Guess what decision we're about to make A horrible decisions. Hey, guys, welcome to another episode of Horry Blade Dczy on uh this year, girl, Mandy be you already know what it is. We are wrapping up this hell of a year. I'm sitting next to my co host who goes by Wheezy, and I am going to force her to have two A K s right now. Think fast, Patty, and there we go. So you really do have ak Hi guys, welcome, I'm super do it. This will be a third one.
Someone says something that was weepy on Patreon. Mandy misspelled my name in a and she said, did you do weepy on purpose? That was so funny? Oh, crying as whole now. Anyways, y'all, somehow we did make it UM to the end of twenty twenty. UM. I guess I guess we'll start by saying, I guess let's let's start by both saying one thing a piece that we completely did not expect to do in UM business related, career related,
UM or horrible decisions related. That's fine, especially because we did, as many of you guys know, how to cancel our tour, which we thought we would be able to get back up and run in by a fall and winter, and it didn't happen. I still wanted to go to Atlanta. Was really fine, we look will Matt check that Championshure won't be fine. She literally was like me, we could still do it, man, ain't how do they gonna how
are they gonna? Bring it back to the Horrible Decisions live show where they caught COVID and I was like, no, bro, the world is shutting down. And I think this was right when NBA season. I said there's no way we can do a live show and basketball ain't even playing a whole. I just felt like, literally, I think that's what what was like, No, bro, we can't do it. Like I guess maybe we uz a k. I just feel like, but I just feel like we you know. What actually made me the most sad was meet and
Greet That will change forever. That will Jesus and Merrill had a virtual live show because they had a book tour. They were supposed to come out and they did a virtual meet and greet and I was like, we'd be on I G Live and we do our patron Town halls once a month. There's just no way. I think I would feel awful charge someone for a goddamn zoom, like hey, hey in there, like no ingrates are just such a they're there. Don't take this the wrong way
for anybody listening. They are the most draining part of the show because they are the most we give the most energy in those right well, and as impasts or like a lot of people share their stories and how horrible decisions has effectively not only changed their lives but their relationships. A lot of people will be with their partners and so we're taking in do you remember the
autistic guy that met his girlfriend? It's like because we like gave red some homemail and he was like I met her because like, dude, I know, there's just a lot with Seriously, if you guys are looking on YouTube, I'm wearing a huge bomber jacket because it's actually fairly cold. Like I'm gonna get in these collar bones today a bitches on a juice die bitch. I was like, I don't.
I'm gonna do three days, but I am going to go back to what my diet was post surgery, So back to liquid only super intake on protein shakes, water and then soft foods, so salt foods being like boiled at what happened? How wet is your ship? How? What is my ship? My actual ships? Yes, well the protein and the shakes make it solid, so I don't really I don't really have wet ship going on. Uh, like you have loose ass? No? No, what's crazy? Is I mean?
I it's you know, it's crazy because I'm reading all the reviews because it's my first time juicing and people are like, oh my god, it was the hardest three days of my life, and a lot of you. I don't think I shared much of my journey postop, but I did two and a half months of no solid food for people that don't know your postop was what. Yeah, so I had the gastric sleeve surgery. This was now two years. Mandy was a bitch in the hospital, by
the way. She was such a bitch that she to apologize to the nurse because, yeah, but they did something, and listen, I'm eating if I'm a bit just because you did something, because I'm really a nice person. Mandy had to walk around? Was that it? Yeah, I didn't have to walk around. Mandy woke up and it was so funny because Mandy woke up looked at me like,
I cannot believe you're here. But I just feel like if I was alone and like having surgery, like you know, so Mandy, they were like telling her to walk around. So we took like one or two loops around and I don't know what that lady told you to do, but she was like, I'm gonna do it on my own top. It's when I'm gonna do it. I was like, damn, Mandy, she had her job and Mandy cannot tell you was sorry, right, So the lady hands for water and ice chips, and
Mandy doesn't even look in the face. She was like, I'm sorry for talking to you like that, ma'am. Because I realized that was probably a little a little, but yeah, I mean I was just coming out of surgery and yeah, like all I wanted to do was lay in bed. But after coming out of any type of surgery, they don't want you to lay in bed because you could
get blood clots like a lot of things. And then yeah, at this moment, I'm also noticing or realizing to myself, I will not fucking be able to eat solid food or drink liquor or do the things that I love to do. Four months on it after this, so yeah, I mean I woke up out of surgery just with a huge reality shock. Um. But anyway, let's get back
to God damn it and the hellhole. This has been happy become a little bit of quarantine thick uh in the And I guess my butt has always been here because you were like, oh my butts, I did lose a little bit, but it's always been here. It was never gone gone, just a little bit gone. Um. But my man has met me since my ass has been my ass, so he doesn't know how big it really was at one point, so he's happy with it. I need, Yeah, he's happy with it. Um. But yeah, I guess I'll
start um. I think again. This year has been a lot for so many of us. Um. I guess something that I would have never anticipated. Like I said, when we stopped the tour that was in March and our last, our very last live show was Orlando, and I was like, which do you know the money we just are not gonna see now because the tour ended and we had to get into virtual you left to Mexico, and I was just like Oh my god, is this really life?
I ended up getting a fucking cat, and I guess one of the what is it the roses that grew out of the concrete sidewalk was me, Yeah, starting a new business. And I would have never thought that I could do that. It's so weird because I have my conference call set up on Tuesdays and Fridays now, and I'm literally back into this corporate type of schedule that I know we talked about feeling like we're we have
better sex now because we don't have those jobs. But just a bit of that structure has really helped me mentally over this year. That's actually why I wanted to now that I'm back to New York. UM wanted to uh start recording more frequently because something that came out of quarantine for me, I guess was when I realized touring was gone. I was like, Okay, my money is different.
