish. They called it fish a black hole. I don't like that. I don't like the black hole poem. Poem a Jamaican slang for pussy. Well, that's fun. International names, Oh, this

is fun, okay. El salvad Or, they say poo poosa. Do you remember in Sex and the City? Here we go, go ahead, say you're sex. I do like it makes me feel Spanish. You could have a peppita and the Spanish what sound Brazilian? Right? I mean in your box? And in Serbia a pie or pizza. No, absolutely not. Well you could have, oh, in Japan a taco taca. You want to pu my taco to? Now? Why are you see? Now? Now that's the problem. Now that's racist, It's absolutely not. I'm surprised that they call it a

taco in Mexicans. Now it's t a k oh taco like the geto's. Apparently it's an octopus. In Japanese you can have a tanema noyori. Okay, Well, I would say cut is on here. Cut's fun too. See. No, I don't like that. I don't like it. So the only thing I would say for you is if his dick is too big to where it's enjoyable, made a not either not be the right sex partner for you, or

I would say, do not fear using lube. The thing with big dicks is that they do cause a lot more friction inside and so if you're not wet enough, a big dick can be very painful, especially because whether you got the a c blown on your bed like we do here in New York and not like there's a lot of factors that can draw you up there. Well, It's also like, why would say he is lube? We

don't always like consider but like how porous it is? Right, So for example, like when a dick is porous, meaning that it will like suck up a bunch of juices, like not everybody's skin is like this, but like, hey, you might be wet and the dick just keeps soaking it up, so like you and things like that as well, which is why lube is super helpful. And um, I don't know. I feel like when I was younger, I

got embarrassed about lub, but now I don't. I got I got two options next to the bed, and I told you all be having to be careful what I put next to the bed, and Nigga tried to goddamn spray my living clause spray. I said, baby, that's not loop, that's not louple. Put that back. Put that back, So I gotta put that on the other side. Now. I use a good clean love and uh something that I got from Adam and Eve. When I bought the anal training kit they sent you used their free in the

box gift flube. No no, no no, they sent me the regular side. What was in my my gift box was actually up pH wash. But I went and they have a sensitive organic lube on their side too, and it's so good. I've used one that came with like a lil product that's kind of I just I don't know. I have Lilo to lie Lo. I have uh something called Queen V. But when I saw that they sold it at Walmart, I felt like I never wanted to

use it again. I'm not gonna likee so for the and that's gonna be a tip that I would get if you're looking to use lube, because I wasn't a chatty house the other night and women were just like, they don't use lube, and I was just like, what the hell, why do you not use it because people make us feel embarrassed about our fucking pussies. Oh and there are that It doesn't always like sucking water, niggod.

I watched it. I put a loube on it, but be careful because there are lubes that don't work well with condoms. Um. Also, you want to look at the products. They do have organic vegan loupes. They have all of these things too. If you're scared of what contents, maybe, bitch, there's fucking milk and condoms, some long words. We don't know. You don't think, so you're gonna look at the next all right, so next time out Before we get out of here, this one is actually a fear of sex.

Yet again, Hi ladies, I have a fear of sex and don't know how to get over it. I've had a couple of bad sexual experiences that have made me distrustful of other people. Whenever it's a spontaneous hookup situation, I'm okay. However, if someone likes me and asks me out, I panic. I panic Whenever I have a chance to think through the situation and basically talk myself out of dating the person. I know not everyone is a bad person,

and I need to try and move past this. I listened to a lot of sex dating and self off podcasts to to normalize the conversation in my head, which has actually helped a lot. I also have gone on casual dates to try to get used to being around men without adding extra pressure on myself. This has helped me become more comfortable and around new people, but I usually don't move past a second date. Do you have

any advice on what I should do? Thank you? I mean I was going to tell her to go to therapy, because clearly those gonna say stuff listening to self help all the time, I don't know, to be honest with you,