And some of you guys know I've been in like comedy school and stuff like that, and I'm not saying I'm that funny, but it was more so me trying to understand jokes and what makes things funny. I noticed even something on my other podcast that Eddie does is he repeats stuff over and over, like, um, if there's like a tagline to the joke, which is how funny I was when Sophia came and I just kept saying that that's a comedian. And Kevin Hart does it a
lot too, That's absolutely he repeats a lot of stuff. Um. And so the repetition and learning that thing, that's something I learned in comedy. So I learned it. But you do like start to see patterns when you are in this class and you're like, oh and more so I wanted to do this because of writing. So there's something that I um learned. Andy and I were touring in l A and people were reaching out with me to me to do TV stuff and I was like, I
like this, but some of it was very uncomfortable for me. Um. They also require you very much and this is just anybody that wants to get into influence for ship right, um, and you do very well at this. They require a serious scheduling with posting. Oh I'm big on but I have my thing with that and even my social media what I'm doing now even with my other brand. I also have a marketing degree. So a part of it is marketing. This is almost like what I did in
my classes. I took thirty credits focusing on marketing for my for my second Bachelor's So I think it's also just which is why even in the beginning, I was like, but if you don't get your ass on Twitter, get on Twitter, goot on Twitter. I understand the importance of marketing on social mediacally. Yeah, I guess I like social
media for the genuinity and talking to people. And I also don't know if I'm like, do I stop being a real person if I and I know, when we first started, I was like, why am I to do ads? Why would I do ads? Like it ruins it? But like, I just didn't like it. And so when I started doing TV ship you might have heard on Sophia with an F I got passed over first show that not only did um everyone in the room say I was better at than the other person, but it was simple
simply a social media thing. I mean, and I was like, I don't ever want to be passed up for talent versus cloud again. And so then I was like, well, if I'm not going to try to get this cloud, what am I gonna do? So I was like, well, maybe I can just attribute to writing. So I started doing punch up. If you guys don't know what punch up is, it's a really cool job you get hired for. Basically, they throw you in a room, make you sign N d a's, and they either keep putting clips or scripts
in front of you and you rewrite the jokes. So, for example, Mandy and Wheezy walk into a room and they're about to have a discussion about touring. You have to figure out when Mandy walks in the door and sees Wheezy, what jokes she's gonna say. What they're gonna say back and forth to each other when they're sitting down, how they're gonna start talking about it. What's funny? What do people know about Mandy and Wheezy that would make it funny? Um? All kinds of ship like that, you
go back and forth, back and forth. Um. And it was funny because one of the shows that I was doing punch up for as a Black show, and there was an Indian guy in there and he was like, I really want to say the N word in this and you guys can maybe write it out, but I feel like it needs an N word. I was like, yeah, my nigga, they need to say nigga and you know other people like nigga would be hilarious. Yeah, I have them say her nigga and like a ship like that.
Um and so did punch up. Then it started coming into writing and um, I explored a little bit with making our Horrible Decisions film and shout out to dentist. I've learned a little bit about um filming and what it takes to make stuff. And so then came m
fuse and you know, making a TV show. And I think that I would have never before Quarantine sat and thought about what I enjoyed, right Like, I like it forced us to sit our asses down, which as a creative or an entrepreneur, or even someone who found themselves being taken out of the office and getting into and having to work remotely, you having that time in your home to just think about what makes you happy, even
your space. I mean I redecorated, you know, my living room, my my my, my bar area, like because you literally just sit with yourself and the things that make you happy, the things that bother you, and how you can improve as a person. I would say, and I think just discovering things like other ways to make money. N I watched so many Amazon courses um with some dude that got on my nerves. His name is Joshua Crisp. I
don't care if he hears this every in life. He is so annoying, but paid for his course and he was like, yeah, I was excited to learn about Amazon, and I was like, I could never do this. E commerce is really difficult. A lot of people make mad money. You're doing it when I tell you, girl, I uh and all of the horror have I want to thank all of y'all for for the support with Official box Owner.
I'm actually coming out with my own product line, so I will have bork ascids depositories, apple side of vinegar, gummies, uh, feminine pH ye. I am working on my own CBD lube like and I'm just like dealing with the manufacturers, the labels, talking to people in China. The manufacturers for those products are here in America. So you know what made me not to do e commerce? You're going to laugh.
Shout out to your our patrons. I love you. Patreon merch people will write me and curse me out about how I never sent them merch I look up their name. I'm like, it was delivered. It probably just like you know what I mean, Like people really like And I saw a comment once where they were like, fuck you, they're too busy, they don't do this. I mean, Mandy when I tell you, I res real girl. Ups lost twenty of my boxes. Oh I took. I was so upset.
People would act like it was my fault. And I'm like, I spent hours and hours and hours and shoutouts to a Vinnie who's helping us, But now I feel bad, niggd. You know what I'm saying, because he's reading the messages too, and just mail is something that's out of your control. So yeah, um. From a Horrible Decisions perspective, I would say I am really grateful for finally having merch and simple thing to be grateful for. We do virtual town
halls on Patreon every month. I'm not saying that it's obviously making up for a live show, because it's not even close to a live show. We just do an episode. But like when people get on there with their horrible Decisions T shirts or know us so well like and make their jokes with us, and they just know us all too well, the fact that we could sit on there and talk about things we wouldn't even mention on
the main episode, whether it be fears, finances, grieving. I talked about me going through a lot of pain with a sickness with family, Like, I just love that community so much. And I'm sorry if you know there's ever been a moment where you guys feel like we leave something out because they pay for it. But I just believe when people really want to contribute to your brand, they do. And five dollars maybe a lot to some
or a little to to to others. But I just love how much tighter that places and it's been very a safe haven for horrible decisions for me. I'm good for Patrion. What about you? I like that, UM horrible decisions related Oh Jesus, I still want to kill your kill you and punch you in your face everything every fucking week. Um. Like I said, I think I'm just grateful because this platform actually helped me with what I
consider my purpose. Um as far as, like I said, getting into the feminine health conversation, uh something that's they're funny, how it's too different purpose. We're completely different right now with with where our journeys are taking us just from this, but that I love. And it's, like I said, getting into e commerce that's something I actually hated cost accounting
when I went to school for that. And so to be in a space where I'm creating my own products and dealing with my own shopify and I have a team, and it's it's insane. Um. But also, like I said, just that closeness to learning and continuing the conversation regarding feminine hygiene as as it pertains and affects your sexual health something even most recent I think that not only through the conversations I'm having on periods this, but shout out Olivia Dope, one of my co hosts on my
other podcast, she just went through fibroid removal surgery. Um. And then my other really really close friend. I'm not gonna put her name out there because it's something that she's battling with. We've been communicating regarding her mammograms and she has potentially uh something in her breast that could be cancer early thirties and so, but she also has
a family history of breast cancer. And so having two people that are fairly close to me right now experiencing things within feminine, you know, health is just it's just eye opening to the fact that we do have to continue all that yet, even if it's at Charlotte Magagne. Yes, that is a the biggest part of horrible decisions this year. I do want to see it. Shout out to my heart. But Charlottagne has been trying to put us on to
something for a long for a very long time. That is Charlemagne's and I think one thing that just really elevates him in this game. He really I believe this. I know a lot of people don't like Charlotta Magne, but I really believe in my heart of hearts that
he does want to put people on. And I was really drunk, but he actually got a drunk text for me on Thanksgiving and I text him and I was like, Charlemagne, I just really hope you're having a great thanks Giving and I just want to say you were one of the things that I'm very thankful for this year. I was drunk, but he definitely got a drunk He definitely got a drunk text. Yeah, he definitely uh text backs and the thanks and thanks very much. I'm grateful for him.
I'm grateful for him not trying to funk us over with cash even though he knew, like, you know, this is a big media company. Tell me what you want, tell me what you're fear for for and other than that, our first time being on TV It's horrible decisions was because of Charlottagne. So second time, what was her first time? We got HBO and then we got on Vice. But HBO is technically like premium television which people gotta pay for. Not everyone has HBO, but Vice is pretty much on
all cable networks. But yeah, like he got us on there that I think I constantly, whether I even realize it or not, when I go on Twitter, I'm like, what's black owned this? Let me just tell you how much black owns should ask for real estate agent, moving company, tennis instructor, personal trainers, black trainers in Mexico, black cannabis companies, anything. And I want to make sure that I'm pushing that agenda because I talked about so much black ship that
I feel like I have to support it. Like I feel like we can't do our jobs and tell people to buy our black as merge or do anything if we're not putting the same into the world. Black Friday, Nigga. I was so lit. I got on Twitter and I was like, I'm gonna just shop all black. Send me all your stuff. People sent me Mandy, there was probably like a hundred and forty lengths I brought black plants. Shout out to Thornton Raised. I thought that was a
cool name. Candles. Black girls sell candles, Mandy. I don't know if you know a candles. All the candles here, they all do candles. I I did buy from two black owned companies, actually black owned candle companies. Uh damn it. One is weight I believe. I met her on clubhouse and the other came from uh my other homegirl, Crystal, and you would love it. It's called the Board which she and she puts crystals and she has Prosperity candles and things like that. She's actually Latina, but supported her
as well with her business. And yeah, they were super dope candles. So shout out to them. Well, y'all sell glitter body buttered candles. Workout outfits. My god, that is a black business. Which I have eight sets. At one point many I was like, let me just keep looking like I'm like give away this ship. Not that that anything is wrong with them. I just have too much. But shout out to you guys, and I encourage all of you when you're looking for anyone. I think it's
great for us to do that. UM Women on two but black own first. So okay, yeah, yeah, let's go. So we're gonna get into our Vanila sheets for this week.
One Latina Legal last. So guys, this is what is actually funny and and what also I thought about when I read this UM Vanilla ship this week is we did a Patreon episode on just I think Wild things there or it may actually have been a regular episode where it talked about kind of how things worked for sex over centuries and back to b C. Well anyways, A judge up over in Canada allowed annulment because the
husband could not keep an erection. A Canadian judge a note a marriage because the husband was unable to maintain erection long enough to have sex. The recent Supreme Court of British Columbia decision details how a wife sought out the annulment because her husband was unable to consummate their marriage despite their attempts to have sex every month for almost a year after their wedding, dating back to August
In British Columbia. A marriage is voidable where a claimant has established their spouse lacks the capacity to consummate the marriage. This is a sex This City episode? Is it really? Charlotte? Here we go, Tray if you guys remember I know, I guess that's another thing I do on this show. Charlotte and Trey, who was her first husband, the rich doctor, they could never fucking have sex because he could not get it up. So Carrie said, you need to put
like a liquor like take stamps, put him around his dick. Wait, stamps like postage. I think she says stamps. I don't know why I remember stamps and basically something that will like tightly steal around his penis and if it breaks at night, you know, he can get it up and it's all a mental thing and it's not like physical. It was something like that because remember that, because they were trying to talk about how not getting it up
is it physical? Like what the funk is it? Let me ask you, how long would you go if you're dating a guy that you really really did like you would give him three months to get his dick card before you leave him I'm already into him before I break up with him. You're you're into him, You're you're you're dating now, you're maybe exclusive, you really like him. Maybe if you start, you start having sex. Okay, you're not exclusive because you're not exclusive to anyone. But but however,
I'm exclusive to I heart radio. However, how long do you give a partner? Have I already sucked him? Yeah, but it also didn't go well because he couldn't stay hard. How how long do you give him someone else? If
I can suck someone else as long as it takes. Really, Yeah, So I wonder because if I'm that into you, I could think right now, if I'm that into you, and I know the butterfly feeling, you can't stop thinking about them, like you're smiling when you see each other, Like I could maybe a year and a half, two years, really, if I could get dick somewhere else. This couple went not behold on because then I don't only want to
fuck you, if that's what I'm saying to see. So it's crazy, But the husband decided to tell the court that he blamed his former wife for her impotence and impotence Oh sorry, I mean Okay, what it's currently And he claims that he is currently having sex with someone else, and I was like, oh wait, wait, wait, wait wait, I'm sorry, said again, he blamed his ex wife for her impotence, and he sucked because she filed for she was able to get, and apparently now he's getting hard
with someone else. I think, I don't know. I feel like I would feel some way, but I also would think he lying because Nik, we tried for it. You I tried all my life and you didn't motherfucking get hard. Maybe it's her, you think, so I'm gonna tell you, well, I don't blame the woman. We are not going to do that. I'm only gonna tell you this one thing. By her, I mean the person. I may have said
this on the show. I've had public floor therapy. Remember that I was in a relationship where I was emotionally and physically abused. It was a very difficult relationship for me, and I loved this person very much. I was very young and I could not have sex with him without pain. The very next person I had sex with, the doorman yep from Club twenty three. When I tell you nothing, I mean Mandy. I remember having sex with him, you might have been with me. I remember you telling me, though,
like how much like how good? I told everybody. I couldn't believe it. Yeah, like you told him had a big dick too. He was a good he was good in bed. There was nothing wrong with his sex. It was so connected to to mental So maybe, yeah, maybe there was something mental. I don't know, but I just can't believe. Still wouldn't believe that work. I had to go to the doctor who was giving me public floor therapy, and I said, I know he's paying for it, but I need to say this. I don't think what you're
doing even need to be done. No more pussy ain't broke broken bussy. And she said that this is very common. She told me, like I, you don't need public floor therapy, you need therapy therapy. I believe it. Ian. Yeah, so y'all we are actually now going to get just because I thought it was only right. I know, we got rid of this segment uh this year, I believe because we ran out of fucking king or so we thought, or so we thought. So I'm gonna get into our kink of the week. And before I get into the
kink of the week. It comes from answering actually a question that was sent into us. So, guys, I am gonna get a little bit into a homemail right now, early on into the show so that we can get to our kink of the week. But the the subject matter is tampon turn on First off, love y'all, thank you for helping me find new ship for my sex life. Been with my man for ten years and we started when we were seventeen, so having to grow mentally and
sexually together has been quite the journey. But hearing real women breaks it down is an amazing thing. For instance, my toy and my pleasure with it should not make you feel some type of way. It's helps so much that he's recently surprised me with a new one. Anyway, I have a friend who was telling with me how her boyfriend loved watching her take her tampons out. He would want to go into the bathroom with her and it turned him the funk on. He would get upset