I think this could be adverse advice for somebody. But I think when we consume ourselves with too much self help and like overload dog like I was doing that, like last week when I was super depressed and I was like lighting candles, meditating, doing yoga when I woke up and still cussing things out like it's too much, Like I was just on fucking overload with like me trying too hard. And I think sometimes when we're trying

and makes it more difficult to date. Right. I think also we can all agree that I'm not saying that I haven't maybe set the intention to date some but you know, like your boyfriend, you met him randomly and didn't expect it to happen, right, But when you're like constantly putting it out there, sometimes it's overwhelming. And I'm victims to this all the time because that really bad anxiety. But I don't think that like the Horrible Decisions podcast can help you. And I don't mean that to like

like make you feel bad. I just mean like, I think you're already getting enough stimulation and like over the top that like it's just another piece And honestly, we only take the advice we want to hear anyway, like if it aligns with us, Right, I was gonna say, actually, it can be draining as well, um, to go on a lot of bad dates or dates that don't lead anywhere. That could be something that deters you from dating and

meeting new people. The same way you said that sex you're bad couple, You're the couple of bad sexual experiences you had is keeping you to not want to have sex. Dating can do the same way, uh, to where then you just don't want to be bothered with anyone. But then too much alone time when you want to have someone around can also be bad, either with anxiety or feeling like just depressed because you don't have the interactions

of you know, being around someone else. I think a lot of things that you should do too, though, is look back to what made those sexual experiences bad um and if and if it was trauma like rape, I do apologize. I don't want you to have to revisit that.

But if it was something like our last letter to where it was just not enjoyable because the dick was too big, I think that you need to look back at those bad past sexual experiences and know that moving forward, maybe you need to be more vocal if it's too big or that person is hurting you, you know that

you need to vocalize that upfront. If you're you're not wet and the person tried to just force his dick in you before you got wet, maybe have lou ready, Maybe let someone know that you really enjoy for play. But I was about to say, maybe you need to tell your partner you really need for play before you have sex. I need I think you need to learn yourself a little super intimate with right like one just kind of forgot to eat pussy and the other one

is obsessed with eating pussy. And it was so funny because like I remember thinking, like, oh my god, this is like just complete opposite, right when you're used to something and when you're not used to something. I mean, and honestly, I don't really be trying to have sex anymore without my pussy. Eight. But also like when you're with someone for a while, like they need to know what gets you off. So at this point, I feel like, you know, it's very obvious where it's like, oh no,

like unless we were out all day, eat it. But I think that And then even still, whether you're with someone for a long time and fucking them or it's a new partner, if there are things that you do not like sexually, or you know that your body operates a certain way to where you know you're not gonna get wet without four play, those needs to be things you say up front, because what if you're dealing with

that don't eat pussy. But we can't guess, Like I think that's a thing like that we can't guess that someone's going to know how to guess. And like the good dick, good pussy thing is kind of antiquated way of thinking. Um, I've had sex with someone that someone else then told me it was bad and bed and

I was like, damn, he sucked the ship out of me. Right, And I'm sure I've been bad with some niggas and not with others, right because like maybe not just playing, I'm just saying, well, I've to me if it's not enjoyable to me, like I like showing out. So if I'm with someone where I realized I ain't even like I think I've talked about it on the podcast. There's some niggas where I lied and said I didn't suck dick. Why did I even have sex if I hadn't lie

about me not? Second, clearly, I'm just I don't even want to take it all the way there with you. So I think that's important too, Like like you said, like sometimes someone is just not sexually compatible with us. So if those sexual experiences were bad, you have to also think maybe dates though, like they can lead to good sex and bad dates and then sucking them because they're cute. It's like I sucked so many niggas because

they look good. It was such a waste don't be fucking people just because they look good because they'm good looking. Niggas don't all happen. I'm telling you it's once in a I'd say half and half, which I liked them. Hayes, I ain't gonna hold you ain't not too bad. Might want to do a sixty photos a fifty bitch. We're gonna take our chances before we get out of your guys.