when she wouldn't let him watch. I'm not sure if you guys have talked about this yet or heard anything like it. I was like, oh, this is some horrible decision ship that Weezy I'm just gonna change up the words. Would love it's that research, but I think you really quickly. No, don't say it. Let me look at it, show me. Just flip to her email because I need to know what color she is Spanish Latina for sure. Well, bitch, this is your people. What the fucking spaghetti? And they
blow because I don't like it. I don't liking it's I don't like blood. I don't like blood. I just will funk on my period nasty anyways, guys, because I'm a feminist and I'm not gonna let anything stop us here. Okay, you're telling me that pussy, believe it, and let me tell you scissors. I love you to death. Girl. I know I'm moved on with a new person. But what I'm saying is when you give a funk about somebody, I didn't see the blood at all. I didn't even
see it just became invisible. I didn't put it in my mouth. And anyways, like this kink actually, y'all is referred to it says menophilia. Mentophilia is a sexual paraphilia in which an individual, always mostly male, surrise sexual arousal from menstruating females such individuals are also aroused by the smell, image, taste, and or feel of the blood expelled during I think that you a menophilia, because I think that you do get a little aroused by knowing a bit leading that
out there. Shout out to my bitch, Christen our net. That's my dog. We had her on here lesbian shake and she fucking she said she likes the rainbow kisses said she just likes the massacre of this disgusting that is some white people, that is some white people should see. I got some white friends, Mandy, don't anyway, I really don't. Really, I have no white friends. Hold on, let me think
really really hard. Right now, you've got a white friend, think of someone, maybe you've worked with the Jason Well, I don't. I don't think work friends with Sory. That he doesn't count. He Rory is white. Worry knows he's white. He knows he's white, But is he really he'd be actually claiming Irish, So I don't even claiming that's definitely may ask. Okay, yeah, so no, so if he is not white, she's Latina. I don't know. I don't, but I don't have white friends. Damn, my mama, shout out
to Tammy anyway, she's on some orry time. I meant, I learned how to cook call of greens called the black kind. What's your mom? Do you know? What do you mean? What is she white? All of them crackers mixed with ship? No, you don't they like this part of your Europe, this part of no. Because that is why at the end, when the world ends, I will still be here because I didn't send them in my DNA to track me and do all this other ship. Um,
I know that's why you're not gonna live. I'm gonna have to do this by myself once the world come back to life. Anyway, my dumbask was like, why am I African and Asian? But then Israel? See by by anyways, guys, I dude, I I did have a hord dirt for this week before we get into our horrible decision, which you guys clearly know what it is going to be by the title of this show. But anyway, let's get into our hord derve. For those of you who are listening for the very first time, our hord derve is
where we give a sex tip. And while I think I have shared multiple different tips. There was actually a full article, which you can find in the description of this episode. The hord Dirt for this week is how to finger someone with acrylic nails. Y'all know, I love my motherfucking acrylics and I don't know if it's from Ohtown female. Why she said because she lives in the Bronx. I'm just saying, and the Bronx be hooking me up with their Ryan Stones. Uh what wh I don't do that.
I don't sound like from fucking Europe. Okay, you know your ma, but you're making in Irish sometimes to get up, you know, like when you're trying to do what I said just from that's so weird. I don't know. That's awful, alright, guys. So again, you guys can find this article in the description of this episode. It does come from Vice dot Com.
There's multiple um tips in there. However, I wanted to share one of the best ones that I found because I actually has to do with the position that your partner isn't so the best position for beginners is to have your partner on their back with their hips lifted with a sturdy pillow. This gives you the room to explore their body with a relaxed hand and allows the perfect angle for you to use the paths of your fingers to stroke. This is a great starting point for
the newly be clawed um. Once you have confidence in your abilities, though, you can pull off any position as long as you're mindful of your hands. What's crazy is that's definitely a thing for me. I would suggest, actually, these nails have caused me issues because I decided to put rhinestones on my points are my index and my ring finger and fingering somebody with your pinky is just
not as much fun, nor are your thumbs. So if you're gonna put rhinestones on your acrylic nails, I would suggest to at least leave your pointer with no rhinestones so that they don't From this conversation, because I have one really good tip for acrylic nails. Here you go, what don't finger me with them? No, I am going to find a finger cover like a finger condom or something that's basic cover or some speed. Yours are rounded more than I do, So there almond shaped fingered me
with acrylic nails. You guys definitely should ask your nailed technician to give you almond shaped acrylic nails. If you want to finger your partner someone, it wasn't venus. See you I even getting fingered with cylic nails. No, no, no, she didn't put her fingers inside of me. She just rubbed you a little click with the acrylic nails. Did you feel the acrylics? No, but what you think it wasn't It might add a little different texture, you know
what I mean, like people have ribbed scissors. Once had acrylic nails and she almost put them in me, and I said something. She started laughing because I was like, and I think we have a video of it. Oh my god, I remember we were with the videos. To me, your natural nails right now are just about as long as my acrylic Nailsman, Okay, maybe not. They just look long. You are long as nails in post. No put my nail next year nail No man either, No they yes,
look how long your nail beds are. Look, they're the same people every time. I'm just saying, every time I go into a nail place, they always said they have my nail bad. They loved why because they have Oh you have long one sex? No, yeah, I don't have long nail bed. This is a lot of room for them to play, and just to let you know, why did I do that accent? Because that's how they sounded my nail place. I ain't say who it was. I say, no affity. We know they like to do we know then,
No they're not being me. It's called you me Now I'm doing with you any way. Anyway, guys, my Chinese by you meet child, I hate you so much. Anyways, Guys, we are going to get into our horrible decision, and our horrible decision has to do with dating and why the funk We should never ever ever listen to Steve Harvey because he indeed has been the number one demise
of the dating community. So I wanted to go through a lot of you as well as myself, for whatever reason, all decided to read his book Act like a Woman, Think like a man back when we were very in our early primary days of getting into this dating life. This is well before dating accident. Well his daughter took after it. She did not, which is why she is all these different men. She's thinking like a man, but
she's not acting like a lady. How facts, I just really feel like you think Lorie Harvey took Steve Harvey's uh things, But I'm sorry, I ain't no way future waited no ninety days. I'll tell you that. Oh I forgot about Yeah, So let's let's let's let's go down there and we are going to pretty much dispel all of the myths. I would say that Steve Harvey put out into the universe regarding dating. So we're gonna start
with um one thing that he says. So, Steve Harvey believes that a man must achieve a minimum in the three areas to feel like he is fulfilling his man duties. Before he figures out how to achieve his minimum goals in those areas, he will be too busy for a relationship. I want to give you those three uh those three things. He says that a man has to know who he is, his title, what he does, how he gets the title, and the reward he gets, which is how much he makes.
So pretty much, Steve Harvey believes that if a man does not have these three answers, he will not have enough time or be too busy to focus on you.
I actually disagree with this. The only reason I disagree, Okay, dummy, I dated a man with a lot of time on their hands who told me that he knew he couldn't fully commit to me or didn't feel as deserving in the moment because he didn't feel like his ship was all the way together okay, And he was like, I feel like us being together for real is going to require me to do more, to hold you down more, and I can't do that to you if I'm not
there myself. He also told me that he felt like a hypocrites, like I know the man things a man should be doing to a woman for a woman, and I don't. I'm not there yet right now, an like he was too busy for me I had the time. I feel like that was a very working class comment that he made, which I dun't I also want to agree with. I was about to say, that's what I'm saying. I disagree with a lot because you could be working, Mandy.
You just said it last week that you worked seventy something hours, and I mean, yes, true was nine five. But it wasn't like you didn't make enough or weren't an equal enough partner at that moment in time. I don't know if I believe that. I think there's another misconception, very much so with um shout out to be Simone. I mean, I know, you know, we know her. But when she said that a boss ship or nine to five or whatever, I don't believe necessary. I think entrepreneurial
ventures don't necessarily equate to time. You could be way more busy as a quote unquote boss. Yeah, you can have a way less time for somebody. You know what I'm saying, It still still find time to date. Well. One of the reasons why I wanted to dispel this because I truly believe that a man will make time for what and who he wants to make time for.
I know a lot of CEOs that have marriages, I know a lot of athletes, clearly I'll know that, but they still find time to not only have relationships, but a whole bunch of side chicks at the same time. So what I'm saying is pretty much though, I don't believe that a man once he has the money or or doesn't have the money, that he he won't have the time or be too busy for you. So I just wanted to say that I agree, you agree, Okay. So I mean, there's the one thing that the busiest
man I ever dated, I will never forget it. He was very busy. He was an exact um. We didn't even fuck. We were just kind of meeting and get you get to know each other. He was an exact at a huge network, big big TV network and he was in New York on a on a layover to go to London. He extended his layover another two hours. UH. Uber me to meet him in Queens where JFK is
at a dinner. He was like, I found the nicest place that I could to take you out, Like, yeah, he do make time for what you want to make time for. I disagree with this. One of the other things I wanted to get into, uh and this actually relates to a recent episode we had. Steve Harvey believes that there are only three things that every man needs. They need love, they need loyal support, and they need sex.
And we've got too. However, I do want to get into what he says regarding that h He said that love means to make him feel like he's special, like he's a king. Loyal support means that you will stand by his side no matter what happens. And sex, well, Steve says men can only go a month without it, and if you start rationing out sex, he'll be looking
for it elsewhere. I want to go against this because I do believe that as women, we can actually give those three things to a man and he will still not feel for filled in a relationship and may still seek out any of these three things for from someone else. Did you agree and disagree? Um? My psychic told me Jesus Christ, here we go. What the fuck? She was right?
She told me that I don't have the ability to make men feel emotionally safe, and for that they will always feel I can't remember the words she used, but she said something in regards to like like, they'll never know I'm theirs and they'll never be comfortable. She says, you have a very hard time with that. You're too open, You're too free, even in a monogamous aspect, You're too Look at this person, she's cute this even if you won't sux someone else, She's like, that is just who
you are. And when you can't make someone feel emotionally safe, they may never all the way fully either commit or just emotionally safe. Is that the same as uh security emotionally in a relationship? Or don't that's the word used. But but I remember her saying that to me in terms of past lovers, and I was like, wow, I could see that she's like men when there with women like you, She's like, whether they tell you that or not,
you have to date the most confident motherfucker. They always may have a little feeling in them like would she will she? I know you've got other options ship like that? Um and and and specifically, um what he said, That's why I kind of agreed to making someone feel like a king. I do believe that gender roles slightly take
place in this. I believe when you have some antiquated ideals when it comes to men and women, that men generally feel like, oh, like she is mine, or you know she is good to me, or this is what a girl is supposed to do for me. Um. Specifically, hospital Dick would always tell me his favorite thing about me was that I was so nurturing. I'm always asking what he wants to eat, this, this, that before you go to work, and we're making this let me do that, And it's something in me. I think I do that
with friends too. I think I think the reason why that's a big thing that man why I said I disagree with this and we've talked about it a lot, is because she well, not only that, it's because of that third one sex like, you could fuck your man every night, and it doesn't mean that that's necessarily gonna keep him from getting it elsewhere. It doesn't. So even outside of rationing sex, you could also give them all
the sex they want. You could take a man to a sex club and it still doesn't mean that he won't still want outside sex. I mean, and that's the thing that why I wanted to disagree with this, because I don't but what did he say? This is for a commitment? No, this yeah, this is for keeping your your partner happy or or having a relationship and the things you should do in order to keep I still
think these are I also wanted to say, uh. Steve Harvey also decided to create the blanket excuse that men of all time have been using as to why they cheat. Steve Harvey said that men cheat because men can have sex without emotions, which means he can love you and still cheap for the simple act of sex. And I wanted to dispel this because I hate the fact that they still continue to act as though women cannot have
emotionless sex. Old Bay is this person. I hate what he swears to god man because he read fucking Steve Harvey's book Bitch. Now, he ain't that toxic, but uh. Basically he was like, look like, whatever makes you happy, makes you happy. Cool, but there is no way that you could funck like I fuck. He's like, I could suck a bitch and that they need anything else nothing. He's like, you cannot do this. He's like, no matter how much you try to act like you can't, you
are not that person. But I'm that he swell, I am that nigga. Like we still like, I've had a ton of emotionless sex because I liked how I felt in the moment of sex, but it didn't make me like the person any much more. I remember some of the some of the best sex that I had with was with some of the most toxic fucking niggas that I did not ever see myself being with, and it didn't make me like them anymore because we had great sex. So that this idea, maybe women you just don't maybe