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in the last two years, came out as By. It's been crazy trying to be true to myself because in my background, my mom was highly against the idea of a woman being with anyone else but a but a man. But when I came out is By, I started experimenting with threesomes, guys, girls, all that. And then one day I started realizing, I keep thinking about a threesome with two men who were either by or gay or whatever. I just wanted to try it, and I did, and I loved it. So now I'm into that a lot,

and I never knew it before. Fast forward to last year, my X and I got back together. We've been on and off for seven years. I had no intention of going back after he was so upset about me coming out to him as By during the last time we broke up, but nevertheless, here we are. I do love him. Our sex has been amazing. I just wish he was more open to the idea of a threesome. Maybe I'm not even asking for him to try a threesome with another man. I know that's a far as stress stretch,

but damn, can I watch you another girl? Can we buck this girl together? I have needs. I can't deny my sexuality, and it's sad as hell, but I take it slow because I know I just should have been open from a jump, and I've always known I was into both. I was afraid because I was so shameful. My question is, do you think there are any ways I can introduce the idea successfully to have a threesome.

I definitely don't want to just bring it up bluntly like I have in the past, because he'll probably think he's gonna have to compete with a woman. Um. Sorry, it's lengthy with the story needed context. Until I figured out I'll be watching corn of all the things I wish I could try. So now see why you brought that shot on Patreon. I'm so sick of he's goddamn. How do I get a threesome of my partner? Asked questions No, this one's a little bit different because she's

just she's just announcing that she's bisexual. So I think it's in reverse. Right, it's normally men trying to bring women in on a threesome. And I had a situation with hospital dick and with the Jesus dude I dated where they really felt like and believed that other women were just as at as other men. In my head, fucked up. I have a sex podcast. I was like, but it's just a bit I'm not trying to suck other niggad And I will say this if there is

any ladies listening to the podcast. I know we don't often talk about men saying no to threesomes, but I do believe, and both men that told me no have big dicks. I don't think it's a confidence issue. I truly believe it has to do with where someone feels

like they stand with you. Hear me out. I don't think that men feel safe in threesomes unless they know who the funk they are to you, Like, I think there's a reason that people that go to swingers resorts have been together forever and they're oldest fuck Like, I don't think that especially you being on and off seven years with someone introducing someone else into the bedroom makes sense when they don't even know what the funk they

have going on with you. And maybe you could say he knows you well or whatever, but like on and off for seven years, on and off a lot, and it sounds like you're more off than on for a niggati not know you've been by the whole time. And if you made then that to me, is you coming from a completely emo place, because niggas are okay with threesomes before they know where you stand with them, like clearly,

but a lot of mind. I'm saying that I'm talking about in case where men don't your boyfriend a man I've had a threesome with, These aren't the men were talking about. We're talking about the men that aren't comfortable and where where it comes from maybe right? So I mean that's where I'm putting my input in. And I know we can all talk about men we funk that I've had a threesome with, But I'm curious to know what y'all think as far as a man who is not not a man who is, but a man who's not.

I mean, I just think it should come from a lot more deeper rooted things, uh, such as religion, such as their views on sexuality. Um, because I mean I did have someone early on that I was talking to and well, this wasn't recent at all, you know who

I'm talking about. But he actually did not like the fact that I liked other women and didn't feel like he would ever really care for me to be with another woman, and came to me like, if I feel like you have to bring in another woman to the bedroom or that you want to play with women, it's

because you don't feel fully satisfied with me. And so I think that outside of religion, outside of what the relationship is, a man could have some insecurities if you want to bring someone in the room at all, like, and I think that that's really where a lot of that stems from. It's more so him a man feeling inadequate to please you fully and that's why you're seeking

someone else. Yeah, there's article I read because when you try to like search advice about this, it's all about women asking my boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what do I do. There's this article on bold dot com and Bold with the athi end and it says, my boyfriend and I try to have a threesome and it destroyed us. And there's something really interesting about this, She says. At first, I was freaked out. It was moving so fast. Maybe I should have told him I was nervous, but

I just wanted to be spontaneous. And see, I feel like if someone is telling you know before it's even happening, like this is a blessing in disguise. Threesomes can end so badly if you all don't know where you stand. And I think that, honestly, it's better left undone than trying to fund someone else with someone that doesn't want to do it. Like you know, we hear about men kind of coercing women into threesomes so much, and I think that as women, we've got to really respect fucking boundaries.

And if you've got to fund someone else that bad and you're that your kinks are that important, then girl, do the game. You