your mental doesn't need to be stimulate stimulated. No, but but, but but I think that even as a woman, if you do if you're not seeking mental stimulation and you're just seeking a funk. As women, you have me thinking that you can bro because the the problem is if you're seeking emotional or some sort of mental or some
sort of affection from a person. Yes, I understand that, but there are women out here and a lot the more we open these conversations about sex, there's a ton of women that just want to fill an orgasm, or just want to feel sex, or doesn't want another boy. Only reason I agree on that part is well for myself. I don't know if anybody else out there you can agree to Old Bays argument. I'm like, I can do this because if I have an emotional connection with you,
I could do it, right. I kind of like when I'm single, I can't really. I don't fuck to fuck easy because I think that component is something I associate with nan. However, if I already have it, like, that's what I'm saying, I'm Mary partner now I can suck anybody. That's what I'm saying. If I don't have a can, I'd be like, then that's where that's where, And I think that's where a lot of women who are single sexing. I will say that's where I feel like they find
single sexes out there, single sexes out there. The difficulty where you find is because you are still finding. You're still searching for that emotional connection to a partner more so than you are just the sex. So I want to say that before we get out of why Steve Harvey could suck a dick? Is the ninety day rule Women should abstain from sex for the first ninety days
after meeting a man. Uh, And he pretty much ties um this ninety day rule to pretty much how a woman will be valued and looked at to a man as far as their worth and and kind of uh looking into the future as to if this is a person that has his episodes. No, but I'm just saying he's ruined the way we think about it. Do we
have a podcast? However? How many times did we all went to dating thinking that we couldn't funk a man on the first night, or the first week, or by the second date because he would think that we are just so awful and hose that weren't wiping material. I'll be honest, my boardner. Now some men think that, and I'm gonna and I'm gonna blame Steve Harvey for that. But what I'm saying is I'm now with not only
someone who's mature, I think we're more mature. And how we go about with talking about real quick, keep it real and two doesn't matter. Oh, tell the truth. What's your birthday monthly rock? Hey, we didn't know, right. Next time, we'll ask for it on your W nine form. Okay, seriously, tell the truth. It's okay. When a girl sucks you on the first night, do you think she's a home even if you're still date or do you think there's this little piece of you? I love it? They kens
depends on the person. Listen, we get to no, no, no, no no. What I'm saying no, no, no no. Why do you want him to change his answer? Bitch? He told you how he feels. I don't believe he doesn't judge. So I will tell you well, and that's it. Only don't believe because Benson is very sex forward. He does this show. He's very point my point, which is why he went and judge. But but even my partner, So I'll be honest with you. So, So I did have sex with my current boyfriend the very first time we met.
Um and honestly, surprisingly it cost him really nothing because it was fucking lockdown. So we went hiking and then we got fucking autos Compollo from uptown and he came over and it was just you don't need a dick though that doesn't count, you know, but it's not because why why I'm saying this is because not only are we we in such a great relationship now, in such
a good space. He continued to see me for the first twenty days after we fucked so and the thing is too, when he was coming over, we weren't sucking. Every time we were playing, you know, we were eating. We we went back to the park. And so this idea that I wasn't worthy of his time or of being a girlfriend because I sucked him on the first date, it is not what I experienced. I know. I'm not saying so I don't believe in this. Also, I'll be honest to the first the last boyfriend, if we go
back to high school. Not only did I fun him on the first night that we actually spent time together, I met him through his brother that I was fucking and he still wiped me. That was wild. That was super wild. It was a step brother. It was through marriage. I also want to just say I don't believe that it matters because it's chemistry. I just do not believe that men don't have it in their head. Well, and
that's fine. I think we have a lot of time. Actually, Benson, when he walked in here, he said, I did think that before horrible decisions. I think that men that are open, much like Benson, or that he's the only guy we could talk to, obviously don't care. But I mean, me and my partner went to a sex club. This is why I just don't think that men are as a forward. This is why women women No. I think Steve Harvey
made that dog ask. It's dumb as fun. But that's why I feel like, that's why I love this this podcast so much, because we're opening the doors to the facts that there are different types of men, Black men, specifically that when they're open, when they're free, and when they could sit and have mature conversations about sex, they're not going to judge you or look at you as a whole because you enjoy having sex, or maybe you're so attracted to them that you want to suck them
the first night. And I I love that kind of that's what this pot has done. I mean again, I sunk my man the first night and we're fucking great seven months later, and it has been used or thrown in my face either at me either. So that's the thing. I think, you just have to go into having the conversations and you really need to know the person I guess you're laying down with before you lay down with them.
I agree. Um, I think when I think back the people, the last two people I fucked, No man, Obey was like third, you are we going by the last dicks? You've been sucking quite a few bitches at it and they're sprinkled in there. I first night's sister that you want is the first night? But want to make a nigg away trash because you just don't think like that trash. That is trash. You're not even respecting the other woman by sucking her on the first night. What type of
respectful feminists are you? Should we? I kind of want to make our home mail. Well it's a whole confession. Okay, before we end this episode, I want to talk make a casting call for horrible decisions about guess we want this year? Oh? I like that Okay, so this is guys. You guys per usual will be getting the very last episode of this year will be a recap of Wheezy and Eyes, and you'll have to call it lazy bitch. People like recaps and whenever people. We also have a
lot of new crack is listening to us. Maybe I love calling them that. It's get your in word in there. You guys listen to music and I'm know where it was like, don't believe me, just watch n Ni nigked, so you know it's crazy. Four years later, I will say at the top of my my list is still a man who openly enjoys to get pegged. I think we've talked about. We've had other women come on and talk about we had the mistake they do it. That was a top ten. No, that was a funny episode.
It was it was I don't want a white girl, specifically a fat white girl dating a black guy. Us. I'm no shade to a big white I just want you to tell us why niggas love you. Why you think I really want a fat white girl and a black guy that you're currently dating. I'm sorry, I just want it. I also want a sugar daddy sugar baby duo need we need a real sugar daddy. Goddamn, we've tried two times now a lit sugar baby. And this is no disrespect by the way to anybody that's a
sugar baby that UM has another job. No disrespect. When I say lit, I apologize. When I say a lit sugar baby, I mean a lot of years in the game and you are solely living off of sugar a ship. I want you on this show. I want UM anybody that has created anything, any kind of application for hooking up, any kind of sexual application, and anybody that works on a website. I think this would be super dope. I want to talk about like the Laws and Ship. We had teased it a little bit with sex Nor. I
think you brought her on. That was a great idea. I want to talk a little bit more about that. UM one of my favorite people we've had on UM. I damn, I wish Mandy was there. Ali triple X shout out to our homegirl Ali from Madam to Mommy, I would love another Madam when specifically is maybe worked in a brothel, UM, I want to talk about someone that's worked in a brothel as well. I think I
would be someone that is a messus that gives hand chops. Uh. There's a girl who wrote us called the handicap Ho. I don't know if you saw her email. I think we're gonna have her on a Patreon episode. Um, if there's anyone else with disabilities that we can have, I would definitely love love that, um especially uh what what does it Douce bigelowle male jigglo that movie. Even with him dating all these different women that were paying for
his time, a lot of them had disabilities. Remember the one she had to tie her hair because she kept falling asleep. I would not collect. I would just like to know. I would just like to know again how people with with those certain um disabilities get through dating, finding the confidence to meet people new, introducing their disability to people, and what that's like. Uh. So I would like that a doctor who does vagina stuff okay, uh laby a plastic vaginal rejuvenation. I want you to come
on and talk about that the O shot specifically. I'm not eve gonna say what it is because it's fucking wild. It is you trying to give me to do that? I said, you said no, I am not having a shot that you were doing a ton of ship for research purposes? Is it just for the horrible decisions that you do those things? No? No, no, no no. I we need this on horrible decisions. I myself, I'm not getting an O shot, but why not? You want to get a shot into my clip? I come enough? Why not?
I'm good? So anyway that I'm trying to think of more. I know we're on the way out of here, but like you, guys also have lit ass ideas. We still have not had a lesbian couple of Christen brought a girlfriend, but that didn't count. I want um, I really want Sydney and Snoop on here. I want them to talk about their sex. I would love for them to talk about who top to bottoms um. I know they've talked about using a strap and making strap jokes. I think
that'd be really fun. Plus they're black. I'm trying to think of some other ship that we need on here. I want a grandma who fucks anybody who's old, who doesn't only hands we need. I feel like I would like someone really old on here to talk about what and not what senior sex is like talking about Amanda one moment when she said, old, I am not discussing. I do not want anyone that like, like y'all know
exactly who she is too. Also, I actually have to throw him in the recap for the year because we had a whole lot of feedback from that motherfucker bitch. He said that because I was like I'm doing. I was done the whole time. I was just like anyone else, this is the longest hour, and a good Asian, man, I want a good Asian. You had a cash on here and he Asian. Come on, man, But that was a while. That's a little bit. I want to talk
about Asian fetishizing. Actually, if you're an Asian escort, right, well, no, if we get Asians on here, I want to know they're, uh, why they like coming to cartoons so much? Because and and and that's more Japanese or anyone's saying. I just want you guys to know that I was not that. I was just saying, that's all you like to come about this sionally. Now we're anime characters. But no, you probably live in l A. You know what I'm saying. That's what Asians being. We got a whole China town here.
My niggas got a little Asians dog Davey fucking data little Asians. That's the pussy I'm throwing right there. Jesus Christ. Well, guys know you just gave a whole list my nigga. We're good. I want to give our hole confession for this week again. If y'all have hope confessions or homemail to send us, make sure you reach out to us on Horrible Decisions at gmail dot com. Um. This one comes from a listener of ours who wanted to give gratitude.
Her title is the Abortion Episode. I do want to shout out to uh the ladies who joined us for that episode. That was maybe last year that we had the abortion episode. But it says, hey, girls, I recently got into the show, so I've been going through a ton of episodes and was drawn to the abortion one. Ship those were white women too, we have had quit.
I just remembered like the professionals were white. Uh. I want to thank you so much for having such an open and honest conversation about a topic that is so often avoided. I recently had an abortion, which is why I listened to the episode. I don't have any close friends that have had one, girl, they just at tell you, uh we all had one. Uh So, I haven't been able to really talk about it the way I want to.
I had an especially tough time because I experienced significant pain after and at You're a trip to the hospital in the second middle of the night. I had to get a second d n C by the first one apparently wasn't fully successful. Oh darn that sucks. The pain surrounding this experience was awful, But what was more awful was having no one in my circle I could relate to. So again, thank you both a lot for this episode. And of course I won't say your name, but thank
you so much. And again that's again one of the blessings and things that I like so much about this show is yes, with some wild as crazy as taking hose. Now, we aren't the we aren't the you know wild nobody on this point. I'm just saying, oh, this is Bigga own it. I let him know what it is. He it's like he owns it. And then a second I've done, I'm like, I can't believe. But anyways, we are giving hope to all hose out there that there is hope.
Uh So, I do want to say, while I'm glad and grateful for our vulnerability and and ways of opening up about the things that we've experienced throughout our sexual journeys, also adding in those educational, um and much needed episodes and conversations like the abortion one. I actually recently said on I G Live, like, uh so, I've been having stomach issues all you guys know, and I think I talked about shooting my brains. I don't like the first episode.
So anyway, all my stomach issues. Someone who's like, well, maybe you're pregnant, and I was like, I'd get abortion right first thing I said. And then I was like, I wonder if I had an abortion, if I would come on the show and talk about it, I wouldn't. I think I would. Um, it's weird though, because right now it would take me time. Yeah, I was about to say it would take me time. I wouldn't just be like, guys, just so you know, the abortion cl this weekend, Like, I don't think that's how I would.
I'm gonna tell you why I thought about it. There's so much I've talked about having an abortion. Right I'm older, everybody probably thinks I shouldn't because I'm already now. I would probably I would love the person I would have an abortion with or whatever. But if I had one, would I really come on the show. I think I would, And I'll tell you why. I think that every abortion story that we hear about or talk about, it's a young thing. It is, and I think mine would be
one percent of life choice thing. And I also think that I get vulnerable enough I would want to talk about my experience, particularly because I was so out of it and maybe just too emotional, Like this would be a very level headed, understanding thing if I did it. If right, I never thought about I'm not gonna lie. The abortion conversation does come up a dumb mistake, but that would be a good way to bring it. I think I would really come on. I'm not pregnant yet.
Two weeks ago, she just ain't decide what she wanted to talk about it on the show, but I yeah, I think I would come in here. I will try not to make jokes about it because it is a very serious thing, and I would talk about my experience down to my wait time and everything. I would just be totally open. I'd be open about the type that I had about my recovery time. If I'm still wearing the pad um, just everything I think Because of the pad I wouldn't have remembered that. That seems like a
very vivid um. I remember that part. Did you do a pill? No, they went in with the vacuum, so like I remember leaking because I started my period right after, So that's why I remember. But and some people that while you remember, have a great day. Okay, I'm just like, No, I think it would be an abortion in Mexico many No, that's why you keep coming back here. Wow, you have to come and get it back here. Okay, guys that I don't know. Actually we don't talk that much about her.
No fucking abortion in a country round speaking language. You want to keep it? Oh we got a little bit out, No already, guys. I do want you guys once again, we are going to leave you off with another five minute bonus clip from our patreon. If you're all caught up, that's patreon dot com back slash horrible decisions. You do want to think if you're getting clips, it's because we're doing late editing and we don't always add it to YouTube. Stop saying that. We say We're gonna give you a clip.
We not. You're the minority. Most people listen on the audio. You are the reason how that we change our clothes. However, I will say, just listen to the audio. If we're ever missing any clip, and if you want to clip that bad good patreon dot com slash horrible decision to listen to the red thank you. I don't know what she was referring to about that, because people will be yelling about us not having Patreon clips at the end of the YouTube. Oh That's what I'm talking about it know, well,
any who Vincent feeling like baby meaning the tool anyway? Uh, but no, I did want to before we get out of here. I do just want to send prayers, wishes and positivity to anyone where COVID has affected you this awful, awful year. I do want you guys to go into one with more hope. There is a vaccine out here. I don't know what that means if we're really about to you know, remember, I don't know what white people to listen to this show. Look up the Tuskegee Experiment.
I'm sorry, I'm not an anti vaxer. Shout out to Jamila from good mom's bad choices you have, but it is scary, but I do. Just again want to send positive vibes to anyone in which lost someone uh due to COVID and this awful, awful, awful virus um and also shout out to everyone who has caught the virus and healed successfully. I know not everyone is as lucky.
I want to thank all of you guys for tuning into us during this year, through the ups and downs, through COVID, through the Black Lives Matter process, through going virtual and sticking back with us. We appreciate y'all and again continue listening to us. Shout out we are on I Hard, shout out to the Black Effect podcast, and again thank you all for tuning in to yet another
episode of Horrible Decisions. Thank you guys. Hey guys, I've been listening to Horrible Decisions for a bit now, and I thought you might have some advice or could relate to the current problem that I have. First off, long story short, I recently in the last two years came out as by It's been crazy trying to be true to myself because in my background, my mom was highly against the idea of a woman being with anyone else
but a but a man. But when I came out as BY, I started experimenting with three simes, guys, girls all that, and then one day I started realizing I keep thinking about a threesome with two men who were either by or gay or whatever. I just wanted to try it, and I did, and I loved it. So now I'm into that a lot, and I never knew it before. Fast forward to last year, my X and I got back together. We've been on and off for
seven years. I had no intention of going back after he was so upset about me coming out to him is by during the last time we broke up. But nevertheless, here we are. I do love him. Our sex has been amazing. I just wish he was more open to the idea of a threesome. Maybe I'm not even asking for him to try a threesome with another man. I know that's a far as stress stretch, but damn, can I watch you another girl? Can we fuck this girl together?
I have needs. I can't deny my sexuality, and it's sad as hell, but I take it slow because I know I just should have been open from a jump, and I've always known I was into both. I was afraid because I was so shameful. My question is, do you think there are any ways I can introduce the idea successfully to have a threesome. I definitely don't want to just bring it up bluntly like I have in the past, because he'll probably think he's gonna have to
compete with a woman. Um. Sorry, it's lengthy with the story needed context until I figured out I'll be watching porn of all the things I wish I could try. So now see why you brought shout on Patreon. I'm so sick of he's goddamn how do I get a threesome? Of my partner questions? No, this one's a little bit different because it's just she's just announcing that she's bisexual. So I think it's a reverse right. It's normally men
trying to bring women in on a threesome. And I had a situation with hospital dick and with the Jesus dude I dated where they really felt like and believed that other women were just as bad as other men. In my head, fucked up. I have a sex podcast. I was like, but it's just a bit I'm not trying to suck another nigga, and I will say this if there is any ladies listening to the podcast. I know we don't often talk about men saying no to threesomes, but I do believe, and both men that told me
no have big dicks. I don't think it's a confidence issue. I truly believe it has to do with where someone feels like they stand with you. Hear me out. I don't think that men feel safe in threesomes unless they know who the funk they are to you, Like, I think there's a reason that people that go to swing
as resorts have been together forever and they're old as fuck. Like, I don't think that, especially you, being on and off seven years with someone introducing someone else into the bedroom makes sense when they don't even know what the funk they have going on with you. And maybe you could say he knows you well or whatever, but like, on and off for seven years, on and off a lot, and it sounds like you're more off and on for a nigga did not know you've been by the whole time.
And if you mean then that, to me, is you coming from a completely emo place. Because niggas are okay with threesomes before they know where you stand with them, like clearly. But I'm saying that I'm talking about in case where men don't your boyfriend a man I've had a threesome with, These aren't the men were talking about. We're talking about the men that aren't comfortable and where where it comes from maybe right, So I mean that's
where I'm putting my input in. And I know we can all talk about men we funk that I've had a threesome with. But I'm curious to know what y'all think as far as a man who is not not a man who is, but a man who's not. I mean, I just think it could come for um a lot more deeper rooted things, uh, such as religion, such as their views on sexuality. Um, because I mean I did have someone early on that I was talking to and
well this wasn't recent at all. You know who I'm talking about, but he actually did not like the fact that I liked other women and didn't feel like he would ever really care for me to be with another woman and came to me like, if I feel like you have to bring in another woman to the bedroom or that you want to play with women, it's because you don't feel fully satisfied with me, And so I think that outside of religion, outside of what the relationship is,
a man could have some insecurities if you want to bring someone in the room at all, like and I think that that's really where a lot of that stems from. It's more so him a man feeling inadequate to please you fully and that's why you're seeking someone else. Yeah, there's article I read because when you try to like search advice about this, it's all about women asking my boyfriend wants to have a threesome, what do I do.
There's this article on bold dot com. It's Bold with the Athian and it says my boyfriend and I try to have a threesome and it destroyed us. And there's something really interesting about this. She says. At first, I was freaked out. It was moving so fast. Maybe I should have told him I was nervous, but I just wanted to be spontaneous. And see, I feel like if someone is telling you know before it's even happening, like this is a blessing in disguise. Threesomes can end so
badly if you all don't know where you stand. And I think that Honestly, it's better left undone than trying to funk someone else with someone that doesn't want to do it. Like, you know, we hear about men kind of coercing women into threesomes so much, and I think that as women, we've got to really respect fucking boundaries. And if you've got to fund someone else that bad and you're that you're kinks are that important, then girl in the game, you